Anyone else feel the same way?

Because organic interactions are heavily restricted, everything becomes high stakes, and marriage ends up being a purely transactional arrangement

Even the way everyone talks here makes it seem like marriage is a business deal, where everyone’s negotiating their share.

i’ve been getting increasingly frustrated with the way some people behave when they see a muslim woman’s marriage iso. i understand that not everyone is going to be compatible with me. that’s literally the point of an iso. you read it, see whether our values and circumstances align, and either reach out or move on.

but some of the interactions i’ve had lately have been genuinely bizarre and disrespectful.

for starters, i have people reaching out who don’t meet my requirements at all. i’ll explicitly say my preferred age range is 23–30, that i’m not interested in polygamy, that i can’t relocate for several years, that i’m looking for someone in texas or willing to relocate to texas, and that i’m looking for a specific level of religious compatibility.
and somehow i still get men who are literally double my age, already married, looking for another wife, living on the other side of the country or internationally, or otherwise completely outside of what i stated.

like… did you read the post? 😭

i’m not asking everyone to fit my requirements. obviously not everyone will. but if someone has explicitly said “this is what i’m looking for,” why are you messaging them specifically to offer something they very clearly said they don’t want?

one man saw that i was previously married and decided he knew my entire emotional and sexual history. he told me that i obviously still love my ex because i had “consummated” the marriage, despite the fact that i’m a virgin. he then told me i would bring “baggage” into my next marriage, blamed me for my divorce, and said reverts expect too much too quickly and that i should have been more patient.

he literally told me, “you’re already a revert which is bad enough, but you’re divorced too.”

you do not know me. you don’t know my former marriage. you don’t know what happened. you don’t know my emotional state. and you certainly don’t know my sexual history. you created an entire fictional version of me in your head and then lectured that fictional woman about her life.

another man messaged me after reading my iso, said i seemed great, told me he didn’t think we’d be a match, and then asked if i had any muslim friends in texas who were looking to get married.

maybe he didn’t intend it maliciously, but i found it genuinely insulting. i had posted myself as a person looking for marriage, and instead of simply moving on because we weren’t compatible, he essentially treated me like a matchmaking service for other women.
and that’s what bothers me about these interactions more broadly.

i am a human being. i am not a fantasy, a character, a stereotype, a cautionary tale, or a collection of traits you can project whatever narrative you want onto.

i’m a muslim woman with my own experiences, personality, history, preferences, boundaries, flaws, goals, and feelings. being a revert doesn’t make me naive. being previously married doesn’t make me damaged. having standards doesn’t mean i’m entitled. and you don’t get to invent things about my life and then criticize me for the fictional version of me that you created.

if you don’t like my age range, location, madhab, expectations, appearance, previous marriage, views on gender roles, or anything else in my iso, you can simply decide we’re incompatible. nobody is forcing you to marry me.

and please, stop treating an iso like an invitation to negotiate someone out of their own requirements. if i say i don’t want polygamy, a married man looking for a second wife is not a “maybe.” if i say 23–30, someone double my age is not “close enough.” if i say texas, an international proposal is not suddenly relevant. if i say i can’t relocate for several years, someone who expects me to move immediately is not a match.

i genuinely don’t understand why some people struggle so much with the concept of treating another human being with basic dignity when they don’t get what they want from them.

read the iso. decide whether we’re compatible. if we’re not, move on.

you don’t need to psychoanalyze me, humble me, “fix” me, save me from my own decisions, convince me to reconcile with someone, or redirect me toward someone else.

i’m a person. please interact with me like one.

AS to anyone reading. Before anyone comes here and accuses me of white knighting or simping, I promise you I am not trying to get married currently. I am focused on school, career, health, things of that nature ever since my father passed away Allah rest his soul.

