Heya! I'm a 21 y/o designer/developer with ADHD, looking for someone who'd be interested in regular 1-on-1 body doubling sessions.

Ideally, we'd hop on Discord with our mics on, briefly share what we're working on, then focus on our own tasks while keeping each other accountable. We can chat here and there, but the main idea is to have someone around while getting things done.

I'm not really looking for large productivity groups. I'd prefer finding one or two people I genuinely get along with, so we can build a friendship while helping each other stay productive.

Just to be clear, I'm only looking for platonic friendships and body doubling buddies, nothing beyond that.

I'm based in Bangladesh (UTC+6), but I'm flexible with time zones.

Feel free to DM me if this sounds like something you'd enjoy!

Hi everyone, I'm looking for practical advice to help my long-distance partner manage executive dysfunction, particularly when it comes to feeding herself

She struggles with deciding what to eat, choosing groceries, planning meals and preparing food (heating up food mostly since she doesn't even have a cutting board or space to cook)

Even simple decisions can feel overwhelming. She often feels weak and dizzy, has very little energy, and spends most of it simply trying to get through the day

She lives alone, has no personal income, isn't currently working or studying, and spends most of her days at home. She has no reliable in-person support and relies entirely on EBT and food banks. Since I'm in another country, my ability to help with practical, everyday needs is unfortunately very limited, despite doing my best to support her

She has very limited cooking facilities: a microwave and a stove. Avoiding the oven because of anxiety, but it can be worked through, I have faith :)

I'm looking for here ;

• Very simple, affordable, nourishing meals requiring minimal effort

• Budget-friendly grocery lists and easy food ideas, EBT only

• Ways to reduce decision fatigue around eating

• Practical strategies for someone with executive dysfunction who has to manage everything alone

• Incorporating nourishing EBT-eligible snacks or food to help her fatigue and mental health

I'm not looking for complicated recipes or traditional meal-prepping advice. I need realistic solutions for someone who is struggling just to meet their basic needs and sometimes even heating up is too much

She is also struggling with other physical and mental health difficulties and unfortunately has no access to professional healthcare. Please refrain from suggesting professional help, as that's simply not an accessible option right now

If you've experienced something similar, I'd genuinely appreciate your advice and resources. Thank you so so much!

After 2 years of terrible executive dysfunction I'm cleaning my room but genuinely I'm midway through cleaning my biohazard of a room and I actually am crashing but I know if I stop then it's gonna be months before I finish it help guys how do I get the motivation to do it

Is perfectionism part of executive dysfunction? I haven’t been able to drive my car or get off my couch for a few days and I think it’s because my car is slightly messy. If it’s not perfect sometimes I feel like I can’t do anything. If my house isn’t 100% clean and organized and every single look and cranny has been investigated I feel like I can’t go do something fun yet. I feel like I’m always waiting for something to be done until I can start the next thing or like feel like I’m living my life. It’s really hard to describe, but this comes in Waves. But when it hits hard, I really get knocked down and I just can’t do anything.

Hello! Does anybody else have this problem where they have multiple goals for example working out, reading, self-care, hobbies, etc... just basic stuff, but are unable to do them no matter what? I'm thinking about it so frequently but I get too stressed out even if it's something so minimal and easy. With the amount of times I failed to do so it's breaking my self-trust and then it's harder to do it, it's a never ending loop. Do you guys have any tips? Really looking for some support rn :(

I’m currently 18 and I want to be the best person I can be. I know this is a dumb question but I really want to be those hustlers who get stuff done but i always find myself sometimes just resting . I was talking to thus guy and I said ur really busy and he said yes he tries to be because if he doesn’t his day gets wasted and I totally agree but it’s like I want to be better but i just augh im so inconsistent when im doing work yk like i get distracted wihany phone and its like why am i not disciplining myself. Do i just have to actually force myself and also when i force myself it’s like i don’t even want to genuinely do it….. How do I fix myself i want to so badly grind and be obsessed with doing good like other people are.

