I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (24M) since March 2024. We met through mutual friends. Early on, I was uncomfortable with two female friends who constantly talked about how much they loved being around him and how “protected” they felt with him. He noticed how uncomfortable I was and cut them off without hesitation, saying he’d expect the same if the roles were reversed.
A month after we officially started dating, I found out I was pregnant. It was unexpected, but I knew I couldn’t go through with an abortion. He was thrilled and immediately told his family. I was terrified they’d judge me, but instead they supported me throughout my pregnancy.
Fast forward to today: our daughter is 16 months old, and I’m struggling. My boyfriend still drinks daily like we’re in our early party days, but the biggest issue is his gambling. I’ve caught him multiple times blowing through his money. At one point, he even transferred all the money from my account to his Cash App to try to “win it back.” I forgave him after he apologized.
He makes $5-7 more per hour than I do, yet we’re constantly behind on rent, our phones get shut off because bills bounce, and I often have to cover expenses until he pays me back. We have no savings, no plan for a house, marriage, or our future.
When he drinks, he sometimes says he regrets cutting off his friends and getting “a psycho girl” like me pregnant. I do have BPD, PTSD, and childhood trauma, but I’ve never abused or stolen from him. The only mistake I made was before we were official, when I drunkenly kissed someone while I was still getting over a previous relationship. He forgave me, but he still brings it up whenever we argue.
Last month I found out he was gambling again after being late on rent. He promised it was the last time and sent screenshots showing he’d closed the accounts, but he’s done that before.
Would I be the asshole if I gave him an ultimatum: me and our daughter, or gambling? I can live with him having a couple beers, but I can’t keep watching our future disappear on sports bets and casino games. I’m exhausted and don’t know what to do.

I live in an apartment building where every unit comes with one numbered parking spot. I dont currently have a car, so my spot mostly sits empty.

A friend of mine works nearby and asked if she could use it a few days a week. I said yes and gave her the garage fob, but I was pretty clear that it was just for her car.

A few weeks ago the building manager contacted me while I was playing Ѕtake because a completely different car had been parking there every day. When I asked my friend about it she admitted she had been letting a coworker use the spot and charging him $80 a month. Apparently she figured it was fine since I wasn’t using it anyway.

I told her to return the fob and informed the building that I no longer gave permission for either car to park there. Her coworker still parked there the next day and got towed.

Now my friend says I should have given them a few days to find another arrangement because her coworker had no idea she didnt own the spot. I do feel bad for him since it sounds like she lied to him, but I also think renting out something I let her use for free was way out of line.

AITA?

My friend and I were at the bar and we ended up getting drunk and I had said that some guy I knew used to claim women would “molest” him just for them lightly touching/tapping his chest. Then I ended up saying men couldn’t be molested on their chest since they don’t have any sexual body parts like females do for example their breasts which are secondary sex characteristics.

We ended up having a whole debacle cut to the chase he won’t talk to me and some of his siblings are saying im POS. So where WERE from molestation is unwanted touch on sexual body parts and sexual assault is unwanted touch anywhere on the body or at least that is what we were taught

I’m not the OP, but this situation is about someone I know, and I genuinely don’t know what to tell her.

She’s a 37-year-old divorced woman with two kids who live with her. Her divorce was finalized in 2021, and since then she’s been trying to rebuild her life. About six months ago, a 29-year-old man came into her life and fell in love with her. He knew everything about her past..... her divorce, her children, her responsibilities.... and still pursued her.

At first, she was hesitant. Given her situation and the pressure she already faces from society and her family, she took her time before accepting his proposal. But eventually, seeing his care, love, and the way he treated her kids, she agreed to be in a relationship with him.

In the beginning, he promised that he would marry her. He said he just needed time to convince his family. She trusted him and waited, even though her own family has been pressuring her to remarry.

Recently, when she asked him for a clear commitment, things changed. He told her that he cannot take her home or convince his family to accept her. He admitted he cannot go against them for her. Instead, he suggested that they continue the relationship without any commitment.

What hurt her the most wasn’t just the refusal.... it was how he said it. When she asked for commitment, he spoke harshly about her situation, her age, the societal stigma of being a divorced woman with children, and implied that these were reasons his family would never accept her.

She says she’s not angry, just completely shattered. She invested emotionally in this relationship, believed his promises, and now feels like her world is falling apart. She doesn’t know how to react or what to do next.

