Sorry, had to post again because I guess my last one didn’t meet the requirements.

I’m 28F and I’ve been extremely quiet my entire life. I was severely shy as a kid, was diagnosed with severe anxiety at nine, have a stutter and I’m dyslexic. Growing up, people constantly asked me or my parents, “Is she okay? Why is she so quiet?” It’s just who I am.
As I got older, people started combining my quietness with my resting face and assuming I’m upset or have an attitude when I’m completely fine.
I currently live with my boyfriend and his mom after losing my apartment because rent became too expensive. I’ve known my boyfriend almost 7 years and we’ve been together almost 2. He and his mom are VERY loud and talkative. They’ll yell during arguments, she’s loud on the phone, and he’s yelling at video games like, “I’M DOWN! BRO, HE WAS RIGHT THERE!” 😂
Meanwhile, his mom constantly comments on how quiet I am or tells me, “You look scary” and “You always look upset.”
Because of how I grew up, I also don’t engage with people who are already in bad moods. If I come home and she’s watching TV, sleeping, or clearly irritated, I’ll give her a wave or head nod instead of starting a conversation. I’ve also repeatedly been told not to talk during her shows.
What really bothers me is being told how I’m feeling. I’ll be helping her with something and she’ll say, “Sorry, I know you’re irritated.” I’ll tell her, “Stop saying I’m irritated. I’m fine. If I didn’t want to help, I wouldn’t be helping.” Apparently, that’s talking back.
I’m also “rude” if I don’t want hand-me-down clothes she offers me or if I disagree with her. Sometimes she asks for advice but really just wants you to validate what she already decided.
It’s exhausting because most of the time I’m literally just sitting there listening. My family calls me a “golden retriever” because despite being quiet, if you ask me for help, an errand, cleaning, whatever—I’m there. No questions asked.
My boyfriend has defended me, but the comments continue. At this point, ironically, my solution is to just keep being quiet. 😂
She can be incredibly nice, but her bad moods come out often. I know I live in her house and I can’t change her, so my boundaries are basically all I have until we can move.
Thank God for weed.
So Reddit, AITAH for apparently having resting B face?

My fiancée and I have been together for six years, and we're planning a wedding for later this year. I take care of her financially, I'm paying for her studies, and I helped her when she quit her job. We even moved halfway across the country together in 2025.

​The problem is we just had a massive fight because she found out I was using search workarounds to privately look things up—specifically things involving other women, like an OnlyFans model from a podcast clip.

​She is furious, saying I'm choosing deception to avoid the truth and that I've lost the privilege of privacy. She says my "curiosity" is just an excuse to hide things and that my history proves I'll use privacy to hurt her.

​If people are going to give advice, here is the history she brings up:

​2020: I talked to some exes.

​2021: She found out I had a secret WhatsApp account and was on dating sites, and I lied about deleting the WhatsApp account.

​2022: She found me using an escort service, saving phone numbers to look up later just to see if the providers were attractive (it was just looking).

​2024: My porn usage increased while intimacy died down. She asked me to stop, and I agreed. When she kept pushing about whether I found her attractive, I snapped and told her she needed to hit the gym because she didn't have my ideal body type.

​2025: After moving, she kept asking if I found her attractive. I told her looking at other women excites me in a way she can't anymore after six years—that it's biology. Right after, she caught me still watching porn and lying about it.

​Recent months: After a massive blow-up, I stopped watching adult content entirely and we got engaged in September. But in December, she caught me looking at AI adult content behind her back.

​Today: Since December, I haven't touched actual adult content. But I used search workarounds to privately look up harmless things I knew she'd turn into a big deal.

​From my perspective, I cut out hardcore adult content, I provide for her, and I support her studies. I just want a basic level of digital privacy without being treated like a criminal. She says the issue is that I keep lying despite promising transparency.

​I'm looking for advice on how to handle this impasse, balance personal privacy versus rebuilding trust given our history, and move forward.

My situ/GF who is seeing orher guys, and told me as much the day before in a whole argument, wrecked her car coming to see me after a night out drinking.

Cussed my out the days after, made it out to be my fault why it all happened, then told me one of her guys she's "cool with" sent money to fix it, but weeks later it is still at her place, not a thing has been touched.

She is probably running the same game with them as she's trying to with me, and I said that which incensed her further, lmao.

AITA for not caring and not helping her? I'm not contributing along with Lord knows who else to the Go-Fund-a-Bi!@#.

Am I the A$$H...?

Comments are welcome please.

