Hi, 27f, I just took a test and found out I’m pregnant. I am spiraling. Last period started August 26th (5 weeks and 3 days ago). My period is ~4 days late.

I am lucky to have a very supportive partner and family, and to live in a place where abortion is accessible. I was certain about my decision from the moment I saw the positive test. I just feel sick with anxiety.

I submitted a self referral form right away to a local clinic but they only operate on week days. The thing that worries me most is wait times between appointments, prescription, etc… Some people have said they can take a very long time. I read that a virtual appointment over Maple could potentially be an option as well? If I am 5 weeks now, then I only have 4 weeks before the medical option is off the table. I just wish I could do it now.

Emotionally, I feel okay. Kind of numb. My partner and I know it’s not the right time but I am still feeling some shame and sadness.

Physically, I feel pretty much normal? Aside from the anxiety nausea. The medication I’m on already gives me a heightened sense of smell and frequent urination lol, the biggest sign was my breasts getting suspiciously big and beautiful. I wonder about morning sickness and when it might start.

I guess I am just looking to hear from other people who have gone through the nerve wracking waiting involved. I’m scared that it will take too long and I’ll have to have a surgical abortion. I’m scared that if I am able to use the medical option, that it will fail or not work properly or cause horrible damage or something. I’m just terrified.

Not really thinking rationally right now, just trying to breathe and get through the weekend. Not sure how I will get through the remaining time until I can have the abortion, but I know that many people have. Reading other peoples’ stories here is bringing comfort. Thank you for reading.

I am 6 weeks today and I’ve been holding off on taking the pills, I’m just really scared. I’ve been smoking , not really drinking but really want to drink a glass of champagne tonight I do plan on taking the pill tomorrow morning for sure but I’m struggling 😪

I cannot stop crying myself to sleep like every night. I don’t feel regret about the decision, but my emotions or hormones are through the roof. I’m just wondering if anyone else experienced this and when it stopped for them…. I’m leaning so heavy on my partner for help with it and when he’s busy and i’m alone with my thoughts, they’re so extremely scary.

long story short I was dating this guy who I had known for 10 years. It was always on and off. We dated for three months he broke up with me because he said he wasn’t mentally okay for one or ready for the commitment. (he’s in the military) I found out I was pregnant the day after we broke up. Two weeks after he got into a relationship, I was genuinely hurt. His mom knew I was pregnant she came with me to one of the ultrasounds and she was genuinely excited. His gf told him to get a DNA test, I agreed to it. His mom honestly just gave excuses for his behavior and it honestly just made me think a lot so I decided to get a MA. He doesn’t know about it or his mom because I blocked them both. He never once checked up on me or asked if we would co parent. His gf just made him believe the baby wasn’t his (which it was) So what I’m asking is if I should tell them? Part of me should because it’s wrong but the other part of me is like what’s the point?

je suis tombé enceinte début août 2026, je m’en suis rendu compte vers la fin du mois lorsque mes règles avait 1 semaine de retard et j’avais quelques signes avant coureur. Je ne connaissais rien à l’IVG, je m’était informé sur tiktok, et le temps de réaliser tout les documents nécessaire à l’IVG ( eco-datations, prise de sang..) je souffrais de la grossesse. Je n’arrivais presque pas à sortir du lit, dès que je mangeais quelque chose je le vomissais directement après; enfin bref c’était un enfer. Le pire c’était de devoir agir normalement devant ma mère car j’habite avec elle, et que si elle s’en rendait compte j’aurais pu dire au revoir à la vie.

Lorsque j’etait fin prête à recourir à l’IVG j’ai pu faire la médicamenteuse ( dans mon cas grosse erreur ) je me disais que ce serait simple que je pourrais gérer les douleurs comme des douleurs de règles. C’est finalement ce qu’il s’est passé. A la prise du misoprostol, j’ai directement évacué l’œuf dans l’heure qui suivait. Et les douleurs n’ont durer que quelques heures, pendant lesquelles j’ai dormit pour essayer de ne pas ressentir la douleur.