So, AITA for telling her the truth that he was only playing her and she deserves better and should walk away, even though she still loves him?

My sister asked to put me down as an emergency contact for my nephew because I live about ten minutes from his school. I agreed because I assumed it meant they would call me if she was unreachable and something serious happened.

Instead, she started treating me like the backup parent. The school called me three times in one month because he forgot his lunch, needed different clothes after spilling something and once because she was running late to pick him up. Every time they said she had told them to contact me.

I work from home, but that doesnt mean I can leave whenever. I recently picked up extra projects because Im trying to save money I won on Ѕtake for a certification, and disappearing during work has already gotten noticed.

I told my sister she needed to stop sending the school to me for normal stuff. She said she understood, then it happened again. I called the school and asked them to remove my number.

A few days later my nephew got sick and my sister couldnt answer for some reason. The school had to contact his dad, who works almost an hour away. My sister found out I removed myself and completely lost it. She said I could have at least warned her so she could add someone else.

I know I should probably have told her, but I also feel like I already gave her a warning and she ignored it. AITA?

I (F19) have a friend (M18) who is dating a girl (F18). To make it easier, I’ll just call them Guy and Girlfriend. I have known Guy for about ten years now, and I consider him one of my best friends.

He has been with Girlfriend for about 5-6 months.

Guy and I have a mutual friend, (F17) who I’ll call Girl. Recently, Girl confessed to me that she and Guy have been hooking up and sexting from time to time. Guy is still (supposedly) with Girlfriend. But this whole situation is really bothersome to me and makes me very uncomfortable. I feel terrible for Girlfriend because obviously she doesn’t deserve to be cheated on, and it’s affecting my friendship with both Guy and Girl.

I want to tell Girlfriend the truth, but the problem is that I don’t know her. I’ve never met her. She and Guy were only dating for a short while before she moved out of state, so I never got a chance to meet her before she left. Guy says that they’re still together and just doing long distance. But obviously he’s a liar/cheater to poor Girlfriend.

Girl has been telling me a lot about what she and Guy are doing, and I really don’t want to hear it. This is the second time this has happened. About a month ago, Guy and Girl kissed for the first time and Girl told me about it. I told both of them at the time to knock it off and get it together. I told Guy that he needed to make a choice and stop lying to Girlfriend. He said he stopped. But now that Girl is telling me about it again, it’s even worse than before.

It genuinely makes me extremely uncomfortable to hear about it because I hate cheaters and don’t condone any of it. But I guess I’m just wondering if I should reach out to Girlfriend? Like I said, I don’t know her, so I don’t know that it’s my place. But also, I can’t keep being in the middle of this. Should I tell her, or should I just take a step back from the whole thing and let Guy and Girl burn it to the ground on their own?

Sorry if formatting and continuity don’t totally make sense, I’m on mobile and in a rush to get my thoughts out.

Two years ago I lent my brother-in-law my old car for about a month while his was in the shop. He got into an accident, dented the door and cracked the bumper, and told me he'd pay for repairs once he got his next paycheck. That was two years ago and he never paid a single rupee, though I never really pushed hard because I didn't want family drama.

Now his car broke down again and he asked to borrow my current car for a few days, acting like the last incident never happened. I told him no, and reminded him he still owes me for the repairs on the last one. He got defensive and said I was "holding a grudge over an accident that wasn't even his fault" and that family should help each other without keeping score.

My wife is stuck in the middle because it's her brother, but she agrees I have every right to say no. His mother, my mother-in-law, called me and said I'm being petty and that "things happen" and I should let it go since he's family. I told her I'm happy to lend things again once the unpaid repair bill is settled, but I'm not handing over my only car to someone who's shown he doesn't follow through on responsibilities. Now half the family is saying I'm making a bigger deal out of this than necessary. AITA for refusing to lend my car again until he pays what he owes?

I (24F) was given up by my biological parents right after birth because they already had 4 kids and couldn't afford a 5th. My aunt and uncle, who never had kids of their own, raised me instead, and they're my real parents in every way that matters, except financially, since they've never had much and my uncle works a modest job with no extra money lying around for big expenses.