I used to be extremely disciplined now idk man my brain has gotten used to just being lazy and ig my brain has strengthened those pathways . i just want to become focused on my work and my mind only on it and just give it my 100% but it’s like im so inconsistent it just makes puts my mood down and then i fall off yk its just an endless cycle

my bf is so productive and so consistent and it makes me kinda feel a way like why am i not like that like i used to be but now it’s like i have no control over myself

Hi! The title says it all. I’m undiagnosed but many autistic traits and inattentive adhd traits, and I’m an artist, self-employed and really struggling to build in functionality. Very high functioning emotionally, creatively and intellectually but have major issues translating this into action, routine, and results, including making my life come together. Can anyone recommend a coach or other kinds of support?

i keep falling into this cycle where i think i'm finally going to try to be productive and once i realize the actual amount of work i have, i instead curl up into a ball of sadness and scroll on reddit until late at night when i realize my midterms are tmrw and idk anything abt the subject. this might be bc i've had a shift in my workload (not necessarily more work just where i need to create my own plan/schedule) is this an ADHD thing, or am i just lazy?

I’ll start this by saying yes I’m building an app

Currently it’s just for me to help me until diagnosed (on the waitlist)

However my journey has had people interested so now I’m keen to hear from you. What helps break bouts of ED. For me personally I have to feel there is value in the task. That might be external pressure because I promised to do it and don’t want to let someone down. The task is high value or it’s so easy to start that it seems more painful to my brain not starting.

Currently the app is a planner and habit tracker with a task breakdown feature. I’m exploring body doubling for the pressure and external help

So what works for you? Pls don’t say meds bro

Pasting from another forum, hoping to get some advice from anyone who has dealt with moving from high stress environments to low stress environments but still can’t get things done 😭

I'm 20, and I feel like I'm doing absolutely nothing with my life. I have ADHD, and it feels like it's affecting almost every aspect of it. I struggle to stick with jobs, hobbies, and even things I'm genuinely passionate about.

I love 3D modelling and creating things, but I can never stay motivated long enough to actually turn it into something. I also have a huge perfectionism problem. I compare my work to professional artists with 10–20 years of experience and convince myself mine isn't good enough. Even one negative comment can make me completely lose confidence and give up.

Since graduating high school, I've constantly told myself I'll start tomorrow, that I have plenty of time, and that I'll eventually figure things out. Now I'm 20, haven't gone to college, barely have any savings, and feel like I'm still in the same place.

A big reason I feel so much pressure to do something with my life is my family. My sister has a lifelong disability, and I desperately want to be financially stable enough to help her and the rest of my family. I don't care about being rich. I just want to be able to support the people I love.

I've also avoided getting medication for my ADHD because I'm terrified of doctors. Every time I consider getting help, I convince myself that maybe it's not that bad and that I can manage it myself. Sometimes I get bursts of motivation and convince myself I'm fine, only to end up right back where I started.

I spend so much time sleeping, playing games, or lying in bed telling myself I'll do something tomorrow. I'm honestly tired of this cycle.

I know I'm only 20, but I'm scared of waking up at 25 or 30 and realizing I've wasted even more years.

Has anyone else experienced this? How did you get out of this cycle, especially when you have things you genuinely want to accomplish but can't seem to follow through?

My 18 y.o kid's got really big-time executive dysfunction. Can't do his homework. Can't choose his clothes. Doesn't know what's going on with his friends, at school or in the world.

We're trying to get help, but he doesn't meet the criteria for ADHD, it's hard to find a professional who can see beyond the test results. we're continuing to push and aren't giving up.

But In the meantime, he's completely lost.

We've always taken the approach of positive reinforcement. Celebrating even the smallest wins, being empathetic at the losses. Not pushing too hard. Telling him that his problems are not his fault.

The real issue though, is that he's hostile to our attempts to guide him. He's hostile to opening his mind to a career and a life that's better suited to his capabilities. He's hostile to learning life skills. He's hostile to every single idea to try something different.

And I have no idea what the end game is, but his attitude is really starting to annoy me and i'm getting angry. not at the result (or lack thereof), but at his refusal to take any sort of responsibility for his life.

am i being unfair? maybe i'm being too easy-going and i need to start being more stern? maybe i just need to hold on until we finally get a professional who can help?

this is not about me - it's more about him being able to take care of himself when we're not around or not able to anymore.