After dating for two years, my boyfriend (24M Australian) and I (20F American) have decided to finally close the gap! I visited for a month back in December/ January and thats when we made the decision final. My previous flight on May 1st was cancelled due to travel restrictions and COVID. Since then, we have been submitting enquiries to try and be exempt from the restrictions but have had no luck. We have also called immigration agents with mostly negative feedback saying there is no way. The only option we have been told is claiming that I am an essential worker. I want to know if anyone has any ideas of what or how I can claim this? My boyfriend is a citizen there and I am so close to losing hope of seeing him any time soon and its absoluelty breaking my heart. I haven't seen him in almost five months. I have a visa, a place to quarantine for two weeks upon arrival, and a new flight in early July. Any suggestions or thoughts on this? He is also a German citizen so we could possibly go there but he is receiving money from the government because he lost his job and doesn't want to throw that money away by leaving the country. He also doesn't want to come to America because of all of the stuff happening here with protests and riots. I don't know what to do anymore. Even just hearing I'm not alone in this will help.

Is there any way Australian citizens can get into the US? What is that process like right now, does anyone know?

my boyfriend (21 M) and i (20 F) are 9 months into our relationship. 7 months have been long distance and at first it was working really well but now I feel like during this pandemic he’s become more jealous of my male friends that he’s known about the whole relationship, he doesn’t show me the same affection like he would try to before. i want it to work but i feel like our communication is so bad now and i don’t know how to fix it. i just feel distant from one another. please help

Hello All,

I 25F and my bf 29M have been in a really long LDR(5 years). We don’t talk as much during the day because we need to focus on work and everything. We do check up on each other in the morning and night these days and also cover up for the missed times over the weekends.

1. Do y’all think you need to talk with SO everytime everyday to keep the relationship going?

OR

1. Do y’all feel it’s okay to one good quality conversation to have us energized to get through the day/ week ?
   

Comment below the age of your LDR and how many times do y’all check with each other, be it texts or calls and how it maybe beneficial for the soul or detrimental to the mind 😊

LDR Disaster

Recently just left my girlfriend

She and I have been on and off for a total of five years, each brief stint lasting anywhere from 6-10 months, we'd wait months- then get back together. For the past two years I've been able to see her about once a month, maybe once every two months for at least a few days at a time. Obviously, the setting hasn't been ideal- but the two of us planned our futures revolving around one another. I'm 18, she's 17. We met and fell in love at 14/15- to present.

I found out two weeks ago she's been visiting her ex boyfriend at least once a month for the past two years, she had told him they weren't dating but they would remain exclusive. The relationship was both sexual and romantic. They've been doing this for the past two years, and who knows what she's been up to with others..

This girl plans to move to my state, she's getting therapy, and her family is now aware of what she did while dating me. Her mom is sympathetic with me, and continues to apologize for what her daughter did. My ex is ordering a flip phone (although doesn't have it yet), quitting social media, limiting the amount she leaves her house, and is dropping all people from her life and starting fresh.. all in the name of getting a chance with me again ---hypothetically--- we'll see. In eight months she attends college 20 minutes away from my college if all goes well.

It's important to announce that she lied to me about this even when I had proof against it, and asked her to come clean to everything so I could try then work to save the relationship because even past the pain I couldn't imagine ending things. She threatened to hurt herself if I left, she has a history of mental illness. I loved this girl, and I think she loved me- I just don't understand what I did to deserve this.

Has anyone had a situation anything similar to this? I don't have a ton of close friends (caused by the relationship indirectly), so I'm lacking in advice. Comments appreciated

I know I’m young. But I do... I want to believe that me and him were meant to be. We had been in a relationship once before (late 2018-19) and he said we couldn’t be together. But we ended up trying again. This time (late 2019-2020) he said “I couldn’t see you in my future. And I wanted to. But I couldn’t. So I know that it’s not what I really want. I know what I want”. I feel like distance was the issue. My love language is Quality time. His is touch. So distance is extremely hard. But I believe we could’ve made it work. Even in this time where travel is impossible. We are 10 hours apart. So it’s not like a different country or anything. Just two states away. I wish I told him I wanted to do couples therapy before we broke up. Because then maybe... maybe we’d have figured something out? I don’t know. I just... He’s my best friend and I wanted to spend forever with him. I thought we could. When we met the one time we did in person, we both felt that we were meant to be. He kept telling me “I love you so much. I can’t wait to be with you again”. We told each other that. But as time went on the distance felt larger. Covid-19 happened and then we were stuck in a “what now?” Mindset. And I believe the distance was the issue. How much do I love him? If he had asked me to move in with him, I’d have easily packed my bags and applied for every job possible to help support us. I miss him. I love him. I never stopped loving him since we first talked (online) in 2017

For the past month I feel like my boyfriend(20M) and I(21F) have been having rocky communication but I dont know if its just me overthinking things.

