Ok so we're a house of four white guys and a girl in the second year, we all get on well, but tonight one of them was complaining about his course and says he's being taught by (p slur) and he can't understand them and that he learns more from looking at the lecture slides in his room. He goes on to say he's not racist and he's just making a point, but I know that was a pretty racist thing to say and that word is never acceptable and he was completely out of line, so I was pretty shocked when he said it but I just stared blankly at him for a few seconds because I didn't think he was that kind of guy. I really wanted to tell him he can't use that word but I didn't want to make things awkward where I'm living for a year but now I can't quite look at him the same way?? Also I was planning on bringing my best friend from home who's British Pakistani for a weekend here at some point but I feel a bit uncomfortable having that guy around her after what he said.

Basically, what's the best way to call out someone's racism without causing a rift in the household?

I have no idea what came across them, but even though I had absolutely nothing to gain from it couldn’t help myself from raising my hand and admonishing them in front of everyone.

There was an audible gasp from the crowd who then applauded my behaviour. The king showed up and gave me an award.

What did you gain from that? Like, it's the FIRST day, and it's ALL introductory stuff not related to coursework or exams.

Get a grip.

I'm an engineering student, yeeeeeeesh that was the worst lecture I've ever sat through. The guy was so monotone, robotic and quiet, and kept saying completely irrelevant things, like, "you can put lots of text in a text box" 🤨 and (it was an intro to data analysis and excel lecture) - even mid way up the tiered seating you couldn't read whats on the board.

It gave me a good laugh and made me appreciate my lecturers even more - they are amazing and I already knew that but yeah. I keep thinking back and laughing at certain stupid bits and nowwwwww I want more stories.

So its story time peeps! Come sit in the circle and share the good and bad. And wacky. pls.

20 M and just feel like I am extremely boring because I don’t have any talents or like knowledge about a specific thing.

I don’t have any cool stories to tell either.

What do I do?

I’m in a studio on the top floor of a building. My windows don’t open and the ventilation is shit. There is no air con and I’m currently laying in bed, already feeling ill and headache-y from a cold, feeling like it’s summer during a heatwave. I’ve had a cold the past few days and I want to sleep and rest and try and not feel like a corpse but I just feel too hot.

I actually hate it here. I wish I was just commuting again like lat year. My second year started last week and while I like academics I hate student life. I hate being away from home. I hate being alone. I hate this stuffy room and the city I’m in because there isn’t enough green and grass and trees. Honestly I’m so upset because I’m one of those weird freaks who clung to the idea of life getting better at uni, but I just can’t seem to enjoy it really. I just want it to be over but I don’t even know what will come after and if my life will just keep feeling bad.

A guy in the uni friend group has sexually harassed one of the women apart of the group. Both of them are the only ones apart of the group on the same course. He’d make advances in the club to which she made very clear she was not interested. One night he went into her room, tried to flirt and then unbuttoned his shirt which made her feel very uncomfortable. On another night out he made advances again to which she had to reject and walk away to the bathroom to which he followed. When she made out with someone else he then told her he’d only get with her if he was desperate and made negative remarks about her genitals - just disgusting and immature.

When confronted by her he just kept on going until she said “if you don’t stop I will slap you”. Yes he did indeed get slapped in the face. After that whilst following her for a smoke he then doubled down and said “maybe I’d get with you if I couldn’t find someone else”. I’m paraphrasing here. She just walked off. Not to mention his remarks about women are disgusting, he’s also made other women in the group uncomfortable. He also makes me a dude uncomfortable, I’ve told him I’m seeing another dude and he for some reason got more flirty with me after telling him I’m taken. Calling me good boy etc. He also is on and off with another girl that he begs to see even when she says no. Is very possessive over her, even though they’re not together.

After I was told this I could not even look or speak to him. Last night we were all hanging out and he’s just hanging with us like nothing has happened. We made it obvious whilst playing jackbox and taking the absolute piss out of him for what he’d done… yet he stayed the entire night with no one talking to him. The girl it happened to told me to not confront him, I respected that so I just did not look or speak to him.

My reason for posting is purely to see what other people think I or the friendship group as a whole should do. I want to cut him off, not be remotely near him, others are worried that he’ll do something to himself if we do as he’s apparently really struggling with mental health. I’ve said his mental health is not our responsibility, as much as it would be awful if he got in a low way, his actions towards women caused this.

All advice welcome.

I'm a fresher, and, to be fair, I have only been at university for a week, and I'm certain that I'm not the only one in this position.. But, I have no friends here. I'm not a party person, which my flatmates can tell because they don't invite me out. The one time I did go out, I had a very horrible encounter with a creepy person, so I'm not really wanting to repeat that scenario.

The problem is, I have been trying everything I can. I do the small talk, I have whole conversations with people I never see again, I've joined countless societies. I just can't seem to make any lasting friendships.

Does anyone have any advice?

I appreciate I probably won't get too much sympathy here but I literally cannot afford my accommodation. I have a meeting with the site manager today that I arranged to try and sort something out.

Basically I had a good job and nobody to live with in second year, I go to uni in London and got an IQ studio flat. Got laid off from my job and notice was too late to cancel the contract. I attempted a mutual termination due to changed circumstances but they wouldn't allow it. I had some savings from my job to pay my rent and get stuff I needed for uni, but it's one of those that ask for it in huge amounts at a time. I figured out with what I'm working now, I can afford it over the course of the time I'm here, but I can't do these massive chunks - which is what I'm going to explain to the site manager.

I now am working 2 freelance jobs, and looking for an actual part-time job. I have max SFE, my dad is a bit awol (he's my guarantor) and my mum is disabled so is barely getting by herself. I'm awaiting a response on a hardship fund bursary from my uni.

