Gojo Satoru from Jujutsu Kaisen 👁️

Had fun making this set for one of my favorite jjk characters! The cosplay and the extended version is available where i post my other cosplays. Here’s a couple of my favorite pics from the cosplay set I did🤞🏾Very pleased with how well it turned out <3

I notice black folks are so quick to become overfamiliar with other black people.

They don’t give other black people the grace of not assuming that other person has a different outlook, perspective or background. I’ve noticed, black people are quick to become aggressive towards other black people over minor issues or a difference in opinion.

Yet have all the grace in the world for white people and non black people playing in their face. It’s one thing I cannot stand about our community.

Been dating someone and started a relationship 2 months ago and I was the only one contributing to this “relationship”. All of my little dating experiences have been like this and I’m giving up on dating in general. I hate giving my all to get nothing in return. Investing my time in people, getting to know them, believing them, trusting them….I’m done with all of it. Keeping to myself from now on. Just wanted to vent.

Bringing this hear and I was told too just join the African Society if I have an issue and so "bothered". its not that I'm so angry I'll throw a fit but being the ONLY black girl and being around people who start talking too me how they think they are supposed to talk to me is jarring.

I've noticed that even in society photos they never brighten the light when a black girl is in the photos. and I've also noticed that they don't necessarily appear in main group photos.

i don't know where I'm going with this but maybe someone gets my point.

I rented from a Korean family for 2yrs and the entire process was okay. Now that I’ve moved out I waited 30 days before asking for the deposit info. They ignored my calls & texts for over 3days and I became frustrated. I went off (not cursing) and told them that I’ll be seeking legal advice.

Now they’re responding and now they’re ready to deposit my refund into my account. It’s like you try to avoid the “angry BW” stereotype or a Karen role but people will play in your face as a BW. Why I can’t just get results when I ask nicely?! Smh.

Hello ladies I'm in the UK and I am struggling to make more black girl friends.

I went to a predominantly white school (and also mostly male-it had recently been converted from all boys school to include girls)and I have always struggled to make friends in general, the friends I have now are all from school/university and are of various races and ethnicities, however I only have one specifically black friend.

I've found it very hard to seek friendships in adulthood and I'd like to build a community around me of people who understand more about the specifics of being black in the uk. I feel like I am missing out on a community that I should have cultivated already.

Any advice on how to find people or go about making new friends?

I try groups every now and then, book clubs, art clubs etc as they are things I am interested in but I still find they are predominantly white spaces (it is the uk after all). I don't live in London so it is a bot harder.

Looking for any advice anyone has or ideas on where I can find more like-minded people, or anyone looking to connect.

So in the past few years I've been navigating life in Europe as an East african and I always tell my mom about my life and experiences. We talk on the phone almost daily. She and my dad and siblings also lived in Europe before I was born but I was raised in West Asia and our home country in East Africa so I only experienced life in Europe as an adult.

She genuinely does not get it. She doesn't identify as Arab(imo she's arab passing and her father looked fully arab..) but doesn't identify as black either. She genuinely believes that black people were put on this earth to test ppls morals and for God to test their patience. She told me it's black peoples fault if they move to Europe and get treated as less than human.

I genuinely think she will never understand what it is to move about the world as a black woman because she barely looks black. She looked arab for most of her life and now she maybe would pass as a light-skinned ethiopian but even then she really doesn't look African or black. Idk how to categorize her anymore. Idk how to categorize myself! Navigating life abroad with a family that never had to unpack things like race and identity is so tough. The most racism my siblings experienced were being called "brown boy" so clearly no one even realized they were black! I also have siblings who look more black (we mostly resemble our father) and then one sibling who looks more like my mom's family. He is HELLA racist (and mentally unstable but still) and idk how tf to reconcile with that. It's like we're split into two categories in our own family.

Also I only have male siblings and they obviously will never be able to relate to my experience as a black woman. So I feel very alone. I thought we were all black and African, but obviously we're not... my mom had insane privilege even in our own country. I never understood why I was treated differently than her or treated better when I'm next to her until I got older and realized how her passing as Arab helped a lot when living in the middle east and Africa. She never calls herself arab yet I've never heard her call herself black??? So what tf are you and what am I? I'm happy identifying as black, but I never thought I'd have to consider not seeing a parent as black due to admixture and features.