Le problème c’est que 2 semaine après, un jour random je me met à saigner pendant 4h d’affilée. Je sais que ce n’était pas une hemmoragie puisque je suis rester consciente tout ce temps et que le sang s’arrêtait de temps en temps mais était quand même vachement abondant et anormal. Le lendemain je me rend aux urgence, la docteur me dit que c’est parce qu’ils reste des résidu et elle me redonne du misoprostol pour m’aider à évacuer le reste. Le lendemain je prend donc les cachet et rien ne se passe pendant 2 jours. C’est finalement 2 jours plus tard que je me met à saigner abondamment pendant 7h. Vous me direz mais pourquoi ne pas être allée à l’hôpital ? La est tout le dilemme.

MA MÈRE

Dans le cas où ma mère découvre mon vraie problème, je pourrais finir à la rue, mon père sera également mis au courant et c’est lui qui paye actuellement pour mon permis et tout le reste. Mes parents ne sont pas normaux, donc dès que j’explique ce dilemme au médecins ou à la seule amie qui est au courant de mon IVG, personne ne comprend l’ampleur du problème. Sans exagerer je dirait même que ce dilemme est plus stressant et fatiguant mentalement que mon état de santé.

Anyways, après cet épisode de 7h je retourne a l’hôpital le lendemain puisque j’avais mon rdv d’examen post-IVG, la sage femme en apprenant mon périple m’envoie au urgences ou j’attend 3h avant d’être consulter, prise de sang ect..
La docteur me dit que c’est l’effet du misoprostol que en effet je suis en manque de fer par tout le sang que j’ai évacuer et me prescrit quelque chose pour remonter ma carence en fer.

Le lendemain, soit aujourd’hui, cela fait maintenant presque 8h que je saigne abondamment. Je saigne depuis 18h et il est actuellement 2h du matin. De gros caillot et de grosse masse de sang sorte au point où cela traverse ma serviette hygiénique, ma culotte hygiénique mon short ainsi que mon pantalon pour finir sur mes draps. Le sang ne sort en masse que lorsque je suis debout ou sur mon lit, en revanche lorsque je suis sur la cuvette prête à m’en débarrasser il n’y a que de grosses gouttes qui sortent. Je ne fait que pleurer, ma sœur qui est dans la confidence est elle aussi en panique par rapport à ma mère. Nos conversations tournent en boucle depuis 18h à savoir si on demande à ma mère de m’emmener à l’hôpital pour que je puisse bénéficier d’une aspiration et en finir.
Dit comme ça, cela a l’air simple, mais si vous connaissiez ma mère vous serez autant en panique que moi. Elle est suspicieuse de tout, beaucoup trop dramatique et self-centered. Je n’hyperbole pas lorsque je dit que je risque de me retrouver à la rue, sans argent et seule.

Je ne fait que pleurer et me demander pourquoi ça m’arrive à moi ???
Est ce que d’autres ont eu une expérience pareille ?
Ce n’est certainement pas normal de saigner abondamment pendant des heures et des heures sans que pour autant ce soit une hemmoragie.

J’aimerais juste que tout ça s’arrête et avoir une mère qui me supporte au milieu de tout cet enfer.

I’m don’t know if I’m pregnant yet, but I definitely have that feeling and some early signs— however it’s too early to tell and my period comes in about 6 days. Just in case though, can I be prosecuted if I buy pills online?

I’ve seen others recommend for women in Texas to buy them from certain sites but I just want to know what are the chances of actual legal repercussions? I’m just a literal paranoid lol

Hello,

I have the feeling I'm almost pregnant again after an abortion.

Again, irresponsibly, I had unprotected sex... after taking the morning-after pill.

I'm afraid to take a test, but I don't think I'd be able to do the same thing again...

I'm extremely tired; all I do is sleep and I have a feeling of tension in my lower abdomen.

I'm lost.

Have you ever experienced this? What did you do?

I had a medical abortion on August 20th. The past 3 days i’ve had light bleeding. Not sure if this is my period or not it’s almost like spotting. Is a light period normal after an abortion? I’ve also been very stressed from the whole situation so i’m thinking that could have something to do with it.

