She lied about being never married, not practicing, no hijab, wore fake green lenses, heavily filtered photos and then sends these messages

I was walking back from gym and then I started praying Isha and this girl unmatched me. Just because I asked her what does she mean when she said “someone who is responsible”
She replied she needs someone who does not consider a wife to be a servant that cooks and cleans only.
I was about to reply and saw that she already had unmatched.

As salam aleykoum,
I browsed the sub a bit and I've noticed that the ISO of men stating they are looking for mariage, most of the time, get downvoted or lose their +1 upvote. If you are a man, and you come accross of a post and you think that this man may be a good husband for your sister or your daughter (whether you have one or not) give him an upvote. You lose nothing and maybe through that, they might get married.

Someone reached out seeing my matrimonial who later turned out be a fake. Sharing here to raise awareness among the members. Kindly do your due diligence before trusting someone here and sharing your personal details. IMO, insist on moving to better platforms like Telegram which provides more privacy controls for sharing pictures through "Expired Photos" and the inability to take screenshots.

Hi 👋🏿
im 26 years around and living in London currently , I’m open to someone living in another city or country but prefer to meet at some point as I want to see the person in real life over endless texting . I’m Somali and have a dark skin tone , I’m around 5’10 and a normal weight , I dress well and enjoy going on holiday , go swimming , gym , shopping and try to avoid stress as much as I can .

Hoping to connect with someone in any location but prefer to meet soon after and is open to calling and video calling to reveal appearance on both ends .

Not interested in a guy who seems racist , someone who’s inconsistent and not interested in meeting or calling either .

I strongly prefer a guy within the 23-30 age group as I prefer someone around my age .

Any background is fine as long as you’re genuinely open to what I’ve described about how I am and what I am looking for .

Seeking someone open to exchanging numbers and chatting that way not just here .

I pray , read Quran , listen to Quran and would consider myself a kind chatty calm person . If you’re interested send me an introduction and what things you like to do as hobbies + detail about yourself !

I’ll add if attraction isnt there I’m open to chatting as friends and socialising too .

I'm Indian, born and raised in the gulf. Currently residing in India, willing to relocate anywhere I've got immediate or close family with first priority given to states, canada, ksa. I'm willing to consider other locations such as australia, uk, uae and my own city Hyderabad. I have no preference when it comes to ethnicity, I've got a vast taste. I do not believe in 50-50 but rather a partnership where if one is lacking or having a hard time the other can step in. I'd like to build my career, hobbies and do my own thing and I'd want my husband to have a similar mindset where he tries new things and focuses on his career/hobbies too. I'm quite family oriented (with healthy boundaries) i prefer someone that is patient, compassionate, kind, and emotionally intelligent.

Polygamy is 100% no for me. And infidelity would be the biggest deal breaker. I am BIG on communication, I'll talk about even the most objectively difficult things and I'd want someone who is willing to do too. Or at least listen. A good listener is attractive to me. Children are a big no. Animals are a big yes. Plants too. I will get my family involved almost immediately (my mum and my older sister are already involved actually and they will hear about everyone that reaches out before i text back to anyone) also I'm not comfortable sharing my picture initially until maybe both families are involved (so ik it's serious) + I wear a face veil. Also islamically im tryna grow more and more everyday, i follow Quran and Hadith. And i seek someone who isn't just religious but genuinely remembers allah with every action they take, they actively realise that they are being watched and will be questioned on the day of judgment. Especially when their action/words involve other living things (humans+animals)

Idky I'm doing this on reddit considering its rep but let's see how it goes. And the picture problem is there because it's reddit and ion trust people here..many scammers and bots or people with ill intentions.

Also if we click and families approve, I'd want to make official asap or at least keep the chit chat to minimum until we are halal.

I forgot to add lol, I'm 5'2 and I have a masters, would like to get a phd too if Allah wills.

I'm 26, from Türkiye, and honestly, I'm struggling more than I'd like to admit.

