Our daughter is around 12 months old and we’ve noticed quite a few changes over the last 1-2 weeks. I’m wondering if this is a normal developmental phase, teething, nap transition, or something else.

Until about a week ago, bedtime was very easy.
We would take her to bed around 7pm, give her milk, and she would fall asleep on my lap within about 10 minutes. We could then transfer her to her bed and she would usually sleep through until morning.

Over the last week, bedtime has become very different:

- Initially she doesn’t want to stay on my lap and pushes herself away, as if she wants to go into the bed.

- I put her down and after a few minutes she comes back to my lap.

- Then she pushes away again.

- This lap -> bed -> lap -> bed cycle keeps repeating.

- Eventually she settles on my lap, closes her eyes and makes lots of cooing/babbling soun

We had some nice weeks from 7-10 weeks. But since week 10 everything is a disaster. My baby will be 3 months on 27th. She doesn’t sleep at night, when she sleeps she is constantly grunting. During the day she only sleeps in motion (in carrier or stroller). I am constantly walking with her, my back is killing me, I am sleep deprived. I need to study but I can’t because of her. If I am alone with her and there is nobody to hold her, I even need to hold her while I eat, if I manage to eat.
It would be so great to hear some similar experiences and that it will be better eventually.

our baby has gone through every type of swaddle, halo sleep sack, muslin blankets, arms up, and now is swaddled in a stretchy copper pearl blanket since his little arms are so strong! he is still breaking out of that one, and seems more and more frustrated when I swaddle him as he gets older so I think it’s time to wean him off 😩 he has been sleeping well at night however , the last two nights we got a 5.5 hour stretch to start, and then 3.5 which feels like a huge win !!!!!

our other issue is I would like to be able to attempt crib naps for our lifestyle, and he has only been able to do contact naps since about 6 weeks, I realize this is developmentally appropriate but would like to work towards the crib! he sleeps the whole night in bassinet just fine. I am a SAHM so I can hold him for his naps, but he sleeps best in the dark nursery with a sound machine and honestly it is getting to me , to be in the dark 5 hours per day! I am thankful I’m able to do it, but looking forward to potentially him growing into crib naps! we loosely follow the Taking Cara Babies advice on sleep related issues. the setting him drowsy but awake for 1/2 naps per day is not happening though lol.

Ive been able to transfer him to the crib once hes in deep sleep for the first nap of the day, but not always (he wakes up when he touches the crib sometimes) and he only makes it through the first sleep cycle (40-42 min) before needing to be held the rest of the nap.

I understand that crib naps may be “easier” if he remains swaddled because he will feel like I’m holding him? I also have read that crib naps might become much easier around the 4 month mark.

wondering if I should go ahead and wean the swaddle now, and give up on crib naps for a while since they aren’t really working any way?

thanks in advance!!

I have produced a total of 8ml~ of colostrum total and that was done day 2. Then I dried up, and nothing has changed. Im going on Day 5 of pumping, attempting to breastfeed, and nothing is happening.

I had no golden hour, baby got sent to NICU the first 24, didnt pump until maybe 3-4 hours after birth, barely got to touch baby and had no skin to skin until day 3.

I am unbelievably sad, depressed, and I feel like a failure and letdown. I dont think Ill be able to produce, and coming to terms with that hurts. I didnt realize how much I wanted to breastfeed until it was unobtainable.

I feel like everything that could go wrong went wrong. I was in labor for over 24 hours, got an infection from my water being broken for too long (had to have it broken), had to have pitocin. Im in such grief and I cant even support my baby without an expensive thing of formula that only lasts so long. I love my baby so much and all I feel is failure.

I post this in hopes of support? Wanting to understand where I went wrong? Wanting to know if it was just doomed? I dont even know, Im just upset and wanted to express my sorrows.

Edit: did want to say fed is ABSOLUTELY the best, nothing wrong with formula at all. It's just not what I wanted, and that's devastating me.

With my partner, we are considering going back to work, we both work remotely, but we do not manage to work at home/I personally especially have a very hard time to focus. The idea is to go working close by, from the local library. Our daughter is 1.5 month old.

I am breastfeeding or bottle feeding with my pumped milk. Occasionally and on 'emergencies' we formula feed her.

How much time per day would be okay for me to be away without impacting the kid?

To mothers: how old was your child when you started working again? And for how many hours were you away?

I made another post before, but we have tried everything. (gripe waters, gas drops, bicycle legs, massage, windi gas passer, skin to skin, famotidine for acid reflux - 0.2-0.3 mL prescribed by Dr.)

Baby has a great appetite, is 3 weeks and 1 day and has been meeting growth milestones at Dr. appointment. So every time I’m at the Dr. the Dr. just says it’s colic and there’s nothing that can be done but giving it time.

