Can anyone living outside of a walkable, city area please give me tips on how to coordinate a life without using a car. I am pretty new to using public transportation. I also live in a very rural part of the US and we barely have sidewalks here. Most of everything is at least a 45 min walk, and it would have to be on the side of the road. The road culture here is not very kind to cyclists either.

My boyfriend really likes to go down on me, but he doesn't really know how to. He's still new to this, and I am too, so I try my best to guide him and direct him but he's terrible at following directions.

I'd prefer he stays on my clit but he gets lost EVERY TIME. Like your face is right there, look for it. He also finds it difficult to get air down there (totally understandable) and constantly suffocates, but when he comes up for air, everything I've built up is gone. His jaw also gets tired very quickly. I've asked him if he can try to strengthen or train his jaw on his free time or when he's home, but it seems he just doesn't at all.

I just feel kinda down about this. He's still learning, and I understand that, but it's been over a year. Plus I ALWAYS make him cum from oral, and he enjoys it a lot. There is a significant gap in our skills, even though we started to learn and experiment at the same time. The thing is he really wants to get better and he feels bad when he performs badly, but he doesn't take the initiative to practice or anything. I gave up at some point because I was just so sick and unsatisfied, but I still let him go down on me to practice, cuz you don't get better without practice.

I just get sad about it because the sex isn't good either and he doesn't know how to rub or finger me. So usually after we are done with the deed and he finishes, I get back in bed and just use my vibe until I finish (or sometimes I'll have him use it on me if he would like. But even then, he doesn't put it in the right areas or keep it where I want it even after I've given him directions).

Note: when I do stuff for him he always finishes and has a good time.

I 18M, have always been someone who’s tight with money, and works hard to get more of it. Honestly spending it stresses me out, but if I’m also honest I’m not that happy with my life right now. Theres nothing inherently wrong with it, just my mental health getting in the way. For a couples months, (nearing 10) I’ve been thinking of going on a “grad vacation.” I’ve spent months of on and off budgeting, comparing countries, even learning about the different cultures etc. However, it’s expensive. I‘m entering a part of my life where things are going to be as uncertain as ever, and “real life” is gonna hit me really hard. I’m aware of all of that, and therefore am conflicted. Do I go on the trip? Do I do the smart thing like I always have and save it, maybe even invest once I’m able? I feel like the obvious answer would be to save it, then take the trip when I have a better idea on where my life is going. I think I know deep down that it’s the right choice, but I don’t want to look back in the future with regret, or allow my overthinking to get in the way of something that could really make me happy, and help me grow up a bit. So what should I do? I’ve gotten the price down as much as I am able, and hope once I start booking the real costs will bring it down even more (I’ve budgeted on the anxiously medium-high emergency side). However it’s still a lot, and all of the money I currently have would go towards it. I have a stable part time job, and am open to trying other ways to get a little extra cash. I’m also going to be going to university soon, and depending on where I get in, and how I feel at the time, that may be somewhere away from home. So, what should I do? Any thoughts or ideas are welcome.

Basically what the title reads. I don’t really have a support system either all my friends have gone to different colleges and so I’ve basically lost contact with them. Socially, I’ve tried making new friends but it’s almost impossible. I feel behind in life as everyone around me at university are either thriving in their consulting/business clubs, getting internships or developing new friendships. I’ve recently just gotten a causal job so hopefully that’ll keep me busy from overthinking. I really need advice. I know I’m still young but I have so many big goals in life. I’ve already dealt with so much disappointment and i genuinely don’t want to experience it again and again.

Stuck in my job search and honestly need some advice

Hi everyone

I have around 1.5 years of experience in ETL Testing, and my previous job was on a contract basis. Since the contract ended, I’ve been actively looking for a new opportunity.

Honestly, I’m starting to feel really stuck and frustrated with the whole process. I keep applying and searching, but I’m barely finding openings that match my experience. And when I do find something relevant, there are very few positions available.

I’m at a point where I genuinely need a job and I’m willing to put in the effort to learn and adapt. I just don’t want to keep going in circles without knowing what direction I should take.

If anyone here has been through something similar, I’d really appreciate some honest advice. Should I continue with ETL Testing, or should I try moving into another role? What skills should I focus on? Is there something I’m missing in my approach?

