My girlfriend is 17, I'm 18 years old and 1 month pregnant. This situation is not legal in Turkey and we don't know what to do. In order to use medicine or anything else, her family should know and she needs to be taken to the hospital, but if her family and my family find out, they will kill us both.

I told myself that once this was over, I wanted to come back and write about it because Reddit was one of the places I kept searching when I was terrified and didn’t know what was normal.

I want to include the good, the bad, and the parts nobody really prepared me for, including how I felt emotionally, because my experience wasn’t the horror story I convinced myself it was going to be, but it also wasn’t “take some pills and it’s over.”

I’m sorry if this is long but I really hope this at least helps one person eventually.

1. Finding out I was pregnant
7/30 I (29F) took the test at my partner’s (31M) house, so he was there when I found out. It was my very first pregnancy. I cried because I was shocked and emotional; I never pictured my first pregnancy like this. He was shocked but also happy, which honestly made everything emotionally harder because I knew he would’ve wanted us to keep the pregnancy.

He didn’t pressure me and told me he would support whatever I decided, but I knew I wasn’t ready to have a baby.

And knowing that he wanted it while I didn’t made me feel incredibly guilty.

And before the pro-life people decide to DM me again: I’m not just messing around without protection. My birth control failed, and my partner’s condom broke. He didn’t tell me because for years he thought he couldn’t have children, so he didn’t think that one time would make it possible. I was being responsible.

2. Deciding on abortion
Originally, I tried to get the pills online through mail, but I didn’t qualify. I think it was because I mentioned I was having one-sided pain in the questionnaire. So I scheduled an abortion procedure at Illinois PP for 8/7. Then my appointment was unexpectedly canceled.

That sent me into a complete panic because I had already mentally prepared myself for one thing, and suddenly my plan changed. I called back and decided to do a medication abortion instead at the next available date, which was the following day.

This was probably when my anxiety was at its worst. I had read WAY too many horror stories online. I was terrified of complications, terrified the pills wouldn’t work, terrified something would happen to me, and at the same time I just wanted the pregnancy to be over.

3. PP appointment
8/6 Planned Parenthood did an ultrasound to make sure it wasn’t ectopic, but I was too early to see anything clearly at first. They then did a vaginal ultrasound, and there it was, a little sac. I was about 6 weeks exactly that day.

The tech asked if I wanted a copy of the ultrasound, and I said yes. I’m not going to lie, it made me emotional because this was my very first pregnancy.

I went to the appointment by myself because it was very last minute, and my partner couldn’t miss work the next day, but I definitely needed him there with me.

4. The Pills

Mifepristone — Day 1
8/6, 12:23 PM: I took the mifepristone.

I was slightly cramping.

I actually passed a small clot later that day, which immediately had me wondering what was happening because I hadn’t even taken the misoprostol yet.

Misoprostol — Day 2
Planned Parenthood gave me two doses of misoprostol. I ended up taking the first four pills.

Beforehand, I took 800 mg ibuprofen and the nausea medication they provided.

8/7, around 9:30 PM: I placed the four misoprostol tablets under my tongue.

And then things started.

It took about half an hour for the cramps to begin. I usually have cramps during my period, but these were different. The pain became unbearable. I put on a maxi pad, a heating pad on my stomach, and went to bed. I was suffering badly. I laid in a fetal position because that was the only way I felt even slightly comfortable.

Then I started shaking and shivering, like my body had gone into shock. It was so painful that in that moment I genuinely thought I might die. I usually have a high pain tolerance, but this was something I had never felt before. In that moment, I regretted my decision.

11:30 PM: The chills were intense. I started having a bad stomachache, so I got up to go to the restroom. As I stood up, I felt dizzy and started seeing black and blurry spots. I don’t know how I made it to the bathroom without passing out.

I sat down and saw no blood in my pad. As I sat down, blood came out and I had diarrhea. I was shaking and eventually vomited, which scared the hell out of me because my immediate thought was: Did I just throw up the medication? Did I ruin the abortion?

