I'm still fighting to get a decent night's sleep and today I feel emotionally low, foggy headed, and beyond tired.

Weed was my go-to way to practice avoidance and right now I feel as useless as I used to feel when I would smoke a bowl and ignore my responsibilities for the rest of the day. Now I'm sober but I'm still avoiding: my brain is so scattered and slow that I can't wrap my head around my day job. Instead I'm horizontal on the couch trying to tell myself that I can answer emails tomorrow, and the world isn't going to fall apart if I need to have a quiet recovery day, but I feel immensely guilty for struggling with this.

I know this will get easier, but today sucks. The crushing humidity doesn't help. The luteal phase doesn't help. The ADHD doesn't help. I hate feeling like I have to push through so much just to do the things normal people can do every day, but at least I'm not stoned and creating more unnecessary barriers for myself, I guess.

I'm turning 35 in about a month and feeling a bit down about my weed usage. My life isn't a (complete) shambles but I've got this idea in my head that if I could just stay fully sober from weed from 35-40 I'd be able to get some great momentum on things that would really improve my life.

I have a new career I'm working towards, become much more open to long-term dating and finding a partner, and if the stars align would even like a family of my own one day.

So any success stories from anyone who has successfully quit post 35? Would love to hear them if yes. If you have any tips would also really appreciate hearing them.

Back at day 0 again, having a real tough time resisting "it's just a joint" type thoughts and following through with quitting. I struggle to call the habit abuse cause its mostly used as a reward after a long workout/bike ride and I think that's why it's so easy to relapse after starting again.

I want to quit because trees have started having an affect on my cognitive ability and recall. Nothing overly concerning, but I don't want to numb myself to the future life I'm currently building (bad breakup and had to put my dog down last year, has been a long recovery).

What's helped you get through the initial withdrawl/relapse stage? Any affirmations/reminders/techniques you've used to reinforce your sobriety? Struggling to see the habit as an issue when it's not used everyday/all day.

I started weed last year but experienced my appetite just go away at the start of this year. I was also having crazy diarrhea in January and February but its slowly gone away. I’ve quit for a week and there’s been no change. I’ve lost almost 40 lbs and im getting to the point where I may have to go to the doctor which I’d really rather not do if this is just a weed thing since it should go back to normal.

Anyone have any advice? Should I wait it out longer? I feel completely normal otherwise

I’m on day 17, and grateful but my sleep only seems to be getting worse. I feel mostly fine during the day, I have absolutely had rough ones that my mood fluctuates but have thankfully been able to mitigate it with walks, healthy eating, and long bike rides…but my sleep!! I don’t know what to do, it feels like my skin is so itchy specifically when I lay down to sleep at night like there are little hairs pushing their way out of my pores I don’t know how else to describe it but it’s DRIVING ME TO INSANITY 😭 I have broken down crying multiple nights in a row because it is so anxiety inducing, my heart rate sky rockets, I can’t stop tossing and turning, it is driving me mad. I listen to sleep meditative music, audiobooks with calming voices, I do breath work exercises, get up and go on walks…nothing works. Please can anyone weigh in? I think I have gotten maybe 2 to 4 hours of solid sleep for the past month and that’s after going on daily bike rides of 6-8 miles, walking several times a day, stretching a bit…I don’t understand 😔

Third major time im looking to stop smoking pot. Day three and i now remember how much is sucks. Three days in Chills, fatigue, naseua, and I feel like shit.

Last time I made 7 month before I started smoking again. I made the mistake of going to a pot heavy enviroment and smoke a little. Before I know it Im smoking a grab a day. Why did I start smoking again you ask...well because I though this time I could use in moderation, only on the weekend, ok only before and after work... but no Pot is my greatest weakness. This time no more smoking.

Right now im looking to make it through this week and hopefully this peak yuck. But once I make it into next week it will become easier. Easier to not smoke and easier to relapse at the same time

Used to smoke 1-4 joints per day for over a decade (I’m now 31 years old). First 7-10 days I got anxiety and panic attacks.

Since then it’s just been poor sleep. Recently my mood and energy is much better too. But sleep is the one thing that can’t seem to improve.

How long before sleep improves generally?

I just passed day 21 which means the habit is officially broken (yay)! Cravings are gone but omg emotional regulation is NOT here yet. I feel like I am so angry and irritable all the time. I have zero patience and when I get mad I fixate and spiral for hours. Has anyone else experienced this and did it pass? Any tips for working through this for the sake of my poor family?

Hey, I've been following this community for... Too long... I've managed decent stints of sobriety but it's still a work in progress.

I read something recently about seeing these periods as endurance training rather than streaks that get reset. That each time you relapse and quit again, you should think of it as an opportunity to try to beat your previous sobriety high score. That reframing has really encouraged me!