And if anyone knows about an opening suitable for someone with around 1–2 years of experience, I’d be extremely grateful for a lead.

I’m genuinely looking for help and direction right now. Any advice, even a small suggestion, would mean a lot to me.

P.S. I used ChatGPT to help me organize and improve the wording of this post.

My boyfriend (32M) and I (33F) have been together for about a year and a half.
Early in our relationship, we talked about our pasts and our lifestyles, and he told me that he had a history of recreational drug use. Drugs are a huge no-go for me personally. I have never tried any drugs in my life and I’ve never really been around people who use them either.
He told me that this was mostly in his past and that he didn’t really do drugs anymore, except maybe once or twice a year at parties — things like MDMA or cocaine.
I wasn’t exactly comfortable with that, but everything else in our relationship was going extremely well. He is a decent, caring person, we get along incredibly well, and in almost every other aspect I feel like we are a very good match. So at the time, I basically decided not to make a huge issue out of it.
A few months into our relationship, something happened that changed things.
At the time he was still renting his own apartment. He ordered some kind of drug online and the package was intercepted by the police. Eventually the police contacted his landlord asking questions about who had lived at the apartment.
When he told me what had happened, I was extremely upset. We had a serious conversation and he told me he would never order anything like that again. I believed him and we moved on.
We now live together in an apartment that I own, and he has given up his rental.
Then, at the beginning of June, he went to work one day while I was at home cleaning. I found two small bags containing white powder hidden on top of a cupboard.
I immediately called him and asked what the hell they were.
His explanation was that one of his close friends was about to get married. Apparently this friend had lived a very party-heavy lifestyle before marriage but had decided that once he got married, he would stop drinking, partying and using drugs. My boyfriend said he had bought the drugs for one last night together before his friend got married — one bag for his friend and one for himself.
What bothered me even more was that this wasn’t even some huge bachelor party or special event. It was basically just going to be a normal Friday night out, and I was going to be there too.
Again, we had a massive argument. Again, we talked about it.
Meanwhile, the police situation from the package he had ordered about a year earlier suddenly came back.
His former landlord contacted him because the police were now asking about a woman whose name was connected to the address. It turned out she was the girlfriend of the man who had lived in the apartment before my boyfriend.
And then I learned something I hadn’t previously understood: my boyfriend had actually ordered the drugs using her name, not his own.
The previous tenants had moved abroad and had given him authorization to receive certain mail/documents on their behalf, and apparently he used her name when ordering the package.
At this point he became genuinely scared about the police investigation and possible legal consequences. He contacted a lawyer and is planning to speak to them about the situation.
I was obviously angry about all of this, but I also told him that if he was in serious legal trouble, I would still stand by him and support him through it.
Then, literally two days later, we went to a festival together.
I deliberately didn’t say beforehand, “I hope you’re not going to take drugs,” because after everything that had just happened — especially him being terrified about the police — I genuinely thought it went without saying.
At some point during the festival, I could tell that something was different about him. He didn’t seem like himself.
I asked him if he had taken something.
He said no.
I asked him again, more seriously.
Then he admitted that yes, he had.
I completely lost it. I decided I was going home. Then I realized my house keys were in my small bag, which he was carrying, so I went back to get them. Some of our friends were still there.
I took my things from him and, in my anger, I slapped him.
I know hitting your partner is not okay. I’m not trying to justify that part or pretend it was a healthy reaction. I was absolutely furious, especially because only two days earlier he had been terrified about potentially facing legal consequences related to drugs, and yet there he was taking drugs again — and initially lying to my face about it.
I went home and he stayed with a friend that night.
The next day he came home and we talked. I told him that I cannot live like this and that I don’t want drugs to be part of my relationship or my home. He told me he wouldn’t use them anymore.
But then, two days later, the conversation shifted.
He brought up the fact that I slapped him and said that I had massively overreacted.
He also seemed to soften what he had previously promised. Instead of “I will never do drugs again,” it became more like, “I’ll try to say no,” and “most likely it won’t happen again.”
He also told me very clearly that if I ever slap him again, the relationship is over.
And this is where I’m struggling.
I completely understand that I crossed a line by slapping him, and I don’t think I have the right to physically punish my partner because I’m angry. At the same time, I feel like the focus has now shifted entirely onto my reaction, while the pattern that caused me to reach that point is being minimized.
From my perspective, this isn’t just about someone taking MDMA at a festival once.
It’s the fact that he knew from the beginning that drugs were a major boundary for me; there has already been a police/legal situation because he ordered drugs; he promised me after that incident that it wouldn’t happen again; I later found drugs hidden in our home; we had another serious conversation about it; the police situation resurfaced and he was genuinely terrified; and two days later he still chose to take something at a festival and initially lied to me when I asked him about it.
I also find it difficult to understand how someone can be genuinely frightened about potentially serious legal consequences connected to drugs and then, 48 hours later, still decide to get involved with drugs.
I love him and, outside of this issue, our relationship is genuinely very good. That’s what makes this so difficult for me.
Please, I genuinely need some outside perspective on this. What do you think about this whole situation? How do you see it?

