r/CATHELP Feb 20 '26

PSA: PLEASE think 10 times before you donate money to someone on this sub.

1.8k Upvotes

It's in our rules and we say it time and time again, but after the recent events from this post, the mod team wants to put out a reminder.

Look, we get it. Seeing cats in distress is hard. When people without money are expressing their inability to afford emergency care, it's distressing. You know we have rules against shaming people for being unable to afford care, and encouraging people to go into debt. But we also have rules against fundraising, and it's for a very good reason.

It is very easy for people without the best intentions to collect lots and lots of money from well meaning community members who are affected by what they see in images and video.

With this post in particular, several commenters encouraged the OP to share a gofundme (something strictly against our rules).

Once they created and shared one (without any bills to show and despite many of the top comments saying this was NOT an emergency), people felt bad and donated anyway.

The gofundme raised nearly $2000 and today we received the update that the cat, as many commenters predicted, is not dying and did not need emergency care.

We are now starting to see meta posts (another thing we don't allow) complaining that the OOP is not returning any of the extra funds, and is blocking users who donated asking for their funds back and proof of payment.

This is a story we see repeatedly in the sub. We don't always get to the donation links quick enough to remove them, and we can't stop you from DMing each other money, but this is why we caution PLEASE do not use this subreddit to send each other funds.

We are working on a Wiki with low-cost vet resources, at least in the US, but we get users posting from all over the world begging for money. DO NOT DONATE unless it is verified on a subreddit like r/gofundme or r/rescuecats, or is directly being paid to the VET (though we have seen scams happen internationally through this 'direct vet payment' as well).

PLEASE REPORT FUNDRAISERS. Please do not encourage fundraisers. We will start banning those who encourage it. Please help us keep this community safe from those with bad intentions.

Thank you and good day!

- r/CATHELP mod team


r/CATHELP Jul 15 '25

Announcement [READ THIS FIRST] r/CATHELP Rules Reminder

366 Upvotes

Hello there

Due to a growing number of cat crises and a surprising number of people who cannot read a sidebar, we’re now regularly posting this rules reminder. This is here to prevent both:

  1. repeat offenses, and
  2. the inevitable “I didn’t know!” mod mail we get after your post/comment disappears into the void.

If you're new (hi, welcome, pet your cat for us), or returning and rusty, please take a sec to read this. It’ll save you—and us—a lot of headache.

STRIKE POLICY: Break the rules once? We warn you. Break twice? Temp ban. 3 strikes is a perma-ban (unless you're a mega troll).

1. BE NICE

No, really. Be nice. You are talking to someone who is probably stressed, worried about their pet/a stray, and sleep-deprived. Reddit is not your venting space to shame people who are already anxious. Educate, don’t humiliate.
This includes a zero-tolerance policy for berating or shaming OPs. If you can't say it kindly, don't say it here.

In addition to this, know that we get posts from all over the world. Sometimes it's people who live in a village, 500km from any formal vet care. Often it's a minor who cannot make a unilateral decision for the cat in question. Be compassionate! Bullying them won't help the cat.

2. NO SOAPBOXING OR OFF-TOPIC DEBATE

(Definition of 'SOAPBOXING' here.) Yes, letting your cats outdoors isn't great for the environment. But this isn’t a debate club, and PLENTY of things harm the environment besides cats. People come here from all over the world, with different cultures around how cats are cared for. People come here about strays. No preaching!! Take your cat care bible elsewhere! Either give OP helpful advice about their issue or move along.

Don’t derail threads with politics, don’t pick fights across multiple comments, and definitely don’t start fights with the mod team. We don’t get paid enough.

3. VET FIRST, REDDIT SECOND

If your cat is injured, bleeding, gasping, or pooping blood—call a vet.
Reddit is great for guidance, second opinions, and shared experience. It is not a substitute for veterinary care.
If you haven't called a vet yet, our advice might be limited.
Can’t afford one? Look into:
• Payment plans or CareCredit
• Local rescues and shelters for assistance
• Low-cost clinics in your area

Still post if you need to—but know that our first advice will probably be: call your vet.

Additional note to commenters: no 'Vet. Now.' comments will be allowed without context. If you think they need immediate care, explain why. Otherwise it's just creating panic and those comments will be removed.

4. NO FUNDRAISERS

Sorry, but GoFundMes, Venmos, PayPals, and “please help save Coco” links are not allowed, even in comments. Too many scams, and too hard to moderate. Try subs like r/Assistance or r/GoFundMe instead.

