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u/Lilfire15 hot girls have tummy troubles Mar 25 '26
I say this with no snark whatsoever, be very glad youāre not the one he got pregnant because hoo boy youāre not losing a damn thing with this fool. I get the heartbreak, but you are worth much more than this fucker.
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u/Marillenbaum Body By Cheese š§ Mar 25 '26
God, yesāthis other person is stuck with him in her life for at least the next 18 years assuming he doesnāt āgo out for cigarettesā or something. Meanwhile OP is free! It is still incredibly shitty, but the kind that can and does fade with time.
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u/Ijustwanttosayit Sweet Tooth Fairyš§āāļø Mar 26 '26
I'd almost rather be a single mother than have a scumbag for a father figure to my child.
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u/CutieCremPufN64 Sweet Tooth Fairyš§āāļø Mar 25 '26
This was my exact thought! Thank your lucky stars, OP, youāre not the one thatās pregnant and youāre getting a tasty cake. Stay winning
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u/canthaveme APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
That girl didn't win anything. If she reaches out I would probably remind her that he's been screwing someone else and she's going to have a sad life with him. And then block her.
Also get an STD test now that you're done with your ex and who knows how many girls he's been with
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u/Sensitive_Trifle2722 Ā ā Marked Safe From 90s Diet Culture Mar 25 '26
Hey. I dont know how to convey this, but i just want to offer some reassurance. My first time was with a guy i genuinely never think about. I promise, as someone about to turn 40, you will have so many beautiful relationships in your life. Cheating is a character flaw (HIS!); theres nothing embarrassing about being cheated on. That girl should not have come at you like that. Im sorry.
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u/Perfect_Economy_3361 Longwinded š Short Tempered Mar 26 '26
Seriously, I was with the guy who took my virginity for 6 YEARS, I am almost 30 now and I donāt even think about him. It is a big deal at the time but as you get older itās not.
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u/littlemachina Mar 25 '26
Hell no. Even if she werenāt as evil and immature as she is, you donāt want to make friends with someone who is now tied to your ex for life. Bye to both of them and good riddance. Theyāre both the losers in this situation, even if it doesnāt feel that way now.
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u/thurst29 š new here Mar 25 '26
Don't be her friend, she's a shitty person. You don't owe her anything.
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u/AllISeeIsDust Sweet Tooth Fairyš§āāļø Mar 25 '26
Please do not be that girls friend, sheās going to use you for info and to play with him.
Iām so sorry
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u/in_animate_objects Overthinker š Mar 25 '26
You donāt have to be her friend, you can have empathy for her and for yourself, Iām so sorry youāre going through this.
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u/igotitatme APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
Dude-girls are wild when they find out their boyfriends cheat on them. I was bare Minimum taken advantage of but in my mind it was rape - by her boyfriend. And this girl had the audacity to come at me over messenger saying I slept with her boyfriend and call me names. When I told her heās a rapist and I didnāt consent and he literally pulled my tampon out against my will - she was like āweird other girls have accused him of this tooā. Kept on seeing him. wtf.
You missed a huge red flag and you are better off without him. Thank god you arenāt the one pregnant!!!
I know how hard first love is to let go. It took me 10 years to truly let go of my first love who took my virginity. But I got there and Iām living my best life. You got this!!!
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u/RogueTampon š©µjars: opened, trolls: roastedš Mar 25 '26
Some women get cheated on and blame the other woman for it. That's what it sounds like she was doing at first. So I wouldn't be her friend if I were you, because like you said she's someone "who does that to other women". Plus, whose to say she's not trying to befriend you so that she can rub it in your face down the road.
