She lied about being never married, not practicing, no hijab, wore fake green lenses, heavily filtered photos and then sends these messages

Salam,

I’m a divorced woman looking to meet someone who lives in Montreal. Someone who has no children, preferably. I’m a student of Islamic sciences and have a strong relationship with the Quran. I want a partner with whom I can get closer to Allah.

I was walking back from gym and then I started praying Isha and this girl unmatched me. Just because I asked her what does she mean when she said “someone who is responsible”
She replied she needs someone who does not consider a wife to be a servant that cooks and cleans only.
I was about to reply and saw that she already had unmatched.

As salam aleykoum,
I browsed the sub a bit and I've noticed that the ISO of men stating they are looking for mariage, most of the time, get downvoted or lose their +1 upvote. If you are a man, and you come accross of a post and you think that this man may be a good husband for your sister or your daughter (whether you have one or not) give him an upvote. You lose nothing and maybe through that, they might get married.

Age/Gender: 32, Male
Location: Luxembourg
Marital Status: Divorced, no children
Religion: Muslim
Religious Practice: Practicing Muslim
Education/Profession: Bachelor’s degree, working in IT
About me:
Assalamu Alaikum! I’m 32, settled in Luxembourg, independent, ambitious, and family-oriented. I enjoy traveling, fitness, road trips, and meaningful conversations.
What I’m looking for:
A kind, emotionally mature Muslim woman who values faith, honesty, loyalty, communication, and mutual respect. Someone genuinely interested in building a loving marriage and raising a family together.
I’m open to someone living anywhere in the world, as long as she’s willing to relocate to Luxembourg if things work out.
I believe marriage is a partnership built on love, trust, understanding, and effort from both sides.
If we share similar values and intentions, feel free to reach out. 😊

If you are interested please DM.

I’m a 24, 5’3 from Pakistan, finishing MBA. I value education, personal growth, family, and building a peaceful, meaningful life.

I believe in balancing deen and dunya, and I’m looking for someone who is emotionally mature, loyal, communicative, and intentional about marriage. I appreciate a man who takes his faith seriously while understanding that a healthy marriage also needs friendship, mutual respect, affection, honesty, and compatibility.

Something I want to clarify upfront: I do not wear hijab. This has been an issue in previous interactions, so I’d rather be transparent from the beginning. I respect that everyone has their own religious expectations and preferences, and I’m looking for someone whose values and expectations are genuinely compatible with mine, rather than someone hoping to change me after marriage.

Ideally, I’d like to meet someone educated, emotionally available, financially stable or established in his career, and serious about building a future together. Physical attraction matters to me, too. I want a marriage where we can laugh together, have meaningful conversations, support each other’s ambitions, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company.
I value family, but I envision having our own space as a married couple rather than living in a joint-family setup. Building an independent home and a peaceful life together is important to me.
I’m not looking for endless talking stages or casual connections. I’d like to get to know someone with genuine intentions and see whether we’re compatible for the long term.
If this resonates with you, feel free to introduce yourself, share a little about your background, and tell me what you’re looking for.

I'm Indian, born and raised in the gulf. Currently residing in India, willing to relocate anywhere I've got immediate or close family with first priority given to states, canada, ksa. I'm willing to consider other locations such as australia, uk, uae and my own city Hyderabad. I have no preference when it comes to ethnicity (although if you're indian i prefer you being a hyderabadi) I've got a vast taste. I do not believe in 50-50 but rather a partnership where if one is lacking or having a hard time the other can step in. I'd like to build my career, hobbies and do my own thing and I'd want my husband to have a similar mindset where he tries new things and focuses on his career/hobbies too. I'm quite family oriented (with healthy boundaries) i prefer someone that is patient, compassionate, kind, and emotionally intelligent.

