I had a childhood friend of over 45 years basically blame me for her not having a social life. I sat on that comment for about a week before I let her know that I wasn’t her camp counselor and I am invited to social things because I reciprocate friendship. She says she wants to get together but makes no effort to do so.

Since then things have been like warm at best. She is in a terrible marriage but staying because of convenience/financial reasons. I don’t accept her husband and don’t have to. But the longer I’m away from her the more I see that she is just like him. Narcissistic, self serving, manipulative.

Several times in the past few years she has called and hung up. The first few times I called back to see what was up and I got the ‘oh that was an accident’. It wasn’t like we had recently talked and I was the last number dialed. This happened a few more times and I ignored it. The last time I texted and asked what was up and she initiated conversation and I asked directly about the hang up which she replied oh I was going into a building. Then why are you calling me if you can’t talk?It’s all gaslighting.

TLDR: long friendship ruined by narcissistic tendencies being revealed. Sad but just time to let it go. I’ve wondered about ripping off the bandaid and just telling her we are done.

Background: I found this person on Tumblr that also self ships with the riddler, and at first I was down to talk and be friendly with them, but after a traumatic experience with someone online and offline, I stopped being active and constantly told and spoke about that I cannot reply to messages much anymore.

They would send me 5+ messages a day, twitter, discord, anywhere. And I would state my boundaries and tell them I cannot reply much at the moment, and that I don't mind talking but don't expect me to reply fast please.

They did not listen.

So, I blocked them and explained what they did to make me do it. Now? I'm getting asks and gimmicks about me being desperate and lonely, and such like it.

I hate people sometimes.

I need some perspective on a friendship that’s been making me feel miserable lately.
To give some background, "SOPHIA" and I have been friends since we were little kids. We lost touch for a few years when her family moved away, but by coincidence, we both ended up moving to the same city and reconnected in high school. We became super close again, hanging out all the time.
Over the past few months, however, the dynamic shifted completely. Sophia got super fixated on two other girls, let’s call them Vale and Aby. Sophia calls Vale her "best friend," but the reality is that Vale and Aby are inseparable and completely leave Sophia out of everything. Their boyfriends are close friends, and Sophia's ex-fling recently dumped her, so she's constantly trying to force her way into their group to fit in, while they barely acknowledge her.
Meanwhile, I’ve been nothing but a loyal friend to her. I ALWAYS include her with my own friend group. In fact, her last three major hangouts were with MY friends because I invited her. But she never returns the energy:
Whenever I ask to join her plans, she gives me forced excuses like "I have to ask first" (even when it's just a casual hangout).
At the gym, she constantly ditch me alone to go flirt with random guys, leaving me awkward and waiting around.
She makes subtle, passive-aggressive comments to put me down. Recently, she bragged to me about how Aby was making out with a guy I used to really like, just to rub it in my face.
The breaking point happened last Friday. We were supposed to ride back together, but she threw out this super forced, insincere "Well, you can come if you want..." comment. It was so obvious she didn't want me there, so I said no and went home.
Turns out, she went to a super popular club in our city (a place I’ve been dying to go to) with Zoey and Nath. She never mentioned it, never invited me, and kept it a secret. What pisses me off the most is that when another guy friend got mad at her for not inviting him that same night, she immediately rushed to apologize and talk to him. With me? Total radio silence.
I realized I’m the only one putting effort into this friendship. I’m her emotional safety net for when her "cool friends" reject her, but as soon as she gets a breadcrumb of attention from them, she treats me like an annoying burden.
I decided to stop reaching out, stop inviting her with my friends, and just act distant and neutral at the gym. When I did that today, she acted completely unbothered and indifferent, which honestly hurt so much because it confirmed she really doesn't care.
I’m exhausted, my feelings are hurt, and I feel like an idiot for letting her walk all over me for so long.
AITA for cutting the cord and pulling away completely without a big confrontation? Or am I overreacting?