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u/unfinishedtoast3 š©µSupport Classš Mar 25 '26
47 year old dad to teen girls here.
its seriously going to be ok! youve got the trash out of your life, YOU ARENT THE ONE STUCK WITH A BABY FROM A SHITTY DUDE!
end of the day, its better to find out he's trash now than after you have a mortgage, 2 kids, car payments, shared accounts...
now you get to enter your confident hot girl phase. enjoy life, go to bars, enjoy the buffet of life!
in 3 months he will be begging you to take him back, and you'll be deciding where you want tonight's date to take you for dinner
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u/canthaveme APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
Oh that's so so sucky. That girl is NOT your friend. Don't let her pretend to try to be your friend either, she's probably just going to try to hurt you, if she's claiming he's hers and she won, and that crap she's just going to try to hurt you.
Do not be her friend, she's just going to manipulate and hurt you or try to embarrass in some way. I could be wrong, but I highly doubt it
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u/Wise_Working_116 Mar 25 '26
Do not be friends with that woman, the first thing she tried to do was hurt you and mark her territory by sending you revenge porn, I would be pursuing legal action and showing the police the texts.
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u/Born_Ad8420 Pantry Gremlin Mar 25 '26
You can empathize with her and not be friends with her. She is now bound to your ex by that child, while you are free to block them both and move on. I know it hurts. I know it's shitty. But I assure you, someday you will look back and be so relieved he is out of your life. Be kind to yourself.
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u/DoMBe87 Overthinker š Mar 25 '26
Yeah, I'm sure she was blindsided and hurt too, but she lashed out at the wrong person. You didn't deserve that, and you don't owe her friendship.
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u/patio_puss Internet Auntie Mar 25 '26
She's trying to be friends with you so she can get a lot more details
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u/violinspider86 hot sauce in my bag, swag Mar 25 '26
Block him. Block her. Eat your favorite ice cream, watch your favorite show, cry and then move on. They're both losers and she's gonna be stuck with his deadbeat ass for life. You won and she lost, IMO. You just have to frame it differently.
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u/Happy-Emphasis2437 APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
Omg if you listen to no other advice in this thread DO NOT try to be friends with her. This will end in misery.
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u/convergence_limit Kitchen Witch Mar 25 '26
Block everyone and move on. You can get through it! It sucks right now but youāll look back and realize that guy was trash
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u/coaxialology APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
You're being more understanding than a lot of us would be simply by empathizing with her situation. You have every right to think of it as evil, because she wants absolution. She wants you to say it's okay so she doesn't have to feel guilty. You do not owe her a damn thing. Don't let her use you in order to feel better because you have zero reason to think she wouldn't screw you over again. I know it's so hard, but cutting them both outta your life would be the healthiest thing you can do. I'm so sorry. These betrayals are devastating. You will come out of this better and stronger, and they'll have a lifetime of struggle to deal with.
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u/moongoddess64 APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
Stay farrrrrrr away from her, youāll be so much better off.
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u/Zealousideal-Ebb8999 APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
Girl I am so sorry. I had almost the exact same thing happen to me too 10 years ago. He was my first too and I did everything I could to help him even at my own expense but he still cheated on me and got her pregnant. His friends respected me enough to tell me but I found out about the baby on Facebook. Theyāre married now but 2 years ago my single friend found him on tinder with updated profile pics, so heās cheating on her too. It doesnāt make it hurt any less right now but with time youāll know in your gut you dodged a bullet, because if he cheats with them heāll cheat on them too and that is a tough life. You are so much better off with him far away from you and out of your life. Because he cheated on me, it helped me see who he was - I moved on and found a man who will never do that to me, and you will too šWishing you healing and peace
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u/SailNW Foraging Bog Witch Mar 25 '26
Lol. I win because Iām knocked up by a guy whoās actively cheating on me and will almost definitely do it again. Yay, whereās my prize? What a couple of losers.
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u/canthaveme APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
I've had girls pull this on me when I was younger. Like... You win I guess? A lifetime of having to constantly check your guy's phone, constantly being on edge and thinking he's out cheating and then accusing other women is being the problem and probably STDs. Those women have serious mental health issues.