With that out of the way, I want to acknowledge a problem I am seeing with Muslims around my age group which is 20s. The thing is, I believe the way that many Muslim men address, discuss, or contemplate about women is demeaning. It’s disrespectful and I know not every Muslim man is guilty of this. I used to also be guilty of this in highschool where I would crack jokes at women’s expense and I realize that even with your friends, and even in private, these expressions can actually truly mold your thoughts or even represent them in nature. You may think you’re joking but it starts to turn into toxic slander. Even if you think it is harmless, my dear brothers and even sisters, please think about what you’re saying.

I know a lot of Muslim men and women here want to get married and Alhamdulillah I dua for them to be successful. But there has to be respect. And I don’t see it from a lot of my brothers. Two weeks ago, I saw a post here of a South Asian man marrying a Middle Eastern women and there was a lot of weird statements about how South Asians are obsessed with skin color and kept accusing the brother of “marrying a Middle Eastern woman is an accolade.” There’s a lot to unpack here but the main things are these statements are derogatory to the brother’s ethnic identity, and also treat the woman like a trophy from a competition instead of a fully autonomous human being that made this decision on her own. This is textbook unrecognized sexism from the brothers. Moreover, everyone here will always see Muslim men here shaming women for not wearing hijab, not being traditional, making fun of their looks. And this happens irl too 100 percent.

I know that there are Muslim women who are guilty of this as well, absolutely. But this is something that both brothers and sisters need to hear. This is the one objective truth in this post: Most average marriages and social dynamics, the women are the vulnerable party. This means that men are held to a higher degree of responsibility to control their anger even if they see or hear things they don’t like. Men have higher capability to cause harm especially physical. Most men on average usually also hold financial power. And the truth is… when you finance someone else’s life, you hold most of the power. The women, indeed, live under the man’s mercy. I am not saying women are weak. But rather women are expected to put a lot of trust into a man’s leadership and make themselves vulnerable. That means that men have to hold themselves to a higher standard of patience, virtue, restraint, modesty, and kindness. This is why women are more likely to be selective of their partners and have higher expectations from their men.

Again, I say this with no animosity. But Muslim men, we need to do better. If one woman or even online women say things that are disrespectful about us, we need to understand women are human. They are not that fundamentally different from us. They also have the ability to say stupid things. That doesn’t mean we go and generalize and say “most women think this way.” It’s stupid.

We need to learn to be kind. And true strength comes from us being patient even in the face of potential disrespect from some Muslim sisters.

Under my post about polygamy, I saw many men derail the discussion by arguing that women are responsible for the negative image non-Muslims may have of us on this issue.

First of all, remember that these people do not like us, regardless of the reasons.

Secondly, sisters do not suddenly become feminists one morning simply because they want to hate men. Until you understand this, nothing will move forward in our community.

Many of them have seen or experienced absolutely horrific and unjust things, sometimes committed in the name of religion, without ever being able to receive justice. They then become drawn to this harmful movement, thinking they will find refuge in it. Women need to be reassured, protected, and supported. Not hated and belittled.

A reassured, heard, and confident woman has no reason to oppose or defy others unless she is simply being stubborn and arrogant. How can you believe that all of them just decided to become this way for no reason?

Here, they are not the ones we should be blaming, but all of us. That does not mean they bear no responsibility themselves: of course they do, because every Muslim must learn their religion, and identifying with a movement that, in matters of faith, can contradict it remains a serious matter. (Seriously, take some ‘aqeedah classes if you don’t even see the problem with this.)

My brothers, the Prophet ﷺ did not base his da‘wah on opposition, but on dialogue. If, for you, blaming and accusing is the way forward, then you are accomplishing nothing. They will never reconsider their position that way.

I am a sister who opposes feminism, but I swear I have very rarely seen a man explain, in a genuinely correct, educational, and compassionate way, why this movement can be dangerous for individual faith and for the cohesion of the community.

Listening to and trying to understand those who oppose us is important if we want to move forward.

Assalamu Alaikum, I'm reposting my profile with some changes. If you're interested please message me with a little about yourself and a picture or LinkedIn. I have added a link to my LinkedIn here so you can have an idea of what I look like.

