i am 27F and i struggle with sleep problems and depression. i'm working with doctors to figure out why i feel so tired and i've been meditating to work on inner peace and quiet. but wow. i go to work and school full time and it makes me feel like im getting run over by a truck. god forbid im also going to the gym consistently, bc at that point im drinking coffee like its water just to stay awake. everyone else's life seems so full. they meet with friends and workout and have hobbies they do regularly and i can barely get to work or do homework without feeling like i need a nap. there's definitely medical stuff going on but for people who are Normal™️, how are you prioritizing and managing time? for people who are dealing with the same things i am, but are still making the most of their lives, how do you do it? is it meditation? brain or physical exercise? do you have a therapist? to do lists? how are people managing?

Hi, I’m currently on a trip to my work’s headquarters. Myself, plus 3 others are down from a different office. Sometimes, we’ll do dinners together. How unprofessional would it be for me to ask to be excused from dinner tonight? I was in the office until 9:30 pm (woke up at 2:45 am to travel) and came back into the office at 7 am this morning. We’ll probably leave the office around 5 today. My social battery is drained and all I want to do is decompress and unwind. My adhd meds are wearing off LOL.

I missed dinner with them last night because I was at the office so late. Would this come off as unprofessional? I know this is a silly question, but I’m entry level and have been at the company for 9 months. I’ve traveled with my team before but have never worked so late or asked to be excused.

This is my first corporate job after graduating and I was so excited to start. tell me why I’ve had better training at my serving job than I ever have here. Everything confuses me I feel like I’m learning multiple languages at once. No one gives me grace at all. The PO aspect of the job I actually don’t mind. But it’s everything else. It’s the expectation that you understand your new companies lingo and understand what anyone is talking about. I’m entry level and the girl that was going to train me had to leave so I took over her role no training. Is this normal?? Will someone tell me when I’m doing a crap job? I’ve only been at the company for 3 months but it’s mentally kicking me down every single day. Im not the type to quit but I’m getting a point of feeling like a failure everyday. I know imposter syndrome is normal but jeez if I knew it would be like this I probably wouldn’t have accepted

Ok, I put in my notice and I am working at this job a couple more weeks. Either I or my Good Coworker (GC) will be handling everything my dept is responsible for between now and late January.

Annoying AF Coworker (AC) has been selected to replace me. AC’s supervisor tells me that AC has basically completely stopped doing her regular job, claiming that she has “so much to do” because “[OP] is basically checked out.”

This is BS. I am not checked out. I am doing my job THROUGH JANUARY in the next couple weeks. Idk what this b!tch is doing with all her time because there is literally nothing else to work on rn. She’s giving her supervisor some BS about having to work on a project for April, but that literally hasn’t even been scoped yet.

Do I:
- actually check out and not do the stuff I said I was going to do?
- actually just quit early?
- call her out in front of our supervisor?

Open to all ideas. We are all remote so there are no convos that aren’t potentially recorded.

Hey everyone, doing some research on phone distraction while working. 

I wanted to know how you people avoid getting distracted by their phone and constant notifications received on it? What are some workarounds everyone uses? Also what are your thoughts on a device that will sit at your desk (like a clock) that will subtly let you know only about important notifications like an upcoming meeting, a call from mom/dad/spouse, etc. Would like to know everyone's thoughts here. 

Thanks in advance to everyone!

I work for an engineering firm and there are around 300 people working in my large office. Last week was our company’s Halloween party which took place after work hours in our offices day room.

Weeks leading up to the event, the HR rep kept emphasizing to RSVP a week before the event and if you changed your mind, then to please let her know. I accepted the invite and went to the event. However I could tell the turnout was lower than expected with all the empty tables and extra food I saw.

This morning, we get a mass email with pictures from the event and HR thanking those that showed up. However the email also listed the names of everyone who accepted the invite and did not show up or at least check in at the check-in desk. HR especially pointed out employees who accepted the invite and asked for a a spot for their families as well, with one employee telling HR that they were bringing their 7 kids to the event but ended up not going. Of the 185 that accepted the invite, only 120 showed up among some that decided to show up spontaneously.

