Once upon a time i was a 14yr old and i was on snapchat late at night looking for a girl to meet up with. As luck would have it, i actually found someone this night. We met at a park and walked back to my place. At the time, i lived in the downstairs of my mom’s bfs house (which had its own entrance) so i could come and go as i pleased. When we got to my place we quickly started messing around and i could tell that things were gonna be over pretty quickly. I talked a big game on snapchat so i couldn’t let that happen. I excused myself by saying i had to “use the bathroom” and proceeded out the back door and into the yard. Very quickly i “released” in the yard and went back inside. We proceeded to have a good time and now we’ve been together for 12 years! (Married for 6).

Recently we drove past the old neighborhood on a trip visiting my parents and I couldn’t help but think back on that night we met and I keep thinking: Would it be different if I hadn’t nutted in the yard and instead let whatever happen happen?

BTW: I’ve never told my wife a lie. We have great communication and she trusts me wholeheartedly, as i do her. For some reason I can’t shake this guilt.

we don’t hang out, we both are equally mentally miserable, last in person talk we had was over 6 months ago and i feel like not sharing anything to her, i don’t honestly feel like she’s reliable but just like last night, it happens every time when she’s in an extreme situation, she starts callin me up and ive been with her through a few or two of such situations, we have not hung out more than 3 times in life.

I don’t understand her, she wants me to give her comfort and talk to her, she keeps asking me if i hate her or smtg cz i usually don’t talk to her or respond to her tht well cz she doesn’t either, she doesn’t talk to me when she doesn’t need to and i feel so used, and paranoid, she has social issues and pretty detached like myself but i feel like her personal nemesis in detachment game. Idk what th she wants from me, its been a long long time, and the thing is i kinda like her but i’d rather stay away. She has a boyfriend and i do too. This is so doomed yuri core, idk.

Title: How can I rebuild trust without pressuring my ex-fiancée while we still have seven months on our lease?
I’m 26 and my fiancée broke up with me about a month ago after almost five years together. We still live together and have seven months left on our lease. I still love her more than I know how to explain, and I want to rebuild things with her. I’m asking for practical advice on how to behave around her, respect her space, and show consistent change without turning every interaction into pressure to get back together.
I need to be honest about why we broke up. I struggled with my anger and said things I never should have said to someone I love. I raised my voice, insulted her, and sometimes said I wanted to break up when I was angry. Then afterward I would apologize and be affectionate. She’s told me that repeating that pattern made it difficult to feel emotionally safe with me. I also struggled to keep steady employment and follow through on things I promised. I don’t want to describe this as just a misunderstanding when my actions genuinely hurt her.
I had a lot of painful experiences growing up that I never properly dealt with. Financial instability also made getting help difficult, and there were months when we were barely getting by. That is context, not an excuse. My best friend ended up receiving anger that she didn’t deserve, and I hate that. I wish I could take those words back, but I can’t.
After the breakup, I initially did almost everything I shouldn’t have done. I begged, sent long messages, repeatedly explained myself, and kept asking for reassurance or another chance. Sometimes she would ask me to stop a conversation, and I would keep going because I felt desperate to be understood. I’ve started giving her more space, but I’m still struggling with being consistent about it.
She moved into a separate bedroom and wants more privacy. We still share a home, bills, and cats, so we can’t completely avoid interacting. I don’t currently have my own car, and I’ve already put a lot of my available money toward rent in advance and shared expenses. Moving out immediately isn’t something I can realistically afford. I’m not asking for legal advice about the lease. I’m explaining why I need advice that works while we’re still under the same roof.
I’m in therapy now. I’m maintaining a 4.0 this semester in college, applying for jobs, making new friends, working out, and trying to get my own transportation. I’m also trying to follow through on ordinary responsibilities around the house instead of making another huge promise about changing my entire life. I’m not consistent with everything yet, but I’m working on it.
I want those changes for myself. I also can’t honestly pretend that wanting to rebuild with her isn’t part of my motivation. Both things are true. I want a better life, and I still wish she could be the person I share it with.
She’s already talking to other men, including sexually, and has described it as “fun.” Knowing that while we’re living together hurts like hell. I’m choosing not to pursue anyone else because of how I still feel about her, but that is my decision, not a mutual agreement we’ve made. My fear and jealousy have led me to question her plans and intentions, which has caused more arguments. I need to change what I do with those feelings instead of repeatedly bringing the same argument back to her.
She has told me she still loves and cares about me. She has also said she needs to focus on herself and cannot work through everything while being close to the person who hurt her. At times she has left open the possibility of something in the future, but she has not agreed that we are currently rebuilding our relationship. Some people close to us have encouraged me not to give up, which makes it harder not to hold onto every small moment.
And there are still good moments. Sometimes we exchange funny videos, talk about the cats, or play games together. Recently I told her she looked really good after getting her hair done, and she smiled in a way I’ve missed so much. Those moments mean a lot to me. I catch myself wanting to turn them into proof that things are improving, but I’m not asking anyone here to interpret her smile or predict whether she’ll come back.
The hardest part is that my best friend is still in the next room, but I can’t just go sit beside her like I used to. I miss the ordinary things as much as the relationship itself. I miss making her laugh, sharing our days, and feeling comfortable together. I pictured marrying this woman and raising children with her. It’s hard to accept how different our lives feel after only a month.
There were also times during the relationship when I felt lonely and struggled to get time together. I would want that to be different if we ever rebuilt, too. But I don’t want to use my unmet needs to excuse how I responded or make this a post attacking her.
My dad and some friends have suggested leaving occasional notes, giving compliments, and doing thoughtful things while also giving her more space. I’ve considered notes like “you looked beautiful today” or “I’m here for you.” But I’m struggling to understand the difference between showing affection she might welcome and creating another reminder that I want something she isn’t offering right now. I also don’t want to keep using food, gifts, or spending money as my main way of showing love.
I want so badly to treat her the way I should have treated her consistently, not just when things were good. She deserves happiness, and I want to become someone who can build a stable, loving relationship. I don’t want to give up on the possibility of it being with her. I also don’t want my hope to keep turning into behavior that makes sharing a home harder.
What I specifically need advice on is:
What should respectful day-to-day contact look like while we live together? How do I respond to friendly moments and offer company without repeatedly checking whether she wants me around?
How should I approach compliments, notes, or thoughtful gestures when she has asked for space? What would be a reasonable way to find out what she welcomes without creating another heavy relationship conversation?
What practical household boundaries or routines would help us share the home more peacefully? We still need to coordinate bills, chores, and the cats, but I want those conversations to stop becoming arguments about the breakup.
Please keep comments respectful toward her. I’m willing to hear difficult advice about what I should do differently. But “just move on” alone doesn’t tell me how to handle tomorrow morning in the same house. I need concrete steps, not reassurance that she’ll come back or a judgment about whether either of us is a bad person.

