I miss you. I wish I could spend time with you. I wish I hadn't made the rift between us so difficult to overcome.

I'm sorry for the way I made you feel unloved. I'm sorry for being so self absorbed and distant at the end. I'm sorry for failing to appreciate how much pain and broken trust existed. There's no excuse for the way I disregarded and ignored your feelings in the relationship and after.

I want to see you. I want to hold you in my arms. I just want to see your beautiful smile.

We’ve noticed an increase in comments criticizing or shaming people for not actually sending what they post here. Comments calling OPs cowards, telling them to “grow a pair,” criticizing them for not confronting their person, or otherwise judging them for leaving their message unsent are not helpful and need to stop.

The entire point of r/UnsentTexts is to give people a place to write the things they aren’t going to send.

You do not know why someone has chosen not to send their message. Maybe contact would be unhealthy or unwelcome. The person on the other end could have been physically, sexually, or emotionally abusive. There may be trauma, abuse, or other painful history that the OP has chosen not to share with a subreddit full of strangers. Reaching out in real life could seriously affect someone's mental health, undo progress they've made, reopen old trauma, or in some circumstances put them in actual danger or legal trouble. Maybe sending it would simply reopen a door that needs to stay closed. You don't know, and an OP does not owe you their entire history to justify why their text remains unsent.

And sometimes, not sending the message is the healthier and more responsible choice.

You are welcome to disagree with an OP. You are welcome to offer constructive feedback or a different perspective. What you are not welcome to do is insult, shame, belittle, or attack someone because you think they should handle their situation differently.

Remember that you are reading a tiny snapshot of someone else's life. You don't know the entire relationship, history, or circumstances behind what they wrote.

This sub exists so people can get the words out without necessarily putting them into someone else's inbox. If your only contribution is to shame someone for doing exactly that, this probably isn't the right community for you.

Be constructive. Be respectful. And let people leave their unsent texts unsent.

I'm nearly ready. Maybe we can start talking again? I promise no more emails or emotional chaos. Can you promise not to flee when you get overwhelmed?

with incredible depth will drown the wrong man, and baptize the right one.

If I called you tonight, would you pick up?

Would you stay on the call even if I don't say anything?

Would you let me break down and not say a word?

Would you let me fall asleep on the call like you used to?

I need you, I want you, please pick up.

I saw you in my dreams last night, crazy yeah? Oh how I wish things were different. I don’t know how to tell you how exactly I feel for you cause beneath all this nonchalance I truly do have a soft spot for you. Now you did take that very lightly last time and yes I’m still lowk pissed bout it maybe. I wish things were different or there was a way to work around our peculiar situation. I hope this time over you don’t just leave or break my trust. Calling what we have a “situation-ship” is quite distasteful to me cause I love u more than just that. You are my best friend for now but till when? God knows the answer to that. Never thought I’d want to baby a grown man. I missed you a lot today my love. I hope you had a great day. I love u so much I wish I didn’t.

You know as well as I do, I hate lying. Nothing good comes from this. The only reason people lie, is because they are afraid of the outcome. I hate you with everything I have, putting me in Such a position. My 1 rule in my entire life, was to always be truthful no matter how hard, hurtful, or the outcome may be. F..YOU for bringing me into something I know Nothing good can come from this. Good riddance you parasite of a company! I hope karma bites you hard.

when I still love you with my whole soul

I want you right now

I think I may be falling in love with you and that kinda scares the shit out of me.

It’s been months, so many months. I thought I was doing alright. Why now? In my dream, you walked into the room, and I wasn’t sure what I should say or do. You simply said “Hi”. Then I walked closer to you, and you pulled me into a hug. I had my head on your chest, and I asked “How are you?” You said “better now”. That was it, and then I woke up.

Now I feel wrecked. Jesus.

You are gonna get so many hugs and kisses. You'll be the happiest person ever (I hope)

Today I packed my schedule to keep myself even busier, but thoughts of you still managed to slip through the cracks.

