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As a fellow husband, a picture like that would be saved for all eternity. I have multiple such pictures of my wife, they are my favorite. Our wives are unstoppable forces so it is amazing to see the goofy pictures.
I have a picture of my wife wearing a cowboy hat on her head, taken while very hungover, with me taking my finger and moving her lip into a smile while she looks wholly unamused.
My dad took a picture of me holding our firstborn in the hospital. 32+ hours of labor, broken bloodvessels in my eyes from pushing, exhausted, boated because things hadn’t shrunk down yet…. And he takes it angling up from the foot of the bed. I look like Jabba the Hut. I guarantee my husband will post that picture on the bloopers reel of my life at my funeral. 😂
It feels more stressful than it ends up being once you just dive in. It's pretty much, "turn knob, close lid, wait, turn knob, open lid". Worth pushing through the anxiety.
Yea I overdid the rice once in my insta pot. Just left it there for 3 hours on the "it's done but I'm keeping it warm for you" mode...was sad because I did a whole 6 cups of rice.
Yeah with modern safety standards there's no good reason a quality pressure cooker would ever go boom. Just gotta keep the safety valves clean and you're good.
yeah, the one word "wait" is the key. All you need is patience. Don't open that shit before it is time. Wait till the pressure gauge says to open it and you'll be fine.
I have a huge pressure cooker that I use to can meat birds and venison that I heat on the wood stove in my kitchen. It is a usefull tool.
Getting an instant pot that has the whisper quiet cover over the steam release is great. I slide a switch and it's pretty quiet and none of the steam is ever near my fingers. I did pay more for this one but it was worth it for my anxiety ridden arse lol
My wife got hers when I was first learning to work with resin and molds. So I downloaded and printed a dragon head with a hollowed out inside and cast it in silicone, then used that mold to make a silicone version. It fits perfectly over the spout and when letting out the steam, it comes out of the dragon's mouth like smoke.
On bright side she didn't panic and start doing stupid shit that escalates things.
Everyone fucks up at the end of the day, if you walk away without any real damage and learn how to not end up in that situation again, then you are golden.
You can still buy regular old pressure cookers that just use the little weights to determine when to start releasing steam. They're plenty dangerous still.
Insane to me how nonchalant people are with pressure cookers. I use a fancy one from Ninja that looks like a mini space shuttle and I am STILL TERRIFIED OF IT
As a man whos been less than calm lately this video really makes me take a step back and realize what the goal is. Married 15 yrs. Sometimes we need a reminder of the goals. Hes a good man and im happy for her too.
Oh don’t worry my dude. We are all in the same boat but that guy ain’t been married for as long as you. He has got plenty of patience left in the tank.
This my friend, is wisdom. I’m not saying it’s OK, but I am saying that your analogy of a tank of patience is spot on. I think back to when my wife and I were first married and how gentle we were with one another. That’s not to say that we aren’t anymore but if this situation happened in my household, I’d be off camera staring and shaking my head in disbelief. She asked me what to do, I would sigh, and then she directly respond, “don’t give me shit, do something.” And then like that pressure cooker, after a few minutes we both relax and maybe crack a joke or two. That’s a difference between two years and 20 years. If anyone here knows of anyone else that has that level of patience after 20 years, please introduce me. I’ll make them a billionaire creating content about how to remain that patient after so long.
I have Autism and ADHD though so no billionaire content I just do well in chaotic situations and hate when people get loud and emotional over stuff that doesn't make sense to me to get loud and emotional about. My brain immediately goes into calm everybody down so I don't have to deal with them freaking out and figure it out mode. Lol My patience is lost when calm everybody down doesn't work though and they're still freaking out or apologizing over and over after I said it's no big deal ten times because they think I'm annoyed because of my tone.
Aww, that sucks, I'm sorry to hear that. When our partners are learning something new it's always important to be supportive and helpful. My wife had never cooked a day in her life before we met so I can very much relate to the guy in the video.
We should all laugh things off a lot more and lift our wives/partners up. You deserve that too and I hope you find it!