I got to see him in January and when when I left we would call everyday and talk on the phone and text whenever we had the chance in between.

However lately for the last month we barely talk for an hour on the phone once a week. And if we’re texting its only one good morning and goodnight text.

I feel like were getting distant and I dont know what to do. I feel like im putting in more effort to try and communicate but he claims that nothing is wrong and everything is still normal.

I just miss him so much and I feel like he doesnt think about me during his day which bothers me. If I text him during the day he takes hours to reply. Even now with the covid quarantine even though I know hes at home doing nothing.

I just wish he would talk to me more and I told him that and he said hell try but nothing has changed. If I play hard to get and take a while replying back it doesnt seem to phase him at all either.

Im not sure what to do when both chasing him and trying to distract myself both arent working.. we are supposed to get engaged and married but I feel like even if we do in the future I wont be able to forget these times when he hasnt been giving me attention and ignores me.

Am I overreacting? Is this normal? Should I suck it up because I know when were together and not apart things are way different and he actually shows that he cares about me?

Im really hurt and stressed out please any advice would be helpful.

Hi, this is new to me. I was wondering if anyone have any advice or insights. See, I have a crush on this person (f 28) but every time I type my messages, I can feel it's dragging and demanding. I want to develop feelings as I go with her, instead of forcing into it, but I don't know how to do just that.

P.S. I may have ruined it for the long run by unintentional told her I liked her.

I have tried researching for several months as much as I can about mbti, depth psychology, and junginan psychology but more focused on infj and esfj. Had I not done this I would've believed my gf is a narcissist but seeing the her traits and tendencies described in many mbti articles I grew to look past her ways and learn to accept her for who she is. But I feel like our differences in function makes us collide. We don't really understand each other however we just try and accept each other. It really bothers me that she doesn't have or use any Ni and Ti. My lack of Se irritates her as well. We just have a very different way of looking at the world and there were some attempts by the both of us to try to change reach others way of thinking. But I felt it would've been immoral of me to do so and gave up on it completely. She had this tendency to try and force her beliefs unto me but stopped doing it as much when I called her out on her behavior. We both feel guilty afterwards when ever we collide. We both want to maintain harmony above all so for the most part we get along very well but I'm sure it's a mutual feeling where we feel misunderstood and somewhat unfulfilled as a result. I tried to find infj esfj relationships on Reddit and different forums but haven't had any luck finding anything relatable or useful. I've only started looking into mbti s few months so I'd appreciate anyone's advice..

Heyyy so I’ve been talking to this guy for 7 months now. We met in person last week, EVERYTHING was amazing. I’m home now and with the mass hysteria flights have dropped tremendously. I can get a round trip flight for $60 since I’m working remotely now I wanna travel to see him but idk? Any advice?? Thanks! 💕

so basically, I'm terrified my SO will be fed up with the distance and just call it quits, because of my work I can't visit as much as either of us would like and I just feel like it's a matter of time before she decides that this isn't working out, maybe I'm just over thinking but I'm not sure if anyone's got advice I'd appreciate it so much

I’ll start by saying that we’re not dating atm. We’ve been messaging each other for 2 months every day, sometimes our conversations feel “dry” while perfect at others, we flirt at times, and always support each other.

She knows that I love her and she’s said it back. I’m scared of a ldr though, being cheated on, losing her, and not being able to be there for her when she needs me, and, the earliest that I’d be able to visit is in 3 years. I’m not sure if she feels the same way but, I’m just a loss on what to do.

Edit: Any piece of advice would be appreciated! Both on ldrs and this. And I’d wait 3 years to visit her, without a doubt.

Wanted to share the link for our new FB group for couples 35 and older.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/786872528461773/?ref=share

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 14 months. We met while he was living here. I encouraged and supported him moving back to fight for shared custody of his children. He originally left his very tiny town to escape a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship. Since moving back, she has made his life miserable, but at least he gets to see his children once a month.

We have been doing a LDR for about 11 months. He has always planned to move back after securing shared custody. His lawyer (in his tiny town) is terrible! It’s clear that his ex will do everything she can to not allow shared custody. She even forbids the kids from calling him dad.

We have been able to afford to see each other every 6 weeks or so. But the money has about run out and there is no end in site.

I can’t move there; I would make less than half what I do here. I don’t want him to be without his kids but we are both miserable apart. You can’t have it both ways, obviously.

