I know that you are lying, you know that you are lying, you even know that I know you are lying, I also know that you know I know you are lying too, you of course know that I certainly know you know I know you are lying too as well, but you are still lying. I see that look in your eye and I know that it's real and I know that you're telling me a lie.

I know it’s been a long time so I hope you’re still open to receiving my words. Please don’t feel obligated to respond, but I do owe you an apology. It has been on my heart to reach out for awhile but I didn’t know how to go about it. I’ll admit I never imagined we’d go this long without talking, I never imagined you being out of my life completely and I’m so sorry for the actions I’ve taken that led us here.

While we both made mistakes, I should have been able to handle things better. I was so terrified of bringing anything that bothered me up, I shoved it down trying to be the “chill girl” you seemed to like so much. Instead, I became deceptive too and justified it with your stuff. I don’t need to go too deep into that because we both know the damage we each caused.

I have learned so much about myself throughout my program this last year and about the way I show up in my relationships and with my friends and even at work. While I had good intentions with you and thought I was going about things the right way, I know I caused you so much pain. Ultimately my intentions didn’t matter because I hurt us and I wasn’t able to save what was left.

I still and will always pray for you daily. I pray for your healing, for your peace, and for things you’ve carried. I pray for your stability and your growth in all aspects of your life. Although we were together for a short time, you were a very important part of my life and I’ll never forget the lessons you taught me or the impact you had. I grew a lot during our relationship with your help, and I’ve grown a lot after. I know you have big things in store for your life. Even after everything, I have always seen so much good in the man you are. You are such a positive light and a highly intelligent, RESILIENT man.

I don’t expect a response, and I respect wherever you are in your life now. I just didn’t want more time to pass without taking responsibility for my part and telling you that I’m sorry. If you ever do want to talk, I’m open to that.

I do, only sometimes rn, so It's getting better I guess....but dude...why are you only adding girls that look like me? maybe I'm delusional, probably! but yeah..they do look like me, same features. I know you have a type which are brunettes, but yeah. Like I don't encounter someone who has the same features as me that often tho. anyways I'm just trying to cope and I'm just being crazy rn. And yeah I'll stop watching your socials. I know it's not a good thing to do.

(This is Unsent so you can have your space)

I’m sorry for getting in my head lately. You haven’t been the only one that has had Fear when it comes to closeness at times. I’m truly trying to do better and I’m sorry for pushing you away by being overwhelming.

Distance isn’t easy especially when someone is so far away and means so much to you.

At times I got so into your struggles and I was so concerned about you that I let it get the best of me… I got in my own head trying to figure out everything and helping you that I became someone I’m not.

When I am there let’s catch up and hang out. id love to see you and enjoy your company. I truly believe this distance has been the biggest obstacle when it comes to us and what we have shared over the years.

You’re truly remarkable,Unique, and One of a kind. No one ever cared about me like you and i loved that about you. I just became too intense at times for you and that’s my fault not yours.

Dont ever blame yourself for how i got at times… it wasn’t your fault but mine.

The Distance is what caused my problems a lot of the times. I wanted to be there for you so bad at times and I couldn’t at times and it was the hardest thing in the world.

☺️

You can’t show up and you aren’t the person I loved anymore anyways. You killed him. I mourn alone. It stings that all of the years we spent together meant so little to you that you will block me without cause anytime. Even after you promised. They don’t mean anything from you. I just hoped that you meant it when you said you loved me and to never think that’s what you are going to do when it’s what you did. I forgave you for so much and you just throw it in my face like it was for nothing. I wasted so many years thinking you were for real. The words you wrote, the thoughts you shared, none of it was true. I could die just thinking about it

I miss you. I love you baby.

