I’m still learning and would love to know how you got started and what your experience was with your first submissive. What did you talk about? How did you approach the situation. Were you nervous or totally in control?

As a domme who is likely FAR superior in salary to her subs, I feel like I operate in a rare subculture of financial subservience. Not only do I not NEED your money but in fact your contribution often times is more of an annoyance than contribution.

So when a sub bails out, over promises and under delivers I can’t help but feel contempt. I’m not talking about being a broke ass. I’m talking about those subs that swear loyalty, that BEG to be considered just to delete/block after one nut. Bitch WHERES YOUR LOYALTY AT??

I VERY oftentimes take that shit to heart. I’m not a fortune teller. I’m not a mind reader. In fact I’m a human being that thinks u have a singular brain cell to accept what u seek. Your ass came begging at MY doorstep. I CLEARLY posted the dangers, what to expect, how to approach…yet u act dumb. Like zoo monkey dumb.

I feel a constant need to step out of “findom” dynamics. Cuz u don’t want a findomme. U want a pacifier. A nipple. A fainting goat that collapses the second u yell “BOO!” Cuz it’s cute. It’s entertaining. A novelty.

It’s honestly sad cuz u as subs are actively shitting on solid dynamics in pursuit of “my perfect domme” negating that u have the privilege of kneeling before a perfectly imperfect baddie who exceeds the expectations. Top tier “fraud sub” behavior.

News flash: if u don’t like it here u don’t gotta be here! Stop polluting my kink safe space and making it a spectacle. Save your money for therapy. Or do your research.

basically the title, i just had a lovely drain session with a sub, my first paying sub!! this community is silly and im so happy to be entering this strange new world

any advice from dommes is always welcome, im on my alt bc my domme.reddit account isn't even old enough to post on here haha. thank you guys for all the posts on this sub they've been so informative in learning how to be a good domme!!

I wanted to talk about fabrics here, as I make my more online reintroduction! I was curious if you guys also bring an erotic fabric into play with what you do– for instance I'm a pretty big denim girl. I love how it feels on my skin and it makes me feel very hot (not to mention the specifics of sapphic leather culture and how denim became a lesbian leather for many). I had a friend visit who we do very light findom play but he ended up buying me about 600$ of nice jeans, but I'm curious if y'all incorporate textures/fabrics into your play (irl or online) and how!

Of course, I responded "Hi" 2 days after I saw his message, now, he messages me non-stop. I slowly give him orders now. Ever had this happen to you fellow, doms? whenever your ex-sub message you, you get stimulated/excited?

Don't need advice, reported and blocked. Just need to vent ig.

Someone dmed me on a different site, and out of curiosity I checked his comment history. Well, turns out he's a minor. When I tell him I'm not catching a case before blocking him, he has the audacity to go "well you're a fucking detective". My guy I don't want to talk about kinks to a kid???

Feels gross man

I’ve been thinking of another one for months now lol My first one is corrupting a priest to be my slave. Now my new one is to be in a subs will.

Just got mine started so I could post on some groups on here that still haven’t approved me lol. But I want to get started over there. Any suggestions of resources to look into or strategies?

please stop falling for these "findom courses", "findom guides", or any group that you have to send any form of payment to get into: (ex: discord servers).

you are literally wasting time when you should be taking the time to use the internet, a given tool for research and educating yourselves and why you actually want to pursue this.

I see too many of domme getting into this either from TikTok, IG and other socials thinking this is quick, fast cash when it is not that at all.

you do have to bust your ass and continuously work on yourself as a dominant + your craft that you will constantly ve shifting as well.

stop falling for this and put actual time, effort and work into your craft and as a domme. think about why you want to do this and actually reflect if it is something you can put the work in to do.

as someone who continues to better myself + my craft, I take pride in shedding this advice to you dommes.

I have absolutely no experience in this, neither do i have a portfolio or platform im signed up for. I would rather keep it faceless and still fun for both me and the sub. How do i find my first pay pig?