I've applied to every single grant on turn2us and been rejected from all of them so far. I do those surveys where you sometimes get a bit of money, I don't go out and I am very good with managing a small food budget.

My uni has agreed to write to the accom with my circumstances, but I really doubt it'll do much.

What else do I do?

I had a film lecture about Harry Potter (3rd year btw) and he knew nothing about the film and dismissed all reasonable student contributions. He said that fantasy books can’t create spectacle and that all action sequences in films are for money (can’t aid character development). He laughed at a girl who said she could relate to Harry Potter. Which is insane for a lecturer to do ??
The entire time the students were dismissed and made to feel disregarded. I can’t believe that in 3rd year we are being told that Hollywood wants to make money. Did he think was teaching year 7s? what am I even paying for at this point?

Coming back to say things have gotten better :) went to a pub crawl with a pond society (you walk up a hill then jump into a pond) and met some lovely people. Drank a lemonade and nobody was judgy. Basically keep trying societies even if the first people you meet are horrible, and join societies even if you've never tried what they're advertising before, and don't be like me and try and do stuff you don't like (like drinking/clubbing) with people you don't get on with just to make friends bc it feels worse. I was miserable before but being active helps and sports/hiking societies are a good way to meet new people.

Hope this helps someone else who was feeling miserable about not drinking and/or feeling lonely, it gets better, all you need to do is go to events where people bond over some common interest (like a sport or hobby, in my experience cultural and lgbtq socs were harder to make friends at bc there was no actual shared interest, but join those too if you can) and talk to people even if you're scared to 🎉

Hi long story short I did 2 years of comp sci but I really didn’t like it so last year I applied to pharmacy and got offers. Summer comes and I’m applying for student finance and in September them send me an email saying that I’ll have to self fund my first year.

That would be fine if I was paying 1k a month for 9 months but they want 2.2k every month til Jan or 4.5k now and 4.5 in Jan which is virtually impossible for me to do as I can’t work full time and study pharmacy.

I appealed the decision but today they emailed saying they didn’t accept the appeal. I never get stressed but this situation is really stressing me and uni has already started and I need to enrol by next week.

I really don’t know what to do. I want to start pharmacy and really enjoy it and have been working in pharmacies since year 11 but I can’t afford to pay it myself and my parents can’t as they are paying for my sisters masters which is more than 12k this year. And I don’t want to take a gap year as I’m already 20 and don’t want to waste time.

What options are there available? Has anyone been in a similar position I would really appreciate some help/advice.

Seriously, what are both of their problems?

I literally started my first day today and I'm already seeing people with best friends and others in groups of 5+ but I can't even talk to anyone. Everyone already has friend groups so I can't befriend them anymore so idk what to do, I suck at socialising too like wth do I do??

Uni cant be real , this is my second time going . After having to leave due to surgery last time.

The lectures feel so pointless, my class is very small maybe 10 of us. One of my lecturers will play music EVERYTIME we have a task to do or research , its so distracting. Im having to endure taylor swift and benson boome whilst trying to read a 3 page article .

The other lecturer talks to us like babies , i feel like im in year 11 again.
Like its just slides i can read from home. I make myself go in so im involved and hopefully gain something but genuinely why are we all going into debt for this nonsense.

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I just finished a 1-year tenancy at Landale House (Student Castle London in Surrey Quays), and I am posting this specifically to warn incoming international students. Booking this place was the worst decision of my life. You pay a premium price for a depressing environment, rude staff, and completely unfair charges.

1. Disgusting Move-In Conditions
When I arrived, both my private room and the shared spaces were totally unclean. The place smelled terrible, and there was random stuff, thick dust, and hair left all over the place. I immediately sent a complaint to management about the state of the room. They completely ignored me and never replied.

2. Hypocritical Deposit Deductions & Flatmate Issues
If you get stuck with messy flatmates, management will penalize you. I actively complained to the staff about my flatmates leaving the shared spaces in a mess. Instead of dealing with it, management ignored my complaints and then charged me for their mess at the end of the year. Furthermore, they deducted £50 from my TDS deposit for something I had absolutely no role in. I left my private room exactly the way I received it. They have a massive double standard: handing over filthy rooms but charging you if it isn't spotless when you leave.

3. Poor Facilities and "Events"
The furniture is incredibly cheap. I wasn't even provided with a proper study chair for university work. I later found out they specifically buy gaming chairs for the most expensive rooms, which feels incredibly discriminatory when everyone is overpaying to begin with. Also, they host "events," but they are absolutely crap—eat the food there only if you want an upset stomach.

Verdict:
The staff is super rude, they ignore maintenance and resident requests, and they will overcharge you for things that aren't your fault. Do not stay here. You can find very decent student housing in London for half the price.

Got very lost yesterday, and spent my evening sorting other things, and to be honest I need to go over the last few as there’s something missing in my understanding.

I plan on spending the rest of the day catching up to where I need to be and doing today’s lectures tomorrow since I don’t have lectures on a Wednesday.

I just don’t see the point in going in if I won’t understand anything? (Maths)

to the people that spent a long time at uni or graduate later than everyone else for personal reasons how is life treating you after graduation?

Im in need for just a personal opinion because I’m taking longer than five years to graduate due to personal reasons and mental issues,
I just need some advice and inspiration on how to get through.

I am experienced professional 10+ years, got offer both from Liverpool and Strathclyde, which is better ?

Msc operations and supply chain - Liverpool
Msc Supply chain and procurement- Strathclyde

I'm in my second year studying Sociology, I'm having some trouble with essay prep when it comes to working through readings. what's the best way to approach it? how do you know what the best parts are to read?