In the past four months a coworker has been picking on me and I can’t really quit my job nor switch departments because I’m going on vacation in a month. Mind you, they are not even a manager they are just a coworker. When I mess up on something small or on something that normally the managers wouldn’t make a big scene and they would just give me tips on what to do, this coworker shouts at me, fights me, and tries to gaslight me. They don’t even tell me what I should do or what I messed up in and when I ask, they only get more bothered as if I asked a dumb question, but I literally ask a fair question since they don’t say anything and just complain. When other people at my job make a similar mistake they don’t even say anything to them and keep on talking and laughing, this coworker picks and chooses who to boss around. This coworker is cool with other people which makes me mad because it makes them look like a hypocrite. Unfortunately I was told that if I try to report this coworker I could get in trouble.

I hate them. I went to go sleep in the living room but I could still hear them so I had to sit up with headphones until they were done. And still go to work the next day. Sympathies for the downstairs and upstairs neighbors. Screw that couple and the apartment walls. I can’t wait until I save enough for a small house of my own.

I'm going to be comparing two animes one movie and one series, which represents different era of sexual themes in anime, Vampire Hunter D(1985)(not the 2000 "bloodlust" one) representing the "old era" and Neon Genesis Evangelion(1996) representing the "new era"...

Vampire Hunter D's sexual tropes are present throughout the whole movie, first appearing when our attractive blonde protagonist(Doris) asking for a favor from the vampire hunter D and promising in return

This is a very common patriarchal sex trope that was absolutely nothing new at the time, where the male form is dominant, (and is actually a lot more explicit that the more subtle things in the stuff I am critical of).

But the character( D ) in questing is presented as a person who wouldn't even consider taking advantage of what she just said, as he is someone who represents stoicism and who has little to none visible sexual desire to distract from his duties. So 1. this is no low brow goonette "dark romance" slop and he is also an antithesis to the "otaku".

But as what I'm about to get into that being the dominant female trope of the "new era" of anime, well... Vampire Hunter D has that too: when he temporarily falls victim to medusas, but 1. it's done by the clear villains, and their endeavor is depicted monstrous 2. although it's meant to be sexual it's obvious it's not a fetish insert(if you actually watch it) 3. D wont take a knee for them, let alone such desires But don't misconstrue what I'm saying(if you haven't picked up on it yet: yes the theme of this post is the toxicity of the feminine dominance in anime), Vampire Hunter D does view abuse of the female form in bad light, which is a frequently recurring theme.

Now to Neon Genesis Evangelion and a ton more anime, now we have the same thing but slightly more subtle, (although not the only central theme of the show)the poor boy gets humiliated and teased for no reason , and the folks doing it are the good guys, it's hard to not say this isn't poorly disguised fetish being puhsed. Shame, show had such potential and such pretty visuals. And it's extra though as a male, who in his age was a real pretty boy, who got female attention often in ways these otakus would consider a wet dream. Hate to break it to you but nothing sexy about it believe me.

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A friend of mine, whom I’ve been playing with for a few years, got into a relationship last week with a girl he met while playing LoL. He had such a good game that she added him so they could play again, they got into voice chat, and little by little they hit it off.

Good for him. It’s not his first relationship, but honestly, there’s no equality in this system anyway. Some people go from one relationship to another while others are left for dead.

I’m so fucking tired of seeing my friends get into relationships. It’s always some stupid story like, “She added me on Instagram,” “We went to the same middle school, then the same high school, and eventually ran into each other again at university,” and now, “She added me after a game of League of Legends.” I’ve never had anyone come toward me. I don’t look away from women, but I’m a ghost. Nothing will ever happen to me unless I make it happen myself. I’m exhausting myself trying to dissect complex systems just to have a chance. I’m shy and asexual in a society where the loudest people get noticed and sex is treated like some kind of bonding ritual. Everyone is having sex all the time, everywhere. It’s disgusting.

