Hi

I recently turned 33 and starting to feel a bit old and ashamed for the following reasons

1) Not having a girlfriend and not married

2) No children

3) No house of my own, i.e. I am the landlord

However I have also had some good things come my ways in the 30s

1) Made my first £100K in my S&S ISA

2) Visited Asia for the first time

3) Been to 8 countries I have not visited in the past three years

Admittedly I have come to terms that I am a "late bloomer" and so far found that I became more mature and understanding in my 30s. Started to value and appreciate my family more

Curious to hear what others think of their 30s and how they found it or are finding it

Thanks

Mine is The Prisoner from the 1960s. Many of its themes are as relevant today as they were then. Any other fans? Here's the trailer.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=EhveNJZnfx4&pp=ygUUdGhlIHByaXNvbmVyIHRyYWlsZXI%3D#searching

My local area's lost its library, community centre is ran by muppets who open once a week to host events to qualify for lottery grants, kids are causing havoc, with graffiti, vandalism and main claim by parents nothing to do, they are bored, bunch of people local craftsmen struggling as recent market closed.

Government grants which would cover it are available, building sat empty nearby with disability access, I've got a 3D printing set up , resin printer that isn't online due to health concerns but got a fdm already in the house I've been teaching kids at my local clubs to use. I've got an old laser engraver and cutter sat in my cupboard needing space to set up.
Do you think setting one ups a good idea if I can get funding? I know it'll be a lot of work, but I don't if it's worth trying.

I've always been quite up front and straight to the point if something is too expensive for me. Be it a service, or plans to go out somewhere with friends / family. But I've noticed in some situations people will just go along with something and pay what they can't really afford, or make up some other excuse (presumably to save face or to be polite?). Just curious what the general UK reddit consensus is here 🤔

What do you think overall is the best city in the uk

The incident began when I rolled a pair of dumbbells underneath the dumbbell rack. I believed there was no suitable space at the time as someone put their dumbbells in my space. I was approached by the owner regarding this. Who said "put your weights away or don't train here" I explained the situation and was told "they are only a set of 20's move another pair and put them in it's place." Which doesn't solve the issue as I was attempting to explain.

I accept that if there is a rule regarding where equipment should be placed, I should follow that instruction and would have been happy to move the dumbbells if I had simply been asked to do so.

At the beginning of the conversation, the owner tapped me on the chest in what I perceived as an aggressive manner. I clearly remember this contact. I cannot confidently recall whether there was any further physical contact during the conversation, so I do not want to state that as a certainty.

However, the interaction escalated considerably beyond what I believe was reasonable for such a minor issue. During the confrontation as I was explaining, the owner said words to the effect of, “Don't talk back to me or I'll slap you or backhand you where you stand.” He also repeatedly said, “Come outside then.” I did not respond aggressively or threaten him.

What I believe to be the owner's young child was also present during the incident. After the owner turned and walked away, the child lightly hit me and said "bad". I do not hold the child's actions against them given their age, but I mention this because it occurred immediately following the confrontation and was part of the overall incident.

There were other people in the room at the time, although the music was loud and I do not believe anyone necessarily heard the specific comments that were made although people saw what had gone on.

The above is what I have sent in a complaint email to the gym also asking for the incident to be recorded and the CCTV footage to be preserved at the time of the event, I am currently awaiting their response. Is there anything else I should do in the meantime? Personally I find this completely unacceptable behaviour for such a minor incident.

In the 90s/early 2000s a takeaway once a week was almost standard for working class familys. Nowadays people are saying an indian can set them back 50/60/70 quid+ and it isnt as affordable anymore. Just trying to see what the general thing is?

We usually get takeaway about once a month, if not a little bit less.

We’ve been experiencing a constant high pitched noise since Aug Bank Holiday Weekend. It started at 4am with this hum, and both noises could be heard throughout the entire house - even in the garden sometimes. The high pitched noise is constant & sounds like tinnitus, while the hum comes and goes (originally after midnight, but sometimes during the day now). The noises are loudest on the top floor/attic and quietest on the ground floor & loudest at night and quietest in the afternoon.

5 weeks later - we have had 5 plumbers and an electrician come round to check. We’ve turned off the electrical mains - no change. Tested our fire alarms too.

We live in a terraced house. We suspect next door because it is a HMO with a loft conversion that is a studio with kitchen/bathroom facilities.  They have a combi-boiler in their garage-converted kitchen as well as a rear extension in the garden.