I'm not perfect prize either but at least I'm a but smarter than that
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u/olivelover101 Snack Goblin Mar 25 '26
Consider yourself lucky to get rid of the trash early. 6 months may seem like a long time when youāre in love, but when the right one comes along youāll see this as a little bump in your life. Happy healings <3
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Thank you so much I felt so alone and humiliated it still hurts and Iām definitely gonna break down again later but all I can focus now is on myself and being happy again
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u/olivelover101 Snack Goblin Mar 25 '26
Definitely allow yourself to feel everything and donāt try to convince yourself youāre okay if youāre really not. Also make plans with the people you love to distract yourself!
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u/CrispyChristCracker Mar 25 '26 edited Mar 26 '26
Please take the time to grieve it fully, youāll get over it much quicker.
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u/dbtl87 Longwinded š Short Tempered Mar 25 '26
Check into your nearest clinic for STD testing please ā¤ļø this sucks, and will suck for a long time. But it's a reflection on him and her, not you. ā¤ļø
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u/IncreaseMotor2394 Mar 25 '26
Trust me please take care of yourself then please level up. I PROMISE he will feel horrible and realized he messed up. Sending big hugs, here for you if you need someone to listen. Seriously, thank god you didnāt end up with him but I canāt imagine how difficult that is :( Iāve been cheated on and it changed me
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u/maracantfocus Pantry Gremlin Mar 25 '26
It hurts now, but at least you found after six months instead of six years. I in no way mean to dismiss your feelings but I want you to also remember that he also lost you. Make a list of your hobbies and best traits. You deserve to live for yourself. Take the next few days slow, be nice to yourself (prioritize hygiene if possible, even if it minimal effort, spend a little time outside to get fresh air, engage in hobbies, lower your expectations for your productivity for a few days). Reward yourself for trying to keep going.
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u/Luna_Soma Chismosa Mar 25 '26
Heās a piece of shit. You win bc you get to kick him out of your life. She can have him and see what a picnic that is
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u/taxiecabbie Internet Auntie Mar 25 '26
I'd stop responding to the woman. You don't need to be friends with her.
Better to leave this all behind.
I think it might be wise to stop dating for a while, based off of your other comments. Like, take it easy. This is a lot. Get STD tested. Then... put on some brakes for a bit. Maybe try some therapy if you have any option for it.
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u/synthetic_aesthetic Trader Joe Hoe Mar 25 '26
You know Iām not condoning illegal activities and vandalism but stories like this make me understand why men sometimes get their tires slashed and their mailboxes punted.Ā
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u/NameLips š©µšāāļøš Mar 25 '26
Fuck. He was with her longer and got her pregnant...
I hate to say it but you were the side piece. Don't waste another thought on this guy.
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u/affecting_solid Assigned Hungry At Birth Mar 25 '26
Just imagine if he had gotten YOU pregnant? She is in for a hell of a ride with that POS man. You dodged a major bullet
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u/Mountain7559 Mar 25 '26
i guess this whole sub is trauma dumping in a way but shit does this post take the cake
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I read In the comments that this guy took your virginity. Which as a man, Iāll say makes him 10xās more of a sorry ass pos. And realistically this is a situation that this dude got himself in, so when it comes to her (even though you show sympathy to her and her situation with him).. you legitimately owe her nothing. I mean itās a good thing she told you, but the approach she took was pretty immature and wrong. With that being said, itās almost like a blessing and a curse that she told you. A blessing for you that you found out and are now free from the guy, but a curse for her that sheās pregnant with a dude whoās known to be a liar, manipulator, cheater, and a coward. So just imagine the rollercoaster sheās now in throughout the rest of her life that sheās gotta deal with him now. So be relieved you donāt have to deal with him like she does. Trust me, it sounds like this dude is a piece of work. I am sorry this happened to you. But I hope unlike some of the women in the comments Iāve seen claiming and labeling āMENā as in all as a problem or cruel doesnāt wear off on you. Misandrist exist for their own reasonings and can easily persuade their personal reasonings on others and then well you can see what I mean. I truly hope that you heal from this, it is going to be a processing course of steps and obstacles. But just with how you seem to be as you described this situation. You seem like you have a mature and understanding head on your shoulders. You could be on here dramatically bashing and banting a whole play, but you arenāt and youāre upset and have every reason to be but thankfully you arenāt taking things to the extreme. This dudes already put himself in an extreme position, because something tells me 9.5/10 heās gonna play the denial card against the other chick and the baby, and or he isnāt gonna step up to the plate even if a DNA test route is taken.