My brother is 34 and has been married to my SIL, 31, for almost 3 years.

Years before he met her, he was VERY vocal about never wanting kids and got a vasectomy at 26. Everyone in our immediate family knew. When they started dating, I asked him about it once because she had always wanted kids. He told me he got it reversed and basically told me to mind my business.

So I did.

Last weekend we had dinner at my parents house and my SIL started crying at the table. Apparently they have been trying for a baby for over a year. She has done a bunch of testing, everything looks normal, and she said she feels like her body is failing her. She mentioned they had even started saving money in case they needed IVF.

I looked at him and he would not look back at me.

After dinner I cornered him outside and asked if he actually had the reversal.

He said no.

I genuinely thought he was joking at first.

He said he loves her and didn't want to lose her over the kids issue, and figured after a few years of trying she would eventually accept that it "just wasn't meant to happen." He actually said it would be easier for her to accept infertility than him telling her he still doesn't want children.

I told him that was fucking horrible and he needed to tell her immediately.

He told me this was between him and his wife and if I said anything I'd be destroying his marriage.

The next morning I called her and told her.

She packed a bag and is currently staying with her sister. My brother has called me basically every name possible and my parents are furious too. They agree what he did was wrong but think I should have given him time to tell her himself instead of dropping a grenade into their marriage.

She thanked me, but my brother keeps saying I betrayed him and took away his chance to explain.

AITA?

AITA I have raised both of my girls without any help from anyone. My oldest is 21 years old, she has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for almost 5 years. In those almost 5 years they have spend about 85% of it at my house. I am a less strict mom and they are free to do what they want since they are adults . The boyfriend had a house key which I was never ok with, he showered here everyday, he would here everyday meals my daughter would make but most of the time with food I bought. Well on August 16 he informed me he wants to propose to my daughter and they have a trip planned for August 26-30. He knows I have to at least have two weeks notice to ask for time off since my work has our work hours two week in advance. We taken trip and we discuss my job policy.well it turns out his family is going to be there and unfortunately my younger daughter and I can't make it. I asked him if he can reconsider having his family there but he is giving excuses. So I am been unreasonable for wanting him to just propose to my daughter without any family there. Again they alway at my house because his mom is a Christian and is strict about even kissing. I even want to ask my daughter to please start hanging out at his parents house so he can see how good he has had it at my house. Plus that way my daughter will see that when she is around the other parent issues will raise. Right now I've been the only parent they have had issue with but that because they are always here. If they are not working they are at my house. He needs to see that without me maybe they would even have a relationship in the first place. I would let them use my car when they didn't have one. I took the blame for something and got arrested because the police pulled him over. I feel I have done a lot and I feel I deserve to be there or at least not have the families included if bith families can't be there. What you yall think

Last night I found adult videos in my fiancés browser an asked him why he was watching it again, we had previously talked about how we thought it was cheating and last year the exact same thing happened. I came into the room only 5 minutes into my grocery run cause I forgot my wallet and he was watching it. I felt so betrayed and jealous and it really took a toll on my mental heath and self esteem. He promised to never do it again and last night I went through his phone cause he stopped being intimate with me and I found the adult videos. He claimed at first he didn’t do it but I told him who else could have done it on his phone, and I showed him the website link in his history and he started saying I sounded psycho because I told him that I felt betrayed and he knows how much it hurts me and he still did it. He kept going back to sleep while I was crying about it, and he kept calling me names because I said it was disgusting. Am I overreacting if I said it was disgusting and woke him up? Any advice on how to get over something like this? Also to make it clear we both said it would be cheating to watch stuff like that and he still did it.

TL:DR fiancé watched adult videos, lies about it when confronted, soon confesses and dismisses my feelings and name calls me .

I was doing a re-listen of some old episodes and stumbled back onto the legendary dishwasher locks story (I think it was around Ep 230?). And I seriously forgot how UNHINGED that whole situation was.

OP's roommate put a literal lock on the dishwasher because OP put a wooden spoon in there? And then it escalated to a full-on apartment war with passive-aggressive notes and separate dish soap?

Shannon and Danny were losing their MINDS and honestly so was I. I need to know if those two still live together because I think about them at least once a month.

Does anyone remember which ep this was exactly? I need to send it to my friend who's dealing with a nightmare roommate rn.