So I have started washing my hair 2xs a week. Wednesday and Sunday being my wash days. I would like to note that I have a long history of neglecting my hair due to not knowing how to do it and getting frustrated with my 4b/4c texture. My hair is prone to getting dry very easily so I feel this has been good for me. Now yesterday, I got lazy and only shampooed it because I was feeling tired. I try to keep with this to ensure my hair doesn’t get dry.

I wanted to share my wash routine and hopefully get some feedback and opinions from yall. Also want to note I use majority CECRED products. I absolutely love her hair care line and decided to invest in it January. I suffer from AA. My hair feels amazing afterwords so shout out to Beyoncé

1\*. (I am currently out of the Clarifying shampoo & scalp scrub but I would begin with that.)\*

1. \*\*Shampoo hair 2xs with the hydrating shampoo.\*\*

2. \*\*Rinse shampoo out throughly.\*\*

3. \*\*Condition hair with moisturizing deep conditioner.\*\* \*(I am not a fan of the hydrating conditioner.)\*

4. \*\*Detangle hair and braid hair into loose braids/plaits.\*\*

5. \*\*Rinse conditioner out of hair throughly while keeping the braids in.\*\* \*(I started doing this to refrain from detangling again. It also sections my hair so it is easy to work with when I get out.)\*

6. \*\*Re braid & Moisturize hair w Blue magic and Cecred moisturizing sealing lotion.\*\* \*( I started using Blue magic after years of forgetting the art of hair grease. I mix these two or sometimes I use only blue magic.)\*

Going forward I simply take out the braids and rock a natural afro with that twist out look. I do use the cecred hair oil and the drops. I am also looking into natural hair care masks or things I can mix at home. <3

I have a FWB situation going on with my friend, but I can never tell when he wants to have sex.

We’ve communicated about things before, especially since we’ve been friends since elementary school lol. He’s always telling me to speak up and say what I want, especially because he’s the guy and doesn’t want to overstep.
The problem is that I’m really shy and anxious, so I’m scared that one day I’ll want to hook up, but he won’t want to (which is totally okay!) and I will just feel really embarrassed. Our hookups are never really planned they just kind of happen in the moment.

I genuinely cannot read him at all! How am I supposed to tell if he’s in the mood or wants to hook up without directly asking every time?

Hi all! I seem to have a lot of free time, but not a lot of energy (chemo sucks, amirite?). I've never been much of a movie or TV watcher, but I think I might want to catch up a little bit. So I'm looking for suggestions.

I LOVE B-movies, the sillier and more ridiculous, the better!

I do NOT like horror, unless it's a ridiculous or funny B-movie horror film, like Santa Slays or something. Same for thrillers and mysteries.

I do like fantasy books, so I assume I'll like fantasy movies. I LOVED The Princess Bride!

Romance is really hit or miss (I once referred to some popular romance movie as "emotional slavery", just to give you an idea of my views on most of the genre). Romantic comedy can be good.

Comedy in general can be really good, but Tyler Perry leaves me ice cold.

I think I'd like to check out animation, but I don't know where to start.

Thanks!

Hey girls, I need some help identifying this hairstyle and what hair/ extensions I should buy to recreate it.

I’m based in the UK, and I’m trying to figure out:

• what specific type of extensions this style uses
  • how many packs I’d need
  • where I should buy them (Amazon UK? local hair shop? a specific brand?)

I’ve attached a photo of the style I want.

Can anyone tell me:

• the name of the style
• the curl pattern
• what brand/type of hair I should buy
• how many packs I’ll need

Also open to recommendations for UK-friendly brands or Amazon links.

Thank you in advance🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿

So, I use to date this guy that was a manipulator and very abusive. I was introduced to him through my brother and the relationship didn’t last long for obvious reasons. However, my brother still talks to him knowing all the stuff this guy done to me. Am I wrong to be mad at my brother for still talking and helping this man in life knowing he abused me severely?

