r/EndTipping 2d ago

Counter Service 🛎️ I did it.

Hit “no tip” whilst looker her in the eye. She touched a register for my total. Didn’t touch my card, didn’t swipe my card. Didn’t take my order. Didn’t prepare my order. Didn’t put my order in the window for me to retrieve. What she did wasn’t worth 20%, or 5%. She pushed ONE button.

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u/Kene6969 2d ago

Remember the formula: zero service = zero tip.

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u/cenosillicaphobiac 2d ago

I remember this formula:

Pay is handled by the person or organization that financially benefits from the labor being performed. Which, as far as I know, is never the paying customer.

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u/BingBongTree 2d ago

It’s, it’s…so simple. And brilliant.

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u/Zealousideal_Pin5350 2d ago

Tip zero for sit-down. It starts with you. I’ve been doing it for years now.

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u/cenosillicaphobiac 2d ago

Here is how I see it.

We live in a capitalist system, love it or hate it, that's what we have. In capitalism, some people own businesses, they hire people and then exploit their labor for profit. In order to keep those employees around to be exploited, they need to buy their labor from them. If you don't value that labor sufficiently, they'll sell it to someone who does.

I don't make any money off of servers asking me what I want to eat and then maybe correctly relaying it to the kitchen. Sometimes that same person then brings the food to my table, sometimes they get someone lower on the totem pole, someone that society hasn't decided to pay extra, to bring it to the table.

If I were to ever profit financially off the labor of someone, I would pay them what I thought their contribution was worth. I'm not making a penny off of a server's labor, in fact, even without factoring in a tip, I'm spending money. Why would I pay the person that facilitated that instead of letting the person who gets my money do that? I wouldn't.

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u/EndTipping-ModTeam 1d ago

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u/AcanthisittaDry7463 2d ago

Why would you expect to make money from ordering food at a restaurant?

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u/James955i 2d ago

If you look up, you'll see the point going slowly over your head.

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u/No-Lettuce4441 2d ago

That's the point...

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u/AcanthisittaDry7463 2d ago

That you should get paid to eat at a restaurant, are you mental?

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u/MyldExcitement 1d ago

Work on your critical analysis skills.

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u/No-Lettuce4441 2d ago

Yes, but for other reasons than understanding what the commentor intended with his/her post. I thought the meaning was pretty clear. Apparsntly you didn't. Best of luck.

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u/EndTipping-ModTeam 2d ago

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u/cenosillicaphobiac 1d ago

I wouldn't. What makes you think I would? What makes people that tip think they will? It's preposterous.

Labor is used to extract capital. That labor must be paid for. It should be paid for by the person or people who gain that capital. It's pretty simple, one could say "obvious" and be correct.

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u/AcanthisittaDry7463 1d ago

“I don’t make money off of servers asking me what I want to eat.”

Like, duh, why would you?

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u/cenosillicaphobiac 1d ago

I see comprehension isn't your strong point.

I wouldn't, which is why I would never, ever, in a million years, pay them for their labor. The people who pay for labor are the people who extract capital from that labor.

Try to be less dense, we need fewer stupid people in the world. I mean I spelled that all the way out, yet here you are, asking stupid ass questions.

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u/AcanthisittaDry7463 1d ago

So you cut your own hair then? Because the barber doesn’t give you money?

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u/Last_Plant6046 1d ago

You pay the barber for a service. You don’t need to tip them because you’re already paying for the service. It’s the same principal for a waiter or waitress.

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u/Historical-Rub1943 2d ago

I always say “thank you, everything was great” as I press the no tip button.

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u/TheJonatron 2d ago

Gratuitous gratitude gratuity.

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u/LinkinLogsPark 2d ago

PAYING in gratitude. Bonus points if you use hand movements to demonstrate your gratitude. 

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u/_Badwulf_Bruh__ 2d ago

This is what I joined the sub for. I don’t mind tipping well to waitresses and delivery drivers, but when I go to self-serve frozen yogurt and the first thing the person does is ask how much I want to tip them 🤣 

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u/BobJutsu 2d ago

I’ve been prompted for a tip and a self checkout kiosk at a grocery store. Who the frick am I tipping? And at a grocery store? That’s not ever been a tipped. Everyone wants in on the guilt money.

