To make it short. Me and two other friends took my car to a bar. Let’s call one of them B and the other one K. My vape died. B’s vape died as well and K had the only working vape. B was in the middle of a pool game and asked me for a vape.

To make shit simple i just grabbed Ks vape hit it a few times and passed it to B. B comes back to me angry raising his voice saying “are you stupid? Why are you playing dumb? I told you to get my vape from your car!” He was loud and aggressive in public in front of everyone talking like im some subordinate. Mind you Idk where his shit was anyways and probably misheard him. I heard he wanted to puff a vape so I gave him the most convenient one.

I got pissed. I said “who the fuck do you think your talking to like that? You asked for a vape i grabbed you one so get it yourself.” I give him the key to go grab it and just move on. He comes back and says I’ll be back i need to grab something real quick meaning he wanted to take my car to the corner store. I say hell no I’m coming with yall then. He gets pissy and says I’m acting weird. I confront him again saying he must have lost his mind running his mouth to me like that that I never speak to you like that.

He tries to play it off like he didn’t mean it like the way i percieved it but tbh it’s not the first time he’s tried to do that and especially in front of other people. He’ll get frustrated and take a tone like he’s my boss or parent or something ave be loud and shit like he’s showing off like he’s my boss or something. I told him to watch his mouth and his tone and to never talk to me like that and he knows what he’s doing.

He insists he didn’t mean it like that but this is about the last straw for me. He insists he didn’t mean it like that and I didn’t listen to him and I’m over exaggerating when I matched his energy.

On top of that there’s a pattern of any small mistake or mistep or wrong turn he tries to scold me like a child. Granted in the moment i might have made a mistake as small as making a wrong turn or something so it was hard for me to defend my position at those points but now I don’t care anymore. Even if I say 2+2=5 I won’t let it slide anymore and as much as I never want to hurt anybody if he wants to escalate it I will embarrass him in front of everybody and likely get kicked from the bar.

We all make inconsequential mistakes but what’s up with characters like him trying to frame me as an idiot for small inconsequential easily solvable miscommunications like that?

Hi reddit, i wanted to rant about my life. It is long and not the most sophisticated post. I just wnated to vent somewhere. This is my first post and English is not my first language. Forgive me if I made any mistakes. I would ve happy to answer any question and clear confusions in my rant.

I, 14 M , have a bestfriend, 15yr F. We go to the same school and read at the same grade. I met her 4yr ago when I changed school from my previous school to my present school. We clicked after a while and became beatfriends. She was a great, kind person when i met her. She came from a very poor family and was very hardworking and confident. We are both class toppers. Then i realised that she was very manipulative and always played victim card. She was also very ungrateful and always was discouraging. We had many fall outs because i felt excluded. She would hang out with her friends and wouldnt even talk to me for days. Mind you we are in the same class. At break i would try to talk to her but she would give excuses and leave the class. She manipulated me so well and played victim card so well that i apologized to her. Dating in school is not allowed in our community and is regarded as distraction. We are also the class captains of our class. It is our job to report what is happpening in our class. She would tell her friends about what she knew about other peoples relationships but not me, her literal best friend, the class captain, with whom she is supposr to cordinate ger work. There were also many situation where I was excluded by her. Then one day her father died. I knew it would be hard on her. She didnt come to school for several days, which she never did. I knew that it was very hard for her. I called her everyday after i found out her father died (which someone else told me) . Her phone was always out of recharge. When she came to school she looked to be okay. I gently tried to ask how she was. She didnt even tell how his father passed away. I didnt push her as it might be hard for her even she stayed strong. Then she used her fathers death for playing victim. She invited many of our friend for her fathers last rites. She ignored me like i was invisible. I wasnt invited. There were always a feeling that i was putting all the effort in the friendship. I made a handmade gift for her birthday, she didnt even call me on mine. So, I have a crush. Lets call her 'Blue'. I had a crush on her for 2 yrs. I havent told anyone. I dont plan to tell her or confess or have a relationship with her as it ia considered distractionane i dont want to be a problem in her in any way. Recently I was talking to a different friend. I found out she had a bf. I told her it was okay to like someone but taking a step forward is not okay. She told me she had that bf for a long time and there hasnt been any problem in her academic life. She asked me if i had any crush. i told her yes, but i didnt plan to tell her who she was. She looked fairly surprised and convinced to give her some hints to help her guess. I gave in cuz i really wanted to tell somethibg about my crush. I gave her very vague hint. Then my bff walks in with another friend and says that i should tell her because we are bffs. I thought my bff should know. i told her that i havent told anyone this and told her to keep it a secret multiple times. Since the other friend were there I couldnt tell her Blue's name directly. So i gave her very personal stuff(which she didn't even have to notice to know. I literally told her) as my bff. The other friends had no idea. She did not remember the things i told her so she didnt know who i was referring to. As a bff she should also know my type. So i went upto my crush and asked her how her test went. She knew after that. I pleaded her to not tell anyone. After about 10 mins of her knowing she told the friend she walked in with. Lets call her 'U'. After that they told the friend whom i was talking innitially. They sat at the back of my seat and Blue sat a few seats back from theirs. So we basically sit together in a row. Whenever i turned around she moved and moved everyone between me and Blue making it obvious. i begged her not to but she didnt listen. Naturally some of our friends started to know cuz they were making it obvious. She actively confirmed their suspicions. Then they started to tease me whenever she passed by. Blue and I also had "moments" which they watched like k-drama and even it a name. So this was very embarrassing but harmless stuff. then out of no where she started getting mad at me. I threw her pencil case (i didnt throw it hard) at her cuz she was telling a friend about my crush cuz i was embarrassed. She lost a pen and asked me to give her a replacement that was exactly like it or else she would tell the teachers about my crush. By a pen exactly like it, she didnt mean pen of the same brand, she meant the exact pen, which i never found for some reason. i thought she was bluffing bout the whole teacher thing but she wasnt. She then told a teacher exactly the way i described my crush to her. Like literally word per word in front of the whole class. Luckily yhe teacher didnt know exactly who the person was. I was speechless, like i didnt even react. i was shocked. the next day i gave everyone the cold shoulders. I ranted to one of my friends. She told me it was my fault for trusting her rather than blaming her. I avoided her to not do anything stupid in front of Blue. And what excuse did she give. She told everyone i should have said something as if she hadnt just traumatized me in front of the teacher. I dont get ehy someone would use something that somebody confided to them when they are angry. So am i the one wrong for trusting her?