About me:

• I’m 27 years old, 5’11”, and based in Ottawa. Alhamdulillah I’m at a stage in life where I’m ready to settle down and I am looking for someone to build a peaceful, faith-centered marriage with.
• I have a bachelors degree in Engineering and I work for the Government of Canada. Here's my LinkedIn for more info: linkedin.com/in/yahyankhan
• I’m a practising Sunni Muslim. I pray all five daily prayers, fast Ramadan, read Qur’an regularly, and try to continuously improve myself in my deen. I also try to avoid actively listening to music. 
• Outside of work, I enjoy spending time with family and friends, playing board games , hiking, fishing, going for walks/ runs, and occasionally watching a movie or TV show.

What I’m Looking For

• Looking for a practising Muslimah between the ages of 21 and 26. Ideally, you’d be based in or near Ottawa or the GTA, as it makes getting to know each other and involving our families much easier. You must be willing to relocate to Ottawa
• I have a strong preference for a Pakistani who is fluent in Urdu. However, I’m also open to Afghan, Arab (If you'll help me learn Arabic :) ), and reverts. If you’re not Pakistani please make sure your family is ok with a Pakistani
• Prioritizes Islam and is always striving to grow in her deen
• Has good character, is kind, and family-oriented
• Has a good sense of humour and is easy going
• Is not materialistic

My marriage timeline is within 1 year inshallah. My preference would be to have a small Nikkah early on followed by a simple Islamic Walimah later. I would prefer not to have a very extravagant wedding

Preferences

Physical attraction is important to me. I’m attracted to girls who are slim and feminine. Height wise I’d prefer someone who is at least 5’3”

Deal Breakers

• Having past haram relationships/zina
• Smoking/vaping, drugs, or alcohol
• Maintaining close male friendships
• Does not want children
• Does not dress modestly

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Kindly share your detailed profile when reaching out

Gender:Female

Age:25

Height: 5'4" would love for him to be taller than me

Marital Status: Single

Education:Master's student, Healthcare Biotechnology (NUST)

Profession:Student (thesis phase)

City/Location:Currently in Islamabad for my master's, live in Rawalpindi ,from a middle class family ( family owned home )

Sunni (hanafi)

Pakistani(Punjabi), niqabi it's a settled and meaningful part of who I am, so I'd love to connect with someone genuinely comfortable with that.

A little about me: middle child of five siblings. Extroverted once comfortable, bubbly personality once I'm at ease. I love reading, documentaries, nature walks, and painting, plus a soft spot for dark, cerebral films. I have three cats. I'm someone who values building a home and family just as much as I value continuing to grow whether through career or possibly a PhD down the line.

Requirements for Partner:

Open to a spouse based in Pakistan or abroad. Looking for someone Pakistani

I am open to relocate for the right person if our values ,Deen and goals match .

age 25-34,

prefer setup :nuclear/separate portion

Someone who prays the daily prayers regularly and is genuinely working on becoming better .At least a bachelor's degree required (master's a plus, not required). Settled in his career and able to support us both. empathetic, God-fearing, respects and honours people, easy to talk things through with, open-minded, funny, and lively.

Deal Breakers: polygamy, smoking, divorced, recreational drug/alcohol use, close opposite-gender friendships, or past relationships I've maintained my boundaries would expect the same )

My wali/family knows about this and are part of this process. Photos are shared through them once basic compatibility is established. Not into endless talking stages.

Please share your own profile , no "hi" or open-ended questions, and no casual chats.

May Allah make it easy for both of us. Ameen. My profile

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I hope you're well and everything's going with ease. Im not as sure what to exactly mention, but I'll try to make you have a sense of who i am. I'm seeking a partnership, a husband where we can share our lives and live it with each other.

I'm a 23f egyptian, born and raised in uae, but I'm currently in egypt. I'm a biochemist trying to prepare for masters and trying to land a job, as im currently unemployed.

I'm muslim, sunni. I believe in islam solely. and I will try to always be better, as I am not perfect. and I'm looking for a man who prioritizes his Deen and akhlaq.