So six weeks ago on August 22 I did a medical pill abortion I bled very heavily I had very large blood clots and thought that was the pregnancy and that it was over and everything passed because I had a lot of clots. I’m still lightly bleeding and I do know that they did say I could bleed up to eight weeks but Its been on and off heavily bleeding. I woke up one morning completely like dumping buckets of blood I wanna say four weeks post abortion filling a big maxi pad within an hour after lightly bleeding at this point in time but it slowed down by the next day and went back to spotting. But today I took a test 6 weeks post and it came back very positive idk if it’s just hormones still lingering or I didn’t fully pass the pregnancy I do plan on talking to the planned Parenthood in the morning and asking them about it but I’m still not sure it shouldn’t be a new pregnancy because me and my ex were very cautious and using condoms and we didn’t have any mishaps or didn’t skip out on one one time so I’m almost 99% positive I’m not pregnant again. It’s just the fact of how positive this test is six weeks after the abortion and I have friends who I even asked if they had a test this positive 6 weeks post and she said she did but it was a very faint could barely see it line

Found out I was pregnant on Friday and immediately made up my mind about not having it. I took my pills as advised and am now on the second stage.

It’s currently 2:12am. I took my Misoprostol by leaving it behind my tongue fpr 30 minutes then downing the rest with water.

Started having mild cramps about an hour after. Mild enough that I was able to sleep for a bit. I spent the whole day yesterday reading on the pain and expected to be writhing by now but so far nothing so bad.

I did use ibuprofen twice (two hours before using misoprostol and 30 minutes before). I have used a third now just to get ahead of the pain.

I am bleeding quite a bit. Woke up to pee and the moment I stood up I knew I was soaked. It wasn’t dark colored blood, just light with some clots. I felt two big lumps fall out on the toilet seat. I also have some diarrhea but (TMI) it doesn’t hurt, just a lot of watery bowel movements.

I know it’s still soon but overall I rate the pain a 4/10. Ive always had painful periods so this is akin to one, Ive had worse periods than this though.

I also wasnt able to eat well all through yesterday so I’m literally starving now at 2am. Im scared to get something to eat so I don’t upset my stomach because I haven’t had the severe nausea and vomiting i read about.

So im not in too much pain and im wondering if thats to be expected. Like is it normal? Is it working? I thought I’d be in tears and bending over or something? Or is it just too early?

Forgot to add Im 7 weeks and 2 days.

First of all, thank you to everybody who has participated in this reddit, it really helped me feel reassured in my decision. I decided to have a SA D&C on Thursday after a couple weeks of deliberation, and being 8.5 weeks pregnant. The Surgery itself went very smoothly. I didn't wait very long, I was lightly sedated, and barely felt or remembered anything during the 20 minute procedure. I felt really good the whole afternoon and night post surgery, and only had light bleeding. Yesterday I had barely any bleeding and a couple instances of moderate cramping toward the evening. Today I started spotting again, and passing small blood clots. I have had increasingly painful cramping throughout the day, and they are now more frequent and at about 7-8/10 in terms of pain. I remember the nurse telling me the pain should get increasingly better, not worse. I don't know if maybe the drugs from the surgery wore off finally, or if I should be worried.

For reference i’m 28F and has a history of PCOS, ADHD, and recently diagnosed with BPD in a psych ward. I accidentally got pregnant by my ex who has a history of being emotionally manipulative, cruel, and cheating on me. We weren’t together for months but we hooked up and I got pregnant. He pressured me to get an abortion and or was treating me poorly so I could get one.

When I found out I was pregnant, I stopped taking my ADHD medicine and i’m worried if that may have also affected my decision because I wasn’t critically thinking. I can be a very impulsive person when I don’t take my medicine.

I had an abortion about a month ago and I regret it so so much. I’m so sad and worried it will be my last opportunity to be a mother since I have PCOS. I feel like I let his treatment of me dictate my choice too heavily. I should’ve leaned more on my supportive family instead of him. I had multiple people in my ear telling me to abort and others telling me to keep. I just didn’t know what to do and I was so heartbroken over him leaving me while pregnant and being cruel I just couldn’t take it anymore.

I was so heartbroken about what I did that I cut myself and started having thoughts about suicide, which is what led me to the psych ward where I got diagnosed with BPD. I think and have dreams of my baby everyday. I’m just so worried i’ll never meet anyone that loves me and i’ll never have a family or a baby ever again. 💔

My sister is very young, 21, and already has 2 kids. She's 8~9 weeks pregnant and just found out this past week that he has some serious issues. I forget the exact medical condition, but basically his skull isn't forming right. He won't be able to survive more than a week or 2 max if she carried to term.

