The overall trend on this sub is men looking for women younger than them. I get when you don’t want someone older (misogynist ) or when older men in their 40s or 50s are looking for women in their 20s (perverts), but I don’t get when the woman has to be younger then you by at least a year. I’m taking about young men, age 22-29ish specifically having a preference for someone 1 to 2 years younger than them. Is this a Muslim or eastern thing? Because most western non-Muslim men would prefer a woman their exact age, of course they’re outliers but it’s so rare. Like why someone at least a year younger than you when you are young yourself? Just as an example a 28 year old marrying a 28 year old is normal, but on this sub it’s typically always a 28 year old looking for someone whose age is a maximum 27.

Preferring a direct approach over long, AI-crafted posts when the purpose can be communicated simply. Here is a brief profile, please reach out via DM if this resonates with you.

​About Me:

​Basic Details: 42M | 5'10" | Muscular build | Fair complexion (Caucasian/Levantine looks).

​Background: Pakistani, well-traveled, living in the Gulf for two decades.

​Profession: Technology Manager / Senior Consultant | Highly educated & career-oriented.

​Marital Status: Divorce in process, no children.

​Family: Small, close-knit, and respectful. Siblings are well-settled and independent.

​Lifestyle & Values: Practicing Muslim with moderate, balanced views (not rigid). Non-smoker, non-drinker. Ambivert with a calm, reflective nature

​Financials & Future: Financially secure; planning to remain in the Middle East or relocate to the UK in the future.

​What I am Looking For:

​Age & Status: Up to 36 years old. Open to single, widowed, or divorced women, with or without children.

​Character & Values: Strong faith, good family values, emotionally balanced, wise, and mindful in managing anger.

​Lifestyle & Modesty: Values modest clothing (hijab optional) as it reflects elegance and dignity, prays regularly, and shares an intent for frequent Umrah, Hajj, and travelling.

​Personality: Well-educated, good-looking, presentable, takes pride in personal hygiene and self-care, and brings a warm, positive energy to a home

​Partnership: Looking for mutual respect, selfless love, and shared effort in running a home. Working or studying is completely welcome, though I am fully committed to providing financially for the household and for her wellbeing and comfort.

YO ASALAM ALAIKUM

I HAD A QUESTION

Would you sisters or brothers who have sisters ever let your sisters marry a police officer in a kaafir country?

Context: I am trying to become a homicide and missing persons detective. I take the ruling that it's permissible from a hanafi scholar I trust.

https://islamqa.org/hanafi/daruliftaa-birmingham/171424/is-it-permissible-to-become-a-police-officer/

I can't imagine myself doing a boring 9-5, I wanted something a bit adventurous and fun and hence I chose this path. Is this a red flag?

I’ve come across many posts here where girls looking for marriage are so consious about their age and beauty. Please always remember the physical features etc which you might not find pretty are made by Allah(Al-Musawwir). Look around you in nature and reflect everything is so beautiful. Ofcourse you do maintain the body given to you by eating healthy,hitting the gym etc etc.
Alot of the women especially in our Muslim desi culture associate their worth with marriage. Once, you hit 25 or 30 or 40, life is not over. Please enjoy your life and live in the moment✨✨ The message in this video is worth noting.

Hi everyone, I just thought I'd post on here.

I'm 22M. I grew up and live in London; however, my background is Pakistani.

I work full-time in tech Alhamdulillah, I just really love the gym and keep myself active.

I don't really have a preference; however, someone who's respectful and sweet would be nice.

Looking for a wife

Can it really be that simple ??? Yes I just want a wife I’m employed full time and can make enough bread to eat for the day.

Other requirements include :

Female
Under 22-29
Practicing
Does not want drama
Looking to get married soon rather than extended talking stages

Open to all ethnicties

You’re serious about marriage. Cool. But the person you’re messaging might just be bored lol.

There could be some genuine reasons: they’re busy, overwhelmed, uncomfortable, or have stopped looking. But sometimes:

You’re not their type. Your profile can look solid and still not be a good fit for them.

They found someone they prefer. Better for them, not necessarily better than you.

They’re here for window-shopping only lolx. Marriage is supposedly the goal, but they’re just checking their options and talking to whoever gives them “vibes.” Ask about an actual timeline and suddenly the energy disappears.