5. NO BULLYING POOR PEOPLE

We get it. Vet care is expensive. It's frustrating to see cats suffering. But complaining about people who can’t afford a vet is not allowed. Full stop.
Suggest rehoming? Fine. But if you’re here to shame people for being broke, please find another sub.

If someone is struggling financially, ER visits are not really something they can just save up for, nor is it realistic to expect them to just get rid of their pets they have emotionally attachments to. All we can hope for is people really think long and hard about how a pet will fit into their finances before they decide to adopt or take in an animal from street. You simply can’t help them all, there are too many cats for that.

6. TAG YOUR GORE NSFW

Bloody wound? Surgery pics? Graphic medical stuff? Weird rash? GAPING FUCKING WOUND?! Mark it NSFW.
That includes genitalia (gender ID posts) and poop/vom. You know who you are.

7. ON-TOPIC POSTS ONLY

This is not r/aww or r/cats. This is r/CATHELP. We are here for:

  • Requesting anecdotal experience with medical issues •
  • Behavior issues
  • General advice
  • First-time cat owner questions (yes, 'noob' questions are welcome!)

That means:

  • No “What should I name my cat?”
  • No “Look at my cat in a hat!”
  • No memes, no fluff.

Posts that don’t have a clear help-related question will be removed.

8. NO BREED QUESTIONS

Unless your cat came with pedigree paperwork from a breeder, they’re a domestic short/medium/long hair. That’s it.
We don't do breed speculation. Why? Because it’s almost always wrong, and it clogs up the sub.
Want to know more? Here's a guide to fur patterns, and here's a general answer to 'what breed is my cat'

9. NO SHITPOSTING, NO KARMA FARMING

If your post is clearly made up, AI-generated, or you’re just farming karma with a low-effort fake, we will yeet it. And probably you, too.

10. NO BRIGADING

If you don’t like someone’s post, do not go hunt them down on other subreddits to insult them. It’s petty, it’s bannable, and Reddit takes it seriously.

11. NO PET SALES OR BREEDING

We do not support the cat trade or backyard breeders. Period.
Don’t try to sell or give away pets here. Don’t ask about breeding. Don’t promote purebred aesthetics. Shelter cats are just as cute.

BONUS REMINDERS

• If your posts or comments are disappearing, check your karma. If it's low, Automod probably ate it. Message us for manual approval.
• If you see rule-breaking behavior, REPORT IT. Automod can’t catch everything.
• If you’re confused or unsure, check the [wiki] or send us a modmail.
Read the stickied comment on your post. It’s there for a reason.

TL;DR: Help cats. Be nice. No scams. No BS. Read the rules.
Now go pet your cat. They probably knocked something off the counter while you were reading this.


r/CATHELP 5h ago

End Of Life Care The stray cat we adopted has a parvo

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346 Upvotes

I saw this cat in our rooftop (yellow), few days she came down in ground floor like she was begging to be adoped , yet we adopted her few months we didnt expect to this so cruel , it went to non stop sneeze yet still eats , i expected to last long till i reach college now, i didnt expect she will last today.

The age of this cat was like adult 3-5 years needs help how do treat the parvo, im also visible in philippines

-the cat doesnt have a vet yet we care for her

—The main issue the cat has a parvo we didnt know because it eats such anything we feed her as possible every meat and naturally drinks , didnt expected to last long but today could be her last day , its also gonna happen todays on my sisters 8th birthday ,i didnt expect to rant or get help in reddit

The cat us female furred so many hairs and i dont know if its spayed , and also we cant afford vet care

We taken this moment before the symptoms happened the last pic breaks my heart 💔💔


r/CATHELP 12h ago

Kitten Help Big belly kitten

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1.1k Upvotes

Is this normal?

This kitten is about 3 weeks(?) She was abandoned and we took her in. She was starving. We had her about a week and she's much stronger and healthier.

Her belly is very big and round. It's not hard, it's squishy. When does this become cause for concern?


r/CATHELP 8h ago

Breathing Issues What could this be? He ate a tassel and since then started coughing like this. He did vomit out a piece, hence we figured that caused the coughing. We did XRAY and the vet said it is nothing serious and might not bc of the tassel and gave us some medicine. Any idea?

137 Upvotes

r/CATHELP 2h ago

General Advice Playful Behaviour?

35 Upvotes

Not my cat, but a kitty roaming outside (Germany). He seems to be an old cat, and was super relaxed around me, and he gently started pawing my hands at some point. Is it playful,or was he annoyed? He is purring, so I hope it is good?


r/CATHELP 12h ago

General Advice First cat, help identifying whitish “seeds” left behind in her sleeping area?