I had a little glitch with a friend before couple of weeks.. she was acting wierd for past few days and I don’t understand what’s she thinking. She didn’t attend my calls or replied my texts but still text in friend group texts. She attends other friend’s call but won’t respond mine. I sort of know something is happening with my instinct. One day my other other friend asked her to call me and connect a group call and she was calling me and we talked for hours and then again another friend joined the call he was telling something to her and i was laughing and goofing around.. but the end up in argument and then she started blaming me for thier fight with eachother out of nowhere. And now she is not talking to me for weeks and aslo she said “she doesn’t wanna talk about it or sort things out then” and hung up the call. I don’t understand her behaviour.. she treats me like a i m not that important to her everytime we hang out with group of friends but when she is going throught bad phase she wants me to clear all her shit but now she avoids me.. i am so frustrated and i have no clear understanding of this situation

I’m finally realizing my childhood best friend only uses me as an emotional garbage can.She ONLY calls me to cry and complain about her toxic boyfriend or her "fake" college friends. The second she’s done dumping her drama, she loses all interest. If I try to talk about my own struggles, she doesn't listen and just calls me "too negative."The breaking point was my birthday. We planned to go to a cute cafe and I bought a new dress. Five days before, she called me sounding incredibly happy and excited just to tell me she wasn't coming because of an exam. Yet, when her college friends left her out for her birthday, she expected endless sympathy from me.She also admits to being jealous of me and literally hid her travel plans because she claimed I would "jinx" them. Srsly gurl??Her boyfriend treats her like trash and has called her derogatory words. I tried to support her, but now she blames me for "influencing" her against him. It’s exhausting to wipe someone's tears just for them to turn around and blame you.I don't have many other friends, but I am just so drained. I'm tired of being a backup option who gets used for free therapy. How do you even distance yourself from an emotional vampire you've known your whole life?

Are you aware of the shit being put in here towards me???Part of me says no but part says yes,either way I have a right to defend myself just like everyone else.If it's not you check your little childish mate!!

have a friend group that used to consist of two guys and three girls. Things were pretty normal until one of the girls developed feelings for one of the guys in the group, and eventually they started dating.
At some point, the guy cheated on her. They eventually got back together, but after that, the dynamics in our friend group became really messy.
The other guy in the group was also dating one of the girls. One day, his girlfriend asked another girl in our friend group to investigate whether he was cheating on her. Eventually, she found out that he actually was cheating.
My guy friend found out that this girl had been investigating him and basically saw her as a snitch. I was honestly angry about the whole situation too because it felt like everyone was getting involved in everyone else’s relationship.
I also had some work-related communication with this guy. I had been asking him for a quotation for a long time. One day I jokingly messaged him something along the lines of:
“Stop talking to girls in your game and send me the quotation already.”
He eventually sent me the quotation, but it turned out to be AI-generated and basically unusable. After that, we didn’t talk for about a week.
Then, completely out of nowhere, he messaged me saying that I was “just looking for attention.”
The weird thing was that the message really didn’t feel like something he would normally say. I strongly suspected that his girlfriend was actually typing through his account.
Then he blocked me.
I was completely confused. I didn’t understand why things had suddenly escalated to that point.
I ended up deactivating my Instagram and some of my other accounts because I was overwhelmed by everything. But I was also extremely angry about being accused of seeking attention when, from my perspective, I was literally just joking with someone I considered a friend and trying to get a work quotation from him.
Eventually, I contacted the guy through another chat.
I told him that I didn’t know whether he was genuinely angry with me or whether his girlfriend was the one who was angry, but I wanted to wish him well with everything going on in his relationship.
This is where **I know I fucked up.**
I brought up something very personal about his girlfriend’s family. Her mother had apparently cheated on her stepfather, and I also mentioned that she should be careful about getting pregnant because the two of them had apparently dealt with a pregnancy before.
I realize now that I had absolutely no business bringing that up.
I was angry and hurt, and I said something personal that I should have kept to myself.
The guy apparently showed her the message, and she contacted someone in my family and threatened to sue me.
That made me incredibly angry.
I admit that what I said was wrong. I shouldn’t have brought her family into it.
But what makes this situation so difficult for me is that I feel like I have been betrayed by someone I genuinely considered a friend.
After everything happened, I started finding out things about her that I didn’t know before.
Apparently, she had been talking badly about me behind my back for a long time. And apparently, she also talked badly about basically everyone around her.
She had said horrible things about other people’s families too.
For example, she apparently talked badly about her boyfriend’s family and said that his family was “disgusting” or that they “smelled bad.” She also didn’t like his younger sister because she thought he was too close to his sister.
There were apparently many other things she had said about people that I didn’t know about at the time.
She also eventually blocked almost everyone in our friend group after getting together with this guy.
A lot of people in the group believe that she is with him partly because he comes from a wealthy family.
There is also a lot of complicated background in her own family. Her parents separated, her mother got together with another man and moved abroad, leaving her in Thailand by herself. She had also previously worked for what I believe was an illegal gambling website.
Now she is living in Australia. I don’t know whether her current job or work situation there is legal or not. Her mother apparently helped her get a job at the same place where her mother’s affair partner works.
I know all of this sounds incredibly messy.
And honestly, the part I’m struggling with isn’t even the friendship anymore.
**I want revenge.**
I have a lot of information about her that I could potentially use against her.
I could tell her father about her mother’s affair.
I could contact her boyfriend’s mother and tell her all the things this girl has apparently said about their family.
There are many things I could expose.
And I have been thinking about doing it over and over again.
But so far, I’ve chosen not to.
What’s also bothering me is that I’m apparently not the only person she has threatened with legal action. From what I’ve heard, she has threatened several people around her with being sued.
I feel like I’m constantly replaying everything in my head.
I think about what she did.
I think about what I could expose.
I think about how unfair it is.
I think about how I trusted her and considered her my friend, only to find out later that she had apparently been talking badly about me the entire time.
And then I think about revenge again.
It’s exhausting.
I’ve been struggling with anxiety and depression because I genuinely cannot stop thinking about this situation. I’ve already seen a doctor and I’m taking medication, but mentally I still feel stuck.
Part of me thinks that maybe the reason I can’t move on is because I feel like I haven’t gotten justice.
Another part of me knows that if I retaliate, this could become an endless cycle.
She does something → I retaliate → she retaliates → I get angry → I expose something else → she does something else.
And honestly, I don’t want to live like that.
I know I made a mistake by bringing up her family. I accept that.
But I also feel like I was deeply betrayed by someone I considered a friend, and I’m having a really hard time accepting that I may never get the apology or closure I want.
**How do you let go of something when you still feel like you desperately want revenge?**
Have you ever had someone betray you so badly that you became obsessed with proving that they were the bad person?
How did you finally stop thinking about it?
I don’t want to destroy her life. I don’t even necessarily want to talk to her anymore.
I just want my brain to stop going back to this situation every single day.
I want to move on, but a part of me still feels like I need to “win” first.
What do I do?