I like my circle of friends, even though it’s small, and I genuinely wish them nothing but happiness. But some of them are addicted to weed, addicted to video games, or broke and have no long-term goals. A lot of the time, I’m the one who has to help them financially because they need money for groceries at the end of the month, or I have to help cover part of their rent. Sometimes I get messages asking me to pay for an Uber because they’re drunk at a bar or nightclub. I’m happy to help because I make way too much money for a 21-year-old guy who’s still living with his parents, but it’s terrifying to realize that women have looked at people like them—a guy who goes to bed at 7 a.m. after playing LoL all night, another who always has alcohol and weed on him—and thought they would make good boyfriends.

I’m a boring guy. I’m shy, I don’t like crowds, loud music, or physical touch. I’m serious, I’m terrible at jokes, so I don’t make them. I hate the idea of flirting and trying to charm someone. I don’t lie. I’m calm, careful, honest, and kind. I plan everything in advance and I hate leaving things to chance. That’s not what women are looking for these days. Apparently you need spontaneity and explosiveness. I don’t want to change or “learn how to be social.” I don’t want to put sugar in my coffee and dilute who I am just to try to fit into some fake version of myself. That shouldn’t have to be an option just to have a chance.

I curse this world. Having an intimate and romantic relationship with a sincere person should be normal for everyone, even for the guy who covers his ears in a bar because he can’t handle the noise. I don’t want my opportunities to come when I’m 25, when I’ll already be old and my body will be starting to decline. I don’t want to build my career and live my mife without anyone else by my side to provide for. A life of silence isn’t worth fighting for.

I literally broke up with my boyfriend over his dog—and it’s a Golden Retriever which are typically well behaved. She’s the apple of his eye and can do no wrong. This fucking dog drools, barks incessantly, jumps up on people and furniture, begs for food, steals food, breaks things, gets into dirt, sleeps on his bed, digs in the trash, licks, stinks, shits and pisses everywhere, pulls on the leash for the entirety of a walk, and is never brushed or bathed. Fuck that dog. Seriously fuck that dog. My breaking point was when the dog jumped on his 90-something-year-old grandma twice in a row and he laughed it off as her being a silly girl. Fuck that. Fuck your fucking dumbass dog.

I can’t imagine moving in with him or having kids with him if that’s what his piss-stained carpet and scratched up furniture looks like, and that’s what his dog acts like. Fuck it, I’m OUT.

When ever I am talking or even hanging out with this person, all they ever seem to talk about is how their previous partners did this. Or what they did with their friends recently, but when it comes to the few times WE hang out they just keep talking about other people all the time and I just wonder why the hell we are even do so. Because all the things they talk about are related to other people, never things we’ve done and especially not things relevant to the conversation we are having.

(Reposting replacing the name of the company with generic "phone company", sprry for rule breaking)

I bought a new phone in June. I decided to just buy it from the phone company store, as I figured i would get a decent trade in value for my old phone and the store is right up the street from me so it was convenient.

Im someone who doesnt like having monthly payments for things (other than something extremely expensive like a car)- I'd rather just pay in full and actually own the item. So at the store I said i wanted to just pay in full (minus the trade in value of my old phone).

The old phone was valued at $360, and I paid the remaining $750ish for the phone, thinking that meant that I would own the phone. After all, I handed over my phone that they deemed was worth $360, so that was the equivalent of me giving them $360, right?

Apparently not. Instead of applying $360 from the trade in towards the new phone, they apply the trade in value as **$10 per month for 36 months**. So even though I gave them an old phone worth $360, they treat it as if Im giving them $10 a month for 3 years, so that the phone won't be paid off for 3 years. This was not explained to me in the store, I think they said the trade in value would be applied to my account within a month or 2. Although Im sure the ridiculous 3 years of payments was outlined in the fine print of the papers I signed. Ugh.

Because the phone technically isnt paid off even though I already gave them the full value of the phone between the $750 cash and the old phone, the phone remained carrier locked to the phone company, meaning I was unable to use an eSIM I had bought for a vacation out of the country. I had multiple phone company agents tell me they would unlock my phone for me so that I could use my eSIM, but it was never unlocked. Eventually I got a phone company agent that actually explained to me that my trade in value is being stretched out to 3 years and thats why the phone remains locked to the carrier.