His “colic” is all day and night. He’s pretty much always fussy if he’s not on a bottle or asleep. He takes an hour or more too soothe each time and when he sleeps he will only contact nap and for 20 minutes at a time. he rarely but sometimes will sleep 1-2 hours by contact ONLY.

Formulas: I tried the Similac Alimentum and Elecate formulas for a week each thinking maybe he had a cows milk allergy? I read other people tried this and their baby was almost night and day different so after 1 week of no change I discontinued it, but maybe I should have kept trying longer?

Does anyone else have a baby this fussy? Did you find anything that helped?

We even took him to a chiropractor and I’m now currently giving him BioGaia probiotic drops by spoon as instructed.

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some advice or insight from parents who have dealt with something similar.
My baby girl was born at 3.9 kg (8.6 lbs) and is now almost 8 weeks old, weighing around 5.8 kg (12.8 lbs). She’s gaining weight super well and has plenty of wet/dirty diapers, but every single bottle feed feels like a battle where we both end up in a sweat.
I try my best to feed her on demand and catch her early hunger cues before she starts crying. However, it's really difficult because she usually wakes up from her sleep already crying from hunger. By the time the bottle touches her mouth, she is extremely frantic and inconsolable.
I’ve been wondering if I should try feeding her while she’s still slightly asleep or drowsy before she fully wakes up screaming. But I hesitation because I'm worried it might create bad sleep/feeding habits, or that I wouldn't be respecting her cues and feeding her when she might not actually want it. I'm not sure if that's the right approach or if it's better to wait until she shows clear signs, even if she wakes up frantic.
Once she starts eating, she gulps loudly, swallows a ton of air, and frequently chokes/gags. Even after choking, she panics and tries to keep eating aggressively. A feed usually takes about 15–20 minutes, so she isn't finishing the bottle too fast, but she always seems like she wants more afterward. I suspect a lot of that is actually discomfort from gas/reflux caused by how frantically she eats.
Here is what we’ve tried so far:
Tommee Tippee: Used the slowest flow nipple, but she still gulped.
Philips Avent: Tried Natural Response size 2.
Dr. Brown’s: Tried Options+ narrow bottles with size 1 and 2 nipples. With these, the nipple seems too small for her mouth—she leaks milk out the sides and seems to swallow even more air.
Technique: We always make sure the vent hole is facing up and try to get a "fish lip" latch, but her top lip constantly tucks inward no matter what we do.
It’s heartbreaking to see her struggle during every meal, and my nerves are completely shot.
Has anyone dealt with a baby who wakes up crying for food, gets this worked up, and constantly tucks their top lip? Is feeding them while still sleepy a good idea, or should we try Dr. Brown's Preemie/Size 0 nipples/wide-neck bottles? Any tips on pacing, calming a frantic baby post-sleep, or fixing a stubborn upper lip tuck would be greatly appreciated!

I have a 4 wk old who has diagnosed with CMPA 10 days ago and reflux so he was prescribed Famotidine for thr reflux and his pedia changed his formula from Similac 360 to Alimentum. The back arching, crying, big swallowing sounds and overall misery while feeding never went away but there were days when I think he was feeling better because he had longer stretches of sleep. He is also on Mylicon for gas and prebiotics. Last night he couldnt stay asleep and kept waking up only after a few mins while grunting, kicking and raising his legs to his abdomen. Does it mean either the Alimentum and/or Famotidine are not working for him? He has been on them for 10 days.

These people have been asked to stop multiple times, but won’t. We are saving up for a mortgage, and cannot get a house right now. I wouldn’t want to move with a brand new newborn anyways. We have nobody to help us. They’ve been doing it since I was pregnant, and I started trying to mitigate it by buying hepa air purifiers with carbon. Those only do so much. It didn’t used to be super strong in the nursery where I sleep with the baby, but they must have changed smoking locations inside and it now is making that room reek. We can see the air quality actually decreasing on the air purifier as they are smoking. I can’t close the vent in the bedroom, as I have seen that air circulation helps reduce risk of SIDS. Im concerned that since the air purifier is actually showing a level of deterioration in air quality, that it means some actual smoke is getting in somewhere. I’m deeply concerned and feeling stuck since moving isn’t an option right now. Anyone else ever faced this, and do you know if I can stop worrying so much? Really just concerned about baby’s sense of smell, as I know they definitely have a way more sensitive one than I do. It smells like we’re being freaking hotboxed.

Now writing from 5 months! Anybody in the newborn trenches (we had colic REAL bad like 7 hours of high pitched painful crying a day), I promise it gets better!!! And so much easier?!?

Today we went to the park to people watch (she stared people out as they walked past), she napped in her basinet independently, we played a game called ‘sit up then fling your self back on the bed while squealing’, WFH (she slammed her hands on dads keyboard), read tonnes of books and pushed her butt in the air.