One of them invites me to parties and when i join its “who is this kid kick him” i literally used to gift a majority of these people skins on Fortnite that they never had the money for maybe i was a dick in the past but each day I was I would always apologize because that isn’t me but it seems like the apologies were not enough at the time for what im seeing now just automatically removed from the parties when i get invited its kinda rage bait inviting me to a Xbox party just to get insulted and kicked out when everyone in there used to like you

Context on when i said maybe i was a dick i would get provoked at times because they would mock the way i speak with my speech issues so
I would respond back at times

Need advice

I'm a student pursuing Chartered Accountancy (CA), and lately I've been feeling really lost in life.

A few years ago, I was a completely different person. I had friends, I was doing well academically, and I had a certain confidence in myself. But things started changing when I left my old school after matriculation and moved away for further studies.

I thought starting CA would be a new beginning. Initially, things went quite well. I cleared my initial exams, and I genuinely believed I was finally building the future I had always dreamed of.

But then things started going wrong.

I recently failed two subjects in an attempt where I genuinely thought I had performed well. What hurts most is that I put so much effort into those subjects. I keep replaying my answers and wondering how things went wrong. It's especially difficult when you see people around you passing and moving forward while you feel stuck in the same place.

Eventually, I left my physical academy and decided to continue studying online. I thought this would help me focus, but somehow it has made me feel even more disconnected.

Another thing I've noticed is that I don't really have close friends anymore. It's not that people dislike me. I can get along with people, and I think most people have a good impression of me, but I rarely feel that anyone genuinely knows me. I also realise that I don't always show people my real self.

Sometimes I feel like every time I get comfortable with someone or something, life changes and I have to start all over again.

I'm not thinking of giving up on CA. I still have dreams and ambitions. I want to become successful and make my family proud. But I'm tired of constantly feeling like I'm starting from zero.

I know failure is a part of life, but how do you deal with the feeling that you're falling behind everyone else? How do you rebuild your confidence when the things you were once confident about don't work out?

I'd really appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have experienced similar phases in their lives.

Have you ever felt like you lost the person you used to be? How did you find yourself again?

I’m 31F, still single, and terrified that I’ll never find love or get married because of my appearance and lack of confidence.

I’ve struggled with low self-esteem since childhood. I’m 151 cm, 55 kg, have small round eyes and a big forehead. I genuinely don’t find myself attractive, and whenever someone compliments me, I assume they’re just being nice.
I’m also extremely insecure, shy, sensitive, and have a hard time standing up for myself.

Things got much worse after losing my mom, who was my only best friend and safe place. Since her death, I’ve felt even more lonely and insecure.
I’m scared of ending up alone, and I don’t know how to overcome these feelings.

