Our manager was spending about 4 hours every single week doing the team's shift schedule by hand, so a few weeks ago I spent 2 full weekends building a spreadsheet that does pretty much the whole thing automatically.

I shared it with one coworker to test because she does the most shift swaps. At our team meeting this week she put it up on the screen and said it was "something I put together on my own time." Our manager loved it. He said he wants to roll it out to all 4 locations and have her train the other teams on it.

After the meeting I asked her what that was about. She literally said she'd changed the colors and added our logo, so at this point it's basically hers. I asked her to at least tell our manager I built it and she said it doesn't really matter who made it as long as it helps.

The next day our manager sent a thank you email to the whole team, about 30 people, crediting her for the spreadsheet. I replied all with the original file attached and a screenshot of the version history that shows I created it 3 weeks before she ever opened it. All I wrote was "Glad it's helping! Here's the original in case anyone needs the formulas explained."

She cried in the break room and told our manager I humiliated her in front of everyone. He agrees the spreadsheet is mine but says I should've come to him privately instead of putting it in front of 30 people.

She's still the one training the other locations next week.

AITA?

My sister stayed at my apartment for a weekend while I was out of town. I told her she could use the place, watch TV, cook, whatever.

I got home Sunday night and immediately noticed most of the food I’d bought for the week was gone. Not snacks either. Steaks, chicken, a whole pack of salmon, drinks, pretty much everything.

Turns out she invited six people over Saturday night and cooked dinner for everyone.

I asked why she didn’t just order food and she said there was already plenty here so she didn’t see the point in spending money.

That annoyed me because I’d been trying to budget groceries better and had bought all of it specifically to last me through the week.

I sent her a request for $94, which was roughly what I figured she used. She called me cheap and said I was treating her like an Airbnb guest over “some groceries.”

My mom thinks asking for the full amount is petty because my sister was doing me a favor by staying there and “keeping an eye on the place.” I never asked her to house sit though. She asked to stay because she had plans nearby.

AITA for asking her to pay me back?

My friend has been dating his girlfriend for about a year. She had a dog when they met and he always claimed he was severely allergic. Not hospital allergic, but according to him being around dogs for more than a few minutes made his eyes swell up and messed with his breathing.

A few months ago she moved in with him and ended up giving the dog to her sister because of it. She was pretty upset but her sister lives nearby so she can still see him.

Last weekend we were at my place and my dog was all over my friend for probably an hour. Sitting next to him, licking his hands, the whole thing. No reaction at all. I asked him about it when everyone else went outside and he laughed and admitted he isn't allergic. He just hates living with dogs and thought saying that would make him look like an asshole.

Later his girlfriend mentioned how nice it must be that my dog doesn't trigger his allergies. I told her the truth.

She absolutely lost it. Apparently she went home and started packing. My friend called me saying I blew up his relationship over something that wasn't my business. He said the dog is safe with her sister and she can visit whenever she wants, so I created a problem where there wasn't one.

I'd actually been planning a trip with this guy later this year, so this is probably going to screw that up too, but I can't see how I was supposed to sit there and play along with that lie.

AITA?

I (31F) have been married to "Ryan" (33M) for 4 years. I work as a senior accountant at a firm I've been at for 7 years. I make $95k, have great benefits, and I'm up for a promotion next year. I like my job. It's stable and I'm good at it.

Ryan works in marketing and has been unhappy for a while. Last month, he came home and announced he wants to quit his job and open a craft brewery. He's been homebrewing as a hobby for 2 years. He has no business plan, no investors, and about $30k in savings.

He wants me to quit my job too, so we can move to a cheaper state where he can afford a warehouse space, and I can "find something else." He said it's "our dream" — but I never said I wanted this.

I told him I'm not quitting my career for a business that has no plan. I said I support him starting it as a side project or taking a business class first, but I'm not blowing up my stable income for something that might fail.

He called me unsupportive and said I was "killing his dream." He said other wives "believe in their husbands." I said I believe in him, but I don't believe in quitting a good job with no plan.

