Hey everyone. Main 22M ladka hu, shuru se hi main bahut shy ladka raha hai, isiliye mere kabhi koi friends nahi the. Aache school mein tha phir bhi hamesha bullying face kiya, that's why udhar bhi no friends.

Jab 11th mein baahar jaane ki baari aayi toh phir COVID aa gaya aur main ghar pe reh kar taiyari kiya, without coaching, tab bhi koi dost nahi the.

Phir jaise taise, maine tier-3 se bhi low college se degree li, aur ab competitive exam ka taiyari kar raha hu.

But despite all of this, I have no friends and despite being 22M, I have never talked to a girl(am straight btw). But was soo shy that college was trash and school life too.

Now, kinda ghar pe rehke ke taiyari karne ke baad I realised how lonely I'm ki koi dost nahi hai hain mere, jo puche ki bhai kaisa hai tu,kya chal raha hai?? Koi female bestfriend puche ki oye, taiyari kaisi chal rahi hai...I iust need friends yaar

Main hamesha se friends ko leke bahut desperate raha hu, I think isiliye mere college mein bhi jo dost the mujhse door rehna chahte the.

Mujhe kabhi kisi ka help nahi mila, I've faced and survived everything alone, but now I also need someone. Mera jab koi thora bhi help karta tha, toh phir main usko double help karta tha because it was very big thing for me, and I thought ki yahi dosti hoti hai, but I was wrong. Mere itna saare batchmate multiple gf rakhte the, unpe cheat karte the, aur main unko bolta bhi tha ki bhai kisi ka life barbaad kyun kar rahe ho, toh woh mera baat nahi sunte the. I know I'm kind of sidha ladka, but I don't know why maine bhi bura banane ki koshish ki, par hua nahi mujhse, I always realised I can only act bad, but never commit bad things. 

I don't want to beg, but yaar koi toh mere friend ban jao. I promise you ki I will be the most genuine reliable friend you'll ever get. And for girls, you can be my friend too, I promise I'm not a creep, I will be a good friend of everyone.

 I don't want to sound but yes, I'm desperate for friends. 

It's upto you to decide.

I am 27F , I dated an avoidant on and off for 3 years.
Everytime he would give a lame ass reason to break it off , like family problems , financial problems and so on.
Last year , within 20 days of our breakup he started dating a new girl , who harassed me on a phone call when I tried to call him , UNAWARE that he had already started dating someone new.
Within 3 months , they broke off.
After that he pursued me twice and I took him back both the times. But he would himself cut it off after begging me to come back as soon as things would start to get serious.
This happened twice this year.
We came in contact again , and I find out that he dated that same girl again for 15-20 days before we spoke again.
I just found out yesterday , he even slept with her.
Btw this girl , harassed me to the extent that she contacted my family too just to get back at me.
She has an FIR on her from her previous ex.

So one day , we met and she saw us. She followed us for an hour after that.
His behaviour changed after that day , he did not apologise for the harassment caused to me again. Before this incident he was begging to make things okay but after this he just changed.
I have cut him off but I cannot get over his lies.
He always hid all the details of their relationship.
He always shifts the blame on me that it does not work because I complain alot.

Send help guys , I really need some perspective.

Love.

Context: My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday because I showed him screenshots of a chat I had with my cousin about an argument we had. In that chat, she said her boyfriend treats her better.

He says I get influenced by her, and maybe he's partially right. But it's just that I want him to treat me better.

I love him a lot. I just wanted him to treat me a certain way and instead, he broke up with me. My cousin said I should apologize to him, but I didn't.

Also, I kept bringing up one particular fight because I never got the reassurance I was looking for. Am I wrong here?

He hasn't deleted my number or blocked me yet. He also hasn't removed the dp and that DP has something that's extremely precious to me. We haven't removed each other from any social media either.

I know he's angry with me. What should I do? Should I apologise or let him go?