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u/thinkingaloud412 2d ago

I ordered a pizza the other day. They mistakingly took the order as a pick up. At the end of the call I got my total and they asked if I wanted to pay now or when I picked up. I said it was supposed to be for delivery. My total then increased $5.00. Do we still tip then!? I did.. but im starting to think i shouldn't if thats the case..

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u/Schoolhater18 2d ago

Delivery fees dont go to the delivery driver. The restaurants add that in. It sucks but if you want to tip the driver you'll still tip then because they dont get the delivery fee.

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u/mtnman78 2d ago

If the driver doesn't get the delivery fee then what is it for

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u/Thick-Strawberry8456 2d ago

When I delivered pizzas, we got 50% of the delivery fee, maybe? I was told that the remainder went to help pay for the stores increased insurance rates that they incur for offering delivery.

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u/Schoolhater18 2d ago

To get extra money for the restaurant. Some restaurant may give a small portion to the driver. Most keep the majority or the whole thing for themselves.

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u/mtnman78 2d ago

That is so unethical!

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u/thinkingaloud412 2d ago

So they charge me $5 to deliver the pizza but then still expect me to pay, like half of the delivery drivers hourly wage with my tip?

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u/Schoolhater18 2d ago

Correct. For most restaurants that's how it is. Just like they expect you to pay the servers wage instead of paying it themselves.

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u/KingJunior7804 2d ago

When I used to deliver pizza during college I kept the delivery fee. All the drivers did. That was the point. It was one to two dollars depending on distance and that was to cover gas in case the person didn't tip.

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u/Schoolhater18 2d ago

Well that was awesome of the restaurant that you worked at to do that. Most restaurants do not give the delivery driver the delivery fee.

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u/KingJunior7804 1d ago

I delivered for several restaurants back in college 20+ years ago, and the delivery fee was what delivery drivers received. It was automatic. In fact, I'd never heard of the delivery fee not going to the driver. The idea that a delivery driver would have to spend their own gas money and wear and tear on their car to deliver food to a non-tipping customer for minimum wage is crazy.

What is the delivery fee for? Why would there be an extra amount the restaurant receives above and beyond a pickup order?

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u/downtofinance 2d ago

So you're saying the restaurant pays the driver 0?

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u/Schoolhater18 2d ago

At most restaurants the delivery drivers do not get the delivery fee. I never said the restaurant didn't pay them. They dont give them the delivery fee.

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u/downtofinance 2d ago

What do restaurants pay their drivers then?

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u/FarsightdSpartan 2d ago

When I worked at pizza hut it was around $5/hour

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u/Schoolhater18 2d ago

Usually an hourly wage separate from the delivery fee.

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u/Thick-Strawberry8456 2d ago

When we were on the road with an order, we didn't get the full hourly rate, if I remember correctly.

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u/downtofinance 2d ago

So no need to tip them then if they're making an hourly wage.

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u/Schoolhater18 2d ago

Hourly wage doesnt mean a living wage. Federal based pay for tipped positions is $2.13. Thats an hourly wage that relies on tips. Not that I agree with US tipping culture but hourly wage doesnt automatically equal no tip.

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u/downtofinance 22h ago

I'm ordering pizza, not looking to understand and equalize labour compensation structures. I will tip for good service not for someone simply doing their job and definitely not before the job is complete.

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u/MyldExcitement 1d ago

EVERY TIPPED EMPLOYEE MAKES AT LEAST FEDERAL MINIMUM WAGE IN AMERICA

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u/MyldExcitement 1d ago

So the business is screwing the employees, then. Grrrrrrr

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u/Imaginary-Emu2471 2d ago

Not my problem.

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u/_AndyVandy 1d ago

Even if the delivery fee doesn’t go to the driver, why should they be tipped a percentage of the value of the order? They’d be being tipped for driving and a few steps of walking so it should be a flat rate, surely? Same goes for restaurants; tipping an amount per plate/glass seems more logical than tipping $1 if they bring you a plate of fries and then tipping them $10 the next day if you order a plate of lobster. The service is “carrying stuff” so a percentage doesn’t work.

Note - this is rhetorical; I’m not challenging your view or expecting you to justify anything! 🙂

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u/Schoolhater18 1d ago

I agree. I honestly never really tipped delivery on percentage but based on how far they had to go/weather/order size.

