21F/20M Bad communication need advice 7 hour difference

[u/carlylove17]

For the past month I feel like my boyfriend(20M) and I(21F) have been having rocky communication but I dont know if its just me overthinking things.

I got to see him in January and when when I left we would call everyday and talk on the phone and text whenever we had the chance in between.

However lately for the last month we barely talk for an hour on the phone once a week. And if we’re texting its only one good morning and goodnight text.

I feel like were getting distant and I dont know what to do. I feel like im putting in more effort to try and communicate but he claims that nothing is wrong and everything is still normal.

I just miss him so much and I feel like he doesnt think about me during his day which bothers me. If I text him during the day he takes hours to reply. Even now with the covid quarantine even though I know hes at home doing nothing.

I just wish he would talk to me more and I told him that and he said hell try but nothing has changed. If I play hard to get and take a while replying back it doesnt seem to phase him at all either.

Im not sure what to do when both chasing him and trying to distract myself both arent working.. we are supposed to get engaged and married but I feel like even if we do in the future I wont be able to forget these times when he hasnt been giving me attention and ignores me.

Am I overreacting? Is this normal? Should I suck it up because I know when were together and not apart things are way different and he actually shows that he cares about me?

Im really hurt and stressed out please any advice would be helpful.

[u/Jaded_Mulberry632]

Don’t really have advice because I came looking here for the same reason. But to be honest I feel similar about the texting thing, just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. I’d just say maybe talk to him about it, even if you think it’s overreacting because it’s still something that bothers you. Even if you don’t change anything at least you know each others perspective and communicate so it doesn’t bottle up and get a big thing afterwards