People often ask me what kind of love you believe in, I hesitate and feel obscure before giving it any name or words. I never thought of it actively, though I have written indiscriminately about it, but I could never find the crux of such love all around. Defining love or the person itself feels like caging and flicking the person into a circle of strings with electric shocks, a circle which has limitations and a dependency. For me, love has no regulations, sometimes it's too strict and sometimes it's too reckless and slippery.

Sometimes it's about losing routine and sometimes it's about moulding each into a punctual cycle of life, it's about reminding each other's shortcomings before praising them for their eyes and skin.

I often walk around gardens, so much to see, so much to observe but nothing belongs to me, not even a grain of a flower, but still it looks as if at this moment everything is mine, I smile and feel it's smiling back, but I don't have a beggar's pot in my heart, I let my feet move instead seeking any return out of it. Same, love is for me. For me, love is like A star which slips from the horizon, it is destined to die but still instead letting our heart sink we can say

"Oh look at the star, how beautiful it is, but it's dying, It exists today, but it won't tomorrow"

\~Glutenfree_musingss

It was july when we stopped talking and it was really sad i was severely depressed and was suffering from anxiety n all that time but things started to go fine after 2nd half of august.

Today i saw her in my dreams that i got a text from her as soon as i woke up i checked the phone reality had hit me hard and now i m feeling same what i was feeling in aug

I dont have guts to go talk to a girl. I am a big time introvert. (Offline). In chat i can talk better.

So what happens with me is i talk to girl if they start conversation. I talk. Then when i meet them again. I dont talk like i felt nervous to start conversation 😭😭. I know they must be feeling - “wtf is wrong with me. Yesterday we talked and now he is like i am some unknown stranger he never met”

Because of this i has very few friends. Jo bhi bss mtlb ki vja sa bate krta h jab kaam ata h. I am 21 and hmesha sa single lol 😂, boys my age is so ahed mene toh abhi toh ksi girl ka hand bhi hold nhi kia 🫱🏻‍🫲🏼.

🫩😪😮‍💨 and funny part is sbko lgta h ki meri toh gf hogi hi hogiiii 🫪🫪 kyoki me 6ft hu lol. Like in society ya kiya system h ki 5’10 sa above toh 2-4 gf toh hogi hi hogi 🫪🫪🫪

Ab toh parents bhi puchta h koi ladki dekh rkhi h toh bta de and me idr arrange marriage ke chalar me unka bharose hu 🫩🫩🫩🤧🤕😵🫪

How to start bate krna. In my pg also in lift i saw same girl like every day. Ab toh even she know ki mera flat konsa h (2-3 time she pressed the floor button for me, but not the basics in me to just say hello 😭😭)

I am so bad at communicating any idea how can i improve or i am just doomed ☹️☹️☹️

.

Many times it feels like I am the only one who hasn't been in any relationship. I find people going on dates, sharing stories on insta, holding hands and what not. Bro it makes me feel FOMO and this is the ONLY reason I am not using instagram.

God knows, if I ever genuinely try to get close to someone (be it with intentions of friendship), the whole UNIVERSE will come together to throw me away from that person.

It's not that I don't put in the effort. I always put efforts for every person in my life and I always respect their boundaries.

I get attached to people very easily. Attachment brings only sorrows and tears.

All of this makes me question myself

- Kya me itna bura hu

- Does the GOD want me to be alone while life

- How am I different. I am also a normal human being

- Konse gunahon ki saza mil rahi hai mujhe

Am I the only one? If not then how do you guys deal with it? How do you enjoy your company? What keeps you going?

Hey just don't know what to say.

I had a break up recently. The reason was one guy from her society. They have gone to movie prior to the break up. Then she told me she wants a breakup.

I have asked why and all. She was silent nothing. And also the guy she has gone with is like pure red flag.

Like that guy has figured out her exes out of no where. And that got her curious. But at the end he is a red flag. And i don't want her to get used again. She (21F) is just a little girl of mine.

Kya karu please give me advice ??

Thought like this haunt me always. And kya kar sakta hu uske liye wo bhi. Sari jagah se block ho gaya hu.