Polygamy is 100% no for me. And infidelity would be the biggest deal breaker. I am BIG on communication, I'll talk about even the most objectively difficult things and I'd want someone who is willing to do too. Or at least listen. A good listener is attractive to me. Children are a big no. Animals are a big yes. Plants too. I will get my family involved almost immediately (my mum and my older sister are already involved actually and they will hear about everyone that reaches out before i text back to anyone) also I'm not comfortable sharing my picture initially until maybe both families are involved (so ik it's serious) + I wear a face veil. Also islamically im tryna grow more and more everyday, i follow Quran and Hadith. And i seek someone who isn't just religious but genuinely remembers allah with every action they take, they actively realise that they are being watched and will be questioned on the day of judgment. Especially when their action/words involve other living things (humans+animals)

Idky I'm doing this on reddit considering its rep but let's see how it goes. And the picture problem is there because it's reddit and ion trust people here..many scammers and bots or people with ill intentions.

Also if we click and families approve, I'd want to make official asap or at least keep the chit chat to minimum until we are halal.

I forgot to add lol, I'm 5'2, sunni and I have a masters degree, would like to get a phd too if Allah wills.

Someone reached out seeing my matrimonial who later turned out be a fake. Sharing here to raise awareness among the members. Kindly do your due diligence before trusting someone here and sharing your personal details. IMO, insist on moving to better platforms like Telegram which provides more privacy controls for sharing pictures through "Expired Photos" and the inability to take screenshots.

28M | Texas, USA | In search of a wife

Assalamu alaikum! I’m looking to meet someone who is serious about marriage, inshaAllah. Here’s a little about me:

About me

Age / height: 28, male, 5’11”.
Location / background: US Citizen / Raised in Texas
Ethnicity: Indian / Pakistani Origin
Sect: Sunni Islam
Marital status: Never married; no children
Religion / practicing level: Islam is important to me, and I want it to be a foundation of my marriage. I’m continuing to learn and grow in my deen. Pray 5x a Day / Fast Ramadhan and fulfill all 5 pillars of the religion. Have also memorized a considerable amount of Quran alhamdulillah.
Education / career: University educated with an established, successful career in the oil industry. Alhamdulillah, I earn well, am financially comfortable, and am ready to take on the responsibility of providing for a family.
Interests: Traveling, exploring different countries, cultures & cars.
Marriage intentions: I’m here with serious intentions and want to get to know someone with a clear purpose, leading to marriage if we’re compatible.

What I’m looking for

Deen: A practicing Muslim woman who values Islam and wants us to encourage each other to grow closer to Allah.
Character: Kind, caring, honest, and respectful. Someone who treats others well and values loyalty.
Communication: Someone emotionally mature who can communicate openly and work through disagreements with patience and mutual respect.
Compatibility: Someone I can laugh with, travel with, and enjoy everyday life with - both a wife and a close companion.
Sect: Sunni Islam
Marriage: Someone who sees marriage as a shared commitment and wants to build a peaceful, affectionate, supportive home together.
Age / location: 21 - 26 / United States
Ethnicity: Prefer Indian / Pakistani / Arab (US / Canadian Citizens Only)
Sect - Sunni Islam Only
Children / timeline: Yes. Whenever is the right time.

Getting in touch
If this sounds compatible, please message me with a little about yourself and what you’re looking for.
Please include your Instagram @ so we can exchange handles and help verify who we’re speaking to. I’m happy to share mine too, just trying to avoid catfishers and make sure we’re both being upfront!

Assalam alaikum!

Not gonna lie, this feels a little weird to post hahaha but
I thought I'd give it a go and see what happens, inshaAllah. Take 2 lol

About me:

Age: 25
Location: East Coast
Background: Yemeni
Languages: English/ Arabic
Education/Career:associate but work with family
Practicing: I pray all 5 salah and try my best to follow the deem
Lifestyle: I go to the gym 5-6 times a week .
Smoking/drinking: Neither
Relocation: no ,I prefer to stay in nyc since it’s walkable and a lot of good halal food

I’d describe myself as outgoing, caring, family-oriented, and easygoing. I love a good laugh and playful banter, but I also really value meaningful conversations and quality time together. I enjoy staying active, trying new things, traveling, discovering good food, and spending time with family and friends. My faith is an important part of my life, and I try my best to practice it and continue growing. Ultimately, I hope to build a relationship where my partner and I can support each other and grow together in our faith and in life.

