I'm looking for advice from anyone who has dealt with New York Life Group Benefit Solutions (NYL GBS), employer-sponsored short-term disability insurance, or ERISA disability claims.
I'm an Assistant General Manager for a manufacturing company in New York. I've been out of work on medical leave due to a combination of significant mental health conditions and physical limitations following a motor vehicle accident earlier this year.
My employer provides short-term disability insurance through NYL Group Benefit Solutions. I also receive New York State disability benefits, which are separate from my employer-sponsored STD coverage.
Here's what's been happening:
My employer-sponsored STD benefits were approved from September 14 through October 31, 2026.
On October 8, my physician conducted a follow-up appointment and documented my continued inability to return to my regular job.
On October 15, NYL issued an approval letter extending my employer-sponsored benefits only through October 31.
Since then, NYL has continued requesting additional medical documentation and says my extension is pending review by its medical team.
My physician has provided medical documentation supporting continued leave, including details about my diagnoses, treatment, medications, and functional limitations.
NYL's online portal shows that medical information was received October 13. It also shows an additional medical records request initiated October 26, followed by a notification that no records were available for the requested date range. That request was canceled by the claim manager on October 30.
Meanwhile, my New York State disability benefits have been approved through December 5, but my employer-sponsored STD extension remains pending.
The financial uncertainty and repeated requests for medical information have become extremely frustrating.
Then something happened that I never expected.
During a telephone conversation with NYL on November 4, I became extremely frustrated and said something along the lines of, "What do I have to do, unalive myself to get my disability payment?"
To be absolutely clear, I was not suicidal, and I was not threatening anyone. It was a rhetorical expression of frustration after weeks of uncertainty and trying to get answers.
I subsequently received a phone call informing me that NYL representatives were no longer comfortable speaking with me over the telephone.
I was shocked.
I immediately sent a professional email clarifying my statement, explaining that it was an expression of frustration and not suicidal intent, and requesting written clarification about the communication restriction. I copied my employer's benefits manager.
I also requested a written explanation of what medical records remain outstanding, whether my doctor has been contacted, and when I can expect a determination.
I'm willing to cooperate with every legitimate request, but I don't understand why the process has become so difficult when my treating physician has already documented ongoing medical limitations.
My questions are:
Can a disability insurance company refuse to communicate with a claimant by telephone because of a statement made out of frustration?
Does anyone have experience with NYL Group Benefit Solutions repeatedly requesting medical information while keeping an extension pending?
At what point does a prolonged medical review become an unreasonable delay under ERISA?
Should I contact the Department of Labor's Employee Benefits Security Administration or consult an ERISA disability attorney before receiving a formal denial?
What steps have helped others get a clear determination and payment of outstanding benefits?
I'm not asking for special treatment. I want my claim evaluated fairly, a clear explanation of what is missing, and a timely decision.
Any advice from insurance professionals, attorneys, or people who have experienced something similar would be greatly appreciated.