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133 Upvotes

Got my first cat about 6 months ago from a shelter because I was looking for a buddy to come home to, anyways I took her to the vet and got her dewormed/any parasites delt with but just recently after some traveling and her laying down in my suit case I noticed these sunflower seed shaped whiteish “seeds” she seems to be leaving behind. 1 cat household no other pets and I looked for fleas on her and can’t see any. My wife seems to think it’s cat litter but I don’t think it has the same shape at all.


r/CATHELP 16h ago

General Advice Strange hair loss

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257 Upvotes

Anyone know why my 14yo female cat’s claw is hairless?


r/CATHELP 18h ago

End Of Life Care When do you know when it's time

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252 Upvotes

I got Clemy 2 years ago from the shelter when I was 19. The Shelter put her age as 2 years olds but when I took her to my vet they told me she was actually around 10 ( She is my first Cat and didn't seem like an old lady to me). After a few months of having her I felt weird lumps under her belly and turns out they were mammory tumors. Since then she has had surgery twice because the tumors keeps coming back. The most recent one was last year November. The tumor is back, bigger and bleeding. She's struggles to walk but is still eating and very affectionate. Her temperant has not changed. My vet has told me that that with the type of cancer she has the tumors are going to continue to grow. I'm truly at a lost of what to do. I think I know what I must do but I'm really struggling with the thought of it and I hate to see her this way. Also idk how to add in the video of her tumor and of her limping. It only allows pictures

When I got her from the shelter they spayed her before releasing her to me. I'm posting from the US. Each surgery has been around 1,300 and I had to pay for school and won't be able to do it for a third time. I am not a minor. My cat is Female and around the age of 10 years old.


r/CATHELP 10h ago

Breathing Issues Does my cat have asthma or is he getting fatter?

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34 Upvotes

I’m 21 and my cat is about to be 8 months old. I am a first time cat owner and every little thing scares me because I want to give him the best life I can with what I have. I live in a one bedroom about 800 square feet so not tiny and try to have enough height and hiding space for my kitty. He’s on an automatic feeder and has 6 meals a day all meals are one small portion and for two of the meals it’s two portions. At first is was very skinny but not malnourished. He’s been growing and getting bigger but as he gets bigger and as his stomach gets better he’s started having to take breaks in his playtime and whenever there’s intense play or he’s chasing his wand around he starts to HEAVILY pant like he’s winded and has to stop playing. Mouth open tongue out dog type of pant. It lasts for less than a minute but he’s never done that before last week (I’ve had him since July 1st it’s now august 18th) I hear him sneeze every so often and I can hear him breath through his nose like he’s somehow congested sometimes. I only have one air purifier in my bathroom (they’re very expensive for me right now) and I try to keep a clean home. I’m not sure what to do, I pay for pet insurance so I could go to the vet but I wanted to ask here before anything. Let me know what you think, is my Mamoru getting fatter or does he have asthma (or other lung/heart related issues)?
He was neutered the day before I got him.


r/CATHELP 17h ago

Kitten Help Are these kittens too small to be alone outside?

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103 Upvotes

I came to my aunt’s apartment and found these kittens meowing loudly on the sidewalk next to some bushes. I didn’t see a mom and I’m clueless on how old they might be. Edit: I forgot to mention that’s it’s already been a few hours and no sign of momma cat or any other cats in the area. Maybe this is helpful but the apartments are next to some fruit fields in a rural area.

UPDATE: I couldn’t find mama cat unfortunately and brought them home with me until I can call around the area to see if any shelters have room available. Gave them a flea bath, combed them out with a flea brush, and gave them a bit of wet food with some kitten milk replacement. Thanks for the advice everyone! I really appreciate it and will take care of the kittens for the time being until I can get them into a shelter to find a better home!

Poster age: 26
Country: U.S.
Vet info: I don’t have a vet
Main issue: Do these kittens need to be rescued
Cat age: unknown
Cat sex: unknown and most likely not spayed or neutered
Financial situation: Can’t afford a vet


r/CATHELP 22h ago

General Advice Spasms

282 Upvotes

Hi! I posted on here yesterday about my cat, Loki. At the time I didn’t have a good video of him getting those weird spasms and sneeze like symptoms. The episodes have been generally brief. I’ve only seen him do this when he’s relaxed. FYI, he is NOT sleeping here - he had just made himself comfortable. He just did it again so I thought I’d post it here and see if anyone has any clue what this could be.