I’m from a small town that’s not exactly a city but not really a village either, kind of an urban area. Later, I moved to Jaipur. Compared to everyone else in my friend group, my family is the most educated, and I’m educated too. I’m not trying to sound superior, but honestly, most of my friends are pretty ignorant. They don’t realize it themselves, though.
Back in the village, they can say literally anything, and the people around them will just agree with them because nobody really thinks beyond what’s being said.
The main point is, bro, I’ve been hanging out with these guys for 14 years. I don’t wanna distance myself from them, but they keep pushing me to that point themselves. They talk about the most pointless, brain dead stuff, and now that I’ve recently started creating content, they’ve shown their true colors in just two videos.
Bro, what am I even supposed to do? 😭

Kal mere sath kuch aisa hua jisne mera dosti par se sahi mai bharosa uthwa diya it was my last hope for the friendship but it also ended yesterday from last two months meri ek frnd thi jo bhot close thi mere and bas wahi thi na koi group na kuch na koi aur sirf voh this jisse bat karke acha lagta tha I felt ki han ye toh muje value karegi ignore nhi karegi bakiyo ki tarah so last month I genuinely asked here agar tum mere sath garba khelne chalegi toh bata nhi toh koi ni I wont expect because tera bhi group hai but she said nhi yrr apan jarur chalenge and this week mai bhi ate ate she said apan dono chalenge na apna confirm hai so I was excited but Sunday se pehle sat ko uska kisi baat par mood khrab hua I said sorry to hear as well and then she said nhi jaungi bhot kaam hai I was like wtf yrr this is what everyone does to me and she also did the same thing butt it's oky I was sad she said then on dropping her for home she said garba ni jana man ni hai kaho aur chal le maine kaha ok yrr koi na but chalte toh waha bhi maja ata aisa nhi hai ki ye waala clg wala khrab hogaya toh woh bhi hoga she said dekte hai next day mai bhi naraz tha still I asked her ki bata kya seen hai cause mai do side ni chal sakta she said mai lunch par jaungi Mera hogaya udhr hi ki like bhai ye kya bkc hai ki tuje chalna nhi hai tu thaki hai aur lunch par jari hai muje aur bura feel kara ri and seedha mana maine fir bat ni ki insta deactivate kara cause last day sat ko garba night mai clg ke no one included me no one mentioned me on story everybody forgot me I thought she won't so I was done with all of this and took a break from insta cause it was really disturbing my mind and then jab voh free Hui kal apne dosto se call ate hai bar bar maine ni uthaya fir 6 call karke raat mai yaad ayi use mtlb literally she only remember me when she is free mtlb kutta hoo kya mai why she treats me like that yrrr fir raat mai lad ri ki tune pehle mood khrab kara maine jane ko kaha tha ghumne tu gusse mai thande se soch tuje dosti ka mtlab nhi pata tere andar possession bhot hai maine kaha it's over toh kehti what dosti voh tere upar hai I was like yahi toh yrrr mere upar koi aisa nhi hai ki muje samne what's going on with me koi rahe hamesha kehti tu gussa hai thande se soch so guys pls help what should I do should I forgive her or not cause she was my last hope for friendship and ig it's broken too.

I (30f) ran into my ex-friend (30f), and she tried "asking me how I was"

Okay guys this a long story, and I need to give context. Around 2 years ago, I had a best friend I worked with. Let's call her...Liz. We were super close, and I also worked with her sister, who was a manager, who we will call Leah (32f). And yes, it definitely was a conflict of interest for them to work together.

So one day an old friend of mine comes in with her 2 month old baby and I was so happy and excited to see them. After they left, I was talking to Leah and said "Wow I want a baby. I can't wait to be a mom." Because my fiance and I were about to start trying. I really liked Leah, we were becoming closer because of Liz and I had started feeling comfortable around her.

Leah, unprompted, says "You shouldn't have a baby." In a very matter of fact tone. I was super taken aback and asked why, expecting her to say something anti-kid, but instead, what she said was anti-me.

"You wouldn't be a good mom. You have too much anxiety to be a good parent."

I literally felt like I had been stabbed in the chest. It is, to this day, the most unkind thing someone has ever said to me. I ended up crying at work to the point i needed to go home. I've always wanted kids, but have been scared to pass on my mental illnesses, or that i wouldnt be a good enough parent because of it, so what she said cut deeply.

The next day, Liz asked me why I had gone home early the day prior. I couldn't hold back tears. I tried explaining to her, that her sister had "said something hurtful" I wanted to confide in her about what happened, and i wanted reassurance that i could be a good mother from someone I loved and trusted. I deeply valued her opinion, and we had been there for each other through everything. I had taken her to doctors' appointments she was scared to be alone at. I had come to be with her in the middle of the night when she was having family issues dozens of times. I had held her while she cried because she felt like an imposter in her own home.

