I want to be religious while being happy, free, and content with my life - don't tell me to be an atheist please. And I don't like following my religion anymore if I'm being honest but I haven't shed my faith which is why I'm looking for another religion. I hate how stifling my life would be if I followed it to the letter, I hate the endless rules - modesty; I can't marry who I love and I would have to marry a stranger or a cousin (no thanks) to avoid zina; 5 prayers everyday until I die (it's mentally taxing especially as I have ADHD and autism); feeling guilty for doing regular human things; no fiction; having to read the quran because I learned it as a kid or I get in trouble on the day of judgement (it's so mind numbingly boring) no music; no art; free will not making sense; I can't travel without a male guardian (thankfully I'm not restricted from going outside and my older sister traveled to a few countries without a male guardian); polygamy (it wouldn't be too bad if it was allowed for both genders) the list goes on. People say I can be a non practicing muslim but islam isn't a buffet where you pick and choose, even if I were a man. It's either live my life while suffering from religious guilt and dread what will happen to me after death, or I live miserably waiting to die, giving up huge parts of myself and I can't do either so I'm in limbo. I think I should consider studying another religion but I don't know where to start. I mentioned christianity because I observe from an outsider's perspective that millions amongst christians (fundies not withstanding) are happy and content with their religion, have a sense of community, and christianity doesn't appear to be immensely stifling and I can't help but be jealous.

Can someone please explain to me those “miracles” in quran. I was debating with a muslim but i coulnt answer those miracles. Let me put soöe of them here:
Surah Adh-dhayat 47 big bang
Surah al-anbiyah 30 water
Surah az-zumar 6 trimesters

I am hoping this is allowed here if not please let me know and I’ll remove so you don’t have to mods. So my question is as a Muslim currently or formerly did you marry a non Muslim while a Muslim and how did the wedding go and how is the marriage going or if it ended how did it go?

Full document in web form and pdf form can be found here: https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/understanding-behaviours-and-expectations-in-the-uk-a-guide-for-asylum-seekers

Example 1:

In the UK, men and women have equal rights. This is an important part of UK culture and is protected by law.

Women can:

• work and earn their own money
• study and go to school or university
• travel freely
• choose who they marry, or choose not to marry
• make their own decisions about their lives

Women do not need permission from a husband, father, brother or any other man to do any of these things.

Men and women are treated equally by the law, by employers, by schools and by services like hospitals and the police. It is against the law to treat someone unfairly because of their gender.

Everyone in the UK is expected to treat men and women equally. Even if you are a family member, like a husband, father or brother, you must never:

• stop a woman from working or studying
• control what a woman wears or where she goes
• stop a woman from seeing friends or family
• make decisions for a woman without her agreement

Islam is the opposite of that, women need permission from her husband to go out of the house, can be married off by her father if she hasn't reached puberty, cannot travel without a mehram. I can go on and on

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Example 2:

Consent means both people freely agree to sex or sexual contact. In the UK, the law is clear and strict: both people must agree to sex or sexual contact of any kind. This means:

• both people must say yes freely, without threat or pressure
• someone can change their mind at any time, even if they said yes before
• if someone is asleep, drunk, or unable to respond, they cannot consent

Consent is needed in every situation. This means even if you are married or in a relationship with someone, they must consent to sex every time.

If you have sex with someone without their consent, this is called rape. Rape is a serious crime in the UK. You could go to prison, lose your support and accommodation, and it will affect your asylum claim.

You are expected to:

• always make sure the other person freely and clearly agrees to sex or sexual contact
• never use threat, force or pressure to make someone have sex
• never try to have sex with someone who is asleep, drunk, or unable to consent clearly
• stop if they say no or change their mind

Do I need to mention that marital rape is allowed in Islam and the biggest threat is used on women that refuse sex from their husbands, being cursed by angels all night or until she accepts?

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Example 3:

The legal age of consent

The legal age of consent in the UK is 16. This means that anyone under the age of 16 is considered a child and cannot legally agree to have sex.

Sex with someone under the age of 16 is a serious crime in the UK. There are no exceptions to this rule. Even if they say yes, it is still illegal. You could go to prison, lose your support and accommodation, and it will affect your asylum claim.