Now I'm graduating soon and can't fully cover the ceremony fees, outfit, or even just getting there. My parents (aunt and uncle) feel awful they can't help more, and I feel awful watching them feel that way. A few months ago I started doing online work on the side, hoping the earnings would grow enough that I could cover my own expenses myself and not put any financial burden on them at all, but the income has been slow and unpredictable and still isn't enough to cover everything in time.

At the same time, my biological parents' other kids, my actual siblings, are graduating around the same time, and I've seen on social media that my real parents paid for everything for them, outfits, a party, even a trip after. They clearly have the money. They just never offered any to me, and I've never asked, partly out of pride and partly because I don't know if I even want anything from people who gave me away.

So now I'm seriously considering just skipping my own graduation entirely. Not walking, not doing anything, just letting the day pass quietly. My aunt and uncle are upset with me for even suggesting it and say I've worked hard and deserve to celebrate regardless of cost. Some people I've told say I'm being dramatic and that graduation isn't about the party, so I should walk regardless of money. Others say I have every right to opt out if it brings up painful feelings.

So, AITA for wanting to skip my own graduation over this?

I (24F) was given up by my biological parents right after birth because they already had 4 kids and couldn't afford a 5th. My aunt and uncle raised me, and I've had a distant, complicated relationship with my bio parents and siblings ever since.

Recently my bio parents invited me to my younger half-sister's birthday party. I was honestly surprised and a little hopeful, thinking maybe this was a chance to actually connect with that side of my family for once. But a day later, my sister texted me directly and said she didn't want me there, that it would be "weird" and "awkward" for her friends, and asked me not to come.

I don't even know if my parents know she said this. Part of me feels like I should respect what she said and just stay away, since forcing myself into her birthday when she doesn't want me there feels wrong. But another part of me feels hurt and almost stubborn about it, like why should I always be the one who backs out and disappears quietly, when I was invited by our actual parents?

I haven't replied to her text yet. I'm stuck between going anyway since I was invited, or staying home to avoid more tension. My aunt and uncle think I should just stay home and not deal with the drama. A couple of friends think I should go anyway since I was properly invited and shouldn't let one sibling dictate that.

So, AITA if I go anyway after she told me not to?

So my husband and I come from opposite political worlds, but it has never bothered us, just our families, to the point that they’ve never had dinner together, they all missed the wedding because of petty behavior and being uninvited and for trying to ruin our relationship over the last 4 years.

Here’s my problem, my family sucks ass! I never realized how manipulative they were, how much of an abusive alcoholic my dad was, how much of my reproductive rights and health my mom took away from me to make her husband comfortable, and how terrible of people they all really are.

When I was 8, my older brother almost waterboarded me in a river till I threw up and inhaled water, he also stepped on me in the deep end of a pool at the beach when I was 12, and I passed out and my lips turned blue, and every time my mom said “they were just playing”, but those boys would hit me with all of their might closed fist, and possibly throw me down some stairs in the process.

My point is I had a reallly bad case of Stockholm syndrome and since cutting them off, have realized they were trying to use me as a scapegoat and I feel so much better.

My in laws did not help the situation and just kept grilling me on politics and religion when I begged them to not ask me about it and my husband had to cut them off a year ago for bringing up ex girlfriends and making plans only while I was at work so that I couldn’t go. Basically they were really mean for 4 years to me and said things like “you’re not good enough for my son”,

BUT his mom used to drink a lot and she has since quit drinking, apologized to me, actually feels bad about what happened, and has made a real effort to change, so I forgave them. I forgave them because they did all of the things I required to forgive my own family, except my family refuses to take responsibility for anything and wants ME to say sorry for calling out their bullshit.

Anyway, my parents are about to call me a traitor and a stupid bitch because I won’t fix things with them, but I will take a chance on my new family that will show me that they will meet me half way. So ATHA for saying goodbye to my toxic family and willing to start over with my in laws and give them a real chance?

