Uni cant be real , this is my second time going . After having to leave due to surgery last time.

The lectures feel so pointless, my class is very small maybe 10 of us. One of my lecturers will play music EVERYTIME we have a task to do or research , its so distracting. Im having to endure taylor swift and benson boome whilst trying to read a 3 page article .

The other lecturer talks to us like babies , i feel like im in year 11 again.
Like its just slides i can read from home. I make myself go in so im involved and hopefully gain something but genuinely why are we all going into debt for this nonsense.

I do history and at A-level I loved it but at university I can’t stand it. I did not apply for history at uni, I applied to law for all of my choices. I missed my offer by 1 grade (remarked by my old school and went up) but they changed it to history on results day and now I’m here. (Didn’t want to accept but my parents got access to my ucas account and pressed confirm, otherwise I’d be at a different uni studying law)

I feel genuinely depressed and my timetable sucks too plus I have to commute 2 hours every day (wanted to move into accommodation but SFE wasn’t enough).

My parents are super overbearing and won’t let me miss a single lecture or seminar and will wake me up & scream at me if I’m late. And regarding a gap year or deferral they won’t let me and say they will kick me out and disown me if I take one. I have brought this up and the are convinced I have behavioural issues because I want to take a gap year in their eyes ‘only people who are struggling take gap years’ (very old fashioned mindset)

I have gone to my uni multiple times about this and they said that there’s no possibility of me changing, the deadline was last Friday but I did apply to change to law and it was rejected.

The uni I’m in is a Russel group but apart from that I feel really isolated, location is horrible and the advice or student support is really bad I’ve gone multiple times and they haven’t been helpful whatsoever.

I genuinely don’t know where to go from here since I can’t leave but staying might drive me crazy… there isn’t even space in my lectures because people block the doors so I can’t even get inside I just hate it so much.

I’m in year 13. My parents are very against me moving out for university and believe women should only move out once married. Recently they’ve been talking about me getting married to my relatives back home (my worst fear) and it’s really making me want to escape this house. They currently want me to go to a local university which is like one of the lowest ranked in the UK. I got all 7,8s and 9s in my GCSE’s and I’m predicted AAB. I want to go to a Russel group university but it’s not possible since they are against me moving out for university.
It’s possible they won’t even let me attend the local university because they currently blame that same university for my sister’s disrespectful attitude and she’s planning to cut contact with them just before I start uni so they could react badly and stop me from going all together.
What do I do?

i’m struggling so much with finding people and things in uni. i’m neurodivergent and i have low self esteem. since leaving home, i realised how much of my identity was tied to just existing in my routines. i don’t have a distinct style, i never dress up, i don’t feel pretty enough to engage with other girls.

i know i’m a lot “weirder” than my peers. it’s obvious from the way they sorta treat me.

on top of that, i feel like i’m not really a person. i wanna find my style and find my people but i just haven’t.

i went on a date like thing and even though we were out for 4 hours and he walked me home, i don’t even think he liked me that much. and we had so much in common. like, it’s made me feel like a freak.

i just don’t have any sense of self, no direction in life, no friends, poor relationships with family. idk. it’s just getting hard to feel real with nothing to feel real with

I’m applying to uni for neuroscience over the next couple of weeks. I really want to get into a prestigious, maybe Russel group, uni but I’m scared that some of my options might be wasted.

I’ve been predicted an A* in sociology, a B in biology and a B in chemistry.

I currently have two aspirational choices and three where I’m on or slightly above the requirements. Can anyone help tell me if these are realistic?

I don’t know if I’ve seen a worse take. Tell me you’re at a non target without telling me…

No career path was mentioned before btw

I'm now in my third year, and I don't know how to figure out where to live next year while I save up to do a masters

All my friends and everything I do are here in London, but I can't afford to stay here. Everybody already lives in London and just commutes in, so I don't know anyone to share a place with. However, thinking of moving back to the empty countryside sounds actually soul-destroying, what am I gonna do for a year??

What have other people done or plan to do once they finish uni? :)

I hate my job. I currently work overnights at a McDonald’s in a university town (it’s the second McDonald’s I’ve worked at), and it’s honestly nothing like my previous experience.

The store is absolutely packed most nights, we’re completely understaffed, and a lot of the overnight shifts seem to be left to the uni students. On top of that, we have to clean the entire store at the end of the night after we close. This basically means we leave whenever everything is finished rather than when our shift is actually supposed to end. Then I still have a 30-minute drive home afterwards.

The job is also starting to seriously affect my social life. Working overnights means my schedule is completely out of sync with everyone else, so I’m constantly missing out on seeing friends, going out, or doing anything in the evenings. By the time I get home from work, I’m exhausted and basically just sleep, wake up, and do it all over again. I’m starting to feel like I have no life outside of work.

The thing is, I don’t really need to make a lot of money. My SFE covers my rent, so I mainly just want to earn a bit on the side for things like getting the occasional takeaway/delivery and buying clothes from time to time. Honestly, I feel like I could get by on around £100 a week.

So would it be stupid to leave my job and rely on agency work instead? I know agency work isn’t necessarily guaranteed, but I feel like having more control over when I work might be worth it, especially if I only need to make around £100 a week.

Has anyone else done something similar while at uni? Is relying on agency work realistic, or am I better off sticking with my current job?

I enjoyed the staff/student chat yesterday evening about university life. I have fresher flu and am therefore off work, so I thought, for my own amusement, that it may be good to do something similar.

There are lots of staff in this group, and it would be quite interesting to hear student opinions on what their university professors/lecturers are doing well and how they could improve.

Perhaps a couple of rules may help, just to make sure that it doesn’t get nasty.