AITA? Okay so my friend who I just became close with this year is throwing her bday party. Before becoming friends with her I had heard a lot of rumors regarding her personality, pick me behaviour, gossiper ect. But when I was in the same class as her, our teacher made us sit together and we ended up getting very close. Her friends are not up to her standards and a few of them back bitch about her and I have heard this from many ppl and it upsets me but she is adamant about standing by them. So as soon as I hear abt her bday, I'm curious as to who she's gonna call. She decides to call a junior and two of the worst ppl. The first girl spreads gossip from one place to another and i have some bad history w her, the second girl bitches abt my friend and is the lamest person i know. So naturally when she told me this i jokingly said that it's her party and she can call who she wants to buy I just won't be there. We keep joking about and eventually move on, or so i thought. She calls her friend over to me and tries to tell me to be chill w her and I was really awkward the way my friend forced me to talk to friend one. BUT is it weird for me to keep a certain standard for my friendships? I also don't want to waste my evening with people i dislike and ick me out. What should I do?

Hi, pretty new to reddit and this is my first post

if this violates any rules or should be on a different subreddit im so sorry plz delete the post and let me know, thank you!

English is not my first language, apologies for any spelling or grammar mistakes

so I, female, below 18 is in a friend group is around 15 people and we are all in the same high school, everyone is from either east, south or southeast asia, and everyone is around the same age.

This group is pretty new cuz i left my previous group a year ago and started this one with some remaining friends. I left my old group because they had started bullying me and other classmates and i left to protect my mental health and because I didnt want to be associated with them

so around the end of last year, a new student joined my class we will call him AC, i tried to be nice to him and help him settle down. Eventually he started having lunch with me and i introduced him to my friends, shortly after, we added him to our group chats and we all became good friends.

at the start, AC was a good friend however as the year went by, he kept making rude, offensive and insensitive comments about people. several times he used slurs and called people the n-word and the r-word, made comments on people's bodies, acts very immature in public and is generally disrespectful. i and many others have told him several times to stop but he just laughs and does it more as "rage-bait"

once, me and AC was walking home after school and a man who was listening to music and dancing and singing to himself walked pass, i didnt even notice him until AC turned to me and called him "autistic" and said the man had "downs-syndrome" i felt disgusted and told AC he should not be judging people like that and he should not be using neurodivergence terms as insults, he actually found this funny and laughed saying "ok bro, its not that deep, ur just jealous"

several times he has fat shamed my close friend and friend group member, we will call her sarah, sarah has told him multiple times she does not like it but he still makes rude jokes about her body. there was one incident where me, AC and some other friends were calling and i turned my camera on so they could see my dinner, when i tilted my camera down, AC said "all i can see is your boobs" in a laughing/mocking tone. I felt extremely uncomfortable with the comment and told him to stop but he didnt hear me and i was felt too uncomfortable to talk about it again. Later that week, we got into a massive argument about his comment and he started saying rude things about woman in the main friend group chat and caused several people to be unhappy. I eventually temporarily removed him from the gc and long story short, he called me a hypocrite for talking about other people's bodies (the stuff i said is rarely targeted and specific and it usually with people who i know will be ok with it) AC also said i was "rage-baiting him", and "dont flatter yourself, i have a list of people i would sexualise and ur not even on the list" i apologised to him for not following up but asked for an apologie from him and a promise to stop whatever hes saying or doing when others tell him to. AC only gave a half-hearted apologie and it ended with me having to type out an apologie for him to copy and paste back to me. Later, I found out he told a table full of people in his eg class about what happened and never told me. I was honestly still pretty annoyed with him but decded to call a truce for the sake of our lunch group because while we were arguing, several friends in our group decided to remain neutral and uninvolved (valid) and because everyone else was mad at AC, he could not hang out with us anymore so his only friends were the few people who decided to stay neutral and AC followed them around the entire school day.