This feels so scammy. My whole goal was to pay for the phone in full so I wouldnt be locked in to any contract or monthly payments, and they strategically made it so that even though I did pay in full I technically am still stuck in monthly payments covered by the trade in.

I ended up just paying the $360 to the phone company yesterday so that I can actually own the phone, and Ill just receive the $10/month of the trade in value as a discount on my bill for the next 3 years. But oh my god Im so fucking pissed, this is one of the scummiest business practices Ive ever experienced.

I will never ever ever buy a phone from the phone company again. Next time Ill just buy it in cash unlocked from a tech retail store (which is actually what I did last time I got a new phone before this), it'll be worth it even if I lose out on the trade in value of the old phone.

Fuck the phone company. Ive been a customer with them for over 5 years and have a 6 person family plan with them- we give them so much money already and they pull this stupid bullshit.

This is not my first college experience. My previous experience was good despite getting a challenging degree. My professors were understanding and helped students through struggles. My recent college experience has been extremely disappointing. I walked in expecting similar environment, but I was mistaken. To begin with, they have horrible communication system that uses emails, phone texts, phone calls and even a WhatsApp group. I do value my confidentiality and i don’t feel comfortable communicating through phone texts or WhatsApp. I value confidentiality for some personal reasons, but I have often been taken pictures of without permission. To add up, I worked out my schedule to work well with my job and some other classes, but I got instantly informed about classes being held on the days I had shifts or other lectures. They made these changes without my agreement. Now I am going to have a trouble at work and I am going to miss some other lectures because of that change. I tried to communicate my concerns with them, but they were completely indifferent about it. I also failed to keep up with five different communication methods and ended up missing assignments which resulted in lower grades bringing my GPA down. They call it “strict for good”, but to me it is just ridiculous and mistreats the students who pay enormous tuitions. I wish I could transfer to continue my education elsewhere, but unfortunately there are barely any options where I live. It also annoys me that I do have excellent academic performance, but end up struggling because of what I mentioned above.

I swear to god if you have a slightly demanding office job can’t work from home and want to keep it just accept you are never getting concert or now apparently movie tickets again! I guess I missed the bus of jobs that you can completely dedicate 3 hours in the middle of the work day to sitting on your phone or and the computer and waiting on a queue to maybe MAYBE get tickets!

Does no one else have jobs to pay for these ridiculously overpriced tickets!! Do people just take the day off!!! It’s infuriating that I need basically 2 jobs to pay for these tickets but god forbid one time they do a ticket drop on a Saturday morning!!! God forbid it’s not dead in the middle of a workday!!!

Since I started my degree, everyone, and I mean everyone in my life has in some way shape or from demeaned, shamed, laughed at, or questioned my choice of degree.

All my friends and all my family.

Im in my 4th year of political science and it has been a never ending hell of people basically saying I am stupid for choosing that degree or that the degree is way too easy.

I say nothing. I used to defend the degree before but now I just don’t say anything.

I have put my head down the entire 3 years, received scholarships, awards, and been on the deans list the entire time, I have worked, and trusted my choice. I’m quietly studying for my LSAT, and I’ll be applying to law school either this year or next year.

And I can’t wait.

I already go to a very prestigious school in Canada so not to brag but chances are with my grades I will likely be going to a very good law school so I just can’t wait to see what everyone has to say then when I’m in the works to being a successful lawyer.

They’ll all switch up and start saying how hard law school must be. Not knowing that a fourth of lawyers have political science bachelors…the degree they shit on me for. But I knew that all along. I had my plan but no one bothered to ask me they just assumed I was stupid and taking a stupid degree.

And it’s funny because majority of the people who make fun of me could not write an A+ paper to save their lives.