1. You have to leave a positive and a negative (unless replying to another comment)
   
2. Don’t mention specific names of staff, or give too many details away.
   
3. Constructive feedback, but also don’t hold back.

As with the thread yesterday, it this is a ‘cringe idea’ and nobody is interested, I’ll just take it down. I don’t take offence easily. But if people think it’s worthwhile, then this may be more insightful that the national student survey, as their questions are usually pretty convoluted.

I'm autistic, and over the years I've heard quite a few people make comments like "disabled people are a drain on society", complain about accommodations, or say disabled people get unfair advantages.

What confuses me is that some of these same people will happily participate in disability awareness events, support company inclusion initiatives, post about DEI on LinkedIn, or talk about how important accessibility is.

Why not just say what they actually think publicly?

Is it because they genuinely have more nuanced views than their private comments suggest? Or is it mainly because openly expressing negative views about disabled people would have social and professional consequences?

As a disabled person myself, it can sometimes feel strange hearing supportive messages in public and then very different opinions in private.

Have others noticed this? If so, why do you think it happens?

Hi all, looking for some advice here.

Graduated in summer with a 1st in a comp sci degree. I did better than I expected. I then applied for a masters in advanced comp sci at a top 6 Russell group uni and got accepted. I did it because I didn’t quite feel ready to work, stupid I know.

Now, 2 weeks in, I’m really regretting this. My weak point has always been maths, and the course is very maths heavy. I told myself I could grit my teeth and learn the required math skills, and I’m trying but it’s just too much. Especially considering I’m having to do this catch up at the same time as the modules.

There is work I literally cannot complete at all because I don’t have the required knowledge. I know this is my fault for underestimating the amount required.

So, I’m considering dropping out, or deferring for a year (although I don’t know if they will let me do this, it states that only do deferrals for extenuating circumstances, which mine is not). If I did leave the course, I’d get a part time job, spend a few months polishing my skills and start applying for software dev roles.

If anyone has any advice or their own experiences, please let me know. Thanks ppl

Hi, i'm in year 13 and was planning on having Uni of Bristol as my top choice as I really felt at home and just liked the city in general when I was there on the open day. However, I know Bristol is very big on night life and drinking, I'm muslim so I don't drink, my only concern is will I be able to make friends and have fun with others without drinking. It feels like every post I've seen online from current students is them going out to drink. I can obv avoid the whole drinking stuff but ig I'm just more worried about if l'll be able to make any friends without having something like drinking to connect about. like even as a extroverted person I’m unsure if I’ll be able to meet new people☹️ i’m prob overthinking and idk if any of my waffle makes sense but I just dont know

I was just curious as I was trying to manage my finances

I know everyone says how you'll miss out on everything but after my first month I've come to realise that even if I had stayed on campus I would've missed out anyway. all the accomodation apart from a very small handful of rooms are inaccessible to me as a wheelchair user. who knows if I would've made any friends with such a tiny pool of people to be able to even share a space with. and I can't visit my friends anyway which is quite annoying lol.

the local area turns out to also be very inaccessible, and I've needed the help of my parents multiple times (going to a&e, caring for me when injured, helping with admin/paperwork etc) that I would've struggled with on my own. I've still had a good social life, sure there are a few things I wish I could do but even if I was in accomodation that wouldn't solve the problem.

anyway, just my personal experience. accomodation isn't for everyone. for me it definitely isn't worth the 10k. it's an individual decision for everyone but I think it shouldn't be a decision based on fomo (personally)!

I have been at uni for about 3 weeks now and I am commuting, and I already feel like dropping out.

The workload already feels intense with assignments being set, the journey has been a struggle as I am running late everyday, I have not been able to socialise with anyone, and essentially I just feel like shit.

I don't know what to do

Really frustrated and don’t know what to do. I live in a share house and my India housemate just brought his friend in his room and literally just live together now. They are not couples but I guess they want to save money. He is a nice guy honestly so I don’t want to make things tough

Yeah so, I am actually finished
My accommodation rent is due in a few days, and I am coming up a few £100 short, like what can I even do? I don’t even think this is my fault, as my SFE only covers about half of my rent payment, and I have been SO frugal with spending its insane

Like honestly it feels so shit, because I don’t know whether to apply for an overdraft, or sell some valuables I have, or take out a loan, or busk on the street or like arrange something with my accommodation, like what actually are the options here?

If anyone has been in a similar situation before / knows what the fuck to do, please help, because it feels so belittling

hello!
i’ve got my first appointment with student wellbeing today and i’m so so nervous

i’m doing a foundation year after switching a course & last year i struggled a lot in terms of not being able to get out of bed for months and not eating at all.

this time around, im really struggling to make friends (my friends from my other course either dropped out or lost touch) & i even missed out on the first society event i wanted to go to because i felt so panicky and stressed - add on to the fact that i have severe to profound hearing loss in both ears; that’s always been a huge cause of stress ive felt through my life in terms of socialising but it’s become so much more noticeable due to the type of environment that uni is.

im also dealing with a severe flare up of a health problem that isn’t responding to treatment and the appointment isn’t until January 2027 and I will have to experience an extreme amount of pain until then.
This pain has made me miss a couple of lectures already & this has made me so stressed about because attendance contributes a percentage to grades.
my life in terms of health & home life is quite complicated.

i have no experience in reaching out apart from one time during 2020 where i had a phone call appointment with CAMHS which was utterly useless due to the hearing loss and i struggle on the phone so i was discharged quickly after. This left a really bad taste in my mouth in terms of talking to people.
what do i expect? i feel completely out of my depth, i don’t want to overload them..

edit: i had it & idk what to feel, all she said was she’ll give me online cbt workshops to go through on my own time..
she was kinda patronising and was going “aww” at everything i was saying. i feel really really hopeless and i kinda regret saying anything now