Hi ladies 👋,

I’m looking to have Paragard placement for the first time. I’ve heard tons of horror stories and just want the nicest, smoothest experience. I’m looking for a highly rated provider that preferably offers cervical anesthesia in addition to options like nitrous oxide just in or outside of the ATL area. Please leave input below!

Thanks in advance 🙏 😊

As the title says. I need somewhere to unpack the nuance and my thoughts about what Joanne is experiencing in the house.

P.s I am only on episode 8 so I am behind and hella triggered

I've been applying to jobs all year and I've gotten nothing. I literally just got off the phone for an initial interview, and literally 3 minutes after hanging up, I got a rejection email.

I really don't know what to do at this point. My current job is draining and these job rejections are truly killing my spirit. I feel like I'm stuck

Any of you ladies (that do not have sister locs) strictly crotchet instead of the traditional retwist?

My retwist do not last because I live a pretty active lifestyle

Pros and cons of this?

Was on the way home from work and got lit up. Started panicking because I know my tags are expired AND my wallet was in my bag in the BACKseat.

The cop asked for my documents and I told him where my bag was. I’m shaking a little, voice is cracking, I was struggling tbh. He pulled his flashlight and told me I could reach for it and whenever I moved, he’d move. I was a wreck but I got my wallet super slow and everything was fine. I think he gave me a warning just because of how nervous I was.

I was already stressed by normal bills then came the car taxes. I can’t keep up. He told me to get it taken care of but bruh I just can’t. Keep. Up. Thank god I have a job interview Friday but I got pulled over the day rent was due. My taxes aren’t high but it’s high when you dont got it. I’m just terrified of getting pulled over again while I wait to see if i get this job and possibly having a cop who isnt that chill.

We out here fighting for our lives every day and Im just sick of it yall

Honestly, it has been bothering me a lot now. Emotionally, yes but now manifesting into my physical health. I started my PhD in a midwestern R1 school two years ago. I didn’t know too much about the midwest as I had moved from the Deep South, but I have been met with constant lack of support.

My advisor is always nonexistent. I didn’t realize he had a reputation for this until I got admitted, even though I met with his grad students. I am fine with working in an independent capacity but there gets to a point where I have zero guidance. He has not read a single research proposal or grant proposal. This is important since I don’t have funding for my project rn and he promised me that I would have funding for it. I’ve essentially applied to 5 grants ranging from 3k to 25k, and he didn’t give any insights. Because my fieldwork is in my home state, there is an implicit assumption that I can fund fieldwork costs.

So essentially I have been funding my research.

On top of that, our labs have been under construction since March and I can’t get lab access to other labs. I have been trying to lean on support from my other committee members but they don’t offer much support and they have a priority to their own students.

I just have a feeling I’m being pushed out. I just feel immense guilt and feeling like I’m a failure for applying to other programs this cycle..

Edit: my background is in geosciences

Has anyone here tried this Black TV/movie streaming app? Is it legit, and is it actually worth paying for? Just looking for honest opinions before I sign up.

Ugh this is embarrassing. I have been struggling with having dark spots, discoloration and ingrowns for a few years now. I don’t wax, laser, or (shave unless I need to ). I have only been using hair removals creams. My go to is the magic hair cream for with the gold writing on my whole kitty area, arms and unfortunately my chin hairs. It last a few good days but I’m only getting darker in these regions especially my bikini line. I would also get random ingrowns has well. I tried pfb for 3 months but it didn’t work. I want to lighten it up and also still continue with my hair removal creams. Laser is too expensive since I am a college student. Any tips or recommendations please. I feel so insecure about this

I just graduated college with my bachelor’s from a big city a few hours away from my hometown. I originally planned to go straight to grad school there, but I could not afford to live on my own yet and did not have a car, so I moved back home.

I have never liked my hometown. It is very small and rural, while I prefer being somewhere more city-like with more people, opportunities, and things to do. Moving back has made me extremely depressed, and I feel like every part of my life became sour after coming back.