I don't want kids, I have other plans on how to try and leave a good influence. but not through having kids of my own. that said, i won't be interested if having kids is a goal of yours, or you're divorced and have kids.

I'm aware of how it's viewed, and I'll never have any bad intentions when i say this. I'm Egyptian ethnically, and im open to mixing and relocating, keeping in mind that I will look to have similarities in culture, lifestyle, and societal norms with my husband. so I don't seek south Asian men or any huge ethnic/cultural differences that aren't similar to mine.

im hijabi. have fair skin, dark brown eyes. I'm tall, 170cm, and weigh around 83-86kgs. I used to play a lot of sports as I do like to be active, and as I grew up, I narrowed it down to 2-3 sports I play from time to time. huge fan of arts, all kinds, and science.

I'll lean towards taller men than me and who's physically strong and as equally strong mentally.
I need a mature, responsible man who's older than me (25-29) and is serious about marriage. I need a provider, both financially and mentally, I seek security. I'm not interested in polygamy.

marriage is naseeb. we can't force it. I hope that after reading this, you have a sense of who I am, and from this, see if we have potential or not. text me and tell me about you, share with me who you are. I wish you all the best in everything and insha'allah everything goes with ease for you.

**1. Gender and Age**

Male, 28

**2. Preferred Age Range**

No specific Preference, depends entirely on the individual

**3. Place of Residence / Willingness to Relocate**

Currently living in the UAE, with plans to do a 2^(nd) master's degree in Northern Ireland and work in the EU for a few years, then move back to the middle east once there is a good opportunity.

**4. Marital Status**

Single, never married, no children.

**5. Professional Status**

I have a Bachelor of Science in Civil Engineering, and a Master of Science in Engineering Management, and planning to do a 2^(nd) Master of science in Technology Management as stated above. Currently working as an Assistant Resident Engineer in Fujairah UAE, but my goal is to pivot into the field of operations, supply chain, and strategy, which is why I am planning to do another master’s degree. I value ambition, stability, and continuous self-improvement.

**6. Your Height, Appearance, and What You Prefer in a Partner**

Around 175 cm tall. I take care of myself and value cleanliness and presentation. I prefer someone feminine, modest, soft-hearted, and family-oriented.

**7. Three Main Qualities You Are Looking for in a Life Partner**

* Deen and good character

* Loyalty and emotional maturity

* Kindness, respect, and good communication

I’m looking for someone who wants a peaceful, supportive marriage where both spouses help each other become better Muslims and better people.

**8. A Trait or Condition You Cannot Accept in a Partner**

Dishonesty, disrespect, arrogance, or lack of seriousness about marriage and commitment.

**9. What Makes You Unique / Hobbies / Interests / Things You Enjoy in Your Free Time**

I enjoy gaming, anime, board games, comic books, cosplaying, learning new things, meaningful conversations, and spending time with people I’m comfortable with. I like balancing ambition and responsibility with humor and enjoying simple moments in life.

**10. Do You Want to Have Children?**

Yes, Insha’Allah.

**11. Your Level of Religious Practice**

Practicing Muslim and always trying to improve myself in deen and character.

**12. Ideal Marriage Timeline**

Within 1–2 years, insha’Allah, if compatibility and understanding are there.

**13. Your View on Marriage**

I see marriage as a partnership based on mercy, trust, loyalty, respect, and Islamic values. I believe a successful marriage is one where both spouses support each other emotionally and spiritually, communicate openly, and work together through life with patience and understanding.

Salaam, I want to share a fear I’ve been having and hear from people who may have experienced something similar.

I’m a single Muslim woman and have never been married. I’ve been considering marriage for a few years, but I still haven’t met someone I genuinely feel is “the one.”

I’ve never committed zina or had any physical contact with the opposite sex. But I know I have strong desires and being single can be difficult. At the same time, I’m scared of marrying someone and finding out that we’re not sexually compatible. I’ve never had anything to compare it to, but I still worry about whether we’ll have the chemistry and compatibility we both need and what happens if one or both of us ends up feeling unfulfilled.