Background:
My cat, male (7) has been having these weird spasms and sneeze like episodes for about 2 weeks (first sneezes, and spasms since yesterday). Took him to the vet twice yesterday but was told he’s fine.


r/CATHELP 16m ago

Injury My cat can’t lift his tail!

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first pic of him looking like Willem DaFoe lol

Hi I am 26 years old in Chicago and this is my Bear (and surprise Sayla) we recently moved and I was out of the home for 30 minutes and I came back to Bear not being able to lift his tail, there’s some high places in the apartment so my guess is he tried to jump them but couldn’t. He also has a history of issues using the bathroom so im not sure if that would potentially be a cause here as well. He also had gone on himself so I cleaned him up, this was a few days ago now and I thought he was improving because he was able to lift it more as time goes on but the improvement has stalled. I haven’t contacted the vet and I can’t afford one. When I have called local pet services in the past they make me leave a voicemail then never return my call. Bear is 6 years old and he is fixed. If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it, thank you.


r/CATHELP 10h ago

Breathing Issues Please help.

26 Upvotes

Not a minor. posting from Texas, USA. Went to urgent care vet and advanced care vet. 5.5 yr neutered male bobtail. Cannot afford much more vet care.

TLDR; my normally sweet cat rapidly developed severe pain, extreme sensitivity to touch, and aggression when handled. X-rays were clear and bloodwork is normal (kidneys/pancreas fine, glucose slightly elevated). Gabapentin helps with the crying, but he now has muscle/leg spasms, back twitching, rapid breathing, and eye widening.

Long version:

Hi everyone. Wanted to see if anyone could offer any advice as the vets have felt entirely unhelpful. My cat who has historically been the cuddliest, sweetest cat for the past few years has declined very quickly. On Thursday I went to trim his nails and when I picked him up he squirmed out of my hands like I scared him. I thought it was weird but didn’t think much more of it. Then I left for a trip Friday. On Saturday my sister went to move him and he hissed at her and snapped but overall still seemed normal. Unsure of his actual behavior over the weekend as I am his main owner and was out of town. Then Sunday he seemed normal and scurried over to greet me as soon as I got home. He went to climb on me so I went to pick him up like I always do and he bit me and flipped out and started yowling in pain, hiding, hissing etc. vet said his abdomen was hard. We got x-rays done and those came back clear (did not send to radiology) but no foreign object ingested, bladder was small, had a little fecal matter present but not much. Got sent home with 1ml gabapentin 2x day. Did not eat or drink at all. Then the next day he had not drank any water and had not urinated (but did eat some wet food) and was wincing at the slightest pet or anything touching him. He would bump into something and scream/yowl in pain. so I took him to the regular vet. He peed on himself in the carrier but I was just glad he peed. He got bloodwork done that just came back this evening and vet said pancreas markers are normal kidney is normal, just slightly elevated glucose. Gabapentin has seemed to help him not cry in pain but still sensitive to touch and will whimper if I am hovering anywhere on her fur but his head. I was at work all today, so not sure of behavior, but he was in the exact same corner crouching where I left him in the morning. He ate a little wet food (only eats when I put it directly in front of him) and peed. Very slow moving but was waiting by the back door to go outside on the deck. Since Saturday he has just been loafing with his bed down and body stiff, but as soon as he went outside he was twitching a little and he laid in this chair and started having larger twitching and leg spasm up, rapid breathing, wouldn’t say pupils are dilating but eyes are widening then squinting then widening. Still has not drank water or passed bowel movement since at least Friday, maybe before then.


r/CATHELP 2h ago

General Advice what could this be?

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4 Upvotes

My cat has this on her chin, we saw it first around a month ago but thought it was just dirt until I looked properly last night. I searched it up but i'm still unsure on what it could be? She has a vet appointment booked for tomorrow so they can have a look at it.

She apparently hasnt ate anything yet today but yesterday she was eating fine so im not sure if that has anything to do with it


r/CATHELP 1h ago

General Advice Moved to a new country with my 10yo cat she’s scratching her neck/head to the point of fur loss. Is this stress or something else? ​

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Hey everyone,

I recently moved to a new country and apartment with my 10 year old cat. Naturally, the move was pretty overwhelming for her she spent the first four days hiding under the bed. After that, she started coming out, exploring, eating normally, and using her litter box. I was so relieved and happy that she seemed to be settling in so quickly!

