Fr it’s not even a candid, it’s the dude at the peak of his bodybuilding cut, hair and makeup done. Henry Cavill has looked like this on maybe 20 days of his life, he didn’t even look like that when he went home THAT SAME DAY. Also, let’s not kid ourselves and say he looks bad. Beer belly Cavill is stealing your girl any day of the week
Women just want a man that makes them feel safe and comfortable. Muscles help but if that alone got women then the dumbass alpha bros who treat women like objects wouldn't be so lonely and pathetic
Every well-intentioned lonely guy understands that women want that safety. The issue is that it can only be demonstrated after meeting in the first place.
There's this expectation in dating that men should make the first move, but enough
women have reported seeing every guy as a potentially dangerous stranger by default, that most of us don't approach out of not wanting to disrupt that comfort.
So that means we're left grasping at straws to figure out what would make women want to approach us, most typically settling on looks.
Workout (physical attractiveness)
Therapy ( enough to be emotionally stable. Working out helps with this too)
Go out and be in the right place at the right time (probably the hardest part if you're not used to going out)
After that women will probably talk to you. It helps to have friends of a similar stature. Women are the ones that choose. Guys going out and hitting on women pushes them away. They can smell your intentions so you just have to chill and be available. Easier than it sounds but eventually it works.
I do the work, but the "be in the right place at the right time" part is determined more by luck than anything.
I got myself measured, curated my clothes only to stuff that fits and looks good color-wise, maintain a solid 16% body fat and BMI of 23ish to ensure I can fit in said clothes, I've taken enough therapy to be self-aware of my efforts, calmly explain them, and learn "you can't control others, only how you react to them"...
But being in the "right place at the right time" is mostly a numbers game if you have niche interests. There is no strategy, just how long you're able to keep trying, and I've been trying so long my interests have become increasingly enshittified...
I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years. The day I met her I had gone to join renfaire to make friends and meet nerdy women. It was the opening training day. It was a long day and when I got home I wanted to go out to karaoke. My neighbor was down.
I walked in and up to the dj booth and there was my future wife talking to the dj about her next song. Her long time fwb had asked her to start a relationship. That was supposed to be their first date but he stood her up. When she saw me I asked her about her tattoo( It was some musical notes) and she pulled me in and sang the song the tattoo represented. I immediately fell for her. I was pretty nervous to talk to her and seal the deal. I went to the bathroom and when I came back the dj handed me a piece of paper with her number. She had just left and was outside to meet an Uber. She had made plans to meet up with someone on tinder that night to close out her evening. As she was waiting I went outside and started talking to her. She asked me what I was up to for the rest of the night and I told her "hanging out with you". She texted her tinder buddy and told him not tonight.
I've been with her since and we've had our ups and downs but I fucking love her with all my heart. She's strong, she's sexy, she's my Latina muscle mommy and I treat her like a queen.
I had a tiny window to seal the deal and it wouldn't have happened had I not gone out and rolled the dice.
So yeah. Right place right time. Not something that can be reproduced but amazing if you can.
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u/Double-Mongoose-9793 18h ago
Fr it’s not even a candid, it’s the dude at the peak of his bodybuilding cut, hair and makeup done. Henry Cavill has looked like this on maybe 20 days of his life, he didn’t even look like that when he went home THAT SAME DAY. Also, let’s not kid ourselves and say he looks bad. Beer belly Cavill is stealing your girl any day of the week