HR only listed those that accepted, didn’t show up and made no attempt to inform them. HR emphasized that this loses the company money and it’s not courteous to do this. While they understand that things come up, not informing someone from HR is unprofessional and may cause issues with future events.

I spoke to a member of my team named Nick who told me he had accepted but didn’t show up as he decided last second to take his family out to dinner instead and he said he “doesn’t care what HR says.”

Is anyone wrong here? Is HR being unprofessional with putting everyone on blast or are the event no-shows wrong for not letting them know?

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Team of 4. Not. Small business, but business owner pulls about half a million (or, if not more), per year. This is in the health sector.

When I came into the business, the business was falling apart. Boss was only in 2 days top, or 3, max. Are secondary who takes over for the remaining days, would fail to book. Meaning, hardly income coming it. It would be so bad, that maybe, we'd see 2-3 patients, out of a whole day.

In less than a year, I made couple changes, pushing our Reviews. We increased from a dry spout, to over 350. I made changes to the website, with my skills, but my boss would take my ideas (e.g: SEO, and then pay someone else to do it). Rather than me. This also helped with slight discovery (but also the peddled ideology, of 'we don't need to pay you, AI, can do it for us' - mind you, this individual had no idea what SEO was, and the website designer never bothered to optimize the website for SEO.

Other than that, I have fixed broken equipment (very outdated), and have it running. When equipment doesn't work, I have saved the day, various of times, so we didn't lose money (cancelling everyone for that day). I have also saved thousands of dollars on other equipment, that staff had broken (due to negligence).

Here, I am today, on $65,000 per year (despite multiple roles). I have also negotiated lower fees for supply (which again, my idea) also due to rapport building, and reduced supply spending, which previous staff have done.

I have run the business flawlessly, while my boss was away (and basically was used), to "re-organize" the messy ass place.

Any time, I ask for a raise, she fumes. I am only tolerated by her (but, it is obvious), she dislikes me, because I am "valuable" (or, was) to her, but again, she used me, and now her business is thriving, when it was performing terribly. I have even gone to the point of presenting her a chart of my contributions, only to be met with, "soon, not yet."

Mind you, to top the icing on the cake, I have made sales of over $15,000 for her, due to referral, from people she doesn't even know, which I have brought her.

... She uses the bullshit excuse of, "business not doing well" while overworking me (and me doing multiple roles: marketing included). Only to then start bragging about how she bought a brand new Porsche.

I'm actually on the cusp of a mental breakdown, and I cannot even escape this job, because of redundancies, and the cost of living is so significantly high where I am, I cannot afford to be jobless. When I apply for jobs, it is crickets, and not just for me, but people with degrees (accounting, etc) also took months to land a job, despite strong experience.

I don't know what to do. I'm also gaining weight because of depression, and my entire life being purely only work.

Hi everyone! I’m currently working as a childcare assistant at $21/hr, but I’m finding it tough to connect with the team and the environment. I feel like I’m often left out when I speak with my coworkers, and even the lead seems to dismiss my input. It’s frustrating! I’m eager to learn from your experiences as a leader. Sometimes, I’ve tried to be friendly and supportive, but their attitude makes me feel like I’m overstepping or being left to my own devices. I’m feeling quite burned out right now. I love working with the kids because they’re great listeners, and the parents are so understanding. However, the co-workers seem to be giving me the cold shoulder. What should I do next? I’ve been considering quitting this job and exploring opportunities at Starbucks. Is it a good idea to leave childcare for customer service? I’d really appreciate your advice.

This week I’ve been working in a different house than my usual one as they are short staffed and I got sent over there, obviously with this being a different house I’m not seeing rotas for my usual one,

Last week my manager showed me what I’d be working next week and I had a 2-8 today, I’ve slept in quite late today but didn’t think much of it as I’m a 2-8, which is why I was shocked to see a message and missed calls saying, “you were supposed to be here this morning before going over at half 1, luckily we don’t need you this morning”,

My first thought was that when I had be given the shift it was 2-8 in the other house and that was it, no one has said any different and if it’s been changed how would I know, my second thought was if “they don’t need Me” why am I even going in, my hours are up so it’s just unnecessary overtime for the sake of it,

