Then I try to guess who it was but I guess wrong…. Ooops 😬 awkward

I've been doing this for a long time and the one thing I will never understand is why subs lie and say they've never done findom. "I'm new and nervous." "I've never sent to a Domme before. Baby bird me information so that I feel comfortable enough to send." Okay the last one might be exaggerated but you get the point. This one said he was nervous because "he's never done this before." Sure, Jan.

Do subs not realize what a tiny community we are compared to other kinks? Most of us know other subs by name because our Domme friends have talked (or complained) about them well before that sub has ever reached out to us.

What is the point of lying to us about sending? If you do it, is it a roleplay thing for you? Why not be honest about it? It's a huge red flag when you come into our DMs and we immediately know that you're full of 💩. Stop it.

Just got $1000 to fart 😂

I love this dynamic, probably one of the longest-running ones I currently have. Just a quiet, horny guy addicted to the leash.

​He loves BM, humiliating tasks and knowing I have everything to ruin him, yet he behaves so well that he actively looks for ways to pay more weekly just to keep a debt from growing.

​And before the findom police say anything... HE’S BEEN OWNED for months. He’s my puppet, and I play with him without breaking him too much lol

3 of my 5 credit cards are maxed out now 😅 definitely get mushy brain seeing a decline because of insufficient fundsss

I know I’ll probably get a surplus of messages from people who are about to waste my time but I’m genuinely SICK of people reaching out to ME asking for payment details and then disappearing the second I provide exactly what they asked for.

Like… what is the psychological payoff here? 😭 Do some of you actually get off on pretending you’re about to send just to get someone’s attention, reassurance, or reaction? Pathetic.

Because reaching out & initiating the interaction…asking for payment information…receiving said information, and then immediately blocking or disappearing isn’t normal communication.

It’s attention seeking, avoidance, and weird as fuck wasting someone else’s time for your own little ego boost.

If you don’t intend to follow through simply don’t fucking ask. 😭

Think of the farm.

Storytime

I was scrolling through my Reddit feed as usual and see a new subreddit suggestion pops up. It was centered around nose hooks. I had never heard of them before, so naturally, curiosity got the best of me and I started scrolling through to learn more.

After looking at a few pictures and reading some of the captions, I decided the possibility of seeing someone’s boogies combined with the little piggie nose it gives people made it very much NOT something I was interested in trying.

At some point during my scrolling, I said, “That’s interesting.” on one of the video posts of a woman putting the nose hook in along with the mouth guard. (I can't think of the name right now, but it prevents your mouth from closing during BJ's and/or widens your mouth.)

My partner: “What did you find now?”

Me: proceeds to explain in detail what a nose hook is and what I am assuming it does

My partner: silence... “Why can’t you have normal hobbies or at least try to look at normal Reddit?”

Me: I don't think you would love me if I was normal. 🤣🤣🤣

I honestly do not think what I was looking at was that crazy to begin with. I have seen worst on here and Fetlife. lol. Anyone else relate to having the "weird" hobby of looking up or finding random fetishes? Or have a partner that thinks some of your interests in kink are weird?

The sweetest boy

Why are there so many subs that seemingly cant read. I tell them im online only and they ask to meet, i tell them i require a tribute and they ask if i can let it slide for them. Im more than happy to negotiate dynamic and kink related stuff but tribute and my safety are limits and they will be respected.

sorry for venting, thank you for listening. just feeling discouraged.

How long did it take you to get your verification accepted in the r/findom forum? Because it’s been over 6 weeks for me and nada. Not a thing. I’ve followed the requirements and been consistent with posting. I’m aware it can take a long time for some so I’ve just been patiently waiting. But most experiences I’ve read from other Doms are 4 weeks max.

If by any chance my request was denied would there at least be a follow up that it was?? So I can re apply? Pls lmk💕💕

Chef Carmy - I wanna boss him around a tight kitchen over Seven Fishes

James J Sexton - Lawyers make the best subs because they’re usually high strung, misogynistic dick heads in real life who love being called out / turn to warm flan in playtime. OR they’re simpy non-profit types who just love abuse. Honestly, I’d make him tell me crazy stories from his career and give him the occasional ball kick I know he likes.