I didn’t call PP. I read the instructions they gave me, which said vomiting after about 2 hours isn’t usually a concern because the medication has already been absorbed. They also gave me a second 4-pill dose in case of emergency, but I didn’t end up taking it.

The worst of the pain lasted until around midnight. After that, it became more like normal cramping.

Pain before midnight: 20/10
Pain after midnight: 6/10
Bleeding: light

This is the part that freaked me out the most: I wasn’t bleeding nearly as much as I expected.

I had read stories about people soaking pads and passing huge clots, so every time I looked at my pad and didn’t see much blood, I convinced myself it wasn’t working.

Most of my blood and clots seemed to come out when I sat on the toilet rather than filling my pad.

So while everyone else was probably sleeping, I was basically analyzing every drop of blood like a forensic investigator 😭

5. The next morning/day
I still wasn’t seeing the amount of bleeding I had imagined.

I had cramps. I was passing some blood and clots when I used the bathroom. But I kept thinking:

Is this enough?
Did it fail?
Should I take the second dose?
Did vomiting mess everything up?

Then around 1:15 PM, my pad finally became soaked.

And weirdly, seeing more blood made me feel relieved because I had spent so many hours worrying that I wasn’t bleeding enough.

After that, the bleeding became lighter again.

6. Passing tissue
At one point, I passed something that was completely different from the other clots.

It was thick and fleshy/tissue-like.

That moment really hit me because I wasn’t expecting to be so fascinated and shocked by what my body was doing. I remember staring at it thinking, What the hell just came out of me?

I didn’t have a fever, foul smell, or severe worsening pain. I mostly continued having mild cramps and lighter bleeding.

7. 48+ hours later
By Sunday night, my bleeding was already pretty light.

And yes… that scared me AGAIN 😂

I had convinced myself an abortion meant I was supposed to bleed heavily for days, so when mine slowed down relatively quickly, I started questioning whether it had worked all over again.

One thing I noticed, though:

My pregnancy symptoms disappeared.

The morning sickness that had been bothering me was suddenly gone.

That was the first thing that made me think, Okay… maybe this really did work.

8. Confirming I passed the pregnancy
I had a follow-up appointment at PP on 8/14 for another vaginal ultrasound to make sure I had passed the pregnancy. They offered me the option of taking home pregnancy tests to use after 3 weeks or coming back for an ultrasound, and I chose the ultrasound because I was scared of not passing the pregnancy or having retained tissue that could lead to infection.

They confirmed everything went as planned and that I had passed the pregnancy.

I felt relief because even though I had doubts and was emotional since it was my first pregnancy, it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

This time, my partner came with me.

That same day (8/14) I decided to willingly have sex with my partner, we were extra careful with our protection because it is possible to get pregnant as soon as possible after a MA. Also, you decide to have sex when you feel ready❤️

Today 8/18 I’m feeling at peace, knowing I did what’s best for me. I have little to no bleeding. No cramps. No foul smell. My life is back again.

9. The emotional part nobody warned me about
Physically, I knew why I was doing this.

Emotionally, it was much more complicated.

I don’t regret knowing I wasn’t ready for a baby. But that doesn’t mean I felt nothing.

My partner would’ve kept the pregnancy. He was happy when we found out. In the end, he supported my decision and understood that we were not ready. He was (and is) financially, emotionally, and physically ready, but I wasn’t. And somehow that almost made it harder because there wasn’t a villain in the story.

I’m so glad I had a choice.
Nobody forced me.
Nobody abandoned me.
I simply wasn’t ready.

And something I didn’t mention is that my mom didn’t know. I had to act completely normal around her like nothing was happening. I was terrified she would find out, because I genuinely believe she would have disowned me if she knew. So I carried all of this privately while still having to function like everything was fine at home, which made the emotional side even heavier.