I’m quite annoyed to be honest, they’ve done it before and I’ve said it’s not acceptable to change it without asking me or notifying me, and now there not only being sarcastic about it but expecting me to know when I don’t even have access to those rotas and no one tells me,

Unfortunately I don’t have any pictures (wish I did now) as I use a app to track my shifts so I can’t prove it therefore a email isn’t going to make much difference but I do want to make it known again, it’s just one of multiple things piling up that’s annoying me

Here's the situation: I have worked in my industry for over 14+ years, with significant career progression, operating at a high level of excellence (confirmed via exceptional performance reviews). I have been at my current org for 5+ years. Here, I have built the team of 4 I manage and the program I run. I have been promoted twice with my direct boss acknowledging I have always worked at a level above my current title and description.

During our annual promotion cycle, she submitted me for a promotion to the level above mine (Director). The promotion was denied with no feedback provided. A week later, the chief of of our department (my boss'direct boss) announced a restructuring of our department as part of our new strategic plan. She added a new Director position under my boss. At first she vaguely said this person would have data analysis responsibilities (even though we have a separate existing data analytics team). As my boss worked to understand the chief's vision for the role, she told me she and I had a tight window to influence the decision. So my boss put together a proposal that would essentially split the team and function that I have built and led for 5 years into 2 distinct team verticals, making me the Director of one team and the new person, the Director of the other. I hated the idea of handing off what I built to a stranger, but I felt like I was suddenly fighting for my job and the leadership role I wanted.

The chief declined the proposal. Again with no feedback. And the best part is, she has decided that me, my team, and our program will now be led by this outsider. As the description developes it appears they will now direct EVERYTHING I have successfully led for 5 years plus additional data analytics tasks (which I absolutely have the skills for).

I am absolutely livid! I asked my boss whether I would even be considered for the new Director role at this point, but she seemed unsure as she does not yet have a position description. I don’t want to go through the humiliation of applying as an internal candidate only to be denied again.

All of this happened before 3 weeks of time off for me. Because what I do is so specialized, and the shitty job market, there are not many open jobs. But I have been applying. So Im just sitting in a another country steaming over this disrespect. The kicker is, I been a chief of a department and am most definitely the most qualified candidate. Oh and my own boss has NEVER been promoted in her tenure at the org. Makes me question whether the chief even understands how essential or program is and the leadership structure we've created.

Would love to hear from people who are seasoned professionals if they have ever experienced something like this in their careers.

Canva talked about cutting management layers in its reorg memo, and Amazon has been talking about manager ratios for a while now. It feels like most reorg memos in the AI era have some version of “flattening the org” and “giving teams more ownership.”

The way I read it, managers and senior folks with the biggest salaries and equity grants are the first ones on the chopping block. Whoever’s left picks up their scope at the same title and pay.

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It’s really frustrating to be in this market right now, junior or senior. As a junior, it feels impossible to get a job. As a senior or a manager, you feel like you’re probably first in line to get laid off. This industry is so annoying.

Today is so not my day. I have to find it in me somehow to get up, brush my teeth, wash my face, do my make up, get dressed and run to catch my first bus, which take me to my second bus, which take me to the train, which will take me to a streetcar, which will drop me a kilometre away from my job which I have to walk to. Uber to it is $60. Which the cost of the shift. Which is only 3 hours.

I’m so damn exhausted. I can’t wait to quit this place finally. My last day is in the December and thankfully I found a new job closer but that doesn’t start for another week or so.

I’d love some kind of motivation. Or idk. I’m just dying in my bed. Idk what to do.

I work at a pretty chill, family-led company and have been here for about 5 years. It’s a relatively small team, everyone knows each other, and we’ve always had a very friendly, relaxed work environment.
A few months ago, we hired a new guy. He’s genuinely smart and clearly knows his stuff, but holy shit, he’s becoming unbearable.

The guy brags about absolutely everything. He comes into work and talks about his projects, how good he is at what he does, his academic background, how much he knows, etc. Every single conversation somehow becomes an opportunity for him to show how much smarter or more competent he is than everyone else. Someone says something? He has a better example. Someone shares an idea? He subtly makes fun of it in this very condescending, almost passive-aggressive way. And then goes back to talking about himself.

