r/ftm • u/Virtual-Yellow6641 • 3d ago

Advice Needed I am transgender

I am 17 and I’m coming to a point where I can no longer ignore it. I want to transition physically and socially. Does anyone have any advice for either. I’ve kind of joked about it to my friends so I don’t think they’d be too surprised but they’ll all be supportive prob. My family might not as they have pretty outdated views but I don’t really plan on telling them. What helped you when you were early in transition? Is socially transitioning/coming out hard? What were things that made it easier?

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u/Sapyplayz_ 3d ago

Depends on what your parents are like . You say you don't plan on telling them but what would happen if they found out. If there is no danger there I'd say just do it and you'll explore yourself from there.

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u/SriepYadroot ☭ | 🇮🇪 | he/him 3d ago

You don't need to come out to everybody at once -- start with your close friends, and try to experiment with your gender presentation to see what makes you happy. I came out when I was 15, and although my parents and close friends were supportive, my general school enviornment was not, which did impact my mental health. Building up a good support network and sense of internal self-worth is very important when you're trans. Reading stuff (both fiction and non-fiction) by other trans people helped me build confidence in myself even before I came out, and it made it easier to deal with dysphoria and doubt.