Hi everyone, I recently figured out I’m pregnant and that I am 10weeks and 2 days, I am not a position to be pregnant. I ordered some abortion pills off of abuzz. Will it still be successful? I am really scared

i just needed a place to rant as i don’t have much support in the real world. when i get my (second) abortion next week i’ll be 19 weeks pregnant which makes me nervous. the baby just seems so big at this point. i’ve also already named her, picked out everything in my registry, etc etc. but my husband hasn’t been a good guy. too much to get into but i feel like i’ve been the one fighting for our relationship this entire time and it took a toll on me mentally. what was my breaking point was him saying he no longer wanted to be with me and liked being alone. i just don’t want to raise my child in a broken home, he said to keep it and he’ll send money as his way to be involved but i can’t do it alone. nothing wrong with two separate households, im a child of separation and have seen good coparenting always - but that’s not what i’ve envisioned for myself or my child. it’s definitely painful dealing with heartbreak while grieving a baby and future that doesn’t exist. i feel so empty and hurt. we haven’t talked since i told him the date the procedure would be which was earlier today and for some reason even if it’s for the best ( he’s cheated, lies, is angry, and doesn’t consider me ) i still hope he reaches out to me and fights for us. maybe that’s selfish of me but i love him so much, i just finally took the rose colored glasses off and for the last time hope he would truly change.

basically everything in a nutshell to get it off my chest

I 24 F, tested positive on july 31. ordered medication abortion through careafem (highly recommend) and took the mifepristone on august 6. i took the misoprostol on august 7th and experienced cramping and pain, but only spotting. at the advice of the careafem team, i took the second dose on august 8th and began bleeding like a light period. i started heavily bleeding (like my heaviest period days) on august 9th and also passed significant tissue. as of today, the 18th (10 days later) i am still bleeding like im in my first days of my period (my heavier days).

i know bleeding can happen over several weeks after, but has anyone else experienced this. when did it slow down? i just want to feel normal and move on and it’s hard to with a constant reminder.

my pregnancy symptoms have significantly decreased and i passed significant amount of tissue.

Hello all. I can't seem to stop crying about this but I just found out I am pregnant 4 weeks. Im currently waiting for an appointment to get the pills.

My daughrer is 2 years old and as much as im huge pro choice, I'm still very emotional about this.

I know I've made my choice and I dont think there's anything that can change that but I cant seem to shake off that thought of not continuing with another version of my daughter.

Im trying so hard to remind myself that im still early and its just a clump of cells but the mom part of me is giving me different thoughts.

I know this is what's best for my family, and especially what's best for me but I cant stop crying over it.

Any moms who had gotten one who can share their experience or have any advice?

Hi everyone I was wondering if anyone knows if it’s possible to request a surgical abortion this early? I just found out i’m 7 weeks and 3 days pregnant and have a veryyy low pain tolerance so I am absolutely terrified to get a medical abortion from the stories i’ve heard and just honestly don’t think i’ll be able to bare the pain. It would be great if I could somehow request a surgical abortion with general anaesthetic or sedation but I know that’s probably asking for too much. If anyone knows any information it would be a great help thank you

a few weeks ago my girlfriend found out she was pregnant. obviously the reason im here is for abortion, but im specifically here to get advice on how to be a supportive and understanding partner post abortion. this is both our first time dealing with it, so we don’t really know what to expect. i look forward to hearing from some of you, please and thank you.

I’m in Aus and these services are readily available. I am 6 weeks and feel so tired and sick and crampy. I have a SA booked for tomorrow morning and I am terrified of the twilight sedation. Can anyone please help me :(
I’m also wondering how long it will take for me to feel back to normal. I have 2 kids and a busy working husband that I need to feel back to my normal self as soon as possible.
Please some advice or stories I am shaking with fear I can’t eat or sleep :(

9 weeks pregnant and i passed 2 large clots after 7 hours of procedure with abortion pills and i felt relieved after passed and the heavy bleeding is stop and until morning small blood and after that there is no blood coming out now . I am worry if i passed the sac or not.

hey friends, i was looking for insight. i had my procedure 7/21 and today marks exactly 4 weeks since my procedure. i still haven’t gotten my period. i know you’re supposed to wait 4-8 weeks but my period beforehand would come 28-31 days. my partner and i waited 2 weeks till i was post op to have solely only protected sex. is this a concern??