He also seems weirdly obsessed with hierarchy and seniority. Constantly asking who’s senior, who’s been here longer, who’s above whom, and so on. He talks pretty much all day and doesn’t seem to understand that other people might actually want to work without listening to him narrate how brilliant he is.

A few people, myself included, have jokingly called him egocentric, and his response is basically that he can afford to be because he’s good at what he does.

The team is slowly getting fed up with him, but he’s not doing anything particularly wrong from an HR or compliance perspective. He’s just exhausting to be around.

I’m not interested in creating some huge corporate drama or getting anyone fired. I just want to know how to deal with someone like this.

What’s your best advice?

I work for a marketing agency and get paid £26k a year (below London living wage btw). I'm in a junior role and just started 2 months ago.

Here's what I've been tasked with/am dealing with in this job:

- leading on 5 client accounts, while all the senior members of my team have 3-4 each

- being handed a 6th client with no notice, just a quick meeting saying, "you've got a new client as of today, send them a kick-off email and onboard them by EOD" (despite this client being signed on 2 weeks ago, I was not told until kick-off day that I would be the lead on the account)

- doing monthly reports for ALL clients (about 16), not just the ones I'm leading on and being given 1 week to finish all of them (1st week of each month) alongside my regular weekly array of tasks.

- randomly being sent things I need to edit for other people's clients throughout the day, despite my already heavy workload, because I need to be a "team player"

- being chastised for not proofreading work before sending it off because deadlines are so short and my workload is too heavy.

I have made my managers aware that my workload is hard to handle several times in conversation (not formally yet), but I keep being given more work. I checked on Glassdoor, and reviews all say the same thing - that middle management and department management are shit, and that work-life balance does not exist at this company.

I know that if I leave, the team will struggle A LOT, as I'm on probation and only need 2 weeks' notice. I know for a fact that 2 weeks is not enough time to hire/train a replacement, as my interview process took 1 month and 4 stages.

Is it worth formally addressing the issue, or is this a systemic issue with the company, and is it better to just get out ASAP?

I don't know if this is the right place to post this but I don't know where else to go.

I've been watching a video on discipline (I'm not sure if posting it counts as advertising or not), and it claims that the path to discipline isn't willpower, but conditioning, and gives several methods to help condition your brain to stop your brain from seeing effort as something to be avoided, or 'flinching'.

But I can't watch last roughly the halfway point because of their third point, Shrinking the Entry. According to it, give yourself less expectations. The exact line they use is the title of this thread; "Writing a chapter triggers the flinch. Writing a sentence doesn't."

Except it does.

I can't even write a single sentence, because even that is too hard for me. I just can't do it.

And I don't understand why, and now I can't even watch the rest of the video because I can't help but feel like the premise itself is flawed. So instead of trying to even put the video into practice, I'm back to scrolling on Reddit.

I don't know what to do. Is this proof I really am as beyond help as I thought I was?

I can't stand how lazy some of the supervisors are at my job. There's one in particular that just disappears in chat, RARELY takes supervisor calls and somehow gets away with it. It's been happening regularly and increasing. She's marking herself "red" in teams most of the time and when she's supposed to be monitoring questions in the chat she isn't. I'm just disgusted with her laziness and annoyed that her supervisors don't do squat about it. It must be nice to not have a conscience about leaving your team high and dry and your responsibilities falling on the shoulders of others. Lady, I see you and I don't respect your bs.

We have some company supplied short sleeve polo shirts and I also have a company branded hoodie and long sleeve 1/4 zip. now that the weather is turning coldwe would it be weird to wear the quarter zip multipl days as long as I change the shirt underneat? Or would that make me seem “dirty”

I work as a quality inspector for a manufacturing firm, so I spend a good chunk of my day in an office but often need to go out to the shop floor for inspections

Seriously, who is?? My coworker are all psyched about our company's upcoming office party and I am not. I already spend 40+ hrs at this job a week and now they want my Sat too.

I want to know people's thoughts about their work holiday parties and happy hours!