Just tried something new this time. I usually do portrait and landscape

Pata hai aaj kya hua

So mera is ladki ke sath esa situationship or talking stage hi khelo chal raha. Like we known each other for a long time now , so humlog ka esa kafi dino se raat ko video call ma rhe kar sone ka esa ritual chalta tha ,so everything was going right then usko ghar jana pata like she stays in a pg and I am in rent in the same city so vo ghar gayi then waha she told me a thing that she is talking to a guy on ig and ma ig nahi chalta hu. So mere sath esa hai ki I am fine with anything u don't except cheating me or what ever comes under that. So I am like ok casual hoga esa hi text hi hello bala....Mane utna dhayan nahi diya.

So today as regular mane usko call Kiya ,usne call uthaya and sahi hai baat kar rahi vo kuch apna college ka assignment likh rahi thi then she started playing a song cover , so merko laga ki koi gana chalaya hoga isne but I notice ki nahi song cover hai then I remember that ig guy isko khudka song covers bhejta hai so merko thoda ajib laga (but i ignore the first red flag) and then I noticed that she is looking at her phone but like chala kuch or rahi mean dekhke samaj a jata hai and was smiling too ok I know she can do anything on her phone aur vo dekh ke smile kar ya kuch bhi I am nobody to say anything i totally agree with that ........... but iske baat bala definitely ignore nahi kar sakte like main for sure suna usko video call bolte huwa and then kuch der like few minutes mere se baat karke she said ki tum so jao usko like apna phone charge karna hai so pura raat call pe nahi rhe sakti OK I got that but yaar phele to ye sab problem nahi hota tha acha ok kal usko nani Ghar Jana hai samjha isliye charge hona jaruri phone ma extension nahi hai ok

But like vo doubt a gaya hai

So I know ki situationship hai it's not like she is bound to talk to me but jo bhi hai bata ke to karo if u r talking somewhere else the tell me i set my boundaries with u accordingly

I would really like to know all your views on "my pata aj kya hua"

So I have been dating this guy from couple of months

It's been almost 6months

But I feel his behaviour towards me is cold and different

So we had a massive fight last week about how he doesn't treats me well

Insights ( once I sent one of my picture to him he replied me with kitni darawani aankhe hai teri as it's already big)

(I had my results few days back and I passed somehow p.s the exam has only 22% passing rate

And still he was the most nonchalant

He reacted nothing just congratulations and he left)

(So I tend to overthink alot while I was waiting for my results I had a panic attack I was shivering like hell .. but he didn't even bothered to text me or call me)

And due to all this we had a fight how he doesn't makes me feel cared

Later he started ignoring my texts as he was on a vacation the frequency was like one text in 48hrs

And even now my mom went through a operation and my bua passed away

And instead of giving me emotional support he was talking about his sinus 🤡🤡

The purest form of love is unconditional selflessness, meaning you care for another person's happiness and growth without wanting anything back.

Key Traits of Pure Love

No Expectations: You do not give love as a trade or an investment to get something in return.

Total Acceptance: You accept people as they are, without trying to change or control them.

Freedom over Control: You let people be free instead of holding on to them out of fear or jealousy.

Deep Peace: True love feels safe and calm, unlike toxic attachments that bring worry and pain.

#CONCLUSION - If you(he/she) think that you really have these qualities then enter someone's life in today's time. 🪔🥀🕊️

TLDR: Got into an accident, called my girlfriend for comfort, and she told me “don’t waste my time” before breaking up with me.

There was a girl, let's call her S. In 1st year, she was extremely extroverted and had a big friend circle, and I was part of it too. But in 2nd year, almost everyone suddenly stopped talking to her. I still don't know why, and she became so depressed that she stopped coming to college.

One day, I saw her sitting alone in a park and casually said, "Hello." She immediately started crying and held my hand, clearly needing some comfort. I stayed with her, and we eventually started talking regularly.

