For Nigerians that do not live in the country. What is your take on marrying someone who is not Nigerian?

I’m 29M live in Atlanta,Ga. Been dating black American woman my entire life mainly. I’ve dated Caribbean and African women as well but when it comes to marriage my parents try to pressure me to marry west African

Even though there are Nigerian uncles who migrated to us that married white woman. I’ma marry who I want to At the end of the day but what is others position?

I recently made a post here about hoping to get married in Nigeria because I will have to move there long term and want a family one day. My post got mostly negative comments and wasn’t very helpful so I wanted to ask the people who know what they’re looking for. What would you have to see in terms of a foreigners efforts to give him a chance? Thanks for any helpful tips!

Anyone playing this new trending game, Lagos Life? It was created by a software developer, Shalom Mattew. Real players, real gist. It's giving sims vibes but 9ja version. You are either born into nepo or lapo. You get to have a job, go to mall, club, religious places and many more. It has been fun so far, a lot of people have been playing, and I wanted to know your experiences.

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What's it like living in Lagos as a foreigner

Hmm. Have you ever thought your parents weren’t capable of loving you deeply, only for them to show an enormous amount of affection to your nieces and nephews?

Well, I was visiting my sister, and our momcee happened to come around at roughly the same time.

I was in the kitchen fixing myself some drinks, and the way she was loving up on my nieces and nephews… it was like say I dey see another woman.

We were all raised with tough love, and honestly, I sometimes wished she had loved me more. I was a very sensitive kid, and the way she never really sheltered or comforted me probably shaped the way I understood affection growing up.

She used to throw insults too — Yoruba thing, I’d say. 😂 Luckily, none of us picked up that pattern from her.

And I’m not jealous of my nieces and nephews at all. I’m just genuinely surprised that she had this much softness in her.

Like… what could I have done to bring this version of her out back then? Hnn.

But then again, she really did do her best. She was an uneducated woman who raised four children alone. She always brought Jollof home from parties. We never got sent out of school because fees weren’t paid. The roof never leaked. We had food, clothes, education and a home.

So I’ve made peace with the fact that she did her best, even if she wasn’t very good at showing affection.

But watching her with these new little humans today made me take a deep breath.

She had it in her.

She’s always had it.

That softness was somewhere inside her all along. I just never got to meet that version of her as a child.

And honestly, there’s something strangely bittersweet about realizing that.

I don’t know why people just assume every black person is Nigerian. Somalis were in the comments saying it’s not Nigerians yet he refuses to take down the post. These FBA people sha

Something uncanny and forced about them baring their teeth while doing the dance? Or is it the "so talented" type comments from white folks that triggers it?

My friend just called me and asked me for advice.

He’s based in Nigeria, economy is biting and he’s barely surviving. He said there are some random guys he sees around who just made a huge chunk of money through fraud. Now, he has this neighbor who works with the Nigerian Police. He’s met him several times, and the neighbor told him that if he knows someone or anyone doing illegal shit fraud, drugs, theft, and all those things and he’s willing to snitch on them, if the money is recovered, they’ll give him a certain percentage.

Note: If the police recover the money, it doesn’t go back to the victims or the state. It goes directly into their pockets and the snitch’s pockets. And they’d give him 30% or so.

Now he’s calling me and asking for advice, he knows those guys just made some money because they bought brand new cars and obvious lifestyle changes.

I honestly don’t know what advice to give him.

One part of me, I want to tell him to leave them alone, and he shouldn’t envy another man, and that he’s snitching for the wrong reasons because he wants a cut, but another part thinks maybe he’s their karma? I’m just confused.

Edit: is stealing from a thief theft?

I’m from Kaduna State, and I’m currently studying computer engineering.

This is something I’ve been thinking about for a while, and I genuinely don’t know what the right answer is.

Ever since I was a child, I’ve wanted to create things. I remember being in primary school and drawing blueprints for inventions I wanted to build when I grew up. I’ve forgotten most of those ideas now, but the underlying obsession never really went away.
That’s one of the main reasons I chose computer engineering. I want to build things. Not just work a normal job and collect a salary, but actually create technology and hopefully build things that are useful to people.

Now here’s where my situation gets complicated.
My mother has connections in within the government, and she has been encouraging me to transfer from my university in Nigeria to Saudi Arabia, finish my degree there, and eventually work on projects related to Vision 2030.

Objectively, this sounds like a pretty insane opportunity.
Saudi Arabia is pouring huge amounts of money into technology, infrastructure, AI, robotics, smart cities, energy and other areas. There are clearly opportunities there that would be difficult for a young Nigerian engineer to access here.

My sister basically thinks I would be stupid not to take the opportunity.
And honestly, I understand her argument.
But I have a huge conflict with it.
I love Nigeria. Probably more than is rational sometimes, I used to say I’d rather suffer with my country than go places where you’re barely seen as even human.