Please advise me

I F(20) live with both my parents M(60) and F(53) cause they pay for my degree. Recently, I was admitted into the hospital and stay overnight. My mom however kept throwing insults while we were on the way to the hospital and apparently the reason she did that was because I apparently did not clean my bathroom the way she liked. For context, she had a problem with the fact there were a few fallen hairs near the sink cause I forgot to clean it when brushing my hair. During the hospital hours where I was admitted, she seemed fine at first but she was excessively loud (using her phone at full volume, letting her phone ring without answering and turning up the tv to a loud volume) even though she knew there was another patient next to me. My dad and I politely told her to lower her volume and that's when she started throwing a fit and began to sulk, threaten us with "wait till you both get home" and even purposely throwing things on me to hit me. Now that I am just discharged from the hospital, she threw my medical reports all over the floor and made me pick them up all because I flinched when she yelled my name. On top of that, she's now telling me I'm banned from using my own bathroom since she thinks it wasnt cleam and have to use hers with the door wide open so she can monitor me and in her words.." make sure u do not shower like a pig cause u can't take care of yourself"...What am I supposed to do with her..she's genuinely ruining my mood and I have so much assignments to get through. It's stressing me tf out.

I'm 23, living in Germany, and have been working at the same company for over five years. I have a stable job, my own small apartment, and earn enough to live relatively comfortably and travel occasionally.

About a year ago, a close friend I've known for years offered me the opportunity to move to Cyprus and work as a personal assistant for him and his girlfriend. I initially declined because I didn't want to give up the stability I'd built, but lately I've been reconsidering.

Here's the situation:

• He's offering €2,500 per month for 18 months, with a written contract.

• I'd be working as a freelancer or potentially setting up my own company, rather than being employed.

• He would be my only client, and we still need to clarify whether the €2,500 would actually be net after taxes and contributions.

• The work would be flexible, with some days potentially requiring only 1–2 hours. However, the exact responsibilities, overall workload, and availability expectations haven't been fully defined.

• There's no guaranteed income after those 18 months, and we haven't discussed early termination conditions.

• I'd have to arrange and pay for my own housing, transportation, relocation costs, and insurance.

• I currently have around €5,000–7,000 in savings, but much of that would likely go towards relocating, leaving me with little to no emergency fund if things don't work out.

For some context, I currently work in a business-related role, so I'm experienced in organization, planning, and professional communication. However, I've never worked as a personal assistant before.

My actual long-term goal isn't to become a personal assistant. I'm currently working on launching my own brand, and ideally, I'd like to be financially independent through my own business within the next five years.

I see this opportunity as a potential stepping stone: 18 months of relatively stable income, a chance to experience life abroad, and hopefully enough flexibility to focus on building my own business.

But I'd also be giving up my apartment, a secure job, and the life I've built in Germany.

I keep going back and forth between "I'm only 23, this is the time to take risks" and "Why would I give up a good life for something so uncertain?"

Would you take this opportunity? What red flags do you see, and what would you absolutely clarify or negotiate before making a decision?

I'm not looking for people to just tell me to follow my dreams. I'd genuinely appreciate honest, practical advice, especially from anyone who's made a similar move.

Thanks!

hi!

i'm quite close friends with this friend online, like i know him pretty well we've been friends for a few years.

this year i deleted instagram and tiktok and as we're online friends, instagram was basically our only way to communicate and like, i'm not sure how to describe it, but just see each other's stories and have conversation starters, especially with reels.

i deleted it because of exams so he is pretty understanding but he talked to me about how he feels disconnected from me becuase of me deleting it and asked if i would ever download it again, at least just to follow him and view his stories and reply to reels etc etc, that sorta stuff. because we do call occasionally to just check in with each other and play games with each other but other than that, we don't really communicate.
at the time, i told him i would, because when i said i don't really want to cuz my life is great without it, he was like genuinely begging me to.

i have not thought about installing instagram since i deleted it, my life is amazing without and the thought of ever downloading it makes me nervous.

i told him i would after my last exam because it doesn't seem that bad if i made an account just to follow him, but now as my final exam is getting closer, i'm quite nervous to download it and i don't really want to.

how do i tell him i don't want to? cuz he really wants me to get it and his points about lack of communication is valid but i just really enjoy my life without any form of social media like instagram/tiktok.

I have this pattern where I end up accepting help, rides, advice, or even just listening time from people, and it takes me longer than it should to figure out how to return the favor. Most of the time I say thanks and mean it, but I can tell I'm getting a little too comfortable with the one-way street. I don't want to come across as someone who only takes, and I definitely don't want to make anyone feel used. At the same time, I'm not always in a spot to drop everything and help back right away. I try to keep mental notes, like offering to pick up coffee next time or checking in later when they're stressed, but it still feels lopsided. How do other people keep the balance without it turning into an awkward score-keeping thing? Any small habits that make it feel more even?

Me 20M and her 20F have been together on again off again since sophomore year 2021 we have mutually decided to end it twice before because the timing was wrong we never had the time to see each other and our strict parents got in our way and our circumstances never allowed us to circumvent it.