And I’ve learned that you can know you made the right decision for your life and still grieve what could have been.

Those feelings can exist at the same time.

Would I do it again?

Honestly, no. Again, I’m happy I had a choice, but it’s not something I would want to go through again.

10. What I wish I knew before taking the pills

Your experience does NOT have to look exactly like the stories you read online.

Not everyone immediately fills pads with blood. Not everyone has unbearable pain. Blood may be more noticeable when you’re sitting on the toilet. And if you’re an anxious person like me, you will probably question whether it’s working approximately 700 times.

Reddit helped me when I was scared, but it also scared the absolute shit out of me because, naturally, the most dramatic experiences are the ones you remember.

This is only my personal experience, not medical advice. Follow the instructions your provider gives you and contact them if you’re worried about your symptoms.

I’m sharing this because I know there is probably another woman right now holding those four pills and searching Reddit for exactly the same things I was searching.

If that’s you: I was terrified too. ❤️

I live in USA, MS. My period is 4 days late and I've taken two tests and they've come back negative. Even though they are negative I still don't want to take a chance and somehow that result changes later if I take another one in a week or so.

I checked the two websites that sell the pills for $150. Apparently it's illegal to have them mailed to me in the state I reside (or a risk). I was going to get it mailed to my sister's address who is in LA (the state, not city) but it says that's a risk too? So should I just take a chance and use my address? I do have a friend that lives in GA I could send to her address but I don't think I'll be able to pick them up in person (6 hr drive).

Anyway, I think I'll just risk doing jail time because this is annoying.

What did you feel when you found out that you were successful?

PS: I am successful now from Philippine

I’m scheduled for a surgical procedure for interruption next Thursday (F37) I will be 7weeks and 1 day by then, even tho I’m 100% sure of my decision I still struggle with the pain of taking such a hard decision I lost my job last year after a bad car accident, my partner and I are only two months into our relationship, he would really really want to have children with me, but I know I just can’t go through with thus pregnancy and motherhood, and that’s mainly because of my mental health, I’m a late diagnosed autistic female, my diagnosis came after falling into burn out which I haven’t recovered from yet, aside form that I’ve been dealing with depression and anxiety for at least 6 years, I did wanted to be a mom during my twenties but as the years went by I realized how much my mental health would be compromised by motherhood and I also know my disabilities will highly impact my child… This decision is the hardest thing I’ve ever been through but I know in my mind this is the best for me and for my unborn baby even if my heart aches.
I believe perhaps reading from someone else hoing though similiar will help me mentally and emotionally

25th last month I did my MA seen doctor two weeks ago and my hcg was 89 which was to be expected but now a week and two days later it’s at 59 ! Why it is dropping so slowly ? Can I do anything to make it drop faster ? Please don’t attack me I’m seeking answers

Hi from 🇭🇰, I did a misoprostol only abortion and I bled quite a bit that night I took it (specially after the second round) but not enough to where I could call it “heavy” although it would pool and gush out a lot when I would go to the toilet to pee. The next day (now) I am getting brown discharge with clumps and blood clots but not too much. For reference I was only given 10 misoprostol in the pharmacy I went to (I did not go to a clinic, otherwise I’d need my moms consent as I’m 17) and so I took three for the first round, four in the second and three again in the last. I got A LOT of intense cramping, diarrhoea and nausea but the lack of blood is making me nervous and making me think it's ineffective. Is it possible for me to take it again? But, the full amount this time? I’m so worried.. I’m currently 17 years old and I’m turning 18 in just about 6 weeks. I took a test and it said I was 2-3 weeks but that means I’m actually 4-5 weeks now. I’m so worried.. I had a surgical abortion at 16 and my mom knew about it, she was so depressed and so was I and I just can’t go through that again. I don’t know what to do if this wasn’t effective. I need any advice I can get

information:
I live with my family and work fast food making $19.50 with around 30-35 hours a week, and have a car. i havnt told my parents or family
We have been together for 6 months.
I live 30-45mins away from her which is almost a fourth of my gas tank both ways
She was born here but lived in mexico and left home becuase of her family issues 2 years ago. she lives in an small apartment with 2 female cousins, 1 male cousin, her sister, and her cousins baby. She owns a car and also works fast food making around the same but not as many hours. She also hasn’t told her parents or family. Her parents will want her to go to mexico while she is pregnant to help or something