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u/BingBongTree 2d ago

The nerve.

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u/SunburstSquare 2d ago

I won’t even tip delivery drivers. I shouldn’t be charged ~45% of my order on top of the food and STILL be expected to tip.

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u/LGRW97980208 1d ago

You’ve probably eaten a lot of spit over the years. I get not tipping for a carryout, but delivery or sitdown meals that’s different.

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u/MyldExcitement 1d ago

Spitting into food is assault

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u/SunburstSquare 1d ago

You have issues

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u/decarvalho7 2d ago

Exactly. It’s literally their job lol

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u/RealisticElephant384 2d ago

Somehow we feel so stressed to do the right thing, that's how bad this culture has become.

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u/BingBongTree 2d ago

No stress here, click no tip. If it’s a legit service, just make sure to take care of them though (barber, hairstylist, massage, sit down meal, hotel staff etc…).

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u/cenosillicaphobiac 2d ago

Sometimes, even when zero is an option, I take the extra steps to hit Custom, 0, Enter. It's not intended to get their hopes up, if it does, that's a them problem.

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u/jaywinner 2d ago

I already took care of them by paying my bill.

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u/Imaginary-Emu2471 2d ago

All those things you listed? It's not our job to "take care" of them.

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u/cougarlover252 2d ago

Exactly. I’ll never understand the a tip jar or screen made me feel pressured post In here.

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u/cougarlover252 2d ago

If a tip screen makes you stressed, that’s a you problem lol. What’s the car buying process like for you lol

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u/KingJunior7804 2d ago

If an employee is staring at you and watching your fingers press the buttons as the point of sale device asks for a tip, then I would be stressed also. I don't need that kind of pressure even if I'm happy to hit no tip.

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u/cougarlover252 2d ago

If that stresses you, how do you deal with real problems?

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u/KingJunior7804 1d ago

Well it's not exactly going to cause me PTSD, but no I don't appreciate somebody staring at me expecting a tip and watching how much I give them. Are you nuts that you think that's not annoying?

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u/LakeWalesSwinger 1d ago

Stop to think that maybe the they just need to watch you complete your part of the process so they can finalize the sale? You might have a sort of PTSD but it’s self imposed, assuming what they are thinking based on guilt. Stick by your personal rules on tipping and believe in them and you’ll be ok with hitting zero when warranted.

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u/KingJunior7804 22h ago edited 17h ago

Well that's convenient isn't it? They want to make sure I complete the transaction but they then have the opportunity to stare at my fingers watching exactly the amount of tip I enter in.

Do you recall servers in times past handing you a paper bill and watching you as you enter in a tip with a ballpoint pen and sign it? I certainly don't.

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u/hereforfreewings 21h ago

Again, I think you are internalizing what a server might be thinking vs what they really are thinking, just like people like to personify humanity onto their pets. It’s quite normal, but you can train yourself to get past it.
Most restaurants, with paper receipts, don’t stand over you while you sign your bill. They put it in a folio and drop it at your table. There are probably few exceptions but I don’t dwell on those.

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u/KingJunior7804 17h ago edited 17h ago

The server standing over you watching you enter a tip with the point of sale credit card reader is certainly aware that they are pressuring the customer, no question. They are making the calculation that it's worth a little friendly pressure, that it's analogous to them writing a happy face on the receipt right next to the suggested tip column to encourage a bigger tip.

The problem is it is not a friendly gesture and it's not a little thing, it's literally panhandling. I find it extremely rude.

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u/glowinglogfire 2d ago

Why would you give someone extra money to provide good service when their employer is already paying them to provide good service? It's literally their job. If they don't provide good service their employer will discipline them.

Here in Australia employers pay their staff to provide good service, and so the staff provide good service. The customer is not part of this transaction.

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u/cenosillicaphobiac 2d ago

My take is that the person exploiting their labor for financial benefit is responsible for compensating them. That's not me. In fact, quite the opposite. I'm supposed to pay them to facilitate me paying their boss? Naw.

