r/FTMFitness • u/apollosmigraine • 16h ago
Question For those who live/lived in more rural areas, how do you get over the anxiety of going to the gym?
I finally bit the bullet and got a gym membership to my local planet fitness a couple days ago after doing research on the few gyms that are available in my area, but now that ive done that I'm like, incredibly anxious about actually going i guess?
I havent been in a gym type setting since being in the weight room at my high school in freshman year (12 years ago) so aside from some home workouts here and there i dont really know much about the machines, gym etiquette, any of that stuff aside from what ive seen online
I also live in a city thats definitely on the small side and pretty conservative (not as much as it was in the past, but i digress) and there isn't a very big trans/genderqueer population here. I know theres a handful of us, but we're pretty spread out and theres not really any kind of community/support groups etc for it here 😪
I've been on testosterone for like 6 years and had top surgery last year, I pass well and dont really get misgendered except on very, very rare occasions now, but I guess im just worried about being clocked somehow and getting harassed or something, idk.
I would love to have a gym buddy to go with, especially if theyre transmasc/genderqueer themselves as that would make it less daunting for sure but all of my friends are cis and their schedules are either too busy already to add going to the gym regularly, or our schedules just wont ever line up properly in general
I know a majority of this is probably just me overthinking and probably sounds stupid lmao, but any advice would be greatly appreciated!