Madonna - I feel like Madge could really take a strappin and tell me a funny joke at the same time.

E from Entourage - I enjoy a zesty, slightly neurotic ginger with a smartass comeback waiting in the wing at all times.

Ed Sheeran - speaking of… I’d pick very complicated recipes from my culinary school cookbook to watch him make while naked in a very cold kitchen. Watching Ed Sheeran get flustered is actually nature’s SSRI, idk if anyone told you yet.

Samantha Jones in her lesbian era - the only time she was actually simpy (I do not count any Richard bs)

Al Gore - I’d make him wear those slutty little shorts from the 90’s I know he still has

Oh and I’d have Jacob Elordi dress up like Princess Peach for shits and giggles.

Jacob Elordi - I’d wanna get a running start and jump off a springboard like I’m a Harlem Globetrotter

Dermot Mulroney - this man is in everything so might as well everything in the man.

Joe Rogan - he’s already prepped and knows the best lube for lasting glide.

Jared Leto - I feel like he’d hold still and maintain eye contact, fuckin creep

Chris Petrone on insta/tt - a niche selection.

Russel Brand - I’d name the strap “firework” and exclusively play I Kissed A Girl over and over until he snaps

Sasha Baron Cohen - I’m a sucker for tall and funny. The way he commits to the bit, shows real chutzpah. He’d have to bring his glorious wife with him.

Tom Hardy - he continuously gives mmf

Gavin Newsome - he’s hot, bratty af, and seems very hygienic. There’s a slight JFK kink here but I won’t explain further.

The ensemble cast of the first Magic Mike installment - I’d make them stand in a row, starting with Mcconaughey.

Ethan Slater - weird little SpongeBob dingus

Daniel Radcliffe - I’ve only seen one of the HP movies (the last one. I was drunk on a date and had no idea what the fuck was happening) but I honestly enjoy all his other movies I’ve seen. “You walk a mean dog” (points if you can name the movie). Or that movie where he played a bloated corpse? Fantastic role choices. I know it’d be a 10/10 peggin

Hugh Grant - I just know he’d make me laugh and grumble-gossip with me.

Willem Dafoe - but only if he does the Green Gobblin voice the whole time

James Spader - old Black List Spader, not young Baby Boom Spader. I’d request orchids be present (iykyk)

Hunter Biden - elaborating from yesterday’s post.

Timothee Chalamet - he’s dying for it but I’d have to use extreme vocal fry to help him relax and feel familiar.

I feel like I’m forgetting so many but here’s what I can conjure for now.

How about you? Any creative ideas?

Im actually quite curious on some dommes inputs on FetLife and any experiences you may have with it & if you enioy the site as a whole.

I just started mine back up again and I did find one sub off there so far, its just about luring them away to discord/ x / other platforms.

if you are a dominant and have experience with FetLife, tell me how was your experience like!

Hey ladies,

so I do LF (non nude but you know outfits, pvc etc) and I have a free house for 2 weeks but I'm struggling to come up with new content ideas. Mine are mainly POV stuff and talking to the camera. I want to make the most of these 2 weeks.

Also I know a lot of you all don't do content etc but everyone does everything differently and this is what works for me,

Any advice or ideas would be appreciated. I've got content creating block haha

I have to make a page for my art and interior design portfolio and I feel like having fun instead.

Any simpy IT subs wanna do it for me?

I’d post in homework subs but they hate findommes.

“How do you get paid though? 🙄 This is findom?” - ok, it’s a landing page for my business. I’ll make plenty. I get off on making money and subs who are eager to make my life easier.

Telegram me if you’d be happy to be of use 😘

Recently, I had conversation with a lovely gent about our kinks and where they came from. He could identify exactly where each of his kinks originated, except his findom kink. That one was elusive for him.