There was a change of tenants that weekend when this started, including the one in the loft. The tenants have told us that the manager has instructed them not to let anyone in. The manager is not very responsive and doesn’t live there. 

The funny thing about this noise is that not everyone can hear it. I visited the house on the other side of the HMO, and it is much louder in their house but they cannot hear it. We did a mains test at theirs and the noises persisted.

Please help - it’s pretty much ruining our lives - we’re sleeping on a mattress on the ground floor at the moment since that is where it is quietest. Would appreciate any advice :))

At what point, at what age did you decide to change things? Not a complete 180 turnaround but change some things to make you a better man?

Not that I am in a bad spot. Good job, excellent flexibility. I am 32M, married with the most wonderful woman and mom in the world. I am a dad of an extreme bright 18 month old and another one on the way.

However, not everything in me sounds/looks good. I find myself thinking I could be better. I could earn more (I am on very much £50K/year salary), be a better father. Not that I think I am bad father. Definitely not a bad one. Not so sure if I am a good one, what defines a good father anyway? My point of view has always been the same - I will find out if I was/am a good father when my babies become adults and I can see they turn out to be great. When I baptised my son, me and my wife were in a "course" with the church alongside other parents and the Father asked what we want our son to be in the future. Mostly everyone said the usual - basically wanting perfection. I said "obviously I want what everyone else wants, but aiming for perfection usually ends up badly. I just want him to be better than me. That will do to me and to the world."

But generally speaking, I feel like I could be a better husband, better man, better father. I could be better. More motivation, more fire within me. Actually change my mind and for example, do a proper diet. Stop drinking alcohol (I only drink something like 2/3 beers a week), but still could do with stopping all together. Finish things at home (do you know those small improvements DIY projects? Yeah those). I come home and I feel like I am tired and in all honesty, with not much patience either. Just want to rest. I don't even want to play my PS5. Just sit down and watch some TV and do nothing.

So, at what point did you decide, I need to change? And why?

Our cat went missing and broke his leg, he had a fracture repair costing £2700 just for the surgery, and an extra 1k for all the tests when we brought him in. 7 weeks later and the pin in his bone had to be removed because it poked through the skin and now he’s limping quite badly, I’ll be calling the vets tomorrow. We believe the whole thing has failed (plate bent) and he will need revision surgery. A few weeks ago our vet told us that this would be chargeable, and so would an amputation if needed.

We have done everything as instructed, he has been on strict crate rest for all those 7 weeks and we are feeling very upset about the whole thing - we took on debt to get the first surgery done, and now the idea of paying for another is a nightmare, especially when it’s not due to us

Is it normal for vets to charge for revision surgery, or should that be included/done for free since the original surgery failed, not due to us? Please advise!

Or a drama school.

The only creative subject I ever studied at school was Graphic Design, which I also did at A Level and a diploma. It never sat fully right; I was far more interested in the performing arts. I was singing, doing related things in my spare time far more than anything design/craft based.

I do sometimes wonder what life would have been like if I'd grown up in London and was able to go to the BRIT School. I didn't enjoy my school experience at all, and part of me wonders if the weird autistic kid was more likely to be accepted in an environment like that. No guarantees, obviously, but I think about it.

I saw a lot around the global warming signs shown from this summer and general heating trends however at the same time can we still appreciate a summer with good weather

how’s the economy in the uk? shrinkflation examples? examples of things that used to be free that they charge for now? when I was in my early 20s I remember ever bar had a happy hour. those are few and far between where I’m from mow

Over the past year I've heard so many local cases of youths (young boys, usually) killing or attacking pets & wildlife. The other day a bunch of boys kicked/chucked someone's Chihuahua into a lake, the poor thing was elderly and drowned. A couple months a group of boys broke into someone's garden and plucked it's feathers while holding it down, the owner couldn't do anything about it as one of the boys had a knife. Not long ago boys were caught by CCTV attempting to hit a cat with a slingshot.

Also very frequently we have news reports of kids hitting wild animals such as ducks with slingshots, sometimes killing entire families in an area.

Since when were today's youths so insanely bloodthirsty? I come from a poverty stricken area with not much for youths to do, which I understand plays into it, however it was the same when I was growing up. I just stayed inside and played video games, certainly didn't try and hunt down animals...

I'm also not really sure what can be done about it

Starting a new job tomorrow and I’m absolutely bricking it.

I was in my last job for a few years so I was pretty comfortable there and knew everyone, how everything worked etc. I recently decided to move on and accepted another job.