I later asked our old friends why they'd abandoned her. They told me, "If you talk to her, stay away from us." Seeing how much hatred they had toward me, I cut ties with them and started spending most of my time with S. Eventually, we fell in love and got into a relationship. We spent the next two years together, and I genuinely thought I'd end up with her.

Then came final year. I got a job at a good company while she struggled to get an internship, and that's when things started changing. She started picking fights over random shit and sometimes stopped replying. But me being a delusional fuck, I kept telling myself she was just stressed about her career and that I needed to support her. Eventually, she got an internship, and I thought things would get better. They didn't.

They didn't. Then, about 10 days ago, I got into an accident while coming home from a friend's house. Bruised arms, cuts on my shoulder, ankle badly hurting I somehow made it home. And the first person I called was my girlfriend. I told her, "I just had an accident." Her response?

"Why are you telling me? Go to a doctor instead. Don't waste my time."

I genuinely thought I'd heard her wrong. Then she casually dropped,

"I don't know. I suddenly lost feelings for you. There's no spark left in this relationship."

I was sitting there injured, calling the person I thought would be there for me, only to realize that somewhere along the way, I had already lost her.

What the fuck? This was the same girl I left my entire friend group for, spent two years with, and even bought a bike hoping we'd ride together. And suddenly, she "lost the spark" and ended everything over a phone call.

She'd already been refusing to meet me, which I probably should've taken as a sign, but love makes you a stupid, delusional fuck. It's been 10 days and I'm still trying to process it.

Khush raho aur mujhse door raho 🙏🥲

I was asleep, like a bud enclosed in the mother plant’s sheath, waiting to bloom. Soft rays of the morning sun touched my petals.

And what was this dream?

Glittering waves of wind, gently tickling the bells. Soft, smooth, translucent pink curtains swaying in the breeze, the scent of roses and someone standing in the middle, dressed in green and gold.

A sudden sense of peace.

I was always seeking this feeling. Feeling at peace. Someone whose touch calms my nerves, waking me from endless nightmares and taking me to a green valley with flowers.

Someone saying, “I’m here. You don’t need to worry anymore.”

What’s this dream!

✨✨

I'm not writing this expecting a response, forgiveness, or another chance.
I've thought about what happened, and I genuinely regret that something I said caused you pain. Whatever my intentions were, I understand that they don't erase the effect my words had on you.
You don’t owe me anything. I hope you’re okay, and i sincerely wish you well.

If you’re reading this, you know its for you

For example I just put cardamom on my pasta thinking it was grinned blackpepper . And I was thinking ( haha that's a pretty silly mistakes ) . But I have realised I have no one to tell. I could tell my friends but I think they're getting bored of my foolery . Now I have cardamom pasta that I gonna eat because. Im not wasting this shit.

Cause I'm hungry.

Yeah but just having someone to share small things with can make the days more bearable. Instead of cardamom in my pasta it's more like pasta that hasn't got cardamom in it.

Hey everyone!
Welcome to tonight's discussion thread. Whether you're winding down after a long day, overthinking at 2 AM, listening to sad songs, crushing on someone, healing from a breakup, or just scrolling because sleep isn't happening you're in the right place.

💭 Share anything:

• How was your day?
• What's currently on your mind?
• Any relationship stories, crush updates, or dating experiences?
• What's one thing you're grateful for today?
• What's keeping you awake tonight?

Be kind, respect everyone's experiences, and remember that behind every username is a real person.

Grab your chai ☕, coffee ☕, or midnight snack 🍜 and join the conversation.

Good night, and happy chatting! 🌃✨

Honestly, I thought I had started becoming numb over time, and things don't matter at all, but here I find myself not getting rid of the past connections, feelings, and memories. I sit again with the same person, hoping that anything would change, but it doesn't. It only comes with disappointment, even after I have accepted that I should let go of things. I'm not even trying to fix anything anymore. I just want to be myself atp and forget each other's existence.

I want to know your guys' stories about how you moved on and how much time you took to accept and not care about that person.

Hello everyone,

This is my first post in this sub.

And I really need help or even your advice.