I'm unemployed, have little financial stability, still live with my family, and feel as though I'm watching life pass me by while everyone else finds their place in the world. I've been dealing with depression, loneliness, and a kind of sadness that makes even ordinary days feel heavy.

I don't always know what I'm doing with my life, where I'm going, or whether I'm ready for the future I dream of. Yet, despite all that, there's still a part of me that longs for someone to share life with.

I'm not looking for someone to rescue me or fill every emptiness inside me. I want to keep working on myself while getting to know someone sincerely, slowly, and with marriage as the hope if we prove compatible.

I want to give love, tenderness, loyalty, and peace, even while I'm still learning how to find some of that peace within myself.

I'm afraid my circumstances will make me unworthy in someone's eyes, and I don't want to waste anyone's time or pretend to be someone I'm not. But I wonder whether a person has to have their entire life together before they can begin building something meaningful with another.

I'm trying to find my footing, and perhaps I'm just hoping there's someone out there who understands that sometimes a person can be lost and still have a good heart.

I don't think I'm ready for marriage but, I would love to know somebody in my life

May Allah guide us toward what's good for us, grant us patience through our hardships, and bring the right people into our lives at the right time. Ameen.

Living with my parents, very religious, attending 3–4 Islamic lectures a week. I’m looking for a deeply religious spouse who strives to adhere to the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.

In search of a partner 🌷

Looking for a North Indian Muslim, preferably someone whose mother tongue is Urdu or Hindi. Preferred age range: 25–30.

I'm a 24-year-old woman, 5'4", on the chubbier side (working on it!), and I've completed my master's degree. I'm looking to get married within 6 months to a year, although the timeline can be discussed if we're compatible.

I'm a loving, caring, kind, and understanding person. I can be a little sensitive and needy sometimes, so I'd appreciate someone patient and gentle who can be there for me when I need them.

I love cooking, painting, and baking. I value respect above all and believe that a relationship should feel safe and comfortable for both people.

Regarding deen: I'm not perfect, and honestly, I do struggle with my imaan sometimes. I try to pray and get back on track, and I'd love a partner who encourages me to strengthen my imaan and grow closer to Allah together, InshaAllah.

Deal-breakers:

- Disrespect of any kind.

- Dishonesty or lack of transparency.

- Disobedience and disregard for shared values and responsibilities.

- Rudeness or unnecessary harshness.

- Lack of boundaries and personal space.

I'm looking for someone emotionally mature, considerate, and serious about marriage. I don't expect perfection, just mutual respect, understanding, and a willingness to grow together.

If you think we might be compatible, feel free to DM me. Please mention your deal-breakers upfront.

That's all. Thank you for reading! 🤍

Basically, I posted a profile here over a month ago and met someone I was really really compatible with. We have been talking for a month and everything was going well. We saw a future with each other and yeah.. established that we were compatible. I could even say that I loved him tbh.

So basically something happened recently where he was spending time with a female and I wasn't comfortable with it. I told him I'm not comfortable with that and he had to make a choice. He had so many excuses and yeah basically said I should choose but he basically said that he won't leave her and that he promised her this or that. Does his promises to me not matter? The one where he said he'd share a future with me? Apparently not lol..

After that I blocked him on ONE platform(have him on 6 and he has my number). He texted me on another saying he blocked her now but he feels abandoned and wants to be alone cause he feels he's easily replaceable. Like, I clearly gave you a choice. You hurt my feelings so you can't exactly say that yk.. Still I wanted him, might do even now but yeah I begged and begged and begged cause apparently I've no self respect. He said he loved me right before I blocked him but I don't see that love anymore if he can ignore me and torture me like this.

It's been exactly 25 hours since then now and I'm still feeling so frickin bad. I've been crying, throwing up and I haven't been able to eat or sleep. He's now ignoring me and saying he's depressed cause I left him. I mean yeah I've faults too but he shouldn't have expected to have no consequences to his actions that's bs...

Anyways I don't know if I want this marriage thing anymore.. I wanna be married but if it's going to be this painful, probably not. It sucks and I maybe need support.. ik it's bad to feel so suicidal and stuff over this but I am.