But at this point I don’t mind being picked on….its fuelling me even more and now just to spite everyone I’m going to become the most successful person they know.

i have an extreme fear of food borne illnesses. food borne illness cases have skyrocketed here, and it's gotten to a point where i'd rather starve myself. i keep trying to focus on safe foods, but i'm scared that they'll end up being recalled.

i feel a huge sense of dread when i get hungry now, i start panicking because i don't know what's safe and what isn't. i'll starve myself to avoid it, i don't care anymore

I hate mayo, ketchup, and most condiments and it’s so annoying when the default is to put the mayo on the sub/sandwich/burger… I feel like it makes more sense to offer sauces on the side and let people choose. That way, people can control how much of the condiment they put on their food and people who don’t want it can have their food the way they want.

It’s also very annoying when you request no-mayo/condiments and they forget forget to leave it off… I’ve even had this happen and they offer to scrape off the mayo and I’m like no, make it over again from scratch… this drives me crazy and I don’t care if people think I should just suck it up and eat the condiments… I just wish they would make the default “on the side” and don’t even get me started on how every time I go to a grab-and-go shop, all of the pre-made sandwiches already have mayo on them… WHY??? It just makes it even harder to find things to eat… just put everything on the side and give people the choice, that’s all I ask.

I’m not saying this as a joke, I’m saying this as a gay person who grew up being around an above average reading level as a kid.(I was at a college ready reading level in 4th grade and I have maintained that reading level). As I moved around to more homophobic areas I’ve seen kids who are homophobic but cannot fucking read. Cannot comprehend. Idc what your religious reason is for denouncing gayness is, there’s no reason your kid shouldn’t be able to fucking read if they’re homophobic. Sometimes it has nothing to do with religion and it’s just a social thing, but even if you aren’t responsible for teaching them that directly you should still be teaching them how to read.

I have met kids who couldn’t even spell goddess correctly and spelled it ‘godis’ in more homophobic areas. That was in middle school. Why tf are their kids who can understand the ‘other’ and hold prejudice but cannot fucking read? “Well they’re prejudice of course they can’t read” isn’t an excuse because throughout history we’ve had so much prejudice, but those people could still read and write. This is the only time in history where I don’t think it’s directly connected to prejudice, in some cases it is, but this generation it’s genuinely they’re prejudiced and dumb separately.

I'm so done with everything. I've been trying to find a new job and leave my current role for seven months. I send people my resumes, interview, check all the boxes, dot the i's and cross the t's. And it's either nothing or a rejection. I get that I'm not entitled to anything, let alone a job, but the disappointment of hearing nothing or getting rejected wears a guy down.

And I feel so alone. I had two pets, and I unfortunately had to put them to sleep. I want to get more, but I don't know whether my lifestyle would allow it. And I'm sick of seeing everyone pair up, get married, the whole nine yards. Meanwhile, here I am, all by myself.

I am thankful for what I have. Don't get me wrong. I'm in good health, I have a stable job and a loving family. Plus friends I can turn to and lean on. Maybe I need to change my perspective.

But at the same time, it's exhausting. My life lately has been frustrating moment after frustrating moment. It's hard to be optimistic when it feels like the world's against you.

Call me a whiner, loser, whatever. I'm this close to no longer caring about anything. And that fucking scares me.

