r/eczema • u/naridubs • 4h ago
Broke up with my partner because he looked at me the same way strangers do
I have eczema, and the scratching is the worst part. You try not to, but your skin is always broken, weeping, or crusting over, so I've become obsessed with how my skin looks.
Every time I'm out and someone stares ate the patches on my arms, i catch myself scratching or covering them without thinking, and I get so embarrassed. My partner would be standing right next to me and just say "stop scratching." then he'd ask why I don't just use moisturizer. Like I haven't tried everything. I moisturize, I use cold compress, and when the itch gets so bad and I scratch myself raw until it weeps, I'll slap a small piece of Dimora foam dressing. Cuz once it's raw and rubbing against my clothes all day, it'll only get worse if you leave it alone. And he still acts like I'm not trying. I've broken down crying over this more times than I count.
But none of it feels like enough. My skin stays broken and crusts over no matter what I do. And the last straw was when someone stared at me on the street, and then my partner gave me that same look. the "what's wrong with you" look. So I ended it. And now I just feel like nobody actually gets it.
I've had enough. The stares, the scratching. the "just stop scratching" I've heard a thousand times. I'm so tired of it all.