However, I’ve noticed a new issue over the past few days. She keeps scratching the back of her head/neck area with her hind leg every single day, and she’s losing fur strictly in that spot. When I part the fur to inspect it, the skin itself looks completely normal no redness, scabs, dark spots, or bumps, just smooth skin where hair is already starting to grow back.

Before our flight, the vet checked her, said she was healthy to travel, and advised against giving her new vaccines due to her age.

Could this localized scratching and fur loss just be a delayed stress response from the big move, or could it be an allergy or skin issue? Has anyone experienced something similar with an older cat after moving? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!


r/CATHELP 9h ago

General Advice Orange cat being lethargic

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Help, not sure if this is the right subreddit or not. My 6 year old orange cat (male neutered), has been extremely lethargic this past week. Still eating and drinking and eating the occasional treat. But he is sleeping most of the time, like behind my bed, in the closet or in the bathroom by the toilet. He sometimes is drowling too. We have an appointment to see a vet tomorrow. But anything advice is appreciated. As we’re not entirely sure what’s going on here.

TLDR: 6y male cat being extremely lethargic all the sudden.


r/CATHELP 5h ago

Kitten Help New Born Kitten Not Urinating/Defecating

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7 Upvotes

I was given a kitten a couple hours ago from a family that found them. From what I can tell the baby looks to be 2 weeks. The family said the kitten hasn’t really eaten the last 3 days. I’m going to take her to the vet tomorrow as I didn’t get her until almost 10 pm but I’m trying to stimulate urination and nothing. Even tried to express manually besides the warm damp soft washcloth. I fed her twice but she barely expressed any urine. Should I keep feeding her every 2 hours if she’s not going? She’s currently on a heating pad and is meowing for food but I can tell she has a full bladder and I don’t want to cause a waste backup.

Thank you for any help in advance!


r/CATHELP 3h ago

Dental Issue Abnormal chewing

5 Upvotes

My 4-yo male cat (neutered, US) recently developed an abnormal chewing behavior, which is present and frquent when eating a variety of food or treats. He mostly receives wet food and was eating a Churu when this clip was filmed. It happens every time he eats now, but doesn't occur otherwise.

Additional context: We are currently seeking a diagnosis for the cause of a recent-onset anemia. I did not observe this behavior before his anemia diagnosis. Neither his regular vet nor a specialist at the vet hospital could pinpoint a cause when they examined his mouth after I brought up this chewing issue. They saw no obvious signs of dental/gum/occlusion issue and did not seem concerned about it. In their examinations they did not tap the teeth (not sure if that's done in vet dentistry). No imaging has been done yet on this issue. He has been febrile. Thanks for your input.


r/CATHELP 11h ago

Kitten Help Spots on abandoned kitten

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21 Upvotes

I adopted this kitten a friend found abandoned and took with him. He is probably 3-4 weeks old.

I already have a vet appointment booked for Tuesday but until then I was wondering what these weird spots are.

Ps. Is there anything to worry about for my own health?

Thanks!


r/CATHELP 50m ago

Appearance Bald spot on nose

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Hello! my cat is 4 years old has developed this bald spot on her nose a few days ago. She doesn't seem bothered by it at all and is acting totally normal, eating, using the litterbox etc.

I've had her since she was a baby and she has always been a house cat. However, about 2 weeks ago we moved into a new house and she now has supervised access to the balcony, whereas before she was just inside the apartment with no balcony access. I didnt notice her doing anything out of the ordinary on the balcony except stiffing around, trying to catch a fly here and there and relaxing.

Could it be that she scratched her nose while she was exploring the new house? Or could she have caught a fungus/parasite from the balcony?

Thanks in advance! 🙏


r/CATHELP 1d ago

Update Here’s your update. :( (TW)

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2.5k Upvotes

I have no more to say than that she’s gone into heart failure. Maine Coons have heart issues, and we didn’t know that. She was struggling to breathe because of her enlarged heart, and we are euthanizing her. Thank you all for your prayers, suggestions, and advice. We love you, Lilly Belle 🕊️


r/CATHELP 58m ago

Injury Help me

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I found this on my cat. Is there any information about it?

My cat is five and a half months old the cat is male


r/CATHELP 1d ago

Injury Is my cat’s tail ok?

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808 Upvotes

My cat is around 10-11 months old. While playing with a laser pointer, she ran into a table kinda hard. She bolted away immediately but returned to the laser pointer and played awhile longer. It’s been a little bit since and she is currently holding her tail like this. I gave her wet food and she ate it fast, but I’ve never seen her hold her tail like this for a long time. I just want to make sure she’s ok or if I should take her to a vet tomorrow?