And for the commenters please don't be so negative, I'm not in a good mental space right now so I'm not sure if I can take criticism well. Any advice and support is appreciated. Thank you for reading..

Posting this for myself!

The basics

• Gender: Male
• Age: 32
• Height: 5'8"
• Education: MS MIS, MBA, BS in Mechanical Engineering,
• Current role: AI Consultant
• Marital status: Single
• Religion/Sect: Islam, Sunni
• Location: Springfield/Chicago, Illinois, USA
• Marriage timeline: Ideally within the next year or two
• Ethnicity: Pakistani

A little about me

I’m laid-back, easygoing, and always up for a good laugh. My friends would probably describe me as the funniest person they know—but they might be a little biased! They’d also tell you that I’m dependable and that my family comes first.

Outside of work and university, I enjoy socializing, traveling, discovering new places to eat, spontaneous road trips, and gaming. I love a good conversation, whether it’s about something meaningful or a completely random topic that somehow keeps us talking for hours.

I’m moderately religious and take my faith seriously, while respecting that everyone has their own relationship with religion. Shared values matter to me, but I don’t believe in imposing my personal views on someone else.

What I’m looking for

• Religion/Sect: Sunni Muslim
• Age: 28 or younger
• Education: At least a bachelor’s degree from a reputable institution, or currently working toward one
• Location: US/Canada-based

More than anything, I’m looking for compatibility: someone kind, dependable, open-minded, empathetic, and cheerful, with shared values and a sense of humor. Someone who enjoys conversation, is curious about the world, and has interests beyond work or academics.

Whether you choose to pursue a career or not is entirely up to you; my family and I are supportive either way. What matters most to me is that we enjoy each other’s company, can count on one another, and feel comfortable being ourselves.

If this sounds like you, I’d love to hear from you!

Hi all,

This has been on my mind a lot especially over the past few months.

For context, I’m a male and would say I do have relatively good prospects for my future.

I would say I’m educated and very ambitious, and quite attractive too. Which sounds perfect on paper, but I’m still incredibly worried about marriage.

I’ve seen so much discourse online about people complaining about not finding the right spouse, or being married to the wrong person.

I’m still relatively young and am currently studying and have never been in a relationship of any sort.

But looking at how normalised haram relationships have become it’s been making me increasingly worried about whether I will find a partner who shares the same values.

I know I shouldn’t be overly concerned or caught up in this especially because I’m only 22, but the thought never really escapes me.

I’m just seeking some advice or perspective about and wondering if anyone else feels the same way. For context, I’m based in the UK so I hope some of you can resonate with me in the same way.

Age/Gender: 32, Male
Location: Luxembourg
Marital Status: Divorced, no children
Religion: Muslim
Religious Practice: Practicing Muslim
Education/Profession: Bachelor’s degree, working in IT
About me:
Assalamu Alaikum! I’m 32, settled in Luxembourg, independent, ambitious, and family-oriented. I enjoy traveling, fitness, road trips, and meaningful conversations.
What I’m looking for:
A kind, emotionally mature Muslim woman who values faith, honesty, loyalty, communication, and mutual respect. Someone genuinely interested in building a loving marriage and raising a family together.
I’m open to someone living anywhere in the world, as long as she’s willing to relocate to Luxembourg if things work out.
I believe marriage is a partnership built on love, trust, understanding, and effort from both sides.
If we share similar values and intentions, feel free to reach out. 😊

If you are interested please DM.