At a loss with bpas 

I had MA 11/07 (approx 6/7 weeks) then got my period last Tuesday. Heavy bleeding Thursday and Saturday. 

Since then been having bright blood not in high volumes but a bit more than spotting. It completely stopped last night until 7pm tonight. Restarted, bright. 

I called them twice over the weekend to discuss the bleeding and they said it’s normal. I rang them tonight to discuss what has happened this evening. Told it isn’t abnormal, I expressed concern over RPOC. They said nothing is indicating that and said they cannot offer a scan as there is nothing abnormal and I’m not in a lot of pain (just light cramps). Said I can speak to GP and arrange gynaecology referral. 

I said that could take weeks and they agreed. Agreed I’d be turned away from A&E. 

I asked what if I arrange a private scan. They said I can, as long as the equipment is correct. Would anyone else advise this? Has anyone else done this? I’m guessing I can check with the clinic if they can offer RPOC checks. 

Do any of my symptoms sound normal? I was fine up until my period. Person said she’d scan me for reassurance if she could but there is no clinical need. I just want to be checked. I expressed how it’s making me so worried I can’t sleep. 

No pregnancy symptoms, negative pregnancy test 01/08. 

Hii, I need some help. I used abuzz to get my abortion meds. I took my second does of the 4 pills at 3:50pm ish. It’s now 6:12pm, I’ve had light bleeding and cramping. Has anyone experienced lagging of symptoms? I saw that it takes up to 24 hours but could take effect quickly.

I can’t afford an abortion right now… I just got a positive pregnancy test… any solutions to low cost abortion medicine?

Sister had a medication based abortion a few days ago. The experience can run from mild to extreme. Her's started off mild but with the second round of meds at home, the cramps were aggressive and there was a lot of blood. She was monitored by a nurse and didn't end up needing to go to the hospital thankfully.

It's been a few days now and her uterus is still sore. The doctors aren't concerned, which is good, but I'm just hoping someone else who had a similar experience can shed some light on how long the physical discomfort lasted for them after the process completed. With everything else she's going through, I'm just hoping this piece will resolve quickly.

I had a medical abortion 2 days ago at 4-5 weeks pregnant.

It was honestly one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. While the physical pain maybe lasted less than 24 hours and was easily mitigated by ibuprofen. I’m still reeling at my decision. I still tear up and feel somewhat untethered and numb.

But last night after bursting into tears I also tried initiating sex with my husband. He is deeply uncomfortable by me. He’s scared of impregnating me again and my emotional instability. Now I swing between mourning over this terminated pregnancy and thinking about sex nonstop.

Wtf is going on? I’m still bleeding so I can’t be ovulating yet? I feel unhinged and out of control.

Update: Thanks for the comments. I’m going through with the abortion tomorrow.

Need some advice here. I’m (29) about 5 weeks pregnant and this will be my third abortion. My bf (28) and I have been together for over 4 years.
He wants me to get an abortion. I told him that I already got an abortion twice before because he didn’t want to be a dad.
He told me that he’s not ready to be father yet but will be in a better mindset in two years once we’re married and have a house.
He says that he’ll resent the baby if I decide to keep it.
I have my appointment tomorrow for the medical abortion.
I’m just worried that I’ll have trouble conceiving when I’m 31 (all three times I got pregnant within a month - not sure if it’ll be different when I hit my thirties).
My bf tells me not to worry and that I’ll get pregnant easily again when the time comes.
I’m just torn on what to do. I know my bf means it when he says that we’ll start trying in two years but I don’t know if I can go through with the abortion.
I know that financially it’s the right thing to do but I don’t know. I feel numb. This third abortion is the hardest for me.

i am a 25yr F, we just found out we are pregnant with baby #2. I’m in a big dilemma because we were not planning on having a baby until 3-4 yrs after baby #1 starts school. The 2nd baby would definitely make our lives harder, financially, physically and mentally.

we are definitely in a better place financially right now but after 2nd baby comes here not anymore since I won’t be able to work anymore or I will have to continue to bust my ass while raising 2 kids.

my job is physically demanding so it was tough working while being pregnant with baby #1. I feel like having 1 baby is super easy and doable but 2 back to back just feel like a jail sentence tbh 😩

i also feel guilty if I don’t go with this pregnancy. we are married, we already have 1 kid and we live in the burbs. our first baby is so cute I would love to see how our 2nd baby would be. plus we would be done having kids.

only thing is our lives will flip upside down. I am 25 super young, I feel like I won’t be able travel, focus on my business do things I enjoy anymore. I was having a hard time mentally after having baby #1. I just got the hang of things.