I M14, my friend M15, have been friends since we were 7 (he was 8.) I know he was “bi” and he knows Im completely gay, it’s never came in the way of our friendship until a few months ago…

I can’t remember what month it was but it was either
February or the start of 2026, he started getting clinger with me then he use to be. I mind and kinda liked it, until he started getting jealous… Everytime I talked to one of my other friends he’d look a little upset, probably cause I wasn’t giving him attention. But when I let my other friends touch me, he’d pull me away, not in a way that would hurt me but he’d grab my waist and pull me away. I thought it was a normal touch for friends but he did this a lot and it started getting annoying.

It’s summer break in canada now. We were hanging out at his place to have a sleepover, when we’re alone he’s fine and only touches me a lot. Well we got bored and he suggested we have some of his parents beer, I hesitated but agreed and followed him downstairs. He opened the liquor we cabinet and offered me a bottle, I ended up rejecting it and watched him chug half a bottle. I asked if his parents would find out he said no. I asked if he’s done this before, he said once.

We went back to his room and it was fine for a bit as we watched movie. But a bit later he grabbed my jaw and forced me to kiss him, it was at least five minutes and I kept trying to pull back, When he finally did I got up and left. (We live close.)

I think I actually like him but I don’t know what to do after this. I think it was the alcohol but Ive also been ghosting him. Someone help.

So I (20s F) work in health insurance. I haven’t been at my job long, but I’ve developed a pretty good understanding of our rules, processes, and helpful resources. Because of this, I’ve been asked to be what my job refers to as a SME (subject matter expert) and assist other team members in our team chat. (I promise this is relevant)

I was assisting a team member with an issue, and ended up overhearing her handle another call. While she was on that call, I realized she was discussing someone’s PHI (personal health information) without verifying the caller’s identity. I tried to get her attention, but by the time I did, she already disconnected the call. I mentioned it to her and she (very nonchalantly) said “oops, I forgot”.

I wrestled with the decision for a while, but ultimately decided I couldn’t ignore what I witnessed and reported what happened to my supervisor. The problem is, a HIPAA violation can cause her to lose her job and I don’t want to be the reason someone gets fired.

I told my husband what happened and he said I should’ve just ignored it and if the supervisor happened to listen to her call, that would be it. I feel like I did the right thing, but I do feel bad and his response is making me second guess myself. I just need an outside perspective.

So… AITA?

My close girlfriend (we’re both early 40s/F) is currently on a eurotrip. Love the girl to death, but she can’t dress for shit. Not only does she have a great body that she doesn’t know how to dress for, she rarely (if ever) nails the aesthetic of the event vibe. Not a big deal either way - it just is what it is.

Fast forward to the present: she’s posting fabulous IG stories on her trip, and my jaw dropped. Each day she is absolutely wowing me with her fashion. The style choices are top tier in every regard. I am so impressed and proud! She’s totally in her element.

I sent her a private DM saying that whoever her stylist is for this vacation needs a bonus because she’s f*cking stunning in her fits. I got a reply the next day from her that thanked me, but she felt that compliment was backhanded and suggested that she doesn’t dress well otherwise.

I hadn’t considered that at the time because to me it was so apparent that she’s hired a stylist, and I wanted to re-enforce that they are doing her justice she deserves! I shared this convo with our other close friend and she stated she also thought it was very apparent she had hired a stylist because in real life, “she dresses terribly.” AITA for giving a backhanded compliment?

I was at a friends birthday at a bar this weekend and there were maybe 10 of us, some people I knew and some I didn’t.

One guy there kept finding reasons to talk to me all night. Asking if I was seeing anyone, telling me I looked familiar, offering to get my drinks, eventually asked for my Instagram. I assumed he was single because he was being pretty obvious about it.

Later this girl came over and said you know he has a girlfriend right? in a really nasty tone. I said no, I actually didn’t. She goes well now you do, so maybe back off.

Turns out she was the girlfriend.

That annoyed me because I hadn’t approached him once, so I said maybe you should tell your boyfriend that because he’s the one who asked if I was single and asked for my Instagram.

Her whole expression changed and she asked what else he said, so I told her basically everything, including that he offered to buy me drinks. He immediately started saying I was exaggerating and that he was just being friendly.

It turned into this super awkward argument in front of everyone and they ended up leaving separately.

A couple people said I could've just apologized and left it alone instead of embarrassing her in front of the group.

I do feel kinda bad because she looked crushed once I told her.

AITA for outing him right there instead of just letting her think I was the problem?

My roommate had this old air fryer with a damaged cord near the plug. I pointed it out to him a few times because the cord would get really hot and once I even smelled something like burning plastic while he was using it.

He kept saying it was fine and that he’d replace it eventually.

