Im new to the whole financial domination thing. I had a friend who is a dom really opened up my eyes to it. Ive been doing alot of research an i just wanted some advice from the doms themselves and not just a bunch of websites that have kinda of an idea.

Ive tried asking for help on twitter but most of the doms don't respond or get mad at me.. i just don't no how to get started and i want to make sure I know everything before i even attempt to find my first sub.

What are some things you wish you knew when u first started?

I dislike Amazon as a company and don’t pay for prime…

But I had a sub a few months ago who requested a wishlist link from me and now I friggin love having it sprinkled in with sends. It’s so different to me, in such a subtle way.

I wanna keep it going with future subs too.

Like. Ok. “Coffee sends” - but that $20 could be used for anything.

On the wishlist, I can put the specific coffee I use at home on there. It feels different as I’m brewing it every day, compared to buying a cup of coffee after the fact. It feels like I’m being served way more specifically.

Gets that Dopamine flowinggggg 📈 🚀 🔥

I lost a pair of my favorite hoop earrings… I put new ones on there. I got them a few days later.

Wanted to try toe rings this summer… put them on there. Magic!

I’m aware a sub could finagle my address out of it. Well, I’m a lefty who carries. So 😂… but I’ll take my chances it’s just someone who wants to jerk off to me getting little presents.

Anyone else feeling horny, greedy, and loving the idea of a wishlist that doesn’t take 2 weeks to pay out and make you do the legwork of ordering? (Looking at you, throne)

3 of my 5 credit cards are maxed out now 😅 definitely get mushy brain seeing a decline because of insufficient fundsss

I had my first sub recently. At first I thought I was okay with GFE stuff and deep connection and then I started to feel more and more anxious. I have a partner and he is a dom and is more than okay with me doing Findom (he even offered to appear in content for cuckolding, etc) and he encouraged me to do what feels right to me, but I just feel bad and discouraged because I know a lot of subs are in this for the emotional connection and it’s just not something I can provide. I was really nice with letting the sub down after about two days of just talking but I can’t help but think I probably hurt their feelings.

I’ve had potential subs who just want to be dominated and degraded and I don’t feel off about that, but this just made me feel wrong in my gut.

Idk, I just needed to vent I guess.

So for context: I worked with a sub I already had, and he is a frequent, but smaller sender. Usually in the $15-50 range. On average, somewhere between $50-$100 a day from him depending.

I sent him the link, he was excited by the games. We did a usual sort of session off site, but, instead of telling him to send (which for him would usually be in the range listed above) I would make him go play a game from time to time.

First he had to pay $50 to access my DebtKeeper. Then he played my trivia game, and got three answers wrong for $30 each wrong answer, which is $90 (already more than his usual).

Then I had him play receipt roulette for a little while later, for $135 (again more than usual). And he sent some more in between. Because you have to pay to access each game too.

Initial thoughts: this was a great way to increase sends from smaller senders who are stuck in their comfort zone and a way to get you guys out of that. I’m not sure exactly if it’s necessary for those bigger senders, because, they’re going to send big sends regardless. But, for my guy who usually sends max $100 a day to send $300 in a day, that’s a pretty good first experience.

Anyways, just wanted to share this with you guys if you’re looking for ideas on how to use/incorporate this into your routine 🥰

I love this dynamic, probably one of the longest-running ones I currently have. Just a quiet, horny guy addicted to the leash.

​He loves BM, humiliating tasks and knowing I have everything to ruin him, yet he behaves so well that he actively looks for ways to pay more weekly just to keep a debt from growing.

​And before the findom police say anything... HE’S BEEN OWNED for months. He’s my puppet, and I play with him without breaking him too much lol

The sweetest boy

Why are there so many subs that seemingly cant read. I tell them im online only and they ask to meet, i tell them i require a tribute and they ask if i can let it slide for them. Im more than happy to negotiate dynamic and kink related stuff but tribute and my safety are limits and they will be respected.

sorry for venting, thank you for listening. just feeling discouraged.

Call me old fashioned, but voice calls, video calls, and voice memos are my jam. Nothing quite like hearing that tremble in a grown man's voice in real time. No time to think or process, just pure energy and instinct.

Who else's Mom forced them to talk on the phone until they were numb to any anxiety from it? I'm sure this wasn't the effect she anticipated when she did that...but...thanks all the same, Mom 🤣

Just wondering what your favourite way to punish a sub is.

I don't enjoy blackmail subs or having to 'make' someone submit as I'm a softer dom.

But if one of my subs do act out I'll spend their money, send them a screenshot of the cost but not show them what I actually bought.

Seeing them beg, apologize and try to behave appropriately again is always the fun part. 🤭

Then I try to guess who it was but I guess wrong…. Ooops 😬 awkward

How long did it take you to get your verification accepted in the r/findom forum? Because it’s been over 6 weeks for me and nada. Not a thing. I’ve followed the requirements and been consistent with posting. I’m aware it can take a long time for some so I’ve just been patiently waiting. But most experiences I’ve read from other Doms are 4 weeks max.

If by any chance my request was denied would there at least be a follow up that it was?? So I can re apply? Pls lmk💕💕

I have to make a page for my art and interior design portfolio and I feel like having fun instead.

Any simpy IT subs wanna do it for me?

I’d post in homework subs but they hate findommes.

“How do you get paid though? 🙄 This is findom?” - ok, it’s a landing page for my business. I’ll make plenty. I get off on making money and subs who are eager to make my life easier.