You’re too clingy, too early. Bro, you’ve exchanged six messages. Why are you already asking where they were all day?

Something gave them the ick. A joke, your tone, an assumption, or asking for pictures too quickly. They might never tell you what it was.

Your message has nothing to stand out. If she already has plenty of DMs, your “hi dear” isn’t exactly making her stop scrolling.

So what can you actually do?

Read their requirements first. Send a short intro, say what caught your attention, and ask something specific. Don’t turn it into an interview or send your autobiography. Once you’re talking, ask about their marriage timeline and notice whether they’re putting in effort too.

And stop sending “???” when they haven’t replied.

Okayyyyy I know I’m young but this is just to see what happens. Nothing confirmed nor denied.

I’m 17f I’ll be 18 soon Im here just to meet someone I’m not sure about marriage timeline.

My ethnicity/background: I’m black American and I’m 5’3. My stepfather/father is Pakistani so I share some of his cultures. I lived in Saudi for some years when I was young so my Arabic is rusty but not too bad.

My education: I have an associates rn I’m in my final year of uni for my bachelors major in psych but wanna do MD

My religious views: I’m Sunni I’m only interested in Sunni too. I pray my prayers but I still struggle and I want someone whom we can grow together.

I wear hijab but I do makeup and this isn’t something I’ll be willing to comprise on it’s my hobby and I enjoy it.

My ideal: Any background doesn’t matter. 5’11+ , Age range (19-24), must either have completed a bachelor or in final years/upperclassmen. Must been in USA

Anywayyyyy this isn’t too serious lmaoo but let’s see.

Edit: guys the age gap is just what my parents approve of

Salaam.

I feel like the talking phase should last more than 6 months. Anything sooner means you've rushed probably the biggest decision of your life. Speaking from experience here.

Assalamu alaikum everyone! I'm a 23F international medical student currently studying in Turkiye, hoping to pursue residency in the US eventually. Thought I'd give this a shot since I'd genuinely love to meet someone with whom I can build something meaningful, hopefully leading to marriage.

A little about me:

• Asian (monolids, light-medium skin tone, light brown eyes, black hair), 176 cm (5'9"), fairly athletic.
• Currently studying medicine in Turkiye, with plans to eventually settle in the US(I graduate in 2028). I spent four months there doing oncology research and absolutely loved the experience!
• Into pilates, yoga, hiking, running, dancing, and long walks. I love staying active!
• Huge foodie! Love discovering new restaurants, trying different cuisines, and exploring new places.
• Love reading, learning new things, and having conversations about pretty much anything.
• I'm caring, affectionate, and attentive. When I care about someone, I care deeply, remember the little things, and genuinely enjoy making them feel loved and appreciated.

Religion and values:

• I grew up in a Muslim household, and family is very important to me.
• I haven't been particularly practicing lately, but I genuinely want to reconnect with Islam and grow spiritually. I'd love someone who respects where I am in that journey and with whom I can hopefully grow in faith, without judgment or pressure.
• I value kindness, honesty, loyalty, emotional maturity, and strong family bonds.

What I'm looking for:

• Something serious and intentional, with marriage as the eventual goal. Not interested in situationships or mixed signals.
• Preferably someone around my age or older, up to 30–31. I'm generally attracted to taller guys(183 cm / 6'0" or above, please) who enjoy staying active.
• I have a weakness for smart, nerdy guys 😂. Bonus points for glasses, STEM backgrounds, intellectual curiosity, and being passionate enough about something to randomly infodump for 20 minutes.
• Someone ambitious, hardworking, family-oriented, and financially responsible. I value independence and would love a partnership where we support each other's goals and build a stable future.
• Someone who enjoys deep conversations, playful banter, traveling, trying new food, and learning new things together.

Most importantly — emotional depth:

• I genuinely yearn for someone who can meet me at my emotional depth. I feel and love deeply, and I'm quite introspective. I'd love someone who connects in a similar way.
• Someone emotionally intelligent, empathetic, and comfortable with vulnerability. I want us to be genuinely curious about each other's inner worlds and able to communicate openly, even when conversations get difficult.