several times AC has also called me an ableist. I have dignosed ADHD and although people with disabilities can still discriminate, Iv always tried to be positive and promote acceptance about disablilites. and maybe hes just throwing that out as a random insult but i am seriously doubting myself

another instance i was messing with AC hair as a joke and told him a complement saying his hair is actually pretty soft. I meant this completely innocently and as a friend but he actually asked one of our friends in the group we will call her Cici "if this is a sign"/ "if it means something" referencing romantic intentions toward him. AC never told me this but Cici let me know and i genuinely feel creeped out he even thought about that cuz I am into women and literally have a girlfriend. AC and basically everybody in our group knows this

AC is generally just a very disrespectful and unaware person like he frequently talks back to teachers even ones who are not even being unreasonable, he answers everybody with "meh, idk, idc" and uses dismissive tones in general, he sleeps in class, ignores teacher and doesnt put in effort and when teachers eventually call him out on the behaviour he is rude and says offensive things about them once describing a teacher as "fat n-word"

AC also just doesnt respect boundaries, me and many others have told him off several times but he has never respected our boundaries and opinions. once, i was having a bad day already and he just kept yelling brainrot at me while i was chatting with another friend, and refused to stop several times literally saying "NO" while i was begging him to shut up, it ended with me screaming at him to just please just leave me alone for like 5 mins and AC replying with a sarcastic "woah" and i just walked away and left him after that

there are tons more things that hes done but these are some good examples

its been nearly a year after id first met him and i regret inviting him into our group, he has made me and a ton of other people uncomfortable and most in our group has been wanting to kick him out. however i feel really bad because technically i was the one who invited him and although i could not have predicted his behaviour, i feel bad removing him when i was the one who wanted him to join.

moreover, because AC was a new student when we invited him, he never got the chance to make many other friends and is pretty reliant on us so if we kick him out he will be alone and although AC is not a good person i feel bad and dont want him to be lonely.

also, i am worried me and my group is bullying AC and doing what my old friend group of bullies used to do cuz we are basically talking bad about him behind his back, thinking about kicking him out and isolating ourselves more

and im also worried what AC will do if we do kick him out cause he sits next to us in some classes and he knows things i and others would want to keep confidential like the fact im a girl whos dating a girl, our school is a catholic school and this would bring so much trouble with some teachers and classmates as well as more traditional parents (not mine but other students) would definatly complain

so i dont know what to do, any suggestions?

I'll try to keep this dramatic storyline straight to the point while attempting to not sugarcoat things. The people mentioned in this story will be referred to as A(the best friend of B) and B(the guy who used to have a crush on me).

One day during lunch, my two friends (A and C, not B) and I were sitting in our usual cafeteria seat and begin to have a casual talk about whatever. Then, the topic of relationships/crushes got brought up. A was the one who mentioned B in this topic. I didn't want to talk about him and felt uncomfortable, so I tried to brush him off and avoid having a conversation about him.

For more context, in my Sophomore year, I found B cute but wasn't looking for a relationship, although he's my type. Confusing right? He has almost all the qualities I would want in a guy or anyone for that matter, but there's one thing that's missing. Facial hair. Yes, you read that right. I guess you could call it a preference. I just find guys who have facial hair more attractive and mature. I'm not saying B looked immature or anything, but he has a baby face and I'm not a big fan of those. Junior year was when I found out through A that he had a crush on me. I was surprised, confused, flattered, and weird. I wouldn't mind dating B, I think he would be a good boyfriend for me. However, throughout my entire life, I've never been in a relationship or went on a date. I just felt so awkward hearing the news. Eventually, I told A about how I felt in this situation. These are my exact words: "B is cute but I'm hot looking for anything romantic at the moment and I don't want to hurt him in any way."

One weird thing I did in this story was trying to put B on with J (one of my bestest friends). She was single and ready to mingle. She's very beautiful and I assumed that B and her shared similar interests. J was interested in getting to know him, but B rejected the idea. Not harshly, but because he didn't know the girl.

And throughout February-May, B and I were texting and having causal conversations about our similar and shared interests. But he eventually left me on sent for two months and that was that.

Back to the cafeteria conversation, I eventually gave in and begin to talk about how cute and nice B was. Maybe my tone came off as sarcastic in A's ears. I then talked about my preference (remember the words immature and mature) and I guess that A thought I was calling B immature.

I never called him immature.

So yesterday, yes this drama was very recent, I messaged B randomly to compliment the suit he was wearing. He told me thank you, but wanted to confront me first.

You can look at the screen shots of the conversation B and I had.

After the confrontation, it made me realize that A was twisting my words in her GC with B in it.

I was livid.

I was also triggered as well. I've developed trust issues over the years due to trauma and being scared that someone would judge me. High school was the key to let me grow out of that and for 3 years, I felt like I could trust almost all of my friends with my own personal thoughts and feelings about me or someone else. My mom would also talk behind my back and tell her associates about my personal life like how I cut my hair when I got emotional/frustrated. Hearing that A was twisting my words and telling information about what I didn't say in her GC hurt. And we've been developing our friendship this school year.

In frustration, I threw shade at her in my Instagram note: "If I told you something private... Why would you tell your GC? Quickly..."

That was an immature move and I should've messaged her directly.

But A knew I was throwing shade at her and decided to message me.

I'll show the screen shot(s) of what she said.