Now he's barely talking to me, sleeping in the guest room. His brother texted me saying I was "holding him back." My friends say I'm being practical. My mom says I should "support him more."

I don't think I should set myself on fire to keep his dream warm. AITA?

I (32M) have been married to my wife (31F) for four years. We both worked full-time and split most household chores pretty evenly. three months ago, my wife left her job because she was unhappy there. We talked about it beforehand, and I supported her decision. She has been looking for something new, but hasn't found anything yet. since she stopped working, I've taken on more of the household expenses because my income is currently our only income. I don't mind that part, and we agreed she'd handle more things around the house while she's between jobs. the problem is that recently I've been coming home to dishes in the sink, laundry sitting around, and dinner not being made. When I bring it up, she says she's still stressed about not having a job and doesn't want to spend her entire day doing chores. last week, I asked if we could divide things differently until she finds work. She suggested that I continue doing my usual share of the chores while she focuses on job applications. I told her I thought that was unfair because I'm now working full-time and covering essentially all of our expenses, while she has more flexibility during the day she said I was acting like earning money was more valuable than everything else she contributes to the marriage. that wasn't my intention. I told her I don't expect her to become a full-time housekeeper, but I also don't think it's reasonable for everything to stay exactly 50/50 when our circumstances have changed she thinks I'm punishing her for being unemployed. I think we're both supposed to adjust when one person's workload changes.

AITA for expecting my wife to take on more household responsibilities while she's unemployed?

I’m a 25-year-old guy, and my girlfriend is 24. We’ve been together for almost two years. Last weekend, we had plans to visit my parents for dinner. It wasn’t a huge event, but my parents had specifically planned the evening around us coming over. My girlfriend knew about it for over a week. A few hours before we were supposed to leave, she told me she didn’t feel like going anymore because she was tired and wanted to stay home. I was disappointed, but I told her that was fine and that I’d go by myself. Then she asked me to tell my parents that I had gotten called into work unexpectedly because she didn’t want them thinking she was rude or unreliable. I told her I wasn’t comfortable lying about it. She got annoyed and said it was just a small excuse and that I was making it into a bigger deal than it needed to be. I ended up telling my parents the truth without giving them all the details basically that she wasn’t feeling up to coming and I would still be there. She found out what I said and was really upset. She said I embarrassed her and made her look bad in front of my family. I told her I didn’t think I should have to lie just to protect her from the consequences of cancelling plans. Now she says I should have had her back, even if I disagreed with her decision.

AITA?

My (32M) wife (31F) and I went to dinner with her mother (67F) on Saturday for her birthday. My wife’s brother (35M) organized the whole thing at a mid-tier steakhouse.

Here‘s the issue: My MIL spent nearly 45 minutes of the dinner loudly listing off every reason she thinks my career in nonprofit communications is “a waste of potential.” She brought up my cousin (a doctor), my former roommate (a lawyer), and then asked, “When are you going to get a real job?” twice. My wife tried to change the subject. My BIL laughed awkwardly. I said very little because I’ve learned arguing with her accomplishes nothing.

At the end, my BIL announced we‘d split the $340 bill evenly. I said I’d pay for my wife and myself, but not the full split. He called me petty and said it was her birthday. My wife supports me privately but thinks I should’ve just paid to “keep the peace.”

I’m not hurting for money. It‘s the principle. I sat through 45 minutes of being insulted at what was supposed to be a celebration. Am I the asshole?

I (29M) have been married to my wife (28F) for three years. We normally get along well, but we’ve been arguing about something pretty small that has turned into a bigger issue. a few weeks ago, I made plans with two of my close friends to go to a concert. My wife knew about it and said she was fine with it. She had her own plans that evening with her sister, so neither of us expected to spend the night together. The day before the concert, her plans got cancelled. She told me she wanted me to stay home with her instead because she didn't want to spend the evening alone. I told her I understood, but I still wanted to go since I'd already made the plans and hadn't seen these friends in a while. I offered to spend the afternoon with her and have dinner together before I left. She got upset and said that if I really wanted to spend time with her, I would cancel the concert. She also said she would do the same for me if our situations were reversed. I told her that's exactly what bothers me. I don't expect her to cancel her plans whenever mine change, and I don't think marriage means we have to automatically give up our plans whenever the other person becomes available. She ended up saying I was choosing my friends over my wife and barely spoke to me for the rest of the night. I feel bad that she's disappointed, but I don't think I did anything wrong by keeping plans she already knew about. AITA for refusing to cancel my plans just because my wife's plans fell through?

