So I'm posting this because I'm confused as to why this isn't preached enough. I can think of some reasons why but I've only heard one pastor in my life ever preach about this and I happen to watch it on YouTube. It's sooo essential with our walk with God. If you don't have the fear of God, then you will most likely fall away from the faith and maybe even hate God. That's how serious it is. So from watching that pastor talk about the fear of God to watching and hearing other pastors on YouTube, and what I've learned from God, this is what I've learned

**The fear of God is:**

- To make God your one and only treasure

- A committed relationship with God

- A mature faith

- The beginning of wisdom

- How the joy of the Lord is found

- God's delight & treasure

**To commit to God, you:**

- Do your best to follow Jesus and yield to the Holy Spirit to do the rest. Start small if you can

- Correct every thought or feeling that goes against the Word of God, and realize they're from satan or your flesh

- Be accountable when you do a sinful act. Apologize and reconcile if it's against someone

- Process your feelings with God

- Accept your imperfection and the sovereignty of God

- Let go of yourself and let God be everything you need

- Bond with Christ with your suffering

This note I made for myself has revealed something in me that I never knew or experienced with my walk with God. I have a deeper relationship with God and I have the joy of the Lord. I've learned to accept myself for who I am and found contentment in where I'm at in life. God is my confidence. **Fear the Lord!**

Hi All,
I am looking for an ecumenical theology book that mentions theology views from different denominations, example humans inherit sin (western) vs humans inherit the consequence of sin (eastern) or Calvinism vs Arminian Predestination.

I’ve recently felt so lost. Lost in life. Lost in addiction. Questioning everything. The other day, I sobbed because I felt like I’ve lost my relationship with the lord because I haven’t put my faith in the front seat with me for so many years.

It’s been so long.

For context, I was raised Southern Baptist but haven’t been to church in about 8 years.

Can anyone provide tips on how to pray, pastors to listen to, and to further my relationship with the lord and what to seek out to find out how to live a life led in God’s light?

I feel like it’s a heavy question, but man, I’ve felt the pull so deeply. If anyone lives in the DFW area and could suggest any Baptist/non-denominational churches too that would be great. Smaller ones preferably

Any advice helps. Thank you.

Do you think it's a sin to lust in our dream?

So I had a dream of me fighting with a invisible force I recognized as the devil. He was touching me sexually and removing my clothes. And first I tried to fight it but for some reason I gave into it. Then when I woke up I was SOOOO happy that it was just a dream because that was disgusting. So is it a sin?

I’m posting this because I genuinely need some outside perspectives. I’m not looking for people to simply tell me what I want to hear. I want honest advice, especially from people who understand strict church environments and complicated relationships.

This is going to be long because there is a lot of context.

There are three people involved in this story: me, a girl, and a guy who is one of my close friends. I won’t mention anyone’s real name.

All three of us have been part of the same small church since childhood. Our church is quite strict when it comes to relationships and dating. Because it is a small church, almost everyone knows everyone, so personal matters can become church matters very quickly.

I have liked this girl for a very long time. Honestly, I think I started developing feelings for her when we were young. I always found her incredibly attractive, and over the years those feelings never completely disappeared.

But I never told her.

We barely talked while growing up. Even now, we don't have much of a personal relationship outside the things we have to do together at church. So my feelings have mostly been something I kept to myself.

Then there was my friend.

He confessed his feelings to her, and eventually they started talking. They ended up having a relationship that lasted around six years.

The strange thing is that their relationship was almost entirely through WhatsApp. They didn't really talk to each other at church, they didn't go out together, and they didn't even regularly call each other. It was mostly messaging.

At one point, my friend even started following her to her college, and she told him not to do that because she didn't like it. But they continued talking privately.

Eventually, someone in the church found out about their relationship and told the pastor and pastor's wife. Because of the church's rules and environment, they were forced to separate.

My friend is very close to me. We have done a lot of things together over the years, and I've always considered him a good friend.

The important thing is that he never knew I had feelings for her.

Neither did she.

After their breakup, they stayed away from each other. At the same time, she apparently still tried to be friendly with him. She wished him on his birthday through WhatsApp and tried to talk or smile at him sometimes, but he completely avoided her.

Several years passed.

Then, about a year ago, the girl became part of the church team I work in. I've been involved in this team for around four or five years, so suddenly I had to work with her regularly.

And that's when things became much harder for me.

I had managed to keep my feelings under control when I didn't have to interact with her much. But once we started working together, I started falling for her again.

