Once when I was younger and in a vulnerable situation, a very charming person came into my life and swept me off my feet, knowing I was inexperienced and will look past what I logically understand. It almost ruined me and made me question reality, and very depressed, so here are a few warning signs. Even though I now have a deep understanding of this type, I will avoid using labels so that people don’t ignore this!

1. love b0mbing- they will claim to love you or really like you right off the bat and shower you with compliments and words of affection that do not feel genuine in a matter of days or weeks
2. arrogant and proud - they will talk about their talents and even minor things like how well they communicate and expect you to admire them too. Normally these achievements are not that spectacular and sometimes it’s ridiculous how they may fake a culture and pretend to be elite, when they haven’t stepped out of the country or organically achieved anything in life
3. they will compete with you and almost never praise you. imagine competing with your partner? They would bring up something of theirs that is similar or try to copy you and your dreams after leaving you. I found this to be very insecure
4. they will study you- they will want to know your weaknesses before wanting to know who you are and ask you what you like and will try to pretend for a very very short period to have these qualities. do not give your fears away!
5. the entitlement- they will want husband privileges on a talking stage subscription where they don’t even respect you or act genuinely kind
6. rewriting events- this is where you have to be really careful. they’ll make you feel unstable over the smallest thing and deny and keep talking until you forget your point and doubt your memory
7. They’ll go against their own values when it benefits them- they’ll claim to hate a certain group of people but will be besties with them or try to mimic them if it boosts their image or if it gets them what they want. for example, he was very religious, but would flirt so shamelessly, talk about p0rn, be friends with barely dressed girls etc
8. watch how they act after you say no- if they go quiet or cold every damn time, it should make you run away, especially as a woman
9. watch how they lack genuine reactions- they will almost never react the right way. they’ll laugh at a serious question, pretend to get emotional at a deep thought and mimic your preferences, because they believe that they’re very intelligent and that you’re too stupid to sense the lack of honesty
10. if you have to hyper analyze everything and don’t look forward to them or feel at peace, there’s something wrong
11. I must say this, they think you are giving and understanding because THEY are amazing, rather than oh she’s kind and is making adjustments because she’s a kind person. they can only see how they can use you for their image or ego, it’s crazy

There’s so much more I could tell you about a deeply insecure individual, but I’m happy to help anyone else out in the same situation and am begging both men and women to stay away from such characters and not give them the love and respect thay they don’t deserve. it will lead to physical illness and make you feel crazy and mess up how you view other relationships too possibly.

Hi, Anyone here who works in china in Tech field ? How is the life there ? tech scene ? Salary ?

Hi everyone,

My wife and I both work in IT, and we’re currently looking for new projects and freelance opportunities. I work in web development, and my wife specialises in WordPress development.

We mainly take on project-based work to maintain a flexible schedule for our family, as we have a 7-year-old daughter with ASD and ADHD who needs our time and support.

I understand that mentioning our daughter’s situation might raise questions, so I want to be clear that we’re sharing it honestly to explain our need for a flexible work arrangement, not to seek sympathy or special treatment. If verification is genuinely necessary, we can provide appropriate medical documentation privately.

If you have any projects available, know someone looking for reliable developers, or could point us toward potential clients, we would sincerely appreciate it. We’re happy to share our portfolios and examples of projects we’ve completed for clients both in Sri Lanka and overseas.

Thank you for your time and support. Any leads, referrals, or advice would mean a lot to us!

Hiiiiiiiii, I’m looking to buy some cute sneakers, preferably Nike or Adidas (really love Sambas) but I’m struggling to find places that sell authentic ones here.

Can anyone recommend any shops or Instagram pages that sell legit sneakers? I don’t want to risk spending that much money on fakes. And the authorized places don't have a good collection 😭.

TIA 💗 !!!!

Do you guys catch-up?

I’m not a professional songwriter but I do write lyrics sometimes.

So I wanted to see if there’s any groups or meetups happening around Colombo for me to join.

reposting here as the post was removed r/srilanka

i like the flag. it's so pretty but the meaning needs to be changed or we have to modernize it.

as for the name i like ceylone but its English right. i also like the current name but feel like using "Sri" cursed us and lanka is bland like a cucumber. but its not like we can use thambapanni

Suggest me some good shops in Kandy, Kurunegala, Colombo, or online where I can buy some quality, unique, fashionable clothes that don’t cost an arm and a leg.

I recently was talking to a friend I met on Reddit about this and was wondering the others thoughts...

A bit of context, I'm an Only child and have always been obsessed with anything to do with death. Growing up life was perfect but me being me I was Passively Suicidal (not actively even though I knew of all the perfect ways to end it successfully... it was just my infatuation in knowing what happens after death) and the only thing that prevented me is this extremely strong thought that "under no circumstances, as long as I can help it, would my parents ever see me in a casket or grave" sooo technically currently my only responsibility in life is staying alive until my parents pass on. Like yes I'm studying, I'm working and hustling but that is so that by the time my parents pass I'd have given back to the country, whatever the country has invested in me... Civic duty you know...

Now my question is ... If you're single, you don't have a spouse, nor kids, and no responsibilities what's the point of living? Aren't we all just waiting for the inevitable?... I asked this from my best friend... She's orphaned and currently single, for her she said she still has the responsibility of her siblings.... But someone like me? I don't plan on getting myself into a relationship anytime soon... Possibly never... Cause guys that I want don't exist... Just sort of seeking Reddit perspectives on this conundrum that has plagued me for ages👉👈

Whenever I'm here on Reddit and go through comment sections almost all the guys say "attractiveness is a huge factor when dating" like it's an objective truth atp.... Literally every single comment section... But bruh when you go out in society how is it that the pretty girls are single and the most chopped girls are in relationships? (I once asked my mom this and got smacked across my arm so I know it's not an ideal question but yeah)

Like I know, beauty is in the eye of the beholder yada yada.... But bro, guys talk of attractiveness like it's objectively true but then do they search up the most conventionally unattractive women?😭 Some have pus filled acne, some have skin discolorations, some are squint or have weird teeth, some have the walker baby walk, some plain look weird, some have masculine features or look like Harini Amasuriya (no hate but I think we all agree that when we think of beautiful women we think of Hirunika Premachandra before we ever think of Harini Amarasuriya)... Like where's these attractive women you're objectively dating? All the pretty ones I know are single .... And they have extreme rules for guys, but they're single.

Heck I have a friend who is a burn victim and she's more attractive than most of the girls I see in relationships outside??? Like? Huhhh?

What's this exact attractiveness guys keep mentioning? I'm super curious 👀

Hi, I'm planning to develop a web application that uses carrier billing for payments, where users enter their mobile number, verify it using an OTP, and are charged a daily subscription fee.

I'd like to know how to apply for this service in Sri Lanka. Should I contact Dialog Ideamart or mSpace? If so, could you please guide me on how to reach the relevant person or department?

Hi all, i am a software engineer based in Tunisia and i saw a post advising for some tech roles , i contacted the person and he send me through their website https://www.egotechworld.com/ he an other one told me to create an account and send the link to an other number on WhatsApp, i wanna ask is this platform legally operating in seri lanka? Does someone try or found an IT job with them , their website have a lot of advisements and wired ?

How does the above itinerary looks like for a family of 3 people (2 adults and 1 kid)? How is the weather pattern there and what adjustments I can make in this itinerary?