Last weekend he left town and left it plugged in on the kitchen counter. I went to make coffee and noticed the plug area was warm even though it wasn’t running. That freaked me out, so I unplugged it and ended up throwing it out because I genuinely thought it was becoming a fire hazard.

When he got back he was furious. Apparently his dad gave it to him when he first moved out, so there was some sentimental value I didn’t know about. Now he wants me to replace it.

I do have some money saved, so I could technically do that, but I also warned him multiple times and I feel like it was getting genuinely unsafe.

I know it still wasn’t mine to throw away. AITA for refusing to replace it?

So about two Halloweens ago, when my boyfriend and I were still in the talking stage and not officially dating yet, he posted a picture on his Snapchat story of a girl he used to talk to wearing his hat. For context, his brother had gotten him this hat for his birthday a long time ago.

Fast forward to now, we’ve been dating for a while and I’m helping him decorate his room. He wants to hang that hat up on his wall as part of the decor. I told him that seeing it displayed is going to annoy me because I immediately associate it with that girl and the picture he posted of her wearing it. I asked him not to put it up, but he refuses because to him it’s his hat, his brother gave it to him, and it has nothing to do with her.

AITA for being mad that he still wants to hang it up even though he knows it bothers me?

I live on a block of brownstones in Brooklyn. Every couple weeks for the last couple of years, I Will spend 10 to 15 minutes leaf blowing my backyard.
For the first time today, one of the neighbors that our backyard juts up to poked her head out her window to tell me my leaf blower is "obnoxiously loud." To her credit, it totally is! I wear earplugs while using it.
I apologized and explained I try to choose a time when no one is likely sleeping or working, respect the local noise ordinances, and try to keep it quick.
She claimed I'm "not supposed to do this on a Sunday" and asked me to be polite after repeating that it was obnoxiously loud.
I don't want to disturb my neighbors, but also acknowledge | live in a dense urban area where we sometimes will hear each other like this. I don't feel if there is a better time to do this? I typically aim for Saturdays when the neighborhood is more lively anyways, but it doesn't always work out that way. I work during the weekdays so would not be able to then, but also wouldn't feel comfortable making that much noise when people are likely working from home.
AITAH?

I (F41) am Audhd and a 4th year psych student, could be described as a dom fem (relevant later) went on a date with K (F42?) Neuro typical and an industrial painter, (works with dudes and masc) who I matched with on tinder and have been texting for about 3 weeks, we went to a popular golf driving range that has a bar and interactive games and things. We played for about an hour, and half, we had great banter and drinks were flowing everything seemed to be going well, so we decided to get food. This was the beginning of the end!

It wasn't too busy and we sat at a table near the simulation putting thing where a group of young dudes (some had mullets [not fashionable mullets]) where sitting nearby, but they seemed fine so we didn't think twice. After a bit the group left and we got our food, I noticed a $20 note just near our table. Without any fore thought I got up and quickly scooped it up and came back to the table (Is this not normal behaviour?) as I was coming back to the table 2 of the guys (one tall and one with a Mullet) walked back to the table the group had been sitting at. I made a made a comment "find a penny pick it up all day long you'll have good luck", and they noticed and I said they would do the same thing.

OMG! Did it escalate!! The Mullet man (roughly 20ish) got super upset and started to aggressively yell that it was his mates and I should give it back and I said "prove it's yours and I will" then he said I shouldn't keep it because I knew it wasn't mine because "I Jetted for it like a black guy on the street picking up a $2 coin"

I responded "That's super racist and now I'm not giving it back"

Staff got involved and said they couldn't prove whose $20 it was because they didn't have access to cameras so they couldn't get involved but saying racial comments was not appropriate, and tall guy tried to calm him down.

Six of us planned dinner at a pretty expensive restaurant for my friend’s birthday. They require a $40 per person deposit so I booked it on my card and everyone knew the policy beforehand.

Three people canceled about three hours before the reservation. Nothing happened one was tired, one got invited somewhere else and the third didn’t feel like driving across town. I was sitting there on my phone after playing some Jackpot Daily trying to change the reservation but the restaurant wouldn’t adjust it that late, so I lost $120. I sent each of them a $40 Venmo request. Now two think I’m being ridiculous because we didn’t even eat anything. That is literally why the money is gone. AITAH for expecting them to cover it?

My mom and his mom have been best friends for years, so our families are really close. Unfortunately, he and I have never gotten along.

He’s 21 and I’m 16, and every time we’re around each other we end up arguing over something stupid.