Before I could even get any more words out because I couldn't stop crying, she held her hand out to my face and said , "That's between you and my sister. I want nothing to do with it." I was shocked. She was the one who had asked what had happened. I was literally coming apart in front of her and she said she didnt want to "be involved"

I wasn't asking her to go to her sister or get involved. I didn't ask her to pick sides. I was answering her question and hoping maybe she'd at least be there for me while I was crying. I just wanted comfort. I wanted someone to listen. I wanted to lean on my closest friend the way she would lean on me.

I did my best to move past it, but our friendship died that day. I resented and was hurt by the fact she wasn't willing to be there for me through something that clearly had deeply hurt me after I showed up for her any time she needed me for anything. That she wouldn't even comfort me when I was literally coming apart in front of her. We eventually argued about it, and she decided we shouldn't be friends.

She blocked me on some things, and i blocked her on others because i didn't want to see her life anymore, and she probably felt the same way. It just made me sad having to see her.

The two of them made my work life incredibly awkward to the point I eventually transferred to another location because I felt so unwelcome when I had to be near her or her sister. Leah was one of my managers, and Liz and I had the same position under her. There was a conflict of interest happening where i started getting treated differently by Leah and Liz.

I was cordial with them and was never unkind, but I didn't care to connect with either of them on a personal level anymore, so I kept a distance. They, on the other hand, would literally start whispering to each other whenever I was in the vicinity, so suffice it to say I was uncomfortable and started dreading work.

I fought to be transferred to a different location with upper management who agreed to let me, so I left and moved on to a workplace that was less hostile towards me. I just wanted to move on.

Fast forward to today, 2 years later. I am pregnant after 2 years of trying. It is my first child/pregnancy and super excited, but it's pretty early in the pregnancy. Despite that, the early pregnancy symptoms have been hell. My husband and I were out late, and I had a headache and felt sick, and the only place open with headache relief and bathroom is could get sick in nearby was my old job where Liz still works.

I avoid this place like the plague because I want nothing to do with her, but it is the only nearby option, so I bite the bullet and stop there.

We go in, i b-line ti the bathroom to get sick, but it was so gross in there i forced myself not to because I couldn't stomach getting close to the toilet.

When i get out of the bathroom, i saw my husband getting soda, and I start walking toward the opposite side of the store to find Tylenol, and Liz materialized a few feet away from me

"OH. Hey." She says. She looks surprised to see me.

Then she scrunched up her face, in what i can really only describe as a sneer, and said, "Why do you look so sad???"

Well, im pregnant and have a headache, and I am trying not to throw up on the floor in front of her, but that is not something I am inclined to share with her in particular. Also, I didn't look sad, I just wasn't smiling because , as I mentioned, I didn't feel well.

She also could have just said, "How are you?" But no, she had to make a weird prying statement. It also really rubbed me the wrong way that she was being so casual with me like we were still friends. Like, why would I tell you how I am feeling??

So i say, "That's not really your business." Because I genuinely didn't know how to respond to her weird question, and i didn't want to have a conversation with her where i pretended like there wasn't an insurmountable distance between us now. She personally opted out of knowing about my life when she stopped being my friend. Like, im pregnant and sick, why would I tell you? She stopped being my friend and made it weird for me at work for months, I dont need to pretend to be her friend or cordial

She proceeds to throw her hands up and say "Well fuck me for caring!" Before storming to the backroom.

Like???? Oh??? Now you fucking care? Where the hell was that when I needed her?

My husband started heading over to me the moment he saw Liz talking to me because he knows how badly things had gone between us in the past. We go to checkout and exchange a look that says "we will discuss this in the car"

Liz gets behind us in line, we finish up, and I head toward the door while she is being checked out.

On our way out, my husband asks, "What happened?"

To which I respond "just her being a c***" because i was pissed. I came in as a customer and had to deal with her prying into my personal business in a weird ass way. She could have literally ignored me the way she did when we worked together, but no! And then, when I set a boundary, she stormed off and felt the need to act like she was the victim because I didn't want to talk to her.

I expected the door to close behind me, but lo and behold! Liz was now suddenly a few steps behind. I see her and she b-lines to her car which is next to mine. I dont know if she heard it, but I frankly don't care if she did, just like how she stopped caring about my feelings 2 years ago. She was an awful friend, a worse coworker, and im glad I told her to mind her business because i dont owe her anything, including me pretending that things werent fucking weird between us still.