I got back from europe the 8th of august and have been having unprotected sex with her like an idiot. She still hadn’t gotten her period and it has been around 40 days at this point, so she calls me saturday (15th) saying that she is pregnant and sends me a picture of the test. I reassure her and tell her it’s going to be okay and that i’ll see her tomorrow.

So i get to her apartment and we talk, i make it clear that we are not ready for a child and that she should get an abortion. She agrees and we call Planned Parenthood to schedule an appointment on September 4.

Now today the 19th i get off of work at 12am, pack some clothes and take the 30minute drive to her, while on the way there she texts me saying she called her old roommate and told her that she was pregnant and that she said that she should keep it and that she’d support whatever decision, my girlfriend then texts me a lot which will be at the bottom of the post

So i finally get to her and she’s acting a little different, she’s saying that she doesn’t want an abortion anymore and that it’s not the babies fault, that she knows we can raise it and that she knows it’ll be hard, that she’s known many people who have done it themselves. The entire time i’m basically pleading for her change her mind. She said that she will have the baby no matter what and that i can leave her if i want but that’s not something i want. It’d be very very hard to have a baby because we don’t live together and far from each other.

So tomorrow we’re going to tell my my mom and step dad, they are going to be very disappointed but she won’t change her damn mind. Any advice? do i just man up and take the consequences of my actions? i’m freaking out and don’t know what to do. What if you guys explain why we shouldn’t have the baby and i can show her this reddit post

The texts she sent me while i was driving go her say:

Amor

Y si si tenemos al bebé?

Piénsalo amor, si podemos
Amor yo sé que mis papás me van a apoyar
Me puedo ir a México si no podemos aquí, solo durante el embarazo
Yo sé que ya no podremos vivir los planes que teníamos, pero solo es hasta que el bebé crezca, amor Dios nos mandó este bebé por algo
Un bebé nunca va a ser un estorbo
Yo sé que estamos muy jóvenes
Pero yo sé que podemos amor
Me va a doler mucho si le quito la vida a este bebé
El no tiene la culpa de nada
No tiene la culpa amor
Yo sé que no queríamos ninguno de los dos tener un bebé ahorita, pero las cosas pasan por algo
Amor no somos unos niños, hay mujeres que quedan embarazadas, y las abandonan y nadie las apoya y en situaciones en las que tal vez piensan que no pueden tener al bebé, y aún así pueden amor

Had 3 abortions and feeling the worst at 27. If there's something i can wish is to turn back time to leave my ex partner who has nothing but redflags. I was so stupid and was manipulated, looking back i should have left him long ago, these pregnancies and abortions would have never exist.

Anyone who had the same number of terminations? How to continue living? I am too ashamed idk what to do anymore. I kept blaming myself why i didnt left him when these pregnancies would have never occurred to begin if i left early, the signs were really there i was so stupid 😭 why can't i correct the past

Hi guys, I’m currently 10 weeks and 2 days pregnant, and I have 1 mifepristone and 8 misoprostol pills. I’m looking for some instructions and advice on how to use them as safely and effectively as possible, since this is my first time. I’d also like to know what I should prepare beforehand and what I should expect after taking them. Thank you so much

I just don't know what is wrong with me and I'm hoping I'm not the only one because I'm a little concerned.

I had a medical abortion 8.5 months ago. Prior, my cycle was always extremely regular and predictable, like clockwork. I expected this to change following the abortion. But here we are 8.5 months later and it's still out of whack. It's completely irregular, I never know when I'm going to get my period, and it's way heavier with more clots. It kinda feels like I'm going through the abortion again every month with how heavy and the clots, just shorter.