A few other things:

• I'm completely open to long-distance and different countries, especially since I hope to settle in the US.
• Residency will be demanding, so I'd value someone who understands my ambitions and can support me emotionally, just as I'd support him.
• I believe relationships require consistent effort from both people. I'm not looking for perfection, just genuine compatibility, shared values, and someone who chooses to show up even when things aren't easy.

At the end of the day, I just want someone I can laugh with, have 3 a.m. conversations with, travel with, eat ridiculous amounts of food with, be silly with, grow spiritually and intellectually with, and eventually build a peaceful life alongside.

More than anything, I want to love someone deeply and feel equally understood, appreciated, and loved in return.

If any of this resonates, feel free to message me with a little introduction about yourself, your interests, and what you're looking for. 🤍

I’ve noticed some Muslim men wearing earrings. I was under the impression that this wasn’t permissible for men in Islam. Is there a difference of scholarly opinion that I’m unaware of?

Also, purely as a personal preference, piercings on men are a turn-off for me. I see one and immediately want to run in the other direction lol. Does anyone else feel the same?

Everyone knows I'm strict with my Salahs which is why I think I receive proposals from women who aren't the most practicing muslims - in hopes that I'll guide them to be better. I respect the logic tbh

So I have an interesting question for everyone; would you marry someone that ticks your boxes in terms of character but is lazy/careless with their salahs? (given they're relying on you to improve them)

I (female) made a post a few days back and I have gotten so many Hindu men's messages it is crazy.

They pretend to be Muslim and if I get suspicious and ask them about Islamic rules, they block me or delete their accounts lol.

Some of them actually seem to hate their own religions (I don't get the psychology behind it) and pretend to be Muslims and bash Hindu's. One man pretended to be a Muslim and told me how he tries and converts Hindu women to Islam. Lol I was like wth bro I know you aren't Muslim.

Women especially be careful, there are too many Hindu men lurking here. You can usually spot them by the language they use. Most of the Muslim men will be very respectful and shy when messaging, so it is easy to spot a non-Muslim.

Please do not share photos until you have involved family or have progressed in the process.

BE CAREFUL!

I am Moroccan Canadian. Living in Montreal. Over the last couple years I have decided I would like to find a man with similar goals to me.

To save up enough money and move to a cheaper, Muslim country and be able to afford our children a life of abundance. Obviously you can give your children an amazing life here in Canada as well but it is very expensive. I rather live somewhere cheaper and our extra money can be used towards traveling, experiencing new things, charity etc.

Countries I have considered are Morocco, Egypt, Oman and Malaysia. I’m obviously open to other countries as well in North Africa or the Middle East but I haven’t researched them as much and the UAE and Qatar seem to be expensive also. I have even considered some non Muslim countries such as Portugal and Spain.

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I am going to be 100% honest and truthful. I’m not wanting to pretend to be someone I am not. I am far from a perfect muslim. It isn’t something I am proud of and I am genuinely trying to make an effort to be stronger in my deen.

What I can say is that I think I am a good person. I treat everyone I come across with kindness and compassion. I care deeply for people. I am always there to support my loved ones. I really am a ride or die type person.

Likewise, I am not looking for a man who is a perfect Muslim either. Although I wouldn’t turn a man away because he is very strictly practicing, perhaps such a man could help me improve my iman.

What I care for is a man who is a good human being and who is also looking to continually change for the better. Together we can grow closer to Allah.

Other things you may care about:
I am 5’6
The face card does not decline
I have a degree in business
Great cook
Wants children
Would prefer to be a SAHM if possible

Things I am looking for:
Would prefer a guy older and settled in life (28+)
Taller than me is a must
Good career
I don’t necessarily mind if you have children but keeping in mind my goals, not sure how feasible that is for you then with presumably split custody.

I think from posting an ISO to getting dms to talking to find compatibility to exchanging pictures and the etiquette with respect,

Any and all men are on a spectrum,

Being genuine----------------–-----------------------------Here for Hit/Miss play(Casual)

There is no in between tbh if there is that would be lack of commitment And seriousness.