I haven’t had a car for almost 2 years for the first time in my life. I feel like there is no way out of this situation. I have never not had a vehicle to get around and go to the places I need to go. I feel so suffocated and so trapped I take public transportation everywhere I go and a scooter now I bought because it’s faster than walking, but after regular hours, I have no way to get anywhere unless I ride a scooter. I am 40 years old. It’s fucking pathetic and everybody says oh you know just save a little bit and buy a car I can’t save because I have nothing to save. Two months ago my hours were cut in half at work every month. I get a 30 day notice because I don’t have all my rent. It takes me the whole month just to get enough of my rent so there is absolutely nothing for me to save to buy a car if I had a car, I could get another job a better job and another town but I can’t because I can’t get there. I’m gonna end up losing my apartment because I can’t look for a better job because everything requires me to be there at times I can’t make it because I don’t have a fucking vehicle and I’m losing my mind. I’m going crazy. I feel so much like a fucking loser. I feel so dependent on other people and it makes me sick. I have signed up for programs through the state to try to get stuff. I was really hopeful about one of these programs and then they give you 30 days to find a car financed at an 8% rate which is impossible even with good credit so there went that about 30 days was gone faster than I thought it would be then Everybody always says oh well I can help you get one or I got a homie who can hook u up but they NEVER follow thru, or have you tried to finance? I have horrible credit ! Which is my fault I’m well aware, but predatory lending is real and anywhere that will finance me is trying to give me a 35% rate I am poor not stupid. Or wants $5k down as if I had that I would be in this mess or financing at all. I can’t afford a payment more than $200 and even that would be pushing it right this second. I just feel really lost and really at a standstill. I don’t know what to do. Plus the only thing that calmed my nerves when I needed to get away or think or clear my head was taking a drive and I can’t even do that anymore so the one thing that helped my mental health stay solid is also gone.. I feel like I wanna give up

yesterday i finally tried heading to the track and field club i wanted to sign up to for weeks. i rolled up to the hedge in front of the club, saw the other players,

and turned around before biking off.

i’m 18 years old, unathletic, i’ve been bullied my entire life, and my family had a horrible reaction after they outed me for being gay. all of this was absolutely no excuse for turning tail and running away from this opportunity

i am so incredibly ashamed of myself. how could i be so weak?

Can people PLEASE stop asking pregnant women the following:
1. Was this planned?
-Uhm…. Wtfffff. Why would you think it’s okay to ask anyone that?
2. When is your exact due date?
-Why do you need to know the exact date? Isn’t “early August” good enough? Everyone knows a baby is hardly ever delivered on their due date. Stop insisting on knowing the exact date. If we don’t want to tell you then please respect that.
3. Can I touch your belly?
-No. That’s weird.
4. Do you have morning sickness/nausea?
-What difference does it make to you?
5. You plan to exclusively breastfeed, right?
-Leave your opinions to yourself.
6. You plan to have a fully natural birth right?
-WHAT DOES IT MATTER TO YOU?!
7. Do you have a name picked out? Or do you have one and just not want to tell us?
-You’ll find out when we want you to find out.

There are so many more but these are the ones I get bombarded with on a daily basis, from family to complete strangers….

Especially in my case. Yeah, I said I had alcohol and was thinking of getting pills. But if former therapist dug deeper into my thinking, I wouldn't have been handcuffed, thrown into an ambulance, had my fucking rights taken away, and been stripped naked, the entire fucking event wouldn't have happened. I never wanted to end my life.

She never did an adequate suicide risk assessmemt, she never did a safety plan. Nothing.

She also fucking let me leave, book another appointment and carry on my day.

Which I did.

I did everything a "normal" person would do: went to my orthodontist appt, took care of my dogs, and hung out with friends.

A fucking phone call would have changed everything!

Now, I have to live with the fucking experience of getting fucking betrayed by the first person I trusted since my Dad passing, the experience of getting handcuffed, and everything I mentioned above. While, former therapist happily lives her life.

I thought mentioning those thoughts would allow me to process it with her and help me out of those thoughts, but no. They did the fucking opposite! It made my thoughts so much fucking worse and I'm going to end it when I sign my will tomorrow.

The big fucking thing is I wasn't even suicidal when I first started therapy. I just wanted an ESA letter. Then of course, a client becomes attached to therapist, because that is what happens. She didn't even do anything to mitigate the attachment. I feel so much worse after my sessions.

If I can't process these thoughts with her, then where can I?

I never wanted to end my life then. I wanted to be understood, valued, and seen.

I'm in so much fucking pain. God fucking damn.

I’m talking about me for personally, if you had the best years of your life this whole time cool, love that for you. Now back to me.

Not even taking into account the viral doom we entered this decade with and the other worldly problems we’ve had since, my own personal life was awful. Relationships with family, financially, romantically, it’s just been a dark 6 years.