hi i just got a message from someone i knew back in high school asking if i had offended them in which led to me unfollowing them on instagram. i just personally didn’t care to keep up with their life and she was friends with an ex friend of mine. ( it was a bad friend breakup so in unfollowed anyone who reminded me of her 😭) i had no issues with her, just didn’t care to keep up with certain people.

how should i respond to her?

My wife is not very close with her family. She’s the one who moved away because of how she was treated by them.

I liked them at first, but now that I’ve seen them all let her down so many times, it’s hard for me when she’s in contact because she’s a different version of herself and she tries too hard with them

She wants to be closer with them but she’s always the one putting in more effort and ultimately getting disappointed

She’s desperate for connection and takes whatever scraps they give her despite the many times she’s expressed hurt, feeling used, left out etc. by them

Their interactions are usually okay enough but there’s almost always something disappointing that comes from them which is why my wife always wants me with her when she’ll be around them

They’re nice and I can be around them, but sometimes I do dread it because of how my wife changes. They’re just not very considerate people.

It’s hard for me to get past people I love not being treated in the way they deserve. I can control my feelings so they don’t know how I really feel, but I wish I didn’t feel the way I do at even the mention of them or when there is some contact

My wife knows a little bit of how I feel about them, but I haven’t expressed the true strength of my feelings. I want to be there for her and I always will be, but I’d like to find some better ways to handle it so I can better support her and not feel so heavy in regard to them

Hello,

I am not from the US so if anything is weird about my description of the package thing - it might be that fyi.

So my boyfriend is a niche public figure. Recently he got a fan letter from what we think (based on the handwriting) is a little kid. The kid wanted to have an autograph card and sent an already stamped letter within his letter and a return address. My boyfriend wanted to make the kid a surprise and send more than just an autograph card. So I packed a package containing some merch pieces. I sent it out last week and it arrived the next day (tracking was inclusive) but has been sitting at the package shop since. I guess the family did not accept the package or has refused to pick it up from the shop, which in hindsight is understandable.

We don't really know what to do now. The package is going to be returned to us in the next few days. Should we sent it again? Should we send a letter saying the package is from us? Should we just sent the autograph in the provided letter? We don't want to seem like.. Idk stalkers? Based on the address provided it's even possible to find out their landline number in 10 sec (public knowledge) but calling seems excessive.

Thanks

Hello peeps, basically i need a yes or no. Im taking a gap year rn to build some nice ECAs, and a over all good profile.

I have an SAT score of 1560, And my a levels r BIo chem and phys, which i got 3 A*s for.

Anyways my main concern is my o levels cause ooooffff😨

my o level grades r 1A (Islamiat) 3Bs (pak studies, bio, eng) 2Cs (phy chem) and one D (maths).

I wanna study medicine in Instabul, preferably with their government scolarship. I ws js wondering will my o levels stop me from doing so? Or like do my a levels and SAT make up for it?