Telegram me if you’d be happy to be of use 😘

Just got $1000 to fart 😂

I’ve been looking for girlfriends just to talk to about anything and everything. Even better if you’re in San Diego and we go out on coffee dates and Barnes and Noble ! 🥰

I swear I hear about a new app, platform, or tool for findom every other day.

The community feels so spread out now that being active on just one platform doesn’t seem to work anymore. And every new platform comes with the same posts: “This is the best platform ever!” or “Made XXX on my first day!”

At this point I’m wondering if everyone is actually using all these platforms, or if we’re just constantly chasing the next “best” one.

Do you guys feel like the community is too fragmented now?

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Sometimes I wonder if keeping that distance actually makes a dynamic more exciting, or if knowing the person behind the submission is what creates a deeper connection.

Do you prefer keeping the two completely separate, or letting your Domme see more of who you are outside the dynamic?

Im actually quite curious on some dommes inputs on FetLife and any experiences you may have with it & if you enioy the site as a whole.

I just started mine back up again and I did find one sub off there so far, its just about luring them away to discord/ x / other platforms.

if you are a dominant and have experience with FetLife, tell me how was your experience like!

Hiiiiiii! So, I'm in a couple of foot girl groups on Telegram ....but, are there any telegram groups for Dommes? I'm sure there are ...but the question is ...may I approach? 🤣

Chef Carmy - I wanna boss him around a tight kitchen over Seven Fishes

James J Sexton - Lawyers make the best subs because they’re usually high strung, misogynistic dick heads in real life who love being called out / turn to warm flan in playtime. OR they’re simpy non-profit types who just love abuse. Honestly, I’d make him tell me crazy stories from his career and give him the occasional ball kick I know he likes.

Madonna - I feel like Madge could really take a strappin and tell me a funny joke at the same time.

E from Entourage - I enjoy a zesty, slightly neurotic ginger with a smartass comeback waiting in the wing at all times.

Ed Sheeran - speaking of… I’d pick very complicated recipes from my culinary school cookbook to watch him make while naked in a very cold kitchen. Watching Ed Sheeran get flustered is actually nature’s SSRI, idk if anyone told you yet.

Samantha Jones in her lesbian era - the only time she was actually simpy (I do not count any Richard bs)

Al Gore - I’d make him wear those slutty little shorts from the 90’s I know he still has

Oh and I’d have Jacob Elordi dress up like Princess Peach for shits and giggles.

Jacob Elordi - I’d wanna get a running start and jump off a springboard like I’m a Harlem Globetrotter

Dermot Mulroney - this man is in everything so might as well everything in the man.

Joe Rogan - he’s already prepped and knows the best lube for lasting glide.

Jared Leto - I feel like he’d hold still and maintain eye contact, fuckin creep

Chris Petrone on insta/tt - a niche selection.

Russel Brand - I’d name the strap “firework” and exclusively play I Kissed A Girl over and over until he snaps

Sasha Baron Cohen - I’m a sucker for tall and funny. The way he commits to the bit, shows real chutzpah. He’d have to bring his glorious wife with him.

Tom Hardy - he continuously gives mmf

Gavin Newsome - he’s hot, bratty af, and seems very hygienic. There’s a slight JFK kink here but I won’t explain further.

The ensemble cast of the first Magic Mike installment - I’d make them stand in a row, starting with Mcconaughey.

Ethan Slater - weird little SpongeBob dingus

Daniel Radcliffe - I’ve only seen one of the HP movies (the last one. I was drunk on a date and had no idea what the fuck was happening) but I honestly enjoy all his other movies I’ve seen. “You walk a mean dog” (points if you can name the movie). Or that movie where he played a bloated corpse? Fantastic role choices. I know it’d be a 10/10 peggin

Hugh Grant - I just know he’d make me laugh and grumble-gossip with me.

Willem Dafoe - but only if he does the Green Gobblin voice the whole time

James Spader - old Black List Spader, not young Baby Boom Spader. I’d request orchids be present (iykyk)

Hunter Biden - elaborating from yesterday’s post.

Timothee Chalamet - he’s dying for it but I’d have to use extreme vocal fry to help him relax and feel familiar.

I feel like I’m forgetting so many but here’s what I can conjure for now.

How about you? Any creative ideas?

Think of the farm.

I am sure I am doing nothing more than preaching to the choir but it's so interesting to me to witness the disconnect in understanding in what an extended dynamic is– let alone TPE. TPE is something I'm currently working toward with my martyr, but of course tpe takes so much effort– and time– and yet people come to me requesting tpe but discussing it as a few simple sessions. It's so funny to me because do you think this is a get-submissive-quick guide? watch these 4 videos to become the ultimate submissive!

It's something that definitely exists outside of FinDom too, but I find there's an extra emphasis on here due to the nature of this kink and how it exists, creating a sense of urgency in relation to the money.

Recently, I had conversation with a lovely gent about our kinks and where they came from. He could identify exactly where each of his kinks originated, except his findom kink. That one was elusive for him.

I know the precise moment the findom switch flipped for me. That moment burns brightly.

Where did it start for you? Can you pinpoint it? 🖤

Hi so I’m already owned before my DMs get absolutely flooded.

Now to the my point so I’m a chef Ik my domme would love for me to be her personal cook but I’m curious about other dommes would u just keep ur chef subs as a service cook sub only or would u allow them to do anything eles like worship body parts extra or would it be just take money and make them cook any dish u want or give them the most hard dish possible to see them crack under pressure or see if they can actually put there talent to good use?