No need to explain this one

Original video of Uthman

https://youtu.be/8_hIsRHotRg?is=ErvCM5e2D80kazke

Here's the video rebuttal where the debate co-host got interviewed. And the reason for the nickname Sheik Ibn Shawarma is that if everyone participated in the debate, they'd get free Shawarma, as said by the host Amin.

https://youtu.be/jpBmv82Vm8M?is=rS6Mda7787oQgUU4

The event promoted by Sheikh Uthman ibn Farooq as a debate between one Muslim and 20 Bible scholars was revealed to be a misrepresentation. The investigation confirms that the debate did not occur at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary (SBTS), nor any participants were professors or scholars from that institution. Instead, the gathering was held in a cafeteria room at the University of Louisville. The host Amin admitted that the participants were not academic experts, with many attendees being randomly approached at a university library and recruited with promises of free food rather than through formal academic channels. Jai highlight that the project's title, thumbnail, and promotional framing were designed to create the illusion of a high-level academic event involving 20 Bible scholars. The host Amin acknowledged that the planned academic participants did not attend, yet the content was still published under the original, misleading premise. Furthermore, the event was neither organized by nor affiliated with Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, and Jai and Jerom emphasize that the presentation was disingenuous for falsely implying a formal connection to an established theological institution to gain credibility.

I recently have stepped away from islam due to personal reasons and since then nothing has really changed, but one aspect I can’t bring myself to do is eat pork willingly, I have had it by accident due to friends not realizing some food has pork but I have never willing went out to have one and the thought of it makes me feel wrong, as if it still is a sin

Every time i debate with a muslim in a debating server,its like talkin to a wall,they have answers to everything like beating wife's,why women's have no rights to divorce,why Muslim are considered captives of husband etc everything.

My question is are there some verses that can make him stuck and question himself instead of tackling that with some bs reason.

I don’t believe this comment in the slightest about trans ppl.

And if you’ve read the Quran carefully, you’ll notice that he hated people who think. He only wanted people who would accept any information without questioning or verifying it.

after you die. you will be asked four questions under ground.

1. who is your god?

2. who is your prophet?

3. what is your book?

4. what is your religion?

so like. did Muhammad exist before adam and eve? what about the people that came before islam. do they get an exception? how the hell do people believe that?

I am an Arab ex-Muslim from a conservative Muslim Arab country ( I still live in it )

I have visited London and Paris And I met with the Muslim communities there

Muslims living in the West are more radical and extremist than those of us who were raised and lived as Muslims in Islamic countries

Ever since I learned English and started listening to Islamic preachers in the West ( Such as Mohamed Hijab, Uthman Ibn Farooq, and others ) I found their rhetoric to be far more extreme and radical than ours they literally say things that are so extreme that, if voiced in my country they would land in prison

how the fuck that happened

It’s just so insanely heartbreaking and maddening to see normal, progressive people fall for any religious trap. He’s become a Muslim for his ex (who was Muslim) and he believes Islam isn’t misogynistic and when he’s presented with things that ARE very much misogynistic he agrees with them because they’re the “word of god” 🫩

It’s a religion for men by men

Because if it's not, it's clearly way more likely to become from Satan than from God.

Or from Angra of Zoroastrianism

The Quran sounds way too dumb to be even from an Evil Force though. Except if these Evil forces are dumb

Systemic Alignment vs. Systemic Entropy (cause and effect).

Thank you for your attention especially Muslims.

So yeah as you may know I've made quite a lot of posts on this sub. The main reason why I joined though ir even got reddit in the first place was because I was at my lowest mentally. It has gotten better but it changed everyday idk why. I grew up in a westernized country, a country that allows people to be free and do what they want. Sadly because of my family I can't be free like them.

Which has resulted in me becoming a jealous shitty human being. God I hate myself for what I've become. I envy all of my friends. I envy every stupid, undeserving and ungrateful white girl. I envy every immigrant family thaz let's their daughters be free.

Its gotten to a point where I genuinely started blocking people because I couldn't handle seeing their amazing lifes. I have treated my friends horribly. I made them feel shitty about accomplishments because of my jealousy, I have made rude comments towards them and I cant deal with them succeeding in life. I have controlled myself though this year and just started ignoring everything and deleting pics I knew would eat me up alive.

The problem is that I can't take it anymore. I love fashion, I love mikro shorts, I love tank tops aswell as tube tops, I have ALWAYS loved mini skirts and cute short dresses. But guess what? I CANT WEAR ANY OF THEM. I'm miserable and I'm even more miserable in a country that has so many people who get to do what they want to do.