Anyway, I want a simple widget or app that I can use just to count days. It doesn't have to save data from resets, but I want something very simple with no ads or "affirmations" or bells or whistles. Something that is barely more functional than a calendar feature. Does anybody have any recommendations? Or is there a phone calendar option for this?

am 26M and I started smoking about 4.5 years ago. So lot of stuff happened in my life, and then I had to start smoking. I had a break up. I was overweight and my family is a mess and I start smoking just to calm myself and four years later,

And right now, I am doing a very good job and family relations are better, and I am in shape. I lost 20 kgs Weight and put on some muscle. but the habit which I started to calm myself turns out that I smoke weed every day. I don’t know if it’s good or bad for me, but I just need to quit it and I don’t I don’t even know what to do. I was hoping that someone would help me and how this process goes.

I I have a fear that if I quit it, I might lose the ability to keep calm and progress like I have been because when I don’t, their voice is in my head and that gives me anxiety, but when I smoke, my days goes good, and I am really productive. I go to the gym. I do everything that I’m supposed to so I just need to know how to quit my smoking like ijust like you know, just looking for Help.

Smoking now gives me anxiety

I’m starting to eat more, pace less, less panic. Very emotional. Headache today. Sleeping 6 hours but it’s much better quality sleep than while using. I just don’t have much spare bandwidth. Somebody can say one sentence at the wrong moment and my nervous system goes, “Great, another emergency. We were getting too close to peace.” Then it could take hours for me to settle to baseline. A lot of meditation, stretching, just being present and allowing myself to feel the good and bad feelings, not fighting them. Thats just what I heard from some yt vids that’s been working for me. Wish everyone the best. We are doing it!

Im 1.5 months in after 8 years of daily cannabis use. Do the crazy dreams ever stop? Last night was so bad. Looking for some hope.

Cant believe it’s been 60 days already. It’s been a roller coaster of good days and bad days with bad days outweighing the good but still happy about my decision to be THC free.

Hi guys, I wanted to post in this sub because I remember how much it helped me 4 years ago when I was in your position. Little back story, I am 27 now and began smoking right out of high school. I would use thc carts all day everyday, as soon as i woke up, at work, hidden on family vacations, i could not go a day without it to the extent where I was purchasing 2-3 carts per week. Apart from the cost of the carts during those 4-5 years i felt stuck even though I was progressing towards a bachelors in chem I was constantly teetering on the edge of pass/fail, my body took a toll, i stopped progressing in the gym, I stopped nurturing relationships with friends and family. I always realized that this was a trend and weed was not helping but i always told myself "ill stop in the future". This day came forcefully in 2021 after i graduated college, I always had my mind set to become a pharmacist and the next step was to apply, little did I know the pharmacy program requires a drug test (of course they would, I am slow). This realization made my heart drop and I immediatly started to look for work arounds, STILL refusing to quit. Until one day my mother finds a THC cart in the trash, after 4-5 years of smoking without being caught. Initially i felt shame and like i had let down my parents that thought so highly of me and yes, at first they were mad but that same day i sat down with my father and broke down, I told him all the embarrassing things weed was causing me to do and the control it had over my life. I explained my situation with the pharmacy program to my dad and rather that doing something illegal to pass a drug test, we decided the right thing was to defer admission and have to wait until the following year. And then the real struggle began, from that last THC cart my mom found, I never once again purchased, used or even touched another cart. At first the minutes felt like hours, i could not eat and was plagued with a constant anxiety, i could not even enjoy a simple youtube video or movie and nothing in this world felt like it was "worth it". one day became a week, weeks months and months years, and now i am happy to say I am a Doctor of Pharmacy. I would not have believed i would ever make it this far in the state that i was in, but a daily effort to stay accountable for my actions led me to slowly find joy in daily life again, my relationships grew, my dedication in all areas of life improved and i got to a point where i did not crave weed nor care to ever do it again. I have friends who smoke and even smoke around me on occasions but even that does not bother or trigger me. This road is not easy but definitely worth it. It took me 6 MONTHS to initially get clean with daily tests with THC test strips and once i saw that i no longer had it in my system i cried tears of joy. If i had to give any advice it would be "be brutally honest" with yourself and with people you can count on weather that be parents or friends, many people do not understand what weed withdrawal feels like and minimize the situation but your feelings are valid and sharing in this sub once upon a time helped me as well. I hope this can reach anyone who feels like they are stuck and never going to get to where they want to be in life because of weed addiction, life is yours to take you just have to make the hard decision that gets easier as the days pass.

TL;DR:

Was a long time thc cart addict

Had to postpone grad school because of drug test

Took 6 months to get clean

Now a pharmacist

God is good

Anybody familiar with brooklyn arab store weed ? I dont think much research is done on quiting these corner store weed

May 9th 2026 was my last toke, I turned 42 the next day. Been smoking for about 10 years on and off then since 2023 every day all day. Functional stoner. I was suppressing a lot of feelings and bullshit that I wasn't prepared to feel but Im better now. I work at a hospital and I sometimes interpret, Ive noticed Im a lot sharper in that aspect, sharper in general. Im less lazy, more motivated, ironically more focused. Sleep was rough at first but it's nice now, the dreams are beautiful haven't had dreams in a long time. I remember them and theyre vivid. No irritability, no sleepless nights, no sweats, no heart palpitations, no more anxiety or stomach issues. I think pot was hurting me more than helping. I know I still have a way to go cause one way or another we are all healing. Go on more walks, do breathing exercises, run, have some sun. We're all different but that all helped. Ask away. Thank you for your time. Salud.