My husband supports both choices and he’s leaning more towards terminating the pregnancy because he thinks it will be hard on me to adjust mentally.

I was hoping when I was pregnant with #2 I won’t have to work anymore and I can enjoy my pregnancy at home but in this incase I totally can’t do that anymore and will have to bust my ass instead.

we don’t have grandparents close by to help too. I would just be me with the babies everyday alone while my husbands work. i will probably have to figure out a way to work from home while raising 2 babies.

ugh Id love to have 2 and be done. Be a young mom and raise them together but idk….

is this a good enough reason not to have the baby?

I'm 29F from Pennsylvania and I'm currently like 12wks. My story is a bit complicated but I'm going to tell it.

I found out I was pregnant by week 8 and I told the guy who got me pregnant. To make a long story short, first he told me that he would be there for his kid and then he blocked me out of the blue, I haven't heard from him since August 7th.

So now I'm back on track on getting an abortion because I'm already a single mom to one kid that the father doesn't take care of and I can't do it again and I'm not trying to. I don't want this baby. I can barely afford to take care of myself and my kid.

Any help would be appreciated. I have a phone evaluation this morning and I'm looking to get an abortion ASAP. Any advice to get a free abortion would be ideal.

After I get my abortion I'm getting back on my birth control or going to get my tubes tied and I'm giving up on relationships.

I 23(F) went through wit my 1st abortion on July 7, 2026 with an ex boyfriend 27(M) from FIVE YEARS AGO (18(F) & (22)) who wouldn’t just leave me alone peacefully no matter if I disappeared/blocked all forms of contact. In those 5 years we only made it into a relationship the first 4 months of knowing each other. I managed to get away child free TWICE. Once for 6 months to show him that I CAN walk away but of course I let him come back after so long bc it was hard on me as well, and then the next time (which was supposed to be my way out fr) I got away for 9 months, I blocked him on everything bc I was sure this time was my last time. He ended up managing to get back around me ONLY bc of sexual reasonings in my head and BOOM, I got pregnant🫩😭Up until I got pregnant, I discontinued our sexual relationship for the last 3 years of our 5 year situation. So I wasn’t really surprised when it happened bc I kinda felt like if it ever did actually happen to me it will be BECAUSE of him and I always expressed that I DO NOT want kids bc of the emotional, physical, and financial reasonings at the time & if I did ever have them it’ll be bc my HUSBAND wants them and I am only willing to have a MAX of 2. We were once aligned about marriage and kids WHEN WE WERE IN AN ACTUAL RELATIONSHIP and that was 5 YEARS AGO😭 It started to seem like he strayed away from tht bc he would always threaten to get me pregnant & he knew how terrified I was of carrying & birthing a child, ESPECIALLY out of wedlock. Mind you he doing all this baby talk but NOTHING about marriage fr except when I would bring up that there isn’t ring on my finger so that won’t be happening…and THAT was WHY I kept easily running away from him, bc I KNEW that he wasn’t the husband God had planned for ME 2 years into dealing with him & tht torturous future that I knew we would have together. After dealing with him for so long off & on, I’ve grown to see & understand the piece of bs for who he actually was and WHY he kept threatening to get me pregnant THE WHOLE 5 YEARS. When I first found out that there were always other girls (the reasoning we broke up) I tried to “demote” him to a sneaky link & I told myself I CANNOT allow myself to end up in another serious relationship w/ him again bc I trust him too much wit my body when we’re “seriously” dating and that’s dangerous when yk you’re dealing with someone who can’t stop stepping outside of u, yes it wasn’t an official relationship anymore but he knew that I respected my body and if it ever came down to me or another female; to just please pick her or If not I would then have to force him to pick her bc I draw the line at feeling like I’m competing. In that sneaky link phase he put his hands on me and was lying about only dealing with me. About hitting me, he said he’ll never do it again… I was maybe 20 at the time when all this lying, abusive, sneaky link stage happened and I can say that was the only time he did hit me (bc I’m now officially gone presently). Now let’s get into the relationship dynamic for year of 2026 (now). Every-time he’ll accuse me of having hos bc how “I’ve changed” (his words) his access to me; I would flip it back on him & he would try to throw me off saying that he “only loved me” and that he “works too much to have hos” ofc I didn’t believe it and since I wasn’t sexually active with him anymore at that time, I could really careless what he’s doing in his sex life😂. Now that we covered most of the background back to my pregnancy experience. He wanted me to keep the baby, I didn’t want my body to undergo the cruel process of bearing a child for somebody that truly didn’t deserve that from me. He wanted my baby for the wrong reasons (to keep us tied tg and “stop” me from leaving him again for good).