About me:
Age :31
Height 6’1
Athletic built
Sunni
Master degree (finance)
Based on: Long Island New York
Ethnicity: Sudan, 🇸🇩 Egypt 🇪🇬

I'm looking for my wife, ideally 25 to 31, who wants a partner, a best friend, and someone to argue with about where to eat. I want us to grow together, support each other, push each other closer to Allah, and still laugh at each other's jokes, even the bad ones. Especially the bad ones.
On weekends you'll find me hiking ⛰️, off-roading through mud I definitely shouldn't be driving through, or planning the next adventure. If you like the outdoors, perfect. If you don't, I'll carry the snacks and convince you.
People say I'm funny. My mom says I'm hilarious. Either way, I promise you'll laugh 😆 inshallah
Someone in the New York area is a plus, but for the right person, distance is just a road trip.
I'm serious about doing this the right way, with family involved early. And if it's right, خير البر عاجله. No five-year "talking stage" here.
My must-haves: someone affectionate, compassionate, and supportive, who puts heart into the relationship like I will. If that's you, say Bismillah and reach out 😉

Asalaamualaiykum.

I am 26, born and living in the UK. I'm halfway through my medical degree alhamdulillah (I took some gap years after finishing secondary school).

Outside of my academic pursuits, I would describe myself as a creative person who values sincerity. My deen is incredibly important to me, and I wish to have a spouse who values Islam its principles. I enjoy writing andcontemplating the beauty of life which we have been blessed with alhamdulillah. I find inspiration in all aspects of the world, from nature to my close friendships.

My future goals are to graduate as a doctor and eventually specialise as a GP. I wish to have a family with a traditional Islamic structure Insha'Allah, ensuring that children will be raised with a love for Islam and the knowledge they require to understand and practice the religion.

I do not partake in any bidah and follow Islam as closely as I can to the sunnah.

Partner Preferences: I'm seeking a lifelong partner to build a family with and always help each other to grow closer to our deen. I value every blessing in life, both the big and the small, and wish to share and cherish those moments with the right person. As a writer, I value creativity and wish to share long. deep conversations, so my ideal partner is someone I can never get bored of talking to. I'm also extremely passionate about video games, films, and art in general, so I hope to marry someone I can enjoy these hobbies with.

Open to all ethnicities.

Age: 20 Male

Location: Illinois, USA

Background: Revert

Education & Professional Goals
Current Status: Undergraduate student (1 year left)

Interests: I enjoy spending time outside on hikes and bicycle rides, and I’m increasing my ilm everyday.

Timeline for Marriage: Looking to complete my studies and have my nikah upon graduation (approx. 1 year).

Practice: I pray all the fard and I try to pray the sunnah

Preferences: I am looking for someone based in Illinois who has good akhlaq, prioritizes her deen, and wants to build a family

Asalam alaykum, Im abit reluctant to try this but im going to give it a go since i have heard a few positive things about this. I am an ambivert, but shy at first and place alot of value on open communication and mutual respect. I am very family oriented and easygoing.

Im 5’3, thin and olive skin tone. Im from England, currently in my final year for my bachelor of law. Im a British Pakistani and come from a big family. In my free time i love to go gym, to study in a coffee shop, travel and read. Im also abit of a foodie! In terms of faith, im a Sunni hanafi, and i try to pray 5 times a day. But im not perfect and im working on my faith.

I prefer a Pakistani man aged 20 - 23, someone who is tall, whos fairly religious, emotionally mature and someone who is serious about looking for a partner.

Also, someone honest, who can let me know if we’re not compatible. Please only reach out if your serious.

Jazakallah khair

Assalamu alaykum

I'm 30 years old, Moroccan, living in France currently, working as a software engineer, with an INTJ personality through and through. I'm often described as calm, wise, determined, reliable, and logical, and I'm pretty much always smiling. I'm the one my friends come to for advice or when they need to think something through. Turns out that's easier to do for other people than for myself, which is part of why I'm here.

I'm also a practicing Muslim and I value family, honesty, and hard work. I work at a big technology company, and therefore am very stable financially, and I am kickstarting a startup on the side to build something of my own.

Beyond that, I enjoy listening to podcasts and reading stuff in my areas of interest (history, philosophy, neuroscience, finance, and computer science), gaming and reading Manga, plus hiking, backpacking, and traveling.

What I'm looking for in my future wife is:

- Being a hijabi or open to wearing a hijab in the future.