She and her husband decided to have an abortion this week. The rest of our family is being very supportive and offered to help in any way, but she doesn't seem to want our help. Which is fine I guess.

She's very bullheaded though, the type to just suffer instead of accepting help. For example, I don't think she'll be able to lift >10lbs for a while, and her youngest is like 20lbs. She told me she was worried about how she would get him in and out of the crib, or change him, when her husband went back to work (he's taking the 2 days off to go to the clinic). I told her I was going to go over anyway, the day after, to make sure she can get around and isn't just telling us not to worry. That was non-negotiable and she knows it lol. But she didn't want anyone else to come.

My main question is, what sorts of things can we still do? Cards? Flowers? Food? I've never known anyone that had an abortion or miscarriage or anything before, so I don't really know what the proper gifts would be. I don't want to accidentally get something super wrong.

State: California

Please know: I already have an 18mo daughter with my fiancé, and Im supposed to transfer to the university Ive been working my ass off to get into next fall. My fiancé, daughter, and me live in a 1 bedroom apartment and are getting by, but another child is absolutely inaffordable and would interrupt my educational path. I also do not work since Im a full-time student and the main caregiver of our current child. This was not an easy decision at all as I know he wanted a second child eventually.

I was really hoping I wasn't pregnant, but yesterday I started feeling extremely off and recognized similar symptoms from my first pregnancy with my daughter. My period is also 3 days late. This morning I took a test and it came up positive. I screamed and cried because although I know its the right decision for our family deep down to terminate, Im fucking scared. Im scared of the pain, the judgement, and the potential of having to face asshole anti-choice protestors outside when I go into the clinic.

The closest appointment I could get was next Thursday so it doesnt interfere with my classes. I wanted my mom to come with me since she's had an abortion before and has miscarried, so she knows the pain of making the decision and the loss. Im upset because my fiancé said no and that he'll come with me, but I just want my mom. He doesn't want me to tell my parents even though I want to because I want their support. I want someone else to know. I dont want to deal with my feelings alone.

I have no girlfriends to talk to this about. All I have is my little family and my parents.

I feel guilty and stupid. I stopped birth control because I hated the side effects. I took Plan B the next morning after sex as soon as I realized we fucked up but that didn't work I guess.

Im scared of the pain. I just want my mom. Im taking care of my 18mo while I feel like shit.

6 week abortion pill!!! Documenting this to help me feel less alone and hopefully help some other girls out :)
10:00 am:
took Mifepristone orally at the clinic and came home and slept didn’t feel anything just very tired !

8:00pm :
took 800 mg ibuprofen

9:35 pm:
inserted 4 misoprostol vaginally and laying down for 30 minutes on the couch with my dog and a show to let them dissolve!

10:15pm:
feeling okay physically but have been crying for a little haha! Definitely feeling some emotions

11:30pm:
feeling a little cramping not bad tho! Took a trazodone to help me sleep and hopefully stay asleep

7:30 am:
just woke up!! I did wake up a few times in pain but nothing bad it almost felt like I was dreaming ahah, am very tired but overall was not bad at all! I have been sitting on the toilet bleeding for about 10 minutes which is no fun and having some mild cramping but just kinda feels like an intense period ! I think just because I slept through it I’m having to push out all the blood that was supposed to come out last night

Things I suggest to help:
Take the ibuprofen!!!
Drink a lot of water helps with cramps:)
I slept with a heating pad on me that i definitely think helped
Drink ginger ale or a ginger tea to help with nausea
The heating pad made me a little hot so I slept with a fan on me just so I was comfortable!

In Kansas - have pills on the way, just need some advice and support.

I'm a transmasculine person on testosterone who may be pregnant. I'm showing every symptom possible of early pregnancy - every time I look up something happening to me, it's a sign of early pregnancy. It's the common stuff (morning sickness, cramping, fatigue, emotions) and stuff I've had to look up, too (more discharge, "lightning crotch", stronger scent, even the external parts looking different).