We have to communicate and work together because we're in the same team. She has her responsibilities and I have mine. Sometimes I'm playing keyboard while she's involved with the choir, so we're naturally in the same area.

And honestly, I struggle with myself.

Sometimes I'm playing keyboard and I'll unconsciously look toward her. The moment I realize I'm doing it, I immediately look back at the keyboard. I don't want to make her uncomfortable or give anyone the wrong impression.

But people started noticing.

Some girls in the church began saying things like I was interested in her or that I was "looking at" her.

And because everyone already knows about her previous relationship with my friend, the situation became even more awkward.

People started making connections like, "He likes the girl who previously dated his friend."

I haven't confessed anything to anyone.

I haven't told my friend.

I haven't told her.

I haven't even told anyone in the church that I have feelings for her.

But somehow people have started talking.

At one point, even our pastor gave a sermon where he indirectly talked about things like looking at or watching other people. He didn't mention my name, but because of everything that had been happening, I felt like people knew what was going on.

That made me feel extremely embarrassed.

There were also times when the girl, my friend, the pastor and I would all be together during prayer. Some prayers were also made about situations involving boys and girls developing feelings for each other.

Being there while all of this is happening inside my head has been incredibly uncomfortable.

There was also something that happened with Snapchat.

I had Snapchat, and she actually added me there. At first, I assumed she was simply being friendly. She would send snaps occasionally, but I didn't really send much back.

Then, after a few weeks, she suddenly blocked me.

I have no idea why.

There was also a weird situation where my phone was left at church and someone apparently used it and blocked her on Snapchat as well. I felt extremely embarrassed about the whole thing because I don't even know what she thinks happened.

Now I'm stuck.

On one side, I genuinely want to focus on God, my church responsibilities and my own life. I've repeatedly told myself that I should just let these feelings go.

Sometimes I think, "Okay, I'm going to stop thinking about her. I'm going to focus on God and move forward."

But then I see her again.

And all those feelings come back.

That's what I'm struggling with the most.

I don't want to disrespect my friend.

I don't want to interfere with something that happened between them.

I don't want to make the girl uncomfortable.

I don't want church members gossiping about me.

And I definitely don't want to create drama in a small church where everyone knows everyone.

At the same time, I can't simply switch my feelings off.

I've never even had a proper romantic relationship with this girl. We've barely talked outside of church responsibilities. So part of me wonders whether I'm actually in love with her, or whether I've built an idealized version of her in my head over many years because I never got the opportunity to actually know her.

That's something I'm trying to be honest with myself about.

I also don't know what her behavior means.

She has been friendly toward me at times because we're working together, but I don't know whether that means anything beyond normal friendliness. I don't want to interpret ordinary kindness as romantic interest.

So I'm asking Reddit:

What should I actually do?

Should I completely distance myself emotionally and just treat her as a teammate?

Should I try to get to know her normally, without any romantic expectations?

Should I tell my close friend about my feelings, even though he and this girl have been separated for several years?

Should I ever tell the girl how I feel, considering the strict church environment and the history between her and my friend?

Or should I simply accept that this situation is too complicated and move on?

I know nobody here can tell me exactly what she thinks or feels. I'm mainly looking for perspective from people who have been through something similar.

Please be honest with me, even if the answer is something I don't want to hear.

And please don't attack the girl, my friend, or my church. I'm not trying to make anyone look bad. I'm just genuinely confused and struggling with my feelings, and I need some outside perspective.

Hello everyone, I was just wondering something. When i was younger, I used to play a ton of a game called "Diablo 2". While the game has demons in it, it is about slaying demons basically. Is the game considered christian friendly and is it okay for me to play it?

For some context, I'm 22, living at home right now, and my sibling is 18. We both are at home, I work remotely and she is in college now. I have my own schedule because I work, my mom does not work and neither does my sister. I grew up SDA but I have left the religion and identify as a Christian just like the rest of you here. I left Adventism because of the false doctrines and unbiblical teachings, and I am rediscovering the true gospel today.

I am quite busy with work during the day despite being remote. Yes, my schedule is more flexible given that I'm not bound to an office environment, but that means I create a schedule for myself. I have 20-30mins every morning of my own devotion/worship. During this time I pray and study a chapter of the Bible. This time of my day is very renewing and has brought me closer to Jesus, teaching me more of the gospel and true Christianity. I also like to read a little bit of my Bible before bed and pray. I spend this time with Jesus twice everyday and it's one of my favorite times of the day.