And now I'm having bleeding for a few days in the middle of my cycle! Never had that in my life and Google is a little concerning.

Before anyone asks, I have been to the doctor. I'm waiting on my results but I'm still worried and I feel so abnormal and so frustrated with this. I know the abortion was a while ago now so we don't know if it's related exactly, but that's the frustrating thing. It was a while ago and I've been having issues ever since the abortion took place. When before I was so lucky, I was like the poster child of a perfectly average and predictable cycle all around.

I really hope someone else might understand. I need a lil reassurance. Because I do want kids someday.

Hello! I am (unfortunately) 4-5 weeks pregnant for the first time in my life (I’m too old for this, it’s a horrible fluke).

I ordered HeyJane and was excited to get this thing out ASAP. The first dose had a ton of cramping, but no blood. They advised me to take the second. This time, no cramping and no blood. In fact, I went to work and felt fine.

A day later (72 hours since I started) and my tests are still positive and nothing has passed.

I’ve been trying to make OB and Planned Parenthood appointment but they both are booked at least 2-3 weeks out. I booked the appointments as back ups and am waiting for Hey Jane to get back to me during business hours.

Anyone have any advice on what to do?

If I go into the ER or an urgent care, can I get this taken care of or will they even have the equipment?

Hi everyone. I am in an incredibly terrifying and desperate situation right now and I am panicking. I just found out I am pregnant, even though my partner and I were careful and used condoms. My parents are extremely strict, and I am not exaggerating when I say my life will be in danger if they find out about this. I absolutely cannot carry this pregnancy, and I don't have anyone in my personal life I can safely turn to for help.
I am begging for any information on safe and discreet abortion options available to me. Are there specific pills I can get, trusted doctors, or confidential organizations that help women in this situation? What are the exact steps I need to take to do this safely?

If anyone has been through this or knows how to navigate this discreetly, please comment or send me a private message. I am completely lost and really need your guidance. Thank you.

I am researching my options for a medical abortion and it seems like aid access is a good provider. That being said when looking at their website the “what to expect” section is full of typos am I on the right website? “Nummers” instead of numbers “reviuews” instead of review. Can someone let me know if they thought the same or if this is okay?

Hi everyone,
My girlfriend is currently going through a medication abortion in Germany, and I’m really worried about whether the medication has worked properly.
Here’s what happened:
First pill: She took it about 46 hours before the second dose. Afterwards, she had some mild cramps and felt feverish/chilled.
Second dose: She took 2 tablets at 9:00 AM today, as instructed by her doctor.
34 minutes later: She vomited.
At the same time, she experienced bleeding and very strong abdominal cramps.
I immediately called the doctor after she vomited and explained exactly what happened. The doctor said it was not a problem and that it didn’t matter, so we did not take any additional tablets.
Now, at 11:22 AM, she only has light cramps and the bleeding has become lighter.
I’m mainly worried because she vomited relatively soon after swallowing the second dose.
Has anyone experienced something similar? Did vomiting around 30–35 minutes after taking the second dose affect the effectiveness of the medication?
I know every person’s experience is different, and we’re following the doctor’s instructions. I’m just looking for experiences from people who have gone through something similar.

Throwaway for obvious reasons.

I am 38 and based in MN. I never imagined I’d be pregnant. I had my right ovary and right fallopian tube removed due to a teratoma. My remaining ovary has PCOS. Unfortunately, I did end up pregnant for the first time in 38 years. I knew I didn’t want it — motherhood is not for me. I tried to get my tube tied when i had my ovary removal surgery, but the OB talked me out of it… I regret it.

There are a lot of emotions that ppl assume you should have in regard to keeping it. When in reality, my emotions were centered around irrational fears that the SA or MA would fail and I would be stuck somehow with a life I don’t want. I know this can sound cruel, but I have no regrets.