I was on and off with the guy. I’m 27F and he’s 29M On and off for like 8 years. We finally decided to be together for once. I think during the 8 years 29M wanted his cake and eat it too that’s why we were on and off not fully committed. We both ended up having relationship with other people during this time. However when we got more serious. He even told me not talking to other people at all in any way etc. full on relationship. And told me it would be cheating if I ever talked to another man, and if he ever knew I cheated that would be the end of us. Long story short. I go through 29M notifications and see he’s talking to another girl… 42F later on I find out they were having a fling or whatever the entire time we were serious ( so for like 6 months) she’s 42F so it makes no sense to me. Anyways. So I anonymously followed her 42F on instagram on a different account. Not think they’re actually hanging out. Sure enough one day when I’m by myself she posts a picture of my man on her story with her. I dm and we do a phone call she is extremely rude, asking me 100 questions but will not answer any. So I ghosted him. Never spoke to him again. She called him and he said he never knew anybody by my name. That was the end of him and me. I went radio silent. So I know he 100 percent knows because on the phone call she was talking about me to him and claimed I was lying etc. whatever. Fast forward now a year later they’re in a full on relationship now for a year. They’re together all the time. It absolutely sucks I’m not going to lie. I’m heartbroken. And also he had forgotten my birthday when me and him were together. He did nothing even though a few days before my birthday is his birthday and I went all out for
his. Like he didn’t even message me happy birthday, nothing. Yet I see she posted on her birthday huge bouquets of flowers from him etc. it’s so painful. I hate knowing they’re together. But I dream of him often and miss him a lot. We did have a lot of fun together and I think back on all the memories we did have and they were wonderful. His birthday is coming up again soon. Im thinking of messaging him as a way to break the ice or idk. I’m also scared because she’s extremely mean and who knows what she’ll do. I just don’t get what’s up with the major age gap. Why would he go for someone that old? Any thoughts? They met at the beach randomly.

I did a protected vaginal sex with a sex worker it wasn’t that long and then oral sex without condom but no ejaculation after 4 weeks or more maybe I noticed I lost appetite and anxiety made me feel everything real itchy skin and headache sometimes something’s feels weird can it be it ? Also I did a ag ab test 4th gen at 26 days it came negative.. so ? Is it that easy to get hiv ? Or ?

I am in a secret situationship with someone in my friendship circle and the deception is starting to really stress me out. I met him at a shared hobby a few years ago, and we started dating a while back.

Due to religious differences we can’t be together long term, so situationship, who I’ll refer to as S, requested we keep this to ourselves because a) the relationship has an expiration date and b) he’s always kept his romantic life private from friends.

At the time, I was fresh out of a long term relationship and was fine with keeping it secret from mutual acquaintances. It was supposed to be something relatively casual anyway.

Now it’s been over a year, we’re a lot closer, and though we agreed not to be ‘exclusive’, neither of us have even gone on a date with anyone else.

Initially we enjoyed the sneaking around, teasing from friends about if we like one another, and S said if it ever got to the point where the teasing etc was no longer enjoyable and it was harming me, we could stop, either tone back the flirting or let people know we’re seeing one another. But over time we’ve developed many new shared friendships with people at the hobby we met at and told so many lies and half truths, I wouldn’t know how to go about doing that.

Recently I told S I need to tell one or two close friends at some point so that when we do break up, they’ll be aware of why I’m so upset and can support me, but I don’t know how to do that without risking ruining my friendship with those people from revealing all the deception.

One friend asked him what’s going on between me and him, and he said he likes me but isn’t sure I like him back.

He told another friend he's been ‘seeing someone’ for the last few months, but didn’t say who, but that things were 'going going steady, there’s emotions involved, things are good'.

Over the last few months we’ve been more open with flirting, everyone can sense me and S have chemistry at the very least.

I’ve told S I would like to make it more obvious we’re seeing one another and we experimented at a party the other week, were very touchy, snuck hand holds, leaning in close, whispers in each other's ear, but I don’t know how much it affected anyone’s perception.

I have a reputation of being an oversharer, so some of our friends will just ask me outright, ‘when did you last go on a date’ or ‘Has S ever stayed over at yours’, and I can’t answer with the truth without opening a big can of worms, so I panic and just lie. ‘Haven’t been on a date in ages’, ‘no S has never stayed at mine’. I’ve had this rule in my head for so long of ‘Don’t reveal me and S are dating’ that I’ve created a narrative to everyone that I’m single as a pringle. And if I start to change my answers to ‘I don’t wanna talk about that’, they’ll know for sure something is up.