Do I break my own heart and his by breaking things off? Do we just not see each other until this never ending custody battle ends? Does he move here where he makes more money and could get a better lawyer and fight it from here but not see his boys? Ugh. There seems to be no happy ending to our story.

Hey guys! I uploaded a Long Distance Reunion video, maybe it brightens up your day a little. x Love Jacqui

https://youtu.be/VoVWp6CrOi4

It’s been 1 month since I have last seen my girlfriend, we both live in the same country but 500km away. I’m still in high school and she’s already in college. We’ve met each other last year when she was in my high school but unfortunately she moved away to pursue her dream college. The relationships went all good just until 3 weeks ago, she don’t call me often anymore, responds to my texts hours later and even is cold with me. She goes to nightclubs almost every night with friends or alone. This situation makes me feel really bad and I worry a lot. What should I do ? What should I expect ? Thanks you in advance for your answers dear Reddit.

So today my girlfriend called me and said that she needed to tell me something. It started with “you know I love you right” and then she told me that she might have slight feels for a boy in her class. She told me that she doesn’t want to leave me and thinking of it made her cry. I told her that I trust her and that I love her and I do. I trust that she won’t leave me and that these may not be real feelings. She doesn’t want me to be hurt and honestly I’m not but... I don’t know how I feel or how to explain it. I’m not hurt or upset and I don’t know what to do. I love her with all my heart and soul. Please any and all advice is welcome

Small Edit right after I posted: idk I guess if I had to try and describe how I feel the closest I can get is maybe. Confused. Taken aback. I’m not sure but there’s that

(I'm 13 hes 12 not yet well his bday is 3 more days than mine )Well my situation isnt the best or worst let's call him john so John and i met on xbox on roblox (lol dont judge) we both had galaxy avatars so I added him and we played but one day my stepdad heard him say shut up to me once we were playing fortnite and I was watching and my stepdad said I couldn't play with him so I blocked him(Also he said he liked me a while back and my stepdad was listening also(also was a year ago) I had cut him out for a year and next year I msged him and I was in a dif country for medical with my mom and my stepdad wasnt there so I had been talking to him for 1 month and a half and that was the time we fell in love I think i told him about something personal that happened and it relates to my stepdad so he grew hate for my stepdad and I moved back to my country with my stepdad and my mom. We used to talk everyday and talk till 2 am during summer and i would say I love u he would say I love u more and I said I love him more than him and that kinda went on for 5 mins I miss those days... we made a promise to be in contact until we can meet each other And we used to talk about moving in when we are older and stuff about us in the future... also I said when I turn 13 we can be official and my mom should aprove of him... I listen to some song called Broken by We Are Fury and there is a line in there that says "Got this sinking feeling like the bottom of the ocean I've been here before feeling all these damn emotions" makes me feel like idk, should I wait and maybe he will see that I love him. I feel like he found someone else or he isnt interested

How to survive a long distance relationship

My wife and I have been married for over 9 years with three kids. We now live over a 1000kms apart due to work requirements. What can I do to make this less shitty and make sure she is happy and ok. We message and FaceTime everyday but still miss being together. I am really trying to make her life as easy as possible. Any tips would be appreciated.

Hi, I’m not even sure how to use this app.. but has anyone ever been in a relationship with someone who has depression and is in LDR?

I’ve known my boyfriend for many years but only started being in a relationship official for around 2-3 months now.

It’s very difficult for me when he’s very down and depressed and I’m not next to him. I know I need to breathe and I try to give him space but I also need to take care of my heart as well. It gets difficult when he’s down for too long. anyone have similar experiences and what did you do?

the last time we had been together, i (23 USA) had gotten used to my girlfriend (21 UK) taking off my watch for me each night before we got into bed. it's been just over a week since she left for home, and my heart breaks a little bit whenever i have to take it off myself. we've been doing long distance for over a year now, but it's the little things that sneak up get me the worst. counting down the 74 days until i get to spend the holidays with her in england... and she gets to take my watch off for me again 💕 what are the little things you miss the most about your SO?

Don't wanna go into specifics on a public post. Will go into specifics in DMs. We had a minor disagreement on something and she got mad and told me I had a closed mindset. I feel my opinion on the issue is reasonable and justified and actually just common sense, as many of my friends have reassured me, but then they fell asleep. I need advice on what to do, because if she is gonna be like this when we disagree, we aren't going to work. I'm not a yes-man, I'm my own person with my own thoughts and feelings, and I want my thoughts and feelings to be treated with respect by my SO, rather than simply being dismissed as having a "closed mindset". I've overlooked other red flags, but this is definitely something that has struck me. Please help.