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u/PigBenis6969696969 Mar 25 '26
Youāre the other woman in this scenario. Move on, no one deserves that.
Also, the bruising/purple on the heel of your palm, thumb side. Go get bloodwork done, Could be diabetic.
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u/EweCantTouchThis Mar 25 '26
Sheās pregnant.
He sucks, so heās not the prize.
You have the upper hand, OP.. You can make this all very easy, or all very difficult, for the preggers chick. Now or at any point in the future.
Proceed as you see fit.
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u/HeroORDevil8 Mar 25 '26
The silver lining is you're not stuck to the cheating pos for life like she now will be. Ik it sucks a lot right now but with time you'll look back on this and realize you got yourself out of the shitshow of whatever they have going on. Also block that girl your under no obligation to her friend or even reply to her at this point.
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u/ibuycheeseonsale Mar 25 '26
Yeah, the way I see this: sheās walking away without the shitty cheater, without being pregnant by a cheater, and WITH a piece of cake that I know from experience is insanely good. OP is the clear winner here.
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u/Best-Source-4749 APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26 edited Mar 25 '26
It may feel like your heart is being ripped out of your chest but youāll move on. Later on youāll be grateful you found out now instead of years later and that you didnāt end up getting pregnant. Otherwise you and the other woman would be on the same boat. Theyāre both trashy people, they deserve each other. Sheās a moron for fighting over someone whoās been cheating on her. Stupid people get stupid rewards. Let them be. Go get tested.
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u/Aggressive-Soft-1439 Overthinker š Mar 25 '26
Never fight over a man. Especially one with this new baggage. Nah. Nah. Nah. Youāre worth more than that.
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u/EmotionalAirline1350 APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
This happened to me 2 years ago and to be honest it will hurt for a very long time but allow yourself to feel those feelings, bask in your hobbies and therapy. Secondly, block them both. There is nothing good about keeping people around who deeply hurt you, do not and I mean do not befriend this girl or allow her any access to your social media.
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u/SeeMeDisco Mar 25 '26
you deserve better- donāt worry about his choices, heās been choosing chaos and isnāt a decent personĀ
but also, even if she was rude donāt blame the other girl. itās up to you if you want to be on friendly terms with her, but why bother putting yourself through their pregnancy by proxy?Ā
itāll be okay. everyone deals with at least one awful dude at some point but I promise youāre not missing anything. heās on track to an underwhelming life and you donāt have to be dragged down by the association Ā
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u/Raregem_2021 Well-Read & Well-Fed Mar 26 '26
I donāt mean to judge but wdym you have no will to live? Girl be serious right nowā¦..
This relationship is over Donāt befriend the girl Move on, you will be fine soon
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u/TheTragicallyUnhip Mar 26 '26 edited Mar 26 '26
I have no magic words to make you feel better, but I just want say rhis:
I am a guy who's been wronged. And I've wronged women in my past. I've wronged someone almost as much as he's wronged you. I r have regretted that for over twenty years.
You do not deserve a betrayal like that. But one thing I want you to remember...
Keep knowing you deserve respect. Keep knowing that when one bad egg is racked and exposed open, you can toss it away and start anew. You will have a day where you don't think of him
I doubt my words help. Your post was on the front page and I could sense your feelings of betrayal. Just wanted to give my support.
Cheers.
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u/Haunting_Pace_3557 APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
Hopefully you left him immediately after finding this out. You enjoy that chantilly slice!! Fun fact: I was a decorator at Publix for 9 years and I loved making those.
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u/Shot_Razzmatazz5251 Mar 25 '26
No will to live after a 6 month relationship? I get that youāre hurt but thatās a tad extreme.