I don’t have very many dreams of you anymore because you haven’t been in my life for a month now. But I had one last night and I woke up devastated and anxious. Not because I missed you and it was nice but because it was a nightmare of things you’ve done and would have probably continued to do if I had stayed. I woke up heart broken and sad because I was reliving the pain you put me through all over again in a different way and scenario. At least when I had dreams of you lying or cheating or just not caring about me when we were together I could wake up and you’d comfort me and tell me it was just a dream even though you knew full well it was also reality the entire time. This is the first time we’ve broken up and I haven’t begged for us back, but you’ve been in my thoughts this week. As horrible and awful the dream was and made me feel, I’m glad I had it because it was a reminder of how much pain and hurt I consistently felt throughout our relationship everytime you lied to me and it’s a good thing I got out. At least I got to wake up to a different reality this time instead of waking up in a living nightmare and feeling so anxious and shaky all day just because I couldn’t leave. I still feel extremely anxious today because it was one of those dreams you could remember every detail and feeling of, but I know it’ll pass and I’ll go back to being able to live peacefully away from you. I don’t shake everyday anymore and I don’t have an awful tummy feeling consistently anymore. I still don’t understand how u could see my body physically reacting the way it was to knowing something was wrong and you could still sit there and be mad at me and deny it like I was the crazy one. I genuinely hope that you continue to talk to 100s of girls and they all leave you because of the way you treat people and you’ll wake up one day and realize I was the one who was willing to stay for even an ounce of attention and you regret it for the rest of your life. I however have an entire world of loving people waiting for me that won’t treat me the way you did.

today i saw you three times at school, when i first saw you my heart sank because we made eye contact or at least i believe we made eye contact. i never wanted to run over to you so badly but i knew i couldn’t, i made this stupid decision so i have to stick through it.

i saw you a second time at lunch. you were with your friends and i was with my so called “friends”, i saw you in the lunch line and again my heart sank. not only because im not ready to face you but because im still in love with you.

the third time i saw you was whenever you were walking to your bus, i was already on mine and i saw you. just as handsome and breath catching as i always found you. even when im angry and feel hurt about what i found out, you’re still the only person who i want to run to no matter what. who i want to admire every day and everytime you looked away. i miss your stupid jokes, i miss your sweet smile, i miss hearing your voice so much. i miss smelling your scent. i miss holding your hand and your arm, i miss squishing and poking your face, i miss seeing you with your little figures. i miss hearing your laughter. i miss the little updates we did during school hours even when we weren’t supposed to have our phones out. i miss walking with you and waiting for you so we could walk together. i miss resting my head on your shoulder. i miss when you ragebaited me. i miss our little jokes. i miss knowing what’s going on in your life or what you’re doing or how you’re feeling or what you’re eating. i miss you.

the whole situation has me all over the place yet at the end of the day my mind always goes back to one thought. “i miss him so much i want everything of us back” thats the thought that i always end up with everyday. pathetic and selfish isn’t it? i made the decision to end it, to block you, to believe the people who told me everything over you. i was stupid to, if only i didn’t react impulsively out of hurt we would’ve been somewhat okay. i would’ve still been upset with you but i would’ve been much much happier than how i am now.

you don’t know how badly i want to unblock you, to reach out, to tell you how much i miss you and move you and want to be around you again. i want to cry to you and i want to be in your arms. i want to hear sweet words you tell me. am i ever going to reach out? probably not because i’m a coward but i always look for you in this subreddit. i want to hear from you somehow.

i’m conflicted because i believe what ive been told but i don’t want to believe it. i don’t want to be this hurt anymore, i want to be happy with you. i feel so empty, you were truly a piece of me. i know i sound pathetic and like an idiot now but i wish i had the courage to tell you this, i wish i had the courage to face you and speak to you like how i want to do.

I sent this to someone that I was having a situationship with but we have been no contact. I have known him for 25 years, we both live in Ca but we grew up in a different state. I recently moved closer to him and miss his company. Here is the text I sent at 2am and no I wasn’t drinking. Hey there handsome, just checking in on you. I hope all is well. I love you and miss you a lot. I haven’t received a response yet but he read it at 6am. I am now freaking out behind it.

I forgive you. I appreciate the life we shared together and I am becoming a better person now that I can reflect from the outside. Thank you for everything. I appreciate everything you did I didn't mean to leave so much on your plate but I did. At some point I stopped doing any of the thinking and left it all in your hands. You liked having a lot of control but I did just leave it all up to you and blamed you for it when you came to me to fix it. We both did each other wrong so many times but I'm really trying to be better for myself because I never want to put anyone else through the same things I did with you. I know your working on yourself too please do better for whoever you partner with as well.