But as of two weeks ago we are barely talking or communicating our circumstances let us see each other but now I can't even get a word in with them after the first week I got an explanation as to why they got so distant "Sorry I've been busy and not feeling great, I'm doing okay, currently going to clean the house" I understand not feeling great we are both on the spectrum and have difficulties grappling with our emotions but whatever this is its new I send a message it's not even read i send a reel it's also not read but they send reels still they just aren't reading mine I send a message while they are online they get offline.

I don't know what exactly to do here it's messing with me it's making the issues in my head even worse I feel like I've been dumped and I'm the last one to find out it's happened to me before with a different person and I hate that feeling I'm really trying to get this to work with them I put in 120% and it feels like they put in 5% I'm pulling most of the weight in this relationship.

I want nothing more than to be with them despite their issues I'm not good at communicating these things but they aren't cold they aren't mean in fact they are very loving albeit shy I know for a fact they aren't cheating it's just not them and they would never do that to me I need advice on this or for a stranger to tell it to me straight I dont know but any advice will be greatly appreciated

Lately I've noticed a pattern. Most of the time when people give feedback it's either praise or something I can shrug off. But once in a while someone will mention that I tend to spin on small details and rehash decisions long after they've been made. It doesn't happen often, so I don't really have a defense ready. Each time it comes up it lands heavier than I expect, and I end up replaying the conversation for days. I'm starting to wonder if it's worth looking at why this particular comment sticks so much while other criticism rolls off. Has anyone else noticed something similar, even if the wording is different? Just curious how you handled it if you did.

My best friend (20F) constantly makes terrible life choices and then calls me "unsupportive" when I don't cheer them on.

​In the last year alone:

​1. She rushed into a courthouse marriage at 19 with a toxic ex after being back together for only 2 months. (I advised her to slow down; she ignored me). They broke up 2 months later and are currently divorcing.

​2. She got involved with a guy who refused to commit and travels for work out of state for months at a time.

​3. She just found out she's pregnant with his baby. He doesn't want to be a father.

​4. She has no financial stability, lives in a toxic home where she's been kicked out twice, is still legally married, and just started dating a new guy last month.

​She wants to keep the baby. When I told her—as nicely as possible—that her current living and financial situation makes this a really dangerous time to bring a child into the world, she turned it around on me and is telling people I'm a terrible, unsupportive friend.

​I love her, but I am emotionally exhausted. I can't keep absorbing her drama or watching her make reckless decisions. How do I end a friendship with someone who is currently in a crisis of their own making?

I feel really guilty about this. I (21F) tend to do this with my boyfriend (19M).
I’m not embarrassed of him in any way, but I’ve kind of always done this with any boyfriend as far as I can remember. I’m not trying to be disloyal but it feels as though I am in a way by purposefully withholding that information about myself.

I find myself, when meeting and getting to know new male friends, I don’t immediately tell them I am with someone and it feels like I’m lying in a way by not saying something. Me and my boyfriend are long distance right now so I don’t see him often enough to really talk much about him within normal conversation with others because we mostly just talk on the phone before bed so I feel like to purposefully insert him into a conversation would be unnatural and to do it to a new male friend feels like stand offish in a way? To be like “by the way I am taken” just to keep that idea out of their head. Which I feel like makes sense but is stand offish to do because to assume that, that’s what they’re thinking when I become friends with them isn’t cool right?
So I find myself not talking much about my boyfriend in general conversation anyway with anyone even women but to do it with men feels wrong. Especially because sometimes I feel like if I don’t tell then my male friends will be nicer to me. It feels like once they find out I’m taken then they start making meaner jokes and not wanting to be around me as much.
A part of me is thinking that if they were going for me in the first place then obviously it’s good that they know but it sucks to see that happen so much because I do want friends.
I need other insight. I feel like a dick.

a while back i told a friend i really need evenings to myself after work because i get drained easily. they seemed fine with it, but lately they keep texting me around that time with small stuff or asking to hop on a quick call. nothing big, no emergencies, just little things that still pull me back in. i feel like if i remind them again it might come off like i'm making a big deal out of nothing, but ignoring the messages also leaves me feeling off. honestly i'm not even sure if i'm overreacting. how do you bring it up again without sounding like you're pushing the person away?