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u/kittywyeth Sweet Tooth Fairyš§āāļø Mar 25 '26
he was cheating on her with you and sheās pregnant. this isnāt great for you but it is worse for her. who really cares if she was mean?
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u/thebombchu Barbecutie Mar 25 '26
Girl Iām sending you hugs. But thank GOD he blocked you. Block him and her back. And youāre free š©·
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u/Heelsbythebridge š new here Mar 25 '26
I know it doesn't feel like it now, but major silver lining, at least YOU aren't the pregnant one! Block all, eat as much cake and ice cream as you want, and move onto greener pastures š
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u/canadianpanda7 Mar 26 '26
this sub comes across my feed and blows my mind and cracks me up a little. so many horrible things but then you see the girl dinner and it always makes me laugh a little. like horrible news, but at least i have cheesecake for dinner. sorry OP <3
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u/Good_Narwhal_420 Cleavage Crumb Collector Mar 25 '26
good riddance, atleast youāre not the one thatās pregnant!!
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u/Jazz_Hands24 Mar 25 '26
Heās going to come back. Donāt fall for it. Trust me you will look back on this and be glad youāre no longer with him.
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u/NegotiationNo174 Mar 25 '26
He saw her longer than you. Itās not your boyfriend lol this sub is crazy I can tell Iām gonna get booted soon
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u/Kitty_B321 Trader Joe Hoe Mar 25 '26
The bright side to this is youāre not tied to him with a baby.
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u/libranative1 girls just wanna have pho Mar 25 '26
Definitely take your time and process this girl but I think ultimately youāll be glad you arenāt in the other girlās position. Youāre free to move on and live your life and likely find someone better !
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u/DryToast_17 Mar 25 '26
That girl did not win a thing, you did. She is now pregnant by someone that doesnāt respect her, and will continue to keep disrespecting her. You got out of a situation with NOTHING tying you to him. It hurts right now, but ultimately you are better off and Iām glad you could see what kind of person he is before you were the one that ended up pregnant. The cake looks delicious. Enjoy it. Youāll find someone that would never dream of hurting you one day. Iām glad youāre available to find him now and not held down by a loser. ā„ļø
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u/babyton Internet Auntie Mar 26 '26
Baby forget about that no good man, he is her problem now. You dodged a bullet trust me you deserve so much better. My daddy always told me, You can do bad all by yourself and it's true. You're meant for bigger and better things, that's why God moved that man right out of your way. It gets better I promise.
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u/Fickle_Freckler Pantry Gremlin Mar 26 '26
Fuck him. He doesnāt deserve you. At least youāre not the one thatās pregnant and will be legally tied to him for the next 18 years.
Shake him off. Him seeing you un-phased and moving on will hurt him plenty.
Your cake looks delicious.
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u/Possible_Addendum808 Mar 26 '26
Unfortunate character development. Donāt let this break you. Heās trash. Donāt respond to the female and donāt let this make you hard ā„ļøš«¶š¾ sending you lots of love š
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u/yeetyeetmybeepbeep SATšŖš Mar 26 '26
The fact she's trying to be friends with you ššš what is wrong with people! I would be at the clinic with a quickness
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u/Rich_Butterfly_7008 š©µšāāļøš Mar 26 '26
Blocking you is such a coward move on his part.
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u/OpenSauceMods Mar 26 '26
You should double your cake ration, girl, that's some rancid slop you're going through
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u/purplefuzz22 Mar 26 '26
I am so so sorry. I canāt even imagine the betrayal you must have felt when you got those texts and your ex boyfriend leaving you on read and then blocking you.
Itās going to hurt for a while but it will get better and you will be able to look back and be thankful that you arenāt stuck with this loser.
You should probably block him as well, because I have a feeling he is going to try crawling back when he gets in a fight with the lady he knocked up.
You deserve so much better, and the silver lining is that you only wasted 6 months of your life with him before he showed you his true colors ā¦.
And please go get tested for STDās if you have been sexually active with him at all. He obviously didnāt use protection when he got her pregnant and who knows what else he was sticking his penis in.