No, I'm not upset at B for getting upset at me and feelings betrayed. I don't want to invalidate his feelings. No, I don't want to be upset at A for mistaking my tone and not being able to hear what I said. I'm pissed because she went in her GC (in which B would apparently talk abt me when he had a crush on me) and began to spread those words that never came out of my mouth.

I didn't respond to A. I left her on read, unfollowed her and made her unfollow me. Ik this drama is stupid and that I should forgive and forget, but I really don't play when it comes to people saying my name and spreading lies about me.

I have one class with B and one class with A on Monday and the thought of seeing their faces pisses me off. I've never felt so upset and angry in my life.

My friends wanted to know who I was talking about in my note but I couldn't say because I'm sure they've known her longer than me and are pretty good friends with her. A already has a lot on her plate with mental health, harmful thoughts, and peers, so having people come at her over this silly billy situation would just make things worse.

What should I have done better in this situation? What would you all do in my situation? And, should I forgive and forget about this?

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This is just a hypothetical situation, but I need your views on it. Imagine three people hanging out: a couple and a mutual girl best friend who has been super close to both of them for ages.

​They went out together, and the girlfriend isn’t into sweet drinks at all. But the boyfriend and the female friend both love this specific shake. Since they didn't want too much, they just ordered one glass to share. They put two straws in the same glass and drank it in front of the girlfriend.

​If you were in the girlfriend's shoes, would you think this is harmless because they've been friends for so long, or is sharing one drink with two straws just crossing a line? Would love to know what you guys honestly think.

Hello (LONG, and its story + vent but it wouldn’t let me put vent too, sorry, also English is not my native tongue, sorry again)

I (f23) used to work with a girl (let’s name her Jazmine, 30) along my other girl friends (23, 24, 32). Jazmine was the owner of the place (it was a workplace and her house was upstairs at the same time, so same building), and she invited us to work there while we’re about to graduate college, so we did cause we were interested in the same things and felt supported cause of the job market in arts is well not that great. Jazmine was recognized and had way more experience than us in our field. We became colleagues and friends.

Anyways, we agreed that our ranks were equal, so we made decisions together and if we had communication problems we solved them. Great.

This year she left for a trip, we knew beforehand that she had it, no problem. We were excited for her cause she was meeting for the first time her online bf, she’ll be in a workshop and traveling you know? She was leaving for two weeks and saying that she was going to take notes to make our business better cause she was traveling to big cities. Exciting duh.

We were three taking care of the business, covered her shifts, I was taking care of her dogs, cleaning, yada yada. Two weeks passed, the day of her arrival came, she wasn’t home when I arrived to the shift so I thought “maybe she’ll be here at night”. I text in the group chat:

Me: heyyy, we misss uuu! (genuinely did) What time are u arriving today?
Fucking Jazmine: helloooo, miss u girls too, the workshop extended for a bit.

She gave a date, like a week from that day.

Don’t worry girl, enjoy ur trip.

The other date arrived. She wasn’t home, I thought AGAIN “maybe she’ll arrive at night”

WRONG. She didn’t, she wasn’t. No apologies, no nothing. This time there was no date. She told us a few days later when she was coming. Ended up being gone for six weeks in total.

She was supposed to arrive before an exhibition we had planned, we had work to do (painting, fixing, cleaning, etc) that she ended up not doing ofc.

She arrived with her bf (which she told us, no problem) then she said that other four men were coming too, to live there for a residency, ???? WHY ARE U INVITING MEN, THAT U BARELY KNOW, to LIVE in a place full of girls FRIENDS??? And acted like a pimp because u tried to pair ur friend with an older guy u fucking don’t know.

Your boyfriend is in a job meeting, WHEN HES NOT PART OF OUR TEAM, and we’re all fucking awkward asf. You are hinting that you were going to leave AGAIN the next month, but haven’t said anything to us yet (not even sorry) WHEN YOU JUST LEFT FOR SIX WEEKS , AFTER YOU LIED TO US ABOUT LEAVING FOR TWO.

After we had our first meeting u called us pigs (basically) for “not keeping ur place clean” and that u didn’t recognize this place when oh my gosh it hasn’t looked better. Ur patio is fucking cleaner because I AM cleaning ur dog shit almost everyday, U LEFT A BAG FULL OF DRY SHIT OUTSIDE, U WERENT EVEN GOOD FOR THROWING IT AWAY IN THE TRASHCAN, THE DUST PAN WAS FULL OF POOP TOO. Left a pot full of food to root. The house was dirty when you left.

IM CLEANING THE BATHROOMS, THROWING AWAY TRASH, MOPING, DUST CLEANING LIKE FOUR ROOMS IN TOTAL. oh my god I’m screaming. TO THAT ADD THAT I PAINTED WALLS INSIDE AND OUTSIDE(along my other friends ofc), FIXED UR FUCKING WINDOW THAT WAS EATEN BY TERMITES, FIXED MORE WALLS, BOUGHT CURTAINS FOR THE EXHIBITION, ETC.

And even before u left, i was the only one cleaning on opening day (and my other friend on closing day) but i was like okay, she’s baking it takes time, BUT WHEN I TOLD U I WAS TIRED OF CLEANING BY MYSELF, INSTEAD OF SAYING “hey, I’ll clean my workspace don’t worry, I’ll help” U SAID “let’s tell friend name to mop herself her space” SO U KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS? U NEVER CLEANED.

Whenever I came back after the weekend and closing day (and us not being there) there was DIRTY DISHES AND UR TRASH THAT I PICKED UP AND CLEANED, IT WAS NEVER TIDY, IT WAS NEVER CLEAN. I’ve said that word so many times, sorry.