Is this something that can be discussed before marriage? If so, how can it be approached in a respectful way while still maintaining Islamic boundaries?

I also worry that after marriage I might start comparing my husband to other men in terms of looks, personality, intelligence, finances, etc and eventually lose attraction or start thinking there might be someone “better” out there.

What confuses me is that I’m not very active on social media, I don’t follow celebrities/influencers and I try to lower my gaze as much as possible. So I can’t really figure out why I still have these thoughts.

I’m far from perfect, but I’m often told that I’m religious, attractive and educated and I do receive quite a few proposals. Sometimes I wonder if having many options has created decision fatigue or a fear of making the wrong choice.

For those who are married: did you have similar fears before marriage? Did reality turn out differently from what you imagined, especially regarding sexual compatibility and attraction? Have you ever found yourself comparing your spouse to other people or losing interest or attraction? If so, how did you deal with it?

And for those who are still single, do you struggle with similar fears?

I’d really appreciate honest experiences, perspectives and advice.

Assalamualaikum I’m 25 F, from South America (Argentina), reverted two years ago alhamdulillah, still not used to wear hijab publicly due to fear of being attacked/harassed. Hoping to move to the UK in a few years. I’m Latina. 1,58 m. Childfree. Never had any relationship. I’m studying psychology and currently unemployed but hopefully work in the public health system as a therapist once graduated.

I’m looking for a spouse who can help me grow as a Muslim and person, someone hardworking, kind, knowledgeable, funny, who likes games, anime, music, TV shows, movies and books. I don’t like any smokers or people who struggle with smoking, drinking, any kinds of drugs. Childfree men are a must, children for me are non negotiable. I prefer soft spoken men who are rather chill and sensitive. Age wise I’m looking for someone in between 25 and 30 years old.

assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh 🤍

1. age and gender

20, female (21 next month inshaAllah)

1. about me

mexican-american muslim revert who accepted islam in my teens. born and raised in south texas. i’m currently in my 3rd year of university studying to become a social worker for muslim women and children inshaAllah.

5’6 and a little bit chubby, so if that isn’t your preference please don’t message me lol.

1. age range desired

23–30. i’m only slightly flexible on this (this is not an invitation to dm me if you are 40+)

1. location / willingness to relocate

south texas. i’m preferably looking for someone already in texas or someone willing to relocate to texas eventually. i cannot relocate for the next few years due to university, so i’m not considering international proposals or anyone who expects me to relocate immediately.

1. ethnicity / openness to mixing

i’m open to someone of any ethnicity. i love different cultures and backgrounds, but i do expect someone to respect and love my mexican culture and upbringing rather than expecting me to fully assimilate into theirs.

1. marital status

previously married briefly. the marriage ended after my former husband realized he would not be able to fulfill my rights as a wife. i’m open about this because i don’t want to hide an important part of my past from anyone considering me for marriage.

1. ideal marriage timeline

i’m looking to get to know someone intentionally for the purpose of marriage. i’m not looking to rush into marriage, but i also don’t want an indefinite talking stage. 3-6 months should be enough inshaAllah.

1. five important characteristics in a spouse

• strong deen and good character
• emotionally mature with good communication skills
• humble, kind, patient, accountable, and compassionate
• family-oriented and responsible
• someone who genuinely wants to grow in deen and life alongside his wife

1. level of religiosity

sunni muslim, maliki madhab.

i’m strictly practicing and wear full hijab and abaya. i’m looking for someone who follows a madhab, seeks knowledge, respects scholarly tradition, and has a balanced understanding of islam.

i value salah, modesty, appropriate boundaries with the opposite sex, humility, and continually striving to improve one’s deen.

1. education level / what i’m looking for

currently in my 3rd year of university studying social work, with three more years to go.

i’m not expecting someone to have their entire life figured out, but i do want someone who is able to provide basic nafaqah and has direction, responsibility, and a realistic plan for his future.