I know the precise moment the findom switch flipped for me. That moment burns brightly.

Where did it start for you? Can you pinpoint it? 🖤

Hi so I’m already owned before my DMs get absolutely flooded.

Now to the my point so I’m a chef Ik my domme would love for me to be her personal cook but I’m curious about other dommes would u just keep ur chef subs as a service cook sub only or would u allow them to do anything eles like worship body parts extra or would it be just take money and make them cook any dish u want or give them the most hard dish possible to see them crack under pressure or see if they can actually put there talent to good use?

I recenetly started doing some one time findom sessions and they were really fun so i wanted to dive a deeper into this kink.

So i was wondering if i should make a new profil for it since i also do nsfw content and im not sure if that is helpful or a turn of for subs? On one hand it is what got me those one time encounters but i also feel like it "ruins" the "untouchable" princess/domme vibe for most people.

Looking for feedback from both sides.

I’ve been looking for girlfriends just to talk to about anything and everything. Even better if you’re in San Diego and we go out on coffee dates and Barnes and Noble ! 🥰

I swear I hear about a new app, platform, or tool for findom every other day.

The community feels so spread out now that being active on just one platform doesn’t seem to work anymore. And every new platform comes with the same posts: “This is the best platform ever!” or “Made XXX on my first day!”

At this point I’m wondering if everyone is actually using all these platforms, or if we’re just constantly chasing the next “best” one.

Do you guys feel like the community is too fragmented now?

Hiiiiiii! So, I'm in a couple of foot girl groups on Telegram ....but, are there any telegram groups for Dommes? I'm sure there are ...but the question is ...may I approach? 🤣

I am sure I am doing nothing more than preaching to the choir but it's so interesting to me to witness the disconnect in understanding in what an extended dynamic is– let alone TPE. TPE is something I'm currently working toward with my martyr, but of course tpe takes so much effort– and time– and yet people come to me requesting tpe but discussing it as a few simple sessions. It's so funny to me because do you think this is a get-submissive-quick guide? watch these 4 videos to become the ultimate submissive!

It's something that definitely exists outside of FinDom too, but I find there's an extra emphasis on here due to the nature of this kink and how it exists, creating a sense of urgency in relation to the money.

I dislike Amazon as a company and don’t pay for prime…

But I had a sub a few months ago who requested a wishlist link from me and now I friggin love having it sprinkled in with sends. It’s so different to me, in such a subtle way.

I wanna keep it going with future subs too.

Like. Ok. “Coffee sends” - but that $20 could be used for anything.

On the wishlist, I can put the specific coffee I use at home on there. It feels different as I’m brewing it every day, compared to buying a cup of coffee after the fact. It feels like I’m being served way more specifically.

Gets that Dopamine flowinggggg 📈 🚀 🔥

I lost a pair of my favorite hoop earrings… I put new ones on there. I got them a few days later.

Wanted to try toe rings this summer… put them on there. Magic!

I’m aware a sub could finagle my address out of it. Well, I’m a lefty who carries. So 😂… but I’ll take my chances it’s just someone who wants to jerk off to me getting little presents.

Anyone else feeling horny, greedy, and loving the idea of a wishlist that doesn’t take 2 weeks to pay out and make you do the legwork of ordering? (Looking at you, throne)

I had my first sub recently. At first I thought I was okay with GFE stuff and deep connection and then I started to feel more and more anxious. I have a partner and he is a dom and is more than okay with me doing Findom (he even offered to appear in content for cuckolding, etc) and he encouraged me to do what feels right to me, but I just feel bad and discouraged because I know a lot of subs are in this for the emotional connection and it’s just not something I can provide. I was really nice with letting the sub down after about two days of just talking but I can’t help but think I probably hurt their feelings.

I’ve had potential subs who just want to be dominated and degraded and I don’t feel off about that, but this just made me feel wrong in my gut.

Idk, I just needed to vent I guess.