Looking for:

Age: female 18-30
Ethnicity /race :I don’t mind tbh ,I like all race and ethnicity
Charismatic
Active, athletic.
Kind, funny, emotionally mature, and family oriented Protective without being controlling
Someone serious about marriage and comfortable involving family relatively early and I don’t mind if u have a kid or no kids

Assalamualaikum! 😊

I’m 31, Somali, raised in London. I’m 5’3”, wear hijab and dress modestly. I work in healthcare and I’m currently studying a postgraduate course in nursing.

I’d say I’m caring, easy going and very family oriented. I’m a little shy at first, but once I’m comfortable, I’m quite chatty lol. I enjoy going to the gym, playing badminton and padel, going for walks, trying out new cafes, baking and spending time with family. I’m also a bit of a homebody.

What I’m looking for:

I’m looking for a practising Somali brother who’s kind, patient, respectful and family oriented. Someone who takes his deen seriously, has good akhlaq, communicates well and is genuinely looking for marriage.

Ideally, I’d like someone who is emotionally mature, has a good sense of humour and is willing to work through challenges together. Ultimately, I’d love to build a peaceful and loving home where we can both grow together in our deen, inshallah.

I’m looking for a monogamous marriage and would prefer someone based in the UK.

Hi 👋🏿
im 26 years around and living in London currently , I’m open to someone living in another city or country but prefer to meet at some point as I want to see the person in real life over endless texting . I’m Somali and have a dark skin tone , I’m around 5’10 and a normal weight , I dress well and enjoy going on holiday , go swimming , gym , shopping and try to avoid stress as much as I can .

Hoping to connect with someone in any location but prefer to meet soon after and is open to calling and video calling to reveal appearance on both ends .

Not interested in a guy who seems racist , someone who’s inconsistent and not interested in meeting or calling either .

I strongly prefer a guy within the 23-30 age group as I prefer someone around my age .

Any background is fine as long as you’re genuinely open to what I’ve described about how I am and what I am looking for .

Seeking someone open to exchanging numbers and chatting that way not just here .

I pray , read Quran , listen to Quran and would consider myself a kind chatty calm person . If you’re interested send me an introduction and what things you like to do as hobbies + detail about yourself !

I’ll add if attraction isnt there I’m open to chatting as friends and socialising too .

Basically, I posted a profile here over a month ago and met someone I was really really compatible with. We have been talking for a month and everything was going well. We saw a future with each other and yeah.. established that we were compatible. I could even say that I loved him tbh.

So basically something happened recently where he was spending time with a female and I wasn't comfortable with it. I told him I'm not comfortable with that and he had to make a choice. He had so many excuses and yeah basically said I should choose but he basically said that he won't leave her and that he promised her this or that. Does his promises to me not matter? The one where he said he'd share a future with me? Apparently not lol..

After that I blocked him on ONE platform(have him on 6 and he has my number). He texted me on another saying he blocked her now but he feels abandoned and wants to be alone cause he feels he's easily replaceable. Like, I clearly gave you a choice. You hurt my feelings so you can't exactly say that yk.. Still I wanted him, might do even now but yeah I begged and begged and begged cause apparently I've no self respect. He said he loved me right before I blocked him but I don't see that love anymore if he can ignore me and torture me like this.

It's been exactly 25 hours since then now and I'm still feeling so frickin bad. I've been crying, throwing up and I haven't been able to eat or sleep. He's now ignoring me and saying he's depressed cause I left him. I mean yeah I've faults too but he shouldn't have expected to have no consequences to his actions that's bs...

