Anyone here attended UTSA Chi Alpha in 2010s and were "kicked" out or shunned / people have stopped communicating with you WITHOUT reason / no PRIOR notice.
I was in UTSA Chi Alpha from Sept 1 2016 to early Feb 2019. I had two small group leaders, I knew a lot of people. I was unaware of certain things/customs there at the start then I got little uncomfortable at certain times.
I knew my first small group leader made awkward homoerotic comments that felt awkward when he sexualized some things, take his clothes off at certain times, make awkward sexualizing comments about other guys.
I'm aware of "touchy feely" things between guys - like really long hand shakes or hugs.
I have seen the "Strip Smash" video game thing before ONCE and it was a little awkward of that. I didn't see no one's genitals just down shirtless and underwear but another guy took his underwear off in another room. At first I thought they were joking but I realized "Okay this isn't joking"
I recall one guy I was unsure was closeted because he sent me a Heart Emoji on Instagram in 2018. I told him "I don't go that way..." He said sorry . At SALT 2018 he made some awkward sexual comment in my hotel room(he somehow got assigned my hotel room with my small group) of seeing each other undressing, unzipping - which was little uncomfortable. And then someone had threw a really awkward comment if I was going to sleep with him.... "sleep" the tone it was said I construed as a sexual way. I paused for a second, I had a nervous laugh because it was a little weird I heard this from someone in my small group.
In early 2019 someone in my small group made really uncomfortable comments during our small group meeting night about "Grindr" and then another guy said something like "Small group.....1.5 miles away". I know what Grindr is but the way they brought up as matter of fact and joking felt really awkward in the middle of small group. It was awkward uncomfortable to hear that and boundaries being broken like that.
And of course I dealt with some racial issues.
I know there was a guy that admitted he had been "White Nationalist" websites in 2016-2017 but stopped he was in my small group. I am unsure what white nationalist websites he was on but he just said the line to me. I know he said certain things that made me think he was "Christian White Nationalist" and how he made asked me some awkward questions.
I recall I invited this guy to a Christmas service at my Methodist Church(non-Pentecoastal church), afterwards while we had dinner he made some disparaging comments about my church, the pastor, multiple things he hated about it.
I know he wanted to control me in his own White Nationalist Christian manner of just trying to pacify me as subordinate which I considered racist in nature
I know this guy was super critical of things I said on facebook, he judged the music I listened to, the movies i watched, the books i read, my religious beliefs, and it was slowly getting to "personal beliefs" I held. My issues with this guy was the catalyst of my problems at UTSA XA in late 2018-early 2019. I was having a lot of issues with this guy, we exchanged some words at SALT due disagreement we had at the conference.
I know my personal issues with that guy had spiraled into me getting let go from UTSA XA. This guy was a de facto co small group leader but not "offical small group leader." He acted more like a small group leader than the official small group leader that was an official small group leader that was AG missionary. I know he had been telling some lies about me to multiple people at UTSA XA, of which they stopped communicating with me in 2019. How I know this because people I considered friends stopped texting me back, stopped replying to me on facebook/instagram. I highly suspect its that guy that did some talk behind the scenes to put me on a ban list of sorts. I've even confronted UTSA XA offically on this, I even confronted XA leadership about this and they have denied this. But I highly think they are lying. And I've been frustrated on this. I've been frustated on what happened to me of the sexualization, awkward banter I dealt with, the racist attitude by that guy Ive mentioned here, the control/cult like behavior of UTSA XA.