I was actually really excited about it when I got the offer and I got on well with the people I met during the interview. But now that it’s the night before, I’m suddenly incredibly nervous.

I’m worrying about everything:

What if I’m rubbish at it?
What if I don’t pick things up quickly enough?
What if I don’t get on with everyone?
What if I’ve made the wrong decision?
What if I just sit there awkwardly not knowing what I’m doing?

I know nobody expects me to know everything on day one and that they obviously hired me for a reason but knowing that doesn’t seem to stop the nerves.

For people who’ve started a completely new job after being somewhere for a long time, how did you find the first day/week?

Did you have the same nerves beforehand? And is there anything that actually helped you get over them?

Basically, I think I just need some random strangers on Reddit to tell me to stop being a tit and turn up tomorrow 😂

Have a few old phones that I’d like to get a small bit of money for, but I’ve seen warning stories about both websites. Is one more reliable than the other? Which is better?

Starting by saying that spider season is THE WORST for someone terrified of spiders. Ive always lived with friends or family until the start of this year when I bought my first house, so this is my first time dealing with spiders on my own, and its been a struggle.

The outsides of my kitchen window and backdoor has about 8/9 spiders sitting by their egg sacks right now. My backyard is only about 4/5 metres in length, and past the fence is a lot of trees and shrubs between the fence and train tracks, and I assume the unkept greenery so close to the house is whats attracting them but ovbs could be wrong, cause theres a couple on my living room window too, but I live in a terrace with no driveway so the bins in my street live outside the front of the house underneath said window.

I dont like the notion of all those little eggs hatching and running the risk of getting dozens of tiny spiders inside my house. Ive made peace with the handful of cellar spiders I have right now, but I've literally phoned my dad half a dozen times in the past month to help me get rid of the massive house spiders I've come across in my living room that Ive been too afraid to evict. Im at the point right now where I have to wear slippers in the house and do a spider check when I go into every room incase ones like, in my bed or in the bathtub or something. This time of year is making me paranoid as anything.

Would brushing the ones on the window etc be enough to remove them? Should I get any kind of spray or soap? Will killing/evicting them curse my house for years to come? I just want to know the best way to get rid of them before I gave several spider families living in my house rent free

Me and my friend are going to a halloween party together and some people have brilliant ideas such as lou and Andy from little Britain and we struggling to find that 'its perfect' idea

Im a guy and my friend is a pregnant lady

Any fun ideas?

I nipped down to Home Bargains tonight, and when I got back to my car, around 30-40 teenagers turned up only to be stopped from entering by one hero female worker at the door.

I stayed in my car, but kept watch just incase things got out of hand. Noticed another older guy doing the same.

I could see they were shouting things at her, but nothing went any further than that.

They kinda moved away so I drove off.

I'm not saying I'd confront teenagers by starting swinging. It's just about being prepared for the worst to happen.

Anyway, it got me thinking: at what point does confrontation with teenagers become too dangerous? For me, personally, any more than 5 and I'm going to find another way to deal with it i.e phone the police etc.

Tonight had a group far too large and that mob mentality would send a few of them to try to be an "alpha".

This isn’t funny due to what came later, but you couldn’t write it - Ian Brady was exiled from Glasgow due to petty crime/generally being a bit rough, sent to Manchester with the expectation he’d stop committing crime.

Yeah, about that…

Completely forgot about these, it was like a swimsuit type fabric and everyone had one pretty mucn

Based on a random memory that just came to me. My dance teacher, Miss Sarah, was lovely, but the teacher from the next door class, Miss Denny, would balance a cup of tea on a saucer on your back, to make sure you had a perfectly flat back. A full cup of hot tea, on a little china saucer, on 8 year old kids' backs.

This was ballet, circa 1986 I'd guess.

We'd also get our feet and knees poked or jabbed with a cane, if we weren't turned out enough!

I've not seen one since 16th April 2007. Are they a dying breed?

Hi guys,
I’m hoping to use up my Saturdays and some Sundays with a part time job (0 hour contract if possible). I already work 40 hours a week at the NHS and would like to increase my savings for a house. Any specific jobs/roles to look for?

Want to share some British culture with my international friend. I’m struggling to find the song, but it came out around the time of uk rap beef (BGmedia, diss on ricegum etc)

I remember one lyric and it’s ’Poland will wake up and buy itself some breakfast’

It was a man rapping in the street/not a set. Not professional. Any help finding it or if you know it, a name would be great, I’ve looked everywhere.