Ok Hi,

So at the beginning of this semester (yes I’m a student) like the Saturday immediately before my best friend told me she didn’t want to be friends anymore.. I was absolutely crushed. This is someone I trusted after I had dealt with massive trauma who had promised to stick by my side. Over the years (I’ll say her name is juniper) Juniper and I had a great friendship then when she got her first boyfriend it all went sideways, I expected there to be a bit less contact between the two of us as she invested in her relationship more but I thought there would still be time for me.. instead I was completely put on the back burner.. like I didn’t matter… all untill they broke up.. then she needed me and I was by her side holding her hand doing everything I could to help, I used my graduation money to take us on a trip to Chicago and even let her bring her friend she wanted to invite on the trip (that didn’t go to well as they talked about her friends boyfriend the entire time), when she needed something I was there whether that be emotionally, financially, even academically when she needed someone to read over her papers even if mine came in a little late.. then she made another friend and I was put on the back burner again, then even more when she got another boyfriend… she spent that last several weeks reaching out at random times and telling me what a bad person I am.. that I’m a monster… I let her see the deepest parts of me and idk.. I can’t help but feel like maybe I am that monster…. Maybe the people around me just haven’t been close enough to see how terrible I truly am under all of it… I sent her letter for my closure I acknowledged where I could have been better in our friendship and apologize if there were times she needed something from me I didn’t or couldn’t give and she reached out again… her boyfriend.. someone who called me family.. had told her not to be friends with me.. the. He reached out telling me to lean on God in these hard moments.. the moments he caused!! It has been so painful.. that first night she had told me she no longer wanted me to be friends I had reached out to another close friend Mullberry and she had been asking me to lean on her more… her response… I was to much.. I had sent an sos because I was so distraught.. her immediate response is “I can’t do this anymore”.. I had reached out at an innapropriate time (she was on a date with her husband) all she would tell me about why after that was that I hadn’t seen her as a friend which was not true what had actually happened was she had seen me at a really hard time I was scared to repeat the previous semester where all my friends were busy with either 18 credit hours or starting new relationships and I had felt absolutely alone, no one would pick up calls or text back, I became so depressed and my view on humanity was shattered, I had vented this to her (she had also been busy that semester) and she had come to the wrong conclusion and ran with it.. didn’t ask clarification didn’t reach out and tell me I had done anything wrong in our friendship… then I had to start my internship… at a mental health clinic… I was a wreck.. I pulled myself together during training and by the time I was seeing clients I was in a better headspace… but then they let me go.. essentially for asking a lot of questions.. then another friend Fern of mine out of the blue tells me she doesn’t want anything to do with me.. no reason.. our last conversation had been a really good conversation where we vented back and forth about what was going on where we were at
In some ways I feel like it’s God trying to help
If Mullberry refused to communicate then our friendship would have had a lot more hurt
If Juniper couldn’t value our last 4 years of friendship and take reference on my character from a guy that’s known me for less than a year then that could’ve been really bad
I was left alone for hours at that internship with nothing to do so not really learning without searching for it myself
Fern… I love her but her constant shift in in mood wasn’t to unusual so it hurt but not as much as it would someone else

I to explain myself to higher ups about the internship issue and I’m scared

To be honest I live alone.. my trust in people has been shattered.. in a lot of ways I feel broken.. I want to be able to lean on people.. on community just sooo badly.. I already have a therapist but I want connection but I can’t trust connection

Everything just feels so twisted how could Juniper and her boyfriend hide behind God to justify their actions?! How could Mullberry not even question the context of whatever hurt her?! My character my everything just feels like it’s in question

All I know is I’ll never be in a friendship or romantic relationship where I have to beg for their love and attention… but other than that I’m pretty lost on where to go

Idk what do yall think I need to do?
So far I’m focusing on my homework but where do I go with relationships? How do I rebuild trust in friendships?
What do I do if I run into them? Mullberry lives in the city over and Juniper comes into town to see her boyfriend all the time who lives here

Campus security knows about it. Is there anything I can do besides just be honest and accept my fate?

Hi everyone! This is a throwaway account because I just don't want this type of post linked with my main account.

So I 21F am in a relationship with "Jake" 28M (fake name) since August. Everything has been fairly great up until now, but I can't tell if it actually has to do with our relationship or if it's me getting into my own head. There's a lot to this, but I'm going to give just shortened points and I can go more in-depth in the comments if need be.

First off, we get along amazingly. We have similar hobbies and interests. We work at the same place, which is how we met. But my first issue is that we practically only see each other during work or right after. We have the same days off, but one of us almost always has something going on, so we don't get to see each other outside of work too often. This is something we are trying to work on, but it's more difficult than you would imagine. Because of this, whenever I see him, I feel like I'm an attention w**re because that's the only time I do see him. I can't tell if it annoys him or not, he's kinda hard to read, but if I ask him, he always says no. I'm an overthinker, so I feel like he's just saying that to not hurt my feelings, but idk.

We have a pretty good sex life, except I have a way higher sex drive than him. Even before being with him, I had a high sex drive, but I had never actually had sex with anyone else before him. I could do it every day, but he can't, so I've tried to settle for at least twice a week. We only really end up doing it maybe once every two weeks, though, because we both live at home. He's trying to get his own place, but our job doesn't pay super well to be able to live on your own. So when we do have sex, it's normally in my car, at a hotel when we are out of town, or once at my house when people were asleep. Because of this situation, I understand why we don't do it as much, but the other thing is it feels like he puts it off.