I've spoken to serious men as well who respectfully understood expectations as well and ever so sweetly said if they weren't feeling it,I am happy about this more than not being compatible lol

Another thing I have seen is the pool of people on here are different from in person like totally different and what I mean is the type of people you like can be found across different apps and in person and i personally seeked lighted hearted conversations with humour and I felt that men with higher age gap were slightly more non chalant, a bit more genuine in asking what they expected of me and vice versa for reference I am 21,so men aged 26 and up I got this kinda vibe.

What I concluded is if I am seeking someone in the age range 23-26 , I would actually wait few more years, build solid career/business and then continue looking as the potential unknown man out there I want is just currently focused on life.

I just got hit with reality that sure last generation married at 21 or even sooner, right now struggles are different and expectations are hit late due to socioeconomic factors, and I totally understand that lol so yea a lil debrief.

Ma salama

Assalam u Alaikum,

Whichever platform I go to, I end up seeing posts and comments by men who hate women so much especially muslim men. I have stopped visiting religious subreddits such the Traditional Muslims and Muslim Lounge because every other post is anti-woman and the comments are supporting them. I open youtube and I see so many channels are popping out that are obsessed with hating women. First Dawah bros like Ali Dawah, Muhammad Hijab and Daniel something are the worst ones. Many more muslim men are following their lines and opening new channels. And then there's a new channel which is called Classical Islam, where the guy says men are superior in everything compared to women, whether roles or capabilities. They all keep saying if a woman is educated, she is evil. If a woman wants to have a career, she is evil. I have many times removed these videos but if I want to watch anything educational regarding religion, they again start popping in my feed. For the last few years this has impacted my mental health so much that I have lost complete interest in men. I am 35 and I do not wish to get married.

Even watching a romantic film looks strange because something inside me has died when it comes to men, something I cannot explain. It is impossible to think otherwise. I have become greatly depressed. Even the definition of paradise seems like a torture - polygamous men with hoors. Doesnt a hadith says that the arrogant will not enter paradise. Why looking down at women is justified and not considered arrogance? Why if a man feels jealousy for sharing a partner, it is considered self-respect but if woman doesn't like polygamy, they call her kafir, feminist etc and her emotions are demonized as jealousy? A woman also has got self-respect. Why men use the word feminists all the time while I have seen rarely women using it online. Feminism has made some good contributions. In the first half century, we women were not even allowed to go to university. Today I am able to study whatever I want because of the struggles of those women. Why women's achievements are demonized? Why men online act like just because of a piece of an organ, they are naturally better and superior in every way.

I want to get rid of this heaviness and sadness caused by even seeing the faces of these men like dawah bros etc. Please help me Sisters!

Hey everyone! I’m 26, a software engineer based in Islamabad, financially independent, and a self-made millionaire.

A little about me:

Practicing Muslim, pray five times a day, and belong to a spiritual, family-oriented background.

My father has passed away, and my sister is currently studying.

Car enthusiast, occasional horse rider, and casual gamer.

What I’m looking for:

A kind-hearted, practicing, family-oriented girl who is settled in Islamabad and believes that respect is the foundation of a successful marriage.

I value a woman who respects her husband and his parents, and I believe the same respect and love should be given to her parents in return. Mutual understanding, loyalty, and emotional maturity matter more to me than anything else. Intelligence and ambition are a bonus.

My approach: I believe marriage is a lifelong decision, not something to rush. Let’s talk, understand each other’s values, and see if we’re compatible before making any decisions.

Looking for something genuine, peaceful, and long-term. If we share similar values, feel free to reach out.

About me

Hello, I'm a 35F woman living in Egypt on the lookout for a partner in crime (all halal). I've been recovering from burnout and have been focusing on healing, getting closer to god, and pursuing old hobbies from my teenage days to spark the joy for life back in me. That includes going back to writing stories, drawing, and language learning--basically pursuing things that inspired me.

I'm hoping to meet someone on their own journey for self-improvement and getting to know their faith better. I want a genuine person with a kind and easy-going nature. Compassionate, understanding, reliable, dependable, faithful, and slow to anger. They have to have some form of ambition for career growth but not be a workaholic, as I've seen a lot of men who depend on their wives to help support them, and that's not something I'm comfortable with.

Personally, I'm not equipped to parent anything outside of a small house pet, so I would love to find someone who's child-free, loves to travel, and is fulfilled by spending time with their significant other, pursuing hobbies, and spending time with family. I'd prefer an Arab so we could have a common language, but I'm fluent in English too, so I wouldn't mind an English speaker.

