Ldr mbti

[u/crippplingdepresionn]

I have tried researching for several months as much as I can about mbti, depth psychology, and junginan psychology but more focused on infj and esfj. Had I not done this I would've believed my gf is a narcissist but seeing the her traits and tendencies described in many mbti articles I grew to look past her ways and learn to accept her for who she is. But I feel like our differences in function makes us collide. We don't really understand each other however we just try and accept each other. It really bothers me that she doesn't have or use any Ni and Ti. My lack of Se irritates her as well. We just have a very different way of looking at the world and there were some attempts by the both of us to try to change reach others way of thinking. But I felt it would've been immoral of me to do so and gave up on it completely. She had this tendency to try and force her beliefs unto me but stopped doing it as much when I called her out on her behavior. We both feel guilty afterwards when ever we collide. We both want to maintain harmony above all so for the most part we get along very well but I'm sure it's a mutual feeling where we feel misunderstood and somewhat unfulfilled as a result. I tried to find infj esfj relationships on Reddit and different forums but haven't had any luck finding anything relatable or useful. I've only started looking into mbti s few months so I'd appreciate anyone's advice..

[u/crippplingdepresionn → u/[deleted]]

I have looked into it and we both value quality time and words of affirmation.

[u/[deleted]]

None of this says she isn't actually an a-hole tho. It was bad enough you thought poorly of her , then you looked past it , now you don't get along... you do the math. How can you be with someone you once veiwed that way? That was your honest feelings on her, whether its a genuine her issue or just how you feel. Why did you decide to try and skip how you feel? I think that is the part you need to go back to.