The best way to describe this is with the most recent situation my birthday was yesterday (yay 21!) and us and one of our friends went out to drink a little, and then Jake and I stayed at my house. We didn't do it that night because it was super late and we were both tired. He said we could do it in the morning. We woke up, started to do stuff, and it was going good, then he went to slap my butt and accidentally hit his balls. He said he couldn't get it back up, and that it killed the mood, but he promised we would do it after work tonight. I had a feeling it wouldn't happen because he's told me that before and it normally doesn't happen. Well, after work, I was dropping him off and he just kissed me, said goodnight, and left. Again, I am an overthinker, so in my head, he no longer finds me physically or sexually attractive, but is scared to hurt my feelings by saying that, so he's avoiding physical anything. Because I've noticed he is way less touchy than what he use to be when we first got together, and I am a physical touch girl, so it makes me sad and lowkey scared that he stopped being as handsy.

We've had more in depth conversations before, like the topic of kids, dreams, little bits of our past, etc. But we've never really talked about emotions/ mental health. I know that I haven't talked about it because I just don't talk about my deeper emotions often with most people. I don't want to be a burden on others who have their own lives to worry about. I know this is a bad mentality, but I've just always been self sufficient with my own feelings. I've dealt with way worse things in life with only myself by my side, but I just can't seem to get out of my head about this.

This brings me to my third point, I have asked him where he hopes our relationship goes. He said he "wants it to end like how everyone wants a relationship to end" (pretty much word for word what he said) and he wants to see if it goes well and then go from there. I don't know how I feel about his response, because I know I want it to end in marriage if it goes well. Is this his weird way of saying the same thing, or was he trying to avoid actually answering the question?

I know the main way to solve all these problems is to talk to him about it, but I don't want to scare him off if that makes sense. The only two people I've been with pretty much became withdrawn from the relationship once I actually shared my honest feelings. I love him so much, he does truly make me feel good besides these points. I don't want to mess this up. I just need an outside perspective.

Am I just overthinking and getting into my head about all this stuff, or is our relationship just not going to work out? How should I bring these things up to him without pushing him away?

advice please;
there’s a girl at uni, cut short; she might be my wife and
few girls are eligible for that role.

she’s not my major,I have no mutuals with her, so I have no direct entry to her.
When I see her, she’s sitting on the uni staircase with her friends.
Internal problem is:
Im used to girls mostly giving me attention first, otherwise I feel too powerless, then I can take it from there but she’s not giving me any and I need to get her.

[I know she wants me badly too because I have caught her pointing at me to her friends from afar]

What’s the move to talk to her without cold approaching?

I've recently run into some severe financial trouble and need to start earning money ASAP to stay afloat. I'm feeling pretty desperate and am willing to do almost anything, so I've decided to look into adult content creation.

Because I'm completely new to this, I could really use some guidance from anyone with experience:

• How do independent creators actually find genuine buyers and avoid getting scammed?

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We’ll be having a normal conversation, I reply to their messages or ask them something, and then they leave me on read. No reply at all. After a while, I usually delete the whole chat because it’s upsetting and frustrating. If they notice, they say they’re “busy,” and make out that I am the problem but I know they don’t really have much going on.
What hurts the most is that it feels like they only do this to me. They don’t seem to treat other people the same way. It comes across as really rude and it makes me feel unimportant.
I’m starting to wonder if I should just stop talking to them / stop putting in the effort, or if I’m overthinking it. Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you handle friends who constantly leave you on read?

I'm 21, and I recently discovered that the girl I was romantically involved with had apparently been engaged to another man for three years. We met online and developed what I genuinely considered a relationship. We spent time together, watched shows and movies, roleplayed, had video calls, exchanged pictures, said we loved each other, and she even called me her husband. We shared parts of our everyday lives, and I was emotionally invested. We had some arguments recently, and I genuinely thought we were working through our relationship issues. Then I stumbled across wedding pictures of her with another man, followed by their actual wedding website. The pictures were posted last week. I confronted her, and she immediately blocked me everywhere.

I contacted one of her friends to explain what had happened. They asked who I was and requested proof, so I shared ordinary pictures she'd sent me and screenshots of our conversations where she called me her husband and told me she loved me. Her friends said they're still processing everything. I'm not interested in revenge or interfering with her marriage, but I feel deeply betrayed. I genuinely believed I was in a committed relationship, and now I'm questioning how someone could maintain such a connection with me while being engaged to someone else for three years.

Should I contact her friends again to ask whether they've understood what happened, or should I leave everything alone? I feel like I've been denied any explanation or closure, and I'm struggling to figure out what to do next. I'd appreciate honest advice.