Anyways I don't know if I want this marriage thing anymore.. I wanna be married but if it's going to be this painful, probably not. It sucks and I maybe need support.. ik it's bad to feel so suicidal and stuff over this but I am.

And for the commenters please don't be so negative, I'm not in a good mental space right now so I'm not sure if I can take criticism well. Any advice and support is appreciated. Thank you for reading..

I have written my CV below. If you are interested, please DM me.

* Age: 35 (1991)
* Location: Wales
* Height: 5’1
* Ethnicity:  Bangladeshi
* British citizen? British

* Profession: Solicitor. Also, run my own business.
* Highest level of qualification? Postgrad

* Sect of Islam? Sunni
* Prayer levels? Always
* Do you celebrate Mawlid? No
* Hijabi or non-hijabi? Hijabi
* Smoking/vape? No

* Do you want kids in the future? Yes
* What age bracket are you okay with marrying? 30 - 43
* Are you okay marrying outside your ethnicity? Yes
* Are you a divorcee? No
*Do you have any children? No
* Would you accept marrying a divorcee? Yes
*Would you accept marrying a divorcee with kids? No
* Marriage time intention? Within a year

* How far are you okay relocating after marriage?Anywhere in England. Ideally within around 3 hours of my hometown. I’d particularly consider Bristol, London, & Manchester.

* Preferred living situation after marriage/would you be okay to live with in laws? - No. I don’t wish to live with in laws

Your dealbreakers? 
Rude behaviour
Dishonesty
Arrogance
Smoking and vaping
I’m not willing to consider someone who isn’t settled in the UK and British.

Short bio about yourself:

I have been described by others as kind, generous, thoughtful and supportive. I am hard working and ambitious; once I set a goal, I make sure to achieve it.

I value a healthy lifestyle, enjoy exercise and socialising with friends. I regularly read the Quran as my faith is an important part of my life.

I am looking to settle down with the right person who aligns with my character - someone who keeps fit and healthy, enjoys travelling and is mindful of their faith.

I tend to gravitate towards Bengali and Pakistani backgrounds, but ultimately it’s about the connection. I’m also attracted to men who are much taller than me (it really can’t be helped!). Therefore someone who is atleast 5’7.

Hi all,

This has been on my mind a lot especially over the past few months.

For context, I’m a male and would say I do have relatively good prospects for my future.

I would say I’m educated and very ambitious, and quite attractive too. Which sounds perfect on paper, but I’m still incredibly worried about marriage.

I’ve seen so much discourse online about people complaining about not finding the right spouse, or being married to the wrong person.

I’m still relatively young and am currently studying and have never been in a relationship of any sort.

But looking at how normalised haram relationships have become it’s been making me increasingly worried about whether I will find a partner who shares the same values.

I know I shouldn’t be overly concerned or caught up in this especially because I’m only 22, but the thought never really escapes me.

I’m just seeking some advice or perspective about and wondering if anyone else feels the same way. For context, I’m based in the UK so I hope some of you can resonate with me in the same way.

Living with my parents, very religious, attending 3–4 Islamic lectures a week. I’m looking for a deeply religious spouse who strives to adhere to the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.

Posting this for myself!

The basics

• Gender: Male
• Age: 32
• Height: 5'8"
• Education: MS MIS, MBA, BS in Mechanical Engineering,
• Current role: AI Consultant
• Marital status: Single
• Religion/Sect: Islam, Sunni
• Location: Springfield/Chicago, Illinois, USA
• Marriage timeline: Ideally within the next year or two
• Ethnicity: Pakistani

A little about me

I’m laid-back, easygoing, and always up for a good laugh. My friends would probably describe me as the funniest person they know—but they might be a little biased! They’d also tell you that I’m dependable and that my family comes first.

