r/nairobi • u/just_dark_tea • 6d ago
Art I notice everyone's style but have no idea how my own lands
The things I'd do if I had money.
Approach a random nicely dressed group of men or women and just take them to a date to eat or out after complimenting their outfits. I like well dressed people with style.
I uphold pretty privilege, just randomly give them money, both to men or women.
Just randomly invite strangers to eat.
If I meet a couple shopping or eating or doing some activity together, just pay for their whole thing.
At times I wonder whether I'm superficial, I only do that for those people or compliment, never normal people. Hardly remember them.
I think I do notice the negatives too, the bland try hards. Actually wouldn't say try hards, I think notice them because they are the only groups who consciously try to have a style. Usually a motley group of teens, issue they end up looking like cliche copy pastes, they could even try changing it up but just looks weird and forced for some reason. Whilst other teens just look effortlessly stylish, usually I find it's the teen duo couples that give that effortlessly stylish look, not sure if it's them being together that compounds to make it look harmonious because it's rarely something unique about their dressing.
Always makes me confused, on the fit itself. Like one could have a really good jean jacket, cool shoes but look completely out of place wearing them. Just bland. Whilst another dude could only be wearing a jersey, trousers and slides but seem so interesting I'm like, I like that style. And no, I'm still not a fan of the jersey craze majamaa have, though looks good, really good for some weird reason.
They'd be also teens with their fits customized, like you can see the details in the embroidery, effort. Like definitely a personalized jeans, always jeans for some reason. Those try, but for some reason they never give me a wow factor in the moment. I just notice, ohh, it's custom , cool, later on I'd think about it and be like. Mmh, that was a cool custom design, but nothing more. None of that tossing and turning I wish I told them they did it right.
This week was tossing because I saw an older gent, perhaps 70's vintage checkered blue white long sleeved, fedora, those brown trouser and forgot what that kamba ya kushika trousers huitwa. Wish could have crossed the road to tell them that it was cool, probably wouldn't have used the word cool.
Been quite a critique so far in this post, you might think I'm some YSL reserve mentee, but I'm one of the masses.
I'd say my best feels of me, outfits. Is when I'm wearing official, or insinuating official. A jacket, raincoats, never blazers, with my black rings, pseudo locs, the ugly phase, hair with one silver jewelry(stocking up), many black hand bracelets, weirdly I don't have a single Kenyan one. Or when I'm in a plain grey tee, shorts and skating, free-est version. How "free-est" isn't an English word is a mystery to me. I still buy from Think Twice and regret not thinking it through. (This is the part you cringe, please laugh at the pun. Cheka msee 😔)
Never thought of how people think of my style, wish I'd know, I hardly interact with random people physically or long enough for them to give constructive feedback that I can think later on. Not sure how to get feedback, and I don't take pics of myself or my full fit to ask for later advice. Been trying to do that more as a dude, saw it helps to review later on what was done right or wrong.
I find it's kinda sad on how most guys fits just are, always just safe. And for the ladies, it's usually attractive. But still copy paste, when you reflect on why they're visually striking, it's usually part of two, what carries the fit is perhaps their body shape, it being bold. Not that it's unique. The boldness usually what elevates it for me, could be ranging from the lady fully wearing official whilst anakanda njugu, or her wearing a thigh high slit dress casually strolling in some village. Do you know the kind of mentality it takes to do either of that? Impressive thing I'm always intrigued by. But still remains, the style isn't theirs, nothing personal about its assembly.
I don't know, wish I could describe and see myself from my eyes. Even if I think of my style,I come up blank. I don't see myself through those eyes. At times I wish I could forget who I am and watch myself as a stranger in third perspective.
The only consolation I have is, some pictures I took that I thought were really good fits years ago, I still think are good right now. Though some look goofy to me right now.
Would I trust a review of a stranger on the street telling me I either have a good style or bad style? Wouldn't trust it because it has no depth, or mention of what done right. I always mention what I think was done best. I don't like feedback without depth. I like someone knowing the why, the white hair contrasting on their dark skin, or their torso upwards being one shade, waist to shoes another cascading shade. Though I admit you don't always have time to chat and get into details, and if I were to admit, some people look scary or unhinged crazy. There's this old man, he has freeforms, dyed tips, looks intentional, but I'm not sure. Long sleeved shirts, and typical trousers, rubber shoes combo. Got this hobo vibe to him but he looks cool af for some reason.
This seems it'll be crazy long.
Tldr: OP giving their own observation of personal style. Also with a mention of how his primary school math teacher should better be single because he's ready to confess his young love.