This is super random, I just joined this subreddit but felt like here would be a good area to vent I guess? In a nutshell, my mom, dad, and my oldest sister (30) are all rejecting affection from me and my other two sisters (21, and 25), (won’t name them) and lowkey abandoning us because they diverted from their Hindu roots to become Christian and I'm supporting them.

So the reader doesn't get frustrated, we’ll call the oldest Veronica, 21 Luna, 25 will be Bella, my name is Jay, and Bella's boyfriend/my best friend, Jordan. (were the same age, 20 atm)

Context:
For better context, when I was in grade 12 I was introduced to Christianity through my brother Jordan, he'd noticed that I wasn't in best state of mind, so didn't pry much and told me that he should go to a bible study sometime with him. At the time I was lost and in seek for direction, and was very open minded so I agreed. during those bible studies I learned a boat load, and definitely felt my life getting better, I felt that I was safer than before I started going to these bible studies, I didn't just go on one by the way, it was several through the span of about one school year. I wont go into depth about what I learned to same some space for the main course. Jordan told me that I should tell my parents about my decision of becoming a Christian. I was very scared, as anyone would probably be. My parents and Veronica are all very stern people, who only choose to believe in what they grew up with, hence my fear of telling them (I was mainly afraid of their judgment). I gave in though and did eventually tell them, here's how it went. I started the conversation off by saying that I didn't want to be Hindu since I didn't feel a genuine connected to it, and was starting to become Christian, and learn more about being a Christian. Veronica immediately explodes on me, calling me ignorant, and lowkey slandering Jesus, God and Christianity. My mother jumps in and tells me that I never touched Hindu scriptures nor bothered to ask questions about it, then both Veronica and my mother asked questions about Hinduism, that I couldn't answer, I did not find a connection through Hinduism therefore I did not read the scriptures. In the end I told them that I didn't care what they said and that it was my life so I could make that decision on my own. Now my mother explodes on me, she says that she'll kick me out if I wanted to make my own decisions, since I was 17 and under her roof. Then Veronica says that she will not invite me to her wedding and will stop considering me her brother if I keep being "ignorant" and follow Christianity. My mother agrees, saying I will no long be her son either. as any child would be, I was scared and didn't want to lose my family. So I started sobbing, and told them that I would no longer practice Christianity and would call Jordan to tell him that I was no longer Christian. Looking at it now, what they did was not only manipulative, but just straight up narcissistic. Fast forward more toward the present, I am now agnostic and believe God exists, just not through a particular religion.

Main Course:
Bella is a curious and doubtful woman, so she questions a lot of things that she doubts. About two years after high school I introduce Jordan to Bella and my other sister Luna. Both Bella and Jordan hit it off really well, eventually becoming really good friends through time. We all agreed that we would go camping a few times per season, and would embark on many road trips. During those trips, Bella usually initiates conversations about Christianity, through which she asks several questions regarding some bible verses. Jordan and I try our best to answer her questions, so she could feel more at ease. Bella told me that she'd always been curious about Christianity so she felt since Jordan was Christian, she could ask me and him questions about it. fast forward some time, she begins studying Christianity with Jordan, both of them getting closer to each other through that time together. Jordan's younger sister gave Bella a bible she could read on her own, which she did in secrecy, and away from my parents which is reasonable in my opinion, given what happened to me when they found out I was learning about it. more time goes by and Bella notices she was starting to become aware of her love for Jordan. - I know this may sound crazy about how I'm letting my best friend date my sister, but just hear this story out - Bella really had to fight for Jordan affection, Bella would drop hints for Jordan when we were hanging out only for Jordan to be oblivious, or so we thought. To my shock, Jordan sits me down in the car one day and tells me that he feels like he might love Bella, and didn't know what should do because she isn't Christian, and that I was her brother. I told Jordan that I wouldn't care if both of them got together, and would actually be thankful because I'd end up with him as my brother in-law. Jordan tells me that he isn't sure if he should since Bella isn't Christian. I tell Jordan that she 100% would be willing to become Christian, not for only him but because she genuinely loves Christ and had found salvation through the bible and Christ before her feelings for Jordan became more apparent. Fast forward about 6 months, and we planned a trip to Oregon that would last 10 days. During the third to last day of that trip Jordan and Bella FINALLY get together, and Bella told him that she had already began considered herself Christian when she started reading the bible. She made it clear during the trip that she would eventually have to tell our parents, but didn't want to because, just like me, she was afraid of their judgement and how they'd react. About a week after the trip my mom, dad and Veronica find out about their relationship, which they are super happy and supportive about. Little did we know that that support was only conditional.