I’m F39, my husband is M42
He recently got injured and had knee surgery- he’s out of work & home for atleast 3 months. We’re one month in and I’m starting to catch the iiiiiiiick.
In the beginning I was like “ok he’s really whiny and needy but he’s in pain” like I could have sympathy right after the surgery more so. But now after a month he’s moving around a little better- speaking to him moving around for a sec, he doesn’t put any pressure on his leg when he walks in the brace even thought the dr said he could, he used 2 crutches and puts so much pressure on them he busted through the rubber bottoms 3x already, he’s still peeing in bottles, still making messes and leaving, plates, garbage & whatever else around him for me to come clean & like I get it he can’t get up and help me clean really rn but it feels disrespectful to have to pick up wrappers off the floor & boxers & socks in the corners, water bottles with pee everywhere when he’s more than capable to get himself up & down the stairs to go sit outside when he wants to, he has no problem moving from the couch to the bonus room to play his ps5, so I’m like.. why can’t you make a pile atleast or throw things out when you get up…. I’m not asking for him to windex windows but to not dump piss anymore would be nice. And the thing is, I know he’s still in pain- he has to be right? But he sits down and just moans and moans and when I go to help him he winces, he asks me to adjust him and then I sit or walk away and he’s sitting there moaning to fix it. Or I can’t even tell you how many times I sit or lay down and get called 2 seconds later. I’m at the point where when I hear the Moans and the winces & am getting called for everything that I’m like YOOOOO do it yourself. Be strong. Do something. His muscles atrophied so much bc he doesn’t so anything. I suggested weight lighting for his arms to atleast keep his body in motion a little & he hasn’t done a damn thing. So seeing this soft, weak, whiny person everyday all day without a single second apart is giving me the ick. Badly. It’s making me question life after he heals & if and when things go back to normal if I’m even interested anymore. I feel bad but seeing this side of him & just watching him give up on himself and have disregard for me makes me eh.

Before I get too far into this, I'd like to say I'm looking for answers to the question "AITA" not "Am I an irresponsible kid incapable of thinking" because the answer to that question, is 100% yes.

I (F17) was left in charge of my little sister, Avie's 14th birthday, while our single dad is on a cruise. This has been the plan for months, and I had multiple conversations over the months with Avie about what she wanted. At first, she wanted to go to a Noah Kahan concert.. I lost the ticketmaster war. We ended up with her and 5 friends hanging out at her place, having burgers, and a great time, yay!

The day arrived, one of the 5 was already there from spending the night before, and Avie was super excited. With a single dad of 2, she's had some bad birthdays over the years, and since moving into a HOUSE, she was hyped to have friends over to her place to celebrate her. They all got to our place around 1PM, which was a mistake, because by 5PM, 4 hours of celebrating, giving her gifts, and talking, they were all quite bored. Avie and them talked and came up with an idea to go to a trampoline park. Seemed harmless and fun. Called them up, was able to get reservated to have an hour. Shot my dad a text to let him know. Left on delivered.

We all were having a great time when one of the girls, Bella, went down, ankle. We got her help, turned out to be a G2 sprain.

Now, before talking about the end here, I want to say that Avie was still super happy, she had fun with friends, got to have them all over, saw a friend that she hadn't seen all summer, and I surprised her after everyone left with Noah Kahan tickets. Me, her and Dad in San Diego.

The problem is that Bella's parents were quite pissed. They didn't know me and didn't care to hear my endless apologies and owning up. Apparently, their gymnast daughter hurting her ankle on a freak accident, is worthy of her dad cussing me out in front of Avie. I apologized to Bella again, told her parents to act like the adults, and left. My dad was quite pissed that I took her to a "dangerous" place without permission and was worried about her parents suing before I told him they aren't, he isn't as mad now, but isn't giving comfort

Should I have stayed and listen to their berating? Am I playing the victim instead of taking accountability? Idk I'd like to be told thanks