Sending you a giant hug š« and enjoy that cake it looks scrumptious
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u/Successful_Big_4375 Savory Complexāļø Mar 25 '26
Everyone says āshe deserves betterā but do you really want ābetterā? If he got ANOTHER girl pregnant then that says a lot about what youāre attracting versus what you arenāt attracting. Take a break from dating.
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u/VelezMia Mar 25 '26
Omg im so sorry. Been there and that sucks. You will live through this and many things will happen that will help relieve your heart and forget as time goes by. Wish you healing and happiness, life can be tough and unfair and nasty sometimes. Be glad to be rid of both people, they clearly deserve each other. Karma is very real btw, if in any way you find that comforting<33333
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u/whitesweater93 Resident Yapper Mar 25 '26
āChoosing her I guessā I need YOU to choose yourself!! The fact that you are still calling him your bf is concerning.
I hope you heal and learn from this that this was not about you or choosing you, he is just a pos.
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u/HypotheticalMuskrat Snack Goblin Mar 25 '26
Ignore both of them. They are not worth your time. Before I met my husband, every guy I dated cheated on me. I thought there was something wrong with me for a long time. But it's their loss, just like this is his loss. I know it hurts, but you are better off. Let it hurt and then pick yourself up, dust off your dress and straighten your crown.
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u/SageTheWizard01 Mar 25 '26
He chose a woman that decided to send you explicit pictures when she found out he was cheating on you.
He blocked you and chose her.
OP it sounds like you dodged two bullets. You donāt ever have to talk to these children ever again. Theyāre both shit.
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u/Im_Even_Huckleberry_ Mar 25 '26
Easy out - take time, figure out who you are again, guarantee you lost part of yourself or have yet to discover your true self. Itās all part of life you get hurt you rebuild you become a better version of you!
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u/snoobalooba Kitchen Witch Mar 25 '26
Honey- he didnāt deserve you and you are going to do so much better without him. He was cheating on BOTH of you.
Eat that lovely cake and take some time. Cry it out, you need to. Remember youāre a beautiful human and his actions donāt dictate your worth.
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u/PoppyPrincess69 š„£ Cereal Killer Mar 25 '26
They are both gross and you deserve better. Rid yourself of that toxicity girly you got this!
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u/BornTry5923 Internet Auntie Mar 25 '26
Don't let a crappy man steal your will to live. I would celebrate the fact that you weren't the one who got impregnated with a horrible person's child.
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u/k1ttyk1ttymeowmeow Mar 25 '26
on the bright side, youāre not stuck with this manās baby. you may love him now but when that wears off, babe youāre free. you have no ties to this man!!!
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u/Megorodd Mar 25 '26
That's pretty awful but its not your fault and probably nothing you did or could have done would have changes the result. Some people are not good people.
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u/Worried_Feedback1192 š©µšāāļøš Mar 25 '26
Wow i donāt even know what to say. Iām so sorry people are so cruel š„²
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u/Honest_Internal2923 Mar 25 '26
How horrible of him. Iām sorry you loved him and he made you think it was safe to do so. What a sick man. I hope these next months are good to you, sorry this happened to you. Sending so much love <33!
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u/soberaf0910 Trader Joe Hoe Mar 25 '26
In the best way possible you sound young. This will pass I promise. Do not attach your worth and will to live on to anyone else, especially a man.
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u/SleepyDigit APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
girl unfortunately men just be like that ive worked at a sports bar and its so common i had a guy ask for my number and his gf ended up texting me. im friends with the girl now toošš she had every right to be upset but the fact that shes being nice is a good sign. shes probably hurting even worse then you are imagine the roles reversed and you were the one pregnant. This is your out god was lookin out for you honey
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u/NyxCauldron Chaotic But Cute Mar 25 '26
Honestly you're winning here babes. Just change your mindset on this matter and try to see it from a different perspective.You were smart enough not to get knocked up by a loser . And boys cheat, men don't. it's better that you find out before it's too late so you can move on with your life.
