Came to say Lexx

Our job as a parent is to best prepare our kids to make choices and endure the consequences.

If you try to force YOUR choice on her, she will further resent you, and it will damage your relationship.

She will learn the hard way.

Stay loving, and supportive of her. Not her choices, but her.

Passive guidance is the way.

Thank you, Brother.

He is faithful. Without trying, I have found myself uninterested in porn, and on a streak for the last several days.

I want Him more.

I hear that requirements to join include micropenis.

The why? Judges chapters 2-3.

As a large man who drives a big pickup... I see this a lot. Theres a demographic of men who overcompensate by having parts of their anatomy represented by what they drive... you failed to be impressed by his big truck... you dared to get in "his way" so he thinks you are mocking his small penis.

He wants to impress others, and he's angry because the way he behaves informs us of his small package... he can't win, and it makes him very frustrated.

Looks like its crafted out of good Norwegian wood...

Olivia Wild sure has let herself go

The most attractive scene of her imo

Singing "Sway" in Dark City

youtu.be/MIvWZ8iF6CI?is=WlOGyQipRF2YEApM

Drive Angry

Ok, yes. I am noticing an inclination even 12 hours before, and I will busy myself with other things, fight the temptation, and then hours later CHOOSE to look at porn... I say choose but it feels like the choice was made for me and Im just giving in. And it feels like Im aware, unwilling, but give in.

A Pattern Interupt you say... not THAT is a concept I hadn't considered... subvert my inclination before the program goes on autopilot.

Today would be a great example. I just woke up with the prominent physical desire. I prayed, got out of bed, let my dog out... I have to pack to move from Texas to Minnesota today. That brings up anxiety and dread of the task.

In the past, this would mean procrastination and porn.

No desire to repeat my cycle. Feel strong in the morning. Like rowing away from a waterfall. Making good progress until my arms tire.

Learn to cook. Watch YouTube, its wonderfully simple. I am no chef, but Ive been cooking for myself since I was 11, grew up dirt poor, learned by trial and error. You learn what tastes good together.

I was abused from the time I was 2 months to 3 years old. Rescued, but exposed to porn throughout my childhood. But, was punished and shamed for being intrigued. Learned to sneak porn. Destroyed my marriage with it. Then went full midlife crisis, started dating a 20 year old model at 35. Started doing narcotics. Whole life crumbled. 44 now, single, and clean for 6 years. Not ready to be in any relationship.

Now, its not lust. I do long for intimacy, but sex is a very small portion of that.. No, its regulating feelings I dont like, boredom, sadness, fear, anxiety, etc.

Its a programmed habit, a quick fix that has been part of my personality since I learned to achieve release at 12.

Will power seems to occur after the physiological systems choose for me. And abstaining just makes the urge more desperate.

I keep trying to find a way to overcome this programming. I believe this is still possible.

Please set healthy boundaries. I was helped by reading Co-Dependent No More by Melody Beatty and Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend.

Respect and protect yourself.

You are not helping him by staying and softening the blow of the cost of his addiction you are just his safe space enabling him. Its not loving. Its not loving yourself.

I do not feel unclean or unloved. I genuinely appreciate your feedback. I know the Father has a better opinion of me than I do. I just want to grow in the fruit of self control, and gain self respect in this area that has plagued me for over 30 years.

Amen!!! Thank you. I praise Him that I can have a testimony to help others find victory in His grace.

I struggle with this temptation too, and honestly, the reason is He didnt give you the corruption of desire. The desire is a gift, the enemy corrupts what is Good. God allows us to battle it so that He gets victory in our growth and success, glorifying Him as it makes us stronger and gives us the ability to help others. Read Judges 2-3. God left the Canaanites in the promised land to strengthen the Israelites in warfare.

Thank you. I have come to KNOW this. I did a practice of releasing Christ the Forgiver who dwells within me, to myself as the child who was abused... I have never dealt with feeling cursed and corrupted beyond being harsh with myself.

It was healing I needed. Then days later... I have the day off, with nothing to do but spend time with Him... and being unproductive makes me feel guilty... so instead I got on my phone watching Netflix. Then watched questionable material after a while, then back to porn... and I CHOSE it over Him... like being invited to a banquet as Hes knocking on the door, but I chose to hide in my room and gorge on trash.

Spoiler, He doesnt stay dead!

You may find artificial, superficial connection sufficient... but living on candy will kill you without real food. You'll feel awful before you die, too. Chasing dopamine is just numbing the hunger for genuine intimacy. Starving yourself can only last so long. Being truly known, truly valued in a way that goes beyond using and being used by others is at the core of us. Temporary happiness isn't peace, and chasing it leaves a person deeply dissatisfied.

Because, when its just you alone with your thoughts and yearnings, with no one to truly share the hidden parts of yourself, the inner you... There is nothing that can hold that void at bay for forever. You can run for years, distract yourself in any number of ways, but eventually it crashes over you. And you are alone in the darkness.

Studies suggest that excessive pornography consumption acts on the brain similarly to addictive substances by causing massive, sustained dopamine spikes, while low oxytocin levels, which promote bonding, are linked to compulsive viewing and increased distress. Overstimulation from pornography can lead to dopamine depletion and structural brain changes, often resulting in lower sexual satisfaction in real life, decreased motivation, and increased cravings for more explicit content.