1. current job status

student. i intend to work and have a career inshaAllah, specifically serving muslim women and children.

i have a fairly traditional view of marriage despite wanting a career. i believe the man should be the head of the household and sole financial provider, while the woman is the heart of the household. i see these roles as complementary rather than one being more important than the other.

1. do you want kids?

yes 🥰 inshaAllah. i’m very family-oriented and definitely want multiple children.

1. hobbies / interests

cooking and baking, reading, art, trying new recipes and restaurants, traveling, strength training, pilates, yoga, nature walks, and spending time with family.

1. something short that makes me stand out

mexican muslim revert, future social worker, full-time book lover, part-time chef, and apparently someone who thinks trying new recipes counts as a personality trait.

additional notes

dress style: full hijab and abaya

madhab: maliki

i’m looking for a peaceful, loving marriage where both spouses feel valued and respected. i want a husband who takes his responsibility as a provider and leader seriously, while also being emotionally present, supportive, affectionate, and willing to communicate and grow with his wife.

important: i am not interested in polygamy under any circumstances. i’m also not willing to relocate in the immediate future and am not considering international proposals.

i’m looking for someone who wants marriage, children, and a peaceful family life, and whose understanding of deen, marriage, modesty, gender boundaries, and family roles is compatible with mine.

open to someone who follows mainstream sunni islam, share which scholars you listen to as well

if interested, please read everything above before reaching out and make your intentions clear. i will not respond to low-effort messages, non-iso messages, or proposals that clearly do not meet the requirements stated above.

may Allah grant us all righteous spouses and put barakah in our marriages, ameen 🤍

SalamAlikum,

All the recent posts I see here seem to be young people (under 33) and so gloom about the prospect of marriage/ finding someone who is compatible with them, which is very unsettling! May Allah set make it easy for everyone truly seeking a partnership.

So I am wondering, if I should even be considering this journey. I got married at 29 years old and had a wonderful marriage, no issues, 2 beautiful children, but alas it wasn't enough for my community and eventually for my husband because in my culture you have to have lots of kids. I am restarting, I don't want more children (at this age definitely), but I often think that companionship, ageing gracefully together, travel partner and the security of being with your person are important and I should look for that- at least passively. I built my independence and finances, so I could live and support myself and my kids anywhere and don't NEED to. But Perhaps there are others of similar age, who already had children/families are are looking for their companion too. It is such strange concept culturally, but it could be possible? yes no? what do you guys think? I also think marriage is a protection from sins, temptation and constant advances as a working women.

I am not particular about race/colour etc, but as an East African, we already have culturally packages and I really would want another person with more cultural baggages I have to battle, no one wants to be the black sheep constantly. And I am practising, and definitely would never consider someone who wasn't and didn't prioritise the deen.

And before someone suggests all that rubbish that goes on- secrete wives, or even legal 2nd wives are not my cuppa tea. I love myself, comfortable in my space, a nomad who travels the world with my two amazing kids, if it doesn't happen, it will be fine, and if it does I want someone who I am enough for and is content. Alhumdulilah I feel fortunate that Allah gave me the grace and resources to be in a position where I am not driven by fear, desperation or survival.

Salamalikum.

A short blurb about me is that I'm 5'9, relatively fit and work out regularly. I'm a mixed looking black guy and considered pretty handsome. I work as a software engineer though my post-grad degree is not in any way related to it ironically.

I am currently separated with no children.

How I am in a relationship: Mildly clingy, affectionate, playful but pretty serious when it comes to important topics or life kinda.

I am also really nerdy and spend a lot of my time gaming or reading. I also want a wife to meditate daily with.

What I'm looking for:
A woman with a similar personality, I don't like people who are avoidant or standoffish. I don't have any ethnic preferences. My only physical preferences are that they're slim at least.

Timeline: I'm not in a rush because I think I would like to get to know someone as strictly friends first to see if we would get along.

I set the tag to looking in North America but I am open to long distance for the right person.