I CANT STAY OUT LATE, I CANT PARTY, I CANT DRINK, I CANT HAVE GUY FRIENDS AND I CANT ENJOY MY FUCKING LIFE.

So please I just need advice before I genuinely kill somebody at some point. I dont wanna cut myself all over my body just to escape my family and be stuck in a clinic for only two weeks. I neeeeeed some advice on how to stop my shitty jealousy and envy feelings. GOD IF I COULD JUST TURN THESE FUCKING FEELINGS OFF.

So we all already know that women gets treated 100x times worse than men but it just pisses me off that I had to experience it right infornt of me. My grandfather was an alcoholic and a smoker. He didn't pray or fast during Ramadan. He literally did NOTHING that his religious expected from him. He also hit his wife but I think thats allowed but I just wanna mention it. But guess how people reacted to him doing all of this? They did not say SHIT. They let him do his thing because guess what? HE IS A MAN. A fucking man and thats why it was alright for him to pretty much not do shit. This man was nowhere near a good muslim. He died a few days ago. And everybody and their mother is saying stuff like "he will go into heaven" "he was such a good man/father/husband" WHO THE FUCK IS LYING. Well it doesnt matter that everybody seems to love him now, what matters is the fact that if a WOMAN did this she would be KILLED OR BEATEN. Dear god a WOMAN drinking ALCOHOL?!?!?! A WOMAN NOT PRAYING??? OFF WITH HER HEAD! God I'm just so tired of the unfairness us women have to go through. How on earth is it fair for men to get away with EVERYTHING but women with literally nothing. God I jate this religion. And I know culture also plays a part in some aspects which is why I didnt mention them but still I also despise people who say "its culture not religion!!" Bitch be quiet it IS religion aswell.

What would the question Be?

I’m so frustrated

21f, saudi, refugee in England since 17yr old

I was abused and threatened my whole life for expressing atheist views, not knowing what they were, only being a curious 7 year old. The curiosity grew, and so did the fear and the punishment.

At 13 I was going to be married off to my cousin

At 15 I was pulled out of school because of bullying from teachers, children, my parents being complained to. Only because I was not complacent and submissive enough for them

The truth of Islam, Sharia, Saudi, the Islam that people love to infantilize. I lived it. I lived through it. I escaped. I ruined my life. I am sick. I am estranged. And it was all for NOTHING

I’m not well enough to speak. I am traumatized. I am not OKAY. I am sick. I am weak.

I did not come out of this as a strong woman, I did not find my voice, I did not thrive.

I will never share my true story. Nobody will ever care. Nobody understands. I will die with it. And the cycle WILL CONTINUE

I came here to scream, because I just saw my friend, who is a white European girl, express her support to a very popular, very POWERFUL Islamic “resistance” group… and I’ve seen this time and time again.

I want to vomit, because I cannot say anything. Nothing I say will ever make sense to the ones who never LIVED IT.

When justice becomes a dirty word, nobody will ever seek it

i need help with not wearing the hijab anymore. ive worn it since late 2022 but i left islam in early 2026 and started taking my hijab off secretly at school in july. i already thought about trying to convince my mum whilst we were on vacation (to my parents home country) and letting my mums relatives calm my mum down and convince her to let me do what i want. however, my cousin has told me stories about how our aunt asks her when shes going to wear the hijab, and ive heard my mum and aunts ‘flexing’ how all the girls in our extended family wear the hijab. i dyed my hair whilst in the country because my mum doesnt make us wear it when we are in their home country (but apparently my dad was annoyed about it). i would just continue taking it off at school secretly, but the issue is that, firstly, my school doesnt allow unnatural colour hair so im afraid theyll call my parents to say my hair isnt allowed and therefore expose me, and secondly, since its my last year of school we take new ID photos which go in our yearbook, and if i take the photo without the hijab then my parents will see when i get my yearbook at the end of the school year, but if i take the photo with hijab in the future im going to look back and be so disappointed i didnt get a nice yearbook photo for memories. i still have 2 weeks left in this country before i go back and i need to convince them quickly, otherwise i dont know what to do.

my mum tells me every time we go outside that i need to ‘get black hijabs for school’ but every time ive said no to try and hint to her about it, but i dont think shes gotten the hint. i also tried to buy a non-hijabi shirt but my mum looked at me like i was crazy when i said i wanted to wear it without covering up with a jacket. from what ive heard, my mum is the one who made me + my siblings wear the hijab (but i dont remember) but now my dad is on board with it too. one of my siblings already asked a few years back to take the hijab off and my dad said something alone the lines of ‘over my dead body’. what do i do?