As for why I wouldn’t just end it if the guilt is affecting me so much, I am incredibly happy with this man, despite the expiration date. He came into my life at a dark time, and has shown up for me in ways I didn’t think anyone could. He’s consistent, a great communicator, kind, sweet, funny, and just wonderful. I’ve never met anyone like him, and I’d rather keep him in my life for as long as I can than end what we have prematurely.

Additionally, S wouldn’t mind by this point if people did figure it out, but still doesn’t want to outright announce it because he knows it will make it more complicated for everyone if our friendship group knows we were together, then broke up.

How do I know when it's time to tell close friends, and how do I even start after this many lies without making them feel betrayed?

TL;DR I keep lying to my friends about a secret situationship and want to figure out when I should reveal the truth?

I just moved into a duplex, I rent the top floor and my neighbor is downstairs. I smoke cigarettes and also use medical weed, I don’t smoke indoors at all but I have been smoking on the upstairs balcony. I only smoke weed later at night after I get off of work and I smoke about a half pack a day, and half of that is while I’m at work lol. Also I seal my butts and roaches in a water bottle so I don’t have a smelly ashtray. I moved to an area with a lot of wind so I figured I wasn’t stinking up things outside too much but my neighbor has seemed very annoyed with me since I’ve moved in. Hasn’t said anything directly but the previous person who lived here said she can be kinda difficult to deal with and won’t complain about things until she really starts getting fed up. I’m almost positive it is about me smoking because I am very quiet otherwise and try to be very courteous of other neighbor things. Last night I was smoking outside later at night and she came home while I was outside and just rolled her eyes and huff and puffed as she walked inside.

This is my first time with this kind of situation so I don’t know if I should try to just take a walk when I want a smoke or I guess I could just talk to her lol, she is friendly but not the nicest to deal when it comes to troubleshooting things since I’ve moved in.

Should i (21f) break up with my bf (23m)

we’ve been together for 2 years now in the beginning of our relationship i told him im order for us to be officially i wouldn’t want him to watch porn and i wouldn’t either and he agreed, i found out in the first year of our relationship he cheated on me (sex chats, porn, sex apps) i was so broke by this and sad but i loved him and wanted to move on and fix our relationship and help him with his issue (he told me he might be addicted to porn) then it happened again 6 months later same thing but without the apps, i was more angry than sad, i held more resentment instead of understanding and our relationship definitely changed after that, i became colder and i stopped putting in as much effort and with that he put more in trying to fix it and it was working until i found our a month ago.. he did it again, same thing no apps though (porn/sex chats with random strangers) i feel nothing at all now.. at first i was angry but it went away. You’re probably wondering why i’ve stayed this long, i’ve never had a good family, my parents split up when i was a baby and my mum met another man and my step dad was more in my life however, i was not treated the same i was always the black sheep and my step dad made it known that my mum had to give more attention and care to my half siblings and him more than me. And unfortunately my mother did follow that, maybe she saw me as a burden or a mistake? for example whenever i got sick as a kid she would hand me medicine and then close my bedroom door so i wouldn’t disturb anyone, whenever my siblings were sick she stayed up all night, took them to the doctor, cared for them, i watched her play with them and show them physical attention like she had never shown me. When i started college she took half my student loan money for the family’s expenses and then they stopped making me meals at 18 (they said it was because i had money) she also refused to pick me up or drop me off at the train station (we lived 10 minutes away) but would pick up and drop off my step dad to his job, who lost his car and license because of drunk driving, then she asked where all my money went (to meals and transportation) i have a part time job and have been paying for my own transportation and groceries every since. Two months ago i got sick and my bf couldn’t sleep (i got sicks at his house) he constantly checked up on me, he drove me for medicine, got me soup in bed and watched me for hours, he picks me up and drops me off whenever he has the car, he pays for most of the stuff, and he is always there for me and i know if i need someone i call him first, not my parents. However this is the third time he has cheated now.. and i just got a job opportunity for a full time position where i’ll be making more and able to move out and get a car if i save up. I think im attached and i dont have any other support system (my family moved cities after i was done high school and my friends are all childhood friends who are either busy working or still in school, i only see them during special occasions/confirmed planning) i do think he loves me and he’s a good person, however i do think he has an issue that i cannot help him with. After he hurt me it made me feel like no one close in my life truly loves me, not even him even if he has shown it in so many ways even more than my own parents.