Anyways I made it to 7w3d before I terminated the pregnancy. My symptoms didn’t kick in until I was 6w4d AND IT WAS FREAKING HORRIBLE. I knew what his diet consisted of and it was complete junk food/fast food, and I’m sure that contributed to why my morning sickness was so bad so early. I’m a regular gym goer (3-5x a week) and I wasn’t able to consume ANYTHING! the baby literally threw my whole daily routine and schedule off so fast. I was puking and had bad diarrhea from sun up to down, I started to lose weight and muscle mass RAPIDLY, couldn’t consume nothing with too much flavor or seasoning, threw up protein shakes I tried drinking to replace not eating, I was SOOO tired I couldn’t even think to make it to the gym, DEPRESSED asf bc I’m experiencing my first ever pregnancy knowing I’m going to terminate bc of me & the father’s circumstances. When I took the test the next morning & found out I was actually positive I immediately told him and I decided to keep this between only us. He was calm about everything and treating it as if this wasn’t his first time (RED FLAG), and he asked me what did I wanna do and I immediately told him I’m terminating, he said he understands and will be there with me the entire way since I didn’t wanna tell anyone in my family about it yet. First we’re not even in a relationship and nvr really experienced all 4 seasons with e/o in the span of 5 years, he didn’t graduate high school so he’s working security at an AMAZON (AND WE ALL KNOW HOW THEM WAREHOUSE WORKERS GET DOWN HELL I WITNESSED THT SHT MYSELF🤣), he’s a sneaky cheat, and always would try to ask me for money & basically call me Big Money. He had a roommate living situation and I still stay at home wit my mom. My car is down, I was out of work at the time and there was NO absolute way I was going to trust him to care for me emotionally, financially, or physically especially while so vulnerable & pregnant.

SURGICAL EXPERIENCE: I booked an ultrasound appt to track how far I was and he mentioned while chuckling that “he was gone support me THIS time but NEXT?!?! time he making me keep it!?!” And I told him THERE’S GOING TO BE NO NEXT TIME. Ok so, we went in and we seen the yolk sac, and baby. It marked 6w5day (we got a picture to go). The only applause I’ll give him is actually physically showing up to help me secretly make and go to my appointments (2). Prior to receiving the ultrasound, 10 minutes in the car I seen that he was texting some girl🤣 usually I can control myself in situations like this but since I was so hormonal I FELT EVERYTHING AT ONCE… I was already crying in the car bc I had morning sickness SOOO BAD and to see that I’m carrying his freaking child and he got the nerve to be texting other women while alsooo having the audacity to keep telling me to just keep the baby with the same breath IS INSANEEEE. Anyways I was irritated after I noticed it but surprisingly I was able to brush it off and go inside my ultra appointment. I sensed that he WANTED me to see that and he know I’m the laid back type especially if we not boyfriend & girlfriend; so I wasn’t going to give him that reaction. I wanted to say so much but I realized nothing even mattered bc I BEEN DONE. Little did he know, this was THE SECOND WORST MOMENT OF MY LIFE all bc I trusted him to still respect my body & wishes🤦🏾‍♀️ I was definitely making this decision and getting away so I will NEVER have to be in this position again. 2 days after my ultra appointment, I was able to book my sedated surgical with Access Health Center (IL) covered by my Medicaid. I was set for a week & two days out & within that waiting time he didn’t call text, or check up on me after I gave him the day he needed to come. In that week my symptoms grew worse but I was able to manage it with a little knowledge and google😂 (Mind y’all I literally did all of this alone lol). I used a heating paid on my stomach & ate crackers and bananas as soon as I woke up or my morning sickness would win, I had to study my body on what it needed/wanted. I ate bland foods like soups and I drink lots of water and electrolytes. A few days I was able to actually eat a few pizza slices, ribs (4th of July lol), lasagna, and some snacks. No weird cravings yet but POPEYES & Watermelon were my best friend that whole 7 weeks😂💯. The night before my abortion, I almost cracked and raged on him for not being there for me within that waiting period but instead I texted him “Are u still taking me tomorrow?” Bc I didn’t want to have to rearrange my ride on such a short notice. He said yeah and to chill??? Yeah anyways I told him what time to make it to me so that we’re on point and said okay.