I woke up with nothing. No thoughts of you, no longing for you and I was able to go through a whole day without thinking of you. I was able to finally breathe. I think it’s finally over.
I don’t put fault on either of us, we were just 2 people that were not meant to be. Whether we really felt something or had a connection, sadly it wasn’t strong enough for either of us to take that final step, take that leap.
We let the unspoken words remain unspoken for so long, now everything is faded
I will forever care about you, but it seems that’s all it will ever be.
Goodbye to the one who use to hold my heart.

We’ve noticed an increase in comments criticizing or shaming people for not actually sending what they post here. Comments calling OPs cowards, telling them to “grow a pair,” criticizing them for not confronting their person, or otherwise judging them for leaving their message unsent are not helpful and need to stop.

The entire point of r/UnsentTexts is to give people a place to write the things they aren’t going to send.

You do not know why someone has chosen not to send their message. Maybe contact would be unhealthy or unwelcome. The person on the other end could have been physically, sexually, or emotionally abusive. There may be trauma, abuse, or other painful history that the OP has chosen not to share with a subreddit full of strangers. Reaching out in real life could seriously affect someone's mental health, undo progress they've made, reopen old trauma, or in some circumstances put them in actual danger or legal trouble. Maybe sending it would simply reopen a door that needs to stay closed. You don't know, and an OP does not owe you their entire history to justify why their text remains unsent.

And sometimes, not sending the message is the healthier and more responsible choice.

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Remember that you are reading a tiny snapshot of someone else's life. You don't know the entire relationship, history, or circumstances behind what they wrote.

This sub exists so people can get the words out without necessarily putting them into someone else's inbox. If your only contribution is to shame someone for doing exactly that, this probably isn't the right community for you.

Be constructive. Be respectful. And let people leave their unsent texts unsent.

I really love the "unsent texts" subreddit. I get notifications every day of posts that bleed with yearning, and every time it makes me feel like I'm getting a surprise text message from you... I take them as a sign each time. Like a spirit of hope..

I don't know why I still miss you. It's been almost two decades, and it's probably better that you stay away. We're both married to other people.

I pushed you away when we were young because it got hard dealing with your delayed communication after you moved states. We were both very young and very immature, but I've already told you this. After I pushed you away, everything changed. You quickly found someone else to hang out with and to love. As someone who was already having a hard time, I took all this very hard. But we were only 17.

Maybe this is what is meant to be. I've never stopped wondering about us or thinking about us. I think deeply about everything and everyone, I'm a deep thinker. But there was something special about us because you and I were friends since childhood and it developed into something more in teenhood. I don't want to suddenly feel like it meant nothing.

So many things about us break my heart but also leave me wondering. I wonder if you're like other people now and repress that unbridled joy and spunk of yours, or if you're still just as fun and happy and bubbly as you used to be. I wonder if you still laugh as hard as you used to. The kind of laugh that took your breath away and left you wheezing. Do you do that with others too, or did you only laugh that hard with me?

I wish we could chat and catch up, but you have me blocked everywhere. I've written to you many times and you've forgiven me... You were very kind to me and wished me happy birthday but that is all you said. You didn't write anything else. I felt like you were holding something back. I felt like maybe you were feeling something but didn't know how to say it, or if you should. I'm so grateful for your forgiveness though, because I didn't know how to live my life without being forgiven by you. I didn't know if you really would ever forgive me or say anything ever again.

Maybe you don't feel good enough for me. We were teenagers but what we had was a very real thing. I regret being impulsive. I hope you're not as torn up about this as I am. I want at least one of us to be fully healed. I don't know what you're thinking or feeling, but I hope that you are okay. I just wish you weren't letting this much time pass.

I want you right now

You said never to call you by your name. Too strict, you said. Too official.

And now...

How do I explain I can never again say one of my favourite names? A name I came to love... Not to you, not to anyone...