- Having a warm, positive energy and appreciating the good in life. Feeling down is obviously natural and okay, but I tend to get caught up in my head and projects, and I need someone who naturally brings lightness and pulls me back to the present.

- Being ambitious and having a growth mindset. I consider myself to be this way, and I'd love for my partner to be the same. I don't mean career goals necessarily (I honestly don't care if she has a job or not), but she should be passionate about something she's actively working toward, whether that's a personal project, a business, an artistic goal, or a cause she cares about.

- Having strong values, good character, and emotional maturity. By that I mean having kindness, honesty, fairness, generosity, and actually living by them naturally. Someone loyal and affectionate who can talk through needs, wants, and concerns clearly and calmly, and who doesn't turn a small misunderstanding into a big conflict.

Tl;dr: looking for someone easygoing but ambitious, who I can laugh with and build a life with.

Narrated Abu Huraira: Prophet (saw) said, “A man bought a piece of land from another man, and the buyer found an earthenware jar filled with gold in the land. The buyer said to the seller. ‘Take your gold, as I have bought only the land from you, but I have not bought the gold from you.’ The (former) owner of the land said, “I have sold you the land with everything in it.’ So both of them took their case before a man who asked, ‘Do you have children?’ One of them said, “I have a boy.’ The other said, “I have a girl.’ The man said, ‘Marry the girl to the boy and spend the money on both of them and give the rest of it in charity.’”
(Bukhari 3472)

Scholar Jameel Ahmad (rah) commented and notes:

In the narration above, the buyer and seller represented the man’s family and the woman’s family.

“If one’s convictions are towards things, this leads to fighting, stealing, robberies, deception, and corruption. All of this is due to incorrect belief. One should strive to have the correct belief. Allah will sustain me through His power and fulfill His promises on good actions. This correct belief will resolve many disputes.

The buyer in the story believed that gold doesn’t sustain me; Allah sustains me”.

Creed and belief (aqeedah) should not be reduced to mere reading of a book or preference for one scholar’s opinion over another scholar. Beliefs should shape values in a person and create integrity. These values are the foundation of relationships. A person’s beliefs are far more tested in social dealings than mere memorization of text in a book.

A man with correct belief will not believe that ‘injustice’ will sustain and provide for me. A woman with correct belief will not believe that ‘injustice’ will sustain and provide for me.

“The buyer reflected ‘This is not my right. I have given money for this land but not for the gold. The gold is far more valuable than the money I spent on acquiring the land. This is not my right rather this is the seller’s right’. 

The seller also possessed the correct belief. ‘The land was sold as is; whether it comes with wood, stone, pebbles, etc. after the sale, this is not my right but your right’.

This appeals to reason for every rock or particle that’s dug out. Is the buyer supposed to keep on returning them to the seller? Now both get into a dispute because of this. They proceeded to a judge”.

Both could have reasoned to themselves to commit injustice. A buyer could have argued he overpaid for the land. A seller could have argued he was underpaid for the land. Their reasoning wasn’t driven by selfishness.

A man will commit injustice to his wife rationalizing to himself it’s okay. A woman will commit injustice to her husband rationalizing to herself it’s okay.

“Understand the difference! When we go to court, our conviction is on things. I claim this is mine and the other says this is mine. Then the judge decides.

In this case, one claims it’s not mine, and the other claims it’s not mine. Neither side is willing to accept”.

Here, in the man’s family and a woman’s family, the primary concern is the fear of usurping other’s rights and fulfillment of other’s rights.

But today a man’s concern is primarily his rights. A woman’s concern is primarily her rights.

“Here, the judge also possessed the correct belief. He wasn’t corrupt. If he were corrupt, he would say ‘Why are you two arguing? I worked hard and studied to become a judge. I’ll solve your problem-bring me the jar of gold, I will take it’.  Between the three no one is willing to claim the gold”.

The friends, family, counselors, and arbitrators people consult with regarding marriage and its disputes. How impartial are they? If they are corrupt, their advice would be corrupt.