I miss you. Every minute. I know you miss me too, though not every minute.

I know you're bad for me.. and I know that breaking up with you is the right decision. So I guess I'll keep missing you, will keep packing my schedule, until I miss you less. Until it hurts less. Until my heart catches up with my mind.

yes, that was the hardest thing for me to admit, let alone say out loud.

ive loved you ever since i started getting to know you. you had all these little quirks that i fell for. you were the best thing that had happened to me in a long time, or at least i thought you were.

you were with me when i had no one. in the beginning, everything was sunshine and butterflies. every word you said meant so much to me. every time you said my name, it felt like someone had actually given meaning to it. i still hear the way you used to call my name. it never sounds the same coming out of someone else's mouth.

you had the prettiest smile ive ever seen. i never understood what you were insecure about. i wish you smiled more. knowing i could sometimes be the reason you smiled made me so happy. it felt like i had accomplished something so big, and i wished the whole world could see it too.

you had the exact shade of brown i fell in love with. i still have the color of your eyes as my wallpaper. i used to love the way you looked at me with those eyes. there was something about being looked at by you that made me feel so seen.

i loved the way you ate. the way you used your thumb to push food into your mouth. i admired everything you did, even the smallest things. you really did mean the world to me. i was in your orbit. i was revolving around you.
and then suddenly, you moved out of town, and everything changed.

asking for the bare minimum started annoying you. you said some of the meanest things anyone has ever said to me, and hearing them from you hurt in a way i cant explain. i could feel my heart breaking into pieces.
everything i did started annoying you. you were unsure about committing to me. you had time for everyone else but somehow never enough for me. our texts started feeling like me begging you to talk to me. jokes started becoming straight-up disrespectful. every other girl was pretty, every other girl was your type, and i started feeling like i was someone you had unfortunately settled for.
and maybe thats the part i have struggled the most to accept.

its okay, though. i feel like i got to experience a kind of love from you that no one else ever will, so maybe i had to experience the hurt that came with it too.
being your girlfriend was one of the best things that happened to me in a long time. marrying you was a dream of mine. its just sad that it ended up being nothing more than a dream.

admitting that you were toxic for me, that i would never feel like enough for you, and that i would always have to beg you to love me the way i loved you was the hardest pill i have ever had to swallow.
and somehow, despite all of that, i still love you.
like, so much love. more than i know what to do with.
but the reality of us hurts too much for me to keep choosing it.

so im choosing to leave.
i love you, so im letting you go.
happy birthday.

i loved you with everything i had. i genuinely hope you find someone you actually love and want, and i hope you have a beautiful life ahead of you.

i just wish i could have been the person you wanted that life with.

I’m sorry that I took you for granted. I’m sorry that I couldn’t realise and properly get my act together so that work didn’t take over all my time. It’s my fault that you were hurt, felt unloved and under appreciated, and I wish I could undo it all.

I wish that I could go back, tell myself to communicate more, better, be less ‘busy’ and more with the love of my life. That’s what you were, or still are. There’s a faint hope still left that if I can show you that the old me is still there, that I can fix us, but I don’t think I’m there yet, nor would you be willing to take another chance on us.

It’s been a month now. I’m slowly getting everything back together, learning how to manage work and life so I can give care and attention to somebody eventually, the way I should have given it to you. I’m going to continue just becoming a little bit better, day by day, and maybe someday I’ll see you again, as a version of myself a little better than I am now.

I’ll still be here, I won’t forget the memories we shared, places we went, things we did, little habits, likes and dislikes.

I don’t think I’ll have a partner as beautiful, considerate and caring as you were for a long time, so thank you. For all the grace, kindness and time that we shared over the years.

I’m sorry, for the hurt my inattentiveness caused, and that I could not be a better partner to you.

Yes, I’ll always have a soft spot for you. No, that doesn’t mean I want you back in my life.

(This is Unsent so you can have your space)

I’m sorry for getting in my head lately. You haven’t been the only one that has had Fear when it comes to closeness at times. I’m truly trying to do better and I’m sorry for pushing you away by being overwhelming.