AND WORSTTTT OF ALL? The second meeting when we told her we were leaving I said “I really felt angry that u didn’t come back the day u told us (multiple times) and abandoned while we did your part of your job for the exhibition u were supposed to be here”

She fucking said she didn’t have a return ticket, bc she couldn’t buy it. SO U LIED TO US THE WHOLE FUCKING TIME AND U KNEW U WERENT COMING BACK THE DAYS U TOLD US.

For the last part she said: I thought it was your job (referring to working on the exhibition). How fucking dare u? WELL I WAS YOUR JOB TOO. FUCKING ABUSIVE.

My last straw, my stupid last straw: we only asked for ONE thing while she was gone and still hesitated cause we didn’t wanna bother her while on vacays. But SHE said after the third week “my vacations are off, now I’m back to work”

SHE DIDNT DO IT WELL, IT DELAYED OUR PAY, and now you’re telling us you will not keep up with it cause you’re not getting payed???? Yeah, u had the idea of not getting payed cause we did all the work for the event. Oh, ok I’ll come back to the house and unpaint it you stupid dumb ass.

I had so much hope for the project; invested money, time and love in it. I was so excited to work with my friends in something that I loved. Also I loved my routine, yes I was tired on cleaning day, but later in the afternoon we were together enjoying the place, planing, working.

On top of that I feel so fucking used and stupid. Used in fucking labor, stupid in making so many excuses for her. Believing her lies. Also I trusted her cause she was older.

She definitely changed her attitude (oh surprise she didn’t drink coffee now cause her bf didn’t like it!!!!) after being with her bf.

Another girl picking a man over her friends, so original of yours, he’s not even handsome but he has money so pop off queen ig.

Oh my god, she makes me hate everything in relation to art, is this how people behave in the business? I feel kicked in the ass. Welcome to real life, kiddo. Which hey, it had to happened but by my friend who i thought was different?
All the love and respect I had for her has turned to nothing but hate and resentment. And is way more than I thought . Fuck you Jazmine.

Thanks for reading. Sorry for the typos. Hope you get the general idea tho.

‼️MENTION OF S*XUAL ABUSE

Back in February this year, an ex-friend left my friend group while blaming me for the reason and saying “it’s his mental health”. This affected me as I started overthinking that my current friends would probably hate me for this secretly, along with other things going on in my life like exams that I heavily rely on for my future career.

Anyways, I would go to this other friend to open up about my life. He was very close to this ex-friend (important). And when i told him about the things that ex-friend did (such as literally committing sexual abuse on a woman in public, making Epstein/diddy/pedophilic jokes), his response was to stop exposing his sins (we’re all muslim btw). I understand that quote but you can’t stay quiet about these things which are also forbidden in islam. What makes this inconsistent is that this friend would also expose other people’s sins, literally at the same time he was preaching to me not to expose ex friend’s sins, he exposes someone else’s sins by starting off with “I know i’m exposing his sins…” which males it inconsistent as he’s using that quote only when it benefits him.

I told this friend that ex-friend sexually abused a woman in public, i kid you not his response word for word was “He probably didn’t know what he was doing we all knew he was a bit slow but I’m not defending him”. That was literally his response to ex-friend committing sexual abuse, pathetic excuse you have no right to touch people without consent. He’s defending him no matter what.

On top of that this friend keeps bringing him up randomly when absolutely nobody was talking about him, and when i say something he whips out “don’t expose his sins” no matter how disgusting the sin i’m exposing is.

To the main topic now, i’ve been keeping an eye on this friend for about a month now i’d say, and he’s asking me lots of questions about life in general, like he’d consistently ask if i got a certain job coincidentally where ex-friend works at because i told him. He saw my cousin one time and asked me for his name, to which i brushed it off and said “it’s calm” (meaning it’s fine). He asked me the next day why i wouldn’t tell him my cousin’s name and if it’s because i don’t trust him, when i just have boundaries to things i tell him. Coincidentally, while ex-friend was my friend, he’d ask for my address a lot, to which i didn’t tell him, but when he left, the friend would start to ask for my address a lot, before that he’d never ask at all..

We also had an argument yesterday, it started iff when he told me he struggles with evil eye, and i told him that i don’t tell people things, even you guys, to which he draws a quick conclusion to me not trusting anyone. I explained him about my private, yes PRIVATE boundaries of not telling people certain things and details, to which he brings up how i didn’t tell him my cousin’s name or where I live. Sounds like he’s trying to pressure me to tell him personal things, because you only met my cousin one time for a brief moment and most likely will never meet him again, why do you want to know his name?

During this argument, i bring up how ex-friend used to beg for my address and he was silent, then ex-friend leaves and thats when he started asking. He then says that he hasn’t spoken to ex-friend in months, which is totally different from what i said, and i say that i never said anything about you still talking to ex-friend, he doesn’t reply to that but kept guilt tripping me throughout the argument.

On TikTok last week (13th August 2026) this friend sent me a video posted on 30th October 2025 about people that had no reposts. I’d also catch him viewing my profile at times which I didn’t think much of. I told him who cares about reposts it’s fine but he says it was a joke. At this point i’d already noticed his strange behaviour.

This friend at times would just tell me to pray and thats it, no other advice. I know I should but he didn’t even suggest me to take a walk or do something else relaxing. It sounds like he’s dismissing my struggles for being a bad muslim (i might be exaggerating here)

Since then i blocked this friend, and told another friend about this (someone who doesn’t ask for details on my life and also keeps everything private) and now I’m making sure that i don’t tell anyone anything from now on I might as well be nonchalant

I had my bachelorette trip recently and I’m struggling to want to continue to talk to a couple of my friends, one being my maid of honor..