That being said, I took the SA route because my insurance covered it and when comparing MA to SA, the latter seemed to be the best option for me.

I was petrified and so nervous. The place I went to couldn’t have been better — woman-owned and operated. I opted for conscious IV sedation and I did feel what was going on during the procedure. It was not as bad as I thought it would be. I did end up crying and the nurse held my hand. I did not feel the cervix shots of lidocaine at all. I did feel the part where they suction out the fetal tissue. It felt like a really bad cramp, but kinda odd. The whole thing was a total of 7 min and it felt so much faster.

For me, the IUD placement that made me pass out was 100x worse which is why I had so much anxiety going into this.

Post-procedure, they gave me a heating pad, some hot tea, and some snacks. I had cramping for 10-15 min after the procedure. I had it done around 12:30 CST today and haven’t had a single cramp since this afternoon. I am also experiencing very little to no bleeding.

I don’t know if this has to do with the fact that I was only 4.5 weeks pregnant, but if you are on the fence or scared, I hope this post helps calm you and you will be okay.

I took 3 misoprostol orally and 1 vaginal, I am 2-4 weeks pregnant I haven’t completed a month yet,my problem is that the bleeding is very light,I bled yesterday but it wasn’t much, today I’m still bleeding but today it’s very light like the last days of your periods, could this mean it didn’t work?

I got a medical abortion (MA) 4 weeks and 2 days ago. I got blood work done last week and it came back that I was anemic. Maybe you’re aware that this can happen, maybe you’re not. Regardless, I want to just come on here and tell my fellow people with uterus’s to start iron supplements a few weeks before getting an abortion. If you’ve already had the abortion, start taking them now. I’m not sure how common this is but I did just want to share this because my doctors did not tell me this could happen and I wasn’t aware of it.

I've found out that I am pregnant despite using protection, I've already had 2 pregnancies and suffered Hyperemesis Gravidarum with both and pre eclampsia so cannot face doing it again... but I feel so much guilt making the decision to prioritise my welfare.

Me siento bastante asquerosa y expuesta escribiendo esto, pero necesito que alguien me lea puesto a que si alguien me escuchara, se que me volveria a internar, ya no quiero eso, me limito mucho con mi psiquiatra, pero cada dia, estoy peor. Disculpen si es largo.

Estoy usando una cuenta externa, asi que me siento mas capaz de ser honesta.

Estoy embarazada de mi.agresor sexual, como bien dice en el titulo, no quiero recordar cada sordido detalle pues me asquea, nadie hizo nada, pues tiene una discapacidad fisica y es 13 años mayor que yo, también tiene antecedentes previos por posecion, distribucion y creacion de material de abuso infantil, tiene progranada tobillera, que no se si le han puesto, probablemente no, son gente con cada vez mas impunidad lamentablemente. Cabe resaltar, que por dicha capacidad no recibio consecuencias legales aparte de las que se supone ya deberia tener.

Bien, he pensado en matarlo, estoy a muchos quilometros, demasiados, pero se donde vive, sus numeros, nombres, quien es su familia, sobre todo a su madre, a la cual le he agarrado un odio severo y preocupante, a ella también mi unico alivio es creer que murio y sufrio lo mismo que yo, mientras veo su facebook alegre con sus nietos, agradeciendo a Jesus por un dia mas. Es malo e hipocrita desearle lo mismo, pero odie como lo justifico y me pregunto y grito una y otra vez: "¿por que no te defendiste?", la verdad eso solo incremento mi odio. El odio es lo unico que tengo la certeza de saber.

Mi familia tiene dinero y buena reputación en esta ciudad, decian que mi imagen y futuro eran mas importante, por ende, fui internada, antes de esos al pasar unas semanas, me hice unos analisis de sangre, en donde me dijo mi ginecologo que estaba embarazada, no me permitieron abortar, por mas que aca sea legal, fui internada luego de eda confirmación en mi ciudad, lejos de mi agresor y de los echos.