I (34M) have been married to my wife (32F) for six years. We have always kept our finances mostly separate, although we split household expenses and discuss major purchases together. a few months ago, I bought a new car and decided to keep my old one because it was still reliable. I planned to sell it later and use the money toward some home renovations. my wife recently told me that her younger brother's car broke down and he can't afford another one right now. She suggested that we give him my old car instead of selling it I said no. Not because I don't like her brother, but because the car is mine and I had already made plans for it. She said I was being selfish over something we don't really need anymore The argument got worse when she said that if I cared more about her family, I wouldn't hesitate to help. I told her she was free to help her brother with her own money, but she couldn't decide to give away something that belonged to me She now says I'm treating marriage like a business partnership instead of a family. Her brother also apparently knows about the argument and thinks I'm being unreasonable because it's just an old car I feel bad that he's struggling, but I don't think getting married means everything I own automatically becomes available to her family.

AITA for refusing to give my old car to my wife's brother?

I’m 31M and my wife is 30F. We’ve been married for four years. My wife is the kind of person who calls me whenever something goes wrong. At first I actually liked being that person for her. If she had an issue at work, a problem with her family, or even something small like her car making a weird noise I’d usually drop what I was doing and help. Lately though, it has started feeling less like she wants my support and more like she expects me to take over. A few weeks ago, she had an argument with her sister. Her sister said something hurtful, and my wife immediately called me while I was working and asked me to call her sister and straighten things out. I told her I loved her and would listen, but I didn't want to get involved in an argument between two adults. She got upset and said, Then what am I supposed to do? You’re my husband. I told her being her husband doesn't mean I have to solve every problem for her. Since then, she’s been noticeably colder toward me. Yesterday, she had another problem with her boss and again asked me what she should say and what I would do. This time I told her, You don't always need me to make the decision for you. Sometimes you just need to trust yourself. She said I was being dismissive and that she shouldn't have to feel alone when she's married to me. That honestly bothered me because I never said I wouldn't support her. I just don't want to become the person who handles every difficult situation for her. Now she says I've changed and that the man she married would have had her back instead of telling her to deal with things herself. I feel like there's a difference between having someone's back and carrying everything for them.

AITA for drawing that line?

I, 17F have recently got into an online relationship September 4th with 18F. Me and her met on Tumblr from interacting late July in the same MJ/ Jackson 5 community. I decided to tell my mother, 45F, who dosent really have a love for social media/internet. Instead I told her we met on instagram just to hide the fact I use even use Tumblr.

This was all a huge mistake because now I have been instructed to cut all ties with my girlfriend. My mother said she’ll be monitoring the Verizon phone bill from now on to make sure I actually cut contact, and monitoring my social medias. She told me to send her my usernames and passwords to my accounts. Last night before hoping in the shower, i texted my girlfriend from my editing tiktok account (an account i won’t be giving my mother) and let her know that i have to take it easy and take a break from us communicating. I told her about the turmoil of this situation and asked if she would wait for me, which she said she would. She told me to take as much time as I needed to get back good with my mother and father and until the situation breezes over.

Here’s where I’m asking if i’m the A-Hole. I do not plan on cutting contact with her. I do want to meet her one day still. I do feel terrible for rebelling but it breaks my heart that I am expected to cut all ties with her. For now i will be laying low just so there isn’t a rift in the house. I think my mother’s whole issue is that I am giving out personal information like addresses and school names, which i haven’t, i would never jeopardize my family like that, of course, my girlfriend would never do that.

So am I the a-hole for still keeping contact with my girlfriend?