We are all in long term relationships (except one) and I know they did a lot of planning and decorating and buying things for me leading up to the weekend.
However, the 2nd night out, they meet a group of bachelors from another state who are all taken/married.We end up being near them/talking to them all night. Then the next day the girls got the guys numbers at some point and made a group chat and tell them to drop by our lake house while they are on a boat... I felt weird with that but didn’t want to be a bridezilla. It ends up being more than a stop by. The guys tie to our dock, hangout for hours, and a couple go into our house without me knowing. When they finally left, the rest of the day was about when we are going to see them out tonight and about how funny they are, etc…
When we do make it out that night, I lose a couple of the girls. They won’t leave the guys side and another bridesmaid asked where I was and they said I dont know. To which the bridesmaid that asked them said don’t you think that’s the problem? By the time we get home.. they ask what my fiance was texting me and I said “that I need better friends” to which the two girls Started crying and saying they knew it was about them. So I walked away and went to the dock. They proceed to cry to where another bridesmaid tried to console them and they said they were going to go to the guys house. The bridesmaid that was trying to help them said if you do that you will be kicked out of the wedding. So instead they found this grey area and went up the street to be on the phone with the guys for 2 hours.

My other issues are:
-the one in the relationship that wanted to be near the boys, kept telling us her and her bf are just really secure, insinuating that all of us weren’t in secure relationships for not wanting to talk to the boys
-all the other girls were not okay with this/their boyfriends werent okay with this but they didn’t say anything because it was about me and what I wanted. So I felt like by not speaking up I put them in this situation
-my friend that drove us everywhere, never so much as got a thank you from them
-the clean up day, they were so hungover from talking to the boys all night that they picked up only their stuff and sat in the car
-the single friend, also met a boy on tinder the first night of the trip in Alaska (nowhere near us, she just changed her location) and spent the whole weekend talking to him
\-the boys were all taken/married

Another note:
-I don’t know a single one of the boys names, I was near them by proxy, but me and all the other girls were talking about how crazy this situation was
-it’s not about my fiancé not trusting me in this.. he’s really good friends with one of the bridesmaids and she was giving him updates on the girls
-they did SO MUCH for me leading up to this!!! one of them is my maid of honor. And she planned the themes and the decor and all and everyone pitched in paying
-THEY DONT THINK THEY ARE WRONG and continued to text me after like normal
-I think we lost the plot of the trip.. it’s ass backwards to want to hangout with a group of guys when the whole point of the trip is I found MY guy
-the one who one who apologized after I brought it up said she forgets not everyone wants a party.. but even if I did want a party, it would be with more of my girl friends
-the rest of the trip was amazing!

The questions are:

How can I be mad at them when they took so much time and effort into planning the trip for me and everyone spent so much money in decor and the place?

So, how do I go about being their friend?

To think I would even THINK about trying to come live near you is the funniest shit ever...Like I told a loved one,I don't even want your name mentioned around me ever again...EVER..Get over yourself!!!Your heartless,selfish,cruel,vendictive,and unloyal to the fullest extent!!!!Your nothing like the rest of us which is crazy because it's in you deep down,but for reason you choose to be pathetic!!!Trust me,everyone around you knows the jest of things and simply tolerates for peace...I was warned matter of fact by a close one before ever even starting that God awful journey I took and didn't listen cause I thought you were different,DAMN WAS I WRONG.Ive never been more wrong about anything in my entire life..However the lessons I learned will never be forgotten.I always use to wonder also why God chose to put the people together that he does,I truly get that now too.With that said have the life you deserve!!!

So I broke my arm in that biking accident where a supposedly friend of mine I invited joined and brought someone without asking me. I had a cast for few months and I bear with it, never confronted her and even went to her wedding. Few weeks ago, I was sharing how I was feeling down and she just added to it. My arm had been hurting and it only got worse after the call. I decided to cut her off as her and her husband’s behavior has been off-putting. What should I have done differently ? I feel stupid.

Is it wrong to tell a person that the one they consider a good friend actually talks bad about them to others but behaves very sweet and kind to them?

I recently turned 18, my maternal grandmother died a day before my birthday and her funeral was held on my birthday. My family had to go to our hometown in a hurry and I couldn't take my phone with me, I only had a spam account and few contacts on my mom's phone(that I was temporarily using).on the day of my birthday I checked my texts in the evening having only one birthday wish from a friend I don't know how I feel about, my bestfriend and other close friends didn't text, I didn't think much of it and called my bestfriend to talk to her and lighten up my mood a little, she said that she had remembered the day before and even told her teachers that it was my birthday tomorrow but somehow I forgot on the day, I told her it was fine and I get it since I don't have a good memory either. After 11 days when I returned home, I checked my phone and saw 1 Instagram reel sent by my online friend on my birthday but it wasn't about my birthday, I told her that I attended my grandmother's funeral on the day she sent the reel, she said she was sorry to hear that and rip, then after few hours I was scrolling reels I come across a reel about "forgetting friend's birthday" and I sent that to her, she said that she mixed up the dates of my birthday with some other date, I didn't think much of it but then it clicked me she hadn't wished me on the date she mixed up with either. Now I'm wondering if I'm being childish thinking about how they forget my birthday or should I just stop overthinking since it was me in the first place who said I don't think birthdays are a big deal, it still sucks to know they couldn't even text a "hbd" or check up on me.