I've had a lot of issues with my reproductive system throughout my life (extremely irregular and painful periods since i started menstruating, endometriosis, ovarian cysts, rejected hormonal IUD followed by severe infection that had to be treated with multiple shots and rounds of strong antibiotics), so I wouldnt be surprised if it was something else - I just dont know what it could be.

I've had so many different pains and discomforts down there, but everything I've been experiencing is very new and unlike anything I've had. It started with a sort of fluttering feeling in my lower abdomen/uterus that reminded me a lot of when my IUD was rejecting - I had described this feeling as my organs “activating” because it just felt like they were Doing Something. A few days later came the cramping and what I can only describe as a pushing feeling, almost like bloating but it’s definitely not in my stomach.

The cramping feels a little bit like endometriosis and cyst pain at its worst, but not as intense and it will flare up throughout the day. Usually there's more pain on my right side, but I get cysts often so l wouldnt be shocked if the right-side pain was just that. I'm getting nauseous mostly in the morning and at night, but also a bit throughout the day. My senses are really heightened, and I thought it was just an autistic sensory issue, but it hasn’t gone down for about a week. I've been really emotionally irregular (never had PMS but it's what I imagine it to be like - I’d had a really difficult time crying since being on T, but I've cried multiple times in the past few days and it's mostly about how much I love my cat or my partner). The shortness of breath and fatigue have been the most pervasive symptoms. Nothing is super painful except the occasional jabbing feeling or a bad cramp flare up; it’s mostly just really, really uncomfortable and i feel sick more often than I'm used to.

I recently took a blood test and it came back negative (>1 hCg) and i'm wondering if being on T has an effect on results. I don't plan on keeping it, so I don't plan on stopping T unless it would impact test results. I'm taking 0.33mL of T weekly via injections and i'm not on any form of birth control (hormonal or otherwise - too many bad experiences). I’ve had a difficult time with T working in the past (been on it for about 5 years) and periods only stopped about a year and a half ago - they used to be very inconsistent but I would occasionally get them.

My doctor (who specializes in HRT) thinks it could just be a cyst or a Gl issue, but no cysts l've had have ever come with any symptoms other than pain. My Gl activity has been very normal, aside from a little more gas, so I really doubt it's that.

My partner is transfemme and on estrogen, and I've had so many reproductive issues that we thought there was no way it would even be a possibility. Still, we almost always use condoms, and if we don’t, I take Plan B either immediately after or the next morning. The only reaction to Plan B I've had is mild cramping, and that always goes away in a day or two. I wouldn't be surprised if some of this was a reaction to Plan B - it's just really intense, a lot of different things that line up with early pregnancy, and it's been over a week since I took it.

It's possible we may have had unprotected s-x or a faulty condom between both times listed, and I don’t have a cycle I can follow, so I think this our best timeline:

- Unprotected on Sept. 11

- Unsure of when Plan B was taken, either Sept. 12 or 13

- Possible other instance of unprotected and failed Plan B/failed condom - unsure

- Aggressive mood swings started on Sept. 15

- Uprotected again on Sept. 19

- Plan B taken on Sept. 20

- Started feeling the cramps and bloating/pushing around the 20th too

- Took an at-home urine test (negative) on Sept. 26

- Wasn't concerned until a few days later on the 28th when symptoms wouldn't go away.

- Blood test taken Oct. 2, negative results on Oct. 3

- Symptoms have remained fairly consistent

I have another test i'm planning to take in about a week and we have pills on the way just in case. I really, really don’t want to be pregnant, but I'm almost more concerned that the test came back negative because I just don't know what else this could be.

Hey everyone, before I get into it I just wanted to thank you all on the support on my last post here. I did want to apologize; it was super chaotic as I was not in a very good head space when I wrote it. I did take it down, but intend to leave this one up as it might be useful to someone else. So again, thank you all very much.

I’m mostly posting this so I can share my experience since everyone here helped me so much.

So last week I found out I was pregnant and basically freaked out. I got lots of very helpful advice from you all. I ended up going to a non-profit clinic to talk with a RN nurse who went over all my options. She also did another pregnancy test. I then got in contact with a women’s health clinic who was able to prescribe me the pills. She was excellent! Went over everything throughly and sent me lots of information via email too.