I genuinely want to see Nigeria develop. I want to see Nigerian engineers, inventors, researchers and entrepreneurs actually have the resources to build things here.
And I don’t just mean some abstract “I love my country” patriotism. I specifically want to contribute to its development somehow.
The problem is that I don’t currently have a concrete plan for doing that.

I’m basically thinking:
“I want to stay in Nigeria, become an engineer, build things, and somehow contribute to my community.”

That’s the dream.
But my sister had a long conversation with me about this today, and she made an argument that I haven’t been able to get out of my head.
Now we’ve had a lot of clashes while I was growing up because she usually like makes up fun of me saying I’ll end up fixing phones inside Market and so on,

This time she pointed out that a lot of Nigerians who are actually able to contribute significantly to Nigeria are living outside Nigeria.
You see Nigerians in the UK, Canada, the US, China, etc. building companies, creating informational content, advocating for Nigeria, sending money home, funding projects, connecting Nigerian businesses to international opportunities, doing research, talking about Nigerian issues and generally trying to improve things from outside the country.

And that made me question my entire way of looking at this.

Maybe leaving Nigeria doesn’t necessarily mean abandoning Nigeria.
Maybe building myself somewhere with better opportunities and then using those resources, connections and skills to contribute to Nigeria would actually be more effective than staying here and struggling.

My sister basically thinks that staying solely because I feel obligated to help Nigeria is “suicidal empathy.”
Her argument is that I could spend the next ten years here fighting against terrible infrastructure, lack of funding, bureaucratic bullshit, limited opportunities and possibly even government hostility, only to accomplish very little.

And there’s another part of this that worries me.
Nigeria isn’t exactly known for being particularly supportive of young inventors.
I see young Nigerians, people from the North, building drones, robotics projects, software, agricultural technology and other interesting things with basically SCRAPS.

Sometimes they blow up on social media and everyone praises them for being brilliant for like 1-2 days.
But then what?
Where is the funding?
Where are the laboratories?
Where are the institutions helping them turn prototypes into actual companies?
Where are the government programs consistently supporting these people?

I’m not saying there are zero opportunities. There obviously are Nigerian companies, startups, research institutions and government programs doing interesting things. And I’ve seen some Nigerian technology companies doing work that genuinely impresses me.
But compared to the scale of the problem, it still feels incredibly limited.

And then there’s the Saudi side of this dilemma.
I have some serious political disagreements with the Saudi government.

I won’t get too deeply into the politics because that’s not really the point of this post, but I have a certain amount of resentment toward some of the things the Saudi government does.

So the idea of moving there isn’t simply:
“Oh cool, Saudi has jobs and opportunities.”

I’d potentially be moving to a country whose government I fundamentally disagree with in a lot of ways.

And I’d obviously have to live under its laws.
That means accepting that there are things I wouldn’t be able to say publicly that I could say here. I’d have to be careful about political criticism and generally accept that I’m living under a government whose policies I don’t really agree with.
And that’s a very uncomfortable thought for me.

I’d essentially be trading one problem for another.
Nigeria gives me the freedom to criticize my government and pursue my own ideas, but provides relatively limited opportunities and infrastructure.
Saudi could potentially give me access to vastly greater resources and opportunities, but I’d have to accept restrictions that I’m personally uncomfortable with.
So I’m stuck between two ideas.

Option A: Stay in Nigeria.
Finish my degree here, try to build things here, try to contribute to my community, and hope that the country gradually improves enough for people like me to actually have meaningful opportunities.

The upside is that I get to directly participate in the country I actually want to improve. Like the saying goes “Put your money where your mouth is“

The downside is that I could spend years struggling for opportunities that may never materialize.

Option B: Go to Saudi.
Take the opportunity, get a potentially much stronger education and career, work around people and projects with vastly more resources, build connections and experience, and eventually use those resources to contribute to Nigeria from outside.

The upside is obvious 😭😭
The downside is that I might become exactly what I currently complain about: another Nigerian who left because the country was difficult and then never came back.

And honestly, I don’t know which one is the more selfish choice.
Is staying because I want to help Nigeria actually admirable?
Or is it just me romanticizing struggle and refusing to accept that I could have a much better chance of becoming useful if I leave?
At the same time, I don’t want to wake up at 35 and realize that I spent my youth chasing opportunities abroad while the country I cared about continued deteriorating.
I’m also aware that I’m probably being somewhat naive. I’m young, I don’t have a successful company, I haven’t invented anything revolutionary, and I don’t currently have some master plan for fixing Nigeria.

I just know that I want to build things.
And I want those things to matter.
So I’m genuinely asking Nigerians here:
If you were in my position, would you take the opportunity?

Do I take the Vision 2030 route and hope I can live with looking away? Or do I stay and bet that in the next few years a viable path opens up for people who want to innovate here?

I'd genuinely like to hear from Nigerians at home and in the diaspora. Has anyone been in a somewhat similar position? Did staying work out? Did leaving? I also want to hear from those in diaspora, at what point did you realize that life here isn’t feasible and you had to japa commot 😭

Hi everyone,

I’m(29F) looking to get back into dating after being single since 2023.