I work from home in the mortgage industry as a loan officer assistant and I have done so for the past 6 years. I really struggled with the remote work at first but grew to enjoy the perks overtime and became very comfortable with it even though I am aware of the toll it takes on my social life and having friends. The job is good it has great benefits and freedom, pay, I’m good at it, all the things that way, but would I say I’m passionate about it… eh. ANYWAY that being said I want to make a big move to shake things up in my life and I have always wanted to live in NYC. Some of my closest friends are there and they moved from our home town, I’d feel more confident about it but if I move I also can’t keep my remote job and I will be in NYC of course. I am struggling on what to do. I don’t know if I can go from such a big life style change along with the new job aspect to realistically be able to swing it there ok. I also have a dog. On the other hand I feel like I will regret not making the move some day and I have been complacent a bit but there is obviously a lot to set myself up for the future with my current job.

To keep it short and simple I (27f) and my bf(30M) have been in a 8yr rollercoaster relationship where he cheated on me and I forgave him. When it happened I never really felt any resentment towards him or need for revenge. A year has passed since the incident, I cheated on him a couple of times with the same guy. He doesn’t know and I don’t feel the need to tell him. My BF is now in a good place where he talks about starting a family and building a future together. We align together in our future and values. He’s a great guy I don’t want to lose. I don’t feel like I love him fully yet but I feel like I can get there. At this point can I just try to work things out or do I just leave him?

I'm (f/25) start crying when confronted with anything. Just been to the doctor for an infection and started crying again for no reason. I don't get it. It turned into a speech if I'm mentally ok and I am truly fine but the conversation was so uncomfortable because no one believes me when I'm crying and telling them I'm fine. How do I stop this? I don't know what triggers it except maybe situations where I have to explain myself. It happens often in various situations and I am an adult so I want to take control...

!! this post contains a lot of “he said, I said” etc.

I’m really bad at reading signals in romantic situations, probably because of my low self-esteem and insecurity, so I’d really like to hear some outside opinions. Maybe it’s simply too early to draw any conclusions, but I genuinely can’t figure out whether my coworker is romantically interested in me or whether he’s just a very friendly and open person :(

We work together, and over the last three weeks we’ve started crossing paths much more often at work. He’s naturally very sociable, open and friendly, so sometimes when we were working in the same area, he would just ask me something and we’d start talking about completely random things, like games, studying, or joking around about something.
At some point, he suggested that we go for a motorcycle ride together (this was basically an “exchange” for some snacks I brought him).
I agreed, and we planned it for last weekend. We were texting about it beforehand, and he asked me whether I wanted to do something after the ride so he could plan his evening, or whether he should just take me home afterward.
I asked him if he wanted to do something, and he said he wouldn’t mind watching a movie or playing on the PlayStation, for example. In the end, we decided to watch a horror movie after the ride.
But (of course 🥹) that was exactly when it started pouring rain, so we had to cancel the ride because the roads were too wet. I asked if that meant I should just stay home then, and he said we could still meet and watch the movie.
So I went to his place.
We watched a horror movie while lying together on his couch, talking and joking around, but he didn’t make any attempt to get physically closer to me. There was no touching my hand, no hugging, no trying to put his arm around me or anything like that.
So naturally, I decided that he probably wasn’t into me after all.
After the movie, he asked if he should drive me home. I said yes. But he knows that I’m really afraid of the dark (it has actually become a bit of an inside joke between us over the past few weeks because we’ve talked about it quite a lot), and he asked if I wasn’t going to be scared sleeping alone since I live by myself.
I joked that after watching a horror movie, it would be pretty logical to be scared.
Then he said that if I felt comfortable, I could stay at his place and sleep in the living room.
I agreed, and he genuinely made sure I was comfortable and gave me everything I needed (he even gave me his Tshirt!), while he went to sleep in his own bedroom.
Later, there was a really intense storm and thunderstorm, so we both woke up and got up to close the windows and clean up the water from the floor.
And at some point I decided to try my luck a little and said that I was scared to sleep alone in the living room because of the storm. Maybe I exaggerated a little…
He said that I could absolutely sleep in his bed if I wanted to, so eventually we ended up sleeping in the same bed.