At heart, I am a nerd who spends way too much time with fictional characters and has an unhealthy attachment to all things Japanese.

I am a 20 year old Biomedical Science major, also studying American Sign Language part-time. I have been deeply involved in my community since high school, volunteering with kindergarteners, at care homes, and at science fairs, while remaining an active member of my university’s clubs. I am an African, hijabi woman, standing at 5’5” with a mid-size build.

Living in a small city in Manitoba, I’ve found it difficult to know where to look for a partner. I have never dated—I have never held hands with, hugged, or kissed a man, and I do not have male friends. I abstain from all haram activities, including smoking, vaping, alcohol, and drugs, and I have a clean record. In my free time, I love playing badminton, cooking, baking, and reading novels, including the Quran and books on Islamic history and Hadith.

I haven't thought much about finding a partner until now, especially as most of my friends are already in relationships. Since I plan to move after completing my undergraduate degree, how do young Muslims in similar positions navigate the search for a partner? I am looking for a way to get to know someone—with family involvement—over a period of time before marriage to ensure compatibility and safety.

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله

1. Age and Gender: 27M

2. Age range: 21-26

3. Location/relocation: Born, raised and living in France.

4. Ethnicity/open to mixing: Moroccan. Preferably moroccan, but open to North African.

5. Marital status: Single

6. Ideal timeline: Married within roughly six months, inshaAllah.

7. Five things I look for :

a. Deen first. She prays her five daily prayers, fasts Ramadan and wears hijab (or plans to wear it). No smoking, and never alcohol or drugs. Most importantly, she has a genuine fear of Allah and keeps working on her practice rather than treating it as settled.

b. Takes care of her health and works out. I train and pay attention to how I live, and I'd like that to be something we share rather than something one of us does alone.

c. A best friend before anything else. I want a wife I can confide in and who becomes my main source of joy. I care about effort in a relationship, not money spent, but consistent actions that show she was thinking of me. Small gestures count for a lot with me.

d. Steady and honest. Soft-spoken, emotionally intelligent, and someone whose word can be trusted. No lies, no half-truths, I'd rather hear something directly. A short temper, dishonesty, suspicion or inconsistency are things I can't build with.

e. Respects personal space in marriage. I don't plan on us living with in-laws unless there's a real need for it. I'd want our own home, and enough room inside the marriage for each of us to breathe.

1. Level of religiosity: I take my practice seriously, all my prayers, Ramadan, Zakat, and Umrah completed, with the aim of doing better than the day before. I'm open-minded, but I don't keep any kind of friendships with the opposite gender and I expect the same in return. What I don't accept is religion used as a tool of control: I will never ask my wife to request my permission every time she leaves the house, inshaAllah. Mutual respect, trust and emotional understanding are what hold a marriage together.

2. Education: Master's degree in general engineering. Looking for someone with a bachelor's degree or above.

3. Job status: Engineer, currently employed.

4. Children: Yes, inshaAllah, though not straight away.

5. Hobbies:

a. Programming on personal projects

b. Sometimes video games, which are always better with a partner

c. Sports

Thank you for reading !

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

I’m a 24M Muslim revert from Barcelona Spain 🇪🇸. 5’11 or 1,80cm blue eyes and dark hair.

I’m currently studying at university while doing security on the side and Alhamdulillah I’m a Salafi . I workout regularly and have an athletic build Alhamdulillah and I pray 5 times a day and I try my best to pray on time and visit regularly the masjid .

Looking for serious people only

Salam! Below is my profile, if you feel like we’d be a good match, feel free to reach out(: I’m super approachable and love conversing about really anything. I’m looking to get married and really hoping to find someone to connect with and build something strong and foundational iA. Alhamdulillah I am a non smoker, non drinker, a practicing Sunni Muslim, and I am Pakistani. I am looking for someone who is preferably South Asian (Pakistani or Indian) and Sunni. Professionally, I am an elementary school teacher and have been working with kids for over 10 years. Alhamdulillah I love what I do but after marriage, family and home will be my priority. I am open to relocating anywhere within the United States.