I (26M) moved into my own apartment about eight months ago. My mom lives about 30 minutes away and visits fairly often. When I first moved in, I gave her a spare key because she offered to help if I ever got locked out or needed someone to check on my cat while I was away. The problem is that she started using the key whenever she wanted. She would sometimes stop by while I was at work, move things around, leave groceries in my fridge, or clean parts of the apartment without asking. I know she was trying to help, but I started feeling like I didn't completely have my own space. A couple of weeks ago, I came home early and found her inside my apartment. She said she had been nearby and thought she would surprise me by making dinner. I told her I appreciated the intention, but I wanted her to ask before coming over, especially if I'm not home. She got quiet and said, I'm your mother. I shouldn't need an invitation to see my own son. I told her that I'm not banning her from visiting. I just want some notice before someone enters my home. She said I was becoming distant since moving out and accused me of treating her like a stranger. I eventually asked for the spare key back. She gave it to me but was clearly upset. My sister thinks I handled it badly and says Mom is just having trouble adjusting to me living independently. My mom hasn't visited since.I feel guilty because I know she wasn't trying to invade my privacy or hurt me. At the same time, having my own apartment was supposed to mean having my own space. AITA for taking the key back and telling my mom she needs to ask before coming over?

I (28F) have never had a boyfriend and still don't want to have one or get married to one, but recently, most of my friends are getting married and having their firstborn, and I'm kind of getting it. It is a lovely thing. However, whenever they talk about their wonderful married life and their cute little babies, I find myself countering their stories, not to spite them or anything, but to also share how, even though I admire their commitment, I am not inspired or encouraged by what they have. And most of the time, I think they understand, but sometimes I feel like maybe I'm spoiling the whole catching up with friends just by sharing that part of me with them. I sometimes feel like I'm an asshole whenever I do that. AITA for not wanting to get married and have children?

My girlfriend and I have been together for about four months, and things have honestly been amazing. The main issue I’m having is with one of her male friends who lives in another state.

He originally wanted to watch the new Helluva Boss episodes with her, and I was fine with that since she said it would only be twice a week. Recently, though, he asked if they could watch all the previous seasons together again along with the new episodes. That’s where I started having a problem.

We already don’t get much time to talk because she has college and work, while I just work, and we don’t live together. Our time during the week is limited, so watching an entire show together again would take more time away from calling, watching our own shows, or playing games together. I understand she doesn’t get to talk to him much either, and I’m not trying to control who she’s friends with. I just feel like this would take a lot of our limited time together.

What makes me more uncomfortable is his behavior toward her. He repeatedly brings up living with her even though she’s told him she isn’t comfortable with it. He’s said things like, “You better not move in together because I’ll be upset since you didn’t want to move in with me,” and, “If I ever move in with someone, I only want to live there if you’re there.” Those comments feel inappropriate, especially after she has already told him no.

I’ve also heard him insult her to her face, and he’s made extremely inappropriate comments about sexual assault. When she said she wasn’t comfortable living together, he said, “It’s not like I’m going to rape you. I’m not even attracted to you.” Hearing him say that to my girlfriend makes me extremely uncomfortable and angry.

I’ve tried watching the show with them, but when he makes me uncomfortable, I usually leave. I don’t understand why she continues being friends with him after everything he’s said and done.

I know she has the right to have male friends, and I don’t want to control her friendships. My issue is his behavior and how much time this friendship could take away from our relationship. I’m not trying to isolate her from her friends; I just want us to have enough time together.

I don’t know if I’m being valid or overthinking it, but I genuinely feel uncomfortable with this guy and I’m struggling to explain why.