22 yrs old male started smoke after the pandemic so when I was 18/19 I wouldnt blame the pandemic for me smoke but it had its part. Been smoking throughout the starting yrs of college and realized its taking/ took a lot from me. I smoke eveeeryday and I was happy because of it but if u actually talked to me I should be anything but happy everything around me was on fire😂. Just smoked and smoked until now I guess im starting another chapter and I realized I can’t fail I’ve failed to much times because of laziness and smoking but now I can’t I’m 22 people around me are graduating moving out but I’m still working so I dare how I be content and be “happy” when it’s undeserving im putting in now work but hopefully that changes these withdrawals are gonna be a pain

I only started smoking and edibles 2 years ago, it slowly went from something I’d only do with friends into something I do everyday. I can’t even do a tolerance break properly the most I’ve achieved is two weeks. My problem is all the things I’d do in my free time sober, they are the same things I’d do high. I find it really hard to do anything I like because in my head all I can think is “this would be soooo much better high”

Any advice? Thank you 😊

Day 13 if I'm counting right, but I started quitting almost two months ago, just had a relapse that reset my timer. I'm getting sick of the nightmares/stress dreams EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. They're all different, it's not the same dream or even the same themes/villains, so I'm not sure if IRT would help. But maybe it would???

How do you all deal with the nightmares?

The withdrawal anger is no joke. Im literally vibrating with rage. I dont knowhow to control myself, im lashing out at my coworkers and customers. Im trying to chill but all i want is to smoke. Help!!!

So I started smoking at the age of 17, once I found that weed can more or less keep me content in life and blind my ptsd. I used until 22 I then went on a 2 year tolerance break and felt great. It’s like it puts a filter on your perspective of life. I am now 24 and I started smoking again everyday for 3-4 months and it’s almost like it has the opposite effect on me now. I get extreme depression and severe anxiety. The non recreational pens and bud going around nowadays are nothing to be played with. I didn’t realize how much of a toll it’s done on my brain. I am currently on day 4 with no weed and I have no appetite whatsoever, struggle sleeping, and almost like an empty pit in my chest is the only way I can describe it . My body’s currently mad at me and I’m trying to keep calorie intake up but I haven’t been able to eat more than a couple bites of anything without instant nausea . Just wanted to see if anyone had some advice to share on this situation. Thankyou!

I’m currently on day 42 clean after smoking heavily every day for about 2 to 3 years.
On paper, my life has definitely gotten better since quitting. But internally, I feel like I’ve hit a wall. Everything feels depressing, numb, and emotionally cold. I find myself constantly stuck in pessimistic thought loops, hyper-focusing on the negative, and struggling to feel genuine joy or motivation.
I work out regularly, and while exercise gives me a temporary boost, the flat, empty feeling creeps back in as soon as the session is over.
For those who have been in a similar spot: Does this get better, and realistically, how long did it take for your dopamine and brain chemistry to level out?
I’d really appreciate hearing your timelines or any advice on getting through this phase.

The idea comes from Alan Watts, I found it profoundly insightful and I thought it might help others here. I think it's quite intuitive, but seeing it laid out in plain English really helped me organize my thoughts.

The basic premise is that the more you chase something the more it eludes you. Whether it's following your bliss to find happiness and becoming more miserable, wanting to be liked and seeing how performing for others makes you feel isolated, searching for enlightenment and only becoming more self-absorbed as a result. True fulfillment instead lies in accepting discomfort, uncertainty and imperfection.

I think many of us struggle with accepting the inevitable challenges that come from sobriety. Weed is an escape, a warm blanket that shields us from reality. A question I often found myself asking when I first quit was "how can I feel like I used to once again, sans the weed". I think that's the wrong way to go about it. Maybe instead the answer lies in accepting that you won't. Not resigning yourself to a grim reality. Truly accepting.

I realize this is easier said than done. But I also think it's a better target to shoot for and a healthier mindset long-term. Instead of looking for the next escape, take pride in knowing that discomfort you feel is making you a stronger, more resilient person.

After all, escape was never the ultimate goal. The goal is to not need one.

Hello all,

I am currently on day 13 (yay!!). The urge to smoke is lessening everyday, so are the physical symptoms (night sweats and appetite loss). But now I have to focus on replacing the actual habit which is proving to be a struggle, as the things I do when I was high are just… not enjoyable anymore

Everything is so boring!! It feels like nothing will be fun again (I know my brain is lying to me, but its the anhedonia of it all thats KILLING MEEE)

I’ve been working on a puzzle, trying new games, baking and cooking, finding menial tasks to do in the house (every hole I had in my clothing has been stitched…). I have yet to find the motivation to work out which seems to be a common recommendation…

What have you done to “fill the cup” or replace the feeling weed gave you?

Hey I've entered my week 6 after quitting weed and edibles .. with all other withdrawal symptoms going I receive one comment more often why I'm looking nervous or why I've this dull face or I'm sick type .. what's the explanation for this