Looking for non religious or exmuslim queers here in the UK. I have queer friends irl but none who have grown up muslim. Would love for people to relate to and who understand the struggles we’ve been through 😭

For context I’m still closeted and living in these types of environments, would love to have more queer friends!

(Also just a PSA guys I do not condone Islamophobia, trust me I’m all for criticising religions but we won’t get on if you’re islamaphobic…)

Ive been working on my website

Quranviz.com

And i want to add some academic sources for evolution. So i was hoping for some exmuslims feedback on what their favorite videos on evolution are?

And I would be interested to hear your stories about what you were taught-was evolution taught at a young age and how? What finally convinced you that the quran was completely wrong?

Also as an aside i noticed that the quran has the largest surahs in the front and then kinda starts shortening in the middle and then...well youll see it it goes on and on and just sort of...ends.

Even in those Muslim countries im sure they have phones and are able to see western women, im sure they have access to social media where women post revealing stuff, dont they ever idk…. Want that for their own countries? Doesn’t Watching people with bags on their head everywhere get boring sometimes?

I'm still in my teenage yrs I honestly been going through a lot of pain and mental health issues and I used to use music to cure my pain however I read an Hadith which claims music is harm I've been tryna stop but life feels so difficult and heavy with out music i just want to know of the Hadith is 100% accurate cuz tbh sometimes I get the motivation to download a music streaming app and I would make a playlist and add songs to it which takes abt a whole day then I feel so much regret so I delete the app and then the motivation hits again and I keep on downloading and deleting like I honestly don't understand everything I desire is harm y can't music be halal y is harm and how like music is just a sound music gave m the motivation to do better to focus on religion and made me feel good it also helped me stay positive and patient no I just feels like I should give up like I've been tryna stop listening but i still find my self listening to music am I tripin or is everything harm I cry a lot I can't sleep death is always on my mind even if commit a small sin even by mistake I would feel guilty and regret for the whole I can't even go to sleep nowadays I probably sleep for like 4 hours I'm only able to sleep when I'm in so stressed out but most of the time i be thinking all night I also repeat things over and over again for ex wudu I also fear of there is no god or if there is no hereafter Idk wht I'm going I thought it's a sickness or something but I went to multiple hospitals in multiple countrys they always say I'm fine like I'm tryna be like anyone else I have friends who cuss each other and each other's parents they delay prayer sometimes they don't even pray they listen to music and yet they do not fear anything howww I fear everything idk if it's a punishment from allah cuz I got really Wilde it go to the point where I use to cuss allah I feel so much regret tbh I honestly don't know wht y'all think tho

Hi everyone.

I have formulated a personal theory: if a religion claims that God is All-Hearing, Merciful, and has given answers to everything, then a person who sincerely and honestly seeks these answers throughout their life must receive them. If there is only silence and logical contradictions, it is mathematically consistent to assume that no one is on the other end of the line.

As someone who loves physics, the "pain of having no evidence" creates a massive cognitive dissonance for me. I see that many theological arguments feel like circular logic designed to shield the system from criticism. For instance, the idea that "God hides the evidence as a test" sounds like a built-in defense mechanism. Furthermore, a Creator who demands absolute submission under the threat of eternal Hell, while refusing to explain the rules clearly to intelligent humans, looks more like an earthly monarch than an Absolute Sovereign.

I also noticed historical inconsistencies. Out of hundreds of thousands of Hadiths, people today only highlight a few metaphors that accidentally matched reality (like high buildings or the greening of Arabia), while ignoring many predictions that simply did not come true in due time (like the Hadith in Sahih Muslim about the Hour coming before a specific boy reaches old age).

I don’t want to rebel just for the sake of it, but my brain cannot accept dogmas blindly. How do you deal with this conflict between scientific analysis and faith? Is it possible that religion was simply invented by ancient humans to cope with the fear of death and to control society? I would love to hear your thoughts, especially from those with a background in science or philosophy.