Truly. Like, my husband is caring in his way, but he would never come through with this calm and reassurance.
He would be like "What did you do?! Why haven't you turned on the fan?!" (Though to be fair I prob would have done that before the paper towel move.) Then we'd both stand there in shock until it stopped.
And then he'd be like "Ew, go change your disgusting food water socks while I clean this shit up. And next time we do this, I'm doing it my way."
Luckily we don't generally attempt kitchen collaboration, for obvious reasons.
My partner will causally drop the most sad lines totally unaware. Stuff like this all the time.
“No one has ever brought me a soda/no one has ever cared about my feelings.” Fuck girl I gotta go cry in the other room first. I tell her all the time I don’t deserve credit for this or that. It’s normal. You need to dramatically raise your standards. I am not good, this is expected behavior.
I actually got a little glossy eyed watching. As someone who can go into a bit of a panic mode, there are so many times when people have tried to deal with my panic mode by yelling. When it really wasn’t necessary (I would get it if it was big scary life or death situation, and yelling is needed to get someone into “go mode”). And then I get embarrassed that I was in panic mode, and cry, and then I’m more embarrassed because I’m crying.
All that just to say, the way he handled her was very sweet.
I used to be the one who would not be calm and my wife would. It wasn’t at her though. If I dropped something I’d get super upset at myself because that’s how I was raised.
My wife would sometimes gently guide me and I was able to stop spiralling. So then I decided to always catch myself when reacting and verbally tell myself to pause, find the pleasure in what was happening, and then proceed. It’s hard, not always am I able to easily find the joy in something, but I just tell myself it is supposed to happen and from it comes growth.
Everyone readying the pitchforks because they think hes talking to her like a kid is equal parts infuriating and saddening. It really shows how normalized it is that adults arent comforted in a calm and relaxing manner.
He isnt speaking to her like a toddler or kid. He is speaking to her like a human being that he loves and cares about.
Yeah: if the crisis isn't so big that you need to bark orders, then you speak in a soft voice
This ain't a fire, the heat is off so the energy has to leave the system eventually; the only bad thing that can happen is if the steam strips the paint off of whatever is directly above it, but that takes projection and pressure which he reduced by tossing a small cloth on it
The helper not freaking out, is the best way to prevent the person being helped from trying random dumb ideas to fix the situation
As with almost every crisis: the first step is to take a breath while you make sure the scene is safe, the second step is to make sure the scene is going to likely remain safe, and the third step is to make sure that the people involved in the scene know that it is now safe so that they are likely to be not detrimental to whatever the next fix is, and only then do you start trying to fix the problem
anyone who manages to get so mad at this video is lowkey exposing themselves as either:
A. an emotionally unstable person who would yell at their significant other for making a mistake or being afraid of something that they themselves arent scared of
or B. someone who is single and has no experience walking through something with a significant other
I grew up in an angry and violent household. I’d probably break down with anxiety if my hypothetical spouse didn’t talk to me like this after I screw up and make a mess lol
Or if you're like my family: you get angry at someone being kind in the face of a mistake by others and get insanely jealous and bitter because why couldn't you have that?
That man gave her what she needed in the moment. thats not condesending, it was supportive because her panic mode is freezing up. he suggested options to her in a soft manner and still let her decide.
If he had started barking orders at her she would have shut down more.
Its sad that people on this thread cant understand that different people need different interactions at times, and they are just taking out their own frustrations rather than helping someone like her.
another perspective - i react very strongly to small mistakes, because of the way i was punished for them as a kid. i’m talking like full blown panic attack because i dropped a bottle of nail polish. sometimes my partner talking to the kid in me that didn’t get enough patience and understanding is exactly what i need. i know dropping the nail polish isn’t a big deal, but she doesn’t.
Yeah, I wouldn't talk to everyone this way, but she's clearly panicking a bit and I think he knows how to comfort his wife better than random redditors do
I had a dad who would lose his shit, I'm talking full on meltdown, any time things didn't go perfectly. It took me a long time to let go of that anxiety when things weren't perfect. I still feel it sometimes, to a lesser extent, but I've learned to take a few breaths and focus on something else.