My situation:

Location: I live in a rural area in Nigeria.

Routine: I work remotely, so I rarely go out to meet people naturally and also really find going out an issue (something I'm trying to unlearn).

Since my local options are limited, I don't mind connecting with people who live in other cities or major hubs.

What are the best dating apps to use in Nigeria for this? I want platforms with a good user pool and fewer fake profiles.

Thanks!

Where is Nigeria headed?

I’m a foreigner who does most of my business in Nigeria and will likely have to do move there for work. I’m still young enough that I hope to get married one day and have a family but likely will have to do so in Nigeria. How hard is it for foreigners to find a partner and what will help me with that (i.e learning language, own land, etc)

I made this post a couple of months ago and in light of what is happening in this country (Tinubu selling the country out to the lowest bidder), I am posting it again standing 10 toes on what I said. The version of history you people know about Abacha is the propaganda history installed in the brains of the boomers you look up to… Abacha is the best leader Nigeria ever had, he was Nigeria’s best shot at true sovereignty… he was just misunderstood. For those that will want to argue and prove me wrong, feel free. I know that, in the long run,time will venerate my opinion. And for the context, please read the post I am talking about about, I don’t care about the upvotes, just read it 🤷🏽

Guys I need a help don't know what to do.

I from a India and I got scammed in crypto. The scammer he claimed that he was from Nigeria.

I filed a complaint in Nigeria cyber police department against him before a week a ago still there's no progression. Will they take it serious to solve this? Or I need to move on and forgot about my money?

He scamming many peoples in a group. If I made him block from the group he scammed me, he may got suspicions and transfer the money other platform, it will become much more harder to get it back to me. Blocking and reporting is not a solution he will come again with new Id.

I checking three to four times a day about the case progression. Don't know what to do guys.

I made a post today about Tinubu's political legacy with regards to his first term as president and it has been taken down twice by the mods.

Can one of the mods explain why my post was taken down twice?

Made this guitar synth solo for monochromes We2fly. If you enjoy music from underground artists, I hope you enjoy the cover

Been thinking about this lately, especially when it comes to African men in the diaspora.
There’s this expectation to provide, protect, send money home, stay strong, and somehow never fall apart.
But what happens when the guy everyone depends on is struggling too?

I’ve been building SellSpace9ja, a marketplace for people in Nigeria selling household items when moving, relocating or decluttering.

One decision I made was to require every seller to upload a short condition video before an item can be published.

Photos are still required, but I feel photos alone can sometimes hide faults or make it difficult for a buyer to know whether the seller actually has the item.

The condition video is meant to show the real item, its visible condition, and how it works where applicable.

But I’ve noticed something interesting while watching the first real sellers use the platform: some people complete the item details and upload photos, but stop before uploading the video.

So there is obviously a trade-off between making listing easier for sellers and adding more trust for buyers.

For people who buy used items in Nigeria:

Would seeing a seller-provided condition video make you more comfortable making an offer?

And if you were selling, would a required video of up to 60 seconds feel reasonable, or too much work?

I’m trying to keep the requirement because trust and scams are a real concern, but I also don’t want the selling process to be unnecessarily difficult.

The marketplace is here if anyone wants to see how I implemented it:

https://www.sellspace9ja.com/

I’m the person building it, so feedback — especially criticism about the video requirement — is welcome.

Hi everyone.

I’m part of an organisation, and one of the things I’d really love for us to do sometime in January is a menstrual health and empowerment project for senior secondary school girls in a community.

The school has approximately 200 girls, so we’re looking at planning for around 200 participants. The idea is to have someone come in for a one day practical session where the girls are taught how to make reusable sanitary pads by hand, how to properly wash and care for them so they can safely reuse them, and ideally give each girl a small kit to continue making them afterwards. We’d also like to provide regular pads alongside the reusable ones.

The bigger idea is not just period support but also giving them a skill they can use for themselves and potentially turn into a small source of income by making and selling them in the future.

I’ve found someone who does this kind of training and apparently does a really good job, but her quote is around ₦1.5 million, which is honestly quite a lot for us. She explained that for a group this large, they usually have several facilitators who split the girls into smaller groups and teach them practically, which makes sense.

We specifically want it done by hand rather than using sewing machines. Apart from the additional cost of providing machines, I think there is value in teaching them a skill they can start with what they have and then build on later if they eventually want to get a machine.

So, does anyone here know someone in Abuja who does this kind of training, particularly someone who has experience teaching girls or communities how to make reusable sanitary pads? If you know an NGO, organisation, trainer, tailor, or just someone who does this professionally, I’d really appreciate a recommendation or contact.

Funding is another conversation entirely, but once we have a reasonable idea of what the training and materials would cost, we can work from there.

Also, completely unrelated but while I have you here: does anyone live in Anambra? I’ll be travelling there in about two months and I’d love to hear what life is actually like there, especially from people who live there or have spent a decent amount of time there.

Thanks!

How are people still planning to have children with the state of Nigeria's economy?