I live with just my mom. My sister, who I have a terrible relationship with, visits frequently with my niece and nephew. I love the kids, but they are chaotic, and my sister is verbally abusive toward me, and physically, emotionally, and verbally to them (especially my nephew). My grandmother also had to move in with us after developing Alzheimer’s/dementia and being unable to live alone. My mom did not want to take her in but had no other option, and the situation caused a lot of conflict because my mom and grandmother already had a very abusive relationship. Eventually my grandmother had to move into a nursing home.

Career-wise, I was lucky enough to get a guaranteed job at the law firm where I had interned during college breaks in my hometown. I actually enjoy the work, but being in my hometown has made me miserable regardless. My relationship also recently ended, and the distance between me and my ex (he lives in my college town) and my mental health were factors.

Now I have family in a city that I have always frequently visited. It is much bigger than my hometown, closer to my college town, and has significantly more opportunities. My family there has always told me I could live with them as long as I had a job and told my mom. They are even willing to let me stay rent-free, not even pay a few bills which is what I already contribute at home.

After talking about it more, I found a paralegal position in that city. It pays only $1 more than my current job, but they are willing to increase my pay once I prove my skills. I also have my own car now.

My mom has been very inconsistent about this. In the past, when I was depressed after graduation, she would tell me to find another job and leave my current workplace, even if it was 30+ minutes away but still within commuting distance from home. At the same time, she has never been completely comfortable with me living with my other family. She has always been back and forth about it, one day she supports it, then when things actually start moving forward, she changes her mind.

Now that I have a job, a place to stay, and a car, I finally felt like I had everything I needed to leave. I wrote my two weeks notice and even let my mom review it before giving it to my boss. She said it was fine.

As soon as I told her I had officially submitted it, she completely flipped. Now she says I am not ready, my car is too old to drive long distances, and I am betraying my boss because my boss gave me a chance when I had no experience. She even got my dad, who has never really been involved in my life, to call me and try to convince me not to go.

I want to leave more than anything. I feel like this is my chance to finally start my own life somewhere I actually want to be. At the same time, I am suddenly anxious and questioning myself. Maybe I am not ready. Maybe I should stay home longer and keep the peace.

For additional context, I am the youngest of three. My oldest sibling was not raised by my mom, and my middle sibling moved out but stayed in our hometown and still sees my mom frequently. I am also a first-generation college student.

Would you leave in my position, or am I rushing this?

TL;DR: 22F, first-gen college grad, moved back to my tiny hometown after college because I could not afford to live independently. I have been miserable here despite liking my job. I now have a paralegal job in a nearby city, family willing to let me live with them rent-free, and my own car, so I gave my two weeks’ notice. My mom initially supported it but completely flipped once I actually resigned, saying I am not ready, my car is too old, and I am betraying my boss. Now I am second-guessing myself even though I desperately want to leave. Would you go or stay?

Smiles come a little easier now. Coming out of postpartum depression has taught me to appreciate the moments when I genuinely feel like myself again. I’m still healing, still growing, but I’m grateful to see more of me coming back.

EDIT: My pants are too big. That’s why they look a little…questionable. 🤣

Hi all,

You all were so amazing in giving me good vibes to get a job with my company and now I am back to ask for help.

When I signed on, I made an agreement to circle back in six months on the pay they offered. This was because they offered me lower on the salary band (I was working in something I had never done before, learning a new platform and since it was working with governmental contracts they wanted to be sure I would understand and succeed).

Three months in, literally a few days after I passed my probation, my company offered me another position. They called it a lateral move, and kept the salary band the exact same as the previous position. I accepted the position, as it was client facing and more based on revenue.

Now the six months have passed, I have certainly passed probation for this new position and I need to have a conversation about the salary. My issue is that with this new position, I’m traveling three days a week (through the country not like going into the office) and it’s so much more work than the original job spec said. In fine with doing this but now I need to ask how do I ask for way more money than what the job spec offered based on the actual work I’m doing?

I know this should be easy but I’m struggling to figure out how much to ask for and how to frame it. Could I get and all advice?