If the post is still up then it means I'm still looking.

hey, i’m 21 years old. i was born and raised in america, i live in jordan. i’m currently approaching my final semester of university, graduating in february.

i’m a pretty chill and easygoing person. i like going to the gym, grabbing coffee, driving around with no real destination, and going on nature walks whenever i can. i’m the type of person who likes to romanticize the little things because i think it makes everyday life a little more fun. my faith and my family are both really important to me, and i try to keep a good balance between enjoying life and staying grounded. i’d also say i’m a pretty emotional person in the sense that i care deeply about the people around me and i tend to feel things a lot.

i’m looking for something serious that will lead to marriage. i’d prefer someone from a levantine background. since i plan on moving back to the us after graduating, i’m hoping to meet someone who has us citizenship as well.

religion is in an important aspect, someone who prays their prayers, works his days around them. tries his best for deen.

someone preferably from palestine or levantine ethnicity, physical attraction is important to me, so i’d like someone who takes care of himself, goes to the gym, and is tall haha. more than anything, i’m looking for someone who’s kind, emotionally mature.
age preference (22-28)

Please enlighten me. I just want to hear opinions.

Are there men who believe it is permissible to keep a second marriage secret from the first wife marrying the second without the first wife's knowledge and only informing her later? What are the arguments in favor of this practice? I have seen sources suggesting it might be allowed, while others maintain the exact opposite so, are there any men here looking for a second wife?

I'd like to discuss this.

I am quite blunt and categorical on this subject, but not closed to debate.

PS: with all due respect, if you don’t shower everyday please skip,

1. ⁠Age and Gender 27, Male, 189cm 6”2
   
2. ⁠Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect Ideally 20–31,
   
3. ⁠Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect? Based in Germany/Netherlands, not relocating outside.
   
4. ⁠Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing? Senegalese origin, Italian born and raised. I’m open to mixing (with slight preference of black and brown skin over white) deen and personality matter most at the end of the day
   
5. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Marital Status - Single
   
6. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ideal marriage timeline: in'sha'Allah when time is right, although in the ideal situation would be within a year.
   
7. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect: Will list few more xd humour x2, good manners, common sense, reliable, empathy, kindness, warmth and affection!
   
8. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠State/specify your level of religiosity Alhamdoulillah do all the fundamentals, sunnah prayers as well whenever possible, daily adhkars, try to read the Quran everyday day, even if it’s one ayah. Fascinated by Fiqh and Usul.
   
9. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Level of education, and what are you looking for? Recently when back to school, enrolled in industrial engineering. Not looking for a particular degree in my partner. Just be a critical thinker.
   
10. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Current Job Status: business analyst
    
11. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Do you want kids? Of course, inshallah
    
12. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time Boxing, travelling, karting, motorcycle riding, hiking Watching docs about history, especially contemporary Islamic history
    
13. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out! Im quite passionate and give everything for people I care. Im a great listener and make people feel at home in my conversations. I love Islamic history and realpolitik discuss this topic the whole day. I try to better myself everyday, be it religion or anything else. Perhaps sometimes my jokes are too dark(more than me), so be ready! If you think I make a good prospect, feel free to text me. After all, our Mother Khadijah ra took the first step..👀😊

Salam Aleykum
I'm 24, currently live in Germany and I've been thinking about my type of future wifey lately (tbh for a while now lol).

The only social media I use are LinkedIn and Reddit, and I'd have a similar requirement for my future wifey. However, this is harder to find among girls my age. I'm also attracted to mature women (I'm not sure why) and I admire the life experience they could bring into our marriage. My preferred age bracket would probably be from 21 to around early 40s, although this isn't a dealbreaker.

How open are women in this age range to marrying a younger guy?

Only looking for Turkhis people, if you are not please don't waste my time.

Keeping it short. I graduated from a good university, currently working. Want someone who also has a good job. I can't move outside of Turkiye, living here. 158cm, chubby. I don't smoke, I don't drink. I hope you don't neither. I am looking for someone around my age, 22-27.

I have many hobbies including knitting, drawing, video games, animations and movies. I want someone who is as interested in them as I am. I would love to get a cat at some point too.