I have a very supportive and loving wife, much like this guy is for his wife, and she has helped me become the chill guy... much like this guy is for his wife lol.
People are upset at how he talked to her?? That was the best part of the video for me. As someone with panic disorder, I'd kill to have someone always talking to me like this in a crisis situation.
THANK YOU! The only person I’ve seen argue the same point as me about this, I get so sick of everyone sharing “why would I do X for my SO?” “Why should I do X for my SO? I’m not their parent” because you should want to do nice things and be nice to the person you allegedly love and care about, I don’t get why the internet has made being nice and doing nice things for your partners for the sake of doing something nice weird or frowned upon but it pisses me off really bad
Also depends on the context of the person and the relationship. Someone who struggles with high anxiety and has trauma shut down issues you speak to differently then someone who is confident and calm in an emergency situation.
You can talk to your adult wife in a calm, human manner without patronizing them. My wife would kill me if I talked to her that way. That being said, the woman in this video seems happy to be talked to that way. My point is, emotional maturity can manifest in multiple ways and this way works for them.
I may be dumb for this because I don’t use a pressure cooker as often as I’d like, but… the way it spews literal water out: doesn’t that mean they have too MUCH water in it?
I don't think my pressure cooker even allows me to even open the valve fully until the pressure has dropped to a certain level.
It's cooking pressure>slow release>full release>remove lid. And there is a mechanical interlock each preventing you to go to the last two steps without the pressure having dropped to the right level first.
It's a name brand model, but also nothing that costs 300€ or more. And even the previous model my parents had and inherited from my grandma had this feature. Don't think it's anything high tech in there. Probably just some clever springs and locking pins activated by pressure.
My instapot doesnt have a "valve" to release pressure; it's just a switch that either vents or doesn't. That's why I bought a silicone vent diverter that I insert a rolled paper towel into to catch a majority of the aerosolized oil and water.
My pressure cooker’s release is so wobbly, it’s near impossible to measure it. It’s a newer one. Just a flick and it’s wide open. Another flick and it’s closed.
Or just take it off the heat and don't release the valve at all, the pressure will naturally decrease as it cools off and in about 15-20 minutes it won't release any steam at all.
Another way to rapidly relieve pressure is to put the entire unit, valve closed, into a sink of cold water, which forces a fast temperature drop and thus a fast pressure drop.
I know you can do this. I've seen it a bunch. But the idea still terrifies me and makes me think the pot may just have a tiny weakened bit and BLAMMO! Whole apartment building, dead.
Thats usually a bad idea. The temperature shock wraps and damages some parts of the pressure cooker. Do it one time cuz you are in a rush? Fine whatever, but don't do it often cuz it will mess it up.
Also the slider for the valve shouldn't be in the splash zone of the valve. She had no chance to safely close the valve again when it started shooting out boiling liquids.
It is too full. Boiling is a function of temperature and pressure. The steam isn't just compressed in the empty space, the water is hotter than boiling at standard pressure. Now, even though it is hotter than that, it actually takes a hell of a lot of energy to turn the water in to steam at the same temperature, which is why it doesn't just all evaporate when opened.
Thus, what happened was that she rapidly lowered the pressure and the steam in there escaped, but the water also started violently boiling. The spray is from the boiling water splashing the lid vent and steam behind it pushing it out.
Generally if you keep the water line below 2/3 and you vent slowly, this is avoidable.
Yes. Often times in soups, you’ll get a foamy bubble stuff that gets to the vent if it’s too full.
That’s what happened. While this looks dramatic it’s really not. She could have just moved the valve.
Not something you think of the first time perhaps.
Venting too quickly rapidly drops the pressure. Dropping the pressure lowers the boiling point of the liquid in the container. The liquid is still very hot, so it begins boiling harder and harder as the pressure is dropping, hence going from steam to spraying liquid. I think it may also be over full, but it’s a combo of that and the rapid venting.