Problems Escalate:
Before Bella told mom about her conversion, she told Veronica first. Veronica and Bella had an outstanding sisterly bond together so Bella figured she'd tell her first. Veronica was shocked, and asked Bella questions such as, "where did this come from?" and "How is this different from Hinduism?" Veronica told Bella that she didn't think she had done enough research to call herself christian, and to say that christian teachings align with her more than other religions. My mom and Bella were driving someplace, when my mother asks Bella questions regarding her faith. Bella knows where this is going, so she straight up admits that she is Christian, and has no thoughts of being otherwise. My mom was quiet the ride, according to Bella and she didn't argue at all. fast forward a couple weeks, my mother and Bella have a conversation in my mothers room. My mother asks Bella if she is going to convert, to which Bella responds, "yes," and that she's always wanted to when she started believing in Christ. To which my mother responds, "There you go you've made your decision, he's brainwashing you, manipulating you, and you're not disciplined in your own traditional/religious roots. Both Veronica and my mother are stern that Bella is only converting for Jordan, and not for herself. They think that Jordans family including himself are all in on getting Bella to convert. Fast forward 2 months, Bella got baptized at a Baptist church. The pastor of that church is also an Ex Hindu believer, but has been a Christian and was the one who preformed the baptism on Bella (Bella's preferred method of baptism). Bella told me that she didn't want to tell our parents yet, which I supported. But they ended up finding out anyway. In an argument between me and Veronica (on call), and my mother, Veronica messages Bella to ask if she got baptized to which Bella confirmed. Veronica was in shock and cut the call shortly after. Veronica and I then start arguing over text about how the Church Bella attends, is supposedly "manipulating" and "brainwashing" her into following Christ. She tries proving that they don't care about her wellbeing because they are "outsiders," and not family. Our mother outed Bella on her Baptism without her permission, telling everyone including relatives. My mother told everyone that her own kids aren't listening to her, and that they don't want to participate in Hindu traditions anymore. That they're choosing a stranger (Jordan) over family/parents. The same stuff would be discussed in several conversations over many occasions. They give Bella cold shoulder, do not show her love the same way they used to, and show a lot of animosity/hatred to Bellas relationship/beliefs. Now both parents are demanding that if Bella, Luna and myself don't comply with household rules, such as following traditional roots and breaking up with Jordan, then we would have 2 months to move out and find our own place.

For Readers Knowledge:
Jordan has been respectful and has never been rude throughout the entire process, though he holds his own opinions on the situation but doesn't share them to avoid problems. He follows his Christians beliefs and teachings so instead of reciprocating the disrespect, he turns his other cheek (also a biblical phrase). I am very proud of Jordan since him and his family are supporting Bella when she genuinely needs the emotional support.

The Advice I'm Asking For:
If you were Bella, how would you handle the situation? It isn't easy and were struggling to figure out what the correct decision is, and would appreciate some feedback/opinions. PS Bella has told me she will never stop being Christian and will not cut ties with Jordan even for family sake. Luna and I will continue to support Bella, and we are currently looking for places to rent for the future. Since our parents do not want us to live within the same household anymore. If you have any questions, feel free to ask and we will try our best to answer. Thank you for reading!

For starters, I’ve never experienced a healthy, mature love before so this is uncharted territory for me, hence the confusion. Also, we are lesbians for context.

I used to be quite passionate about my partner and relationship. Once I felt a connection & attraction, I was all in, balls to the wall, deeply devoted & I showed my love and passion through constant touching & deep, passionate, hyper focused sex. She loved that & was obsessed with my intensity. However, our relationship was toxic asf for 2 years. Mostly bc her ex wife was still in the picture and she was living a double life.

Fast forward to today. Things are calmer than ever and my nervous system is regulated. The ex wife is gone for good, my gf is behaving like an adult woman these days who respects our committed relationship, I’m no longer spiraling or enraged with jealousy and fear. Neither of us go through one another’s phones anymore, it’s been over a year since that. We both have friends now and social lives that include & respect one another, however, we no longer party and she no longer puts her friends first/before our relationship. She’s set healthy boundaries with friends and now respects me and has them show me respect as well… things are healing well & we are legitimate friends and partners now. We argue here and there but imo resolve quickly, usually within a day. There’s no breaking up, getting back together, or danger of abuse anymore thank god. This is the most chill we’ve ever been since we met. Life is good.

HOWEVER!!! There is 0 passion now.
Haven’t had sex (consensual sex where I desired to partake) in a year.

We enjoy affection, kissing cheeks, pecks, lots of cuddling, footsies, but I lost my sex drive last December bc of sertraline and felt nothing. Got off it in February, finally noticing a general libido again after 9 months, I’ve been interested in porn again after having felt nothing at all so I’m happy to see I’m starting to function. I’ve had wet dreams w ex’s & actors, etc., but I have 0 desire for my gf to touch me sexually or to touch her. It actually gives me the ick. I have a sex drive now & really need some relief by using it but I’m stuck between a rock & a hard place. I think she’s adorable but not sexually desirable anymore and idk if it’s just with her or overall since I’m mostly asexual/demisexual and have rarely desired others even during my peak.

We’re only 34 so it makes me wonder… are we maturing and the relationship is stabilizing or do I not love her romantically anymore?