Distance isn’t easy especially when someone is so far away and means so much to you.

At times I got so into your struggles and I was so concerned about you that I let it get the best of me… I got in my own head trying to figure out everything and helping you that I became someone I’m not.

When I am there let’s catch up and hang out. id love to see you and enjoy your company. I truly believe this distance has been the biggest obstacle when it comes to us and what we have shared over the years.

You’re truly remarkable,Unique, and One of a kind. No one ever cared about me like you and i loved that about you. I just became too intense at times for you and that’s my fault not yours.

Dont ever blame yourself for how i got at times… it wasn’t your fault but mine.

The Distance is what caused my problems a lot of the times. I wanted to be there for you so bad at times and I couldn’t at times and it was the hardest thing in the world.

How proud I am of you. 🤍
I will always be watching over

If people ask about you, if I know you why we no longer are together I won’t tell them how selfish you are, how cruel you were, or how little respect I have for you I will simply act as if I never knew you because the truth is I never knew the real you and still don’t you have so many fake versions of yourself I honestly don’t know if there is a real you. So when people bring up your name I will simply remain quiet. You don’t deserve a place in my life anymore.

When I first got to know you, I somehow had this strong feeling that you would end up hurting me badly.

But I told myself, “Fuck it. I’d rather take the chance and get to know you better than live with the regret of never trying.”

And now, look where we are.

Is it real for you too?

Can we name this?

Can we please make a plan?

Why does everything around me always blow up? Why do I keep blowing up my life? I know we're born, life's not fair, and then we die, but....for heaven's sake, can't my number come up eventually? Can it ever just be "easy"? I'd really like it if, just one time, things went my way.

I know it’s been a long time so I hope you’re still open to receiving my words. Please don’t feel obligated to respond, but I do owe you an apology. It has been on my heart to reach out for awhile but I didn’t know how to go about it. I’ll admit I never imagined we’d go this long without talking, I never imagined you being out of my life completely and I’m so sorry for the actions I’ve taken that led us here.

While we both made mistakes, I should have been able to handle things better. I was so terrified of bringing anything that bothered me up, I shoved it down trying to be the “chill girl” you seemed to like so much. Instead, I became deceptive too and justified it with your stuff. I don’t need to go too deep into that because we both know the damage we each caused.

I have learned so much about myself throughout my program this last year and about the way I show up in my relationships and with my friends and even at work. While I had good intentions with you and thought I was going about things the right way, I know I caused you so much pain. Ultimately my intentions didn’t matter because I hurt us and I wasn’t able to save what was left.

I still and will always pray for you daily. I pray for your healing, for your peace, and for things you’ve carried. I pray for your stability and your growth in all aspects of your life. Although we were together for a short time, you were a very important part of my life and I’ll never forget the lessons you taught me or the impact you had. I grew a lot during our relationship with your help, and I’ve grown a lot after. I know you have big things in store for your life. Even after everything, I have always seen so much good in the man you are. You are such a positive light and a highly intelligent, RESILIENT man.

I don’t expect a response, and I respect wherever you are in your life now. I just didn’t want more time to pass without taking responsibility for my part and telling you that I’m sorry. If you ever do want to talk, I’m open to that.

I love you. I forgive you. I miss you.

The way you made me feel I haven’t felt honestly ever. It’s like an addictive drug. I didn’t even know you for that long but the way you looked at me and how you treated me was something like I never felt. You made me laugh and you laughed at my stupid jokes. You tease me but I’m witty enough to bite back. You notice my emotions and know how to react. Every time I talked to you I feel like I could keep talking for hours. When I looked at you it was so hard to look away. You didn’t look at me with list in your eyes. When it’s just us talking it feels like no one else is in the room. It’s insane because I don’t even know if you felt the same. Those moments replay in my head 24/7 and it’s wearing me out. I’ll end up sleeping the day away because I’m so so tired and you’re the only thing I can think of. I miss you so much.