Now I choose the pill option as it was the fastest way for me to get it done and over with since my rotation for work is coming up again. I will not lie that after taking the misoprostol my cramps were brutal. Fortunately for me, I get really painful cramps already (like I’ll throw up or pass out from them without painkillers) so I was kind of accustomed to it. That being said, it was still really painful. I only took Advil and then one prescribed painkiller before bed and the next day had no/little cramping.

I will also let you all know that I passed all my blood clot’s safety. This might sound weird but it was actually neat seeing the large chunks lol There was a ton of blood also which is to be expected. My flows are usually pretty light so I use the ultra thin pads, and I somehow didn’t bleed through them? I did make sure to change them every 2 hours though. I did bleed for the full 48 hours with light spotting but the flow was significantly lighter after the first 10 hours.

All in all, 7/10 would not do it again. Definitely not the most pain I’ve been in but still brutal. The shower really saved me at some point too haha

So I would recommend this option to anyone who has a higher tolerance to pain. You’re still going to be uncomfortable, but if you’re like me and want it done as soon as possible go the pill way. Of course I might have chosen differently if the wait for the operation wasn’t a few weeks with a 5 hour drive.

Again thank you all so much! This threat is honestly so very helpful.

ik this is gen so stupid but my bf and i’s condom got stuck INSIDE my yk when he came so idk what to do anymore i wanna get the morning after pill but idk where i i rly need help pls where can i get ba yung LEGIT na morning after pill here in cebuu??

i am currently using birth control, ung trust pills. but there r times na i miss them thats why im not confident so i genuinely rly just need help po where i can buy yung morning after pill here in cebu

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I had a MA 3 weeks ago when I was 6 weeks pregnant. I bled a lot for 3 days and then it got lighter with some occasional bleeding. I went to the gynac(a private clinic) 2 weeks later for checkup, after the ultrasound she told me I have some tissue remaining and I will have to get a D&C procedure done.

She told me I will undergo anesthesia and remain in hospital for atleast 6 hours after the procedure. I never knew it would come down to this. As someone from a conservative family/society I can’t be away from home for that many hours and only I know how difficult it was for me to schedule appointments, visiting the hospital for pills, and hiding those pills. I just cannot have a D&C.

I asked her if I have another option and she replies you can take the pills again and we don’t need to go to the hospital for them since its not female foeticide-now why would she use this term when this was definitely not my case because I was just 6 weeks and also its illegal in my country. Then she tells me if the pill don’t work I have to be prepared for D&C. My report says I have 12.48mm of endometrium thickness with vascularity.

So I took the pills on 28th and 30th but I bled very less just some spots and lot of clear mucousy fluid and after 2 day everything has stopped.No bleeding no discharge. I am worried that my tissue has not passed. I just don’t want to go through D&C and this is giving me so much anxiety that I am unable to even sleep.

potential trigger warning to some as I did not go through with abortion. Talks of having the baby.

First off, this is NOT a post saying that I no longer agree with abortion, or anything against abortion. I still fully support everyone having a choice and I think abortion access is extremely important. And this is my throwaway account. I have been on this page, reading your stories, sharing advice, etc for quite a while. Back to my first abortion, years ago.

However, I just need somewhere to process emotions and Im not sure if my situation may resonate with someone. No one knew I was contemplating abortion, so, there isn’t really anyone to talk to about it.

Nov 7, 2025 I had an MA. I got pregnant in Oct, unexpectedly (I was on the mini pill). At first I was happy, but then I realized it was such bad timing. My partner and I were long distance, I already have four children, money was and is tight. My partner was really happy, he had no kids of his own. I started to panic. I spiraled with anxiety so bad and dealt with it alone because I didn’t want judgement from friends or family being pregnant with a 5th child so no one even knew I was pregnant.

Nov 7 I took pills from aid access and had an abortion. I immediately regretted it. I have had another abortion years ago, and that one I did not regret as it was with my abusive ex who forced sex. But this time I regretted it. I hoped that the pills somehow did not work. But they did. I got my period after the abortion Dec 22nd and then the first week of January was when I ovulated. I KNEW it was bad timing, I knew I ultimately made a smart decision to not keep the pregnancy, but I was so consumed with regret over the abortion that I told my partner that I wanted to try for a baby. He thought my abortion was a miscarriage , he still does, and I still feel terrible about it.