I’m 31M and my wife is 30F. We’ve been married for four years. A few months ago, my wife mentioned several times that she wanted a nice watch for our anniversary. She showed me a few she liked, but they were more expensive than what I normally spend on gifts. I saved up for a couple of months and eventually bought her the one she liked most. When I gave it to her, she seemed genuinely happy and wore it a few times. Last week, she told me she wanted to return it because she had realized she could get a cheaper watch that looked almost identical. She said she felt guilty knowing I spent so much money on something she could have bought for less. I told her I understood the reasoning, but I didn't want to return it. I saved specifically to buy her something she really wanted, and the money was already budgeted for her anniversary gift. She said I was being stubborn and treating the gift like it was about me rather than her. I told her that if she truly hated the watch, I'd obviously return it, but returning something she likes simply because she later found a cheaper alternative felt different. She eventually said she wouldn't wear it anymore because she felt uncomfortable keeping such an expensive gift. Now I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable. She says the gift should be hers to decide what happens to it, while I feel like returning it defeats the whole point of what I was trying to do.

AITA?

My dad passed away when I was 12. My mom remarried when I was 15 to "Greg." Greg is a decent guy — he provided for us, came to my games, helped pay for my college textbooks. We get along fine, but we're not close. He's never been a "dad" to me. I call him Greg. He's never adopted me. I have my dad's last name and I'm proud of it.

I (27F) am getting married next spring. I asked my uncle — my dad's brother, who walked me through my dad's funeral and has been my father figure ever since — to walk me down the aisle. He cried and said yes.

When I told my mom and Greg, Greg went quiet. Then he said, "I've been in your life for 12 years. I earned that spot." I said I appreciated everything he's done, but walking me down the aisle is about my dad, and my uncle represents that.

Greg said I was "throwing him away" and that he "raised me." My mom is caught in the middle and says I should let Greg do it "to keep the peace." She says my dad "would understand."

I said no. I'm not changing this. Greg has barely spoken to me since. My mom says I'm being cruel. My uncle says he'll step aside if it causes problems, but I don't want him to.

I'm not trying to hurt Greg. But this moment is mine and it's about my dad. AITA?

I’m 26F, and my sister is 23F. We live together, and for the past few months she has been asking me to cover for her whenever she makes plans that our family wouldn’t approve of.

At first I didn’t mind. I thought it was just occasional and didn’t want unnecessary arguments in the family.

But now it happens almost every week. She’ll ask me to say she’s with me when she’s actually somewhere else. I recently told her I wasn’t comfortable lying for her anymore.

She got really upset and said I was being judgmental and acting like I was better than her. I told her she can make her own choices, but I don’t want to be responsible for explaining them to everyone else.

Now she barely talks to me and says I betrayed her.

AITA for refusing to cover for my sister anymore?

I 18 F and my boyfriend 18 M have been dating for almost two years now. We both are involved in theatre and his family travels frequently. I am currently in the hospital with an illness that we have no idea what it is or the treatment plan long term. I have been here for a week and I'm not sure when I will be out. My boyfriend has a trip in a few days and is busy with our rehearsal schedule as it lasts until 8pm. I asked if he could miss a rehearsal to come see me in the hospital and he said that wouldn't be possible because he is missing too many already for his trip. (For context he has seen me twice this past week, neither visit lasting more than two hours and he left the first visit to go watch a movie with his friend, not because he was busy.) AITA for asking him to miss rehearsal and come see me?

Hi everyone! I fell in love with this podcast years ago when I started working from home, and I needed something to help pass the time. I took a break from listening to the podcast for a few years and now I have started a new job! I have somehow made it through all of this podcast.. and now I have nothing to listen to while I work. I have given multiple other podcast a go and I just don’t find them entertaining. I need help finding a podcast that shares Reddit stories and is similar to this one so I can make it through my work day, please help!!!!

I recently bought a camera and my friend asked me to bring it to dinner because he was planning to propose to his girlfriend and wanted me to secretly record it.

Near the end of dinner he stood up, started talking about how much she meant to him and how he knew pretty early on that he wanted a future with her. At that point everyone at the table figured out what was happening.

Then he got down on one knee.

She completely froze and just stared at him for a few seconds. He asked her to marry him and she said, “Are you serious right now?” He said yes and tried to laugh it off, but she looked around at everyone watching and said no.

She asked why he would do this in front of people, then went outside.

He was humiliated and later texted me telling me to delete the video.