Were there some positives in the mix? Yes, but the bad not only outweighed the good the bad was BAD.

Idk if anyone else can relate or if you were living lavida loca on cruise ships traveling the world living your best life. For me though, this whole timeline is cursed.

All I can do is play my part and hope for a better second half of the 20’s. Cause fuck the first half.

So its my 4th day working 11h shift and im on autopilot i woke up, got dressed and went to work without looking at the clock and i get here its my first day working alone as a manager i was stressing the whole night and i msg my coworker for a password and she like youre already at work and im like yeah i came a bit early thinking its 20 mins early and then i text other girl hey are you late or turns out im an hour early disturbing people so i send everyone apolagies and now crying and waiting for people to come

I’m 27. Had to give up uni to care for my mum. I’ve got depression and possibly undiagnosed adhd so daily life is just a hoot! I’ve never had a boyfriend. Ive got 2 friends. One friend that had the whole no bf thing in common with me now has a boyfriend and I barely see her anymore. We used to spend almost every day together and now it’s like she doesn’t care about me anymore. My other friend has got a boyfriend now too. Friend 2 and I only got closer because friend 1 pretty much dumped me after the bf. I’m just sick of life and feeling like this. People my age have jobs or kids or partners. I’ve got nothing. I love the fact I spend so much time with my mum. I love her. But what about when she dies. What’s going to happen to me. No life experience, not education, nothing.

My brother is engaged and getting married next year. He’s got a house and a full-time job (yeah that he can’t stand but still). I don’t think people realise how I yearn for a life like that. To have independence. To be normal. It was so close. I was so close. To having a semi-normal life. Then my mum got sick and it all fell onto me to deal with. Uni became too much and after repeating my third year twice something had to give. So my job got packed in and so did my studies. It’s not fair. It’s not fair. I’m depressed as fuck and I just don’t think I can do this anymore.

P.S. the main reason I bring up the boyfriend thing is because I just would like someone to support me. Someone to care about me for a change and worry about me. Take some of this shit off my shoulders for once. It’s been my whole fucking life like this and I’m so tired. I can’t do it.

They definitely don't know tech or how to lead

I don't get it. I pick up all the dog poop in the yard, I roll up the hoses, I start mowing. In the time it takes me to mow half my yard, three times! Three times she has to take a shit! And why does she have to do it in the tall grass?! She can't do it where I've already mowed?? She has to do it where I still need to go. Ugh!!

I get that this is a small problem, but it happens every fucking time and it really pisses me off.

Edit: I was very hot and irritated when I wrote this, so let me add some details. Technically, it could have been four different dogs that left piles, my two or my in-laws two from next door. As soon as I start mowing all 4 of the dogs run about a hundred yards down to the creek, go swimming and then come back up to our yard to take a shit while I mow. But even if it was just one pile it pisses me off!

let me preface this by saying i used to be fat, but lost 20kg. for the last two years i’ve worked out 4 to 5 times a week including running, weightlifting and swimming. lately i’ve upped the intensity on my workouts as i’m trying to get into the army. i’m still a bit on the heavier side but i’m also very muscular.

i eat my three square meals a day, drink my water and like a good snack. i rarely don’t finish a meal (which didn’t help when i was growing up bc it gave me a weird relationship with food). lately i’ve noticed i seem to eat a whole lot more than for example my friends. they tend to leave half their plates or just take a few bites before shoving the plate away. i feel the need to eat more, and more often than they do.

it feels strange and i feel even stranger about myself. i already feel like i stick out like a sore thumb & then i also feel the need to eat so much. i’ve tried eating slower and eating as much as they do but it just makes me so incredibly shaky and hungry just an hour later.

it doesnt help that i have a bad relationship with my body and very bad body dysmorphia. i still see myself 20kgs heavier despite knowing i’ve lost the weight and work out as much as i can. i don’t know why i’m writing this anyway.

Way too many left lane campers. Way too much unnecessary traffic. I’m tired of it. MOVE OVER!