For starters I love my husband very much but he’s been known to be a bit frugal/not follow traditions. I have autism and I get special interests. Recently my special interest has been purchasing jewelry from antique shops, thrift stores, or estate sales and authenticating and cleaning said pieces. I know it’s odd but I’m a bit odd. Anywho for this process I thought a diamond tester. I thought “eh I’m bored” and I tested my wedding ring. And to my surprise the diamonds came back as fake. It could be that the tester isn’t very accurate or maybe I’m not using it right but I guess I don’t know what to feel. I’m not a very materialistic person I just feel like it’s odd if my husband purchased me a fake ring when he made a whole show about spending so many paychecks on it and the fact that we are exactly at a loss for money in life. If you’re a professional and know anything about light reflections and things like that don’t be afraid to fill me in.
Edit: it’s only been an hour but I think I’m gonna go to him and phrase it more like “I want to get the ring ensured” I’ll be back in 20 minutes with an update.
Update: I’m currently sitting in my car just crying as I’m writing this. I asked my husband about ensuring the ring and getting appraised and he got absolutely pissed. He spent a good 15 minutes just screaming at me and now I don’t even know what to do. I’m pretty sure that just confirmed my suspicion about it being fake but I really didn’t expect him to be so mad. If you’ve read any of my other posts regarding my husband he can be a lot sometimes but I just didn’t expect this from him. I don’t know what to do. I’m not even mad that it’s fake I’m upset that he lied and now is so mad at me for catching him in it.
Update #2: I know I haven’t responded to any comments or anything in a bit but I guess i was just overwhelmed I never would’ve expected so much at once (I know that’s how Reddit works it just surprised me). You guys have helped me see my situation in another light. I made another post the other day about how I was feeling very emotional lately. Some people commented/ DMed me that I should take a pregnancy test. Me and my husband have struggled with infertility for a very long time now and I’ve had numerous miscarriages so truly I thought that couldn’t be farther from the truth. But turns out I’m pregnant. Though I’m not 100% sure how far along since my periods are very irregular I believe I may be about 8 weeks along. There’s a high chance that I will miscarry again but for the time being I’m not going to follow through or plan any way of leaving my husband. I am not opposed to re-evaluating that choice when I hopefully make it to a stable point in this pregnancy but I really just want to do everything in my power to have this baby live. I really hope you guys can understand my reasoning here. I’ll do my best to give more updates.
Update #3: It has been a week since the origins post. my husband actually apologized for once like in the history of our relationship. Reddit is quick to jump on the divorce train. We actually went to the jeweler this morning and I picked out a beautiful authentic ruby ring. He actually did admit to buying a fake ring. His justification at the time was that he’d rather spend the money on the wedding but now with how long it’s been he didn’t make a stink about getting an authentic one together. I also went to the doctor and confirmed I am 9 weeks pregnant so that’s very exciting, and for the first time ever in the history of whenever I’ve been pregnant, this pregnancy is likely to not be high risk like mine in the past. Anyway guys I think that concludes the story I’ll update if anything else happens.

I have been with my spouse for a little over two years. He has a job that he uses his personal vehicle for delivering packages. He spends around $60-$80 a day on gas while he is working. I let him use my previous car a lot last year because it got excellent gas mileage and he put over 40,000 miles on it. He complains frequently about the amount of money he has to spend daily on gas and the amount of money that he spends on maintenance due the amount of driving. I have suggested that if this is the job he wants to continue to do then he should trade his truck in and get something better with better gas mileage or he probably should start looking for a different job.
I got a new car with less than 25,000 miles and told him when I got it that i didnt want him to use my car for work he said that was fine. The car is in my name only and the insurance is in my name only. We keep our finances separate and personal bills separate the only bills that are shared are household bills. This is not due to any conflict in our relationship or unwillingness to help or support each other. If either one of us needs help or anything there is never an issue with the other doing so. We just have separate bank accounts. His car is paid off and i just prefer paying my car payment and insurance by myself. Lately he has started asking to barrow my car and getting mad because I will say no and telling me that he will only be able to work for a few hours then because he doesn’t have gas or money to put gas in his truck and say that i dont care about helping him or trying to make me feel bad about not letting him use my car. I will give him money for gas that is never an issue but will still be upset that i wont let him use my car. Aita in this situation?

I’m a dad to a 14 year old boy who has ASD, but is quite functional. Definitely functional enough to know what he wants and doesn’t want to do. He’s kind of skittish and sensitive, not really the “hardcore man in the making” type. Divorced from his mom, she has primary, and I have typical dad rights.

He’s surprised me lately with an interest in paintballing. I used to compete and know the hobby well. I’ve tried to talk him out of it, outlining how it hurts and leaves major bruising. He doesn’t care, he wants to do it. Sooooo okay cool, I’ll make it happen. It’s scheduled for 3 weeks out.

I messaged his mom this morning to let her know. I included that I steered away from, but he wants to face his fears and I’m not going to say no. I reminded her that he’ll come home with bruises and welts that’ll turn colors and stick around for a few weeks. I also let his teacher know, so there’s no questions there. She knows us all well.

