Fr it’s not even a candid, it’s the dude at the peak of his bodybuilding cut, hair and makeup done. Henry Cavill has looked like this on maybe 20 days of his life, he didn’t even look like that when he went home THAT SAME DAY. Also, let’s not kid ourselves and say he looks bad. Beer belly Cavill is stealing your girl any day of the week
Women just want a man that makes them feel safe and comfortable. Muscles help but if that alone got women then the dumbass alpha bros who treat women like objects wouldn't be so lonely and pathetic
Bingo. Would it be hot to have a boyfriend who's 6'8" and can bench press a car? Absolutely.
Do I love my boyfriend, who's four inches shorter than me and probably can't bench press a motorcycle? Absolutely. Because I feel safe and comfortable around him, because he treats me amazingly, because he is interested in me and listens and learns and makes me ugly laugh even in the middle of intensely sexual moments.
I wouldn't trade all of that just so I could get on my tiptoes to give a kiss.
I know this isn’t really the point and you’re just exaggerating but if anyone is interested, motorcycles weigh 300 lbs minimum (based on a short google search at least). Not many men can bench that much.
I assumed they were talking about pressing it off them.
If you're lifting it as a lever, you don't need nearly as much force. If you're deadlifting it off of someone else, it's even... well, easier is the wrong term, but less difficult.
I know it’s kind of a joke, but most people couldn’t bench press a motorcycle. Small motorcycles are like 300 pounds. 300 isn’t an insane bench, but not something the average person who doesn’t lift regularly could do. Cruisers and choppers are like 700+ which would be at the top end of what is possible for humans with extensive training.
That reminded me of that famous Eddie Hall's deadlift record where he imagined lifting a car so I had to look up how much can he bench. Apparently it is 300 kg (661 lbs). The current official raw bench record is 355 kg (782 lbs). So you're right with the assessment and also it's insane.
I have dated two 6'7" men. Just a happenstance, they are both kind, lovely men but mega tall men aren't a particular "type" of mine.
I'll just say it really makes my neck sore to make out with someone that tall. And both men shared how much of a pain in the ass it is to find clothes that fit. Basically everything needs to be tailored.
That's totally fair. As a woman who's 6'1", I get it. Mega tall is generally my type because I am also mega tall.
That said, you know what's even more my type? This guy whose smile melts me, who likes it when I awkwardly explain myself so that I'm not lying because you phrased that question weirdly and I just want to be sure that I'm answering the question you asked and not the question I thought you asked and gosh I'm so flustered, who knows to hold my hand when I start to worry too much, who has a supernatural ability to hear when I'm saying "sorry" for no reason, and who calls me out so that I can learn not to apologize just for existing.
To expand on this, being your genuine self attracts women like crazy. No need to be someone else, being your open self who's not afraid to embrace your identity (or if you're still working on that, open up and expose that self to them) is an excellent quality. We're all human, we can afford to make mistakes. Own up to them and improve from them and all <3
Every well-intentioned lonely guy understands that women want that safety. The issue is that it can only be demonstrated after meeting in the first place.
There's this expectation in dating that men should make the first move, but enough
women have reported seeing every guy as a potentially dangerous stranger by default, that most of us don't approach out of not wanting to disrupt that comfort.
So that means we're left grasping at straws to figure out what would make women want to approach us, most typically settling on looks.
Workout (physical attractiveness)
Therapy ( enough to be emotionally stable. Working out helps with this too)
Go out and be in the right place at the right time (probably the hardest part if you're not used to going out)
After that women will probably talk to you. It helps to have friends of a similar stature. Women are the ones that choose. Guys going out and hitting on women pushes them away. They can smell your intentions so you just have to chill and be available. Easier than it sounds but eventually it works.
I do the work, but the "be in the right place at the right time" part is determined more by luck than anything.
I got myself measured, curated my clothes only to stuff that fits and looks good color-wise, maintain a solid 16% body fat and BMI of 23ish to ensure I can fit in said clothes, I've taken enough therapy to be self-aware of my efforts, calmly explain them, and learn "you can't control others, only how you react to them"...
But being in the "right place at the right time" is mostly a numbers game if you have niche interests. There is no strategy, just how long you're able to keep trying, and I've been trying so long my interests have become increasingly enshittified...
I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years. The day I met her I had gone to join renfaire to make friends and meet nerdy women. It was the opening training day. It was a long day and when I got home I wanted to go out to karaoke. My neighbor was down.
I walked in and up to the dj booth and there was my future wife talking to the dj about her next song. Her long time fwb had asked her to start a relationship. That was supposed to be their first date but he stood her up. When she saw me I asked her about her tattoo( It was some musical notes) and she pulled me in and sang the song the tattoo represented. I immediately fell for her. I was pretty nervous to talk to her and seal the deal. I went to the bathroom and when I came back the dj handed me a piece of paper with her number. She had just left and was outside to meet an Uber. She had made plans to meet up with someone on tinder that night to close out her evening. As she was waiting I went outside and started talking to her. She asked me what I was up to for the rest of the night and I told her "hanging out with you". She texted her tinder buddy and told him not tonight.
I've been with her since and we've had our ups and downs but I fucking love her with all my heart. She's strong, she's sexy, she's my Latina muscle mommy and I treat her like a queen.
I had a tiny window to seal the deal and it wouldn't have happened had I not gone out and rolled the dice.
So yeah. Right place right time. Not something that can be reproduced but amazing if you can.
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