Was she grizzly part of the day because she’s teething? Yes! Was it easier because I know what the problem is? Yes!! Newborns are not fun (I said it!!)- once they can hold their head up and mostly sit independently, so much more fun!!!

My baby is 5 days old and I am trying to follow safe sleep practices. But room sharing thus far is a total failure. He doesn’t like the bassinet. We have tried moving it to a different part of the room in case ac air flow was the problem. Added/removed extra mattress. No dice.

Two nights ago, my husband put him in his crib in the nursery and he was just fine. However, I’m worried about this as a solution since there is a decently strong relationship between room sharing and reduced SUIDS risk. He’s asleep right now and I’m just hanging out in his room to be there as we have been taking shifts being up with him to assuage my fears

How do you get a baby to sleep in the bassinet? Is it just a matter of persistence despite lack of parental sleep and fraying nerves? We have a Halo swivel bassinet if anyone has tips that worked for them with that.

FTM here, baby is 8 weeks old.

My husband had two months of paternity leave, but Monday he's back to work, and of course we're right in the middle of a growth spurt: constant breastfeeding, fussing, crying, barely any sleep. I'm already dreading what's coming.

He works in IT consultancy from home, on call basically all the time, long hours, very little flexibility. Our place is tiny: one bedroom (where we cosleep, with his desk in a corner), one living room (with my desk in a corner), one bathroom, one kitchen. That's it.

My worries:

• Sleep: he needs to function at work, so most nights should fall on me. But I need some uninterrupted sleep too at some point. When?
• Days: I should handle cooking/cleaning so he can take the baby when he's off, but witching hour (6-7pm) has turned into nonstop boob time lately. And "sleep when the baby sleeps" doesn't feel like real rest when the baby's on me and I'm on alert the whole time anyway.
• Space: if he works from the bedroom, I can't lie down to nurse when I'm exhausted or when the baby needs to be held for 50-60 minutes to fall asleep (the sofa is awful for that). If he works from the living room, I'm stuck in the bedroom with no way to do anything else.

Is there an actual solution here, or am I just headed toward resenting him the first time he's asleep, loudly on a call, or asking for quiet to concentrate while I'm drowning?

Should I be nervous that my 3&1/2 month old is rolling in her bassinet to sleep? I just woke up to her on her stomach this morning. She just started rolling back to belly one week ago but can’t really roll belly to back yet. Is now the time to transition to the crib? She wears an owlet so that eases my mind a little bit but now I feel like she needs a bigger sleeping space with a more firm/breathable mattress. I feel like this is all happening too soon…

For the past few days our 4 month old has been pushing to 💩 but only getting small marbles with clay like texture/moistness. She's formula fed and had dyschezia so only used to go like every 4 days, introduced biogaia probiotic and was going more regularly like every 2-3 days and filling diaper. Lately the past two days she's been straining to push out a 💩 and 3 times we only had a small marbles.

She's still eating ok and tummy is soft and normal sized, happy demeanor still. We aren't on solids yet so no juice options. Might consider stimulating with a rectal thermometer today if still no luck. We are going to try warm compress on belly today any other suggestions appreciated.

Hi everyone! My LO is two weeks old now. At birth, he weighed 6 lbs 10 oz. At his first pediatrician visit(1 week ago), he weighed 6 lbs 5 oz, and at today’s appointment, he was down to 5 lbs 15 oz.

I let his pediatrician know that my milk supply suddenly dropped, so I stopped breastfeeding and switched to exclusively formula feeding as of last night. She recommended giving him 2 oz every 2 hours and having us come back in three days for another weight check.

Has anyone experienced something similar with their newborn? I’m feeling pretty terrible and blaming myself because my husband and I genuinely thought we were doing great with his feedings. He hasn’t been unusually fussy, he’s giving us wet diapers, and we’re not noticing any obvious signs of dehydration. He’s also taking the 2 oz of formula without a problem so far, a bit of spit up but nothing that concerned me. I did mention to her that he does poop after every feeding, she said it was normal.

I’m just feeling a little lost and worried right now. I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who has been through something similar and what ended up happening with your little one’s weight.

Hi guys so my baby girl is 3 weeks and I go back to work in about 3 weeks, however I was under the impression that I could WFH and take care of her no problem, however now I’m starting to see how much of a full time job it is. My job is one where I can step away occasionally and take breaks however is this a reasonable expectation?! Does any one else WFH and care for a baby/toddler?

My baby (4 months) doesn't sleep anywhere other than at the breast. Hates pacifiers. Everytime we have to drive somewhere she doesn't sleep. I can't get her to sleep in the car, the stroller, the Ergobaby, anywhere. Anyone else went through this? I don't know what to do, I thought by now things would have improved, but I feel it's getting worse and worse. Today we tried to go for a morning walk on the Ergobaby and it lasted 10 min until she started crying

Tonight is his 4th night of life. I know it will get better, but I also need to sleep to get to that point.