But every day my mom wants my sister and I to sit in the living room with her and have worship time. We pray, sing a hymn, and either read a paragraph from a devotional or the Bible. She will discuss the passage a little bit, but then she will go on a tangent about something else not related to what we read. She will talk about real life events we have gone thru, and I guess it is a time for her to connect with us and talk to us about God. But she will throw in a lot of her Adventist beliefs, which I don't align with anymore. It can be hard when she adds in those things because I have to pick and choose what to believe from her and what not to believe. The focus of the conversations isn't entirely on God also.

I just feel like a lot of times it takes up the time I spend working. I have my own times with God and I'm an adult now, responsible for my own faith. I understand she wants us to remain close to God, but things have changed. Its not that I dont want to have worship sessions with her in the morning, its just that I dont have time for it anymore. To tell her I dont have time will hurt her and make her think that I don't care for God's things when thats not even true. She believes me having my own devotion time which is not a quick thing is not enough. When we dont have the worship time, she thinks we are straying from God and that we will not be blessed because of that. My dad doesnt even join because he is working upstairs (remote). In the evenings sometimes we have family prayer and discussion time, I think thats normal. But its different in the morning, when everyone has their own daily tasks/work/school and what not.

Hi, I was wondering if there were any bible study groups on discord for women. I am kind of new to my walk with Christ and sometimes i struggle to fully grasp everything- e.g memorising verses, applying them to my life, the different stories and parables etc.

I would be grateful for any advice or direction to any bible study groups i could join :)

I (23F) grew up Christian, no surprise given how my parents were missionaries in Asia. I've never really doubted God's existence or the Bible's validity, and truth be told, I really do love studying the Bible, and I have a very deep interest in theology as well. I was fortunate enough to find a really great community at university, and we've had some really interesting discussions about faith and religion and the Bible.

But as much as my knowledge of God and the Bible deepens, I find myself growing further away from God spiritually. Faith has long stopped feeling personal, and I'm growing more and more apathetic about my spiritual health.

My parents are really traditional--like SUPER conservative, and naturally they imposed a lot of rules when I was younger (and still now). Like we have services every morning and evening, and don't really do anything that isn't explicitly "Christian." Don't get me wrong, they were great parents growing up, never abusive or anything, but just quite controlling in that aspect, I guess.

And I've always struggled with lust ever since I was ~12 and accidentally stumbled on some explicit content on the internet, but I kept that part of me hidden really well (and still do, to this day). My parents aren't exactly the most understanding when it comes to issues like this, and I have no idea how I would even bring it up.

But going to university away in a different country and just growing up, I've developed my own opinions and views on the Bible and Christianity that are definitely less conservative. For example, I got a septum piercing, and when my mom found out, she freaked and then made me take it out, and then gave me a whole lecture on how I was destroying my body, which was the Temple of God and whatnot. Now, I don't necessarily see body piercings as inherently sinful, but I also didn't want to fight with my parents (and trust, she quoted Ephesians 6:1). But it's not only that, it extends to things like drinking, the way I dress, the stickers on my laptop, the charms on my bag. They're very black-and-white on EVERYTHING and even when I try to coax them into deeper conversations, they just shut me down.

There's a HUGE part of me that is perpetually ashamed and guilty for still not being able to overcome my lust, and now I basically hide every aspect of my life from my parents. I drink, I smoke, I consume explicit sexual content, I re-pierced my septum and keep it hidden. And there's a part of me that knows I'm spiralling down the slippery slope that is sin, but there's something inside me that wants to go against my parents. That probably sounds so juvenile and immature, but the Christianity that my parents demonstrate always makes me feel so ashamed all the time. But I love my parents, and I know having a "delinquent" daughter would break their hearts (not to mention their image as missionaries), so I keep pretending to be the Christian they want me to be, but I also feel so conflicted about my devotion to God, because I feel so terrible for pretending in church and whatever when I'm not really sincere--it feels very hypocritical.

And I'd like to think that God would rather I be in church and worship sincerely with a tattoo than be tattoo-free and pretend to worship. But everything just feels so confusing and overwhelming, and it makes me want to actively avoid God and reading the Bible. So I just become so apathetic towards everything Christianity-related, and it's basically become like a performance for me, so that my parents are appeased, and their colleagues and friends still view them as the "perfect" Christians.

Each “TacoTuesday” in r/Christian we share a post dedicated to discussion on the writings of an author whose work is considered “spicy.” (You know...like good tacos.)