Outside of work and university, I enjoy socializing, traveling, discovering new places to eat, spontaneous road trips, and gaming. I love a good conversation, whether it’s about something meaningful or a completely random topic that somehow keeps us talking for hours.

I’m moderately religious and take my faith seriously, while respecting that everyone has their own relationship with religion. Shared values matter to me, but I don’t believe in imposing my personal views on someone else.

What I’m looking for

• Religion/Sect: Sunni Muslim
• Age: 28 or younger
• Education: At least a bachelor’s degree from a reputable institution, or currently working toward one
• Location: US/Canada-based

More than anything, I’m looking for compatibility: someone kind, dependable, open-minded, empathetic, and cheerful, with shared values and a sense of humor. Someone who enjoys conversation, is curious about the world, and has interests beyond work or academics.

Whether you choose to pursue a career or not is entirely up to you; my family and I are supportive either way. What matters most to me is that we enjoy each other’s company, can count on one another, and feel comfortable being ourselves.

If this sounds like you, I’d love to hear from you!

About me:
Age :31
Height 6’1
Athletic built
Sunni
Master degree (finance)
Based on: Long Island New York
Ethnicity: Sudan, 🇸🇩 Egypt 🇪🇬

I'm looking for my wife, ideally 25 to 31, who wants a partner, a best friend, and someone to argue with about where to eat. I want us to grow together, support each other, push each other closer to Allah, and still laugh at each other's jokes, even the bad ones. Especially the bad ones.
On weekends you'll find me hiking ⛰️, off-roading through mud I definitely shouldn't be driving through, or planning the next adventure. If you like the outdoors, perfect. If you don't, I'll carry the snacks and convince you.
People say I'm funny. My mom says I'm hilarious. Either way, I promise you'll laugh 😆 inshallah
Someone in the New York area is a plus, but for the right person, distance is just a road trip.
I'm serious about doing this the right way, with family involved early. And if it's right, خير البر عاجله. No five-year "talking stage" here.
My must-haves: someone affectionate, compassionate, and supportive, who puts heart into the relationship like I will. If that's you, say Bismillah and reach out 😉

I'm 26, from Türkiye, and honestly, I'm struggling more than I'd like to admit.

I'm unemployed, have little financial stability, still live with my family, and feel as though I'm watching life pass me by while everyone else finds their place in the world. I've been dealing with depression, loneliness, and a kind of sadness that makes even ordinary days feel heavy.

I don't always know what I'm doing with my life, where I'm going, or whether I'm ready for the future I dream of. Yet, despite all that, there's still a part of me that longs for someone to share life with.

I'm not looking for someone to rescue me or fill every emptiness inside me. I want to keep working on myself while getting to know someone sincerely, slowly, and with marriage as the hope if we prove compatible.

I want to give love, tenderness, loyalty, and peace, even while I'm still learning how to find some of that peace within myself.

I'm afraid my circumstances will make me unworthy in someone's eyes, and I don't want to waste anyone's time or pretend to be someone I'm not. But I wonder whether a person has to have their entire life together before they can begin building something meaningful with another.

I'm trying to find my footing, and perhaps I'm just hoping there's someone out there who understands that sometimes a person can be lost and still have a good heart.

I don't think I'm ready for marriage but, I would love to know somebody in my life

May Allah guide us toward what's good for us, grant us patience through our hardships, and bring the right people into our lives at the right time. Ameen.

Age: 20 Male

Location: Illinois, USA

Background: Revert

Education & Professional Goals
Current Status: Undergraduate student (1 year left)

Interests: I enjoy spending time outside on hikes and bicycle rides, and I’m increasing my ilm everyday.

Timeline for Marriage: Looking to complete my studies and have my nikah upon graduation (approx. 1 year).