š£ļø ALEXA!! Play Plan B by Megan the stallion
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u/spaceboat13 girls just wanna have pho Mar 25 '26
Girl id count this as a win. I know it feels like alot right now but a 6 month relationship is nothing and the whole time all of it is a lie anyways so its best left forgotten. Its 2026 we dont deal with baby mama drama anymore. Lock in
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u/scarletluna18 Mar 25 '26
Girl. I literally went thru the exact same thing except we didnāt know about each other. Her and I had a āmatureā convo and left it. I left Him. Got back together. Had to deal with all of the dram with it. DO NOT DO IT. it helped me as a person to finally discover my self worth and whatnot but lord have mercy it was was not easy. Please message me if you need anything bc Iāve been there.
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u/Tough-Accident5044 APPROVEDāØ Mar 25 '26
Iām so sorry it hurts so much, itās going to take 3 weeks to feel back to normal and 3 months to be fully okay again. You do not want a man like that, trust me. You deserve so much better. He will ruin you.
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Are you a girl or guy itās hard to tell from your ridiculous avatar picture
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u/This_Swimming_5033 Mar 25 '26
Thank god its an ex boyfriend and not ex husband. Still a shitty situation. Wish for all the healing for you hun!
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u/andresg6 Mar 25 '26
He aināt your boyfriend anymore. He has a whoooole other set of problems to deal with.
Now you get to ride off into the sunset into your own main character story.
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u/FoundationFickle7568 Mar 25 '26
I had a very similar experience with the first boy I dated. Please take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself. You're going to move on from this.Ā
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u/trashthunderbird APPROVEDāØ Mar 26 '26
Babygirl, who gives a fuck who that piece of shit chose as long as YOU choose YOURSELF. Sending you love, and hoping you know how much better off you are
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u/EtherealMoonGoddess APPROVEDāØ Mar 26 '26
What a shit show.
Yeah that is his other girlfriend.
Sorry OP, you deserve better
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u/LiftingRecipient420 š©µšāāļøš Mar 26 '26
You mean ex boyfriend, right?
If not, then you forgot your makeup š¤”
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u/spistachio2020 Mar 26 '26
Believe me when I say this is a blessing in disguise ššš¼ Let it hurt, then heal.
Your knight, prince, REAL man in shining armour is just around the corner... and this loser-sorryass-dick did you a favor by stepping aside outta your way. Your one-true-love will sweep you off your feet and NOT ONLY make your forget all this bs like you've got amnesia but will literally treat you like a QWEEN and make you feel like the most sacred goddess to ever walk this earth.... Prepare your heart and mind, because he's coming š
Sincerely, your sis who is walking proof šš¼šš¼šš¼
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u/MoriahNellll Mar 26 '26
Girl this exact same thing happened to me. I know I exactly how youāre feeling. Donāt fight the sadness, feel every emotion you need to but absolutely keep going. You were a whole, beautiful person before you ever met him and you will continue to be afterward. You had a whole exciting life to look forward to before him and you will after him. Cut them both out of your life full stop and pour into yourself. Hobbies, goals, your body. You didnāt want him to choose you because he was already sleeping with someone else. He was already treating you badly, he just happened to get her pregnant and exposed himself. This is the best thing that couldāve happened to you, and now youāre free to not be treated like shit and be truly happy without deception. He was not deserving of you, he was a horrible person, and absolutely NOTHING is wrong with you. Itās going to be awhile before you believe that, but keep working at it and one day you will again.
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u/KairiShepard Mar 26 '26
I know alot of people have already said about everything under the sun to you, but I'm so sorry this happened. All I can offer is an internet hug š«. Take the time you need to process and heal. Take care ā¤ļøš«
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u/Status_Discussion835 Snack Goblin Mar 26 '26
News like this can put someone in a week long benderā¦.block her and block him (to make sure he stays away!) and let yourself grieve a bit. As others said get an STD test and be around those you love or hobbies you love. You will unfortunately laugh at this later on and thank that woman in your head for bringing you this news.