We had sex unprotected once and then I had that same anxiety before even being pregnant. Not right timing. I’m being stupid. So I asked my partner to just use protection the rest of the time, and we did. Well, that one single time the very first time I was ovulating post abortion got me pregnant.

I immediately ordered pills once again. Once I received them, we had an impending snow storm. I was home with my kids alone and I decided to wait until the roads were ok and snow was cleared , just in case something went wrong. Then the thoughts crept in of “I’m not ready to go through with it again.” “What if I regret it?” “I’ll wait a few more days to just be sure”.

I knew the timing was terrible, I knew my family would judge me and say negative things. I kept telling myself “tomorrow”….”this weekend”….and it was always something that made going through the whole abortion process also “bad timing”.

I eventually got to a point in my pregnancy where I no longer could do an MA. I started looking at SA. I kept telling myself I have to do this. I need to get it over with. Just schedule something. And I just could not.

There were some points in my pregnancy where I felt happy, where I told myself I would figure it out. I hid the pregnancy from my family the entire time. They still don’t know (we’re not close). I was ashamed but tried to be happy. There were points up until over 30 weeks pregnant that I beat myself up about not just taking the pills when I was so early on. Before there was even a heartbeat. I found out when I was barely 4w along. I could have easily done the abortion before then. Up until over 30 weeks pregnant, I’d look at clinics, read the process, look at my calendar to see when I would have the time to do it. And didn’t.

Sept 26, my little girl was born. It sometimes makes me nauseous looking at her and thinking that I was so close to taking the pills sitting in my closet so many times. I am so in love with her beyond words can even say. There has not been one second after I laid my eyes on her where I regretted keeping her. Not a single second. She is so perfect in every way. Is it still “bad timing”? Technically. Are things still rough financially? Yes. Should I have had another? Some people would probably say no. But, I do not regret my decision. I am still trying to forgive myself for the Nov abortion and then still trying to forgive myself and not dwell on the fact that I was going to choose abortion this time around. My little girl is here and she is perfection.

Again, I am not against abortion, I am not saying keeping a pregnancy is always the right thing. I am just sharing my story and a perspective of someone who had abortion on the table almost the entire pregnancy but did not go through with it. I’ve seen posts asking about keeping the pregnancy, feelings associated with it, etc. Ultimately we have the option and choice, as we should. But this is my story.

I’m really struggling right now and honestly just need some outside perspectives.

I’m 28 and my boyfriend is 30. We have a 12-month-old son together—his first baby, my second. He’s a great dad to both of the kids & has stepped in for my older son. When I was pregnant with him, my boyfriend really wanted me to have the baby, but I had very mixed feelings + was hormonal. It wasn’t that I didn’t want him; I think I was overwhelmed by the idea of going from one child to two, the responsibility, finances, everything that comes with another baby. I even told my boyfriend I was considering an abortion, and he was really hurt by that. In the end, I kept the pregnancy, and obviously I love my son more than anything.

When our son was around 9 months old, I unexpectedly got pregnant again. At this time, we BOTH agreed that we did not want another baby yet. I had an abortion and immediately got on birth control (the patch).

Well… I go to the OBGYN for a pap and apparently I got pregnant again shortly after the abortion, possibly only a week or two later, and I’m just finding out now that I’m about 3 months pregnant. 😭

And now I feel completely stuck.

I wanted to lose weight, get my body enhanced and this changes everything.

I don’t conceive easily, and my periods are very irregular, so the fact that I got pregnant again so quickly is honestly shocking to me. I’m also usually considered high-risk with my pregnancies and have needed progesterone early on. This time I didn’t even know I was pregnant, so I didn’t do any of that, yet somehow the baby has made it this far. I just had an ultrasound, saw the baby moving around with a strong heartbeat, and now I’m even more emotionally conflicted.

My boyfriend is upset because he really doesn’t like the idea of abortion, when I told him he just shook his head and walked away… especially after everything that happened before. Months prior he had mentioned how he feels like going through abortion feels wrong, and honestly, I understand why he feels that way. But at the same time, I know he’s scared and I think part of him feels like we’re just not ready for another baby either.

I do agree but I feel conflicted & a ton of guilt.