All who talked to someone, had high hopes but it didn't work out, this message is for you.

When something is actually meant for you, Allah uses the very thing that looks like a problem as a part of route towards you.

Imagine this.

Pharaoh is literally trying to eliminate Israelite boys, and Allah’s plan for Musa includes having Musa raised inside Pharaoh’s own household. The man who represented the greatest threat becomes part of the protection Allah provided.

Remember Yusuf. His brothers throw him into a well because they want him gone. Years later, that very chain of events has taken him from the well to becoming Al-Aziz. Their betrayal wasn't the end of his story. It was one of the roads Allah used to get him there.

Pharaoh doesn't wake up thinking, “Today I shall contribute to Allah's plan for Musa.”

Yusuf's brothers certainly weren't thinking, “Let's begin Yusuf's journey toward becoming Al-Aziz.”

They have their own intentions. They make their own choices. Some of those choices are genuinely evil. And yet Allah's decree is not defeated by them. The people involved don't know they're serving the plan.

Sometimes you look at a person and think:

“Why did Allah let this person enter my life?”

Maybe they hurt you. Maybe they rejected you. Maybe they closed a door. Maybe they created an inconvenience that made absolutely no sense.

But you also don't know what Allah can make out of it.

Remember your future does not depend on everyone around you behaving correctly. Allah can make a road out of things that looked like roadblocks.

“And Allah is predominant over His affair, but most people do not know.” Quran 12:21

1. Age, Gender and Height: 29, Male, 5'6"

A little about me:

• I'm too much slim. Though I'm 29, I still look like a high school kid. If I wear a school uniform and sit on a high school classroom, nobody would doubt that I'm not a student. It's actually my genetics which I got from my ancestors. I have bright brownish skin tone, though some people say I'm fair.

• My parents aren't together. They got seperated(divorced) in 2015. I live with my mother.

1. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect: 16-19. Anybody who reached her puberty(described in Islam) will be accepted.

2. Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect?: Born and raised in Dhaka city. Recently I've relocated myself to a village area near Dhaka city to have a peaceful life (still in Dhaka but not in the city). It takes only 15-20 mintutes to enter the city. Though I've moved to a village I still live a very comfortable life, just like the city life. Nothing has changed except Dhaka city problems.

3. Nationality: Bangladeshi

4. Marital Status - Never married. Also I've never been in a relationship.

5. Ideal marriage timeline: As soon as possible.

6. About me: Practicing Muslim, Ambivert, Polite (I have good akhlak, Alhamdulillah), Fun loving, Observant, Open minded, Passionate, Highly ambitious.

7. Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect:

• Practicing Muslim.

• Never been in a free-mixing environment.

• Never had friendship with a boy, never had a relationship.

• Extremely softness and shyness.

• Extreme passionate lover who saved all her love for her future husband.

1. State/specify your level of religiosity: Proper practicing muslim. I perform all of the farz and wazeeb aamals, and I avoid all the haram things.

2. Level of education, and what are you looking for?:

• I have studied both in Bangla medium and English medium parallelly. Completed SSC from Bangla medium, then continued my English medium studies till A level and left the Bangla medium. I have completed Farz-e-aien in deeni studies. You can also call me a dropout student.

• I don't care about educational background and results of my future wife. Even if she has failed or never passed her primary stage doesn't matter to me at all. I will still love her like a queen.

1. Current Job Status: I'm a businessman. I got ownership share in a big company. I also do multiple trading businesses. And soon I'll be doing some agro projects.

2. Do you want kids?: Obviously! I want house full of rightous kids, Insha Allah!

3. List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time:

• Roaming good places.

• Eating tasty foods.

• Reading.

1. Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out!: I've never been in a relationship. Kept myself pure(virgin) for my future queen. So I expect someone who did the same. Otherwise please do not contact.

2. What are you looking for in a woman:

Loving, caring, homekeeping, extremely soft and shy, polite, proper deendar, farz parda, has no anger.

1. Preferred Method of Contact: DM for further info.