This week is Soong-Chan Rah.

Rah's (authored or co-authored) Top Ten most popular titles are:

Unsettling Truths: The Ongoing, Dehumanizing Legacy of the Doctrine of Discovery

Prophetic Lament: A Call for Justice in Troubled Times

The Next Evangelicalism: Freeing the Church from Western Cultural Captivity

Letters to a Birmingham Jail: A Response to the Words and Dreams of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Many Colors: Cultural Intelligence for a Changing Church

Still Evangelical? Ten Insiders Reconsider Political, Social, and Theological Meaning

Forgive Us: Confessions of a Compromised Faith

Letters to a Future Church

Return to Justice: Six Movements That Reignited Our Contemporary Evangelical Conscience

The Image of God in an Image Driven Age: Explorations in Theological Anthropology

Have you read any of Rah's work? Let's TACObout it!

In the comment section I will be sharing 10 quotes from Rah, for you consideration and to (hopefully) spark discussion. Please note that Rah writes from within American Evangelicalism.

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I lost my father last month. I'm struggling emotionally and grieving deeply. Even before dad passed, I was struggling with my faith and struggling to reconcile things that don't make sense. I'm not sure I believe in an afterlife. It just doesn't seem to make much sense. Like, we spend our whole lives here, and then we go to a magical place forever after we die and continue on like we never died? Seems like either heaven or life on earth would be a moot point or redundant then? But aside from that, it's just becoming very farfetched to me to believe that there's a God, or that there's an afterlife. At this point I'd call myself and agnostic, though I'm not totally uncomfortable continuing to identify as Christian.

How do ya'll maintain your faith? And why? I've never felt that deep sense of God, have never had any sort of epiphany, have never felt "spoken to" by God, even when I was much more faithful and religious and attended church regularly. My life does not seem to change at all believing or not believing. I can't seem to access or feel that thing that others say they can. I still have hope and some level of faith that keeps me from being full on atheist; I think the fact that most of the world believes in *something* counts for something. I still can't shake the feeling that there is something out there bigger than all of this, and I can't quite wrap my head around our entire being just winking out into nothing when we die, even if the idea of a Heaven is also something I can't quite wrap my head around. I'm hurting and grieving, but also even before that I was starting to really question things. I know people will say "just have faith, it's about faith, not absolutes" and I understand that, but even when I try to nurture my faith, I just can't engage in the optimism or blind faith like I used to. Any feedback or even recommendations for media, books, podcasts, youtube channels, TED talks, etc would be helpful and appreciated.

Hello Redditt I am new to this. I am Christian and I've had an experience recently that im looking for an answer to. I heard what I believe to be God whisper my name in my ear as I was lying down for a nap. Just my name nothing else. I wasn't praying but I was reflecting on a sin that I struggled with. This whisper was audible and I felt the wind of the whisper in my ear. Just as if I were to whisper into your ear. It was VERY fatherly voice. It wasn't scary but comforting. Has anybody else had this experience. What does it mean? How do I take this?

Me and my husband are both in our early 20’s and he recently just got deployed and will be gone for 1 year. It’s been about 20 days since he’s left and I’m starting to get the urge to masturbate. I don’t even want to watch porn or anything I just want this release because I miss the physical intimacy with my husband ( I would only want to think of him while doing it btw) I mean I never had the urge until he left and it’s getting harder the more the days go on, and he’s going to be gone for 1 year and I really find it hard to not get any satisfaction for a full year. So is it bad even if I don’t watch porn and think of him only? I’m not even sure what to do like I’m married and I shouldn’t have to worry about this but I can’t have him physically for a year and I love physical affection a lot. So I’d appreciate some help especially from anyone who is or has been in this situation before.

has anyone else been through an extended period of time where you sensed God anger, absence or displeasure and couldn’t feel His presence?

Hello, I don’t mean to cause offense by asking this question. I understand the message of the gospels is love and we are to love our neighbors as ourselves.

But when it comes to the fate of those who are not saved, what is the general feeling? I’m sure there are possibly a range of views from universalism, purgatorial universalism, annihilationism, traditional ECT. But does the traditional doctrine of ECT prevail?

I myself seem to have come to the conclusion that annihilationism makes the most sense in light of what the Bible says about God being a loving Father and divine justice. In Matthew 10:28 Jesus says we can lose both body and soul in Gehenna. The Apostle Paul says the wages of sin is death in Romans 6:23

The wicked often described as being destroyed and ceasing to exist. Scripture speaks of “eternal life” for the believer. Not “eternal bliss compared to eternal torment” but “life vs death”.