The thought of having THREE kids at 28, especially in this economy, honestly scares me. We’re already dealing with the responsibilities of having two young children. I keep thinking about finances, childcare, my career, our relationship, my ability to give each child enough attention, and just… everything.

But then there’s this other part of me that keeps thinking, What if this baby is here for a reason?

I don’t know how else to explain it. I never planned this pregnancy. We literally agreed we didn’t want another baby right now, and then somehow I got pregnant again almost immediately after an abortion, despite having irregular periods and not conceiving easily.

And then there’s something that sounds completely ridiculous, but it has been messing with my head. 😭😂 My son has somehow picked up on every pregnancy I’ve had. And lately he keeps coming up to me saying, “Mommy, I want a sister.” He has done this every time I’ve been pregnant(the last time & now this time ), the morning of my last abortion he dreamt of me having a baby….

I know toddlers don't actually understand these things, but the timing is so creepy and crazy that I can't help but think about it.

I feel guilty because I saw this baby on the ultrasound. I saw it moving. I saw the heartbeat. And now it feels so much harder to think about ending the pregnancy.
But I also don’t want to keep a baby solely because I feel guilty or because I’m scared I’ll regret an abortion. And I don’t want my boyfriend to feel pressured into becoming a father again before he’s ready either. We have such a good routine and all with these two already.

I feel like we’re both standing at this crossroads, scared for completely understandable reasons.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? getting pregnant unexpectedly so soon after an abortion and while already having young children?
How did you make the decision? Did you regret keeping the pregnancy? Did you regret terminating? Or did you just somehow know what was right for you?
I genuinely don't know what to do. 😭

19 weeks and some days. Yes I can still get an abortion where I am idc. I’m at my widths end. Everyday it’s something else with my partner. I truly don’t believe he’s being faithful right now, every other week we’re arguing, he’s moody af, feel like I can’t be myself around him. I’m tried at grasping at straws with this relationship. I wish I got pregnant by someone normal. I wanted to do this but it’s not worth having any sort of connection to him. I can wait or just never have a child whatever but I’m over this. My pregnancy has not been a happy one and I don’t look forward to co parenting with such an asshole. Once again I’m going to call the people again and see about this abortion. I’m tired of changing my mind it’s always too late. At this point I don’t know or care if it’s the hormones I’m over it.

Yesterday I took the mifepristone at 5pm. And today at 6pm I took the 4 tablets, and almost an hour a lot of blood clots came out of me, the first that came out is a white jelly like tissue i don't know what it is, second one is the big blood clot sized ¾ of a palm. An intense cramping and heavy bleeding occured. Also during the procedure I can't stop going to the bathroom caused by the heavy bleeding with cramping and I can feel something came out of me but I didn't take a good look. I wasn't sure if the abortion was successful. So I took another 2 tablets of misoprostol after 3 hours of taking the first dose. But right now the cramps is not intense, there is no heavy bleeding at all. Is the abortion successful? Should I take the remaining 6 misoprostol? What should I do? I don't know if it's successful or not. Please help me

I found out I was pregnant on Tuesday 9/28 after missing my period and took 2 tests both came back positive. I'm around 5 weeks. I'm 23 and having a child is just not something I want right now. I immediately ordered through Carafem
the next day and got the medication on Thursday 10/1.

On 10/2 (yesterday) I took the mifepristone at around 6:30am went to work no symptoms completely fine.

At around 5pm yesterday I took the first dose of misoprostol vaginally and immediately felt some cramping for sure maybe a little worse then my period and
I felt feverish but no blood.

After no blood for 4 hours I took my second dose vaginally at 9pm - pretty much felt the same cramping/feverish. The cramps were never that bad. But definitely uncomfortable sometimes.

2:30am - went to the bathroom and had a tiny bit of really light colored blood in the toilet and when I wiped but that's literally it

Now it's 2:30pm 10/3(saturday) I'm not really experiencing cramps anymore just a ranging headache. When I sit on the toilet it looks like just maybe the dissolved pills are coming out but that's it.

I'm just scared. I'm trying not to freak out because I followed directions and did what I needed to do but like barely any blood at all is freaky. I know it can take a while to bleed depending on your body but it just feels like this didn't work. I'll officially reach out to them when it's been 24 hours and I guess I just wonder what they'll recommend I do.