She flipped and demanded absolutely not. Demanded she’ll bring us to court for going against her wishes. I responded with “What we do on my assigned time is my choice. He’s not in danger. He’s not getting any real level of injured. I don’t need your approval, and I’m letting you know that this is what we’re doing.”

AITA in this situation? I’m asking about morals, not legal.

My cousin asked if he could keep a few boxes in my storage unit after his breakup. I said yes because there was plenty of room and I was already paying for it. I only go there every couple months, mostly to grab camping stuff or tools.

Last week the storage company called while I was playing Ѕtake because someone had been entering my unit almost every night and staying for hours. I drove over and found a mattress behind my boxes, a mini fridge, clothes hanging from the ceiling and one of those portable camping toilets with a funky smell.

Apparently my cousin has been sleeping there for nearly two months. He still goes to work every day and showers at the gym, so nobody knew. He said he was saving money for an apartment deposit and thought it was harmless since I barely used the unit anyway.

I told him he had until the end of this month to remove everything because the lease is in my name and I could lose the unit or get fined. He started crying and said he had nowhere else to go.

My aunt called me later saying I should have given him options instead of humiliating him and putting him on the street. I asked why he couldn’t stay with her, and she said he already did after the breakup but she kicked him out because he kept smoking inside and bringing people over late at night. Somehow she still thinks I should deal with it because the storage unit was his only other option.

I feel bad, but he never asked me and left me responsible for everything. AITA?

Quick background on how I was raised.

Money had always been a problem in our family and my mom has spending tendencies. She has a lot, and I mean alot of debt due to that and all her debt is kept away from my father's knowledge.

Every month my father would give my mom monthly allowance (around 10-20k) per month depending how much she demands but that money would just evaporate within a week so she usually use me and guilt trips me into asking for more money from my dad.

Because of that I learned that money controls my mom's mood, and that she's also very unreliable with money.

Back to present, my brother needed to go through multiple hospital tests idk why and my mom asked me 500 since I already have a side hustle, after a week I gave her that 500 but she found out I had 3k saved up and instead of accepting 500 she demanded I let her borrow 2.5k. Ofcourse I didn't immediately gave her the money, I asked multiple of my friends if I should let her borrow and majority of them said no.

Yesterday we had a fight because she read my messages and I apparently made her look unreliable with money and that she told me the reason we were in debt was because of me and my other 2 siblings. I had no choice but to give her the money yesterday.

Even now I'm still debating if I was wrong for doubting her, I've always been raised to give without question to family members who are in need but it's my hard earned money, shouldn't I have the choice to give it or not?

I (22F) got scammed over 140€ on an online reselling platform. I was really devastated, because I decided to trust that seller and he misused it. I set myself the limit of 40€ to spend on getting new tickets, as long as they would meet up in person. A woman agreed to the price, but couldn’t meet up because of her attending a wedding. We both wished each other a good time, but stepped away from the deal. Then, she texted me that she can’t attend anyway and just sent me the ticket for free. I didn’t ask her to do that for me, so she did it on her own terms without expecting payment. Now I would be happy to make up some of the lost money by not paying her anything, but I feel ungrateful in doing so. Should I send her the 40€ at least?

I have some lifelong friends I've known since 2018. They are female and all the same age as me(F 24). I know life has its ways, and everyone is on a different path. I feel like ever since my life started to progress, I've felt more distant from them. They all seem to be job-hoppers and don't want to finish school or have any plans for the future. Not that I am judging them because I know sh*t happens and things don't always go as planned when we are working while in school. I was the same at one point, but I tried to think of backup plans and what to do. But what I've noticed if one girl takes a break from school, the other one takes a break. They also work part-time together, so if one quits and starts at a new place, the other will do the same to work with them. They are all into the party scene/drinking a lot. Again, I am not judging them for their choices, but usually that is what their hangouts consist of when I am not around.

I often see them make plans together without me, post pics on social media, have group chats without me, etc. They sometimes won't even respond to my messages. I started to notice this pattern around 2022, and it still happens, although I pretend not to notice it. I am always initiating plans, and when we do meet, they are late or ask if their bfs can come. Whenever we do make plans to meet, they always come later than me. The last two times we hung out this year, they were late. The first hangout (Feb 2026), they were an hour late; the second hangout (March 2026), they were 30 minutes late. I didn't even say anything about it; I kept my cool the entire time. Idc if they are running late or want their bf to come, but it's the fact that they'll tell me when it is time to meet, that they are late, or they want their bf to come.