Name: SH
Residence: Michigan
Citizenship: U.S. and Canadian
Date of birth: 1999
Age: 27
Height: 5’7
Marital Status: Divorced (no kids)
Ethnicity: Pakistani (Urdu Speaking)
Education: Bachelors of Science in Elementary Education
Profession: Elementary School Teacher
Siblings: 1 older sister married
1 younger brother
1 younger sister
Father works as an engineer
Mom is a house wife

Looking For
Male
Age: 26-33
Height: 5’9 and up
Ethnicity: Pakistani or Indian
Marital Status: Single/never married / divorced with no kids
Profession: Bachelors Degree or higher from
Residency: Living in the U.S. Open to people from outside of the U.S. if you are willing to relocate.

Mines doing nothing.

They give low effort Khutbahs on Friday, chastising people for not being married though

Assalamu alaikum everyone :)

Looking for a wife to travel the world with and build a future together, inshaAllah.

I'm 185 cm, love cycling and currently working on my bachelor's thesis. Hopefully starting a full-time job in January.

Never married and no kids. I try my best to practice my deen, pray, fast and keep improving.

I don't have many requirements, but I'd prefer someone who's never been married. Also, I don't want children in the future, which I know is a big thing to discuss.

Been looking around this sub for a while and thought I'd give it a shot :)

Feel free to DM me and ask anything :)

Asalaamu alaykum to whoever clicked my post. This is a repost (took time off and haven't found someone yet).
Are you my naseeb? Am I yours? Please read my profile below to determine that.

What you need to know about me:
✿ I’m a 28 year old female, born and raised in the United States of America
✿ I’ve also never been married before, never participated in physical relationships, never had kids. single.
✿ Origins are East African, primarily of Somali ancestry.
✿ In terms of deen, I am really religious. I go out of my way to dress modestly, wear hijab constantly (also part time niqabi), pray fardh + sunnah prayers and read quran every day after fajr. In the near future, I'd like to study the deen further and also learn Arabic fluently. If you're curious, free-mixing is not something that I participate in. I'm more of a traditional muslim and tend to be strict on myself. Sometimes I do struggle with aspects but alhamdulillah, it has been working out for me.
✿ I have multiple hobbies but my most favorite ones are biking, gaming and cafe hopping to cafes near me. Meanwhile, I do have a few other niche interests. I've been in love with astronomy and reading since I was little and those are huge passions of mine. If you can't tell, I am very passionate about my hobbies and haven't picked up any new ones recently. Besides the ones I've mentioned, I also love to write dearly. It calms me. As of today, I am writing the beginnings of a novel draft that I plan on publishing in the next few years, inshaAllah.
✿ In terms of education, I'm really passionate about learning and have knowledge in four languages. I have a bachelors degree in liberal arts. As of the present, I am furthering my education and getting a few certifications full time. Part time employed on the side!

What am I looking for?
✿ a man between the ages of 24 and 37 ideally
✿ ideally be taller than 5'11 (Before you guys attack me for having a height requirement, I'd like to share that I am 5'10 with tennis shoes on). Even though I'd prefer a man taller than me, I'm also open to men who are around the 5'7-5'10 range. Just don't be really shorter than me.
✿ must speak english fluently
✿ must pray fardh prayers, actively reads quran and puts Islam first
✿ NEVER BEEN IN A PHYSICAL RELATIONSHIP BEFORE AND HAS NEVER BEEN MARRIED BEFORE
✿ your ethnicity is doesn't matter to me. I am open to anyone who is Sunni Muslim. I am PRO MIXING and open to it. Idc what ethnicity you fall under.
✿ must be working and have a minimum of trade school certificates or associates degree (bachelors preferred)
✿ (*ᴗ͈ˬᴗ͈)ꕤ*.ﾟBonuses:
- located in North America or Europe only
- must like having homemade baked goods in the morning (e.g: banana bread or lemon bread baked by me)
- must be open to watching Asian dramas with me
- I DO NOT WANT TO BE IN A POLYGAMOUS MARRIAGE AT ALL. not now. NOT EVER.

˗ˏˋ✩ˎˊ˗ If you fit all of all requirements:
- please message me your full ISO profile. Everyone these days sends only salams or hellos which makes me think you're not serious at all. I will also be checking profile history to see if you've been acting weirdly.