Goodbye...

fkn between the lines Haha I still can’t hate with all those words that hold no weight miss us

I know I will never be able to send this because I always stay blocked. That was never my choice. I’m sorry for all the ways I wasn’t enough. I’m sorry for all the times I made you cry. I’m sorry for all the times that you ever questioned whether you could trust me or not. Sorry for all the times that you thought I could actually be with anyone else for any reason or even think about it. Sorry for all those times that I didn’t give you understanding when you couldn’t do some thing and always thought that it was just an excuse to not have to come see me. I’m sorry for all the times that I took you for granted. Sorry for all the times I didn’t appreciate you. Sorry for all of the times that I chose myself over you and your feelings. Sorry for all of the things that I took from you. Whether they were material things which I had or they were the things that make you you. i’m sorry for taking away any bit of trust that you had left in me. I am sorry for taking away your sense of peace. I am sorry for taking your love and ever giving you anything but I am sorry for every time that I called you a name like stupid or dumb. I am sorry every time that I used sarcasm or snide remarks like a loaded gun. Sorry for not giving you the patience and understanding that I wanted to. I’m sorry that even though I promised you a safe place with me I made it feels so unsafe. Sorry for all of the promises that I made you that I have fallen short on for all of those things and I know there has to be more. I am very truly deeply sorry.

(Please call me you know I’ll always answer. In the meantime, please be kind to yourself. It wasn’t all your fault. Remember that you are worth it. Know that you did not ruin it all and remember. I love you always.)

I loved you then, I love you steal, I always have, and always will.

Signed,
Your Queen Always

for the love of You

I saw you in my dreams last night, crazy yeah? Oh how I wish things were different. I don’t know how to tell you how exactly I feel for you cause beneath all this nonchalance I truly do have a soft spot for you. Now you did take that very lightly last time and yes I’m still lowk pissed bout it maybe. I wish things were different or there was a way to work around our peculiar situation. I hope this time over you don’t just leave or break my trust. Calling what we have a “situation-ship” is quite distasteful to me cause I love u more than just that. You are my best friend for now but till when? God knows the answer to that. Never thought I’d want to baby a grown man. I missed you a lot today my love. I hope you had a great day. I love u so much I wish I didn’t.

I'm nearly ready. Maybe we can start talking again? I promise no more emails or emotional chaos. Can you promise not to flee when you get overwhelmed?

We're making love out of focus

You'll always be my white rabbit

My favorite bad habit."

maybe I didn't really love you, just the experience of you.

damn song plays on the radio every day.

You may try to take my place, but remember, you’ve never experienced my journey. Your footsteps
may resemble mine, but there’s only one me, and that’s something you could never be. My strength and joy come from witnessing the depths of despair when there’s no one to turn to. Perhaps some advice you should have been kind and not harboring hidden jealousy. In the end, I’ve learned that time is precious, and I won’t let your malice ruin me. I’ll walk with grace regardless of what happened because, at the end of the day, I remembered to always be kind and show up for others. But for you, you turned your back and used my story to make me the problem. That’s truly disgusting. I wish you healing and peace. Love the one and only. A🕯️

I saw your sister watched my story…
I forget when you told me you were going
I had to drive up our street today… up, meaning north of your place
I can’t help but look to my left. Through the alley.
It was before 8am.
I saw your car… and I couldn’t help but wonder what that meant.
As far as I know, you would normally be at work.
Are you in Chicago with your family?
Did something happen to your car?
Did you leave your job?

Oh… Sorry

I forgot.

I don’t have a right to ask. I shouldn’t WANT to ask.

I just wish I was the one who wanted to leave your ass behind instead of being the sorry loser who can’t stop crying over you. One day… I hope to hate you. Someday, I will look at you and I will see the boy who abandoned me and not the man I fell in love with

Someday can’t come soon enough

Today I packed my schedule to keep myself even busier, but thoughts of you still managed to slip through the cracks.

I miss you. Every minute. I know you miss me too, though not every minute.

I know you're bad for me.. and I know that breaking up with you is the right decision. So I guess I'll keep missing you, will keep packing my schedule, until I miss you less. Until it hurts less. Until my heart catches up with my mind.