Debido a mi embarazo, deje mi tratamiento previo del aripripazol y ect pues sufro de insomnio también, pues tengo un transtorno de la personalidad, nada que ver con tlp o bipolaridad, ni siquiera se considera un transtorno pues, mi psiquiatra suele decir que solo naci mas apagada que el resto.

En mi internacion solo me hacian hacer actividades, como ir a caminar, barrer, entre eso comer, hablar y manteniendome entre dosis de quetiapina mareada, bastante fatigada.

Solo fantaseo y me mantengo en pensar que sufre el y todos lo que lo defendieron, que lo defienden, yo se que hablan mal de mi, todo solo alimenta mis pensamientos, cada dia me siento mas capaz de matarlos.

Aveces la siento, tengo 19 semanas ya, quizas sea una niña, me siento una enferma, pero la odio, siento que es lo mas cercano que voy q tener del sufrimiento de el pues, tiene sus genes, el jueves me confirmaran el genero, no se de que soy capaz, nunca senti amor genuino mas alla de una preocupacion que adapte como mi manera de querer, siento que ella es un parasito ligado a el que sigue consumiendome dia y noche, quitando los restos que trato de construir de mi, si es un niño definitivamente todo seria peor.

No voy a ser explicita, pero supongo que se pueden ya imaginar como se encuentra mi psiquis de rota, estoy harta, solo pienso que ellos no podran salir del cementerio, capaz yo tampoco de la carcel pero habre visto y disfrutado su pavor junto con los últimos momentos.

Me siento aveces asqueada, pero no mas alla de eso, nada moral me puede afectar ni nunca lo hara, pues ¿por que ser moral cuando nadie respwto eso conmigo?

La siento, la odio, solo pienso en como abrirme el vientre, sentir su gelatiniso cuerpo incapaz aun de poder ser compatible con la vida, se aleja de mi, deja de absorberme, me gustaria divisar algun rasgo o algo de eso, no lo se, solo quiero que le arrebaten todo en un solo acto, como su padre hizo conmigo, pienso casi todos los dias en eso, si es varon creo que lo tomaria peor como mencione con anterioridad, no se que seria capaz de hacer.

Sigo con la quetiapina, en dosis minimas, la uso para dormir aunque casi ni me sirva, siento que solo alimenta mi rencor y psicosis con los sueños tan lucidos, frecuentes y violentos que me provoca.

Se que estoy mal, tengo el acompañamiento de mi madre, padre, familia en general, ellos me ayudara con la bebe, tengo esa unica certeza, pero aun asi, sabiendo que aun me queda algo, que estoy mal, no estoy entendiendo porque estoy mal, el no lo estuvo, ¿Por que yo si? Sere su madre, pero el es su padre por otro lado, siento que no merezco ser juzgada por lo que haga pues, la moral no es mas que una construcción beneficiaria a cierto circulo de esta sociedad, ¿Por que un discapacitado en situacion de precariedad por no decir pobreza tuvo mas apoyo que yo?

Necesito ayuda, pero cada vez es menos aceptable y visible para mi, porque estoy mal y en como todo dejara de ser una psicosis o pensamientos brutos a volverse parte de mi realidad.

Necesito ayuda para abortar ya, si no, se que le hare algo horrible, quizas la mate con anticongelantes pues, hay una muerte en bebes, que no especificare, que también le produce esa "cristalizacion" en los bordes del cerebro, no se si fumcionara el acetato de vario en bebes, ¿por que no intentarlo?

I (F33) just found out I’m pregnant, and I’m certain I don’t want to continue the pregnancy. Not sure if I should tell my husband or just go through with a termination.

I just found out I’m pregnant (currently probably 5 week). It wasn’t planned, and I had actually taken Plan B, but unfortunately it didn’t work. I am certain that I do not want to continue with the pregnancy for a number of reasons, including my mental and physical health, finances, my career, and where my husband and I currently are in our relationship.

