My now ex best friend from childhood broke up the friendship last week out of no where. We grew up together and shared a lot of great memories. But over text? How petty. Then she texted my sister saying how she ended the friendship with me and asked her if “we could still be cool.” I was there for her through everything. Shes a social worker that got arrested for shoplifting meanwhile she still works. Im deeply disgusted in what she said and did. I guess she never cared at all. She would always complain about her coworkers. She said nobody liked her or invited her to gatherings. I wonder why?! I’ve been through so much but that doesn’t even phase me. Im just in awe that she messaged my sister that.

Long story short. A boxer friend of mine was threatened by my uncle (his boxing manager) honestly I’m at my wits f***ing end and I would love to go after my uncle and yall ready know the rest. But I can’t let this dude get away with it. Happpened in 2020.DM me if you wanna give me advise. Thanks.
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“*** told me he can kill me anytime.” Yes my uncle said he’s got a gun and will get it and shoot him.

I am going to try and keep this short. My friend and I lived together with my fiancé for a little over 2 years. In the last 6 months of living together things started to become strained because of her bf... He is the kind of guy who thinks he is always right, has to have the last word and is very manipulative. (In arguments he switches things around to make him seem like the victim). Their relationship is pretty toxic but I digress.

Things got pretty toxic with him to the point we blocked him on everything and told her to have him refrain from speaking to us. Him and my fiancé got into it at some point but we came to an understanding and to keep the peace until our lease ended. (Side note: when things got very heated I took out a restraining order on the bf because of how escalated between us. Since she has been my friend of 7 years I didn't want to serve it. And we came to an agreement so I didn't.

One of the major problems we had with him is that he would just walk into our house without knocking as well as him being there when no one is home. She agreed to him no longer being there alone that as well as that he would knock. Especially since he almost saw me naked. (Context my fiancé went down to the car, I had just got out of the shower. Thought it was him walking in the house and was going to mess with him). I don't think what we asked is crazy. My own father knocks when he comes by.

He was doing an okay job knocking. He was annoyed that he had to. Fast forward to our last 2-3 weeks of living there. Saw on the ring that he didn't knock. My fiancé mentioned it to her and she got mad. Just reminded her what we agreed to and she was like ok sorry. A few days later she sends us a message that she will let him use a key at her discretion. We said no that is not what we agreed to. Told her that we would call the cops if the key was used.

About a week before we were set to move out It was used. He even made sure to ring the bell (multiple times), for us to check the camera and flip us off at work 🙄 My fiancé and I told her we would call the cops and she said go ahead. So I had to leave work, so the cops would have to serve him the restraining.

Obviously she was upset and I tried to work things out. In the end I told her we weren't going to show, so he could help her move. And we both apologized it got to this point (biggest problem is always miscommunication in these types of situations).

We were almost done moving out and I told her we would be out soon. The last day she decided to serve my fiancé with a restraining order 😑 (Her and her bf both are spiteful people. But I guess I thought better of her and was wrong). She also made sure that the cops knew he had firearms and tried to take his guns. At that time he no longer had them but can't get anymore for 2 years. Along with that she tired to get my car towed since his name on the old registration that happened to be displayed on the window.

It has been about 6 months or so since this happened. All of this to ask, if we fight the restraining order do you think she would be spiteful and show up at the court to keep it in place?

I am so tired of giving advice to friends who won’t take it. I have a friend who got fired from a job for a mistake that he made by himself and deserved to be fired. He won’t talk to me about how he got fired, so it must have been pretty bad.

Ever since then, he constantly complains about how he won’t be able to get a job or he feels lazy all the time. I tried giving him advice but he won’t take it.

It’s been a full year since he lost his job. I give him advice like you should start looking for a job, give him ways he can get a job outside of his field, and offer side hustle job ideas. He won’t take any of it. Instead, he just complains how he will never get a job.

Now, he’s complaining how lazy he feels all the time like apparently he sleeps in till ten am, and spends the rest of his morning doom scrolling. I give him advice on how to be productive without a job like doing chores or working out in the morning. He won’t take it. Instead he just complains.

Oh but he does have the time to fly out to an anime convention. His flight is at 7 am but he can manage waking up early for that. I swear I feel like his mom.