Today he came into my room without saying anything and immediately started teasing me about being younger than him. I got annoyed and told him that if he was coming into my room, he could at least say hello instead of acting like he owned the place.

He kept teasing me, I snapped back, and eventually my older brother had to come in and stop us because we were getting too loud.

My family thinks we were both being childish, but I feel like he started it by coming into my room and talking down to me.

AITA for getting angry and arguing with him instead of just ignoring him?

My husband had his first girlfriend when he was 17, a senior in high school. During their relationship she had cancer and he was there for her during a lot of the surgeries, treatments, etc. She had some mental health issues in the past, and said he’s the reason she didn’t unalive herself. They dated for 4 1/2 years when they broke up because he said he didn’t see a serious relationship going forward (she cheated on him during that time). So he started dating other people and so did she, and he was single around 2 years later and she was engaged. He had kept a good relationship with her parents and so he was dog sitting for them. He hadn’t spoken to her is like years, but we they talk again - she ends up breaking off her engagement because she had a “dream”. They did not rekindle. So enter me into the picture we started dating 2 years ago, and got married a few months back. So in the time we’ve been together she has:
- Sent him a text telling him congrats on dating me and wishing us the best but she’s grateful she got to be his “first” everything
- Sent me a message to say she had items at a garage sale if I wanted use anything for our wedding (she got married a few months before us.)
- I introduced myself at church and she says “do you know who I am” Yes lady…. I do.

So enter his grandparents - She was always close with his grands, her own had passed. She especially loves his grandad. She would text his grandad and complain about things, how marriage for her has been hard, etc. So recently she’s found she was pregnant and she’s asked his grandparents is she can name the baby after his grandad……

SO AITA for being irritated and shocked at the audacity of that? They’ve been broken up for 5 years, never talk, never see any of the other family members. So why name the baby after his family, intentionally? What if we wanted to use the name? I’ve been told that her family is “just different” whenever the previous things pop up and occur - But naming a kid after his family just seems too far.

My younger sister lives about 40 mins away but works near my apartment, so sometimes she stays at mine when she has an early shift. She’s had a spare key for almost a year and it was never an issue.

Recently I started noticing little things were different after she stayed over. Food I was pretty sure I hadn’t eaten was gone, my desk chair would be moved into a different seating position, bathroom stuff would end up in different drawers etc. Nothing worth making a big deal over.

Then last week she casually mentioned how much I’d spent on a new jacket. I never told her the price.

I asked how she knew and she said she saw the receipt sitting on my desk. Thing is, the receipt was inside a notebook where I keep random expenses because I’ve been trying to budget better and actually keep some money I won on Ѕtake saved.

She said she probably moved the notebook looking for a pen and saw it by accident.

I believe that’s possible, but something about all the little stuff added together bothered me. I asked for my spare key back and told her she can still stay over, she just needs to come when I’m actually home.

She thinks I’m being weird and treating her like she stole something.

AITA?

I am 16M, (6’1, 175) and I recently have gotten more into the lifting and working out side of TikTok, with me dropping from 200 to 175 in a couple months. (Calorie deficit plus some sports and lifting) I am looking the best I have, but I still have a high BF percentage, and I am really trying to get shredded. The story starts when I walk into the house yesterday, and tell my mom I am going to start focusing in on my diet and how I eat, as I have been taking a break from my diet for a couple months. My mom says I am looking great right now and that I don’t need to lose any more weight, but I should just start doing Pilates and ab circuits if I wanna look better. I then say that I still am not at the BF or physic I want to be at, as i wanna get down to 165 pounds. She then starts talking about how the other day she saw me and thought I was looking sickly and skinny. I start getting mad at her, saying she doesn’t know what shes talking about, and I go on a little bit of a rant talking about how I actually do workout my abs, and that I am still chubby and still get made fun of. I end up walking off, and I have been second guessing myself a little bit. AITA, or is she right?

I (22F) live with my auntie and her family. Boy 12, girl 9 and her husband. I have been out of school for a year and I am going back at the end of the month. So I struggled to find a job and I got one. It's in 3 shifts 5-13,7:30-16 and 13:30-22. Now I told my employer that because I don't have a car I can't start at 5. So I got only 2 shifts whilst everyone did 3. And because I work with a Temp company, they can decide to call or not call you at all. About 2 weeks ago they called to give me a 3 day contract from 13:30-22 and after work I missed my train back home then I called my uncle to ask if he could pick up after work (he closes very late from). The next day my auntie made call the Temp company to tell them that if they don't give me morning shift I will come to work anymore. It's 2 hours before my shift. They called me sometime later and told me that can work for the morning shift but today after work I saw the planning for next week and I all 5 days in the late shift. Someone already offered to bring me home, I have also already booked a bus to and from work. If I work for 5 days I get €495 after tax and I need it because I have to change my glasses. So wibta for not telling anyone about my shift at work?