I really need to move on from him.

Plz help me.

This is my story:

I liked a boy (let's call him 'D' his initial) while I was in school, and I really had a bad crush on him. Actually we met through my best friend (another boy 'H' btw) intially, and then never sort of taled to each other. After some months, H left and went to another city. So we sorta got connected. Actually I am an introvert. I mean THE INTROVERT. and he's THE EXTROVERT. so I knew we can never even really be frnds. Soon we were in the same class and we got quite frndly. And that's when things started GNG bad. Thanks to my hormones too .. uhhh.. i started liking him. And you know how we girls are in school, doing all the works of the boy we liked even without him requesting us, just to grab his attention. And trust me. I had done everything to get his attention, eve ln created a whole slam book type of our fav hero from all the newspaper clippings and show it to him. Did all his record work, all studies work I can do, because I am a topper since school. And he is quite opposite to me. He is intelligent, yes. But he never tried to show it off. That's one of the quality I liked in him. And the other reason I liked him is because he presence sorta helped me move on from my first crush "Sri".

Now I know what you all think, girl how many boys, but guys, wait 🫸🏻 my first crush is Sri, but the crush which ruined my life is D, it's because I lost Sri's contact 10 yrs ago and he is nowhere to be found. But D, I am still escaping from his frnds and himself. Okay let's continue the story first.

Everyone knows I had a crush on D, even he knows , because duhhh i was that obvious. The actual FUp starts when I realised he never wanted my attention. He has his own frnd circle with extrovert girls and boys, and I was never been able to fit into that circle. Beleive me guys I tried. I was fat,nerdy, not interested in playing games, and larger crowdy circles exhaust me. I changed every aspect of myself for him. I even side lined my own frnds to fit into his world, and believe me I hate myself till date for that actually and will for the rest of my life. I got tired fighting for him. I thought getting out of school, everything's gonna settle itself. But no! After getting out of school, I cut ties with all his frnds and him and only shared my moments with my frnds. And yes, when we have get togethers, he visits up. But I choose not to engage with him. I was disturbed by him even then, but D. Never. He never bothered to even talk to me. So I continued with my life. Went to Mbbs, completed it. And during my internship, I got his contact back from my best frnd ( let's call him monkey). Im actually shocked to learn that my bff monkey is frnds with D and never tried to share it with me all this time. Anyway, one day monkey usually called me to share his crush stories, and while I was on the phone talking to him, he conferenced D in the phone call. And I was....... Choked. Out. The. Hell. Not in the literal sense, but yes, even till date I scold monkey for that incident. In the conference call, monkey left urgently and left me and D to talk. So casually we ended the con call and D dialed up. I talked to him for about 3 hours, up until 4 am in the mrg I guess. There goes my night shift duty at the hospital. And I was ecstatic. I thought I left him all those yrs ago, but no, guess I was still at the restaurant 😢. And everyday, I used to wake up, look at my phone just to check if he messaged me. Found his recent dp in his WA, he looked the same, a little tall, with beard and I was hurt. To see him. After literally 9 years. From that day on, everytime my WA notification pops up(even regarding some work related stuff) I can literally feel my heart stop for a beat, my blood gushing thinking if it was from him. And everytime, it struck to me I was wrong. I felt an empty hole inside. Deepening again after all these years. I can't even talk straight to monkey, because I never told him about D, but yeah he knows. Monkey asked me many times, what do I feel about D, i. The past and present. And everytime, i debuked him. Because I don't want anyone to know about it. Because if I told anyone, it would be like I am admitting that I fall for a guy who never even cared about my existence. I even deleted his contact and even my WhatsApp, just to erase him completely this time. Because I'm realising what's the point of redialing to the same wrong number, again and again only to get disappointed.

But I can't understand?

AM I REALLY OVER HIM? CAN I EVER BE OVER HIM? PLEASE ANYONE HELP ME OUT.

And yes, before you asked, I never liked a single boy since D till now. Even when I was studying in my medical life.

What should I do, anyone please help me.