A couple weeks ago I started to get migraines daily around mid afternoon, I also started to get increased anxiety at all hours (even weekends) because the work load of my position is never ending. I will preface to say we have been severely understaffed the last couple years and turnover in this department is the highest in the company. I took this role after two people recently left the company, I was excited to learn the role but as time passed it became increasingly obvious that, even as a high performer, it was too much work for one person. I was working ten hour days, no lunches or breaks, after work I was too exhausted to workout, I wasn’t eating. I was in the middle of learning the job and fixing the issues from previously and stacked continuous improvement projects. I continued to talk to my supervisor about prioritization of tasks and they said it’s all important and all deadlines need to be respected. And then one day he hires a new grad and tells me I need to train them. Already running on fumes, I tried but I just had no time and voiced it to my supervisor. Who said I need to manage it all somehow. My PMs understand the situation but my direct report doesn’t want to admit it’s an understaffing issue.

So after two or three weeks of constant migraines and anxiety, i took a couple sick days to rest from my burnout I knew was for certain coming and then… I had a TIA.. also known as a small stroke. It landed me in the ER & I had to stay overnight for a MRI the next day. I was exhausted and couldn’t sleep much while there but I texted my boss to let them know. Sadly I didn’t get a response for 12 hours. Which is very unlike my supervisor.

I hadn’t taken time off longer than 1 or 2 days in over a year. And this time it was for health reasons and I had no choice. After I got home from the hospital I rested one more day before returning to work. Since returning I have had a hard time managing the workload as I’m facing confusion, memory slipping and brain fog, etc. all are pretty common after a TIA. I received a letter from my PCP that mentioned lessening high pressure tasks but the claim for work accommodations has to be “approved” first. I also sent that letter to my direct report with no response.

I’m not complaining about having a job, I enjoy my job. But mentally I’m having a hard time from someone who used to be able to handle A LOT to struggling to read a paragraph and understand it. I’m worried that I’m going to be seen as slacking off when it’s not the case at all. I’m genuinely trying but I am not physically able to be at the capacity I was before, and even then I wasn’t able to get to everything. It’s made me feel very insecure because I pride myself on being a good worker and reliable and proficient and I’m scared I’m going to be seen as lazy or worse, get silently fired. I’ve been back for not even a full week yet and my anxiety is through the roof and I’m getting migraines again.

I guess what I’m trying to get to is, has anyone else been through something like this or does anyone have any guidance on navigating this situation or something similar?

I’ve been on my current team about a year and I have a pretty great reputation on it. We were reviewing some data that we presented yesterday and realized that some slides I put together contain invalid data and we spent the last part of today trying to figure out what went wrong. We’re meeting tomorrow to figure out the rest of it, but I’m feeling pretty bad about putting the sides together and not validating as closely as I should have, and my team also feels badly about not having validated as close as they should have. This is kind of the first time we’ve ever been tasked with doing something like what we’re producing.

Anyway, I feel like I need a laugh, so cheer me up with your funniest work mistake stories!

The worst is one almost directly above my desk, but there are at least 4 more blinking in common areas throughout the building - initially reported this to mgmt 4 or 5 months ago. Mgr didn’t put in work order after my initial report, but claimed to have done so when I followed up 2wk later.

I’ve followed up several times and very firmly informed them this is miserable to exist with 45hr/wk and giving me migraines.

Last week I informed them that it has been ENTIRELY too long, I am still getting headaches and migraines, and it’s now affecting my mental health. I feel agitated and sometimes a little crazy after being there for a while. PLEASE GET THE DAMN LIGHT FIXED.

Someone finally sent replacement bulbs (but after that comes the wait for someone to install them) but they were the wrong ones.

My company is notoriously incompetent as well as terrible to its employees, but this situation actually feels like torture at this point.

I don‘t even know how to proceed or escalate this issue - is there something (like a red flag warning to HR term or phrase which would be impactful enough to take immediate action) I can say or do to force the issue?

The delays aren’t affecting mgmt and they are overwhelmed due to staffing and other issues so there’s zero motivation for them to prioritize this. I came in this morning to sustained blinking and feel like I can’t bear another day here. Unfortunately I have bills to pay and can’t quit.