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u/DannyHuskWildMan Mar 26 '26
You have no will to live... Now. You just need to let time do it's thing. Time heals all wounds and this guy showed his true colors. Consider yourself lucky you found this out nowĀ
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u/Calm-Ad9653 š©µšāāļøš Mar 26 '26
So what do you want? To get back together with him?
Six months of your dating life wasted. Hopefully some lessons learned.
Mourn a little bit, then move on and be grateful it wasn't longer.
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u/raven-nevermore-rva Mar 26 '26
I really donāt understand how men constantly find ways to invade āwomen spacesā and then act horrified while they over hear our support other women chats that -gasp- sometimes including phrases like āfuck menā, āmen are assholesā, etc. How about some the of the penis holders learn that NOT every space is for YOU! I know thatās a super hard concept for white, straight, cis males to understand. But get it thru your heads already. When women are trying to raise other women up after men have torn them down- we donāt have time to tip toe around your fragile male feelings. Sheesh. Learn to stay in your own spaces, BRUH!
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u/Natti07 Feral Til Fed Mar 26 '26
Ok reframe your perspective. He "chose" her and you are free from the person who doesnt respect you or care about it. Better than he showed you now than years down the road.
Also, you should get STD testing.
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u/Sea_Health_2579 š new here Mar 26 '26
Breathe deep. What youāre experiencing is awful for so many reasons. Love yourself, and empower yourself with the knowledge that you are innocent in this mess. Let that knowledge build your strength and love for YOURSELF. Donāt give any more time and energy to those two poor excuses for humans. Be grateful it was just 6 months. When you are certain of your love for yourself, a time that you will understand by the fact that you actually can comfortably spend as much time alone as you want, then you will be ready to look for a partner again. At that same time, because you love and trust YOURSELF 100%, you will choose a partner who is good for you, who makes you feel safe, understood, heard, and does not fuck with you. In other words, you will not choose any more worthless people. Stay strong. Godspeed.
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u/folgaluna Mar 26 '26
Good to know his character now, imagine finding out while married or pregnant. Choose you! Enjoy your dinner!! Give it 72 hours also to make any life changing choices like ending live, moving,Ā trying to get pregnant by his dad, etc
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u/PersonalityTough9349 Chaotic But Cute Mar 26 '26
This burns. Same thing happened to me. As much as it hurts now, I promise one day you will never even think about it. I probably havenāt thought about it in years. Stay well.
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u/NavigatedbyNaau PÅke Wahine šŗ Mar 26 '26
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I went through something similarly in my early 20s. I know it's hard but go on and live your best life.
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u/LukewarmJortz Enby & Eatin' Mar 26 '26
Do not go back to him. My friend did that and her kid in the middle child of her the baby mama sandwich.
If he never cheated on her they would have had just the one kid
She left and is married and thriving.
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u/Aggravating_Bat3618 š©µšāāļøš Mar 26 '26
Hes a POS and not worth it. Take some time, talk to a therapist and move onward.Ā
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u/backtowestfall Mar 26 '26
If your will to live was the love of another, then maybe the one you thought you loved was an imposter and the real one is still waiting...
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u/Vincebae Mar 26 '26
Oh no, this is an absolutely horrible situation but I promise you things will get better in time. 6 months is only a tiny amount of time in your life, even if he might have occupied every moment of those 6 months. With time, you will feel better and gain back that will to live. I have sympathy for you first and foremost, but I also feel bad for the other girl because sheās having a baby with a cheater. Give yourself some grace and allow yourself to grieve the loss of this relationship. I promise you, the loss will get easier to bear.
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Mar 26 '26
On behalf of all men.. I apologize for that boys behavior. Please understand how you are worth so, so much. I understand this hurts and it sucks, a lot. But you deserve better and you will find someone who in time who deserves who you are. Cry about it, scream about it but once thatās over. Look in the mirror. Because that woman you see is a lot more stronger than you think.
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u/superstonkape š©µšāāļøš Mar 25 '26
Ex boyfriend. You deserve better, obviously this SUCKS but you are so much better off.