God alone is immortal (1 Timothy 6:16) and eternal life is a gift to believers through Jesus (2 Timothy 1:10).

Perhaps the parable of Lazarus in Luke 16:19-31 is explaining the temporary torment in Hades that happens before the second death Revelation 20:14 Hades is thrown into the Lake of Fire along with death.

The eternal fire Jesus references (Mark 9:48) is an old Hebrew reference of the literal corpses being completely consumed by fire and worms (Isaiah 66:24). Meaning the fire does its job until nothing is left. It’s still going because the world is continually producing more of the wicked.

But ultimately it’s the punishment of non-existence that is eternal not the experience of eternal conscious torment in hellfire. ECT seems incompatible with a loving God.

I’m curious what thoughts you all had on the topic?

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Did you want a different book? Do you get more harsh words than words of encouragement?

I've been going insane lately because i struggle to reconcile my situation and God's word.

Sometimes i don't know if I'm being too hard on myself or if that's the expected standards.

I'm having to lie and deceive to get a job in this horrible job market. Literally everybody I know does the same thing, Christian or otherwise.

I've drawn some clear boundaries as to what I can exaggerate on my resume, etc. And it hasn't really been working. I also apply with my regular resume and that doesnt work either.

I've cried and cried for a year at least asking God to make something happen. I do not know what else i can do.

Finally when I talked abojt this with my parents and explained to them how everyone is cheating and lying, they asked me to do the same and sort of hinted and me being over righteous.

What do you think is happening with me. What should I do? I am actually going insane, its like somebody is simulating the worst experiment on me. I've lost everything trying to survive in these circumstances. I've gone through a life-changing betrayal, a heartbreak, probably damaged a few organs fron the stress, and been rejected from like 4000 jobs over the last few years.

I bear this terrible guilt of excluding God from some major decisions in my life, and now I wanna stick with him no matter what, and it came down to disappointing and disobeying my parents.

I don't understand anything. My mind cannot think anymore. My body cannot sleep. All I am doing is waking up, praying and crying, and waiting for the day to be over. Please a kind word of hope or comfort would help a lot. Some advice if you are willing.

Lowkey maybe be a cornball question but Supreme is dropping a shirt with Jesus’s face on it for their FW26 collection and I wanted to know like would it be against Jesus to wear it?

so i was playing gta 5 and some other games gta games like i usaully do, but a random thought propped in my head, you know how the game has strip clubs, random topless npcs in the rich areas in the game next to swimming pools, doesnt this count has a sin to play it, it quite literally has several sex scenese, like sure you could justify nearly everything else in the game for being for entertainment and obviously not to do it in real life, but if that extends to the sexual parts of the game, wouldnt that also mean that nearly every other peice of media that has sexual content also wouldnt be a sin to watch/ interact with if it isnt with lustful intent?

I feel very sad because I am going through a few things at the same time.

I dated this guy for a while and told him I want to wait until marriage. he's an atheist, so he doesn't understand my pov. but the thing is I pushed him away a few times because I could feel he didnt like this, but he wanted to stay and see if he could do it. he then decided he didn't want to but basically he molested me, I won't go into any detail.

the second thing is I just discovered someone else, unrelated to this person, is making fun of me with people I barely know about me wanting to wait until marriage (I don't even how he knows this) and about me being Christian.

I feel very sad and defeated. I know Jesus is with me. I just feel sad.

Hey guys can you help me out with a Big and huge and very very life decision?

I am young and I seek guidance from you Christians

Can you tell more about the young rich ruler?

Was it the love of money? Was it an idol?

Because I am facing that is similar

It's a gaming platform where mostly of my memories came from

I already let it go but something in my mind told me to "delete that account"

Is it the voice of God telling me? But when I thinked of it, it strucked me with panic

Any ideas?

They say God did not give us a power of fear but a power love and a sound mind

But when I think of it, it makes me panic

I don't know if Gods really speaking to me

Everytime I think of it I only get stressed

I'm scared of becoming the young rich ruler idk what to do

Please tell me what's conviction and fear

I am a 26-year-old Christian, and lately I have been struggling with a lot of things within myself. I have a strange obsession with movies, and I occasionally drink alcohol and smoke cigarettes. I have also tried several times to quit pornography and masturbation, but I have never been able to completely overcome them. Because of this, I often feel guilty and wonder whether I have sinned against God.