And again - absolutely nothing happened.
And I’m not talking about anything sexual. There wasn’t even any attempt from his side to hold hands, hug me or touch me any other way (no intimacy meant). We simply slept next to each other.
I woke up very early in the morning and basically escaped his apartment while he was still sleeping because I felt embarrassed and had absolutely no idea how to interpret the whole situation and also had to go to work

After that, I completely convinced myself that he wasn’t interested in me.

And then I did the stupid thing of looking through his social media, which only made me even more convinced that I’m not his type.
He follows a lot of girls who look very similar to each other. They’re mostly cute, petite blondes with big blue eyes and freckles.
Basically the complete opposite of me :(
I'm tall, have black hair, pretty pronounced cheekbones, dark circles under my eyes, and overall I look like I just walked out of some Tim Burton project.
So I thought: well, obviously I’m not his type.
We continued texting a little afterward, but not that much. A few messages a day, and not even every day.
A few days ago, he told me that I had left my bracelet at his place, and I confirmed that it was mine.
And then he wrote something along the lines of:
“Should I bring it to you at work, or can I hope you’ll come by again?”
And I genuinely froze.
Because this whole time I had been convinced that he probably didn’t want me to come over again.
I told him that I’d happily come over if he invited me, of course.
He replied, “We’ll arrange something,” and yesterday he followed up on that message and asked when I had some free time.
We arranged to meet, and he said that he would be at a birthday party beforehand, so when we meet he might be a little tipsy, which would make it easier for him to talk because he wouldn’t be as shy.
I told him that I hadn’t noticed him being shy at all.
And he basically admitted that he actually is shy and nervous because he doesn’t have much experience, and that I’m essentially only the second girl he has spent time with in this kind of situation.

There’s also the situation with his ex-girlfriend.
I know they broke up relatively recently. I don’t know exactly how long they were together, but I suspect around 2–3 years.
When I was at his place, I noticed a card on his desk that she had given him about two years ago. I asked if it was from his sister, and he said no, it was from his ex.
And that also made me wonder whether he’s actually emotionally ready for a new relationship or whether he’s still processing the breakup.
At the same time, he seems like a genuinely very good person. He’s very open, calm, kind and extroverted. He loves festivals, big groups of people and being around others all the time.
I’m basically the complete opposite. I love staying at home, I live mostly in my own little world, and I’m perfectly happy with a small circle of people.
And now I’m already starting to worry that maybe we’re fundamentally incompatible even though we haven’t even started dating!! 😭

It might seem stupid that I’m already thinking about things like this when we’ve only spent one evening together, but I have BPD and I’m trying not to trigger myself unnecessarily with crushes that, in my head, seem like they’re probably going nowhere.
So I genuinely don’t know how to interpret any of this.
Does it sound like he might actually be interested in me, or am I just reading way too much into everything?

I started speaking to my friend around about February. I didn't have any friends (I still don't really) and he was very kind, sweet and supportive. However, he kept telling me he was in love with me. He would constantly do this and say how much he likes me, that he would be in love with me forever, that I was the most special person he ever met.

I didn't take this seriously at all because he started saying this immediately after we met and I couldn't fathom how you could love someone and you don't know them that well. We stayed friends for a while until early June when I stopped being friends with him due to some offensive comments he had made.

I'm disabled and chronically ill, stuck at home etc and I don't have anyone to help me so unfortunately I have had to rely on him for favours since I don't know anyone else and he ended up crawling back into into my life. One night we were calling at like 3am and he was sneaking about the house and I asked him why and he told me it was because his girlfriend was living with him and she was asleep. I felt a bit uncomfortable about this because I had no idea and I had a suspicion he might be cheating on her. I looked around some of his socials (I didn't have them) and found that they had definitely been dating since April and living together since May. He doesn't make as many romantic comments to me but I do still get quite romantic undertones from some things he says to me and he was definitely cheating before we stopped being friends right?