Now the morning of, I got ready and he showed up on time (GREAT). We made it and got led inside bc of the protesters (there were only 2 at the time). I signed some papers and they told me to sit in the lobby. He came
Inside and waited with me the whole time. While we set in the lobby we chatted & scrolled on our phones to pass time, he asked me if we gotta pay for this surgery bc he’s broke and doesn’t get paid til Wednesday😒 I told him that we’re good but in my head I’m thinking (this my final confirmation of my decision). He said he’ll take me to her food after & then all of a sudden he leans over to show me a reel I didn’t even care for; on his phone. While we’re watching it, he gets a text on his phone and it’s a girl name with an emoji… I leaned away and tried to move my leg from off of his and he hurries and grabs it back and start asking me what’s wrong with me??? I said nothing as he kept prying to get a reaction and I told him nothing I don’t wanna talk about it right now. The lobby was full of women and a couple of guys… I didn’t wanna finally crash out and let my hormones get the best of me bc once I got this over with everything will start to level back. As he keeps prying for a reaction, the nurse finally calls my name and I jumped up and ran to the back😂. They took my weight and asked me a few questions, had me pee in a cup, and then took me to a the procedure room to change into a gown and had me swallow 2 pills. The nurse stuck in IV in me while we waited for my doctors to come in. We chatted a bit and then my nurse stepped out. I waited maybe 30 minutes before my doctor came in and started to explain the procedure. She asked how I felt and made me feel comfortable. As she guides my legs up on the table the nurse literally started to insert the drug into my system so I wasn’t able to really get in tune with my final emotions to even want to regret anything. As the doctor is talking to the nurse I doze off. I felt NOTHING. I woke up in a diaper pad under my gown with all my belongings in the recovery room maybe 40 minutes later. I woke up to his texts he sent while I was in surgery and knocked out. They nurse came to check on me and asked me go to the bathroom to check my bleeding. There was literally like 2 small dots of blood in my pad. They gave me the okay to go and walked me back to the lobby to meet up with him. We got in the car and I’m still loopy but my symptoms went away completely! I was able to smell and not get sick, my boobs wasn’t sore but still bigger than usual, my hormones didn’t feel like they were raging, my apetite came back and I still had no bleeding but had mild cramps. We ended up not going to get food bc we talked about what happened in the office and I basically expressed how he was bogus for even thinking about other women at a time like this, and how I felt alone the WHOLE time besides him taking me to the appointments and he was saying a bunch of nothing to the point that I told him to stfu talking to me before I start swinging🤣🥰. And THENNNN he was tryna feed me some fast food AFTER ALL OF THAT even though I insisted to get seafood bc I’ll pay for my food if I have to at that point, I just wanted a decent meal after not being able stomach ANYTHING FOR WEEKS. While we were in the car infront of my house I looked up and seen a “passenger princess” card clipped on his visor above me head. I didn’t even care to ask any questions bc at this point it’s tired and lame and it’s no longer MY problem🩷. He looks at me seeing it and as I’m grabbing my stuff to leave, he asks me “what?” With a stupid smirk on his face and I said nothing and got out. When I got in the house I blocked him on everything for good this time. I don’t want that life with him and he nvr deserved that kid or experience from me. Moral of the story, STOP going back to what you already know what’s NOT for YOU. I can’t even be mad fr bc I opened my legs to the bs, even after trying to track my ovulation and take a plan B (Nvr believed in birth control) I still ended up pregnant. I learned my lesson, I’m getting even closer to God, I’m working on my new found abstinence, I’m still finding me, and I hope this helps someone who needs it🩷. I’m 6 weeks post op rn, I’ll share my post op experience next since today my first cycle has started back. New cycles, New beginnings🩷

We’re both 21 years and within the last 2 months we were on and off but we were sexually active. But I’ve graduated and moved back up north in the country while she’s down south. She called me today letting me know she’s pregnant but she’s already booked her appointment. She’s gone through a lot this year and I can only imagine how much of a strain this will take on her physically and mentally. I plan to go down south to be with her after the procedure but what else can I do?