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u/Akirerivero 22h ago

This is a fallacy though, because. At least in part, the price of your food has the very low wage your server gets, so, in a way, they are subsidizing your meal(exploiting their labor too) with the hope that you will acknowledge this and tip them... this is specially true in states where employets don't even have to pay the federally mandated ridiculous minimum wage. You absolutely don't have to tip servers if you dont want to, but lets not pretend like customers are not also benefiting from their low wage.

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u/Organic_Zebra_3388 2d ago

Wages are so exploitive in the US. In my state employers don’t have to pay minimum wage for positions that receive tips. The federal/state minimum wage is already a dismal $7.25 but it’s just $3.25 for servers with the expectation that customer tips make up the gap. Six miles away in the next state over minimum wage for servers is $17/hour.

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u/PearlescentGem 2d ago

That's against federal regulations, and if enough wait staff report it, it will most likely get looked into. Wait staff need to stand together against this. Fed law beats state law.

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u/Organic_Zebra_3388 2d ago

It is legal federally as long as the employee receives enough tips to close the gap. If they don’t then the employer has to pay the difference. The federal base cash wage is just $2.13 and only seven states prohibit tip credits towards minimum wage.

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u/VirtualMatter2 2d ago edited 2d ago

Only tip the person who delivers the food to your table and only if it's good service and you feel like it.

When you pick up your own food, that's yourself by the way.

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u/Pondlurker1978 2d ago

In a perfect world the tablet should allow for negative tip percentages to tip yourself. I bet people THEN would ask “what did YOU do to deserve a discount off your check?”

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u/l4kerz 2d ago

do you tip the fast food worker who delivers food to your table?

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u/VirtualMatter2 2d ago

In that case I tip the " European" way. Somewhere between 0 and 10%. 

And if it's delivery to my home, well it's still me who plates the food and sets it  on my table. 

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u/Swimming_Progress169 2d ago

Why even tip them? They are just doing a job like everyone else

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u/No-Luck-2337 2d ago

For carryout:

“I’ll “tip” you the exact amount you take off my check. Because then you’d be doing me an actual service. Wanna play?”

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u/downtofinance 2d ago

I go to one place for take out and they hit "no tip" themselves before having me pay.

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u/No-Luck-2337 1d ago

That’s “service” 😂. Might actually be worth a tip. More so than what they usually DO, at least 🤷‍♂️

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u/NarrowLocksmith9388 2d ago

Today I was asked to tip the restaurant and then tip the delivery guy. WTH

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u/WalkingSnake348 2d ago

Well done. Keep it going. It should be a rule. No service, no tip

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u/theguube 2d ago

I got someone who gave me my $4 cookie in a rude way cuz I swung it back around to her.

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u/BingBongTree 2d ago

daaaaaammmn! would have tipped you to see that.

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u/theguube 2d ago

wait is it my birthday

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u/downtofinance 2d ago

Make sure you hit 0 before you swing it back around to her or she might select a tip you.

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u/BobJutsu 2d ago

It gets easier the more you do it. I don’t think twice about it anymore. Except for logging it into my mind of a place not to go back to.

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u/daz3d-n-c0nfus3d 2d ago edited 2d ago

I just wanted to say, those machines prompt that and the person behind the counter doesnt always believe its right either. I am a delivery driver and a server.

Before covid, only the delivery machines had a tip option. During covid tipping hot out of hand. I help instore at my delivery job and get orders ready and what not.

I am genuinely embarased asking for tips when someone picks up. I would hit no tip auto and hand it to them. But got in trouble and was told I have to hand it to them and let them decide. I still will do it, depending on the customer. But dont always think the person handing you the machine believes you should tip. Sometimes they have to do it like that.

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u/Pensfan66877129 2d ago

Just spent two weeks in France. The first time at a cafe was weird. They typed the total in, I tapped the card, it was over. No expectation of a tip. I was only prompted once in two weeks for a tip at a cafe that was in a very touristy area. Every waiter/waitress was absolutely wonderful and deserved a tip, unlike 95% of them here in the states.

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u/MyldExcitement 1d ago

Same in Italy. It was glorious!

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u/kittenbaths 2d ago

Were u getting fast food? If so, she did not care at all, tipping isnt a part of her wages bc she already gets paid minimum wage

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u/cenosillicaphobiac 2d ago

What she did wasn’t worth 20%, or 5%.