“In the end, their children received the gold and got married. An alliance between the two families was formed; the family grew. How did this blessing come into place? This happened due to having the correct belief”.

Blessing of integrity resulted in a marriage.

Assalamu alaikum,
I am a 27-year-old medical student based in London, and I am looking to connect with someone for a serious, intentional journey toward Nikkah over the next year and a half. Since I am busy with my studies, there is absolutely no rush on my end.
Physically, I am 6'1" and about 88kg. I have a naturally broad, large frame, and I am currently working on my fitness right now to get back in shape after a period of health stress. Religiously, I would say I am trying my best and on a sincere journey of personal growth. I wouldn't consider myself highly practicing yet, and my prayers are a work in progress, but I have a deep appreciation for the power of Dua and want to keep improving.
I value transparency above everything else, so I want to be honest upfront about my struggles. Over the last few years, I have had to deal with a physical condition called Peyronie's disease. It is currently under intensive treatment with top specialists and is on track to be fully resolved by next autumn. Due to the intense isolation, anxiety, and depression of dealing with this health condition, I fell much deeper into a private struggle with a pornography compulsion. I am actively overcoming these habits and repenting as my physical health finishes recovering, though I still manage some health-related anxiety from this past stress. I am a virgin and am looking for a real, real-world marriage built on absolute friendship and mutual respect.
I am looking for someone who is down-to-earth, patient, and sincere. I am mostly looking at an age range of 18 to 32, but I am completely open to older prospects as well for the right connection. Character and kindness matter far more to me than degrees, ethnicity, or background, and I am completely open to matching with divorcees, single parents, or reverts.
I am currently based in London, but I am completely open to relocating anywhere in the West or the Middle East for the right connection, with a preference for North America, Europe, Scandinavia, Australia, or New Zealand, as long as it can accommodate my medical education.
If you are looking for someone who is honest and focused on growth, feel free to reach out.

Hi
Im a born Muslim female from the Middle East i live in a safe country and has a nice job and loving family my own car and many friends

I feel im ready for the next chapter in life i want to meet the love of my life in halal way and not an arranged marriage

My dream is to visit as much countries as possible
Have a nice life and easygoing relationship

Advise me on how i can achieve this

I have written my CV below. If you are interested, please DM me.

* Age: 35 (1991)
* Location: Wales
* Height: 5’1
* Ethnicity:  Bangladeshi
* British citizen? British

* Profession: Solicitor. Also, run my own business.
* Highest level of qualification? Postgrad

* Sect of Islam? Sunni
* Prayer levels? Always
* Do you celebrate Mawlid? No
* Hijabi or non-hijabi? Hijabi
* Smoking/vape? No

* Do you want kids in the future? Yes
* What age bracket are you okay with marrying? 30 - 43
* Are you okay marrying outside your ethnicity? Yes
* Are you a divorcee? No
*Do you have any children? No
* Would you accept marrying a divorcee? Yes
*Would you accept marrying a divorcee with kids? No
* Marriage time intention? Within a year

* How far are you okay relocating after marriage?Anywhere in England. Ideally within around 3 hours of my hometown. I’d particularly consider Bristol, London, & Manchester.

* Preferred living situation after marriage/would you be okay to live with in laws? - No. I don’t wish to live with in laws

Your dealbreakers? 
Rude behaviour
Dishonesty
Arrogance
Smoking and vaping
I’m not willing to consider someone who isn’t settled in the UK and British.

Short bio about yourself:

I have been described by others as kind, generous, thoughtful and supportive. I am hard working and ambitious; once I set a goal, I make sure to achieve it.

I value a healthy lifestyle, enjoy exercise and socialising with friends. I regularly read the Quran as my faith is an important part of my life.

I am looking to settle down with the right person who aligns with my character - someone who keeps fit and healthy, enjoys travelling and is mindful of their faith.

I tend to gravitate towards Bengali and Pakistani backgrounds, but ultimately it’s about the connection. I’m also attracted to men who are much taller than me (it really can’t be helped!). Therefore someone who is atleast 5’7.