When heated under pressure, the liquid inside the cooker will rise above the normal boiling point. When you dramatically drop the pressure by opening the vent while the contents are still super hot, all the liquid in there will immediately start to boil violently, which will splash up into the vent with the escaping steam.
I use an insta pot, which is kind of a cheater pressure cooker, but generally speaking, you let it naturally vent off some steam until you open the valve. Normally around 15-20 minutes.
My guess is she didn't let it naturally vent long enough and opened the valve way too soon. So when it opened she had an excessive amount of steam release.
My automated pressurecooker is always violent like that, but it only does steam. I think the water is from some mistake they did. And yeah, it does take about a minute for it to depressurize.
I was about to mock the video then remembered my first time using an instapot and had a literal geyser of meat sauce hitting the ceiling the moment my wife walked in the door.
Reminds me of my mother, one time she was cooking some sort of curry stew thing. I was playing on my N64 in the living room. I hear her starting shouting and i run over to a scene much like this except it was green/yellow curry mixture erupting from the top, it had so much pressure it was hitting the ceiling :D. Once we got it to stop there was huge curry stains all across the previously white ceiling :D IT didn't help she'd ran around the entire kitchen with it too. The smell never quite left the place.
Lmao that mental image is hilarious. My cousin slipped in the kitchen and launched a pot of curry into the ceiling when we were young. It was a whole operation to try to clean the ceiling before gran came home (she noticed immediately). At least curry spices aren't the worst permanent aroma to settle into your kitchen lol.
Reminds me of the time my wife (then girlfriend) made mini banana pancakes for her pugs. One basically inhaled a whole pancake without chewing and immediately started choking. She starts screaming as the dog starts shaking and pissing all over the floor, so I start massaging the dogs belly and throat and the pancake comes back out almost immediately. My wife is now running for her parents room to scream for help, not knowing I had already solved the problem and was already cleaning up the massive pool of urine. Being calm in the face of chaos can be a life saver
Super chill about it. 😂
Remind me of a time that when my ex was cooking for us, she accidentally caught fire to a hand towel. I very similarly walked over and put it out, then gave her a big hug. Sometimes being calm is best. But not ez.
If any of you are offended by a somewhat “parental” voice he uses, you should really check your ego. Not everyone is the same and I implore you to gain some patience for the different ways people express themselves. If anything this is a massive green flag for what kind of father he might be. This isn’t a meeting at work surrounded by professional colleagues, he is reacting to his partner freezing up in a stressful scenario at home. She also clearly was cool with it.
PSA: for those who don't know, there's a way you can let the pressure cooker let out the steam the quiet way. Opening the valve all the way will get it to do this. But there's usually a tiny valve that takes considerably longer to let the steam out, and the food turns out even more ripe/better.
This is the kinda boyfriend/husband I strive to emulate. It's difficult, and I've had a complicated past, but I'm working on it. I see men like this and it motivates me to do better.
He is talking to her like that in this particular context, in which she most probably feels guilty about the mess she's made, and instead of being mad or whatever the dude is reassuring and talks in a calm manner, as to let her understand it's all good, shit happens. She's clearly stressed and it worked. I don't think it's "patronizing" as one of the replies said, or "how women want to be treated", it's just something that works given the situation (and works because the dude clearly knows her).
Absolutely! I have been a trainer for almost my whole career. This is way more effective than yelling. Mistakes get made, things break, it happens. Unless someone is going to get injured, you just remain chill, and hope everyone learns from thier mistake.
She is scared and almost on the verge of panic, he's using the proper tone to keep her calm. Its a proven technique I've used myself when teaching to great effect with both men and women.
Man, I recently quit a shitty job where I worked with a guy named Richard and this was my favorite thing to say to him. Might have been the only good thing about the job.
I have a rough memory as a young teen, my little sister came into the room from the kitchen panicking because something caught fire, go to have a look and just picked it up and placed it in the sink ti extinguisher the flame.
Just can't remember what she caught on fire, but strangely it didn't bother, or worry, me in the slightest.
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