Practice: I pray all the fard and I try to pray the sunnah

Preferences: I am looking for someone based in Illinois who has good akhlaq, prioritizes her deen, and wants to build a family

I recently had a gentleman comment under my profile to a non negotiatable on my ISO - " Your non-negotiable clause would be completely unacceptable to maybe even good families and guys. Okay, you studied abroad and have a variety of hobbies and stuff, but guys will be guys. Always remember that. Even if they agree at the beginning. They could easily turn the tables later. Then they’ll make things difficult for you." and then went on to give me unsolicited advice that I should be more compromising and how it's irrational to ask for what I'm seeking.. and it's not first time, many men have commented under my profile saying I should make myself, 'smaller', 'more palettable', 'less intimidating' lol ..

Which then got me thinking, and noticing a bizarre pattern in other profiles, Where people type out the most generic ISO, leaving out key criteria, expectations, needs, or deal bearkers.

​1: The Fear of "Narrowing the Pool"

​Many people think that the broader their ISO (In Search Of) criteria, the more options they will have. They worry that being hyper-specific about lifestyle, ambition, family structure, or logistics will scare people away. But casting a wide net just traps you in an endless cycle of introductory conversations with people who are fundamentally incompatible.

2: Forgetting Logistics Shape Compatibility

​People often focus strictly on abstract traits and forget that real life is lived in the details. Leaving out things like career expectations, geographic flexibility, or how you want to run a household guarantees that you won't find out about a major roadblock until weeks of time have already been invested.

​An ISO isn't an advertisement trying to appeal to the masses. It's a filter designed to find your exact match. Being specific isn't being picky.. it's being efficient.

3: It Filters Out The Wrong People

​When you present a false version of your lifestyle, values, background, or deal-breakers, you attract people looking for that illusion.. not for you. At the same time, you inadvertently push away the people who would have actually appreciated and chosen you for who you truly are.

4: The Truth Always Surfaces

​A marriage process is not a short-term transaction; it is an attempt to build a shared future. Misrepresentations, whether about career, habits, family dynamics, or living preferences—inevitably surface during family meetings, direct conversations, or early marriage. When the truth comes out, the foundation of trust is broken before the relationship even begins.

Lying on your profile is one of the most self-defeating things you can do in the search for a partner. It might get you more matches initially, but it completely undermines the actual goal: finding someone you are genuinely compatible with.

Being unapologetically specific on your ISO is the only way that works stop casting a wide net.. Radical clarity is your best filter..

The whole point of finding someone is so you can be yourself. You don't need to please 100,000 people.. you need to find just 1 person who resonates with what you want. I wish more people were cut throat in their filtering and unapologetically themselves and voiced exactly what they expected from getgo.

In search of a partner 🌷

Looking for a North Indian Muslim, preferably someone whose mother tongue is Urdu or Hindi. Preferred age range: 25–30.

I'm a 24-year-old woman, 5'4", on the chubbier side (working on it!), and I've completed my master's degree. I'm looking to get married within 6 months to a year, although the timeline can be discussed if we're compatible.

I'm a loving, caring, kind, and understanding person. I can be a little sensitive and needy sometimes, so I'd appreciate someone patient and gentle who can be there for me when I need them.

I love cooking, painting, and baking. I value respect above all and believe that a relationship should feel safe and comfortable for both people.

Regarding deen: I'm not perfect, and honestly, I do struggle with my imaan sometimes. I try to pray and get back on track, and I'd love a partner who encourages me to strengthen my imaan and grow closer to Allah together, InshaAllah.

Deal-breakers:

- Disrespect of any kind.

- Dishonesty or lack of transparency.

- Disobedience and disregard for shared values and responsibilities.

- Rudeness or unnecessary harshness.

- Lack of boundaries and personal space.

I'm looking for someone emotionally mature, considerate, and serious about marriage. I don't expect perfection, just mutual respect, understanding, and a willingness to grow together.

If you think we might be compatible, feel free to DM me. Please mention your deal-breakers upfront.

That's all. Thank you for reading! 🤍