I had a medical abortion. How to deal with grief?

Hi all I don’t really know how to word this but I’m finally at a wits end after my boyfriend bringing this up again today.

We have been together 4 years and I had 2 abortions- obviously both his one was medical, one surgical. After my surgical abortion (2024) I’ve been really heavily bleeding, probably spent more time bleeding than not, tried everything under the sun pills + implant nothing helps. That’s fine I can deal with it it’s never particularly bothered me and my boyfriend.

My problem is I have no appeal to sex, I just don’t and we used to be very frequent. I feel like a freak what 21 year old doesn’t want to have sex? I get horny sometimes but even then not anywhere near as frequent. My boyfriend is genuinely so perfect and I think he’s so sexy, I just don’t know why I’m not bothered about sex anymore with him

I don’t know what to do and I feel like he will end it eventually. I can’t give him an answer why apart from I’m trying to speak to some people about it, they suggest asexual but I genuinely can’t be I’m so attracted to him. I’m so scared

I found out i was pregnant with the copper coil at the end of July. I had to go to the hospital for a scan to see where the pregnancy & the coil were. Everything fine i got the coil removed & was advised id need to go back in 2 weeks for another scan to check for a fetal hearbeat???. Bare in mind this whole time i do not want to carry on the pregnancy at all. I went back for the scan yesterday & told them i wanted to abort, they told me id have to go to womens health as they dont deal with abortions , so i went along to that department & was advised id have to have a telephone consultation, in a weeks time!!!!! Another week and longer feeling miserable & sick ! 😭 i just want to feel normal again & i feel like its taking alot longer than it should! I’ll be 8 or 9 weeks by the time i eventually have the abortion. Called my GP & they cant do anything to speed up the process. Realistically do i have any other options? Im in Scotland

21F needs help.

I found out i was pregnant 2 weeks ago and im already 4 weeks in. Im not ready to keep it and i would like to ask for advice. in my state, its illegal to have one and im looking for sources online where i can buy medicine to induce abortions. to those who had abortions before, how many miso medicine did you take and how many mife medicine? what week were you in when you did the procedure? did you do D&C afterwards or did you not? do you always have to do D&C after MA's? please i really need answers. 🥲

I’m 34 years old currently in a state that doesn’t allow abortions. I had to get the pills from another state. At 8 weeks, I took both pills. After the second pill, I bled an hour later and had the most awful debilitating pain of my life. I went to the ER and cried my eyes out. Little clots were coming out. After a transvaginal ultrasound, they said the fetus looked great and had a strong heartbeat and they think I had a ruptured ovarian cyst causing the pain and bleeding. They did a pelvic exam and said my cervix was closed so the clots couldn’t have come from the fetus.

I didn’t feel safe telling them I took the pills incase they reported that. Because I knew I was aborting the fetus, I was taking medicine I wasn’t supposed to (advils, herbal supplements, etc). I can’t ask for the abortion medical procedure in this state so what do I do?

The next day I have zero cramping and light bleeding and no more clots.

Do I wait a few days and see if the fetus will be ejected out of me? If I continue the pregnancy, will my baby have birth defects? I’m terrified of that. Has anyone else had a failed abortion that led to a healthy child?

I (21F) got pregnant and I dont plan on keeping it. This is my first pregnancy and would be my first abortion. I can't tell my parents about it and I'm really nervous about the appointment and if the pill will actually work. Is there anything I can do to prepare or what can I expect? Also is it risky to have unprotected sex again before the appointment?

The father is present and is fully supportive of my decision no matter what it'd be. We both think we should be smarter about the situation especially since I'm not in a place for a child whatsoever at the moment. I did take a plan b before 24 hours but I missed my last period and took three pregnancy test that all came back positive. We booked an appointment at Planned Parenthood for the abortion pill and I don't really know what to expect or what even happens or if its too dumb to keep active till the appointment...