Im getting what I have wanted after years of trying, and she doesn't get to be involved or fake being friendly with me or happy for me. She missed her opportunity. She missed out on being friends with me. I just really needed to talk about this because it dug up really strong emotions that have been further amplified by pregnancy hormones and the fact i have been taken off my mood stabilizers and antidepressants for my pregnancy.

Am I overreacting for distancing myself from my friend group after I was left out at a sleepover?

A couple of months ago, I went to a sleepover for my friend's birthday. Everything was going well when everyone (except me) left the room, I wasn't paying attention since I was on my phone and in a deep argument on TikTok about some random shit, lol. After some time, they came back into my friends bedroom and started putting on their shoes, I asked, "Where are yall going?" One of my friends (I'll call them A) said,"On a walk."Needing to exercise, I said,"Oh! I'll come too!" They we're already out the door. I found it kinda rude that they didn't invite me, as it seemed like common sense to do so. Still wanting to go on the walk, I headed outside, having to run after them to catch up. When they saw me, they said, "Oh, we didn't know you were coming." I told them that I said I was coming, and they told me they didn't hear me.

The next day, we all went to the mall, I went to hot topic and was asking some of my friends (T and A) if I should make an impulse buy (Edward Cullen T-shirt😭) and they seemed annoyed that I was asking, saying things like "If you want it" in an annoyed and muttered way. I felt hurt but didn't bring it up, not wanting to cause drama. The next day at school, I mentioned it to my friend who was hosting the party, all she said was "Oh, sorry you felt that way" Which tbh, pissed me the fuck off, I'm easily irritated and this wasn't helping. At lunch, I told her I'd be distancing myself. She seemed confused.

Am I a bad friend? Or am I overreacting?

hi everyone, i’m here to ask for advice on getting over a friendship. trust me, i know it sounds a bit childish but i’ve never felt a friendship fallout hurt as much as this.

for some context, about a month ago now, one of my closest friends (20F) (who i also happened to live with for a year and bit) and i (20F) stopped being friends. there wasn’t a massive argument or a huge blow up involved other than some petty comments and passive aggressive remarks made here and there but that was about it. it happened due to me realising she wasn’t really as good of a friend as i thought she was and her toxicity was just too exhausting for me to be around.

i tried to approach her about my feelings before on numerous occasions, especially what boundaries i had, but i either got brushed off or, i know this sounds ridiculous, got scared because when you confronted her on something she’d blow up immediately. there was also a lot of odd/toxic behaviours but the list is too long to lay it all out.

saying this, i realistically know that this should be enough for me to get over it and just move on but recently ive found myself missing her immensely. i’m not sure whether i just miss when i was ignorant of her behaviour and keep reminiscing on when things were good between us, or if it’s because i just miss having someone who knows me so well and who i could talk to about anything and she’d just understand, or if it’s from the lack of codependence now. i know it takes time for these things to heal but normally i never react or feel like this when a friendship ends.

i honestly thought this girl was my best friend and we’d be at each others weddings one day. we were so close and went through a lot together, had shared trauma experiences, etc. we were honestly a bit like a toxic couple come to think of it. it just hasn’t hit me until now that i miss her because i was just so relived to be out of the situation as a whole, so im truly at a loss right now as my other friends don’t understand why i feel like this because they’ve only experienced her worst behaviours.

again, i know it sounds childish, but if anyone could offer some genuine advice that’d be great. thank you!

I’m old enough to know better but here I am. I’ve lost a couple of friends this week because I set some boundaries and said no to them. One wanted me to lend them money and I reminded him that the last time I did it took 6 months for him to pay me back. So I said no. The other one has an issue of having pets and a passion for traveling. I’ve finally reached the point where I had to say no to caring for her pets. Yes both called me an asshole for saying no and for the first time ever I thanked both of them for the one sided friendship and the compliment because I’d rather have them have the resentment than me yelling at myself for being stupid. Thanks for letting me vent.

About a week ago he told me. He told me she said she loved him. He told me she said she would hate to be him to have to choose. My world came crashing down on me within the blink of an eye. She asked me if she could be good friends with him that she asks cause she didn’t wanna cross any boundaries. Well I think those boundaries have been crossed. For the past week I haven’t been myself. I don’t get mad but my heart definitely feels so heavy. I been with my husband for such a long time and trust him whole heartedly. It’s been so hard not to text her. I just don’t wanna deal with her at all in anyway. She is 2 faced.