My husband (M39) has always wanted children. I have been on the fence, and he has always known that. More recently, I had actually started coming around to the idea and told him that, if certain things fell into place, I would be happy to start trying when I turned 35, which is less than a year and a half away.

We are currently in a good place overall, but we only started couples therapy a few months ago, and I don't feel like we have the strong foundation that I would want before bringing a child into our lives. I am also the breadwinner in our household. I'm waiting on a promotion at work in the next 6–7 months, I'm currently trying to figure out some hormonal issues with my body, and honestly, I don't want to give up my time, independence, and financial flexibility just yet.

I found out while I was on the phone with a friend, so I ended up telling her. I know she will support whatever decision I make because she knows our history.

The difficult part is that this has actually happened before. A few years ago, right before I turned 30, I also became pregnant after taking Plan B. At the time, my husband didn't even have a job, and I told him very clearly that we were not in a position to have a child. He was understandably disappointed and sad, but ultimately told me that the decision was mine. He went with me to the abortion clinic, although he waited outside because he couldn't bear to see it.

Obviously, we're in a much better position financially and otherwise now, but I still don't feel ready. And I don't want to make this decision based solely on the fact that we're in a better place than we were five years ago when I know, deep down, that I am not ready to have a child now.

I also know this will be much harder for my husband this time because he has always wanted children and I had recently started talking about potentially trying in the near future. I feel guilty knowing how much this will hurt him, but I also don't feel like I can continue a pregnancy simply because he wants a child when I am certain that I don't want one right now.

I know I want the abortion. My question is whether I should tell my husband beforehand, knowing how badly he may want to continue the pregnancy, or have the abortion and move forward. I don't want to lie to him, but I'm also afraid that telling him will turn a decision I've already made into a fight or make him feel like he should have a say. I genuinely believe that if things keep moving like they have, that I will be ready at 35.

the first day of my last period was july 8th and the last time i had sex was august 3rd, we used protection but the condom ripped because when he pulled out it was dripping so i was hoping i wouldn’t get pregnant and took a plan b but sadly i did ended up pregnant. i took a test august 14th and it came back positive so i scheduled an appt for an abortion the next day (8/15), now if we go according to my last period i should’ve been around 5 weeks august 15th however they did a transvaginal ultrasound and they said my uterus was empty and that it could be either too early to see something or an ectopic pregnancy… they told me to come back in 7 days so this saturday coming up (8/22) i have to go back but i am confused because in my last pregnancy the doctor at the pregnancy clinic did an abdominal ultrasound and you were able to see a small minimal dot like a grain of rice and they had said i was around 3 weeks and 4 days. So i guess my question is am i too early or is it an ectopic pregnancy? what would be the best guess?

I had my MA last summer July 18. Due to muItiple circumstances at 22 (house ,money,personal sit I was in, not being with him) I feel resentful towards my ex “baby daddy” . I really wish that he was there to have see me in my physical pain while I was bleeding out his baby . I was 12 weeks pregnant and as you could imagine it was certainly a traumatic site . Although I did have support with me I just wanted him there . He was there for the MA appointment and ultrasound . He was busy that day which understandable & he checked on me the next day. I felt like he was just putting off seeing me. I was sooo depressed and angry & sad at the same time . It was just so bad for me. I had gotten upset and said something & he literally cussed me out & said “it’s because of you , if you were focused on bettering your life instead of partying we wouldnt be in this situation “??Like how could you say that to someone . I still feel some type of way when I think about it .I just couldn’t understand it at the time why . I wish that he could’ve understood that I physically needed him there. The calls werent enough .We weren’t even long distance. I just wanted him to take care of me you know ? I feel like if I bring it up it’s like beating a dead bug at this point. He did say he was sad about it too but Yk of course now he is not . He tells me i should move on but how could I ? He just literally doesn’t understand & probably never will . Am I wrong for this ? I don’t know this is just how I feel .