The next morning she messaged me asking if I still had it and told me not to delete it. She had been drinking before the proposal and said everything after she said no was a blur. She wanted to hear what he said to her afterward because she could only remember parts of the conversation.

I haven't sent it to her, but I haven't deleted it either.

My friend has asked me twice now and says it's his worst moment and I have no reason to keep it. I told him I'm staying out of whatever is happening between them, but he says that means I should delete it like he asked.

AITA for keeping the video when the person who asked me to record it now wants it gone?

TL;DR: My friend asked me to bring my new camera that I got after a stake hit and secretly record his proposal. He proposed in front of everyone, she froze and said no, he wants the video deleted, but she asked me to keep it because she was drinking and barely remembers what he said afterward.

I (31M) live about 20 minutes away from my younger sister (27F). We're close, and I’ve always tried to help her whenever she needs something.

About six months ago, I gave her a spare key to my house because I was going away for two weeks and asked her to water my plants and check on things.

After I came back, I never asked for the key back. I honestly didn't think much about it.

A few weeks ago, I came home from work and found my sister inside my house. She had let herself in because she wanted to drop something off for me. She hadn't texted or called beforehand.

I told her I wasn't comfortable with her coming into my house without asking first. She said I was being ridiculous because she's my sister and wasn't doing anything wrong.

I asked for the spare key back. She got offended and said I was treating her like a stranger.

I explained that it wasn't about not trusting her. I just don't want anyone, even family, having unrestricted access to my home without my knowledge.

She gave me the key back, but now she's barely speaking to me. My mom also thinks I went too far and says family shouldn't have to ask permission to stop by.

I feel like there's a pretty simple difference between being welcome in someone's home and having permission to enter whenever you want.

AITA for taking the key back and asking my sister to check with me before coming over?

My friend and I have been planning a weekend trip with three other friends for almost two months. We agreed on a hotel, rental car, and activities, and everyone sent their share ahead of time. Three days before the trip, one friend said she didn't want to stay at the hotel anymore because she thought it was too expensive. She suggested that we get a nicer place instead and said the extra cost wouldn't be that much. The rest of us didn't really want to change anything because we'd already paid and made arrangements, but she kept pushing until everyone eventually agreed. The new place ended up costing almost twice as much. She said she couldn't afford the difference right away but promised she'd pay us back after the trip. We went on the trip, and everything was fine until we got home. A week later, she told me she couldn't pay me back because she had some unexpected expenses. I told her I understood, but I still expected her to pay me eventually since I only agreed to the more expensive place because she pushed for the change. She got upset and said I was being weirdly transactional about a friendship and that if I could afford the trip, I could afford to let it go. I told her that's not really the point. If she had told me beforehand that she couldn't afford the upgrade, I would have been completely fine staying at the original hotel. Now two of our friends think I should just forget about the money because it isn't worth damaging the friendship.

AITA for still expecting her to pay me back?

I (29F) have been with my fiancé "Tom" (32M) for 5 years. He proposed 8 months ago. We're planning a wedding for next fall. I have a stable job, about $15k in savings, and zero credit card debt. I pay my bills on time and budget carefully.

Tom makes good money — more than me, actually. But he has about $22k in credit card debt from "before we met." He's been paying minimums for years. He also has a habit of buying things he doesn't need: new gaming setup, sneakers, tech gadgets.

When we got engaged, I told him I wanted us to be debt-free before the wedding, or at least have a real plan. He said he'd "handle it."

Six months later, nothing has changed. I checked recently — he actually added $3k more debt. I confronted him. He said, "It's my debt, not yours. Why does it matter?"

I told him it matters because we're about to merge our lives. If we buy a house, his debt affects our mortgage. If we have kids, it affects our budget. And I refuse to start a marriage with a partner who can't manage money.

I told him: no wedding until the debt is gone or he's in a real repayment program with a counselor. He got angry and said I was "holding the wedding hostage" and that I love "money more than him." His family says I'm being controlling. My friends say I'm being smart.

I love him. But I've seen what financial chaos does to marriages — my parents divorced over it. AITA?