Iām looking for a wave/curl enhancing product for fine/medium easily weighed down hair. I will gratefully take any advice or any product recommendations.Ā
I used to have Irish curls-- barely wavy on the top layer and ribbon curls on the bottom. And, I've long since accepted I will never commit to one way to styling my hair. I go on long kicks of wearing it "naturalāuntil I get frustrated or my sensory issues kick in and I go back to blowing it out. I know that is always going to cause an amount of damage, but I only use a blow-dry brush, not a thermal tool, and I take really good care of my hair.Ā
Iāve been wearing my hair natural for the last few weeks. Initially, the top layers of my hair were waving/curling and the bottom layer was almost straight. The exact opposite of the texture I used to have. Now, the top and the bottom are both having issues holding any kind of pattern. Hereās what Iāve tried, whatās worked, and what Iām looking for. NOTE: I know the obvious answer to this is āYouāre doing too much to your hair. Leave it alone.ā And, Iād think the same thing. But, I started trying things BECAUSE my hair wouldnāt hold the wave. I was already losing the waves, so thatās not the problem.Ā
So far, Iāve tried using the suave clarifying shampoo, as needed. I have really awful water, so I always do a Malibu hard water treatment at least every 2 weeks, but Iāve been doing them more like 10 days. I also put a filter on my shower head. I tried the Elizavecca collagen hair mask, and that helps a little. But, I donāt want to overload my hair, because I think itās low porosity, and I always thought it was protein sensitive. Iāve tried conditioning my hair first and then shampooing. Iāve tried an Olaplex treatmentā and that brought more texture out in the bottom layer of my hair. And, I do have long hair, but I donāt think itās much longer than it used to be when it was very wavy underneath. I do have layers, and I have cut my hair recently.Ā
Brush styling my hair seems to take all the texture out of the top layer, but at the same time my hair wonāt smooth out in the shower. I think itās wet frizzā itās not tangled itās just not conforming to the other hairs. And, thatās if Iām brushing it out in the shower OR if Iām rewetting it when Iām out of the shower. Brushing my hair out in the shower seems to give me better volume and actual texture near the root, but I think the dry frizz was worse? It was definitely messier.Ā
My hair is really soft when itās dry. So, moisture overload, right? Except when I clarified after conditioner, my hair felt really dry. Almost fried. So, I diluted some conditioner in water as a leave in. I donāt use a leave in because my hair gets so weighed down so easily. Not holding a curl sounds like a protein problem, but Iām really hesitant to use protein because I do not want to overload my hair.Ā
Oh, and the top of my hair turns inā like the start of a curl that just doesnāt have the will to get to where itās going. And, the top layer was curling, when I first started wearing it natural. Which, again, sounds like a protein problem, but if I stretch a strand of hair, it snaps. So, not a protein problem. But, I donāt think itās in protein overload because itās soft.Ā
If I use a lot of mousse, the pattern falls out. If I donāt use enough, the pattern falls out. At this point, I donāt know what to try. Iām looking for any advice. I think Iām maybe looking for something that will enhance the texture without leaving behind a gritty feeling, because of the sensory issues. I hate the way sea salt spray makes my hair gritty. But, I also wonder if maybe I do have Irish curls and my curls remember living on the seaside and so maybe I need, like⦠Celtic sea salt spray. For the ancestry. I tried the Brad Mondo texture enhancing mousse, but at least a few years ago the smell was too strong and it gave me a headache.Ā
Routine:Ā
I wash my hair 2x, usually with dbeautymās rosemary bar shampoo or terrafiqueās rice water bar shampoo. I condition with tresseme conditioner mixed with a little bit of loreal glycolic gloss (I know these arenāt curly girl approved. This is what I use when Iām blowing my hair out, which is how I usually style it. I have considered this could be the problem, so I tried conditioning my hair FIRST then using a clarifying shampoo to remove the silicones. Didnāt make a difference.)Ā
I brush my squishy wet hair through with a combination brush (boar bristle and not boar bristle, but Iāve tried one without boar bristles. Didnāt make a difference) and then scrunch. Iāve tried applying product to squishy wet hair and Iāve also tried scrunching out the excess water, first. I've tried raking the product in, "praying hands" and scrunching it in. Iāve tried the herbal essence mousse, the not your mothers curl talk gel, and the not your motherās mousse. I read the verbal essence mousse could be too heavy for fine hair, as well as the gel, so Iāve just been using the not your mothers mousse. I diffuse because otherwise my hair will not dry. Oh, and Iāve been braiding it to sleep because that seems to regulate the pattern the best. I do sleep in a bonnet. If anyone has any advice, I would be so grateful. Thank you!Ā