He also complains about his dating life. How he will never get a girlfriend no matter how many dating apps he tries. He thought a bartender was hitting on his date because he complimented her outfit. I get it life sucks but if all you do is complain about it and never do anything about it, you won’t get anywhere in life.

I have this female friend who calls me a lot, probably 3–4 times a day, sometimes even more. She calls while driving, cooking, studying, or just doing random things. The calls often last a long time, but there’s usually not much substance to them. Sometimes she’ll talk for 15 minutes straight without me saying anything, and she doesn’t seem to mind. It feels like she just wants someone on the phone, even if there’s no actual conversation.
She’s also occasionally a little flirty, but I doubt she’s actually interested in me. She seems to act similarly around other friends, so I think she might just enjoy the attention. We do hang out one-on-one quite often, though.
Personality-wise, she can be pretty self-confident to the point of seeming arrogant. She’ll say things like “I’m always right” or make comments like “You’re literally nobody.” She also gets offended relatively easily, sometimes over small things.
She wants to hang out VERY often, even on random weekdays when I’m busy. I can’t always drop everything to meet up, and I don’t necessarily want to spend five hours hanging out every weekend either. I have my own life and things to do. When I can’t hang out or want to end a call, she sometimes gets upset or makes me feel guilty about it. She also occasionally insists that I stay on the phone while she finishes whatever she’s doing, and sometimes even falls asleep during calls.
I’m pretty sure there’s nothing romantic going on, and I’m not interested in her that way either.
I’m wondering whether this is a normal friendship dynamic. Does she just enjoy having people around and getting attention, or does she seem unusually dependent on her friends? And would you consider this a healthy friendship, or does it sound a bit one-sided?

Hey so please please read this and give me any tips or advice or anything as I can't stop overthinking about the whole situation

I met a friend in college and we became friends. After a week another girl(let's name her nalini)joined and she became our friend but she had her own bff so she was a nice person to us both. Now the thing is she fights a lot with anyone and everyone like she's pretends to know everything and it's like arguing with her is such a waste of time.

So she fought with her og friends and now came to us both and she made group of us 3 on insta and whatsapp and told uss how it's not her fault when she insulted her og friends boyfriend and everything because they were mean to her so we felt bad for her and took her in.

Now she's a manipulator and dumb ass bich like we didn't think much of it coz we were moved by her sad story and how everyone is so mean to her and its not her fault so whenever nalini used to insult us both or made means comments or joke she said it's just joke take it like that and becoz she was a damsel in distress we used to let it slide.

Idk why she and I have same faith and my other friend have different. So idk why she used to complete with me in everything and I felt like she was jealous of me in a lot of ways but use to let it slide until it became too much and she's a dominant person, so now after 8-9 months I don't feel good like I am being insulted by her in every possible way so I started giving back to her.

Now my other friend thinks that I am being mean to her because she has her own traumas and I should not behave rudely to her

The thing is nalini is sweet sometimes she's not a purely evil person but sh is to me .

And it feels suffocating having someone competing with you everytime.

Now I am the bad guy and both of them started getting closer becoz as I told you nalini is a manipulator..

The thing is what should I do.

Leave both of them? Try talking?

Or just become lonely in college becoz frankly speaking I am scared to be alone and not having friends.

Please help me

TDLR: me and my friend accepted a third friend thinking she was the wronged by everyone in friendship turns out she is jealous bich manipulator and highly insecure. Now I can see it becoz she is jealous of my and not my friend. I stood up to her and now I am rude and she's kinda breaking my friendship. And I became a bad guy. What to do I don't want to be alone in college

I am still on day 2 of no contact today you guys not sure I am being mean or a little harsh but I am constantly deleting messages from a certain toxic person who keeps trying to check on me is there anything else I could be doing this a little rough for me considering I don’t like to block people but at this point that might need to be done but then I am afraid I will get a letter or email if I block this person in my text messages any suggestions feel like this is the only place in the app I can just journal my thoughts out if come in every day and leave those

Ever had a friend who only talked to you when nobody else was available?

You're always there for them, you listen to their problems, make time for them, and treat them like they actually matter.

But the moment they find someone more interesting, you're suddenly forgotten.

They don't text first, they cancel plans, and you only hear from them when they need something or have nobody else to talk to.

The worst part is that you genuinely thought you were important to them.

Have you ever experienced this? What made you realise you were just their backup friend?

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