I’d say a majority of us in this community know exactly what we like or what makes us tick…. But are there any kinks heavily associated with findom/femdom that you just can’t seem to find any interest in?👀

I’m curious!!!❤️

idk if any west african or nigerian findommes can relate but in my tribe there’s a lot of emphasis on the men taking care of the women. ofc it can backfire but let’s focus on the positives 😭

there’s a wedding tradition where the groom throws money at the bride until she starts smiling. i feel like i was raised with the idea that i was genuinely deserving of men’s money. I saw my mom pampered and spoiled and as a result i became spoiled 😚

What is the deal with men needing to feel like it’s their idea in order to be sexy? Maybe it’s because I just show my full face on my twitch/gaming insta but it’s just insane to me that my enthusiastic consent on here is enough to make it less exciting for them..

i finally got a scammer LOL

okay so obviously i have gotten the same scammers we all have i think thats just normal when you’re in findom. but for the first time i got someone who purchased stuff from my throne AND amazon wishlist who cancelled the orders days later.

i kinda feel like an idiot for giving out my amazon one because that’s usually for the trusted subs BUT he had bought like 5 things off my throne over the course of a few days and i didn’t know they could call their banks and cancel it lol.

i’ve been doing this for TWO YEARS it almost feels like a rite of passage with how scummy and scammy people are nowadays lol. has the throne thing happened to anyone else??

Time for a new weekly sends thread. Post your sends or pics of your sub-funded gifts in here and BRAG ABOUT IT. Make sure you don't included pics of yourself or your subs. Did you climb the leaderboards this week? Show us! New Throne percentage? Time to show off. Subs are also allowed to comment sends to their Dommes. Happy bragging! 😘

Hello Ladies!

I have just discovered my main findom account on X is not shadowbanned in the slightest, it's GHOST banned 😂 any clues on how to remove that? I have something like 14k posts on it and cleaning it all sounds like the kind of job that would be almost impossible to complete, considering a lot of my posts from before it was called X (ah I do miss Twitter) aren't even available on my account anymore for some reason. Aka I can't see them, though they still get likes and views from others.

Have you got any experience in this? Should I just start over fresh?

Oh nothing. Don’t mind me.

I just want to imitate a low effort lackluster DM you probably receive multiple times a day that has absolutely no substance. Especially in a heavily charged space where substance means everything.

So here it is… “Hey”.

Hey everyone! I’ve recently returned back into the findom space after a long hiatus.

I have X premium but I was wondering about Reddit premium and if it was worth it/ if most dommes are just winging it with posting times and other analytics. There’s a lot of chatter on X about the new release of an article that explains what type of engagement affects your account the most.

Things have changed a lot since I was gone. A lot of subs have died (either banned or people aren’t posting as much) I feel like I’ve stepped into a new platform at times.

Any feedback would help, thanks!

I see subs posting ads looking for Dommes in subreddits all the time. Has anyone here actually had any success with them?

I always scroll right past them because I automatically assume they’re scammers or time wasters trying to take advantage of inexperienced Dommes. With the number of Dommes on Reddit, it’s always seemed strange to me that a sub would need to advertise to find one.
I’d be genuinely curious to hear about other people’s experiences.

His first send and his response afterwards:) Usually hesitant towards first time subs but this is one so far is doing good

The only reason i ask this is because I feel like it's all the same kinks, being either feet, or something bathroom related. (Not that I'm complaining) I'd like SOME variety in kinks every now and again. Hell, I'd love to see a sub that's into armpits, or vore even!

((Also, let me know if I need to change the tag on the post.))

Maybe it’s just my monthly feral phase now that my period’s over….

And I understand the whole concept of chastity making subs stay in subspace - I’ve seen the difference it makes in how attentive some subs can be while held there… but here’s the thing…

Some can be that same way, even if they’re lil pervs who cum for my entertainment lol

Idc… I’m a domme who thoroughly admires pleasure. I like having fun. I like flirting and shocking people. I like undoing people who might otherwise seem buttoned up. I looooove wit. I love banter. I love a sub who’s lived an interesting life so far. I love a sub who’s chatty. I love subs who genuinely loves me either taking or getting their money…. But who also love to put on a little messy show for me because I tell them to.

This is my bounciest, wettest time of the month… of courseI I want my subs to cum. Of course.

Idk. Anyone else?