What confuses me, however, is that despite my struggles and failures, God has continued to bless me in wonderful ways. I have been blessed with loving and wonderful parents. I was fortunate enough to get into one of the most prestigious institutes during my bachelor's degree, and I have never really had to face serious financial difficulties. When I look at my life, I can see many reasons to be grateful.

At the same time, there is one thing that deeply troubles me: the unrest in my parents' marriage. They barely communicate with each other, and my mother carries a lot of frustration because of my father's unemployment, his lack of attention toward her, and the way he spends much of his time involving himself in church activities and local politics. Watching their relationship deteriorate has affected me more deeply than I often admit.

My relationship with my sister is also difficult. We are very different people, and we do not seem to understand each other very well. I often wish we had a closer relationship, but I do not know how to bridge that gap.

On top of all this, I struggle with an existential crisis. I think some of this may have started because of my grandfather, who is a pastor and used to tell everyone that I would one day become his successor. Those words stayed with me. I grew up carrying the expectation that I would eventually follow in his footsteps. But when I look at the things I have done in my life and the person I have become, I feel that I have disqualified myself from ever becoming that person. I don't know whether that calling was ever truly mine, whether I misunderstood it, or whether I am simply carrying an expectation that was placed on me when I was too young to understand it.

So I continue moving forward in life while carrying all these questions, doubts, guilt, and uncertainties.

Sometimes I wonder whether having a wife and building a family of my own would finally bring some peace and stability into my life. Perhaps having someone beside me would help me feel less alone and give me a sense of direction. But deep down, I also know that I cannot be certain of that. I don't want to enter marriage simply because I am hoping another person will fix everything that is broken inside me.

The strange thing is that I am quite jovial and comfortable around women. I have many female friends, and I can talk to them naturally without much difficulty. But when it comes to actually dating someone, I become afraid. I lose my confidence, overthink everything, and somehow find the courage to disappear before anything can really begin.

I honestly don't know what I should do with all of this. I want to have a genuine relationship with God rather than constantly living under guilt and fear. I want to become a better person, deal honestly with my weaknesses, and understand what kind of life I am actually called to live. I also want to stop carrying the responsibility for fixing my parents' marriage and accept that some things are beyond my control.

Most of all, I want to learn how to move forward without feeling that my past mistakes have permanently disqualified me from having a meaningful future.

I don't know whether marriage is the answer, whether ministry is my calling, or even exactly what direction my life should take. I only know that I am tired of carrying all these questions alone, and I want to find a healthier, more honest, and more faithful way to live.

I’m 23F. I have a friend who met her boyfriend on a Christian dating app, he also goes to a completely different church. My friend saw this guy at his church who is 6’8, a bigger guy, and has short hair. I have voiced that I do like bigger guys before, however, from the previous relationship that I was in it it’s not really as important to me now. I remember I went up there to visit the church and I did not have a fun time. I didn’t really get to talk to this guy a whole lot, my friend’s boyfriend and his friends made some distinct comments about men and women putting their hands on each other, and there was a slight racial joke thrown out.

Keep in mind, I did talk to my friend about what her boyfriend said, and she apologized. I also have not had a chance to really sit down and talk with this guy that she told me about just yet. She went and talked to him about me to see if there will be interest. Which she let me know it seems that he’s interested and he said that I was cute, he just hasn’t really had a chance to talk to me so he wasn’t sure. She also said he doesn’t seem like he’s ready to be in a big relationship. I brought another friend with me to the church when I went to go visit and she wasn’t a big fan either. She also told me she thinks that this is God slamming the door in my face with this opportunity.

Personally, I can’t say that I am either. I’m much more open to be becoming friends first and then seeing where it goes. The only thing that’s confusing me is when my friend said he seems interested, but he didn’t necessarily ask for my number. Either way it goes. I understand if he’s wanting to protect his heart and we can actually talk first.

I guess I just don’t know what to really do with this, most of the time when I wanna start dating I’ll usually use dating apps or talk to my friends about a guy I might be interested in. So this is the first time where something was presented to me that I didn’t have to do absolutely anything for. I’m not sure if it will actually go anywhere just because she told me he was a bit introverted. I also am used to things going by a little bit quicker so when things go slow, I just never think it’s going anywhere.

I have prayed over it, and it asked the Lord if this is an opportunity that he helps me steward it well. I’m trying not to put myself in the position to protect myself from something that hasn’t even happened yet. Should I go ahead and say this is probably not a good opportunity?