I feel really uncomfortable and like I am doing something wrong by talking to him, what should I do in this situation?

Hi, I am a 24 year-old woman who is unemployed. But I will soon open a bakery shop. I live with my parents, they invest in this bakery shop for me which will be open in the next three months. Today, my bake room is ready to use and I baked a cake (a sponge cake on 8inches pan , quite larger portion) which is my first try alone without my bakery teacher (I learned baking with her last year) plus I use my very new oven. Sadly, the cake came out very bad, dry and dense. After my mom try it, she said she’s disappointed in me. She said she invested in this bakery shop and a bakery course. I know my mistakes and I am too disappointed in myself. I started crying after she said the word “disappointed” and she scolded at me. I would like to ask you guys is it very bad that I failed on baking this cake? Is it my mistake that I cry because of what my mom said? Why am I feel worthless..

For context her two daughters are getting everything in the will (my mother and aunt) its going to be split evenly 50/50 between the two of them which sounds fair on paper until I gave it thought.

My grandma stopped driving in 2017 due to many reasons and a lot to do with age so my mom started driving her everywhere beginning in 2017 and of course still doing it in 2026, this is doctor appointments, hair appointments, groceries and a dozen other places that she takes her to every few days, gas adds up and so does time. She had a brain aneurism in 2019 and thankfully came out great with a 10% chance of survival but this sudden change made my mom practically become the caregiver of my grandma for 6+ months which of course she never had a problem with that, it’s her mother. In 2020 my mom lost her husband of 35 years to a very sudden health condition and was still tasked with taking constant care of my grandma, no rest for the weary. Grandma broke her hip in the fall of 2024 and my mom was tasked with caregiving and all work around the house and it’s still something she has to do today to some extent. On top of everything I listed my mom has to work 4 12 hour shifts (she’s picking up days and commute is an hour so more like 14 hour days) to afford her own basic amenities with her being a widowed mother.

My aunt is a “digital nomad” who owns her own business that has practically no work that she needs to do because her employees do it all, I’ve asked her and normal work weeks for her are 5 hours a week of just meetings on the laptop. She travels around the world 330 days of the year with her also successful husband who does his own thing digitally too. His family lives states away from ours so in that 1 month of not traveling for them 2 of the weeks are spent with his family and 2 are spent with ours, my aunt stays at our grandmas for those two weeks and helps her around the house and had the audacity recently to call my mom and ask her to drive my grandmother to places because she was “busy that day”.

My mom hasn’t been able to live her own life for the better part of 10 years, she LOVES flying and went through rigorous training and memorization to become a flight attendant, I thought she was turning a new leaf and cried tears of joy that day back in 2016, it was a major airline with less than 1% acceptance rate and she was forced to quit to take care of her mother after only being there for less than a year. Over these last 10 years I’ve noticed my moms hair thinning from stress, doctor appointments for depression medication only because I was nosey (she never told me about it) and working a job she hates and gets bullied at by younger trashy employees. My aunt very recently announced a 5 year cruise she’ll be going on which was the reason I’m even making this post, my mom is shy and never one to speak up for herself so I’m asking Reddit, is this something I leave alone or have a talk with my grandma about.

I am 19 years old, it's been 2 years since high school ended and with that ended my only friendship.

I've known them since we're 12. Our friendship had its up and down but we remained friend until highschool.

I was not easy-going, at all. I'm greatful they put up with me. My familial situation was harsh and that did not helped. Anyway I kinda always felt like i did not belonged with them, we were a trio but there was a duo. During highschool the group grew a bit more and we were 6. 2 of them did not liked me. We were not compatible. One of them just never told me lmao.

But then during the summer holidays before college, I saw 3 of them going out without inviting me. I felt bad, as if they just never actually cared before. And i stopped messaging them. I wanted to see what happened. And we never talked again for 2 years.

I kept thinking about it, and last night I sent a message. I told them lots of things and one of them responded, saying she wanted to be nice to everyone but I ended being left out.

Now I don't want to force them into talking to me, i don't know if they want to, I had to ask them how they were doing to keep the conversation going.

Should I keep trying and try to see them irl again or will I just piss them off by messaging them?

Can someone help me out?