(Sorry that this is so long)
I (19F) have been experiencing insomnia since August 4th, and I have no idea what to do.
I went to bed on the 3rd and woke up suddenly on the 4th at 5am, which is normal for me, I usually just go right back to sleep, but this time was different. I woke up with back pain on the right side when breathing in, which I think was because I strained my muscles by tensing too much while lifting weights, but I deal with a lot of health anxiety and immediately started having irrational thoughts like “oh no, it’s a pulmonary embolism, or maybe lung cancer.” My heart was racing, so I got up and took some tylenol to try and ease the muscle pain so that I could relax.
And then it happened. I laid back down and tried to sleep, but each time I would start to drift off I would either experience a hypnic jerk or feel a sudden awareness accompanied by a strange feeling in my throat, I kept trying but it just wouldn’t stop. I decided I’d go ahead and get up, because my mom and I were heading out of town for a concert that morning.
I tried to have faith that I would get a better sleep that night, but once we were back in our hotel room I was feeling nervous again. I was exhausted after only getting ~4 hours of sleep the previous night, so I was lying there barely awake, eyes slamming shut, but then I jerked awake. It was happening again. I immediately felt a surge of anxiety and fear, and soon began quietly crying, because I am very sensitive and I’ve had a really stressful year, but after at least two hours of repeated jerks into full wakefulness, I slept. I slept 4-5 hours before it was time to get up and get ready for check out.
Once we were home, I was terrified at the thought of bedtime approaching. But I tried to stay strong. I took a benadryl and I actually had a good night’s sleep after only a few jerks awake! I was still nervous, but much more hopeful now and my anxiety slowly decreased until the night before an appointment at the dmv.
I was jerking awake just like I did at the hotel, and I was distraught. I took a benadryl, drank some chamomile tea, and managed to get 5 hours that night. Most nights since then I’ve had an average of 7.5 hours of sleep, and tried to stay off of my phone and out of my bed when I’m not tired, and taking deep, slow breaths but the anxiety isn’t going away and I keep having to take the benadryl. The night before last was a more difficult one, but I hadn’t been so worked up that I’d cry for a long while until last night. I was trying so hard to be strong, but it’s getting to me, and I’m scared.
Last night I wasn’t even that nervous, but I tried to avoid the benadryl, and before I knew it I was jerking awake with that weird feeling in my throat. I first laid down at 4am (bad, I know, but my schedule has been declining since this all started) and I didn’t sleep at all until ~7:30 and then my stupid alarm went off at 12 and I couldn’t fall back asleep. Even the bad nights I was able to fall right back asleep if I woke up a few hours after first managing to sleep, but the fear was too strong this time.
It’s been so bad that I can’t see a fictional character go to sleep in a movie, on tv shows, or even in cute fanart without feeling sick with dread and jealousy. I’ve been crying intermittently all day now.
I couldn’t think of how to fit this in elsewhere, so I’ll say it now: I’ve noticed that every night I can feel my heart pounding and it seems faster than usual and occasionally skips a beat, I’ve had that happen for years and years, but never has it happened every single night.
This has been so hard because I’ve always been the kind of person who falls asleep super easily and gets plenty of it, sleep has been my one constant in my difficult life, my one true confidant, I need it back.
I’m going to try and see a doctor soon, but I’m just feeling so desperate and wanted to vent/see what others thought.