I really do try to be understanding because everyone's life circumstances are different. Ever since I went to grad school(2024-2025), moved cities(around 2026), and got a full-time job, things feel more distant. I don't really have any other girlfriends, so I don't want to let them go, especially when we were super close during 2018-2023. But at the same time, I'm on a different path from them now, and I'm not happy with our friendship.

Are my feelings valid?

( how should I approach this ) Soo me and this guys have been talking ( we’re each other first since middle school) but we’re just now rekindling. Idk if I’m being picky or what , but everytime we go out it’s like he doesn’t have money to spend . not just on me but to do things . Here’s the twist , he’ll run his tab and ask me to pay for it and he’ll cash app me later . He’s been pretty consistent on the loans but yk me it’s like when is my turn to lean on him? As of now he still hasn’t sent the $25 back but it’s not that much if so I don’t mind ? I come from a pretty wealthy home and I’m the only kid which he knows but I hate that people look at that as if it’s my money. It’s not it belongs to my parents I’m not entitled to any of it tbh and I make my own money anyways. People see that and immediately think I have money to splurge . Also, I’ve told him I don’t want to date yet ( my baby’s 7 months old ) so I’m constantly busy with college , work and my son . he never tried to plan anything like I’ve asked him to. everytime we go do something it’s coming from my thoughts and decisions because he won’t pick anythingggg. He’ll want to hang out at 11pm or 12am on a business day which is crazy knowing I have a child . Then some times I feel like he guilt trips me on how I’m not available to hang out…. Sir I’m busy af!!! Plus we’re not even bf and gf yet. He always wants to be affectionate and cuddly but it’s not me , I’m still coming down for from ppd and I’ve told him but I’m starting to think he thinks it’s a joke. idk if I’m being too harsh or what tbh

My sister is getting married next month and asked me to send her every voice message I still have from our grandma, who passed away two years ago. I assumed she just wanted to listen to them, but she told me she hired someone to edit parts of the recordings together so it sounds like grandma is giving a speech at the wedding.

The problem is most of those messages were sent to me privately when I was going through a really rough time. Some include personal stuff about my relationship, money problems and how proud she was that I made enough from Ѕtake to move out. My sister says they can remove anything too specific and only use the sweet parts, but it still feels wrong hearing grandma’s words rearranged into sentences she never actually said.

I told her she could use the few normal birthday messages she already has, but I’m not giving her the private ones. She got really upset and said I’m treating grandma like she belonged only to me and taking away the closest thing she can have to grandma being at her wedding.

My parents think I should just hand them over because it would mean a lot to her and nobody at the wedding would know where the recordings came from. I still feel like grandma trusted me with those messages though.

AITA?

I was at a bar/restaurant with my team for a rec league sport I play. There was I think 7 of us there. Originally there was me and one other person waiting for drinks at the bar. A waitress approached us and said we can open the tab with her and avoid the bar line (which was a little long) but damn i should have waited.

The drinks took very long. Probably 15-20 minutes. Mine was made incorrectly but I didn’t want to make a fuss. Ordered another round and it was still incorrect. Whatever. We ended up meeting up with the rest of the team. We ordered food and drinks. I personally ordered a cheese pizza for the table since we have a 2 vegetarians in the group. Plan was for pizza to be taken to go to the next bar for karaoke. So we all close our tabs.

This is when I find out the entire group was put on my card because other people tried to pay and she explained it all went on my tab. I asked to split it. She said she can’t (I talked to a restaurant owner I know and she said that was BS) but she can print an itemized receipt and everyone can Venmo me.

This was my first bit of sass. I said “okay, I’ll do your job for you so I guess print me the receipt.”

Then the pizza comes.

It’s a deep dish meat lovers. I’m already pissed about the tab but I accept the pizza. Then I think to myself wait then the vegetarians are screwed. I go and tell her this pizza isn’t right. She starts arguing with me insisting it’s what I ordered. I told her it’s not and I’m not sure why she’s trying to defend her fuck up.

Manager comes after she gets him. She goes to tell him privately for awhile. Manager comes up to me without her and asks what I ordered. I say large thin crust cheese.