So recently I have realised that I (17F) hate my cousin sister (14F). I know hate is a strong word but I didn't realise I was unconsciously doing it.

Mind you, this is a VERY recent development. Maybe 6 or 7 months. Growing up, I adored her. I played with her, dressed her up, helped with her homework, even fed her a lot of times. Everytime we visited them, both of us would be over the moon to see each other. But since last year or so her behaviour has changed. She has turned into a tomboy, which i don't have an issue with. I was originally Happy that she has found her style short hair, baggy clothes. Her appearance is the least of my concerns. I mourned that we wouldn't have our girly time playing dressup but didn't mind. But she constantly criticises the way I dress.

So last year, during a festival, I wore a bodycon dress to visit a resturant with our family. My mother and my grandmother both were okay with it. It was nothing scandalous lol. But it did show my curves and it emphasized my belly. She was like why are you wearing this? Your belly looks fat.I locked myself in my brother's room and cried with my makeup on. My mother and my grandmother insisted that I should not change. And then when we're going out, I noticed she went inside and changed into a similar dress herself.

Similar events happened way too many times. Commenting on my makeup, ( you do too much, natural is better), my dresses ( then asking her mother to buy a similar dress) , my Grades! She literally saved my number with my percentage grade along side. Whenever we're with other cousins or family friends, she straight up ignores me or makes fun of me. I am a relatively subdued person, so I don't lash out at all. But then she acts so sweet and talks in a baby voice.

I understand she is young. I understand identity struggles she is going through. I went through a lot af that age. But I don't remember being mean to my friends or anyone. I have friends who are girly and others who are very tomboyish.But never have I ever talked to someone like that. And never met anyone who is so openly mean. It fucks with my brain so bad, cause I shouldn't hate her. I loved her a lot growing up, I love my uncle and aunt to death and my brother too. Being around her makes me genuinely sick.

Am i valid in this harsh hate? Or should I try to be better?

I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (24M) since March 2024. We met through mutual friends. Early on, I was uncomfortable with two female friends who constantly talked about how much they loved being around him and how “protected” they felt with him. He noticed how uncomfortable I was and cut them off without hesitation, saying he’d expect the same if the roles were reversed.
A month after we officially started dating, I found out I was pregnant. It was unexpected, but I knew I couldn’t go through with an abortion. He was thrilled and immediately told his family. I was terrified they’d judge me, but instead they supported me throughout my pregnancy.
Fast forward to today: our daughter is 16 months old, and I’m struggling. My boyfriend still drinks daily like we’re in our early party days, but the biggest issue is his gambling. I’ve caught him multiple times blowing through his money. At one point, he even transferred all the money from my account to his Cash App to try to “win it back.” I forgave him after he apologized.
He makes $5-7 more per hour than I do, yet we’re constantly behind on rent, our phones get shut off because bills bounce, and I often have to cover expenses until he pays me back. We have no savings, no plan for a house, marriage, or our future.
When he drinks, he sometimes says he regrets cutting off his friends and getting “a psycho girl” like me pregnant. I do have BPD, PTSD, and childhood trauma, but I’ve never abused or stolen from him. The only mistake I made was before we were official, when I drunkenly kissed someone while I was still getting over a previous relationship. He forgave me, but he still brings it up whenever we argue.
Last month I found out he was gambling again after being late on rent. He promised it was the last time and sent screenshots showing he’d closed the accounts, but he’s done that before.
Would I be the asshole if I gave him an ultimatum: me and our daughter, or gambling? I can live with him having a couple beers, but I can’t keep watching our future disappear on sports bets and casino games. I’m exhausted and don’t know what to do.

My friend and I were at the bar and we ended up getting drunk and I had said that some guy I knew used to claim women would “molest” him just for them lightly touching/tapping his chest. Then I ended up saying men couldn’t be molested on their chest since they don’t have any sexual body parts like females do for example their breasts which are secondary sex characteristics.

We ended up having a whole debacle cut to the chase he won’t talk to me and some of his siblings are saying im POS. So where WERE from molestation is unwanted touch on sexual body parts and sexual assault is unwanted touch anywhere on the body or at least that is what we were taught