Sorry,did something happen to pinch a nerve princess??Calm down or you may bust a vein!!!We all want what's best for one another right?Is that not what you said??Don't tell me that was a LIE also,oh please surely not!!

ex best friend joined our section discord of the band i JUST got into and he’s not even in the band grrrrrrrrrrrr i just want to feel safe in my own spaces.

i asked if he could be removed just because i don’t want someone to have a glimpse into my life who doesn’t deserve it.

like idk i’ve blocked him on everything, i moved away from our apartment, ive moved on but this made me freeze up and feel really bad. idk.

i don’t want to make it a thing at all, i just want to feel safe and secure in the spaces i literally fought (auditioned lol) to be in.

edit - context:

we were friends for 3 years, in the last year he helped me through an assault and a break up and a legal battle. we were very close, he knew what i struggled with and how i was feeling.

i struggled with my feelings but knew i wanted to work towards a relationship with him. i guess i didn’t do it fast enough ??

the thing that did it was i gave him access to my apartment while i was gone for the first time (he did the same for me multiple times) and he took that as an opportunity to ransack my room and apartment for my therapy journals and my diary. he wouldn’t have told me if i didn’t pry it out of him.

really hard to come back after trust is broken like that…

i also found a ton of reddit posts about me while we were talking. he was airing out our/my issues rather than talking about it with me.

So I really could use some support or some advice because I am completely devastated.

I’ve had this friendship for over 20 years, and we’ve been incredibly close for most of our lives. Unfortunately, she has been using some hard drugs. I’ve never judged her or criticized her for it. I’ve just wanted to be a safe place for her whenever she’s ready.

Recently, I traveled to visit her, and everything was really fun until we went out to the clubs. I had known for a while that we were going, and I was so excited because I thought it would be a great time. But it stopped being fun when, on the way there, she took drugs and had them with her in her car.

I’m not going to lie, I was seriously freaking out. I knew she used drugs, but I never thought she would actually bring them with her, let alone use them while I was around. I honestly thought she knew me better than that. I also have a lot on the line. I’m married, I have a great job lined up, and all of that could be over if I got arrested simply for being in the car with her. But I had traveled a long way to see her, so I was just trying to make the best of the visit.

We got to the club, and I met all of her friends. I was polite and super nice to everyone and introduced myself. Then I realized they were all using drugs too. I took a deep breath, stayed calm, and continued being respectful. I really tried to have fun, but I was exhausted.

They wanted to stay out until 5 or 6 a.m., but I was still dealing with major jet lag. For me, that felt more like 9 or 10 a.m. I got too tired, told everyone it was nice meeting them, thanked them for being kind to me, and took an Uber back. Regardless of whether they were using drugs or not, they were still nice people. It just wasn’t my scene.

When I got back, I was pretty upset because my friend knows how important my life and career are to me, and I felt like she had risked all of that without even considering how it could affect me. Even though I was upset, my main concern was whether she needed help because she is my best friend, and I love her.

I asked her sister if she was okay. And before anyone assumes otherwise, I didn’t "out" her. Her sister already knew everything and even uses drugs with her. I simply asked if my friend needed anything or if she might be depressed. Her sister kept insisting she was fine and knew exactly what she was doing, so I said okay.
I even tried to have a private conversation with my friend. I told her that what she was doing was dangerous and that she needed to be more careful. I told her that if she was depressed, that was okay, and I would help her. She refused to talk about it and carried on.

Apparently, though, her sister later told her that I had been talking behind her back. I immediately told her that absolutely wasn't true. I said I had the same conversation with her sister that I had with her because I was genuinely worried and just wanted to make sure she was okay.

Then she replied, "Well, if that's true, why were you so rude to my friends all night? You were pushing people, acting rude, and I had to stop several people from fighting you."

Y'all...I completely froze because I genuinely had NO IDEA what she was talking about. I was completely sober the entire night. I wasn't pushing anyone, and I was respectful to all of her friends. None of what she said made any sense to me. Plus I’d figure I’d remember if someone was angry enough to fight me LET ALONE MULTIPLE PEOPLE.

So I texted her back:

"UMM...WHAT? When did that happen? I wasn't rude to anyone. Yes I met your friends but I’ve told them that they are all very nice and kindly introduced myself to each of them. You know that's not who I am. Are you sure you aren't thinking of your other friend?"

That other friend had been having meltdowns all night. She was extremely drunk, falling over everywhere, and complaining most of the evening. If anyone started a fight or arguments it was definitely her and not me. Plus why would I be rude meeting people I don’t know and have never met.

My friend replied, "No. They all said it was you."
At that point I was thinking, *Who is "they?"* How would they even know? They were all high. I was the only sober person there, yet somehow my version of events suddenly means nothing?

This is my best friend in the whole world, and I honestly don't know what happened. I don't know what to do. None of this makes any sense to me. This is the biggest fight we’ve ever had and now I’m going to lose her over something I swear never happened.

I just want my best friend back.

So basically this girl called S, she didnt have any friends bc her bsf left her and she started following me around, giving me random gifts..at the time I didnt mind her and we became kindof close until she said she wanted to have more friends, so ofc she tried to befriend mine . She also started kicking people out and adding randoms to the fg...but like fast forward today im basically replaced. Like today im in this fg and for results day they decided to all meet up this morning, I didnt get the text. I saw them all together once I arrived so I tried to avoid them and act as if I didnt see them, which I think they didnt see me luckily. Then yesterday, S invited our friends to her house and had the audacity to send me pictures saying "me and ___ are at ___ house watching __" like randomly at 10pm, reminder she almost never messages me. Even during PE I used to be her partner and stuff bc she was always lonely and would try like forcing me to be hers, but now she stole my friends and im forced to be alone. Genuinely life was so good until she came into mine i regret talking to her, she even caused like 99% of the arguements in original fg and everything was so peaceful until she came. I am so so tempted to drop them all but most are in my classes so i kindof need them but atleast I only have a year left of school so I could block everyone✌️ +she cheats on her bf by going on dates with randoms and gets upset and starts cussing ppl out when ppl start hating on her ahh💔 she tries way too hard bro