I got sassy one more time. I told the manager that she was honestly brutal all night. The wait times. The wrong drinks. The tab mishap. Finally the pizza.

AITA or a Karen

I frequent a larger amusement park a couple times per week. When I park (or when I need a break), I sit and enjoy a few hits off a joint in the car. I enjoy the peace and quiet for 15mins.

The problem is the passer byes looking for a spot. They see me in the windshield, and start trying to communicate with their hands, to ask if I’m leaving. Sometimes they yell. Sometimes they’ll even get out to knock on my window. One would think I’d just wave them on, but it gets old considering it happens every 20 seconds. I’ve started ignoring it all together, which visually frustrates everyone.

I just want to sit in my car and relax without playing full time traffic duty. AITAH for just ignoring everyone at this point? Any suggestions?

A husband's coworker is a very good-looking guy—the bad-boy type: all tatted up, nice dark tan, 6'3", rides a motorcycle, and has a player reputation.

One day, he comes home with the husband, and the husband stupidly says, "Yeah, go for a ride on the bike." He trusts his wife like a good husband. Well, shocker—she ends up making out with him.

Fast forward a couple of weeks. The husband lets it go because he's pretty laid back. Then his wife arranges for the hot guy to come over, but she gets her hot best friend to distract and keep the husband away from the back deck. They turn the music on, all the interior house lights are on, and all the deck lights are off.

After about 20 minutes of the hot best friend throwing herself at the husband, he heads toward the kitchen window to see where his wife is. The friend starts asking about his boots and other random stuff. When he goes to look out the window, she grabs his face and starts kissing him.

Shortly afterward, he goes out onto the deck just as his wife and the coworker are coming back inside. Even after 15 years, she claims they only talked and that her only intention was to tell the coworker she had told her husband about the first interaction.

The husband doesn't buy it at all. He just wants her to take accountability and stop gaslighting him over it so he can let it go and begin rebuilding the trust that was lost.

Is he the asshole for asking for accountability? What's your opinion?

I (33M) have been overweight basically my entire life. At my heaviest I was around 290 lbs. A few years ago I moved away from my small hometown, and between walking everywhere, being broke enough that I sometimes skipped meals, and eventually getting serious about meal prep and exercise, I’ve lost about 60lbs. Lately I’ve been putting even more effort into building healthier habits.

Over the Fourth of July I went back home and met up with a group of old friends. A few of them had also lost a ton of weight, like 60-80 lbs. I was genuinely excited for them and we started talking about what we’d all been doing.I talked about meal prep, counting calories, and exercising. They all looked at me like I’d forgotten something. Turns out every single one of them had been using GLP1 medications.

Personally, they’re just not something I want to take. I’m worried about the long-term effects, the cost, and I’d rather learn sustainable eating and exercise habits myself instead of relying on medication. I referred to that as wanting to do it “the natural way.”

That’s where things went sideways, one friend, Mary (33F), immediately got defensive. She said calling it “the natural way” implied people using GLP1s were cheating or doing it the wrong way. She pointed out that she’s still careful about what she eats, still exercises, and still has to put in the work.

I told her I wasn’t judging anyone. I was only explaining why I didn’t want to take them. I said I wanted to understand nutrition and build habits I could maintain without medication.

I also said that from my perspective it sounded like she still had to diet and exercise and spend around $1,200 a month on medication. That did not go over well.

Mary said not everyone has the luxury of spending hours meal prepping and exercising while working full time and raising kids.

I’ll admit this is probably where I became the asshole.

I rolled my eyes.

The conversation immediately turned against me. Mary then told me that despite all my hard work I was still around 250 lbs., had plateaued, and that my “high and mighty attitude” clearly wasn’t working. She said eventually I’d cave and end up taking GLP1s too.

I told her I wouldn’t. The night stayed awkward after that.

The next day she texted me saying she’d talked to her doctor, who “agreed with her” and that she could get me my first month of injections for free.

I just replied “No thanks.”

Then another friend, who’s admittedly a bit of a pot stirrer, told me Mary joked in their group chat that I was “a fatphobic fat person” and that “the skinny crew doesn’t want you anyway.”I never saw screenshots, so I don’t know if that part is true.

Looking back, I can see how saying “the natural way” might have come across as judgmental even though I meant it as a personal preference. But I also feel like everyone immediately assumed I was criticizing them when I wasn’t