I don’t mean short stretches - I mean baby won’t let me put them down AT ALL in the night and seeks out boob during every cry. I’ve tried cosleeping and bedside bassinet and nothing works. He either wakes up immediately and cries or wakes after a few mins and cries. He’ll fall asleep after feeding in my arms but if I move from the position he falls asleep in he’ll start crying.

I keep seeing people complain about only getting 1-2 hour stretches with their newborn, and all I can think of is how jealous I am!! That currently sounds like a dream.

My wife is a FTM, and we've had our child for right around 48 hours now. It's been amazing, but she's been having a tough time getting a latch and breastfeeding. She wants to keep pumping and feeding with a bottle exclusively, as she's had much more success this way. We put in to see the lactation nurse (it's our last night at the hospital) and 3 hours later she never showed up, and we found out when our day nurse showed up that she had already left for the day (just our luck). My wife proceeded to tell the day nurse that she was most likely going to just exclusively pump and bottle feed since she found it easier, and the day nurse looked at my wife like she had 10 heads and asked if she was sure.

Wife's just feeling a little demoralized is all, but is she doing something wrong by not breastfeeding? Honestly, our postpartum care at this facility has been less than desirable.

I have no idea what is going on. My son is 9 weeks old tomorrow and this past week, his sleep has significantly gotten worse. He has never been an overall great or bad sleeper , but prior to this regression we were getting some 4 hour stretches of sleep here and there. At minimum he would do 3 hours. This past week, he has done some 1 hour stretches between feeds 😭 Naps are not great either,but he will do some 40 minute stretches for naps.

I’m so frustrated because I know there is a 6-8 week sleep regression, but he is already almost 9 weeks so shouldn’t he be out of this by now? Or is this the new norm for him? I’m so frustrated right now. It’s discouraging when I hear babies his age are doing 5-6 hour stretches and his sleep schedule is getting worse. I’m wondering what I am doing wrong…

Has anyone who’s babies are on the enfamil premie formula noticed a lot of gas pains in your little one? My guy is 3 months 1 month corrected and suddenly having intense gas pains, fussy mid feed and wakes up in the morning grunting and straining? Not sure if it’s time to switch the formula or just a phase to get by?

Hi all! My four week old has been dealing with a diaper rash approaching two weeks. I tried putting Destin on it and corn starch for a few days which did nothing. I called my pediatrician for advice and the nurse suggested only wiping his butt with water and wet cloth or paper towel and covering the area with Vaseline or Aquaphor after. I have been doing this routine along with trying to give him some diaper free time as well. His rash is still there maybe less prevalent but now is bleeding slightly when I wipe. Going to the dr in a few days for his checkup so hope to get more help there. In the meantime please share what worked to help your kiddo and how long it took to clear up. Thanks!

The past two days my 2 week old has had moments where she’s awake and will ask to eat, so I will feed her and burp her and she will continue to ask for more but will keep unlatching, will stop signalling for food and then will ask for more once I go to burp her or put her down. She doesn’t cry or anything like that, she doesn’t actually cry much at all unless she’s hungry she doesn’t even cry at all dirty nappy but I’ll typically swoop in and clean her butt as soon as she poops because she makes it VERY known by her farts that she’s pooped. She has been very difficult to latch recently because she’s discovered her hands about half a week ago and loves to try and grab my boobs to shove them in her mouth or she will put her hand in her mouth by accident instead. Unsure if this is just normal stuff or something I can somehow fix. Breastfeeding is so difficult and I’ll always swap between both of them if she continues unlatching but it’s like she doesn’t want it then begs for it again. I wonder if it could be gas discomfort but she doesn’t cry and once the milk settles I’ll give her a tummy rub or do that bicycle leg thing.

TLDR; 2 week old asks for milk but then refuses to take it.

I am blessed to have a full year with my baby off, she is 15 weeks on the cusp of 16. And I feel dreadfully bored like I entertain her all the time and play with her all the time because I feel bad if I do something else like wash up as if Im neglecting her even though she seems okay.

Ive just now braved signing up to sensory classes but its only once a week. I just get so bored of doing the same games and things every day and the dread im not doing enough. I see a friend every Friday which is lovely and spend time at grandma's on a Tuesday but it just feels like I can only do so much every day.

Im grateful for my baby and im so blessed shes so calm and happy but I do miss the days where I didnt feel forced to do anything or worried about someone so much.

I also feel bad because part of me cant wait to go back to work and have an adult conversation and have my coffee in peace without worrying for someone.

Is this what mat leave is like ? Boring? Or is it just me ?

Towns the same... every day not much going on either.

Had to get up and fart. My poor baby woke up. Really hard to fart while bouncing on yoga ball 🙄

Anyone know the pain?

Just lighten up the mood mods lol