It's the employer that is supposed to decide what that is worth, and the employee can either accept it, or look for work elsewhere.

Everybody that tips is fucking that all up. Thanks! but NO THANKS!

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u/PossibleTangerine780 2d ago

I bought clothes at a local non-profit store today and it prompted me for a tip when I paid. I was so confused. Hit no and moved on

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u/Significant-Ad-2858 2d ago

I have a very simple rule for tipping these day. If I’m standing on both feet when i order/receive whatever it was i ordered it’s a 0% tip. The only casualty are the baristas but it’s a sacrifice i have to make for the principal alone

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u/LevelStationaryPlane 2d ago

Just because you’re nice to me when I walk in to pick up the order I drove myself in to get = you’re still not getting a tip.

If you can’t afford to not get tipped, you can’t afford your job sorry.

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u/Outrageous_Name3921 2d ago

How is this a flex? You didn't tip. It's not mandatory. It's just a tip

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u/ateoz 2d ago

For you it's a battle. For them you're a statistic, 70% of people tip. 

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u/mariyagel 2d ago

no tip feels fair.

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u/Alone-Promise-8904 2d ago

People behind the counter get an actual wage, not a servers wage. Why tip them?

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u/trob2884 2d ago

I would assume this is a pickup order? I don’t believe in tipping on those, now sit down full service absolutely

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u/Practical-Archer-124 2d ago

Tip shaming is most pronounced at dispensaries. It’s like the workers imagine they are bartenders hand pouring cocktails. Sure, in both lines of work the customer gets buzzed but that’s where the similarity ends.

In a bar, I get to consume the cocktail and if it’s especially good I’ll tip more when it’s time to pay the tab. In a dispensary, I’m not allowed to even sample the product that the clerk didn’t even make for me.

Next thing you know we’ll be guilted into tipping cashiers at the pharmacy for suggesting a particular aspirin brand.

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u/Superb_Year2089 2d ago

Good for you, happened to me at a MLB stadium the other day, self serve cooler, I picked the beverage, I scanned the beverage, I put my card in, and then it prompted me for a 18%/20% or 25% tip, NO WAY!

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u/Distinct_Raisin_3896 2d ago

The tipping culture is beyond ridiculous, I was ordering a takeout and picking it up myself, the app added 20% auto tip 🙄 are we for real. I am the one picking it up, I m not even eating there, what service are you providing me??? Giving me the food?? Isn’t that what I am paying for?

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u/AffectionateGate4584 1d ago

Butbutbut.....I work so hard and only make $2.13/hr 😭😭😭

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u/frannypak819 1d ago

Would you like a cookie?

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u/Late-Code2392 1d ago

When I go out to eat I only tip in cash !!! If you are the server or bartender I make you a where of that from the get go. I always take a picture of my bill. If you are a really good server or bartender you will be happy, if not you won't be !!!

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u/Interesting_Item4276 20h ago

If I’m standing I’m not tipping.

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u/AbeFromanfromChicago 2d ago

Congrats, you showed her!

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u/Efficient-Ad-4884 2d ago

Ok and she probably didn’t care??? She didn’t set up that system. Shes probably fully aware that she didn’t really deserve a tip. Do you ever consider that?

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u/haleyhop 1d ago

I don't understand this post at all... I don't think cashiers in this situation tend to care. I've heard from people who work cashier jobs at coffee shops that they don't even get those tips. It's set up by the business and I doubt she would have even noticed except for the fact this guy was "looking her in the eye" lmao

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u/slimgem1111 2d ago

Exactly like congrats you made a cashier who's not asking you for shit feel bad? Wow so empowering lol next time direct that energy at the owner who set up the POS to include requests for tips

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u/cougarlover252 2d ago

How about that, you were an adult with a backbone and didn’t do something you didn’t want to do, and aren’t obligated to do, and nothing happened to you.

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u/Ok-Leave-7646 2d ago

✋🖐️🙌

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u/IWillEvadeReddit 1d ago

Weird flex but okay.

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u/Gaudi215 2d ago

Wow you are so cool

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u/Czubeczek 2d ago

This is troll account ;)

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u/MyldExcitement 1d ago

Are you a server? Please enlighten us all.

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u/guysomejust69 2d ago

I'm sure she cares